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2023.03.20 19:55 cantundoandwouldnt I drove my daughters’ dad to suicide
He and I met when I was 20. We were both raised in a very strict religious community and got married after like 10 weeks of dating. I had our babies at 21 (11 months after we got married), 22, and 23. All girls.
He was nice, but lazy. He never beat us or cheated but he got fired from multiple jobs for not showing up. We were extremely poor and living on welfare. He would go to the store and shoplift tiny stupid things because he felt bad that we couldn’t afford them. I’d confront him about it and the idiocy of risking jail for literal $5 toys and he would just shrug.
We were supposed to be this traditionalist family where the wife stayed home with the kids because that’s what God wanted, but I finally snapped and left the church and told him I was going to go back to school (I’d dropped out) to finish my programming degree, and that he was going to put me through it by working. He agreed and managed to hold a job for the 2.5 years it took me to get back in and graduate.
I did well and got a tech job at a small company. The pay was fine, and we were making it work. Then I got an opportunity that would basically double my salary but would require us to move. He was making like $50k at the time in a pretty generic job. We decided to move and have him find new work.
AFTER we moved, he dropped a bombshell: he had decided he wasn’t going to work anymore because I was making enough. He wanted to be a stay at home dad, he said. Keep in mind that by now our youngest was in 2nd grade. We didn’t need a stay at home parent, and I was really skeptical that he actually wanted to do it anyway, but what was I going to do—force him to get a job? Apply and interview for him?
Sure enough, he would spend about 2 hours a day cleaning/cooking, about 1 hour a day driving the kids places, and all the rest of the time watching porn or playing video games. He’d tell the girls to go play in their rooms and that was it. They had no activities or play dates other than what I set up. It wasn’t uncommon for me to come home at like 8 pm and nobody had eaten and he had no plan for food.
It all came to a head when I got into a bad car accident. The other guy was drunk (blew a .2 after) and t-boned my little Camry. I was out of work for like 2.5 months and had to have multiple surgeries. I spent about 14 days in the neuro ICU. There was no big settlement (other driver had no assets and a $15k policy limit). It happened in November so we hit our max out of pocket in back to back months, and there was a big question of whether I’d be able to work again at all.
During this time, he continued to be sweet but kind of useless. My brains were melting but I still had to be the one to figure out all the next steps. He didn’t try to look into finding work, even when I exhausted my PTO and went on unpaid FMLA and we had no idea if I’d recover. After I got back to work, I’d just kind of had it. I started gaming as soon as the kids were in bed and we basically didn’t speak to one another.
While gaming, I met an online friend who was smart and funny and driven. We were purely platonic at first, but after a month of messaging about game stuff on Disc I realized holy shit, I was starting to have a crush on this guy. And it was like I’d been living in greyscale and suddenly everything was in color. I hadn’t felt anything besides burned out and exhausted for so long, I didn’t even realize I could feel a romantic connection to anyone anymore.
As soon as I realized that, I confronted my husband and told him I was miserable (he’d heard this before) and I needed him to make some changes or I’d be gone in six months. I’d been asking for these changes for years by now (our youngest was now in 5th), but he had never taken me seriously before. This time, he realized I was and, instead of agreeing to work on things or go to marriage counseling, suggested we separate.
While we were separated I continued to pay for his entire existence. He couldn’t get a place because he had no income or work history so he stayed in the house and I continued to pay the mortgage while I moved out. During this time I also paid for him to get some additional certification for this career he claimed he wanted and he ended up blowing off the final test, so didn’t get his certificate. Six months later, he still had no job, and was fine with it. I told him even like DoorDash would be enough of a job for me, I just wanted to feel like we were both contributing. He did it for about two months and then gave up.
I told him I was done and wanted a divorce. We started on the paperwork. When we separated, I had told him I wanted to be dating other people but didn’t start until now. I went on a bunch of app dates over the next six months and then ended up reconnecting with the dude from Discord.
That was in 2019. Three months ago, after living together for about 18 months, Discord dude and I got engaged. My ex found out about it, went home, and promptly shot himself. He left a long note apologizing to me and to the girls for being not what we needed and for “making me miserable for years.” He had hoped to win me back but now that I was engaged knew that wasn’t possible, so he was done.
Ultimately, I knew this would be the outcome. I agonized over it to my closest friends when we were separated. I told them if I divorced him he would do this. I was everything to him. And I left anyway. I picked my own happiness over his LIFE.
What’s really fucked up is, although I’m truly sad that he’s dead, I still don’t regret leaving. I’m glad I did. My girls get to grow up without a father and I can’t bring myself to regret it. Even though I know he’s be alive today if I’d stayed. And he wasn’t a bad person—he had a big heart and he truly loved me. He was kind and funny and put up with a lot of my issues while being unfailingly loyal to me. He just didn’t make me happy. That’s not something that should carry a death sentence. I made enough money for us to live off of, I genuinely could have supported him doing nothing—but his love and devotion weren’t enough for me, and he died because of it.
But if I could go back in time, even knowing what I know now, I’d leave him again. And I guess I have to live with that about myself.
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2023.03.20 19:55 ERAreddit First-Time Homebuyer
I live in WI. I’m currently relocating to a new town for work and for the life of me I can’t find anything reasonably priced for apartments. Everything is literally 1300+ or an absolute dump where I wouldn’t feel comfortable living with my children.
My move is set for the August-September, I was hoping to find a 6 month to year lease apartment and then buy a house in 2024 but I’m running out of options.
Is it completely unfeasible to be able to find and close a home by those times? I’m extremely clueless on how any of that stuff works as I’ve rented my entire life.
If anyone has some feedback or information they’d be willing to share I’d really appreciate it. Again, I’m pretty clueless on how to even get started, how do I even begin to find a legit loan company for this?
Any info will be appreciated, thank you!
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2023.03.20 19:55 sekmaht Weirdly compelling nightmare -- stephen king is writing my nightmares lol
The dream started in some kind of villa, polished concrete floors and heavy architecture, plants everywhere. Lots of sunlight. The windows were that heavy old glass with air bubbles inside and very thick panes. The view outside of them was somewhat distorted because of it.
Church bells rang, and I knew it was Quiet Time. I made sure all the dogs were inside in their kennels. I put some cats in carriers and covered them. I looked out the living room window and saw a flood of people moving up the hill on the path outside the wrought iron gate. Looked like it was the middle of some kind of very lush green area, not quite a forest.
There were two little dogs left outside dragging leashes as the flow of people dried up. I asked myself if I could risk it and thought I could, so I opened the door. The leashes and collars had been taken off the dogs and hung up on the door and I took this to be a sign to be read after the event that the dogs had been killed or were unsafe, but luckily they were still in the dooryard and ran inside. I shut the door and locked it.
I went into the kitchen and saw an orange cat frantically digging at the window and recognized him as Orange Motherfucker my orange cat that had died several years ago and let him in. I asked my boyfriend if you could catch it from cats, knowing you could and wanting to excuse what I had done, and he said yes so I put the cat in a carrier, one of his pupils was blown and I knew that I had let something inside which I really shouldnt have. When I looked back at the window multiple cats were yowling and clawing the window but these were clearly sick.
My roommate looked at me, stopped doing dishes, and pointed to the window. He said stay away from the windows they are bad this time.
I looked out and there were zombie of some kind clawing at the windows. Maybe vampires. Maybe ghouls. I dont know. They seemed a little more intelligent than zombies. A little less active and cognizant than vampires. Weirdly beautiful.
They slunk away after a while and it was over. I looked out the living room window to be sure and there was a small child outside, just a 3 or 4 year old boy. A beautiful child. I brought him inside and gave him to my mother to comfort. She held him on her lap and after a while he went to sleep.
People started trickling back outside.
Four nuns opened our gate and came up the cobblestone driveway or path, two in black robes and habits and two in white, with red crosses on the habits. The robes were leather or vinyl, looked almost fetishistic. I didnt want to talk to them. I knew that they would ask if anyone was in the house that we didnt know and ask about any animals returning to us. I knew I should give up the child and my cat and the new dogs to the nuns but my mom looked at me and shook her head no and put her fingers to her lips. It wouldnt matter that the two little dogs had probably gotten inside in time, they wouldnt take the chance. Forget the child and the cat. We might even be taken because of it.
My boyfriend went out and convinced them everything was fine. It seemed routine.
Then I woke up and let my dogs outside to pee and went right back to sleep to see what happened next, I slept till noon but I dont think I had any more dreams. And it was a little disappointing.
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2023.03.20 19:55 Ebella2323 Follow up email from ndad that shows yet another expected escalation…
The previous one I posted touched on the grandparents thing, but he has taken that one up a notch, and now threw in the inheritance threat. He is following the playbook to a T. No contact really made him bloom into his fullest narc self:
It is with remorse that we have to do this but I want you to be aware of what we're doing. We will be in (your town) to meet with attorneys and file paperwork for Grandparents Rights. This will be on Thur March 23 & Fri the 24th. We will also be speaking about emotional & mental elder abuse. What an absolute shame that our relationship has disintegrated to this point. All of this as to one question, WHY ? Why are you poisoning the kids against us ? Like I have said before, you don't have to love us but how about tolerating us for short periods of time ? At any rate, at least we'll find out what's driving you.
This paperwork will follow you where ever you go, no matter what city, town,or state Even though this is not how we want it but at least we'll see you & the kids at the hearing whenever it's scheduled.
Another drastic measure, in no way is this a bribe, we may be changing our will to exclude you from being our executor ( Approx $50,000 ) & excluding you from any inheritance. If you don't want us to be a part of you lives, why should you be a benefactor. Again, please know this, this is NOT a bribe. It's being real
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2023.03.20 19:55 faeriesandfoxes Postpartum Depression - give me hope please.
Hi all. I’m 4 days postpartum and deep in PPD. I wish I’d never become a mother and I’m dealing with horrific thoughts. I don’t want to take care of my baby. I had a traumatic birth and that doesn’t help.
I’m getting help and support from the mental health midwives, I may be getting inpatient care. So I’m looked after for now.
But I just need some hope. If you felt like this, please tell me there’s an end to it. Please tell me you felt love for your baby and stopped regretting and the horrible thoughts. Please tell me there will be a time when hearing her crying doesn’t make me want to disappear. I don’t know how I went from pregnant and excited and full of joy to this. I feel the worst I’ve ever felt, it’s like living in a nightmare.
It truly feels like there’s no hope and that I’ll never want to take care of my baby.
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2023.03.20 19:55 boredandnerdytxguy 42 [M4F] US/Anywhere - Educated, Nerdy, Athletic, and Pet Dad Looking for His Ever After
Happy Monday! I'm sitting here in my home office "working" and figured why not see if I can fill the void in my life. And since I like lists I'm going to make this post in bulletpoint format for easier viewing.
- 42 years old and live in southern part of the US (CST)
- Divorced with 1 child
- Have 2 Master's degrees in life sciences that I no longer use (explanation below)
- Now work in IT industry in a leadership position and work from home Tuesday - Thursday
- I am 6' tall, short brown hair, blue eyes, 210lbs with broad shoulders and chest
- Wake up at 4:45am every weekday morning to go workout. I do Crossfit and Powerlifting hence why I'm a thicc boi (in a good way).
- Have 1 tat that's quite large and very nerdy
- Pet dad to 1 75lb doggo and 1 shadow panther aka kitty
- Love the outdoors (seems like everyone on here does) and take said doggo with me on hikes every weekend
- Big sports fan and watch mostly football, baseball, and soccer
- Have quite a few nerdy hobbies too. Play in several D&D campaigns as both player and DM. Going to a local Tabletop RPG con in June and super excited about it. Watch anything sci-fi and fantasy related. Love me some Star Wars and have a few lightsabers as proof.
- I am looking for a woman that is also physically active (at least HWP) and likes pets.
I think that's a good start. If anyone of this is enticing please feel free to send a message preferably through Chat. And I would like to share pics early on to make sure there's a physical attraction. Thanks!
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2023.03.20 19:55 Dawnbringer_Fortune Update on champions with the most skins
For a quick reference this will count the new pbe skins here since the skin is about to go live in around 3 days.
At first place we have Miss Fortune who last patch took the position of Lux in having the most skins. Weirdly enough it has been a cycle with Ezreal having the most skins then mf then ezreal again then mf then Ezreal then Lux and now it is MF. Miss fortune has a total of 19 skins and may possibly soon reach 20.
At second place we have our rainbow light queen Lux, who of course has all the memes circling around her which led to unnecessary hate on her :( Lux has a total of 18 skins and she also will soon reach 20 :)
At third place is our poster boy Ezreal who next patch will have a total of 17 skins being the Faerie court. Are you excited?
What's your personal opinion about the top 3 champs with the most skins and what do you wish Riot would do more in the future?
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2023.03.20 19:54 HousingStrange2060 [FS] - Spokane, Washington - $150 - Established 36 Gallon Tank with all equipment and fish
2023.03.20 19:54 cynycal 3/20/23: White House Daily Briefing with Ted Lasso and John Kirby Live: 2:15pm
2023.03.20 19:54 Dover299 Has anyone looked into Ellis Silver view on the prison planet?
Has anyone looked into Ellis Silver view on the prison planet and 19th-century philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer view that life is a prison.
The theory is humans are too dangerous and war like and long with also being extremely selfish was expelled and sent to earth prison.
The book of enoch and other old books where the bible copied some stuff from and also left out other stuff is making reference to the watchers. Looking up more old books before the bible the watchers appear to be alien race over looking earth as prison guard where humans are not allowed to leave earth or the solar system.
The theory by Ellis Silver is base on wars every year on earth well sense the time started to now, government military conflicts, evil corrupted governments and wars and genocide. Not say horrible dictatorship and torture so on that humans where expelled for being evil and unstable.
Well some others point to earth being prison planet he is citing is extremely high child birth rate, infant mortality rate, chronic sickness, sun burns, food intolerance, back and joint pain and other diseases that the planet is too alien to the human body and the gravity and sun is too strong. That when your are born on earth you have a very short window of life about just long enough to have kids that about it if you lucky to have kid.
I find Ellis Silver work little interesting and the reason I find it interesting is anyone that spent time in jail or prison or worked in the jails or prison is there is very similarity out side of jail and prison.
In jails and prisons you have good guards and evil guards. In jails and prisons you have good inmates and bad inmates. Out side of jails and prisons you have good cops and evil cops. In jails and prisons there are gangs and out side there are also gangs. In side jails and prisons there are fights and out side there are fights.
In world well other than your friends and family no one can be trusted and even friends and family can be evil. In hostile dangerous world in jail or prison is just like is out side. Your Mom and Dad could get in car crash and you can end up being homeless. Your Mom and Dad could get cancer and die and you can be homeless.
Looking at the Charles Darwin was earth was in constant struggle for survival that people born start dying and live only to have kids with many kids dying or could be homeless.
The mental illness that some people have, horrible dictators that kill millions of people, extremely high child birth rate, infant mortality rate, chronic sickness and food intolerance not say cancer is very in conflict to God where the world is very evil, hostile and cruel and unpredictable.
This all matches up with prison theory that Ellis Silver talks about that humans are too dangerous and was expelled and sent to prison earth.
There may also be crime also people punished for that as many people who study aliens and UFO deeply make reference to cosmic war.
And the videos talking about the cosmic war showing the ruins on the moon and mars and the face and pyramids on mars and C-129 on Mars showing the two blast sites on mars that there was space war and history NASA is not saying.
And when you look at code names and numbers NASA is telling people little information that only people deeply into UFO and alien study know.
But now the past two month now the mainstream media, government and NASA is really warming up to this UFO and alien thing that only fringe people where into.
I wonder if there is convection to cosmic war and prison planet?
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2023.03.20 19:54 Interesting_Tie_6909 Stony Brook vs UF?
I grew up in NY with my mom, but my dad lives in FL so I get in-state tuition at both schools so price isn't a differentiator. I was pretty set on Florida because it is ranked higher, has more of a national reputation than Stony Brook, and seems more fun. I'm scared now though with the politics of Florida that a degree from there won't be worth as much in a few years. None of us can guess how this will play out so I'm not sure how to make a decision now, this wasn't something I thought I'd have to worry about. Do I play it safe with Stony Brook even though it is less well known and lower ranked bc it is safer or go with Florida bc for right now it is better? I'm asking here bc since you guys are I'm assuming mostly current students I'd love opinions on what you would do
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2023.03.20 19:54 JetAngoisse Getting Residence Certification as EU Citizen - Income?
Sorry if I sound very confused but I'm having a hard time finding a straight answer online, all pages seem to say contradictory things.
So I am a French citizen looking to move to Rota, Cadiz and had two main questions I can't figure out:
One place says I need to get my Padron first and then apply for the residency certificate, but then I see on the Ayuntamiento de Rota page that they require a DNI/NIE or resident certificate to obtain the Padron, so how do I go about this?
Then, I know it varies by town or region so I couldn't pinpoint what proof of income I need as an EU citizen living in Rota, if I can just show a savings amount of at least 5,500?
The last point is that I am bringing my American husband to live with me, and sources say he needs to begin his application at the Spanish embassy in the U.S. and present the marriage certificate to process but do I already need to be a Spanish resident for him to even start this?
My mother is currently an American citizen but her mother is Spanish and she's planning on moving there with me, and then getting her Spanish nationality through her mother. Would it be easier for me to just try and get nationality once she becomes a Spanish national?
Thank you and I know this is a lot and apologize beforehand, I will keep researching but am having a difficult time, might just end up consulting a lawyer!
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2023.03.20 19:54 Impossible_Ad_6048 What's the most bizarre event you've ever witnessed in public?
If you could switch lives with any fictional character, who would it be and why?
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2023.03.20 19:54 OptimalAd475 50% Off GreenForest End Tables Living Room Set of 2, Industrial Side Table Nightstand with Storage Shelf, Easy Assembly, White QK
2023.03.20 19:54 bigchungusamongus1 I won a PS2 for cheap on Ebay a couple weeks ago and have been revisiting the Holy Trinity after 20 years.
This post is a love letter to Project Aces.
Let me start by saying I am just as taken aback by these games as I was when I was a little kid. The Holy Trinity of Ace Combat are just as enthralling as they were in the early-2000's. I have my newly acquired PS2 with HDMI adapter hooked up to my projector and soundbasubwoofer combo. Playing them with this setup is absolutely explosive and it completely sucks me in.
Ace Combat is the main influence as far as media I consumed that prompted me to join the military many, many years ago. Playing as the protagonist of Mobius, Razgriz, and Galm squadrons ignited an action hero fantasy withing me that has burned bright for my entire life. I can say that I owe Ace Combat for inspiring me to do a lot of the things I've done in my life, both in the military and the civilian world. That's how powerful of an influence these games had on me. Experiencing them again on modern equipment literally gives me goosebumps.
I have such a deep appreciation for the story, soundtrack, gameplay, and everything else that Project Aces poured their heart and soul into to develop these masterpieces. Long live PA, the PS2, and the Demons of Razgriz!
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2023.03.20 19:54 islamicgal How do you guys feel about fanfictions of idols?
I'm wondering how people on here feel towards fanfictions of kpop idols? On Twitter, where I mostly spent my Kpop years on, it was always weirdly viewed.
Mainly because the idols in question are real people, and not fictional characters you can play with, but also because a lot of the fics out there have very explicit themes (porn without plot, smut etc.) or are in settings where the idol is heavily depressed or other (which seems to be a recurrent theme).
I personally don't really have a set opinion on it. I go by the idea that one can write and post whatever they want, regardless of the subject. I did come across some solid works that were neither there to sexualise or write idols in a overly angsty way, so that's that. I never really got attracted to the genre, though, because whenever I skimmed over one, I was always nagged by the fact that like, these are real people who live and breathe right now. It's hard to get into a work when you know the limited range the author has when it comes to expanding and creating characters.
I'm a writer myself, so I know not everything should be taken seriously, especially not stuff on Wattpad or AO3. As I said, y'all are free to write whatever makes you happy, to fluffy and fun content to something darker. But it's not something I particularly enjoy reading on my free time.
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2023.03.20 19:54 DCS30 Am I doing something wrong, or just average now?
i'm 40 years old, restarted my life around 34ish, going back to school full time, with barely anything in the bank. since then, i now have a government job making $75000 with increases twice a year, have a small house with my gf with a sub-$400,000 mortgage at a low interest rate (which requires non-stop work...), and may have leased a truck at the worst possible time, right before the gas prices skyrocketed (financing was too expensive, leasing felt like a good bridge move to gauge financing moving forward). we live a very basic, non-extravagant life, don't spend money on ourselves often, only went on one real trip in the last 6 years...due to cost of living, i'm only really putting aside a couple hundred bucks a month, and i'm never able to keep my chequing account above a couple thousand lately. basically, stagnating. aside from spending money on shit for this house constantly, and my car payments, am i missing something? is it just cost of living that's crushing us right now? i need an unbiased, fresh opinion on this, so i thought i would reach out here. is anyone else in a similar situation?
for what it's worth, i don't have much on my line of credit (under $8000) or credit card either (credit card is strictly for points), and i do have some small investments. i do still have student debt from 11 years ago that i'm making payments to.
i'm not looking for "you should have done xx", or anything like that, just whether or not i'm alone in this haha.
thanks in advance.
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2023.03.20 19:54 MurkyMurlocmrrrlgerm Out of work, looking for support, not finding it
I am looking for some advice. I am posting under an alt account as what I am going though at the moment is rather embarrassing.
I have a diagnosis of Asperger's from the NHS and I live in England in the East Midlands region.
I didn't have the best childhood and I wasn't allowed to interact with people my own age.
Life as an adult, I'm now 34, has been difficult for me. Especially with regards to social skills.
The problem to me appears to be that there is something vitally important in social skills that I simply haven't learnt. I have no idea what it is, however even in a professional environment very serious complaints are put in about me from women accusing me of all sorts of very serious and dreadful things.
So far, every single time, I have been able to prove that the accusations were false. Including in the most recent case, however the most recent one resulted in a 6 month long police investigation into me. The case didn't get referred to the Crown Prosecution Service but I am aware that each time the complaints are put in about me they get more and more serious.
I'm male, and due mostly to how my childhood was I do not want a romantic relationship or anything like that with women and, honestly at this point, I don't want any interaction with women outside of work. It is far too difficult for me. I get that I have to interact with women in work and I am fine with that. Outside of work, however, I am aware that I have significant difficulties and I find it way too difficult.
I have been off work for about 9 months at this point. I have been referred to a social prescriber by my GP and we are trying to find some social skills training for me.
However, we have not had any luck at all.
We have spoken to the organisations Space Inclusive however they have said that they have nothing suitable for me.
We have also spoken to Autism East Midlands and they have only been prepared to send me a listing of all the social groups for people with Autism. The impression that I am getting, and I could be completely wrong about this, is that I am not their core target area.
I want to get back to work, but I really don't want to go back to work without making a decent effort to fix whatever is wrong with my social skills.
I don't seem to be able to find any courses with a tutor to examine my social skills and help me identify what is wrong and learn from it.
Does anyone know of anything like this, or where I could possibly go to find something like that? Alternatively, if I have the wrong approach to fixing this does anyone have any recommendations?
My feelings at the moment are very much that going to a social group and attempting to make friends, given how badly things have gone for me in the past is not a good idea as I feel that I am putting both myself and others at risk. Especially as this isn't the first time that complaints have been put in against me and they are always along a similar theme.
It also feels really unfair to go to a social meet up and risk putting women in positions where they feel extremely unsafe just in the hope that this time I will magically work out what it is I am doing that makes them feel unsafe.
With my GP and Social Prescriber struggling to find support for me I am really uncertain for the future.
Many many thanks in advance for anyone that can offer me advice.
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2023.03.20 19:53 gbcolin What do I do?
Been diagnosed with depression since I was 13. parents divorced, I moved away from a small town to a big city and tried fitting in so I could make friends by smoking weed and skateboarding instead of focusing on my future and why I was feeling the way I was, and still am... I'm now 21, been living alone in a dingy little bachelor apartment with my cat bones for about 2 years now. I lost my job 8 months ago for not being punctual enough. I slid into a slight alcohol dependence so I could not have to think about my life when I got home from work. But that faded after a few months and again I couldn't get up out of bed. I've been on employment insurance for the past 8 months and just wake up to feed myself and my cat. I was on SSRI's from 13 until just a couple months ago. And I still feel the same as when I was medicated, just worthless and stupid. I have a doctor's appointment in a couple weeks to maybe get some new medication but I'm not sure what I should do. I want to better myself but I'm such a fucking cynic that I can't help but lay down and give up...
Any advice is a huge help, thanks.
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2023.03.20 19:53 Streetmeat942 Met Halley,Carly, and Jaz
All I’ll say is they don’t care about their followers. Commented this on a separate post/sun but here’s what I said:
Carly Weinstein- nice but definitely cocky. Like gets offended if you don’t know her and lowkey lives in her own world? Jaz - I don’t know if I met her on a bad day but she barely acknowledged me…it was really upsetting to see. It was at Fiddlesticks and she clearly looked like she would rather be doing anything else. I saw a girl ask her if she could buy shots for Halley and her to do with her since it was her birthday and it looked like they straight up rejected her. Ouch….she has potential to be nice I guess Halley- not nice as well. I also saw her with Jaz and one of the girls that was with the girl whose birthday it was asked Halley if it was annoying to take pics with fans and she said yes??? It’s like they forget their followers made them famous!
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2023.03.20 19:53 Time-Concentrate4674 If you were stranded on a deserted island and could only have three items with you, what would they be?
If you could switch lives with anyone for a day, who would it be and why?
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