Hi, I’m looking for advice today because some things in my girlfriends past are causing issues in the relationship. We have been dating now for about 9 months.
When we first started dating she still hung out with one of her ex-boyfriends that I knew of. They would get food together and she texted/snapchatted him more than anyone else. She was open about this all and it was early on so I felt like I couldn’t say much and I was mildly comfortable with it since she was open. One thing that made me anxious once was when we were out drinking with some friends I saw her Snapchat him and it said “I love you” and he said it back. Once we had gotten a couple months into dating she slowly cut off this ex boyfriend and began snapchatting this other guy a lot. I asked once about this second guy and she said he was just a friend.
About 3.5 months into dating she comes over one day and says we need to talk. She confesses that the guy she had been snapchatting constantly was someone she had slept with from the bar and that a couple of her friends from work had judged her for not telling me. She also admitted that they weren’t only snapchatting but that he was still driving her home from the bar almost weekly and that they still flirted when they were out together. I asked if she would be okay with me engaging in this same behavior with a woman and she said she wouldn’t. She said they never did anything with each other since we met and the last time they allegedly had sex was a month before we met. She messaged him that night and said “I’m so sorry please don’t hate me but I don’t think we should talk anymore.” She wouldn’t let me see what he wrote back. They ceased communication but she still had him added and would often view his stories and posts still. It devolved into a pretty big fight but we moved past it and a couple months later she blocked him on all of her social media. Prior to her confessing all this she had told me he was thinking of getting back with his ex and I just can’t shake the feeling that I’m somehow a second choice.
So that brings us to my current grievance. Pretty early on she admitted she has slept with a coworker but was pretty vague about it. He tried texting her several times but she ignored him or shut him down each time since we began talking. About 4 months ago we had a pretty in depth talk about our relationship and past. During this she confessed that a third ex had also driven her home from the bar since we began dating but said they didn’t do anything. She then told me about how she had sex with her coworker(38M) multiple times at work and that she regretted it. She slept with him at work over the course of 1.5 months about two months before we met. This spurred a huge fight between us and I became very judgmental because of the age gap and him still living with his alledged ex-baby mama while my girlfriend was sleeping with him. It also bothered me that he had a teenage child who was closer in age with my girlfriend than she was to this coworker.
Their supervisor ended up becoming aware of their actions somehow and she got moved to a different facility under the same umbrella company. So thankfully she doesn’t see him anymore but this company does frequent work events for the region like every month or two. So far I’ve been to two and I just felt uncomfortable the whole time. She’s also been to a couple without me since we met and that felt even more worrisome. I know several of her colleagues know of her antics and I just can’t help but wonder which dude among the crowd is that guy. It sucks. I just want a chill relationship. It sucks because she visits her old job too (the one the guy works at), to see her friend (a girl) sometimes and I get anxious about that too knowing he’s there. She says when she visits she never sees him but still. I tried bringing up my concern about this a couple times and she gets very defensive and said “what do you expect me to do!? Just quit!?”
Honestly I didn’t know how to answer that question. She shouldn’t have to quit her job. She works with a bunch of guys too in pretty close proximity and I guess I just have trust issues about it now because early on she so easily omitted spending time with and flirting with her former hookup and because she previously did things with a guy at work.
Some other anxieties/insecurities I have about her are: she’s made sex videos with past boyfriends that she says she’s deleted. She went on a date with some other guy to the zoo when we first started talking but weren’t official yet.
I’m just curious what I should do. Normally I don’t mind a promiscuous past really but it almost feels like I’ve been cheated on and put in compromising situations. This is the most anxious I’ve been in a relationship since my cheating highschool gf. I’m so torn though because the last 4 months she has been very loving, caring, and open and honest. She suggested we share each others locations and we do now. She also stopped going out drinking especially at that bar she’d go to with that former hookup. Should I just swallow my pride and learn to cope with the information I’ve learned about her. Am I being overly worried? Should I part ways with her despite things going so well and getting better as time has gone on? I really do love her, we have a great connection and I can tell she’s trying to be better. I just am hurt about the beginning of our relationship. It feels like living in a haunted house where the ghosts of the beginning of our relationship keep coming back to haunt me. I get nauseous even talking about it. Please be bluntly honest with me. If I’m wrong I’ll take it and learn from it.
If there’s any further info or clarification I can provide please let me know. I want to get the best advice possible.

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This is a throwaway account because my boyfriend is an active Redditor, and we follow each other's accounts here, but he never goes to this sub.This is also going to be a long post, but I hope you can bear with me.
I (26F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (28M) for 5.5 years now, and this is probably the healthiest relationship I've ever been in. For the purposes of this post, I'll call him Ben. We met in college, and Ben was the sweetest and cutest guy I've ever met. He's two years ahead of me, but he was a part of the welcoming committee at our university, and boy, were we lucky. He was such a charismatic gentleman with an awesome personality and looks to match. I think everyone in my friend group, including me, had a huge crush on him, but he had a girlfriend at the time. When they broke up (she cheated on him), I took my chance and confessed my feelings for him. At that time, I was still a dumb kid, and Ben turned me down politely. However, months later, the stars aligned for us, and long story short, we became a couple.
Before COVID (we were already two years into the relationship by this time), we started living together for a few months because we both worked at offices near each other, so we figured it would be easier and more cost-effective. When the pandemic happened, we went back to our homes. However, things happened with Ben's household. His brother (let's call him Paul) came out as gay, and their parents kicked him out. Ben decided to take Paul under his wing, and we decided to live together again with Paul. Another layer to this was Paul becoming suicidal at the start of his coming out journey (I mean, he was kicked out by his parents, so that was really tough), but he's thankfully in a much better place now. Of course, Paul's recovery was extremely difficult.
In 2021, I started my master's degree. I had to quit my full-time job and take on some freelancing instead. I told Ben that I could still take on more freelancing clients to help with the expenses, but he told me not to so that I could focus on my master's. Suffice to say, I couldn't contribute much to our expenses. While I'm still earning, it barely covers our bills. Paul also volunteered to take on jobs while he's studying, but Ben forbade him so that he could focus on his studies (Paul is actually a genius, who now has a full-ride scholarship in college, which was why Ben didn't want him distracted).
So, Ben took it upon himself to work three or four jobs at a time to support himself, me, and Paul (who was still studying but was essentially financially cut off from their family). Ben actually grew up in a rural farm area, helping out his family, so all his life, all he knew was to work hard to survive. He was the first in their family to go to college, and although he wasn't the brightest, he certainly gave his best. That was also why he was so determined to support Paul in his academics. I chip in whenever I can, and my parents would also contribute from time to time, but it was really Ben who supported our little trio through those times.
However, this is where my concern for Ben starts. Whenever I ask him how he is, he always puts on a huge smile, then he hugs and kisses me, saying that everything is fine. But I can tell how physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted he really is. It's like whenever I'm not looking, I can feel that he's often trying to catch his breath, thinking about something or always brooding, which is really not like him at all.
Then, last year, Ben got a new job that pays about triple his salary compared to his previous main employer, so he didn't have to work multiple jobs anymore. He was so happy because he could spend more time with us now. That was such a relief for me because I could feel his old self genuinely coming back.
However, late last year, we had another curveball. Paul was diagnosed with a heart condition and needed surgery urgently. Of course, that meant a ton of expenses. Ben was once again forced to work A LOT. He was working overtime at his company and took on two more side jobs. He also borrowed money from friends, took out some loans, and basically did everything he could to make sure Paul got the treatment he needed. My parents also gave him money, which he initially refused, but he eventually gave in because he was still short. He also swallowed his pride and begged their parents for money, which they eventually gave, but with a lot of guilt-tripping, shaming, and tongue-lashing. Not once did I hear Ben complain about any of this, and to this day, Paul doesn't know a lot of what his brother had to do and go through to come up with the money.
Thankfully, Paul's operation was a success, and he's now making a full recovery. However, one night last February, I woke up at around 2 am and saw Ben still at our dining table, doing a bunch of paperwork. He told me it was nothing, just routine stuff, but I saw that he was computing all the loans and debts he had incurred trying to come up with the money for Paul's surgery. He kissed me good night, but I saw in his eyes that he was panicking deep inside and was about to break down, but he didn't.
A lot of other things happened between then until now. Last month, Ben was at the center of a heavily traumatic event which I can't disclose here (it involved legal and police proceedings, which are still ongoing). But throughout all this, Ben has maintained a very composed facade, and he continues to do so. During our ride home after receiving the devastating news, he was really quiet. I can tell that he's hurting, but he just doesn't verbalize it. He also told me not to tell Paul about the whole incident if we can help it, but he still found out last week because of all the legal things we're going through. When he found out, Paul actually cried and gave Ben the tightest hug, and I bawled as well. However, Ben was just like, "Man, I really don't want all this attention."
Then, last night, something happened that prompted me to write this post. While we were sleeping, Ben suddenly woke up and rushed to the kitchen, around 1 am. The commotion woke me up too, and I asked him what was wrong. I was so worried because he looked so pale, his lips were dry, and drenched in sweat. He also seemed like he was out of breath and he was panting heavily, struggling to speak. He said he felt that he could feel his heart beating so fast and that there was ringing in his ears. He was also feeling dizzy and nauseated. He tried to pour himself a glass of water, but his hands were shaking badly, so I did it for him.
I then took him to the ER, and hours later, after some tests (thankfully, this was covered by his insurance), the doctor said that Ben had a panic attack. Then, what shocked me the most was that Ben said this was not the first time this has happened. He told the doctor that this has happened about 4 times since last month, but last night was the most severe one. Upon hearing that, I felt like I was being punched in my gut, and everything went silent. I didn't hear what the doctor prescribed him. My mind went blank, and all I could think of was how terrible of a girlfriend I am for not noticing this earlier. When we talked about it at home, he just told me that he didn't want me to worry about him, and that he thought it was just allergies or something (I know, lame excuse). I just wanted to cry because all this time, Ben had been keeping this from me and is going through all this alone. I tried to talk to him some more about what we should do, but he just said he's got it under control now and I shouldn't worry about him anymore.
I'm really, really, really worried about him, though, and I don't know what to do.
I've never seen Ben cry or curse or be mad or be violent throughout our entire relationship. Every time, he just says something to reassure me, then he blurts out a joke or a sarcastic remark. I know that sounds like a dream guy for many people, but I'm just really worried about him. I've told him a thousand times that he can talk to me about whatever he's truly feeling, but he never opens up. I don't know if it's pride, ego, toxic masculinity, or just how he was raised, but I've told him multiple times that I will never judge him or see him differently. I always talk to him about my problems, so he knows that I treat our relationship as a safe space, and I've told him that he could do the same. However, the only "problems" he shares are shallow issues like not liking the lunch served at work or being 2 minutes late due to traffic or spilling coffee on his shirt.
Every day, before going out for work, Ben kisses me and says "I love you," but there's just something different about him. It's like he's putting up this entire persona just to please me, but I can see right through it. I don't know if it's just the sadness in his eyes or the way he sort of fakes his smile. Don't get me wrong, though. I never once doubted that he loves me, and I still deeply love him, but the fact that he doesn't acknowledge his negative emotions really worries me that he might just implode one day.I
'm sorry if that has just been a long-winded, incoherent, rambling mess, but do you have any advice on how I can help him?
TL;DR: My boyfriend has been under a lot of pressure and is not opening up to me. He just had a severe panic attack last night, but he still doesn't want to acknowledge his emotions. What can I do to help him?

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Greetings Stranger,
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I assume we're all here endlessy scrolling through the different posts trying to find that one person to vibe with.
The main reason is because we're either extremelly bored or lonely.
My job is to try be that person to tick both those boxes off.
Lucky for you, I got a lot of attention to give.
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So to tell you a bit more about myself.
As the title says, I am a 29 year old living together with my cat in Belgium.
Sadly one of my cats passed away in April, so I'm left with Stella.
I have a fulltime job and I've been active for around 6 years in the IT-sector.
When I get home from work, I like to unwind doing all kind of stuff, for example:
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- Socialize with friends
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So if any part of the post seems appealing to you, don't hesitate to reach out!
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I’m 25 and I have been working for my family business full time since graduating high school in 2016. I started off working part time in the warehouse after school making $8 a hour. I then graduated and got a pay raise to $10 a hour in 2017 I then got offered a delivery route after someone left in early 2018 and after staying out on the road all day and doing my best to satisfy customers I got a pay raise to $13 being 19 I thought I was doing decent compared to my peers at the time. Around the time Covid hit I got a $1.50 raise and then another $1 raise so I’m currently making $15.50 plus a $2k annual bonus that’s taxed (so $1500) my phone plan is tied in the business plan. I live in a apartment above my grandparents detached garage and they insisted that I didn’t have to pay for rent or anything. Basically the only bills I have is car insurance on two vehicles which is super cheap, and I’m paying a few credit cards which I plan to have all my debt paid off. I pay for food, gas, and other expenses but despite the help I get I feel like I can’t get ahead. My grandfather wanted to me stay and work for the family business which my uncle has been managing/ taking care of things in person but I just feel like I’m a regular employee, I don’t see any potential and I feel like I’m setting myself up for failure. First no one has taken me under there wing to show me how the business works, no one has barely taught me how our products work, what they do, I have to ask for help to even answer customers technical questions. I come to work, clock in, work my 8 hours and leave, that’s it. My cousin (uncles / managers son) used to work here, he was paid more, was given a office and a job to look at jobs and bid them. Everyone thought mostly highly of him even tho he didn’t know what he was doing most of the time. And he absolutely ran my name into the dirt, made me out to be this lazy bum that just had it all given to me despite him given to same treatment. So I’ve always like cars, liked working on them. I want to be able to make a living, support my child that on the way, be able to pay for necessities and be able to have fun, buy car parts, go on trips, etc. but I know it would be a struggle doing all of that on what I get paid currently, especially if I had to pay rent, utilities, etc. I feel like I have had no great opportunities fall into my lap like some of my peers. So what can I do to get my set out of this rut?