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This is a support group for people raised by abusive parents (with toxic, self-absorbed or abusive personality traits, which may be exhibited by those who suffer from cluster B personality disorders). Please share your stories, your questions, your histories, your fears and your triumphs. Significant others and friends are all welcome.
2023.06.07 12:01 Seahorse_12 I (M30) took part in a paid study at my local university that studied the affects of different diets on abdominal weight gain. I’ve put on nearly 115 pounds in 1.5 years. The money was worth it, but wondering if they took it too far… can’t believe what I look like now lol
 | HERE are some pictures and videos taken by me or others over the course of the last year and a half. submitted by Seahorse_12 to Wellthatsucks [link] [comments] My local university was conducting a medical study on the affects of different diets on weight gain. I signed up and was chosen and the potential money to be made was very appealing. The first two months of the study involved simply eating at a calorie surplus on a premade diet to see how it affected my body’s weight gain. After taking measurements after these initial two months, if my body’s measurements represented any kind of high percentile outlier, I would be selected to potentially continue for the entire 1.5 year study focused on a particular area of the body. Of all of the participants, my abdominal girth was at the highest percentile ratio of girth compared to weight/height, so they selected me to participate focusing on abdominal weight gain and to see how severe it could be. They paid me about $3,000 a month and had all of my food paid for as I followed a specific premade diet plan that changed every 2 or 3 months to study the affects these specific diets had. Some were dairy heavy, carb heavy, specific types of meats only, mixing in alcohol consumption, specific supplements, etc. I’m incredibly busy in my life with work right now and having a free premade meal plan plus so much extra cash was too good to pass up. So I decided to continue for the entire 1.5 year study. Fast forward to now, having finished the entire trial, I am starting to have some serious regrets. I’ve put on nearly 115 pounds since last January and I never expected the results to have me looking like this. Honestly, I think even the researchers themselves were really shocked by my result. My ratio of abdominal girth to height/weight is at the highest percentile of the study, their entire student body, and anyone who has participated in the study before. I gained most all of the weight in my torso, which they are severely attributing to genetics and simply the effectiveness of the tailored diets they had me following. I obviously look ridiculous now. I haven’t even been able to keep up with buying a new professional wardrobe for work (as you can tell my the pictures and videos linked). I was gaining an average of 7 pounds a month, some months being just 3 pounds and some being an entire 15 pounds in a month. So many things are difficult… I break a sweat going up one flight of stairs, I can hardly put my shoes or socks on, fitting into restaurant booths is nearly impossible, getting in and out of my car or off the couch takes preparation. People stare at me in stores or on the street. I had a homeless guy ask me “Jesus Christ, what the fuck? Are you pregnant, dude?” once. My coworkers are polite but make comments here and there. I haven’t seen my family since early in the study when the weight gain wasn’t very noticeable. I’m seeing them in 2 weeks for a reunion, and I cannot even imagine what they are going to say. I didn’t tell them I took part in this because I knew they wouldn’t approve, but now I wish I had because how am I going to prepare them or explain to them why I look like this now and how it happened so fast. I’m worried to fit on the plane on the way there and having to travel. I’m so nervous to see them. And honestly would like any genuine opinions of whether or not I’m blowing this out of proportion or if they are genuinely going to be shocked. Maybe I can hide it better if I find the right clothing. I really regret doing this now for the most part and hope I’m able to start reversing it as soon as possible. Thanks for letting me vent. Happy to also answer any questions on what I learned nutritionally and what the different diets did and how they affected me too. |
2023.06.07 12:01 SuperNova_Frost I'm going to have to end a friendship and it's gutting me
Some years ago I had joined a group of people playing games, I was invited by this guy and thinking back at it it was truly one of those once in a lifetime moments, just randomly playing a game and being told "Hey, you want to join us?"
We have been friends for 4 years since 2019 and it's probably the strongest and most transparent friendship I've ever had. I wasn't working at the time and I had just graduated so I had a ton of free time and all I did was play games all day and just have fun.
Time passes and we become more and more friends and this is the part where I become a piece of shit and a garbage human being and friend: a female friend of his joins the group to hang out and play sometimes, we all start having a great time and they both have a thing going on eventually getting together.
In all of this she also starts flirting with me and I, being the lonely fuck that I am, get alloured and flirt back eventually getting feelings for her being a horrible friend, I should have just stopped and brought this to my friend's attention. This keeps on going for a while and eventually it gets discovered, it had been going on for months and it was really eating me alive so I had already thought about leaving but me and my friend talked it out anyways.
Understandably he didn't want to see me anymore and he was upset so I just left and for the entire year of 2022 I am alone doing my own thing.
Fast forward to October 2022 and I get a message on my phone from the girl saying that she wanted to talk and I was hesitant at the start because I was really hurt, then I get a text from my friend saying that he wanted to talk it out, he said that he had forgiven me and he just wanted to have fun and play games again like the old times.
I accepted after thinking about it for a bit, I was alone and I have to admit that I missed those times so after pondering for a while I decided to go back. I discover that they are to be married, it kind of hit me like a brick to the stomach but I decided to go on either way because it was fun to be back. Eventually I find out that I hadn't worked out my issues as well as I thought I did and I might have had some leftover feelings for her, Immediately told my friend who was extremely understanding and didn't have any resentmente and we talked about it. My distress was so high that he must have talked to the girl who sent me a message, revealing that she never liked me back and that her flirting was all for attention and none of it was real.
I was devastated to say the least, I had some vibes of being used for attention but I was never completely sure, thinking about it is one thing, being actually told was another. I decided that I valued our friendship and that I forgave her and tried to move past it, although it's hard talking to someone who lied to you and It's hard to understand what's real and what's not.
My interactions with her were always one sided when I came back in my opinion: conversations often revolved around her, exchanging memes without even a text sent and often I felt used and felt like I was there for convenience.
After that my friendship with her slowly started fading, I don't consider us friends with anymore and so half the reason why I came back is now gone, the only thing holding everything together is my friendship with my friend.
Last month he went overseas to meet her for a month, it was a harsh time for me not knowing exactly what to do. This is the point in which I discover that I developed a codependence for him so to say: I have a hard time knowing what to do if I'm alone and it's creating issues for me.
The plan was always that when they would get married she would come over here and not the opposite, instead when he came back he told me the opposite that he was going to move overseas to the US to be with her.
This was unexpected to say the least, it gutted me and it took away the breath out of my lungs when I heard that. He's going to move overseas which means that between his job, responsibilities, and time zones we just won't be able to spend time together probably at all.
I don't spite him or her in any way, I have no hatred for anyone and some people might say that It's a petty reason to break a friendship and that's alright, I think that anyone in relationships can set their own boundaries based on their need.
I'm going to lose one of my best friends not because I choose to but because I feel like I have to and It's gutting me.
Thank you kindly for reading
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We have been friends for 4 years since 2019 and it's probably the strongest and most transparent friendship I've ever had. I wasn't working at the time and I had just graduated so I had a ton of free time and all I did was play games all day and just have fun.
Time passes and we become more and more friends and this is the part where I become a piece of shit and a garbage human being and friend: a female friend of his joins the group to hang out and play sometimes, we all start having a great time and they both have a thing going on eventually getting together.
In all of this she also starts flirting with me and I, being the lonely fuck that I am, get alloured and flirt back eventually getting feelings for her being a horrible friend, I should have just stopped and brought this to my friend's attention. This keeps on going for a while and eventually it gets discovered, it had been going on for months and it was really eating me alive so I had already thought about leaving but me and my friend talked it out anyways.
Understandably he didn't want to see me anymore and he was upset so I just left and for the entire year of 2022 I am alone doing my own thing.
Fast forward to October 2022 and I get a message on my phone from the girl saying that she wanted to talk and I was hesitant at the start because I was really hurt, then I get a text from my friend saying that he wanted to talk it out, he said that he had forgiven me and he just wanted to have fun and play games again like the old times.
I accepted after thinking about it for a bit, I was alone and I have to admit that I missed those times so after pondering for a while I decided to go back. I discover that they are to be married, it kind of hit me like a brick to the stomach but I decided to go on either way because it was fun to be back. Eventually I find out that I hadn't worked out my issues as well as I thought I did and I might have had some leftover feelings for her, Immediately told my friend who was extremely understanding and didn't have any resentmente and we talked about it. My distress was so high that he must have talked to the girl who sent me a message, revealing that she never liked me back and that her flirting was all for attention and none of it was real.
I was devastated to say the least, I had some vibes of being used for attention but I was never completely sure, thinking about it is one thing, being actually told was another. I decided that I valued our friendship and that I forgave her and tried to move past it, although it's hard talking to someone who lied to you and It's hard to understand what's real and what's not.
My interactions with her were always one sided when I came back in my opinion: conversations often revolved around her, exchanging memes without even a text sent and often I felt used and felt like I was there for convenience.
After that my friendship with her slowly started fading, I don't consider us friends with anymore and so half the reason why I came back is now gone, the only thing holding everything together is my friendship with my friend.
Last month he went overseas to meet her for a month, it was a harsh time for me not knowing exactly what to do. This is the point in which I discover that I developed a codependence for him so to say: I have a hard time knowing what to do if I'm alone and it's creating issues for me.
The plan was always that when they would get married she would come over here and not the opposite, instead when he came back he told me the opposite that he was going to move overseas to the US to be with her.
This was unexpected to say the least, it gutted me and it took away the breath out of my lungs when I heard that. He's going to move overseas which means that between his job, responsibilities, and time zones we just won't be able to spend time together probably at all.
I don't spite him or her in any way, I have no hatred for anyone and some people might say that It's a petty reason to break a friendship and that's alright, I think that anyone in relationships can set their own boundaries based on their need.
I'm going to lose one of my best friends not because I choose to but because I feel like I have to and It's gutting me.
Thank you kindly for reading
2023.06.07 12:01 dirkisgod [OFFER] WISE - €15(~£13.2) from me (Worldwide)
Wise (formerly TransferWise) is a digital bank app that has been around for many years now. It started by providing cheap international bank transfers at great exchange rates.
With its multi-currency account, it now offers a modern banking alternative. Wise gives you dedicated accounts in different currencies under your own name, which is very useful.
It's a great platform for anyone that handles multiple currencies, they are very transparent and have the best customer support in this space. At Wise, account opening is free, and maintaining your account is also free, with no monthly cost.
Wise is available pretty much worldwide. So anyone can sign up and just transfer the required amount (250EUR equivalent in any currency).
BONUS - €15 from me (or equivalent in other currencies)
You will need to make a single international transfer of 250 EUR (or equivalent in another currency) in one go to qualify. Same currency transfers don't qualify. So this means you will convert currency.
I.e, you can simply send 250EUR through Wise to your UK Revolut details. You can also simply do the reverse if funding the transfer from GBP. I.e, add GBP to your balance. Transfer it out to EUR.
There aren't any fees charged in the conversion/transfer. This should complete very fast. The sign up process is simple and transfers are near instant.
Transfer flow:
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With its multi-currency account, it now offers a modern banking alternative. Wise gives you dedicated accounts in different currencies under your own name, which is very useful.
It's a great platform for anyone that handles multiple currencies, they are very transparent and have the best customer support in this space. At Wise, account opening is free, and maintaining your account is also free, with no monthly cost.
Wise is available pretty much worldwide. So anyone can sign up and just transfer the required amount (250EUR equivalent in any currency).
I.e, you can simply send 250EUR through Wise to your UK Revolut details. You can also simply do the reverse if funding the transfer from GBP. I.e, add GBP to your balance. Transfer it out to EUR.
There aren't any fees charged in the conversion/transfer. This should complete very fast. The sign up process is simple and transfers are near instant.
Transfer flow:
- Add cash to your balance or set up a direct transfer from your bank/card
- Send at least 250EUR or equivalent to another bank (can be your own name), so you can send EUR to GBP or GBP to EUR (or various other currencies
STEPS
- type $bid and I'll Dm you
- sign up and make a qualifying transfer
- I'll send you the cash when they mark you as having made a qualifying transfer
2023.06.07 12:00 OkPossession7998 New Grad Guidance
Hi All,
Looking for general advice/reassurance. I am one month into an internal medicine job and of course feeling very overwhelmed. I feel as though this position is not right for me/personality. There is little to no oversight, but worse, I don’t have a reliable person to bring my questions to. Sadly, I have tons. I have a very hands off CP but I get the sense I was not a wanted addition to the clinic. I am dealing with high levels of anxiety constantly about the level of responsibility and questioning my assessments. I really don’t trust myself. I am taking on the panel of a long-time doc who is switching clinics. The patients she sees are very sick. I know it’s only a few short weeks in, but I currently don’t eat well and have had a least one night of no sleep each week. My questions are am I wrong for wanting to quit? I want to give an immediate notice on Friday even though they ask for 3 months. I can’t see myself doing this another 3 months. Did others have trouble finding another job following quitting a prior one? I would have to put this on my resume. Of course, I’m worried about money but I’m dead set on getting a job that will provide training after this fear fest. Please let me know what you think! Any guidance is appreciated.
submitted by OkPossession7998 to physicianassistant [link] [comments]
Looking for general advice/reassurance. I am one month into an internal medicine job and of course feeling very overwhelmed. I feel as though this position is not right for me/personality. There is little to no oversight, but worse, I don’t have a reliable person to bring my questions to. Sadly, I have tons. I have a very hands off CP but I get the sense I was not a wanted addition to the clinic. I am dealing with high levels of anxiety constantly about the level of responsibility and questioning my assessments. I really don’t trust myself. I am taking on the panel of a long-time doc who is switching clinics. The patients she sees are very sick. I know it’s only a few short weeks in, but I currently don’t eat well and have had a least one night of no sleep each week. My questions are am I wrong for wanting to quit? I want to give an immediate notice on Friday even though they ask for 3 months. I can’t see myself doing this another 3 months. Did others have trouble finding another job following quitting a prior one? I would have to put this on my resume. Of course, I’m worried about money but I’m dead set on getting a job that will provide training after this fear fest. Please let me know what you think! Any guidance is appreciated.
2023.06.07 12:00 Change_username1914 Kinda cool
In my process of healing and becoming my authentic self, I’ve been hanging out more with people from my job. This past weekend, I went to a coworkers b-day party and had a really great time and look forward to hanging with them in the future.
Here’s the cool part. I opened up to them later via text about my background and what I used to be, detailing the ins and outs of this crazy high control religion/cult we here all are too familiar with. In their reply they said some of the warmest, most welcoming things that really made me feel good. I’ve enjoyed time with them before but not an extensive event like this past weekend and they kept saying in their replies, “you’re our family and we love you no matter what.” Then they shared something that really made my day. One of the people at the party that I really got along well with, is a DF’ed person also, with no plans of returning to the crazy, unloving cult either!
I only say this so the person who might be reading this might have a bit of comfort in knowing that, yea, there are good people in the world out there, really good. And you never know, one of those people you meet on your new journey might be walking with the same kind of past as you. My point is to just take the first step. I’m highly introverted and even to consider doing this was a challenge, but I’m glad I did it and I hope that you can face any challenges to your new journey with success as well. And don’t forget, there’s an entire community on here that’s got your back and wants nothing but happiness to come from your life, not a life blueprinted by other people but a life YOU want to live.
submitted by Change_username1914 to exjw [link] [comments]
Here’s the cool part. I opened up to them later via text about my background and what I used to be, detailing the ins and outs of this crazy high control religion/cult we here all are too familiar with. In their reply they said some of the warmest, most welcoming things that really made me feel good. I’ve enjoyed time with them before but not an extensive event like this past weekend and they kept saying in their replies, “you’re our family and we love you no matter what.” Then they shared something that really made my day. One of the people at the party that I really got along well with, is a DF’ed person also, with no plans of returning to the crazy, unloving cult either!
I only say this so the person who might be reading this might have a bit of comfort in knowing that, yea, there are good people in the world out there, really good. And you never know, one of those people you meet on your new journey might be walking with the same kind of past as you. My point is to just take the first step. I’m highly introverted and even to consider doing this was a challenge, but I’m glad I did it and I hope that you can face any challenges to your new journey with success as well. And don’t forget, there’s an entire community on here that’s got your back and wants nothing but happiness to come from your life, not a life blueprinted by other people but a life YOU want to live.
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2023.06.07 12:00 jijo131211 Looking for opportunities in Dubai
Hey Guys
I hope you doing well. I am looking for opportunities in Dubai i have around 5 years for experience in digital marketing. Any buddy can help me for finding a job in UAE
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I hope you doing well. I am looking for opportunities in Dubai i have around 5 years for experience in digital marketing. Any buddy can help me for finding a job in UAE
2023.06.07 12:00 fimbres16 How to handle a talking stage turned coworker situation?
Started at a new job and was going around meeting my new coworkers and one of them is a girl I had met via instagram and we DM for a bit talking but never actually hung out.
Story is one day randomly saw her post in my feed and it was a thirst post kinda but I liked it. Later on she followed me and I followed back seeing we both went to the same university. It went the whole liking each other pics/stories to I DM her and we chat for a little. I ended up just leaving her on read a couple times and we never really planned anything. Honestly I probably seem like a fuck boy it definitely isn’t my best impression.
So how do I handle this? We met shook hands, we both realized pretty fast because she knew my name already and during lunch break viewed my stories. We talked briefly but nothing really other than small talk. Do I even mention anything or just act like it didn’t happen? I kinda feel personally embarrassed mainly because it was me acting like a fuck boy messaging and liking stories then leaving her on read twice for decent periods of time. Advice?
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Story is one day randomly saw her post in my feed and it was a thirst post kinda but I liked it. Later on she followed me and I followed back seeing we both went to the same university. It went the whole liking each other pics/stories to I DM her and we chat for a little. I ended up just leaving her on read a couple times and we never really planned anything. Honestly I probably seem like a fuck boy it definitely isn’t my best impression.
So how do I handle this? We met shook hands, we both realized pretty fast because she knew my name already and during lunch break viewed my stories. We talked briefly but nothing really other than small talk. Do I even mention anything or just act like it didn’t happen? I kinda feel personally embarrassed mainly because it was me acting like a fuck boy messaging and liking stories then leaving her on read twice for decent periods of time. Advice?
2023.06.07 12:00 Fantastic-Catty anybody who overcome agoraphobia without medication?
started cbt one month ago and we are starting with exposure therapy which so so hard for me and im fearing that i will do no progress. im not on any medication. did anyone with severe agoraphobia and panic disorder overcome this without meditation? was it really easier with medication? what are your thoughts
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2023.06.07 12:00 Imhereatelyu 30[M4F] staycation this friday-sat ? Sino g . Around pasay . Sagot na din alak
Uunahan ko na . If NSFW ito for you or offensive okay wala ako magagawa doon. Pero this post is for who’s down o willing makipag meet . Salamat
Mag book ako ng airbnb this friday to sat lang kase may pasok na kinabukasan . Naisip ko pangit mag book pag solo Ing. So if down ka sagot ko a alak its either mojito, tequila or whiskey ikaw mamili. Baka merong walang gagawin at gusto mag inom at chill this weekend?
Nakakamiss din may kainuman . Nakakamiss din may kayakap pag lasing at nakakamiss din may jowa !!! Pero ill try mag behave if ever . Gusto ko lang maging honest
Around pasay ko na lisip mag book para near sa work ko kase papasok ako ng sat gusto ko lang tumakas sa mga problema at mag pakasaya saglit
Abt me: Mejo payat (kase mahilig mag bike and work) Moreno (maitim lol) 5'9 Jolly Mabilis daw maka "vibe " Masaya daw kasama Marunong mag luto Makulit Malambing HINDI POGI PERO MAY HUMOR
About u? 4'11 Makulit o enjoy kasama? Slim or thicc . Kahit ano naman basta mag kasundo Ung di maarte o pabebe 23-33 sana
So kung bored ka or wala kang gagawin ng friday to sat afternoon? Gusto mo tumakas kahit sandali sa pagiging alipin ng salapi At di ka mahilig sa pogi dm me na
Ps. Im not pogi haha. We can exchange pic sa g para if goods edi tara na sa friday
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Mag book ako ng airbnb this friday to sat lang kase may pasok na kinabukasan . Naisip ko pangit mag book pag solo Ing. So if down ka sagot ko a alak its either mojito, tequila or whiskey ikaw mamili. Baka merong walang gagawin at gusto mag inom at chill this weekend?
Nakakamiss din may kainuman . Nakakamiss din may kayakap pag lasing at nakakamiss din may jowa !!! Pero ill try mag behave if ever . Gusto ko lang maging honest
Around pasay ko na lisip mag book para near sa work ko kase papasok ako ng sat gusto ko lang tumakas sa mga problema at mag pakasaya saglit
Abt me: Mejo payat (kase mahilig mag bike and work) Moreno (maitim lol) 5'9 Jolly Mabilis daw maka "vibe " Masaya daw kasama Marunong mag luto Makulit Malambing HINDI POGI PERO MAY HUMOR
About u? 4'11 Makulit o enjoy kasama? Slim or thicc . Kahit ano naman basta mag kasundo Ung di maarte o pabebe 23-33 sana
So kung bored ka or wala kang gagawin ng friday to sat afternoon? Gusto mo tumakas kahit sandali sa pagiging alipin ng salapi At di ka mahilig sa pogi dm me na
Ps. Im not pogi haha. We can exchange pic sa g para if goods edi tara na sa friday
2023.06.07 12:00 Josefine-Eagle RJ and age gap relationships
It seems to me that most people here have partners who are approximately their age, so their pasts usually match at least to some degree. However, how to cope when you are in a relationship with a significant age gap and your partner has experienced so much already where everything is so new for you?
I'm talking about relationships where someone (usually a girl) fresh out of high school starts dating someone 10-15 years older. That person probably had serious, live-in relationships or had even been married, while for the younger partner it's the first serious relationship. How do you deal with the fact that your partner has experienced everything already, while everything is new to you? I'm not talking just about relationship stuff, also about travelling, getting a first job, living with someone. It's so difficult to not compare yourself and ask yourself whether you are as good as the previous partners. Or to not be jealous about all the amazing stuff they did with other people. And then you remember that when they were partying in college, you still played with your dolls and you will never be able to understand them in the way their (same age) exes understood because you are a different generation. Can anyone relate?
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I'm talking about relationships where someone (usually a girl) fresh out of high school starts dating someone 10-15 years older. That person probably had serious, live-in relationships or had even been married, while for the younger partner it's the first serious relationship. How do you deal with the fact that your partner has experienced everything already, while everything is new to you? I'm not talking just about relationship stuff, also about travelling, getting a first job, living with someone. It's so difficult to not compare yourself and ask yourself whether you are as good as the previous partners. Or to not be jealous about all the amazing stuff they did with other people. And then you remember that when they were partying in college, you still played with your dolls and you will never be able to understand them in the way their (same age) exes understood because you are a different generation. Can anyone relate?
2023.06.07 12:00 code_hunter_cc How to recycle pods in Kubernetes
Kubernetes
I want my pods to be gracefully recycled from my deployments after certain period of time such as every week or month. I know I can add a cron job for that if I know the Kubernetes command.
The question is what is the best approach to do this in Kubernetes. Which command will let me achieve this goal?
Thank you very much for helping me out on this.
Answer link : https://codehunter.cc/a/kubernetes/how-to-recycle-pods-in-kubernetes
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I want my pods to be gracefully recycled from my deployments after certain period of time such as every week or month. I know I can add a cron job for that if I know the Kubernetes command.
The question is what is the best approach to do this in Kubernetes. Which command will let me achieve this goal?
Thank you very much for helping me out on this.
Answer link : https://codehunter.cc/a/kubernetes/how-to-recycle-pods-in-kubernetes
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2023.06.07 11:58 honeyredscreams My cauda equina story
Mostly just posting this for therapy, but also thought people might be interested to hear the variation in CES symptoms. Mine is a little different from most of the others I have read in this sub. This is my (relatively) pain-free cauda equina tale!
I had sciatic nerve leg pain for 4 months prior to getting CES. It was mild and I ignored it for six weeks before going to see a physio. They assigned stretches and did massage but things didn’t really improve. It never stopped me from doing anything, just made things more annoying/less comfortable.
In early January I woke up in the morning and sneezed. I felt bolts of pain shoot down both my legs, and struggled to get up. I had three days of 5/10 pain in my lower back when I moved around, but icing and an electric blanket helped and I went in to work on the fourth day.
The following day I sneezed again, and went right back to square one. 5/10 pain, hard to get up, couldn’t sit, pain all in the lower back and tailbone.
On advice from Healthline I went to see the after hours doctor who tested my muscle strength, gave me muscle relaxants and codeine and told me that if the pain persisted for more than six weeks I might want to get my discs checked out.
Went home, did more ice and heat and two days later was well enough to walk to to the supermarket and carry my groceries back.
That evening a hot, burning, bruised pain started in the backs of my thighs, a consistent pain where the other had always been movement related. When I went to bed I had to take a codeine to sleep, and I woke up as soon as it wore off (about 2.5 hours later).
At around 5.30am I noticed numbness in my mons pubis. The sensation was just gone. No tingling, not coming and going, absolutely nothing.
I immediately knew I was in trouble, because every single medical professional I had seen about my leg/back pain over the past four months had stressed to me, if you ever have numbness, tingling, incontinence, call the ambulance right away. No one had ever said cauda equina syndrome, but they were all so consistent and emphatic and clear. And that really helped, because I was so reluctant to call for help. Being scared, not wanting it to be serious, not wanting to take up resources if it wasn’t serious.
Once I ended up at the hospital I had a pretty speedy journey. Saw a doctor within an hour at ER, they pretty quickly checked if I could pee (no), did some more checking (iykyk), and then it was MRI time. From arrival at ER to going into surgery it was about 7 hours. I was so lucky and am so grateful.
I’m 5 months out from surgery now, and doing okay. Some numbness in my right heel, thigh, both buttocks and slightly beyond. I have a little limp. My tailbone hurts when I sit for too long or in a hard chair. I was horribly constipated for weeks, but have pretty much found equilibrium now. I’ve never really had any pain post surgery (other than my tailbone).
This has been my first experience in the healthcare system and it has been an eye opener. The emergency care was fantastic, the follow up care has been non-existent. It was so scary to have an uncertain recovery, for everything to be so hard, to need so much help.
The best advice I got was to keep a diary of your progress. It helped me see the improvements that I couldn’t feel whilst in the middle of it all. Reading that a month ago it took me 20 minutes to limp to work, whereas now I’m cruising along in 10 helps me see and appreciate that things are still getting better.
Congratulations to anyone who got this far, thank you to others who shared their stories, and if you’re newly diagnosed please have hope! It is so rough in the beginning, and you just need to be patient and see how your recovery goes.
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I had sciatic nerve leg pain for 4 months prior to getting CES. It was mild and I ignored it for six weeks before going to see a physio. They assigned stretches and did massage but things didn’t really improve. It never stopped me from doing anything, just made things more annoying/less comfortable.
In early January I woke up in the morning and sneezed. I felt bolts of pain shoot down both my legs, and struggled to get up. I had three days of 5/10 pain in my lower back when I moved around, but icing and an electric blanket helped and I went in to work on the fourth day.
The following day I sneezed again, and went right back to square one. 5/10 pain, hard to get up, couldn’t sit, pain all in the lower back and tailbone.
On advice from Healthline I went to see the after hours doctor who tested my muscle strength, gave me muscle relaxants and codeine and told me that if the pain persisted for more than six weeks I might want to get my discs checked out.
Went home, did more ice and heat and two days later was well enough to walk to to the supermarket and carry my groceries back.
That evening a hot, burning, bruised pain started in the backs of my thighs, a consistent pain where the other had always been movement related. When I went to bed I had to take a codeine to sleep, and I woke up as soon as it wore off (about 2.5 hours later).
At around 5.30am I noticed numbness in my mons pubis. The sensation was just gone. No tingling, not coming and going, absolutely nothing.
I immediately knew I was in trouble, because every single medical professional I had seen about my leg/back pain over the past four months had stressed to me, if you ever have numbness, tingling, incontinence, call the ambulance right away. No one had ever said cauda equina syndrome, but they were all so consistent and emphatic and clear. And that really helped, because I was so reluctant to call for help. Being scared, not wanting it to be serious, not wanting to take up resources if it wasn’t serious.
Once I ended up at the hospital I had a pretty speedy journey. Saw a doctor within an hour at ER, they pretty quickly checked if I could pee (no), did some more checking (iykyk), and then it was MRI time. From arrival at ER to going into surgery it was about 7 hours. I was so lucky and am so grateful.
I’m 5 months out from surgery now, and doing okay. Some numbness in my right heel, thigh, both buttocks and slightly beyond. I have a little limp. My tailbone hurts when I sit for too long or in a hard chair. I was horribly constipated for weeks, but have pretty much found equilibrium now. I’ve never really had any pain post surgery (other than my tailbone).
This has been my first experience in the healthcare system and it has been an eye opener. The emergency care was fantastic, the follow up care has been non-existent. It was so scary to have an uncertain recovery, for everything to be so hard, to need so much help.
The best advice I got was to keep a diary of your progress. It helped me see the improvements that I couldn’t feel whilst in the middle of it all. Reading that a month ago it took me 20 minutes to limp to work, whereas now I’m cruising along in 10 helps me see and appreciate that things are still getting better.
Congratulations to anyone who got this far, thank you to others who shared their stories, and if you’re newly diagnosed please have hope! It is so rough in the beginning, and you just need to be patient and see how your recovery goes.
2023.06.07 11:58 stay_athome_mom Husband touching in the morning, am I overreacting?
Husband is very touchy feely and I nearly verbally abused him on Sunday. To put this into perspective, we have an amazing relationship. We kiss and cuddle at night, and at times I am “all over him” before bed. I tell him he’s in most amazing man in the world, and do things he likes like cuddle his bum while he’s sleeping. We also have sex a few times a week. I am not a morning person. In the first 4 months of our relationship, he would touch me sexually in the mornings. First my bum, then boobs, everywhere, basically initiating sex. I hated it and put my foot down very forcefully. I made a rule that there’s no touching before 8.30am. At times he’s adhered to my rule… On the positive side he goes to work at about 7am, 6 days per week. Which means he doesn’t try to touch me and wake me up 6 days of the week. Well on Sunday, he was touching me before 8.30am, AND he hadn’t made my green tea which I wanted to wake up with. I very sternly said to ‘go away until 8.30’. He didn’t listen, and then I proceeded to threaten ‘touch me again and I’m not spending the day with you’. He then called me the B word and went off sulkily to make my green tea… I was in a super bad mood for about 2 hours after this. I just hate being woken up with unsolicited touching! Especially because if I allow it, it turns into sexual touching! Im half joking about the green tea thing. But everything else is serious. This is the biggest problem in our relationship. Am I being a psycho about the touching or is this valid?
TL;DR- Am I over reacting to husband touching me in the morning or is he in the wrong?
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TL;DR- Am I over reacting to husband touching me in the morning or is he in the wrong?
2023.06.07 11:58 Ok-Anybody1132 Going on 5 years of isolation, just 1 more year to go. How to cope with social isolation?
First, undiagnosed autism isolated me. Then, the pandemic isolated me. Next, the diagnosis & unmasking process isolated me. Now, where I live is isolating me. I grew up in a crime-ridden, falling apart American city where it’s literally unsafe to work or hang out anywhere. It’s beyond isolating and it’s detrimental to my wellbeing. I can’t afford to move until another year from now. Moving depends on my next job paying enough (currently underpaid to gain “experience” in my field). I also feel cheated because I had a job that paid enough 6 months ago, but triggered autistic meltdowns, so my partner promised to help make this move out of the city happen by himself and encouraged me to quit, but now he isn’t delivering on this promise and the economy tanked. 😔
So I know me moving will result in us breaking up. Now I need to make new friends but it feels forced knowing I plan on moving the first moment I get. And my current relationship just feels … fake now… knowing I’m leaving this city the soonest possible while my partner chooses to stay. All of my relationships feel like they’re falling apart and I won’t be in a position to forge new ones until I move in a year. How can I heal the damage due to 6 years of social isolation? How can I be social in this time of social isolation? Im not that brand of autism that can function with total social isolation. I start to go crazy. Im about to show up to the old folks home to play bingo because that’s how desperate I am. I am losing sleep and crying every day thinking about how the social isolation must continue for another year.
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So I know me moving will result in us breaking up. Now I need to make new friends but it feels forced knowing I plan on moving the first moment I get. And my current relationship just feels … fake now… knowing I’m leaving this city the soonest possible while my partner chooses to stay. All of my relationships feel like they’re falling apart and I won’t be in a position to forge new ones until I move in a year. How can I heal the damage due to 6 years of social isolation? How can I be social in this time of social isolation? Im not that brand of autism that can function with total social isolation. I start to go crazy. Im about to show up to the old folks home to play bingo because that’s how desperate I am. I am losing sleep and crying every day thinking about how the social isolation must continue for another year.
2023.06.07 11:58 Competitive_Pop9002 Advice needed!!!!
I’m in love with a guy 3 years older to me and apparently he loves me too. Met him on Tinder, we have been in a relationship for 1.5years now.
I have apprehensions when it comes to sex. While this is the second guy I’m sleeping with, this is the first time I have crossed my comfort zones which are “normal” for other people but not for me. Because I had a harassment experience in my past.
Two things: First, this person told me that I don’t experiment enough, I’m boring and I don’t blow him. He always says that he is okay with whatever I do but also subtly tells me that he wants a blow job, which I’m not yet comfortable with.
Second, we broke up 3 weeks ago because had a huge fight on above. And when I told him it will take me time because of my reluctance he said he did not know about my childhood trauma which I remember sharing with him. That made me furious.
There’s also a religion factor. He is from a different religion. He has an older sister who does not like me and constantly tells him to break up with me. But these are petty issues as of now.
I have only listed down the negatives here. There are multiple positives too. He is caring, supportive, makes efforts etc.
I want advice on what shall I do? I do miss him but I’m also very upset. I don’t feel the same urge to talk to him but I also want him to fight for me.
Tl;dr: Partner not satisfied with me physically and what I do is the max I can do at present.
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I have apprehensions when it comes to sex. While this is the second guy I’m sleeping with, this is the first time I have crossed my comfort zones which are “normal” for other people but not for me. Because I had a harassment experience in my past.
Two things: First, this person told me that I don’t experiment enough, I’m boring and I don’t blow him. He always says that he is okay with whatever I do but also subtly tells me that he wants a blow job, which I’m not yet comfortable with.
Second, we broke up 3 weeks ago because had a huge fight on above. And when I told him it will take me time because of my reluctance he said he did not know about my childhood trauma which I remember sharing with him. That made me furious.
There’s also a religion factor. He is from a different religion. He has an older sister who does not like me and constantly tells him to break up with me. But these are petty issues as of now.
I have only listed down the negatives here. There are multiple positives too. He is caring, supportive, makes efforts etc.
I want advice on what shall I do? I do miss him but I’m also very upset. I don’t feel the same urge to talk to him but I also want him to fight for me.
Tl;dr: Partner not satisfied with me physically and what I do is the max I can do at present.
2023.06.07 11:58 Ok-Lengthiness6362 Im not sure what the ? Would be here.
I have just made a drastic change from having a decent body I was happy with to then getting hurt or I guess finally letting a old back and neck injury take me out of being able to do heavy types of jobs.
So I kinda fell back into working less I mean by not lifting super heavy for work and straining myself all the time.
I ended up gaining belly fat and my diet really tanked.
I started a bunch of vitamins again also getting my sleep correct.
These last few weeks tho my body has went from being okay eating once a day to now needing to eat 2/3 times a day. I’m getting exhausted plus shaky after 3/4 hours of work.
I’m switching to diet to just chicken rice and broccoli for a few weeks then a cup of coffee in the morning and a cup in the afternoon. I have also noticed I have became super lactose intolerant all the sudden.
I am under a ton of stress at work and now with a mri coming up to confirm my back issues and maybe surgery. Im guessing that might play a roll and also the amount of pain im in daily right now.
I think there is a lot of questions in here but I’m not sure where I should start.
Thanks for reading.
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So I kinda fell back into working less I mean by not lifting super heavy for work and straining myself all the time.
I ended up gaining belly fat and my diet really tanked.
I started a bunch of vitamins again also getting my sleep correct.
These last few weeks tho my body has went from being okay eating once a day to now needing to eat 2/3 times a day. I’m getting exhausted plus shaky after 3/4 hours of work.
I’m switching to diet to just chicken rice and broccoli for a few weeks then a cup of coffee in the morning and a cup in the afternoon. I have also noticed I have became super lactose intolerant all the sudden.
I am under a ton of stress at work and now with a mri coming up to confirm my back issues and maybe surgery. Im guessing that might play a roll and also the amount of pain im in daily right now.
I think there is a lot of questions in here but I’m not sure where I should start.
Thanks for reading.
2023.06.07 11:57 Bswinn71 Seeking advice: Feeling undervalued and wondering what to do from here.
I’ve been working at a pretty well established church for the past year and 8 months. Originally I got hired on as a part time production tech assistant to help out the full time staff member who was one of the salaried positions. At the time of me being hired I didn’t care all that much about the money, and just wanted to do a fun job where I could work doing sound, and make some extra money to support my band hobby. My starting pay was the states minimum wage.
At the beginning of this year, our main production manager left his position for a higher paying position out of state and gave us about a weeks notice before he departed. This essentially left most of his duties and responsibilities to me. My boss talked to me and asked me to come in full time temporarily until we found a new person to replace our production manager. He also asked that I start to pick up some of the responsibilities while we search for a replacement. Under the impression that this process would take a month or two until we could find a potential replacement, I agreed, and was given a 2$ raise.
Fast forward to today. It’s been 6 months since our production manager had left, and we still have yet to find someone to take his role. In that time i’ve begun to pick up more and more of his responsibilities, including, running sound, setting up and running our online campus, troubleshooting and managing our dante network, and video network, performing two stage changes with redoing lighting, stage risers, and an LED wall, and other miscellaneous tasks that are assigned during the week for me. All while still having the same pay, same amount of hours, and much tighter financial situation due to having to move into my own apartment.
I just had a recent meeting with my boss where I talked about what the churches plan was for replacing our old production manager, and what happens with my position after said person is hired. My boss says that the church isn’t going to hire anybody until January of next year and that they don’t know what my role is when that happens. He also expresses that he is unhappy with my performance because i’m unable to get all tasks done that are asked of me, and that i’ve been coming to work tired. I tried to explain to him that i’m struggling financially to live and that i’m not able rest because of all of the stress of this job. I also brought up that this job is a lot for one person to handle.
I just feel that i’m being taken advantage of at this point and being underpaid what i’m worth. I’m not entirely sure what to do about this moving forward and was wondering if any of you would have potential advice. I really enjoy this job, but i’m unfortunately struggling to get by month to month and don’t know what to do at this point.
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At the beginning of this year, our main production manager left his position for a higher paying position out of state and gave us about a weeks notice before he departed. This essentially left most of his duties and responsibilities to me. My boss talked to me and asked me to come in full time temporarily until we found a new person to replace our production manager. He also asked that I start to pick up some of the responsibilities while we search for a replacement. Under the impression that this process would take a month or two until we could find a potential replacement, I agreed, and was given a 2$ raise.
Fast forward to today. It’s been 6 months since our production manager had left, and we still have yet to find someone to take his role. In that time i’ve begun to pick up more and more of his responsibilities, including, running sound, setting up and running our online campus, troubleshooting and managing our dante network, and video network, performing two stage changes with redoing lighting, stage risers, and an LED wall, and other miscellaneous tasks that are assigned during the week for me. All while still having the same pay, same amount of hours, and much tighter financial situation due to having to move into my own apartment.
I just had a recent meeting with my boss where I talked about what the churches plan was for replacing our old production manager, and what happens with my position after said person is hired. My boss says that the church isn’t going to hire anybody until January of next year and that they don’t know what my role is when that happens. He also expresses that he is unhappy with my performance because i’m unable to get all tasks done that are asked of me, and that i’ve been coming to work tired. I tried to explain to him that i’m struggling financially to live and that i’m not able rest because of all of the stress of this job. I also brought up that this job is a lot for one person to handle.
I just feel that i’m being taken advantage of at this point and being underpaid what i’m worth. I’m not entirely sure what to do about this moving forward and was wondering if any of you would have potential advice. I really enjoy this job, but i’m unfortunately struggling to get by month to month and don’t know what to do at this point.
2023.06.07 11:57 mArKoLeW My dreams seem dumber and dumber the more time I spent here
DISCLAIMER: I am no professional and trying to educate myself on the go.
Hi, I started to plan a homelab for myself and did quite a lot of work on that so far. Planned nearly everything out and am currently looking for HW and starting to feel down. I layout out my future rack (left is front, right is back) and noticed it's going to be expensive but that's fine as I am going to do it modularly so step by step. Even though it's going to stay in the planning state for quite some time as I want to do it properly and not spontaneously.
In general, I want to have something like a "three node" setup (one node optimized for cpu power for tasks like virtualization and for example cfd, one node for gaming and GPU accelerated computing, and one "node" [consisting out of at least 3 low power nodes] for HA and serving services like DNS, pihole, website, etc) The Diagram is quite complicated but you maybe get the idea. I want to only have the HA nodes running all the time and powering up the "bigger" ones only when I need them.
My main focus for hardware is the ability to scale the "power" nodes up. So a great mainboard in which I could for example easily put more and more ram or more GPUs without having to change the mainboard. Feeling like "Oh I need more RAM" Okay just buy it, put it in, and be done without the overhead of needing to change the mainboard and so on. The goal is to make them more overpowered as money finds its way into my pocket.
What I am struggling with now is finding suitable hardware for that purpose and it makes me question the whole project. So I just thought I could share my progress so far with planning, maybe a lil sanity check, and some recommendations on trusted stores for used commercial-grade server components to get the motivation up again. Also, a lot of concerns in posts on here about noise and heat, and the classic only get what you need is stressing me a bit out. So as I plan and read on here I feel more educated but also more delusional about my project.
Also how much did you guys plan and how did you cope with struggles while doing so? Or did you just go with the moment?
If someone feels like talking about it on maybe discord or sth I would be more than happy about that.
Just for fun here is my network diagram but I don't think that is important. I am going to try to realize it with Proxmox and VLANs.
Please ask for any more information you want/need and give feedback on my post itself.
By the way, I see the whole planning and homelab as a hobby so I am not interested in rented or cloud solutions.
So please share your thoughts if you have time and maybe I get a great new idea.
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Hi, I started to plan a homelab for myself and did quite a lot of work on that so far. Planned nearly everything out and am currently looking for HW and starting to feel down. I layout out my future rack (left is front, right is back) and noticed it's going to be expensive but that's fine as I am going to do it modularly so step by step. Even though it's going to stay in the planning state for quite some time as I want to do it properly and not spontaneously.
In general, I want to have something like a "three node" setup (one node optimized for cpu power for tasks like virtualization and for example cfd, one node for gaming and GPU accelerated computing, and one "node" [consisting out of at least 3 low power nodes] for HA and serving services like DNS, pihole, website, etc) The Diagram is quite complicated but you maybe get the idea. I want to only have the HA nodes running all the time and powering up the "bigger" ones only when I need them.
My main focus for hardware is the ability to scale the "power" nodes up. So a great mainboard in which I could for example easily put more and more ram or more GPUs without having to change the mainboard. Feeling like "Oh I need more RAM" Okay just buy it, put it in, and be done without the overhead of needing to change the mainboard and so on. The goal is to make them more overpowered as money finds its way into my pocket.
What I am struggling with now is finding suitable hardware for that purpose and it makes me question the whole project. So I just thought I could share my progress so far with planning, maybe a lil sanity check, and some recommendations on trusted stores for used commercial-grade server components to get the motivation up again. Also, a lot of concerns in posts on here about noise and heat, and the classic only get what you need is stressing me a bit out. So as I plan and read on here I feel more educated but also more delusional about my project.
Also how much did you guys plan and how did you cope with struggles while doing so? Or did you just go with the moment?
If someone feels like talking about it on maybe discord or sth I would be more than happy about that.
Just for fun here is my network diagram but I don't think that is important. I am going to try to realize it with Proxmox and VLANs.
Please ask for any more information you want/need and give feedback on my post itself.
By the way, I see the whole planning and homelab as a hobby so I am not interested in rented or cloud solutions.
So please share your thoughts if you have time and maybe I get a great new idea.
2023.06.07 11:57 StellaStars222 I am so desperate to escape my controlling, racist mother
I (25F) live in California with my mother. If you don’t know, California is a very expensive place to live, so I’ve been taking advantage of the opportunity to live at home whilst going to college. I love school, my grades are great, and eventually, I will collect a degree in psychology and find myself a good paying job. However, while I am still young it’s been my goal to spend my college years traveling and preforming with the Circus. For the past 7 years I’ve had my mind made up to buy myself a truck and trailer and spend a few years with them, for the experience. While I’ve obtained the skills necessary to work in the circus, I haven’t been able to make this a reality for a variety of reasons, but mainly because of my mother deliberately doing everything she can to stop me.
So my mother has always been very opposed to my plan of joining the circus, and she’s done a really good job over the years at making that crystal clear to me through her words and actions (the reason is because she is racist and believes that the people in the Circus are all criminals and shady people. Even though they are literally just acrobats). Her first step in hindering my plans was to buy herself an RV(literally as soon as I asked her if I could buy my own to park in our driveway)- which eliminated the possibility of me buying my own trailer and putting it close enough to my home to work on it. Without anywhere to put an old beat up trailer that I could work on, my only option would be to buy an RV that’s already in livable condition (which I simply could never afford).
Fast forward to last January, I’m starting to feel desperate. I feel like I have no options left but to give up on my dreams, because I can’t make them a reality. I’m extremely depressed, and I try to talk to my mother about it because she recently sold one of the cars and now there is finally space for me to put a trailer. I reached out to her, I was honest and open about how I felt like she’s holding me back from my dreams and I need to do this in order to be happy with my life… She completely shut me down, acted like I was attacking her and wouldn’t even talk about it. She has been stonewalling me ever since (so 6 months now).
Before I attempted to talk to her about the parking space in January, she he had planned to gift me her old car when she bought herself a new one. Well now that she is stonewalling me for the last six months she has decided that she doesn’t think I “should” own a car yet (on the basis that I smoke weed). It’s feels like such a bold attempt at gatekeeping that I can’t even wrap my mind around it. Again, I’m a 25 year old woman. I’m going to get a car when I decide to get one. I feel like this is just another way for her to hold me back in her mind.
Living with a mother that’s this controlling is really starting to hurt my mental health. I honestly have no idea how to get myself out of this situation. I know my first step would be to buy a truck, that way I can haul a trailer somewhere where I can actually work on it. The problem with that is I have no idea how to look for a used truck that’s in good condition, and nobody willing to help me. I think I might have to go to the dealership by myself and just accept the fact that I might get scammed. I wish so bad I had parents who were willing to help me, or at least some adult who knows what they are doing. I’ll take any advice I can get…
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So my mother has always been very opposed to my plan of joining the circus, and she’s done a really good job over the years at making that crystal clear to me through her words and actions (the reason is because she is racist and believes that the people in the Circus are all criminals and shady people. Even though they are literally just acrobats). Her first step in hindering my plans was to buy herself an RV(literally as soon as I asked her if I could buy my own to park in our driveway)- which eliminated the possibility of me buying my own trailer and putting it close enough to my home to work on it. Without anywhere to put an old beat up trailer that I could work on, my only option would be to buy an RV that’s already in livable condition (which I simply could never afford).
Fast forward to last January, I’m starting to feel desperate. I feel like I have no options left but to give up on my dreams, because I can’t make them a reality. I’m extremely depressed, and I try to talk to my mother about it because she recently sold one of the cars and now there is finally space for me to put a trailer. I reached out to her, I was honest and open about how I felt like she’s holding me back from my dreams and I need to do this in order to be happy with my life… She completely shut me down, acted like I was attacking her and wouldn’t even talk about it. She has been stonewalling me ever since (so 6 months now).
Before I attempted to talk to her about the parking space in January, she he had planned to gift me her old car when she bought herself a new one. Well now that she is stonewalling me for the last six months she has decided that she doesn’t think I “should” own a car yet (on the basis that I smoke weed). It’s feels like such a bold attempt at gatekeeping that I can’t even wrap my mind around it. Again, I’m a 25 year old woman. I’m going to get a car when I decide to get one. I feel like this is just another way for her to hold me back in her mind.
Living with a mother that’s this controlling is really starting to hurt my mental health. I honestly have no idea how to get myself out of this situation. I know my first step would be to buy a truck, that way I can haul a trailer somewhere where I can actually work on it. The problem with that is I have no idea how to look for a used truck that’s in good condition, and nobody willing to help me. I think I might have to go to the dealership by myself and just accept the fact that I might get scammed. I wish so bad I had parents who were willing to help me, or at least some adult who knows what they are doing. I’ll take any advice I can get…
2023.06.07 11:57 Jaded_Beginning_1222 My husband has been paying for sec for over a decade
Hello, everyone. This is my first Reddit post, please excuse any mistakes. I’m also not great with the acronyms…
Title is self explanatory. We have been living together since 2009, married in 2022, and he first had an EA (which became a PA!) in 2010. We had a one month ‘break’ then he started paying for sex around 2012 (I think he has always done this, but I can only find proof going back to 2012)
I found out on April 1st 2023. He doesn’t know that I know, but I have over 300 screenshots of him looking for sex online and offline.
I don’t know for sure why I’m posting here, I just feel so alone in this situation and perhaps need some advice and to vent.
We used to have sex fairly regularly, I am 37 yo F HL and always thought he was LL but I guess I was wrong, he did want sex (perverse that is!) just not with me.
He said to me once that he didn’t want to have sex more often for fear of getting bored of me! We haven’t had sex in nearly 8/9 years (at least, I haven’t!)
I am booked in for STI tests already. I know I should get a divorce and leave him, I’m just scared of his reaction and that I will be alone. Not that I really want to be anything besides alone right now.
This all came out at the same time I found out I had been abused as a child…
I’ve been reading posts on here and it does help a little, I though maybe posting may help even more. I will keep doing it
The biggest thing for me right now is to tell him that I know (he is 43yo M, by the way- online he pretends to be 35-38!)
I’ve written a letter (which is way too long to put on here, I tried) but haven’t had the strength to read it to him.
He couldn’t talk to me about what he wanted in bed but he could easily talk to strangers!
I just need to talk to him and I don’t know how…
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Title is self explanatory. We have been living together since 2009, married in 2022, and he first had an EA (which became a PA!) in 2010. We had a one month ‘break’ then he started paying for sex around 2012 (I think he has always done this, but I can only find proof going back to 2012)
I found out on April 1st 2023. He doesn’t know that I know, but I have over 300 screenshots of him looking for sex online and offline.
I don’t know for sure why I’m posting here, I just feel so alone in this situation and perhaps need some advice and to vent.
We used to have sex fairly regularly, I am 37 yo F HL and always thought he was LL but I guess I was wrong, he did want sex (perverse that is!) just not with me.
He said to me once that he didn’t want to have sex more often for fear of getting bored of me! We haven’t had sex in nearly 8/9 years (at least, I haven’t!)
I am booked in for STI tests already. I know I should get a divorce and leave him, I’m just scared of his reaction and that I will be alone. Not that I really want to be anything besides alone right now.
This all came out at the same time I found out I had been abused as a child…
I’ve been reading posts on here and it does help a little, I though maybe posting may help even more. I will keep doing it
The biggest thing for me right now is to tell him that I know (he is 43yo M, by the way- online he pretends to be 35-38!)
I’ve written a letter (which is way too long to put on here, I tried) but haven’t had the strength to read it to him.
He couldn’t talk to me about what he wanted in bed but he could easily talk to strangers!
I just need to talk to him and I don’t know how…