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2023.06.07 20:22 Only_Membership1257 Need Advice - Incoming Freshman Trying to do Course Selection
Hi guys, I'm starting at UMich this fall and I have my first advising meeting (the one where you enroll in classes) in a few days. I was wondering if these classes were good enough for my first semester: Math156, Honours240, Econ101, Bio173.
I plan to major in Biology and minor in Econ (or Business). I wanted a lighter schedule to give myself adjustment time so I'm taking 14 credits and classes that don't run in the morning or evenings.
Specifically for the math course, I haven't received my IB score yet, but assuming I get a 7 in AA HL, is Math156 a good place for me to start (I'm pre-med but I like math enough to do a more rigorous course instead of an easier intro course)?
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I plan to major in Biology and minor in Econ (or Business). I wanted a lighter schedule to give myself adjustment time so I'm taking 14 credits and classes that don't run in the morning or evenings.
Specifically for the math course, I haven't received my IB score yet, but assuming I get a 7 in AA HL, is Math156 a good place for me to start (I'm pre-med but I like math enough to do a more rigorous course instead of an easier intro course)?
2023.06.07 20:18 dreamingofislay Talisker and Torabhaig Distillery Visits - Recap
 | Our freewheeling tour of Scotland, and Scottish distilleries, rolls on! Today, we didn't have any tour bookings but dropped in on Talisker and Torabhaig on our way out of Skye. Notes and impressions: submitted by dreamingofislay to Scotch [link] [comments] Talisker's brand-new visitor center is a looker
So how'd the whiskies taste? Talisker Distillery Exclusive - 95 pounds, very little information on aging or cask types, but who cares when it's good whisky. This one reminded me of Lagavulin 8, especially in its toasty finish. Great mix of rich, heavy notes with some citrus fruit and warm, dry peat. Talisker Wilder Seas - I love the story of this cognac-finished whisky, which came out within the last few weeks, more than the juice. This bottle stems from a partnership with an ocean conservation group, and 3 pounds from every bottle purchase goes to that charity. The bottle's made of recycled glass and is Talisker's most eco-friendly. It has a chemical/medicinal edge and a slight artificial fruit sweetness. Talisker 8 y.o. 2020 annual release - A rum-finished, youthful, cask-strength Talisker, and a fun dram! Scents of vegetal seaweed, much like you'll find right outside the distillery doorstep, but the palate is punchy and mixes sweet and a surprising spicy edge, which my wife described as jalapeno. Talisker 11 y.o. 2022 annual release - This dram didn't taste like Talisker to me. The peat is so faint, and the simple ex-bourbon finish somehow didn't highlight the distillery character, instead giving it a really middle-of-the-road, Highland-whisky style profile. Quite oaky and vanilla-laden. Strange dram. Not bad, just odd for a Talisker. Torabhaig Allt Gleann - Enjoyed this young starting point for this distillery a lot, although I wonder how it stands out from what else is on the shelf. It's a moderately peated whisky that features the common combination of sweet (vanilla, honey, citrus fruits) and peat (slightly maritime/coastal, vegetal, not as smoky). Reminds me a lot of Kilchoman, and closer to that profile than to Talisker. |
2023.06.07 20:18 Digwater Anybody else get into death spirals and it absolutely kills the game for them?
I’ve been playing on a world for a few months building a city in survival mode on normal difficulty (bedrock) and everything is going great. I got full netherite armor and two sets of each tool in netherite. I had to go farm some quarts and end up falling in lava and die and can’t find my stuff. Get really upset and stop playing for a few days. Eventually get full diamond armotools and a new set of wings and starting to feel good again. Than I’m AFK xp farming some guardians and come back to being dead. Lost everything again. So a farm again to get armor and tools back and than this morning with the new update I decided to go look for the new ruins. I spot a pillager outpost several thousand blocks away from my city and think “oh right armor trims are in those now” so I kill a few pillagers outside no problem head in and there are about 10 pillagers on the first floor. Okay this is bad so I run to the top floor and they are running super speed after me and I jump off the top floor and use a rocket and boom they got me. I respawn miles away no chance to get my diamond and netherite stuff back again. I just don’t know if I have it in me to continue. Make all new tools and armor again. I’ve been playing this game for 12 years and never gotten so frustrated with the game before. I just wanted to enjoy the new content and get slapped in the face for it.
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2023.06.07 20:18 Quantum-Connection Considering getting a dog in the fall, doing some breed research and open to any advice
Introduction
1) Will this be your first dog? If not, what experience do you have owning/training dogs?
7) How long do you want to devote to training, playing with, or otherwise interacting with your dog each day?
10) What size dog are you looking for?
13) Do you want a snuggly dog or one that prefers some personal space?
18) How often and how long will the dog be left alone?
25) Please provide any additional information you feel may be relevant.
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1) Will this be your first dog? If not, what experience do you have owning/training dogs?
- I grew up with dogs and I'm comfortable around them, but it would be my first time having one of my own.
- My first instinct is to go through a breeder as I'd like to get something specific and want to train it from a puppy. I would definitely consider adoption though.
- On the larger side, I had a German shepherd, and a GSD/lab mix growing up. In terms of temperament, a dog that is good around new people and other dogs just so being at the park isn't stressful. A gentle and playful breed would be ideal. I can give it walks and fetch and stuff daily, but probably shouldn't need constant mental stimulation, some is fine. I'd like to take it for hikes as well. Something that can be a bit protective would be nice, but not make or break. In terms of deal breakers I think excessive drooling would annoy me, also constant barking would be an issue. Other than that I would like if it wasn't a constant heavy shedder, but I think I can deal with that for the right dog.
- I really like the look of Greater Swiss Mountain Dogs, though that might be too expensive and big for me, they seem like gentle giants, and a great for petting, I like GSDs as they just seem like great all around dogs with great friendly personalities, labs are also appealing, and golden retrievers, though with the later 3 I would like to get an idea of if I can keep it so absolutely everything I own isn't covered in fur all the time.
- Basic obedience. I want it to be good on a leash, be able to be off a leash in an appropriately enclosed place. I don't really need it to do tricks or jobs, behavior is the biggest thing. I'd like it not to jump on people unless play is happening.
- Nope
7) How long do you want to devote to training, playing with, or otherwise interacting with your dog each day?
- I work from home, and I'm fairly introverted. I go to church on Sunday, get together with friends in the evenings maybe a couple times a week for a few hours. Other than that I'm home. I don't travel that much, a few work trips a year of a couple days and maybe a vacation. So plenty of time to devote to this stuff.
- A short walk in the morning, a longer walk at night, probably at least 1 mid day. I feel like I can put at least an hour a day into it. I have places to play fetch and stuff too.
- I don't think weekly or twice weekly even would bug me for brushing. I can afford to get it groomed though I would prefer if that was only occasional like 4 times a year maybe.
10) What size dog are you looking for?
- 60lbs+ and less than 120lbs I think.
- Slobber I rather that be minimal, shedding I'm on the fence, less is better, but I need to get an idea of how well I can keep things clean with a heavy shedder. I can probably handle it.
- Pretty important, I'd like to have that option.
13) Do you want a snuggly dog or one that prefers some personal space?
- I think a good mix of the two if that is a thing. Lounging on the couch or bed is good, but also doesn't need to be constant.
- Probably more eager to please.
- Yes, I think friendly is good, if the dog is a big weary that't fine.
- I'd prefer not to, I definitely don't want to have to stop my dog from possibly jumping another dog.
- A lot of aggression especially towards people, and excessive barking that can't be dealt with training wise. I do have a big space, but I live in an apartment building and can't have it barking all day every day.
18) How often and how long will the dog be left alone?
- Not often, and probably never more than 4 hours. Maybe 2 or 3 times a week. If I need to be gone for more than a day I would likely take him/her to my parents who have a GSD and could take care of him/her.
- Currently live alone.
- No plans for other pets. I do date, so it is theoretically possible I will get with someone with an animal, but it would likely be another dog.
- Maybe occasionally, but not daily or weekly. Some of my friends have kids so once in a while probably.
- No current restrictions. I do currently rent.
- Virginia, I don't know of breed bans.
- Summer it is usually 80s and 90s here, I do keep the apartment in the 60s. Winter can get down to the 20s, but 40s is more normal.
25) Please provide any additional information you feel may be relevant.
- I'm not really a fan of dogs with super long hair, and prefer the fur length of a GSD or shorter.
2023.06.07 20:14 Old-Joke-8242 She can’t stop ….
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2023.06.07 20:14 GanapNaEmpleyado I felt sad on my birthday last week
Felt bad lang for myself kasi pag birthday ng ibang churchmate ko kasama ako sa pag-surpise. Gumagawa pa kami ng bagong gc to plan. Part pala ako ng ministry sa church and 15 kami sa GC. We're all close to each other (I think)
In our fb group, we usually post about the birthdays of those who have their special day a week before and on the day itself, so everyone will know who has a birthday.
Early morning pa lang everyone in the group chat will greet the birthday celebrant/s na.
Pero nung ako na may birthday, biglang tahimk na lang sa gc.
May isa akong ka-birthday, sya unang binati sa GC. Night before our birthday, may nag-greet na sa kanya. So medyo awkward for me kaya hindi ako nagsi-seen.
Then kinabukasan, nag-greet na ulit sila, pero sa kanya lang. It was already 6pm when I received greetings, and only 3 friends greeted me, while the rest just heart reacted the birthday greetings for me.
They even gave her a cake last Sunday, baked by one of our friend. Sakin wala, kasi if meron, pwede naman nila ipadala yun sa mom ko na nandun. Good thing I didn't physically attend church that day and just joined the online service.
I am always the person to tell my friends happy birthday at midnight and I would always write them a long, heartfelt message saying how much of a good friend they are etc. I'm also very active in planning the surprises for them because I genuinely appreciate all of them.
I thought they would appreciate me too. I'm not expecting any gifts, cake, or surprises naman. Just knowing that they remembered me on my birthday would make me feel kilig.
Wala lang, I just felt sorry for myself. I know I shouldn't be feeling this way, but it hurts. :(
Wasn't able to celebrate din my birthday last week dahil busy sa shelter, so I guess I should celebrate it on Friday and move on. Hindi ko na dapat sineseryoso to. It's such a little thing. It's MY birthday, anyway, and for everyone else it's just a day.
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In our fb group, we usually post about the birthdays of those who have their special day a week before and on the day itself, so everyone will know who has a birthday.
Early morning pa lang everyone in the group chat will greet the birthday celebrant/s na.
Pero nung ako na may birthday, biglang tahimk na lang sa gc.
May isa akong ka-birthday, sya unang binati sa GC. Night before our birthday, may nag-greet na sa kanya. So medyo awkward for me kaya hindi ako nagsi-seen.
Then kinabukasan, nag-greet na ulit sila, pero sa kanya lang. It was already 6pm when I received greetings, and only 3 friends greeted me, while the rest just heart reacted the birthday greetings for me.
They even gave her a cake last Sunday, baked by one of our friend. Sakin wala, kasi if meron, pwede naman nila ipadala yun sa mom ko na nandun. Good thing I didn't physically attend church that day and just joined the online service.
I am always the person to tell my friends happy birthday at midnight and I would always write them a long, heartfelt message saying how much of a good friend they are etc. I'm also very active in planning the surprises for them because I genuinely appreciate all of them.
I thought they would appreciate me too. I'm not expecting any gifts, cake, or surprises naman. Just knowing that they remembered me on my birthday would make me feel kilig.
Wala lang, I just felt sorry for myself. I know I shouldn't be feeling this way, but it hurts. :(
Wasn't able to celebrate din my birthday last week dahil busy sa shelter, so I guess I should celebrate it on Friday and move on. Hindi ko na dapat sineseryoso to. It's such a little thing. It's MY birthday, anyway, and for everyone else it's just a day.
2023.06.07 20:13 Three_Purple_Scarabs Set, the god of violent and abrupt change (+ update)
I lost my shit this week, no two ways about it. From a simple morning I was stoked to flaming rage at the corporate slave system that constantly chews us up and spits it out. It's interesting to me how, in my case, any suppression of True Will eventually explodes outward into grand and immediate change, as has sometimes even been seen quite publicly.
You see, I have a cognitive dissonance that's been going unaddressed. I talk the big talk about following your Will, being true to yourself, not sacrificing your time and energy to some useless mundane cause, doing whatever it takes to be your true self. And then I... drag myself out of bed 5 times a week to spend my day working a bullshit job of no objective value. For all my talk even I can succumb to wanting to be a good little cog in the machine, hoping the master will recognize my work and throw me some extra table scraps. Slowly the hatred and discontent just builds and builds until it explodes outward and you have no choice but to face it.
I'm quitting my career in finance, sacrificing both the social status I've achieved and, for now, the fantastical magic paper that determines how well one can live their life. I'm going back to school, always wanted to become a professor and I won't spend another second in this stupid world slaved to any will but my own. Wife and I are well aware we'll have to make sacrifices, probably move home for a bit, but these are so low cost compared to what some must go through to live their will. It almost feels sinful when doing mine is possible and I don't do it, especially in a totalitarian world where many wills are punished by death or worse.
For Wandering in Darkness this can only be good. I can finally fully commit to this path I've chosen and sought. My goals remain exactly the same as they've always been, I'm simply doing more to achieve them.
The Final Edition of Wandering in Darkness is in draft 4. There's no way it'll be finished by summer solstice like I wanted, but that's good. I've honestly never spent so much meticulous time on a project like this, I'm really hoping it shows in the content and quality. Winter solstice might be the goal, but at this point I'm hesitant to set one. Could be sooner, could be later, but it will be worth it most importantly.
Podcast is next, even if I have to do it alone.
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You see, I have a cognitive dissonance that's been going unaddressed. I talk the big talk about following your Will, being true to yourself, not sacrificing your time and energy to some useless mundane cause, doing whatever it takes to be your true self. And then I... drag myself out of bed 5 times a week to spend my day working a bullshit job of no objective value. For all my talk even I can succumb to wanting to be a good little cog in the machine, hoping the master will recognize my work and throw me some extra table scraps. Slowly the hatred and discontent just builds and builds until it explodes outward and you have no choice but to face it.
I'm quitting my career in finance, sacrificing both the social status I've achieved and, for now, the fantastical magic paper that determines how well one can live their life. I'm going back to school, always wanted to become a professor and I won't spend another second in this stupid world slaved to any will but my own. Wife and I are well aware we'll have to make sacrifices, probably move home for a bit, but these are so low cost compared to what some must go through to live their will. It almost feels sinful when doing mine is possible and I don't do it, especially in a totalitarian world where many wills are punished by death or worse.
For Wandering in Darkness this can only be good. I can finally fully commit to this path I've chosen and sought. My goals remain exactly the same as they've always been, I'm simply doing more to achieve them.
The Final Edition of Wandering in Darkness is in draft 4. There's no way it'll be finished by summer solstice like I wanted, but that's good. I've honestly never spent so much meticulous time on a project like this, I'm really hoping it shows in the content and quality. Winter solstice might be the goal, but at this point I'm hesitant to set one. Could be sooner, could be later, but it will be worth it most importantly.
Podcast is next, even if I have to do it alone.
2023.06.07 20:13 No_Mathematician7298 Help
Last night I took some ibuprofen and didn't eat or drink anything with it and shortly went to bed and this morning I wake up feeling sick and nauseous and now I'm having liquid explosive diarrhea, earlier I pooped and it was hard to pass balls idk what to do I can't get a good photo of the poop right now but it's completely liquid with some mushy long poop in there that's how I can describe it but please help
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2023.06.07 20:12 jscn_ I (F34) didn't end it at the first red flag from bf (M37) and now I feel like it's too late
TL;DR if my bf is gaslighting me to stay with him, how do I break it off?
I’m pretty sure I posted about the first big issue my bf (M37) and I (F34) had back in April in Las Vegas. But I gave him a second chance because I was honestly unsure how to end the relationship.
I’m kicking myself now because things have gotten worse (imo).
I’m sorry this is so long, I felt like backstory was needed. Also we’ve only been dating for 4ish months.
The bf was back home visiting family for a week and when he came back, he had to immediately go back to work. He sometimes works nights and if I don’t have my kids that week, I have invited him to stay at my house and sleep so I can at least see him in the morning before he goes to work. He was on nights after his trip so he showed up to my house on Thursday AM with coffee for me and I left after giving him a hug and kiss so I could make it to work on time. He then made a comment that he’s surprised I wasn’t waiting for him, naked, so we could have sex before I had to leave. I explained to him before and after he came over that I am busy at work and didn’t have the time.
That same day, I had a zoom call with some friends to watch the VPR reunion (lol I know) and he kept calling me during it. I told him I was in the middle of a video call and I would call him back (I didn’t have time to explain because I was on the zoom from my phone). I didn’t think this would be a big deal because he was at work anyway. Well, he called me 6 more times until I hopped off the zoom to talk to him. He was livid that I didn’t explain to him everything I was doing that night. I told him I didn’t think it was something important enough to share beforehand, but I was going to tell him about it after it was over. He wasn’t happy. Then after the zoom (about an hour), he called and said he forgot his lunch, could I bring him something? He works 45 min out of town so this was a big ask. I didn’t have anything else going on and an audiobook I like, so I agreed. The rest of the night was fine and he was appreciative.
Friday morning was the same as Thursday. He brought me coffee and I zoomed off to work after a hug and kiss. He didn’t have to work that night so I knew we would be spending time together.
I had a hard day at work Friday, and I was on my period, so he promised he would make me dinner or order us something. I got home (to my house) and he was sitting around drinking beers. I got changed into comfy clothes and sat with him on the couch, kinda just waiting to see what dinner would be. Well, it was all of a sudden 10pm and no dinner to be had, so I got up and ate some salami and crackers and went to get ready for bed. He asked why I was upset and I explained my frustrations, which he apologized for and we went to bed.
Saturday was amazing! We spent the day together and took a little road trip. No complaints. He did ask me about someone, let’s call them Bob, and who it was? I replied, oh the guy I dated after my divorce, why? He said that I’ve been saying Bob’s name in my sleep which is wild because I never dream about him. He was acting weird but got over it and we went along with our day.
Sunday rolls around and I shoo him out of my house so my mom and I can spend time together, she helped me build my new bed and clean up my house a bit. My bf was hesitant to leave and kept asking why I wanted him to go so bad. I haven’t introduced him to my parents yet and didn’t want the first time to be after he had slept over.
When he got back, he started pounding beers and was acting weird. My (male) cousin called to chat and the bf got very irritated and told me I shouldn’t be talking to other guys, even my cousin. I was super defensive like wtf bro. I decided it was time for bed. Something snapped in the bf while I was getting ready and he asked me about Bob again. And then, he goes to my drawers of my nightstand and pulls out a letter I had written Bob but never sent. Started screaming about the date on the letter (it was right before bf and I became exclusive) and asked what other guys I was talking to. I EXPLODED at him for going through my drawers when I was at work and he was a guest in my home sleeping. I was screaming at him to get the fuck out of my house (I’ve never screamed at anyone in my life like this) and he wouldn’t go. I locked myself in one of my kids rooms (they were with their dad still) and he was banging on the door yelling at me about cheating on him (I never have or would). I got my stuff and sat on the couch. He then proceeded to drink a half bottle of vodka straight out of the bottle and got extremely wasted. He was screaming at me that no one loves or cares for him and he might as well unalive himself. This is where I started to internally freak out because he has pewpews and I don’t trust him at all. I spent all night on the couch, not sleeping, and he finally passed out at 2am in my new bed, continuing to call me a “fucking slut who can fuck whoever she fucking wants” until he just fell asleep. In the morning, he had no recollection of any of it and was apologetic to a point. He continued to blame me for not telling him about my previous bf and I apologized that I hurt his feelings but I didn’t feel like I did anything wrong, I wasn’t ready to share that part of my past yet. I told him I don’t trust him anymore, especially after letting him have free range of MY home and broke any trust by going through my belongings. It felt malicious because it was malicious, he was trying to prove something.
Anyway, he is gaslighting me like crazy now and telling me to “not give up on us. I only went through your stuff because you were acting weird. I’m going to work on myself and be better for you”. I keep trying to end it but I am such a people pleaser I am having a hard time. I thought I might want to work on it, but the more I think about it, I don’t want this guy to meet my kids or be around them. Even if he stops drinking and goes to therapy, that doesn’t mean I trust that he won’t do that in front of my 9&7 year old boys. I couldn’t even fathom that and want to just nip it in the bud now. But then the gaslighting hits and I’m like “I don’t want to be a quitter. He was so good before all this. I’m never going to find someone who loves me” etc. how do I get through this gaslighting??
Also, I was going to discuss this with my therapist today but of course my appt was cancelled due to childcare issues lol dang it
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I’m pretty sure I posted about the first big issue my bf (M37) and I (F34) had back in April in Las Vegas. But I gave him a second chance because I was honestly unsure how to end the relationship.
I’m kicking myself now because things have gotten worse (imo).
I’m sorry this is so long, I felt like backstory was needed. Also we’ve only been dating for 4ish months.
The bf was back home visiting family for a week and when he came back, he had to immediately go back to work. He sometimes works nights and if I don’t have my kids that week, I have invited him to stay at my house and sleep so I can at least see him in the morning before he goes to work. He was on nights after his trip so he showed up to my house on Thursday AM with coffee for me and I left after giving him a hug and kiss so I could make it to work on time. He then made a comment that he’s surprised I wasn’t waiting for him, naked, so we could have sex before I had to leave. I explained to him before and after he came over that I am busy at work and didn’t have the time.
That same day, I had a zoom call with some friends to watch the VPR reunion (lol I know) and he kept calling me during it. I told him I was in the middle of a video call and I would call him back (I didn’t have time to explain because I was on the zoom from my phone). I didn’t think this would be a big deal because he was at work anyway. Well, he called me 6 more times until I hopped off the zoom to talk to him. He was livid that I didn’t explain to him everything I was doing that night. I told him I didn’t think it was something important enough to share beforehand, but I was going to tell him about it after it was over. He wasn’t happy. Then after the zoom (about an hour), he called and said he forgot his lunch, could I bring him something? He works 45 min out of town so this was a big ask. I didn’t have anything else going on and an audiobook I like, so I agreed. The rest of the night was fine and he was appreciative.
Friday morning was the same as Thursday. He brought me coffee and I zoomed off to work after a hug and kiss. He didn’t have to work that night so I knew we would be spending time together.
I had a hard day at work Friday, and I was on my period, so he promised he would make me dinner or order us something. I got home (to my house) and he was sitting around drinking beers. I got changed into comfy clothes and sat with him on the couch, kinda just waiting to see what dinner would be. Well, it was all of a sudden 10pm and no dinner to be had, so I got up and ate some salami and crackers and went to get ready for bed. He asked why I was upset and I explained my frustrations, which he apologized for and we went to bed.
Saturday was amazing! We spent the day together and took a little road trip. No complaints. He did ask me about someone, let’s call them Bob, and who it was? I replied, oh the guy I dated after my divorce, why? He said that I’ve been saying Bob’s name in my sleep which is wild because I never dream about him. He was acting weird but got over it and we went along with our day.
Sunday rolls around and I shoo him out of my house so my mom and I can spend time together, she helped me build my new bed and clean up my house a bit. My bf was hesitant to leave and kept asking why I wanted him to go so bad. I haven’t introduced him to my parents yet and didn’t want the first time to be after he had slept over.
When he got back, he started pounding beers and was acting weird. My (male) cousin called to chat and the bf got very irritated and told me I shouldn’t be talking to other guys, even my cousin. I was super defensive like wtf bro. I decided it was time for bed. Something snapped in the bf while I was getting ready and he asked me about Bob again. And then, he goes to my drawers of my nightstand and pulls out a letter I had written Bob but never sent. Started screaming about the date on the letter (it was right before bf and I became exclusive) and asked what other guys I was talking to. I EXPLODED at him for going through my drawers when I was at work and he was a guest in my home sleeping. I was screaming at him to get the fuck out of my house (I’ve never screamed at anyone in my life like this) and he wouldn’t go. I locked myself in one of my kids rooms (they were with their dad still) and he was banging on the door yelling at me about cheating on him (I never have or would). I got my stuff and sat on the couch. He then proceeded to drink a half bottle of vodka straight out of the bottle and got extremely wasted. He was screaming at me that no one loves or cares for him and he might as well unalive himself. This is where I started to internally freak out because he has pewpews and I don’t trust him at all. I spent all night on the couch, not sleeping, and he finally passed out at 2am in my new bed, continuing to call me a “fucking slut who can fuck whoever she fucking wants” until he just fell asleep. In the morning, he had no recollection of any of it and was apologetic to a point. He continued to blame me for not telling him about my previous bf and I apologized that I hurt his feelings but I didn’t feel like I did anything wrong, I wasn’t ready to share that part of my past yet. I told him I don’t trust him anymore, especially after letting him have free range of MY home and broke any trust by going through my belongings. It felt malicious because it was malicious, he was trying to prove something.
Anyway, he is gaslighting me like crazy now and telling me to “not give up on us. I only went through your stuff because you were acting weird. I’m going to work on myself and be better for you”. I keep trying to end it but I am such a people pleaser I am having a hard time. I thought I might want to work on it, but the more I think about it, I don’t want this guy to meet my kids or be around them. Even if he stops drinking and goes to therapy, that doesn’t mean I trust that he won’t do that in front of my 9&7 year old boys. I couldn’t even fathom that and want to just nip it in the bud now. But then the gaslighting hits and I’m like “I don’t want to be a quitter. He was so good before all this. I’m never going to find someone who loves me” etc. how do I get through this gaslighting??
Also, I was going to discuss this with my therapist today but of course my appt was cancelled due to childcare issues lol dang it
2023.06.07 20:10 sakaforbukayo Have several questions about post-match recovery.
1) Do I need to have a recovery session right after the individual training/match or can I have it in the night as well (provided I have training/matches in the morning) ?
2) Is cycling important? If yes, then for how many minutes? If not, then any alternatives?
3) What is a good post recovery shake that replicates a protein shake (Don’t really have the money for protein powder so yeah) ?
4) Any other tips that would help me in maximising recovery as soon as possible?
Thanks in advance for all the replies.
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2) Is cycling important? If yes, then for how many minutes? If not, then any alternatives?
3) What is a good post recovery shake that replicates a protein shake (Don’t really have the money for protein powder so yeah) ?
4) Any other tips that would help me in maximising recovery as soon as possible?
Thanks in advance for all the replies.
2023.06.07 20:10 subtlebulk Burned off another 5 lbs, so I’m celebrating 60 lbs burned off with just 30 lbs to go! 🎉
So excited to share this, it seems like progress has taken much longer recently, but I finally hit 205 this morning! I had been in a plateau before due to food/drinks at social events, but I knew that keeping up with counting calories and eating for 2 lbs a week of loss would pay off. I don’t have many people to celebrate weight loss goals with, so I try to post here when I reach a milestone for the good vibes lol Wish all of you all the best in reaching your goals as well!
Method of weight loss: The Mediterranean Diet, along with CICO. The meals keep me feeling full for long time, which I assume is the olive oil and fiber from the veggies.
Stats: 34m, 6’5”, SW: 265, GW: 175 lbs, CW: 205 lbs
Progress photos, before is last summer and after is this morning: progress pics
Edit: it’s only showing the first photo from the album, not sure how to make it scrollable like I’ve seen in other posts
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Method of weight loss: The Mediterranean Diet, along with CICO. The meals keep me feeling full for long time, which I assume is the olive oil and fiber from the veggies.
Stats: 34m, 6’5”, SW: 265, GW: 175 lbs, CW: 205 lbs
Progress photos, before is last summer and after is this morning: progress pics
Edit: it’s only showing the first photo from the album, not sure how to make it scrollable like I’ve seen in other posts
2023.06.07 20:10 notnotinterested Do I want inlaws to babysit 6mo old every week while they live 1h away?
Hi all, I'm a FTM and currently 27 weeks pregnant. We've been looking at our options on how to combine work and a baby later on, and are hoping for MIL to babysit one day a week (my mom takes another day, I take 2, husband takes 1). This way we could avoid the super expensive option of daycare.
We we're always thinking/assuming she was going to come to our place one day a week while my husband would work from home, to watch the baby and help out.
Since inlaws live about an hour away, she wasn't sure she'd be up for such a weekly commitment. Understandably so, although we were a little disappointed since we were really excited for her be able to spend time with the baby as well.
Tonight she proposed we bring the baby to her instead. Since this won't be possible to do on the morning of, before work starts, we'd have to bring him every Sunday night and pick him up Monday after work.
I totally get that the effort of driving the distance should be on our part, and we're willing to do that, but I don't know how I feel about missing my baby for a night + day, every week, with over an hour distance in between..
I'm lucky enough to get maternity leave until March (due beginning of Sept), so he'd be about 6 months before this arrangement takes effect.
My husband is talking about all the perks such as baby bonding with grandparents, weekly date nights for us and saving money on daycare. But I can't help but feeling I'd miss my baby a lot and have anxiety over how far away he would be and it being every week..
How should I feel about this? Is this a good deal?
Don't get me wrong, I'm so grateful she wants to help out in the first place, it just never crossed my mind to have my baby be gone like that every week.
Any advice is welcome!
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We we're always thinking/assuming she was going to come to our place one day a week while my husband would work from home, to watch the baby and help out.
Since inlaws live about an hour away, she wasn't sure she'd be up for such a weekly commitment. Understandably so, although we were a little disappointed since we were really excited for her be able to spend time with the baby as well.
Tonight she proposed we bring the baby to her instead. Since this won't be possible to do on the morning of, before work starts, we'd have to bring him every Sunday night and pick him up Monday after work.
I totally get that the effort of driving the distance should be on our part, and we're willing to do that, but I don't know how I feel about missing my baby for a night + day, every week, with over an hour distance in between..
I'm lucky enough to get maternity leave until March (due beginning of Sept), so he'd be about 6 months before this arrangement takes effect.
My husband is talking about all the perks such as baby bonding with grandparents, weekly date nights for us and saving money on daycare. But I can't help but feeling I'd miss my baby a lot and have anxiety over how far away he would be and it being every week..
How should I feel about this? Is this a good deal?
Don't get me wrong, I'm so grateful she wants to help out in the first place, it just never crossed my mind to have my baby be gone like that every week.
Any advice is welcome!
2023.06.07 20:10 VenusAsAFemboy 25 [T4M] #DFW, TX — T-girl looking for LTR(or Exclusive FWB Situation) with Older Man
If you aren’t completely single, please do not contact me! 😁
I’m a tall, tan-skinned Trans Girl looking for a potential long-term relationship with a tall, strong, kind, and caring older gentleman that wants the same. I want to settle down and get to the fun part of life with someone who is ready to do that with me. The pandemic pushed me to relocate back to Texas to be closer to family after being gone at school for a few years, so the last time I was here was when I was a teenager. I’d love for someone to show me around to see the fun areas of DFW now that I’m grown. Tell me your favorite thing to do!
As for what kind of relationship I want, I like a modern twist on a traditional relationship. I’m ready to devote myself to supporting a man as he supports me. I feel like we, as humans, should be able to explore the world together and still have our own unique experiences. I’m a homebody, and love to be comfortable in a clean home where I can enjoy my partner, my hobbies and my TV. I love to cook and bake as well, so expect some good food at home when I’m around.
There’s so much more I could say about myself on here, but I’m gonna keep it short and sweet. If you’d like to know anything else, ask away in my DM’s. If you read the whole thing, send me a peach emoji (🍑) to let me know! Thanks! 🩷
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I’m a tall, tan-skinned Trans Girl looking for a potential long-term relationship with a tall, strong, kind, and caring older gentleman that wants the same. I want to settle down and get to the fun part of life with someone who is ready to do that with me. The pandemic pushed me to relocate back to Texas to be closer to family after being gone at school for a few years, so the last time I was here was when I was a teenager. I’d love for someone to show me around to see the fun areas of DFW now that I’m grown. Tell me your favorite thing to do!
As for what kind of relationship I want, I like a modern twist on a traditional relationship. I’m ready to devote myself to supporting a man as he supports me. I feel like we, as humans, should be able to explore the world together and still have our own unique experiences. I’m a homebody, and love to be comfortable in a clean home where I can enjoy my partner, my hobbies and my TV. I love to cook and bake as well, so expect some good food at home when I’m around.
There’s so much more I could say about myself on here, but I’m gonna keep it short and sweet. If you’d like to know anything else, ask away in my DM’s. If you read the whole thing, send me a peach emoji (🍑) to let me know! Thanks! 🩷
2023.06.07 20:08 VenusAsAFemboy 25 [T4M] #DFW, TX — T-girl looking for LTR(or Exclusive FWB Situation) with Older Man
If you aren’t completely single, please do not contact me! 😁
I’m a tall, tan-skinned Trans Girl looking for a potential long-term relationship with a tall, strong, kind, and caring older gentleman that wants the same. I want to settle down and get to the fun part of life with someone who is ready to do that with me. The pandemic pushed me to relocate back to Texas to be closer to family after being gone at school for a few years, so the last time I was here was when I was a teenager. I’d love for someone to show me around to see the fun areas of DFW now that I’m grown. Tell me your favorite thing to do!
As for what kind of relationship I want, I like a modern twist on a traditional relationship. I’m ready to devote myself to supporting a man as he supports me. I feel like we, as humans, should be able to explore the world together and still have our own unique experiences. I’m a homebody, and love to be comfortable in a clean home where I can enjoy my partner, my hobbies and my TV. I love to cook and bake as well, so expect some good food at home when I’m around.
There’s so much more I could say about myself on here, but I’m gonna keep it short and sweet. If you’d like to know anything else, ask away in my DM’s. If you read the whole thing, send me a peach emoji (🍑) to let me know! Thanks! 🩷
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I’m a tall, tan-skinned Trans Girl looking for a potential long-term relationship with a tall, strong, kind, and caring older gentleman that wants the same. I want to settle down and get to the fun part of life with someone who is ready to do that with me. The pandemic pushed me to relocate back to Texas to be closer to family after being gone at school for a few years, so the last time I was here was when I was a teenager. I’d love for someone to show me around to see the fun areas of DFW now that I’m grown. Tell me your favorite thing to do!
As for what kind of relationship I want, I like a modern twist on a traditional relationship. I’m ready to devote myself to supporting a man as he supports me. I feel like we, as humans, should be able to explore the world together and still have our own unique experiences. I’m a homebody, and love to be comfortable in a clean home where I can enjoy my partner, my hobbies and my TV. I love to cook and bake as well, so expect some good food at home when I’m around.
There’s so much more I could say about myself on here, but I’m gonna keep it short and sweet. If you’d like to know anything else, ask away in my DM’s. If you read the whole thing, send me a peach emoji (🍑) to let me know! Thanks! 🩷
2023.06.07 20:08 wrightscoins [WTS] Graded ASE's, 90% @$21.5, 40% @ 7X, ATBs
Good morning and thanks for looking. Shipping is $5 for 12 oz and under in a padded bubble mailer. Tracking is included, insurance available at USPS rates. $10 for over 12 oz by USPS sfrb or large flat rate padded envelope. I tried to beat the lowest online prices I could find; some are at bid others between wholesale bid and ask. Feel free to make respectful offers on quantities.
90%**90% Whale Option $10,765 shipped*\* Insurance available at cost. Tubes available with Priority shipping.
Roosevelt Dimes 48.80 @ 21.50 X
Washington Quarters 39.00 @ 21.50 X
Mercury Dimes 45.30 @ 22.50 X
Walking Liberty Halves 92.00 @ 22.50 X
Franklin Halves 70.00 @ 22.50 X
1964 Kennedys 85.00 @ 22.00 X
1964 BU Rolls Kennedys 11 rolls @ 23.25 X
40%
Kennedys 83.50 7.00 X face
ASEs
2011 25th anniversary 5-coin set $525 ea 2 available
2012 S US Mint 75th Anniversary 2-coin Set PR70 John Mercanti Signed $440
(free first-class shipping with 5 or ASEs more, free priority with 10 or more ASEs-)
1986-S NGC Mercanti signed PR69 UCAM $85
1986-S PCGS PR69 DCAM $85
1986 PCGS "Gem Uncirculated" Mercanti Signed $74
1994, 1995, 1996 PCGS "Gem Uncirculated" Mercanti Signed $180
1987-1992, 1995 P, 1996 P, 1998 P-2004W PCGS PR69 DCAM $73 each
1993 P Very light spotting, picture accentuates it but it is there PCGS PR69 DCAM $75
1994 P PCGS PR69 DCAM $85
1997 P PCGS PR69 DCAM $82
2013 W PCGS MS70 Blue Label $45 ea 19 available
2013 W PCGS MS69 Blue Label $38
15 "Gem Uncirculated" ASEs PCGS Mercanti Hand Signed $660 for all -Dates Below-
1988-1993, 1997-2002, 2008-2010
ATBs
2012 Hawaiian Volcanoes NP MS69 DMPL $340
2019 P Memorial Park SP70 $185
2013 New Hampshire White Mountains $175
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90%**90% Whale Option $10,765 shipped*\* Insurance available at cost. Tubes available with Priority shipping.
Roosevelt Dimes 48.80 @ 21.50 X
Washington Quarters 39.00 @ 21.50 X
Mercury Dimes 45.30 @ 22.50 X
Walking Liberty Halves 92.00 @ 22.50 X
Franklin Halves 70.00 @ 22.50 X
1964 Kennedys 85.00 @ 22.00 X
1964 BU Rolls Kennedys 11 rolls @ 23.25 X
40%
Kennedys 83.50 7.00 X face
ASEs
2011 25th anniversary 5-coin set $525 ea 2 available
2012 S US Mint 75th Anniversary 2-coin Set PR70 John Mercanti Signed $440
(free first-class shipping with 5 or ASEs more, free priority with 10 or more ASEs-)
1986-S NGC Mercanti signed PR69 UCAM $85
1986-S PCGS PR69 DCAM $85
1986 PCGS "Gem Uncirculated" Mercanti Signed $74
1994, 1995, 1996 PCGS "Gem Uncirculated" Mercanti Signed $180
1987-1992, 1995 P, 1996 P, 1998 P-2004W PCGS PR69 DCAM $73 each
1993 P Very light spotting, picture accentuates it but it is there PCGS PR69 DCAM $75
1994 P PCGS PR69 DCAM $85
1997 P PCGS PR69 DCAM $82
2013 W PCGS MS70 Blue Label $45 ea 19 available
2013 W PCGS MS69 Blue Label $38
15 "Gem Uncirculated" ASEs PCGS Mercanti Hand Signed $660 for all -Dates Below-
1988-1993, 1997-2002, 2008-2010
ATBs
2012 Hawaiian Volcanoes NP MS69 DMPL $340
2019 P Memorial Park SP70 $185
2013 New Hampshire White Mountains $175
2023.06.07 20:03 Massive-Painting5187 Good morning! 🍪 C4C
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2023.06.07 20:00 fatbootycelinedion Walked out of a job after working 3 days on new terms
I’m a 32 yo woman who went to community college for an Associate of Applied Business in Interior Design. It taught us hand drafting, CAD, Revit, Adobe, and a lot more. Part of the program requires an internship or job. I saw a job that sounded vague and I felt under qualified for. It was in commercial foodservice space planning. After some convincing I spoke with the employer and was always strung along somehow. Mind you, I work in the service industry so I felt that it was a good opportunity to learn design I had already worked in. The “job” was presented to me as a favor because I had no experience. $15 an hour part time.
The role had a lot of red flags overall. The only employee seemed disgruntled and had his notice in. No one else worked there besides the owner. Big issue was he was a consultant and not an architect or designer. The drawings I did almost seemed more for an architect or engineer’s level. Or someone with a bachelor’s degree.
The other big issues were that he was racist, misogynist, and vulgar. I’m not a princess, I’ve worked in bars. But as someone intelligent enough to speak more than English, I hated to listen to him tell CSRs to speak English in some dominating display of power.
I needed to graduate. He made signing papers for school a pain in my ass. It was an accessible place I was at, and then the proposals flooded in. In case anyone’s cares, the US hospitals tallied up their budgets last year and made so much money and still have COVID money. I started a project with this guy to design a state run psych hospital kitchen.
I keep doing drawings, emails, spreadsheets and he promises a salary when I graduate. Perfect. The offer began as $50,000 annually and then turned into a $50,000 a year benefits package. Going back to my age, he began to interrogate my health and tell me my health insurance he would pay for was too expensive. A 74 year old who had a stroke.
Nothing was ever signed to work there besides an nda. I filled out health insurance forms and he was pissed I was an older woman and not a young college grad and waited until the intended start of salary on June 1st to lowball me.
I worked about 4 days a week in May after school was done but this project had nuances with BIM360 I literally don’t know. He paid the former employee to help me Saturdays 730-11 am.
On Thursday he said because he paid that employee to help me, I had to work through June at 40 hours a week for $15 an hour and not $20. He presented a favor by paying me every two weeks because he paid monthly. But let me know it cost him more money. By the way, he just jotted down the money. The take home before tax he told me was “$40,044”which is really $19.25 ☹️
I’m in debt more than when I started last fall. I kept working Thursday, Friday and Saturday and he “threatened” me Friday that I had better not be tired from bartending and unfocused when the former employee came in. Because that cost him money.
Over the weekend I tried to maintain normalcy but sunk into a depression or breakdown. May have been an epiphany. Regardless I seethed Sunday night into Monday morning. I came in at 630 am and he immediately said my eyes were red so I must be tired. He asked what I did the night before. I won’t say all details, but I screamed, I tried to get a contract before continuing work, and I tried to negotiate better pay before leaving. In the end he told me I was a waste of time because he helped me get experience and he’s just gonna outsource stuff now. Whatever.
I’m looking for advice on how to negotiate better from the beginning, whatever helps. And how to better spot bad employers from the beginning. I have noticed it seems the CAD jobs want the cheapest labor and I won’t look for another role like that again.
Tl;dr I worked 8 months with a promise of salary then was told the day it was to start I had to work salary hours for part time pay and walked off the job days later.
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The role had a lot of red flags overall. The only employee seemed disgruntled and had his notice in. No one else worked there besides the owner. Big issue was he was a consultant and not an architect or designer. The drawings I did almost seemed more for an architect or engineer’s level. Or someone with a bachelor’s degree.
The other big issues were that he was racist, misogynist, and vulgar. I’m not a princess, I’ve worked in bars. But as someone intelligent enough to speak more than English, I hated to listen to him tell CSRs to speak English in some dominating display of power.
I needed to graduate. He made signing papers for school a pain in my ass. It was an accessible place I was at, and then the proposals flooded in. In case anyone’s cares, the US hospitals tallied up their budgets last year and made so much money and still have COVID money. I started a project with this guy to design a state run psych hospital kitchen.
I keep doing drawings, emails, spreadsheets and he promises a salary when I graduate. Perfect. The offer began as $50,000 annually and then turned into a $50,000 a year benefits package. Going back to my age, he began to interrogate my health and tell me my health insurance he would pay for was too expensive. A 74 year old who had a stroke.
Nothing was ever signed to work there besides an nda. I filled out health insurance forms and he was pissed I was an older woman and not a young college grad and waited until the intended start of salary on June 1st to lowball me.
I worked about 4 days a week in May after school was done but this project had nuances with BIM360 I literally don’t know. He paid the former employee to help me Saturdays 730-11 am.
On Thursday he said because he paid that employee to help me, I had to work through June at 40 hours a week for $15 an hour and not $20. He presented a favor by paying me every two weeks because he paid monthly. But let me know it cost him more money. By the way, he just jotted down the money. The take home before tax he told me was “$40,044”which is really $19.25 ☹️
I’m in debt more than when I started last fall. I kept working Thursday, Friday and Saturday and he “threatened” me Friday that I had better not be tired from bartending and unfocused when the former employee came in. Because that cost him money.
Over the weekend I tried to maintain normalcy but sunk into a depression or breakdown. May have been an epiphany. Regardless I seethed Sunday night into Monday morning. I came in at 630 am and he immediately said my eyes were red so I must be tired. He asked what I did the night before. I won’t say all details, but I screamed, I tried to get a contract before continuing work, and I tried to negotiate better pay before leaving. In the end he told me I was a waste of time because he helped me get experience and he’s just gonna outsource stuff now. Whatever.
I’m looking for advice on how to negotiate better from the beginning, whatever helps. And how to better spot bad employers from the beginning. I have noticed it seems the CAD jobs want the cheapest labor and I won’t look for another role like that again.
Tl;dr I worked 8 months with a promise of salary then was told the day it was to start I had to work salary hours for part time pay and walked off the job days later.
2023.06.07 19:59 marvelousmathie Locator 62 (Tuscon, Arizona) ranting and seeking advice!
Hey, passport community,
I've found myself in a frustrating situation regarding the delay and lack of communication surrounding my passport application. I applied for my passport back in January in Detroit, with the expectation of receiving it well before my Canadian passport expired (April), at this point, regular processing times were 8-11 weeks. The centre received it in early February. However, despite the expedited processing and shipping I paid for, it has been months, and I'm yet to receive it. The Tucson office, which is my passports processing centre, doesn't answer calls, making it incredibly difficult to get any information or assistance. The status locator says mine has been shipped out, but it has been exactly 2 months since it has said this. My email was entered correctly and I have not received any tracking number for my passport delivery.
Living in Canada, I cross the border daily for school, and unfortunately, I've been facing the inconvenience of using an expired Canadian passport for over a month now. This has led to regular questioning and delays at the border crossing. To make matters worse, every time I try calling the provided 877 number, my call gets abruptly disconnected. I call in mornings, afternoons, all days of the week and haven't found yet a good time to talk to anyone. I have tried reaching out to a congressman and senator for help, but I was informed that since I am not a resident, they are not eligible to help me.
I'm reaching out to this community for advice and support. Has anyone else experienced similar delays or issues with the Detroit office or the 877 helpline? Are there any alternative ways to seek help or escalate the matter when living outside of the United States? I'm open to any suggestions or insights that could assist me in resolving this frustrating situation.
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Hey, passport community,
I've found myself in a frustrating situation regarding the delay and lack of communication surrounding my passport application. I applied for my passport back in January in Detroit, with the expectation of receiving it well before my Canadian passport expired (April), at this point, regular processing times were 8-11 weeks. The centre received it in early February. However, despite the expedited processing and shipping I paid for, it has been months, and I'm yet to receive it. The Tucson office, which is my passports processing centre, doesn't answer calls, making it incredibly difficult to get any information or assistance. The status locator says mine has been shipped out, but it has been exactly 2 months since it has said this. My email was entered correctly and I have not received any tracking number for my passport delivery.
Living in Canada, I cross the border daily for school, and unfortunately, I've been facing the inconvenience of using an expired Canadian passport for over a month now. This has led to regular questioning and delays at the border crossing. To make matters worse, every time I try calling the provided 877 number, my call gets abruptly disconnected. I call in mornings, afternoons, all days of the week and haven't found yet a good time to talk to anyone. I have tried reaching out to a congressman and senator for help, but I was informed that since I am not a resident, they are not eligible to help me.
I'm reaching out to this community for advice and support. Has anyone else experienced similar delays or issues with the Detroit office or the 877 helpline? Are there any alternative ways to seek help or escalate the matter when living outside of the United States? I'm open to any suggestions or insights that could assist me in resolving this frustrating situation.
2023.06.07 19:56 False_Cut_4565 Good morning! 🍪 C4C
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2023.06.07 19:55 babblybabblybrooke My French boyfriend (24M) and I (25F) have different expectations surrounding LDR communication, and it's led to a major rough patch
TL;DR: We have different expectations regarding how much we should communicate, and it's really starting to get to me and cause some anxiety and emotional distance. Currently, I feel like he hasn't tried very hard to find compromise or resolve the issue. Would you ride this wave out and stay calm, take a break, or move on?
So I went to France for a month in March totally alone as a way to get inspiration and try out the digital nomad life. I was absolutely not looking for love, but then I ended up meeting a French guy who I fell madly in love with. He was very upfront about what he was looking for, which was a relationship. He did all kinds of sweet things to show his appreciation for me, like writing me a poem and taking me on adventures and talking through the ways we'd make long distance work after I left. When I said bye to him, I was crying because I knew shit was about to get tough, but he reassured me and told me he felt peaceful about our future.
The first month and a half or so was relatively smooth sailing. We had some growing pains to face, but for the most part, we maintained strong communication, talked pretty regularly, avoided drama, and used Paired to get to know each other better. However, there's been one undercurrent showing up steadily and escalating, and now it's officially become a big problem.
Basically, there have been these phases of him isolating himself from me and, allegedly, from everyone. He says when that happens, he just truly wants to be alone, and then being alone only makes him want to be more alone. I've communicated that it's hard for me to wrap my head around because I also deeply value my alone time. I'm introverted and give him a lot of space. We barely talk most days and FaceTime MAYBE once a week. And we're already so far apart physically.
There have been several times that I've brought up the fact that I feel an emotional distance and feel like we should try different things out with our communication to find what works. I've said maybe we could schedule one or two "dates" a week where we maybe eat or watch a movie or play a game together to keep things fun and connect. I tell him I think this would decrease the amount we have to text and reassure me. (Side note: I've made it extremely clear that I don't expect to text all day every day. I really hope for very basic things, like at least a "Good morning. I kinda feel overwhelmed today so I might not be in the mood to talk, but I hope you have a great day" type vibe, or just a lil compliment/moment of appreciation here and there.)
Anyway, it's pretty frustrating because every time I bring that up, he just repeats the same stuff about him wanting to be alone and how he doesn't want to be on his phone all the time and he doesn't like FaceTime and he gets a headache speaking English too much (I offer to speak French, damn it), etc. etc. And then he'll tell me he loves me and just needs time and for me to chill and trust the process and he won't leave me, etc. etc. He also always says some variation of "please give me the time and space so I can want to miss you."
It's very hard to tell whether I really am being overbearing or whether he's making excuses for not putting in the effort for me. Maybe it's cultural differences? Idk this is my first time dating a French dude. I guess the most frustrating thing is that I would take any complaint/request for compromise he brought to the table so seriously and try to figure it out with him. But when I bring up an issue, it feels like he's not really taking my needs and desires seriously or trying to find a compromise, and just dismisses it as my insecurities causing unnecessary problems.
A few days ago, I told him I felt more emotional distance from him than ever after a period of a noticeable decrease in communication, and sent some resources on LDRs that could help us, but he ignored them and just said he wanted to be alone. I definitely got emotional and threw out that we should just take a break until he figures out what he wants (which was not good to do in the heat of the moment, I know) and we had a little argument.
It somewhat got resolved by us deciding not to take a break but just give each other some space, plus him reassuring me that he loves me and saying he's complicated and would call me the next day to talk about it. But that call never came. He sent me like one voice memo about a recipe he found a couple days ago and hasn't opened or responded to my message since, but I've also been trying my hardest not to send anything and give him space and just work on myself and focus on other things.
Unfortunately, every day I've woken up thinking about him and how he still hasn't talked to me and wondering why he won't talk to me. I woke up today just thinking "I'm not happy anymore" and "I really feel that ocean between us." I know this is such a me problem. I know I got all kinds of absorbed in the relationship too fast and haven't guarded my heart. I know I should take things slow, focus on other parts of my life, and just chill tf out and let things work themselves out.
But I keep wondering if it's worth it to continue if he doesn't seem interested in compromising and keeps me waiting around for him to come to me. I hate games, and I don't think healthy relationships should have games involved. I don't want to have to worry that me asking for better communication will scare him away. I don't want to have to feel like I should be that cool hot girl who's unaffected and lets guys come to her. I don't want any facades or bullshit. I just want to feel his love for me every day through little acts of kindness & reassurance, and I want to give him the same. I really don't think that's asking for much.
Oh my god, if you got this far, thank you for reading. This is a novel. Basically, I'm asking for any and all helpful tidbits of advice or support. Do you think I actually should take a break if I'm feeling this anxious about the situation, or just chill out and let him come to me and let things happen and stop trying to control the situation? Is this just my Adderall and RSD and perfectionism talking (yeah my ADHD is another factor here)?
I'll also say that I've only really mentioned the negative side of his character in this post. I got with him because I really see a future with him and absolutely adore him. On his good days, he listens deeply, is caring, sensitive, kind, hilarious, determined. We've had some really beautiful experiences together, and when we do communicate well and talk issues through, it's great. Just seeing his face always makes me smile so big and feel this wave of calm.
We just have reached a major rough patch where he's showing me this other side of him that's very hard to work with, especially when he only wants to discuss over text, and I'm trying to decide whether it's something to let subside or if it's a true sign to just move on and save myself from heartache. I guess heartache is inevitable, though, at this point. I'm a fool who rushes in, oops.
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So I went to France for a month in March totally alone as a way to get inspiration and try out the digital nomad life. I was absolutely not looking for love, but then I ended up meeting a French guy who I fell madly in love with. He was very upfront about what he was looking for, which was a relationship. He did all kinds of sweet things to show his appreciation for me, like writing me a poem and taking me on adventures and talking through the ways we'd make long distance work after I left. When I said bye to him, I was crying because I knew shit was about to get tough, but he reassured me and told me he felt peaceful about our future.
The first month and a half or so was relatively smooth sailing. We had some growing pains to face, but for the most part, we maintained strong communication, talked pretty regularly, avoided drama, and used Paired to get to know each other better. However, there's been one undercurrent showing up steadily and escalating, and now it's officially become a big problem.
Basically, there have been these phases of him isolating himself from me and, allegedly, from everyone. He says when that happens, he just truly wants to be alone, and then being alone only makes him want to be more alone. I've communicated that it's hard for me to wrap my head around because I also deeply value my alone time. I'm introverted and give him a lot of space. We barely talk most days and FaceTime MAYBE once a week. And we're already so far apart physically.
There have been several times that I've brought up the fact that I feel an emotional distance and feel like we should try different things out with our communication to find what works. I've said maybe we could schedule one or two "dates" a week where we maybe eat or watch a movie or play a game together to keep things fun and connect. I tell him I think this would decrease the amount we have to text and reassure me. (Side note: I've made it extremely clear that I don't expect to text all day every day. I really hope for very basic things, like at least a "Good morning. I kinda feel overwhelmed today so I might not be in the mood to talk, but I hope you have a great day" type vibe, or just a lil compliment/moment of appreciation here and there.)
Anyway, it's pretty frustrating because every time I bring that up, he just repeats the same stuff about him wanting to be alone and how he doesn't want to be on his phone all the time and he doesn't like FaceTime and he gets a headache speaking English too much (I offer to speak French, damn it), etc. etc. And then he'll tell me he loves me and just needs time and for me to chill and trust the process and he won't leave me, etc. etc. He also always says some variation of "please give me the time and space so I can want to miss you."
It's very hard to tell whether I really am being overbearing or whether he's making excuses for not putting in the effort for me. Maybe it's cultural differences? Idk this is my first time dating a French dude. I guess the most frustrating thing is that I would take any complaint/request for compromise he brought to the table so seriously and try to figure it out with him. But when I bring up an issue, it feels like he's not really taking my needs and desires seriously or trying to find a compromise, and just dismisses it as my insecurities causing unnecessary problems.
A few days ago, I told him I felt more emotional distance from him than ever after a period of a noticeable decrease in communication, and sent some resources on LDRs that could help us, but he ignored them and just said he wanted to be alone. I definitely got emotional and threw out that we should just take a break until he figures out what he wants (which was not good to do in the heat of the moment, I know) and we had a little argument.
It somewhat got resolved by us deciding not to take a break but just give each other some space, plus him reassuring me that he loves me and saying he's complicated and would call me the next day to talk about it. But that call never came. He sent me like one voice memo about a recipe he found a couple days ago and hasn't opened or responded to my message since, but I've also been trying my hardest not to send anything and give him space and just work on myself and focus on other things.
Unfortunately, every day I've woken up thinking about him and how he still hasn't talked to me and wondering why he won't talk to me. I woke up today just thinking "I'm not happy anymore" and "I really feel that ocean between us." I know this is such a me problem. I know I got all kinds of absorbed in the relationship too fast and haven't guarded my heart. I know I should take things slow, focus on other parts of my life, and just chill tf out and let things work themselves out.
But I keep wondering if it's worth it to continue if he doesn't seem interested in compromising and keeps me waiting around for him to come to me. I hate games, and I don't think healthy relationships should have games involved. I don't want to have to worry that me asking for better communication will scare him away. I don't want to have to feel like I should be that cool hot girl who's unaffected and lets guys come to her. I don't want any facades or bullshit. I just want to feel his love for me every day through little acts of kindness & reassurance, and I want to give him the same. I really don't think that's asking for much.
Oh my god, if you got this far, thank you for reading. This is a novel. Basically, I'm asking for any and all helpful tidbits of advice or support. Do you think I actually should take a break if I'm feeling this anxious about the situation, or just chill out and let him come to me and let things happen and stop trying to control the situation? Is this just my Adderall and RSD and perfectionism talking (yeah my ADHD is another factor here)?
I'll also say that I've only really mentioned the negative side of his character in this post. I got with him because I really see a future with him and absolutely adore him. On his good days, he listens deeply, is caring, sensitive, kind, hilarious, determined. We've had some really beautiful experiences together, and when we do communicate well and talk issues through, it's great. Just seeing his face always makes me smile so big and feel this wave of calm.
We just have reached a major rough patch where he's showing me this other side of him that's very hard to work with, especially when he only wants to discuss over text, and I'm trying to decide whether it's something to let subside or if it's a true sign to just move on and save myself from heartache. I guess heartache is inevitable, though, at this point. I'm a fool who rushes in, oops.
2023.06.07 19:53 perydot_ Package suddenly forwarded to TX from NY
I ordered something from eBay last week, a dress, and it was due to be delivered on Monday. It was all good, and moving through the system smoothly, going all the way from Florida to NYC within a couple days.
And then, on Monday, I check the tracking and USPS site says that it was “missent” and then it was “forwarded”. And now, it went from The Bronx post office down to Dallas, Texas! I didn’t request any forwarding, and I messaged the eBay seller and they said they sent it to my address as listed on eBay, so that shouldn’t be the issue.
Does anyone know what is going on? I emailed USPS about it, but that’ll take a while.
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And then, on Monday, I check the tracking and USPS site says that it was “missent” and then it was “forwarded”. And now, it went from The Bronx post office down to Dallas, Texas! I didn’t request any forwarding, and I messaged the eBay seller and they said they sent it to my address as listed on eBay, so that shouldn’t be the issue.
Does anyone know what is going on? I emailed USPS about it, but that’ll take a while.
2023.06.07 19:53 PigletIntelligent906 What additional schools should I apply to?
Hello, I am starting to piece together my college list and I am thinking of going as a Business, History, or Philosophy major. I want to stay in-state (Texas). I'm asian and female.
Outline of Stats: -3.95 UW , 4.71 W (Around Top 3%) -1330 SAT ( I have a tutor and will be retaking) -3 years of my sport (2 years varsity) -NHS and SPHS -Class officer position throughout high school -8 APs taken and will take 6 in my senior year
List so far: -Texas A&M -UT Austin -UT Dallas -Rice
Are some of these not worth even applying (either it's too much of a far shot or they're not good schools for my major)? I don't want to waste my time. None of my family went to school in the states and I don't want to use rankings as a guide. Are there other schools that should be on my radar? Thank you.
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Outline of Stats: -3.95 UW , 4.71 W (Around Top 3%) -1330 SAT ( I have a tutor and will be retaking) -3 years of my sport (2 years varsity) -NHS and SPHS -Class officer position throughout high school -8 APs taken and will take 6 in my senior year
List so far: -Texas A&M -UT Austin -UT Dallas -Rice
Are some of these not worth even applying (either it's too much of a far shot or they're not good schools for my major)? I don't want to waste my time. None of my family went to school in the states and I don't want to use rankings as a guide. Are there other schools that should be on my radar? Thank you.