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2023.06.02 00:35 AI0 tresser performed action `removecomment`

Target User: u/Spokker
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You realize that minors are the only people that can take puberty blockers, right?
Yes, of course. What I meant was that I do not care what adults do in their private lives with regard to their own transitioning or what they wear or who they have sex with, not that I believe they are taking puberty blockers. My concern is when minors are prescribed blockers, hormones and in some cases surgery under the guise of gender-affirming care. These can have lifelong consequences that I do not believe children can consent to. How can they fully understand the consequences when we don't even fully understand the risks?
I absolutely do want minors to be denied access to the elective, off-label use of puberty blockers because of the documented risks involved, such as impacts to bone density later in life, infertility, and potential impacts to brain development.
https://www.reuters.com/investigates/special-report/usa-transyouth-care/
Some scientists and doctors also say they wonder about possible neurological effects of puberty blockers. The question: Hormones released during puberty play a major role in brain development, so when puberty is suppressed, can that result in reduced cognitive function, such as problem solving and decision making?
Dr John Strang, research director of the gender development program at Children’s National Hospital in Washington, D.C., and other researchers wrote in a 2020 paper that “pubertal suppression may prevent key aspects of development during a sensitive period of brain organization.”
Strang said at the time that “we need high-quality research to understand the impacts of this treatment – impacts which may be positive in some ways and potentially negative in others.” He declined to comment on whether he was pursuing such research or funding for it.
It's political correctness run amok to move full steam ahead on this when the risks are not well understood. The left seems to be supporting this stuff to own the cons despite some other countries pumping the brakes on gender-affirming care for minors. I think the public has caught on, which is why almost 70% of those polled say they oppose puberty blockers for minors.
To bring it back on topic, the above is what they are talking about when they say there is an increase in hate speech on Twitter. People expressing concerns like this. On Reddit these opinions could get your comments deleted and your account banned, but that does not make the 70% who are concerned go away.
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No, I get it. You're either all-in or you're a bigot. Being an "ally" in the past does not mean you'll be an ally in the future. I generally don't care what adults do in their private life but if opposing puberty blockers for minors is transphobic, then myself and most Americans are transphobic.
https://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/3991685-majority-of-americans-oppose-gender-affirming-care-for-minors-trans-women-participating-in-sports-poll/
A Washington Post-KFF poll found that 68 percent of adults oppose access to puberty-blocking medication for transgender children ages 10-14 and 58 percent oppose access to hormonal treatments for transgender kids ages 15 to 17.
Expressing opinions like this on Twitter is an example of what they call hate speech, I would imagine.
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2023.06.02 00:34 phakane I wish my mother would leave my father. Take this as a warning to leave your toxic relationship NOW

Even if she doesn’t leave him I would hope one day he starts to treat her better. They’ve been married 21 years, and I’m 20F. When it was good I was probably too young to remember. I have 4 other siblings (I’m the oldest) and I just moved out of the house last year, and was so scared to leave them there with my parents as there fights become physical and happen at random with no warning. Its not one-sided altercations, and they’re started by my mother when she’s drunk or at her whits end. It’s not consistent but when they do fight its extremely scary. We live in a small community so I fear bringing others into our situation who may only gossip instead of helping us.
She doesn’t have a job of her own, they own a business together so all their income is shared. I don’t even think she has her own bank account. On top of that, she takes on most of the responsibilities around the house (cleaning, cooking, washing) and with my other siblings. He wants to call all the shots and be in control, while also wanting/expecting her to assist with their business and be a homemaker. That’s not realistic for any person, who doesn’t have any help (he is messy and doesn’t help at all cleaning)
I honestly don’t think its good for her mentally, and 6 years ago my mom had a nervous breakdown from all the stress. She has since recovered but in the back of my head I fear that she will snap again and I have no power or control over it. I know 10yrs ago my dad cheated with a prostitute, and with a woman they hired, consequently giving my mom HPV.
I feel conflicted bc I love both of my parents but the environment is too unpredictable and chaotic. I don’t even feel like I should know so much of their marital issues but my mother has been confiding in me since I was 12.
At one point they were in their early 20s, in love, and happy. One day my mom woke up with 5 kids, no personal income, stuck in a marriage with a man who does not help her and is financially and emotionally abusive. Leave when it gets toxic. You can overcome hardship but you cannot excuse abuse.
i just wanna say i do not condone my mothers domestic abuse
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2023.06.02 00:34 fusionmixs47 They only cares when it affects them

I was haveing really bad health problems with my period both my mom and dad didn't care. They told me it was all in my head, I'm over reacting and all women go thru this. I used to cry about how painful my period was and they did nothing.
Until my bathroom started smelling bad which affected them then my parents started to care. They send me to a doctor and did a bunch of testing. Like You couldn't of send me to a doctor. When I told you I had a problem does all my problems have to affect you so you could care?
If my health issues didn't affect my parents they won't of cared about me or my pain they only cared because they were getting affected by it. They didn't cared that I was in pain, they didn't cared that I was depressed and suicidal they only cared because the bathroom smelled.
A bathroom smelling bad is worse then me being in pain or me being suicidal. If my bathroom never smelled I won't have gotten treatment for my problems.
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2023.06.02 00:34 myanusisbleeding101 Improving spotting on a 4k monitor?

Hi all,
I have really been struggling with spotting and maintaining visual on targets. I will get merged calls and have no idea where the target is after scanning the sky or ground. It's really bad when I do make contact and the target is maneuvering, I lose them in almost every turn.
I am playing on Enigmas Cold War, I have a 4k monitor. I tried dropping the resolution a little bit, and that helped a lot, but the game looks terrible just fuzzy all around on my monitor. Does anyone have any tips to make spotting easier on a 4k without the cockpit looking like it's out the 1990's?
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2023.06.02 00:34 imonamichigan Question about Deathly Hallows

So I am currently rereading the books (this is my second time reading all of the books start to finish), and I was wondering - when Ron leaves Harry and Hermione, I know he gets caught by Snatchers at first. He tries to come back but by the time he does they had already disapparated. Then he tells them that he found them because of the Deluminator. He says something about his “room” then the “garden” and the “shed.” Did he go home??? To the Burrow? I don’t see how he could have because the Death Eaters had such a close watch on their house. Maybe I should just keep reading (I haven’t started the next chapter yet) but I was confused as to where he was that he was comfortable calling it his “room.”
Sorry if I missed something/should’ve just kept reading! Lol
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2023.06.02 00:34 second-bakery-attack Want to get into street photography but undecided

Hi everyone, I want to get into street photography. I used to take photos of streets like everyone else with my little iPhone SE and even impressed the photography professor at my uni. So, I want to be more serious about it. I recently got an iPhone 14, which I think will be a real upgrade after SE. We also got a Canon EOS1300D that no one uses at home. I tried to use it for several times but never managed to get used to it because of its size and weight. It was a pain to grab it and take some picture quickly so I found myself using my phone everytime.
It is not like I can get a mirrorless or a compact camera in near future so I am kind of stuck.
So, should I go with the classical saying "the best camera is the one that is always with you" and use my iPhone as I can learn using a camera when I finally get the one that I want, or should I force myself to use the DSLR as the phone does not give the same experience with a camera.
Thanks in advance.
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2023.06.02 00:34 xtremexavier15 TSWT 26 (pt 2)

The episode resumed with a shot of the Final Two holding the effigies their helpers had made as Chef wheeled the person formerly in a hazmat suit in a wheelchair, their suit traded in for a full body cast.
Izzy spoke up. "Are we actually going to throw our dummies into an active volcano without any safety? That sounds lethal, even for me."
"As the saying goes, 'No excruciating pain, no million dollar gain'," Chris told her, pulling out a briefcase as a reminder then promptly tossing it away. "To help you get those dummies to the top of the volcano, you can use the rewards your teams earned on your behalf in the Aftermath Lava Surfing challenge," he continued.
"Ezekiel won a wheelbarrow. Too bad he's out," he said, the camera panning the host at the base of the volcano as the wheelbarrow rolled down next to the host, "but Alejandro gets a baby stroller," the stroller rolled down next to the wheelbarrow, "and Izzy gets diddly squat."
"What?" Mal gaped.
"Mal," Chris said, "for winning the effigy challenge, you get a twenty-second head start. So, get going!"
"Toodles," Mal said, running off with the wooden statue in his arms.
"At least this dummy's light," Izzy said, carrying it in her arms.
Mal tossed his dummy into his baby stroller as soon as he came to Chris, then ran up the slope chuckling as it did not break.
Chris watched him go with his usual smile, then turned to watch Izzy as she walked up. "Shouldn't I have the wheelbarrow if Ezekiel's not competing?" Izzy said.
"Sure, why not?" Chris said, watching Izzy put her dummy in her wheelbarrow and push it up the hill.
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The scene cut to Mal running up the mountainside path at a decent rate. "It's been a long ride," he told himself, "but I'm going to claim the prize and live life comfortably!"
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The camera panned down to Izzy, still pushing her effigy up the slope and panting heavily. "Why am I getting tired now of all places?" she said to herself.
"Having trouble?" Mal called out mockingly. "Maybe if you continue to run like a freak of nature, you might get to the top in time to see me win the money. But I doubt it!" he laughed, running off again.
The path soon leveled off, he passed a few bushes, then saw what was ahead and frantically skidded to a halt. He stopped right on the edge of a bubbling lava pool. "What the inferno?" he asked, the camera getting an overhead shot of the lava right before it flared up, forcing Mal to dive away with his rather flammable dummy.
Chris chuckled off-screen, and the camera zoomed out to show him and Chef standing on the other side of the lava lake. "Yoo hoo, over he~ere!" he called in a light and airy voice, waving to the malice filled man. A series of stepping stones spanned the gap between the two sides, but hanging over it from a large wooden frame were several heavy objects: from the left to right were a log, a grand piano, a safe, a simple weight, a purple armchair, a metal cage, and a bomb. The ropes holding the objects in the air ran along the framework and down to a structure near Chris and Chef, where each individual rope was tied around a long log.
"Check out the look on his face," Chris told his assistant as the camera zoomed in on them and the two men high-fived.
Izzy finally arrived at the other end of the lava pool, stopping when she saw it. "Now what?" she said in awed disbelief.
"The only way to the top of the volcano," Chris said as the camera panned across a close-up of the stepping stones, "is past this river of lava," he pointed down at the bubbling rock as the camera reached him again. "Those rewards probably won't be too helpful," he added, Mal and Izzy frowning as they stood by with their respective dummies.
"All you have to do is hop across these stepping stones," the host continued, moving over closer to the end of the path. "Easy-peasy, hot and cheesy!" he said as the lava flared up again. "Buu~uut," he added impishly as the camera panned across the hanging objects, "we've rigged a few booby traps to, that's right!"
"Make things more interesting," the two finished in annoyance.
"Chef," Chris turned to his assistant, "a booby demo, if you please!"
Chef took out a machete then turned around and chopped the first rope. The freed end quickly slid back through the wooden frame, and the log dropped onto the first stepping stone, broke, and fell into the lava with a burst of flame and a splatter of molten rock. Izzy raised an eyebrow and Mal gasped in surprise.
"Yeah, you really don't want to get hit by those," Chris told them. "Your helpers can either keep them secure," he continued, turning around and motioning to the two pairs that were standing by the tied-up ropes, "or send them falling. It's your call. Aaaand, go!"
Mal got moving first, picking up his dummy out of the stroller and running from stone to stone. Izzy lagged behind, but she still kept up.
"Chop the ropes! Now!" Mal commanded, and the shot cut over to Noah, Eva, Sky, and Shawn on the far side of the river.
"Team E-Scope, don't let them win!" Izzy cried out.
"Hold on!" Sky stopped everyone. "I don't want to fight anyone, or help out Mal."
"Me too," Shawn agreed. "I'm just here because I have too."
"I said cut the ropes!" Mal shouted forcefully.
"You two are right. Let's leave them at each other's throats," Noah said.
"Or better yet, we sabotage Mal," Eva offered.
"I'm already ahead of you!" Shawn grinned and grabbed a machete. He chopped down the rope holding the couch, and Mal took notice and jumped onto the next stone.
"Don't even think about messing with me!" Mal growled.
"Can't hear you!" Shawn mocked him as he cut a series of ropes. A bank vault, piano, and cage all fell down, but Mal effortlessly avoided all of them and eventually made it to the end.
"How were you able to avoid all of those?" Noah wondered. "That cage should've contained you."
"Mike's personalities can come in handy. I'll be taking my leave now," Mal laughed and made his way to the volcano.
Izzy reached the four helpers. "Welp, that was a bust," she griped.
"Don't just stand around complaining," Eva said. "Go to the volcano."
"And what about you guys?" Izzy asked.
"We'll catch up with you two with the helicopter Chris drove us here in," Sky added.
Izzy's face turned into determination. "Here I go! Time to stop the biggest, most baddest villain in TD history!" She let out a battlecry and dashed hastily towards the volcano.
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The scene changed to a long-distance upward shot of the volcano, soon cutting to the top as the camera panned across the non-competitors, gathered in a sweaty and sweltering mass on the rim of the volcano's crater.
An upward pan of Chris holding the million-dollar suitcase revealed him standing happily in a cool breeze, the shot zooming out to show it being caused by a giant electric fan blowing air over a large ice cube being held on an intern's back. Several more ice cubes were stacked around the area, and were already beginning to melt.
"So...," Chris said to Chef, the pilot standing beside him, "know of any season three wrap parties?"
Chef didn't answer, and instead averted his gaze and walked away whistling in a very suspicious manner.
Chris frowned at him, but his expression quickly changed to excitement as he looked out over the edge of the volcano. "And here they come!" he announced as Mal was shown racing up the path with his dummy.
The shot cut to the edge of the crater as the dummy was thrown up first, followed by the villain leaping up with a dark smile on his face. He caught the dummy and grinned even more.
"Looking for this?" Chris asked as the shot cut to the million dollar case.
Mal let out a dry chuckle as he made his way to the edge of the crater.
"Stop right there!" Izzy's voice said, causing him to pause and turn around mid-way.
"Izzy," Mal said as the camera cut to the girl at the roof of the crater next to her dummy. "Can't you see I'm about to beat you? Just spare us the trouble and let me win!"
"If there's anyone who deserves to be competing against me, it should be Mike!" Izzy argued back.
"Mike is nothing to me!" Mal shouted furiously. "He should be the one left behind, not me!" That was when he inhaled sharply as his head got closer to the camera.
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Suddenly, Mal began falling and landing in the pink grounds of Mike's brain.
"Urgh." Mal grunted before his eyes widened and he saw that his tower was practically rubble at this point. "Impossible. Where's my tower?" Mal asked furiously.
"It's gone Mal. It's gone for good," Mike smirked victoriously as he entered, much to Mal's anger.
"How were you able to push that button? I had that reinforced so your puny arms could not penetrate it," Mal asked angrily.
"I'm not half as weak as you think I am. It's time to end this," Mike glared at the evil alter who smirked fiendishly.
"Very well," Mal said with sadistic glee, "This should only take ten seconds." Soon, Mal and Mike charged at each other fiercely and began punching and kicking each other with so much ferocity.
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Meanwhile, at the top of the volcano, Mike and Mal were having such a gigantic fight that Mike's body was thrashing itself violently much to everyone's horror.
"What is he doing?!" Owen asked in concern.
Heather stood in front of Cody protectively.
"Surrender already, you peon!" Mal grunted angrily as Mike's body continued to thrash violently.
"N-never!" Mike said confidently as he continued to claw at himself.
Noah gasped at the scene. "Mike's fighting Mal for control of his body!" Noah realized.
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Inside Mike's mind, Mal tackled Mike down as the latter struggled to get himself off of the evil alter.
"Look at you, so pitiful and pathetic!" Mal hissed viciously, "You were a fool to challenge me. It's not like your friends will ever forgive you for this. How will they see you now that they know I exist?"
Mike seemed to be in thought about Mal's words but chose not to let them get to him. "I won't let you win this!" Mike raised his foot to kick Mal in the kiwis, causing Mal to release him from his hold out of instinct.
Mike pushed Mal back and began punching him, trying to keep him down but Mal did not look like he was giving in.
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Back at the top of the volcano, everyone was anxiously watching the fight unfold.
"What are we gonna do?!" Sadie said in horror.
Sky seemed to be in deep thought before smiling. "We have to rally Mike on! Show him that he's not alone in this!"
"I'm on it," Shawn nodded before speaking up. "Mike! It's me, Shawn! I just want to let you know that no one is mad at you about Mal's actions!"
"All of us are logical enough to separate Mal from Mike. It's just common sense!" Noah smiled encouragingly.
"We're all rooting for you to kick Mal's butt!" Eva added happily.
"We know you can do it," Ella encouraged.
"Mike! I just want you to know that you're my best friend and I can't imagine life without you! I know it may seem rough in there but please, we all have your back!" Sky said encouragingly.
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Back in his mind, Mike smiled warmly as he heard this and Mal got up, all tattered and beaten. "Those nobodies… are idiots. I'm a part of you and they WILL see that!" Mal cried out in fury.
"You're wrong Mal! You may be a part of my mind, but everything you ever did was all you and no one else!" Mike spoke in determination.
"You always wanted me to rely on you. To make yourself feel important. That desire turned you bitter and hateful and led you to who you are today. You wanted me to feel scared and feel I needed you to be tough, but guess what? I have friends up there. Friends who have stuck by my side even when they learned my disorder before I could properly confess, friends who stuck by me even if they voted me off in season one for the others' behavior, and friends who still stay beside me despite everything you ever did to me!"
Mike's body began glowing white, and for the first time in Mal's life, he felt genuine fear in his eyes. "No… you can't do this to me. No one will ever cross you with me in charge," Mal pleaded desperately, "I'm a part of you."
Mike just narrowed his eyes. "That's true. I can't get rid of you, but I can seal you enough to where you can never cause this much trouble EVER AGAIN!"
Soon, Mike used his hands to shoot a powerful white blast which Mal tried to resist but in the end, it was hopeless and he was blasted into the deepest corners of Mike's mind.
"IT'S MY TIME!!!! MMMMIIIINNNNNEEEEEEE!" Mal cried out in horror as his voice faded into the distance.
Back at the volcano, Mike opened his eyes and grabbed his head. "Wh-Where am I?"
"Mike! He's back!" Ezekiel cried out happily before Topher stopped Ezekiel from going to help him up.
"Wait, this could be a trap," Topher said sternly.
"Let me try something," Duncan told the group before whistling 'In the Hall of the Mountain King,' and all he got was a blank stare from Mike.
"It's really me guys. I swear," Mike smiled encouragingly.
"Mike! You're back!" Sky cried out as she embraced the comedian, to which Shawn, Noah, Dawn, Ella, Sadie, Lindsay, and Cody were all quick to join in.
"Guys, I am so sorry about everything Mal did," Mike apologized profusely. "I should have told you all about him after last season, but I thought he was no longer a problem and-"
"It's okay. We know you never meant for this to happen," Shawn smiled at his friend.
"I promise. I won't forget to let you all know about my problems," Mike pledged.
"Great to have you back," Chris said with an unamused look on his face, "but can one of you toss your sacrifice in the volcano already?"
"The one next to you," Topher told Mike as Izzy dragged her dummy. "If you toss it in the lava before Izzy does, then you win the million dollars."
Mike and Izzy locked eyes, then he grabbed his dummy and both ran as fast as they could to the edge of the volcano.
Quickly forming a plan, Izzy slid to a stop and hurled her dummy. It flew through the sky like a bullet, and moments later, it soared into the lava unceremoniously, and aside from a small splash-back that the Peanut Gallery quickly dodged, nothing happened.
"Oh yes!!!" Izzy boomed. "I won! I won! I won!" she cheered, jumping up and down in glee.
"And that's a cool million for Izzy," Chris told the audience. "The winner of Total Drama World Tour!" The contestants all applauded and cheered for the winner.
"Way to go, Izzy!" Owen cheered out loud.
"Nice job, eh!" Ezekiel clapped his hands.
Chris opened up the briefcase for Izzy, who marveled at the dollar bills inside. "It's so beautiful!" she exclaimed as she took the briefcase and hugged it tightly.
"You worked hard for the money, Izzy," Mike said as he walked over to congratulate her. "I'm just glad to be back in control again."
"You're welcome, and stay you, Mike," Izzy shook hands with Mike.
"Ohh, you didn't throw any pineapples in the volcano, did you?" an unfamiliar voice asked, the camera panning right a little ways just as two elderly Hawaiian men in flowery skirts and leis walked up.
"There are signs everywhere!" the other said.
The camera cut to the Peanut Gallery all stepping away to show several signs with crossed-out pineapples on them.
"Oh yeah," Chris said blankly. "They really ruined the shot, so we put the human wall there."
A third old Hawaiian man came over to reveal another sign. "Don't you know what happens when pineapples meet lava?"
It was then that the volcano shook and rumbled, a long-distance shot of it showing a few reddish streaks forming along the outer edge of the crater.
"Uh-oh," Chris said, gaining the camera's attention as the volcano was shaking, "Didn't see that one coming. Anywho," he chuckled before taking a deep breath and yelling "RRRUUUUNNNNNN!"
The volcano was shown from a distance again, the smoke billowing from the top turning into a full-blown eruption of fire.
Back at the top, the three Hawaiian men went running back towards the path down, followed by Chris, Izzy, Mike, and the rest of the contestants as lava began to cover the screen.
It parted as the scene cut to the base of the volcano, the former contestants running and screaming across the beach as flaming rocks rained down from above and the lava took over the screen again.
"See you next season I guess," Chris said as the camera cut to him as fire continued to fall. "Maybe with a whole new cast, 'cause let's face it – these guys are probably gonna melt," he laughed.
"Until next time," the host said, his voiced strained as the scene cut to him standing up in front of the sky. "I'm Chris McLean, and this has been Total! Drama!" The camera zoomed out to reveal that him and Chef were now aboard the old Boat of Losers, but the host's outtro was interrupted by a sudden object. Both men looked up, and one of the rocks, entirely on fire, was shown rocketing towards the boat.
Chris and Chef ducked to either side as it landed, punching a hole in the ship with its crash. The Boat of Losers began to sink, and the rest of the cast treading water nearby laughed as the two adults went under.
Their mirth was short-lived, however, and quickly turned to terror and they swam away screaming as large flaming rocks started raining down upon them once again, and the footage cut to static.
(Roll the Credits)
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(Bonus Clip)
The shot featured flaming rocks hitting the ocean and whatnot. The rocks caused some splashes, but they weren't big enough to fully cover the screen.
The camera panned to the right to show Ezekiel Clone on his raft. A big smile formed on his face as he drank his coconut and watched the lava explosion. Noticing the camera, he gave it a wave before it faded to black.
18th: Shawn
17th: Amy
16th: Lindsay
15th: Rodney
14th: Jo
Eliminated: Owen
13th: Duncan
12th: Sky
11th: Heather
10th: Cody
9th: Ella
8th: Noah
7th: Sadie
6th: Owen
5th: Eva
4th: Topher
3rd: Ezekiel
2nd: Mike
1st: Izzy
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2023.06.02 00:33 hobbesboiler He (29M) told me he needs time to himself mentally after spending a vacation with me. I (26F) don’t know what this means

I spent a weekend on vacation with my boyfriend of 5 months. This is our first trip together, and I really enjoyed it. We spent 2.5 days together, and then we went to our separate apartments after driving back on Monday. Since then, I haven’t heard from him much at all (it’s now Thursday). I texted him something that he responded to, and then when I responded back he never opened the message (we have read receipts on). I was hoping that he would reach out today to hang out, but nothing. I wanted to find out if everything is okay since he always texts me either if he wants to hang out, or if he has other plans he’ll let me know and that’s totally fine. At least he will check in in the evening to find out how my day was. We live in the same town, so we usually hangout 3ish times a week. He’s never been so silent before. I texted him today asking if everything is okay, since we haven’t talked at all in the last few days. He texted me back and told me that everything was totally fine, just that he has been taking some time to himself mentally after the weekend we spent together. He followed that up with saying that he had a great time on our vacation and he will see me tomorrow, and that he loves me. I am left a little confused. Does spending time with me take up so much mental space for him that he has to have 3 whole days to himself? I understand what it feels like to need me time, and I need it too. But I feel like I don’t have to be “on” around him and so it feels like I’m not wasting mental energy when I’m with him and it kind of makes me sad that being with me takes up mental energy for him. I have brought up that when we are together we don’t have to do anything special, we can just coexist and do our own hobbies yet still be in the same room, which he said he would be down for. But it never seems to work out that way, which is fine but it’s just freaking me out that spending just a weekend with me makes him feel like he needs such a long break with minimal contact. And it begs the question, how are we ever going to live together in the future if he can’t spend long periods of time with me without getting mentally exhausted? I’m spiraling a little bit and need advice on whether this is just a fundamental incompatibility or whether we can make this work, and if anyone has ever been in the same situation. Thank you.
TLDR; My boyfriend needs 3 days of non-communication for time for himself mentally after spending a long weekend with me. I’m now spiraling wondering if this is normal or just a fundamental incompatibility. Any advice is appreciated.
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2023.06.02 00:33 Throwaway_familylaw Family Law- who is responsible for providing child with clothes while with non-resident parent?

My ex and I are separated, never lived together, and have a young child. Child stays with their other parent every other weekend. No court orders in place and maintenance is paid. Up until now we have had a mostly good relationship with one another however it has now completely fallen apart. I have always provided clean clothing for our child to wear when with the other parent, and it has been returned dirty for me to wash, but recently it's been taking weeks and multiple requests to get some items back so I have asked them to buy some clothing to use and keep at their house as I no longer want to have arguments over it. They are refusing and say that legally it is my responsibility to provide them with clean clothing for our child for the duration of our child's stay with them. I can't find anything online that supports that, in fact most things I have seen suggest it's better for them to have their own collection of clothing/toys/shoes at their house to allow our child to feel more comfortable/at home while there. Can anyone advise me on who's responsibility it is to provide clothing? And maybe point out the legislation to back it up? In Scotland, not sure if that makes a difference.
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2023.06.02 00:33 TheMadQueen96 Social stuff to do during the week?

Started a new job recently that allows for a lot more freedom, as I've swapped from doing your 12hr shifts to your standard 9-5, based in Belfast.
Used to be I'd be utterly knackered and bruised (worked as a carer for those with challenging behaviour so I got beat up an absolute ton) so I'd just collapse when I got home and begin the same routine over again. Even a day off in-between was just used for recovery.
And well, I don’t have to do that shite anymore. Problem is the routine of work, home, bed for 9-5 just doesn't cut it for me. Might for some of the folks I work with, but they're much more used to that gig.
I did find a group for coffee meets but it only meets once a fortnight on Wednesdays.
I looked into classes at the Cresent Arts centre but the stuff I'd be interested in isn't kicking off again till the Autumn at least (could be longer). Missed this semester. So taking an evening class is off the table for a while.
Other than that, I also tried to set up my own creative writing group as I couldn't find a suitable one locally but nobody showed even after rsvping and most didn't even say they weren't able to.
Other folks from work are doing that whole work, sleep bed thing so I'm pretty much leaving the office on my own. We do go out on Fridays for after work drinks sometimes though, and everyone's sound so that's nice but it still leaves the rest of the week open.
Something to break up the week would be lovely but I'm a bit stumped for ideas. I don't really like being out in Belfast by myself tbf, as often times this does make me a target for harassment and by the time I get back to Bangor everything's shut as is.
Anything around for us 9-5ers? Trying to be a lot more social given my schedule actually allows for it now but it does feel as though I've tried a lot already and it's not panned out.
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2023.06.02 00:33 Calisz More fitting buffs for forestry teas/campfires

There is a lot of debate on the temporary buffs that foresty will offer; like increased slayer points and minigame currencies. It does seem not very fitting, so I figured I'd give some examples of more fitting rewards, just for discussion's sake. Keep in mind these are temporary buffs.

As you can see they are all small, niche, forestry (Firemaking, woodcutting) related buffs. Any thoughts? Any other ideas? Love to know!
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2023.06.02 00:33 DIAMONDMAN346 Help please

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2023.06.02 00:33 Xenatheneo Week 5

I’m on 5 weeks 2 days of starting lexapro 10mg. I’m getting better but for some reason in the mornings when I go to work I just feel off for the first 2 hours. It’s an unexplainable feeling I just feel weird and uneasy. Is that normal on week 5? And when does it go away?
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2023.06.02 00:33 Ok-Jellyfish8198 Something I never see talked about, is how Red got possessed by Herobrine

In the original AVM the main plot point is that Herobrine possessed Red, and became power hungry for the block.
But how and when did this happen? Does this mean Red found the block first? And why has Herobrine not attempted to get the block again yet?
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2023.06.02 00:33 hobbesboiler He (29M) told me he needs time to himself mentally after spending a vacation with me. I (26F) don’t know what this means

I spent a weekend on vacation with my boyfriend of 5 months. This is our first trip together, and I really enjoyed it. We spent 2.5 days together, and then we went to our separate apartments after driving back on Monday. Since then, I haven’t heard from him much at all (it’s now Thursday). I texted him something that he responded to, and then when I responded back he never opened the message (we have read receipts on). I was hoping that he would reach out today to hang out, but nothing. I wanted to find out if everything is okay since he always texts me either if he wants to hang out, or if he has other plans he’ll let me know and that’s totally fine. At least he will check in in the evening to find out how my day was. We live in the same town, so we usually hangout 3ish times a week. He’s never been so silent before. I texted him today asking if everything is okay, since we haven’t talked at all in the last few days. He texted me back and told me that everything was totally fine, just that he has been taking some time to himself mentally after the weekend we spent together. He followed that up with saying that he had a great time on our vacation and he will see me tomorrow, and that he loves me. I am left a little confused. Does spending time with me take up so much mental space for him that he has to have 3 whole days to himself? I understand what it feels like to need me time, and I need it too. But I feel like I don’t have to be “on” around him and so it feels like I’m not wasting mental energy when I’m with him and it kind of makes me sad that being with me takes up mental energy for him. I have brought up that when we are together we don’t have to do anything special, we can just coexist and do our own hobbies yet still be in the same room, which he said he would be down for. But it never seems to work out that way, which is fine but it’s just freaking me out that spending just a weekend with me makes him feel like he needs such a long break with minimal contact. And it begs the question, how are we ever going to live together in the future if he can’t spend long periods of time with me without getting mentally exhausted? I’m spiraling a little bit and need advice on whether this is just a fundamental incompatibility or whether we can make this work, and if anyone has ever been in the same situation. Thank you.
TLDR; My boyfriend needs 3 days of non-communication for time for himself mentally after spending a long weekend with me. I’m now spiraling wondering if this is normal or just a fundamental incompatibility. Any advice is appreciated.
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2023.06.02 00:32 Kanj0Bazooie The Alpha Omega blind experience

I've been going through the Black Ops 4 DLC and seeing the sheer quality found in each map. Dead of the Night and Ancient Evil were absolutely fantastic, and while there are flaws to be found, they're both A tier maps for sure in my eyes. However, the last two Aether maps are a tad controversial for some of the community. Tag's seem to have gotten a warmer reception over time, but Alpha Omega is still seen by a fair chunk of people as one of the worst maps in the series. Plus, apparently a lot of it's contents were just taken from Blackout, which is never fun. You can tell this was the point when Treyarch was running out of it's budget.
So, I had pretty low expectations for this one, but I still wanted to give it a chance. Maybe it's got something to enjoy! The only things I knew about it beforehand were the Elemental Mark 2 upgrades, Nuketown's layout, and that Primis and Ultimis are both playable, which is sick. Going in mostly blind, besides those. So, here are some notes I typed down as I was playing, hope they're interesting!
-Ominous intro. Pretty cool, but uh, seems like Treyarch's running low on cash
-Oh damn, bye spawn, hope there wasn't anything over there that I needed
-New Zombie eye color just dropped (they look cool with the white eyes, ngl)
-Hmm, wonder if you get anything for shooting off all the mannequin heads (either I didn't find them all, or you don't, smh)
-Well hello, Mark 2. You're getting a glowup this map, huh. Now how do I get ya out of there
-Oooh, forgot that the round change music goes pretty hard here
-Ayo? New announcer, ain't that neat. Sorry, Sam
-I find it sad that I could instantly tell that some of these number pads/dashboards/whatever you'd call them were taken from Moon
-Oh hey, we're on the Nuketown part, neat
-YOOOO, how's it going, Galva's? Didn't realize how much I missed ya until you came back to me
-Man it's always satisfying to just stab/punch through the early rounds
-Oh hey, power. Neat
-Oooh, blue Hellhounds. Double neat (From what I can tell, these Electro-Hounds actually do nothing special, but they're cool looking so I'll let it slide)
-Richtofen, what was that about ball sweat
-Don't be playing Nuketown sound effects Alpha Omega, you're making me think a perks gonna come from the sky
-Never thought this bunker would be so spacious. All things considered, Marlton could've had it worse down here
-I like this map visually, it's got that reletively comfy atmosphere with an underlying feeling that something's wrong nailed down
-Hey, PaP, I'll get ya up and running soon
-Oh boy, Nova Crawlers. Also the music (I almost died in that holdout section because I wanted to vibe to the music tbh)
-Okay, still ain't done yet, lovely. Let's make the air squeaky clean, ig
-Electric Nova Crawlers, oooh (they're alright. Cool visually, not sure I care for it's ranged attack but at least it's slow, you can dodge it pretty easily)
-Alright, that wasn't so bad tbh. Easier setup to follow along with then the DLC Chaos maps at least
-As a Moon lover, I'm inclined to enjoy pyramid structures in Zombies
-Oooh, we got a Ray Gun kit thing. Excited to see what it does
-Hey, Rushmore. Nice number pad ya got there. Shame I don't know any codes
-Can't fool me, game, this is just a reskinned Ballistic Shield. Smh, but also it's still pretty cool
-We can set our own teleporters? Oooh, that's fun
-Oh shit, heya Tedd. How do we turn you on, now (didn't find out, sad times)
The Galva's work with Etheral Razor?? Dunno if that works, like, logically, but I sure ain't complaining
(I spent like, 5 rounds spinning the box hoping for the Mark 2, btw. Gun just wouldn't pop up, I almost gave up, thinking they removed it from the box for this map. Thankfully they didn't)
-Wait the Nova 6 comes back? That's, uh, that's annoying
-Wait wha? Game, I have the Mark 2 frame (maybe it was cuz I PaPed it? Dunno why it wouldn't let me do anything, maybe I read it wrong)
-...This is gonna be a common occurrence, huh Nova 6
-How do you know you made a mistake, Richtofen? I ain't even sure what I'm doing (it played after I punched a mannequin. Didn't know what it was referring to)
-I moderately dislike projectiles in Zombies (died on round 23, not an awful round to end things on)
So, hows the map? Initial thoughts are mostly positive, tbh! I like the map visually, and it's music is pretty cool. I love that both Ultimis and Primis are here, that ups the replay value significantly. Galva's returning was a shock (haha), but a welcome one. They're both cheaper and last longer, what's not to love? Special enemies are kinda meh tbh, I like the Electric Nova Crawler for the most part but the rest are just kinda there. I never got the chance to use the new Mark 2 varients, so hey, something to look forward to next game. Only thing I actively dislike so far is the Nova 6 coming back up occasionally, that's just pure annoyance. Besides that, it's pretty solid, though I can understand not really digging it, compared to Ancient Evil and DotN this was a lot more normal of an experience. But that ain't so bad, and I enjoyed my time with it. Maybe that'll change as I properly learn it, but until then, we're 3 for 3 in terms of BO4's DLC being good times at worst, at least in my opinion. Though I'm fairly easy to please, so make of that what you will. Thanks for reading, hope ya found it entertaining
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2023.06.02 00:32 Plaztec1037 Does vaping have any cancer causing agents or anything to do with cancer?

17 been doing it for a year started slowly not a great habit I’m aware of that but just wondering now I know vaping can cause lung harm for sure but does vaping cause anything deadly as cancer, because I know vapes have aerosol and formaldehyde are they cancer causing chemicals? Because I know nicotine doesent cause it and rather then lighting real tabacoo with all the carcinogenic chemicals going into your lungs I know it removes a lot of that, but is there even any cancer causing chemicals in vapes when it goes to your lungs? Just wondering because I don’t want to get cancer at this age now if I was 35 or 40 it’s different you know but it’s just something out of curiosity I’m wondering and would like some professional to reply or anybody in that matter ok thanks bye.
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2023.06.02 00:31 vast_annoyance I offered to throw my SIL’s baby shower

if she didn’t feel comfortable having her mother and sister involved (who when she found out she was pregnant told her they hoped her baby died) I wound up throwing the baby shower with her two friends. Her friends did the decorations and I paid for everything else. A month before the party my brother called to tell me that his wife was going to have her mother and sister do the decorations. I had a huge problem with this as her mother and sister are extremely narcissistic and had previously made their wedding day an absolute nightmare and centered around themselves vs the happy couple. I told him that wasn’t my offer and that I was only throwing it because her mother and sister were so awful to her, and I wanted to ensure that they were able to have a day they would enjoy. If she wanted them to throw the shower I wouldn’t mind backing out of my position and letting them throw it, that’s her mother after all. But I would not be collaborating with them for the shower and footing the entire bill while they make this about themselves or potentially sabotage the shower. My brother understood and I was reassured that it would not be the case and that he and his wife still wanted me to throw the shower and that they’d shut down MIL’s offer. The day came and even though her mother and sister were in attendance everything went well, besides a few comments. They even told me how nice the decorations were. I should have known if they paid me a compliment it wasn’t an honest one.
My brother called me a few months ago crying telling me he wanted a divorce from his wife. They were currently in court for a restraining order against his MIL and FIL for battery and for snatching the baby away from his wife. His wife decided she didn’t want to go through with the restraining order and wanted it dropped for her and their baby and it sent my brother into a spiral about his relationship. She threatened to sue him if he included the baby in his restraining order against her parents. As his sister and someone who cares about him, I told him the truth. I told him his wife was a selfish person who doesn’t care about his feelings or his daughter’s safety if she could betray him like this the week before the court date. I told him that she doesn’t love him, only the idea of having a husband and that she treats their newborn daughter like a doll rather than a person. If she cannot stand up for herself now, she never will. And that because she will not draw these boundaries with her family she cannot be trusted. My brother agreed and told me that he sees her as less of a person to do this to him and that the only reason he’s staying is because he’s afraid that they will turn his daughter against him. I reassured him that if he wanted to leave her and to move into my home that he could. Along with the standard advice of separating his money and bringing over any items that cant be replaced. During this phone call my brother agreed with me that she was “a selfish bitch” and informed me that his wife had her mother and sister do the decorations and her friend pass them off as her own for the party. I was absolutely pissed to find out this information about the shower as that was my only condition and I spent a good deal on this shower to make it nice for them (2k in total). I told him I was done with his wife( this is not the first shitty thing she’s done) regardless of if he stayed with her. I do not want her in my home, and I will not be going to theirs. He can call me or come over and see me anytime he likes. Because of how his MIL attempted to get CPS involved at the hospital with false allegations, I can no longer babysit their child. (I have a career that requires a license, and an open CPS case would mean I may not be able to renew)
He also told me that he wanted me to go to their final court date for the restraining order and immediately afterwards wanted to move his belongings out of their home and into my second bedroom, and that he “couldn’t wait to get a full nights rest and the f** away from this bitch” I was relieved he wanted to leave her as honestly I can’t take the crying phone calls and drama anymore.
The night before the court date I called my brother to get the information on which court room and to confirm the time. As I had a high stakes biopsy being performed in the Drs office that morning. During this phone call my brother told me that he no longer wanted me to come to his court date and that he wasn’t “blowing up his family for me” He told me he would let me know if he needed to move in and then hung up on me. I haven't heard from him in 2.5months.
I don’t want to lose my relationship with my brother as he’s my only surviving family, however it seems like I don’t have a say in that decision. Which honestly really hurts my feelings after everything I’ve done to help him in life. He calls me incessantly complaining about his wife, MIL& SIL but doesn’t seem to care much about what I have going on in my life (the biopsy). I also feel like he’s weaponizing the relationship between his niece and I, like he was afraid would happen to him if he left his wife. I feel like now that I have established boundaries of no longer watching the baby and I no longer want a relationship with his wife there’s nothing left to use me for. He called me crying that he wants to leave his wife and now somehow it seems I’m the asshole for supporting him and offering him a way out. Am I wrong?
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2023.06.02 00:31 hobbesboiler He (29M) told me he needs time to himself mentally after spending a vacation with me. I (26F) don’t know what this means

I spent a weekend on vacation with my boyfriend of 5 months. This is our first trip together, and I really enjoyed it. We spent 2.5 days together, and then we went to our separate apartments after driving back on Monday. Since then, I haven’t heard from him much at all (it’s now Thursday). I texted him something that he responded to, and then when I responded back he never opened the message (we have read receipts on). I was hoping that he would reach out today to hang out, but nothing. I wanted to find out if everything is okay since he always texts me either if he wants to hang out, or if he has other plans he’ll let me know and that’s totally fine. At least he will check in in the evening to find out how my day was. We live in the same town, so we usually hangout 3ish times a week. He’s never been so silent before. I texted him today asking if everything is okay, since we haven’t talked at all in the last few days. He texted me back and told me that everything was totally fine, just that he has been taking some time to himself mentally after the weekend we spent together. He followed that up with saying that he had a great time on our vacation and he will see me tomorrow, and that he loves me. I am left a little confused. Does spending time with me take up so much mental space for him that he has to have 3 whole days to himself? I understand what it feels like to need me time, and I need it too. But I feel like I don’t have to be “on” around him and so it feels like I’m not wasting mental energy when I’m with him and it kind of makes me sad that being with me takes up mental energy for him. I have brought up that when we are together we don’t have to do anything special, we can just coexist and do our own hobbies yet still be in the same room, which he said he would be down for. But it never seems to work out that way, which is fine but it’s just freaking me out that spending just a weekend with me makes him feel like he needs such a long break with minimal contact. And it begs the question, how are we ever going to live together in the future if he can’t spend long periods of time with me without getting mentally exhausted? I’m spiraling a little bit and need advice on whether this is just a fundamental incompatibility or whether we can make this work, and if anyone has ever been in the same situation. Thank you.
TLDR; My boyfriend needs 3 days of non-communication for time for himself mentally after spending a long weekend with me. I’m now spiraling wondering if this is normal or just a fundamental incompatibility. Any advice is appreciated.
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2023.06.02 00:31 Lapras_Lass I'm Quitting Prozac Cold Turkey

Hi, everyone. I'm coming here for support, advice, and any tips or info concerning my quitting Prozac.
The short version: I've been on generic fluoxetine for almost 10 years, up to 40 mg per day for the past six years or so. I did contact my doctor to get advice about quitting, and she suggested just going cold turkey. It's been one week since my last dose, and symptoms haven't really started yet. I also have a prescription for .25 mg alprazolam (Xanax) tablets that I take only intermittently for panic attacks, and I'm on birth control hormones to regulate my menstrual cycle.
The long, LONG version: Ten years ago, I was having frequent panic attacks, nightmares, flashbacks, and freakouts. I went to a mental health center hoping that I could talk to a therapist, but a doctor there just gave me a prescription for 10 mg Prozac. It helped for a few months, but when it stopped working, I saw another doctor who changed my prescription to another SSRI. I had a terrible reaction to it, so she switched me twice more with much the same results. She eventually put me back on Prozac, this time at 20 mg. After that, I switched doctors again, and she upped my dose to 40 mg. This is the same doctor I'm seeing now.
I never really felt as if the Prozac was doing anything, but I stayed on it because I was afraid of any possible withdrawal symptoms. I frequently forgot to take it, and would suffer wild mood swings (keeping in mind that when I forgot to take the Prozac, I was also forgetting my hormones). Over the past few years, though, several things have changed that have had me contemplating quitting.
First, I did see a therapist about five years ago. She helped me to sort through things that were causing me PTSD, and with the therapy program, the nightmares and flashbacks went away. She also diagnosed me with autism spectrum disorder. I learned that I am prone to stimulus overload and also suffer from misophonia, and my panic attacks have almost completely stopped through management of those issues. I finally feel as if we've really gotten to the root of my problems, and my life has been vastly improved by learning these things about myself.
Second, I began to suffer from intense insomnia starting a few years ago. Even though the nightmares ceased, it was like I just could not fall asleep no matter what I did. My doctor prescribed various sleep aids, none of which worked. Sleeping pills of various strengths and preparations, melatonin, valerian... I even got desperate enough to try NyQuil. They would all do the job of making me drowsy, but I still could not fall asleep, nor could I stay asleep for more than four hours at a time. I did notice, though, that whenever I would forget my medications, I would fall asleep and stay asleep much more easily. The last time I "went off" of my meds, I did have intense side effects, but I was able to sleep at night.
The insomnia exacerbated my feelings of fatigue, so most days I was on auto-pilot. I would sleep all day and stay up all night. My sex drive had been plummeting for a while, and I lost the ability to exercise. After having covid, I've been left with shaky hands and dizziness that occur intermittently. I also have IBS caused by anxiety, and that got worse, as well. I had trouble losing weight despite being on a strict diet and exercise program. I began to think that all of these things were connected after they all improved when I forgot my meds.
I asked my doctor about quitting, and she said that she had no objection. She advised that I most likely would not need to taper doses because of fluoxetine's long half-life and the fact that withdrawal symptoms often occur even with tapered doses.
It's been one week since my last dose of Prozac. I know that it's too early for withdrawal to kick in, but I am already experiencing dizzy spells and slight nausea. The insomnia, though, has stopped. I really do believe now that the Prozac was causing it. Because I'm still taking my hormone pills, my mood has remained stable, unlike the times when I forgot my meds. My sex drive has started to go back to normal, and my hands are steadier. I never even thought to connect the shaking hands to Prozac until they improved this week, though that may have nothing to do with anything.
As I mentioned, I have a prescription for Xanax that I take for major panic attacks. I don't take it often, but now and then it helps to calm me down when other methods aren't working. I'm wondering if it will be a viable option for easing withdrawal symptoms if and when they begin. My doctor said, "I don't see why not," but couldn't offer much more insight than that. Any ideas on taking Xanax or a similar medication for SSRI withdrawal?
I feel lucky to have the support system that I do. My husband and I live with my parents, and I have three people in the house to help me if symptoms get bad. I want to do this now, because my mom is most likely going to have knee replacement surgery soon, and she'll need my help to recover. I also help to take care of my dad, who is disabled (he's diabetic, had a stroke two years ago, and needs general help around the house), and I'd like to get this all over with so I can keep helping him. My husband is very proactive about helping my parents, but he works full time and I don't want to ask him to pitch in more than he already does (he keeps up with the yard and runs errands for the household).
I guess my major worry is that I'll be somehow unable to do my job, which is to cook and clean for everyone and help my dad around the house and with business. There are four adults living here, but I don't want to put more on them than I have to. They all know that I'm going off of Prozac, and I gave them the rundown of symptoms as given to me by my doctor.
I know I'll just have to wait and see how badly I'm affected, but I'm sort of hoping that someone can give me an idea of how debilitating withdrawal might be. Like, at its worst, what can I expect? Does anyone have experience with taking Xanax or a similar medication to help with SSRI withdrawal? Anyone else have any tips or advice or just a shared experience? If you made it through all of this, thank you for reading. I think posting this helped ease some of my anxiety already.
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2023.06.02 00:31 soontobemine i don't feel like a woman. Not in a trans way.

I've never felt like a woman. Especially when it comes to my height. I was predicted to be 155cm (5'1) At 13 I noticed that I'm still 4'9 (145cm) and I was really uncomfortable about the fact that I couldn't even reach 150cm (4'11). Because for me and for most of the people in the world the "adult women height" start at least at 150cm+ But I wasn't. Since I was 11 I was begging my parents to take me to a doctor to get hgh . But they had nothing to say except for "you know that we're short, you'll probably grow taller" As you can see i didn't. My boobs are flat, I'm still an A cup (I'm closer to B but still not B) At 14 FINALLY after nagging to my mom about me not growing at all they took me to an endocrinologist We talked with the doctor about my height It wasn't so much time ago but I remember it so well "I don't think you'll grow that much I'm sorry..." "How much do I have left? Do I at least have 2-3cm left?" (For all fairness 2-3 wasn't enough either but I was being realistic) Then I saw the doctor using a calculator I saw 1.46 on the calculator ( I was 1.45 at the moment) And I stopped talking out of shock and disappointment. I was waiting YEARS for an opportunity to grow at least a couple centimeters Only to find out I have only one left I started crying quietly "I see that you're really disappointed and I'm so sorry but there's nothing I can do" I switched to another language and asked my parents when are we going to leave My mom said that we still can't, but if I want to I can go out I stormed out of the room and I called the only friend I had at the moment which was my brother. We moved away (and again my mom didn't give a shit about the way it impacted me) and I Lost most of my friends. I started crying on the phone and I told him "I have only 1cm left" He couldn't really do anything he just said that he's sorry Then my parents got out of the room and I was furious. My mom KNEW that I wasn't growing And I begged her to get me checked And she remembered to do that only when I was 14 after almost 3 years Her way of "comforting" is even worse "You don't need to be taller you need to get a man who actually loves you and your height" No. I don't need male validation to love my height. I need my height to be in the Normal range so I wouldn't be embarrassed about it everytime I go outside It's like getting 89/100 on a test It's a good grade but it's not 90. Same with my height There isn't a big difference between 146 and 150 But 150 isn't that embarrassing as 146 I'll never forgive my mom for ignoring the fact that I literally came home crying everyday begging for her saying that I want to be at least 155 like I was supposed to be and instead of supporting me she was yelling at me saying there's nothing she Could do. Now y'all are probably wondering "how's that related to not feeling like a woman?" Here's how. When you can't even pass 150cm your height is usually associated with child height Which makes sense bc 146cm is an average height for a fkn 10 year old I'm still an A cup The only curve in my body is my huge thighs Which comes from my pear- door figure (literally a door just with ginormous and horrendous thighs. Bc my waist is compressed and even if it will be slim it will look wide) I'm built like a child I know I'm not an adult woman I'm just a teen but I look more like a preteen And my body won't change much anymore bc I got ny period when I was 11 Basically what I'm saying is that my proportions especially my height are too off to be considered normal for an adult woman I see all the girls around me wearing cool y2k flare jeans I can't. Why? Because if I'll sew them they won't be flare anymore. My height is putting me through hell and I'm praying to god everyday that I'll at least reach 150cm Knowing that the chances of it actually happening are really low. I would come to my cat's grave and ask him to send my request to god Whenever somebody would show any romantic interest in me, I would get uncomfortable even if I felt the same way I don't know how to explain this but I feel like I don't deserve to be treated like a teen girl/ adult woman (in the future) because of my off proportions, so I don't deserve romantic affection too , I deserve to be treated like a little girl. I tried to wear more feminine clothes, style my hair more often, wear makeup, nothing helped. Whenever somebody refers to me as "woman" instead of a girl I get so mad My mom said yesterday as joke "she's such a lazy woman" I came to her room and asked her (for the 5th time) not to call me a woman and she thinks it's not such a big deal so she just laughed and said "ok then notawoman please pick up the trash" I can't accept myself and the fact that I'm not a preteen anymore And all that is just because I can't reach 150CM Before the tall women of reddit come to attack me I never said that being a tall woman isn't a struggle I totally get it. I know what it's like to be sticking out in public because you're like 15cm+ shorter than all of your friends.
I'm sorry for my shitty grammar English isn't ny first language I don't think someone will actually read this but if you do Thank you. The only thing that does make me feel better that I ended up being 147cm and not 146 like the doctor said
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