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2012.10.25 19:54 filmbaker Classic Horror: Movies of the Silver Scream

A Community That Celebrates Classic Horror Movies of the Silver Scream!
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2018.09.27 06:32 sailorjupiter28titan Witches vs Patriarchy

WitchesVsPatriarchy is a woman-centered sub with a witchy twist, aimed at healing, supporting, and uplifting one another through humor and magic. The goal is to at once embrace, and poke fun at, the mystical aspects of femininity that have been previously demonized and/or devalued by the patriarchy. This subreddit is a Safe Space for Women, BIPOC, and anyone in the LGBTQ+ community. We are Sisters, not Cisters. If you do not consider yourself an ally, then this subreddit is not for you.
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2023.06.03 13:23 Kobebell Puppy more tired than usual

My puppy is about 7 months old and very healthy, active and bright. Last night while we were at a friends house she slept most of the time which seemed odd to me, but I figured we just wore her out. This morning she didn’t bounce on us and lick us like she normally does to wake us up. I took her out and she peed and pooped like normal, ate her breakfast and is now sleeping again.
Yesterday I took her for a jog for the first time ever. She has been extra active for several days since summer break started. The only things I notice otherwise are she’s a bit itchy and she is stretching more than normal.
We also just lost our other dog unexpectedly last month, she started acting weird one day and then was gone the next. I’m definitely hypersensitive because of that and can’t tell if I’m overreacting. Should I bring her to the vet?
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2023.06.03 13:22 CovertFlobert [H] Rain World, Ashina, Bendy, Dicey Dungeons, and 40+ other games [W] Wishlist

Hey folks! I recently purchased the Metroidvania bundle and have some leftover games from that as well as leftovers from other bundles. I'd be happy to trade for stuff from my wishlist; in case of expensive keys (like Borderlands Enhanced) I'd be able to trade for multiple games. Looking forward to your offers!
Ashina: The Red Witch Act of Aggression – Reboot Edition Aground An Elder Scrolls Legend: Battlespire Arcade Paradise - Arcade Paradise EP AVICII Invector AVICII Invector: Magma Track Pack AVICII Invector: TIM Track Pack Bendy and the Dark Revival Bionic Commando Rearmed Biped Blasphemous Builder Simulator Calico Cobra Kai: The Karate Kid Saga Dead Island Definitive Edition Deadlight Dicey Dungeons Dishonored Don’t Starve Together DreadOut Dread X Collection 2 Dread X Collection 3 DUSK '82: ULTIMATE EDITION Eldest Souls Escape the Backrooms Evan’s Remains Field of Glory II Founders' Fortune Garfield Kart Ghostrunner Giana Sisters: Twisted Dreams Giana Sisters: Twisted Dreams - Rise of the Owlverlord GOAT OF DUTY Golden Light Golf Gang Grim Fandango Remastered Helheim Hassle Haiku, the Robot Hero’s Hour Hero's Hour Hotshot Racing (Expires June 2nd) Hue Ironcast Just Die Already Legend of Keepers: Career of a Dungeon Manager Lone Fungus Lost Ruins Mega Man Legacy Collection Monster Slayers Monster Slayers – Fire and Steel Expansion Monster Slayers –Advanced Class Unlocker Morrowind (Epic Games Store) Monument Valley: Panoramic Edition Monument Valley 2: Panoramic Edition Neighbours back From Hell Newt One Nihilumbra Oddworld: Abe's Exoddus® Oddworld: Munch's Oddysee Orbital Bullet – The 360° Rogue-lite Osteoblasts Overclocked: A History of Violence Pathfinder: Kingmaker Enhanced Edition (EU-locked) Perfect Punch Club: Deluxe Edition Rain World Rebel Galaxy Outlaw Red Solstice 2: Survivors S.W.I.N.E. HD Remaster Sacred Franchise Pack (NA Region Lock) Semblance Sifu Deluxe Edition Upgrade Bundle Skully Slain: Back from Hell StarCrossed Steel Rats™ STONE Strider Stygian Reign of the Old Ones Teacup The Elder Scrolls Adventures: Redguard The Forest Cathedral THE GAME OF LIFE The Life and Suffering of Sir Brante Those Who Remain Timelock VR 2 Tropico 4: Collectors Bundle Turok Viking Brothers 6 We Should Talk Wolfenstein: The Old Blood World of Zoo XCom 2 My IGSRep page: https://www.reddit.com/IGSRep/comments/10wdpah/covertfloberts\_igs\_rep\_page\_numbe My wishlist: https://store.steampowered.com/wishlist/profiles/76561198131585105/#sort=discount
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2023.06.03 13:22 pridetwo Four Grievances: Barrister and Mann - The Many Transgressions of a Soapmaker Who Would be a Perfumer

Introduction

I've been a part of this community for long enough that maybe 3 people recognize the color of my shave towels when I post on /wicked_edge (they're purple). In /wetshaving, I occasionally make dick jokes with mammothben.
As a result, I've spent about an hour ruminating on this post and how to make the Maggard Meetup as awkward as possible. These are my memes and mine alone. I have rejected several cash offers to not post these findings, and I will not be stopped.

Grievance #1: Ending the Base Race

Background

In the before-fore times, the meta for soapmaking that every soapmaker followed was to get a handful of main scents that they keep the same, and release small tweaks to their soap base every 6 months to render the community's collection obsolete and generate a buying spree where people now had to get their favorite scents in the "latest and greatest" soap base.
Many consider this era the golden age of wetshaving, and Barrister and Mann was an active contributor to the base race. White Label/Black Label base, Glissant base, Latha base, Reserve base, Soft Heart base, and Excelsior base all helped encourage wetshavers across the world buy Seville multiple times in the hopes for better slickness, improved cushion (which is totally a thing), and the ultimate post-shave feel.
Then everything changed when the Omniberries attacked.

Omnibus

On September 29, 2021, a nuclear salvo was unleashed from the halls of barristerandmann.com. Leviathan was released in the Omnibus base, and soapmakers around the world waved the white flag on the base race.
Declaration Grooming's Milksteak, Sus Artisan Accoutrement's CK-6, Boob-label & Evans' Kaizen K2. These mainstays of American soap bases have remained stagnant ever since. Omnibus effectively ended the base race across the entire market, and led to the community consensus becoming "chase scents, not bases."

Why This Matters

This alone isn't problematic, having a stable set of great bases to choose from and allowing premiere soapmakers to focus on releasing more interesting scents in smaller batches is good for the community, for the industry, and the world.
The problem arises when old, established brands like Tabac take the end of the base race as a signal from the market that they can cut costs by moving their soaps onto to inferior bases. I'm not saying that it's Will's fault that tallow Tabac is now unobtanium, but you could make the argument that it's Will's fault that tallow Tabac is now unobtanium.

The Solution

The best way the community can address this issue is to write daily letters to Maurer & Wirtz that they need to bring back the tallow base for Tabac, and buy out Maggad Razors' stock of 4.1/4.2 base Saponificio Varesino soaps so they can restock everything in the 4.3 base.

Grievance #2: Financial Abuse

Background

Every few years, the copyright expiration date on Mickey Mouse looms near and Disney lobbies the US government to extend the copyright expiration date so that Disney can maintain their stranglehold on The Mouse, despite their eager use of public domain IP like Sherlock Holmes and King Arthur. Is Will literally Big Soap? I'm not saying he is, I'm just asking questions.

Mousse de Saxe

Will has a whole blog post on how he came about his formulation of Mousse de Saxe, and while it's a very interesting story and his formulation of MdS has become catnip for wetshavers, it's also become something of a crutch in his soapmaking. MdS features in Beadelaire, Full Measure of Man, Lavanille, Le Grand Chypre, and most recently in Vespers.

Why This Matters

Although many of us in the community have no thrill anymore, MdS remains the inimitable constant source of thrill at all of /wetshaving cannot resist. L'appel du mousse is the compelling urge one feels to buy at least a sample (I just need a taste!) of Will's latest release featuring Mousse de Saxe. Will knows this fact about us. He knows it well. My sources tell me Will has bought several jetskis with the money he's earned from abusing this fact about us. And he can't keep getting away with it.

The Solution

Since the turn of the new millennium, sex strikes have proven effective in Colombia, The Phillippines, South Sudan, Togo, and elsewhere. By withholding that which their oppressors desire until behavior is changed, peace can be achieved. So to everyone at the Maggard Meetup, I call upon you to refrain from complimenting Will's scent-making until he releases Mousse de Saxe as a standalone dropper that can be added to soaps and aftershaves a la Declaration Grooming's menthol dropper. Si se puede!

Grievance #3: Olfactory Abuse

Background

It is at this point in the post that I must concede, Will is the superior meme-meister. This absolute madlad is at the gigabrain Dr. Manhattan level of the soapmaking world, except instead of moving to Mars he's decided to dead-ass fuck with us. Seville prints more money than the Nintendo Switch, he's got MdS for whenever he wants the cash to buy another jetski, and Omnibus ensures no other soapmaker will encroach on his soap base superiority. How do I know he's decided to stunt on our noses? Because of 2 scent notes.

Cilantro and Cum

Let's start with Cilantro. When the Four Horsemen series was announced, the wetshaving community was awash with curiosity and speculation about what each of the four horsemen would smell like. Would it be like how Noble Otter tackled the "Firefighter" theme without actually making a soap that smelled like a fire?
No. War would smell like an actual war crime. How does one scent a war crime? Apparently with Cilantro. I have it on good authority that Will devised the scent profile for War when eating tacos for taco tuesday and the topic of how cilantro tastes like soap to some people with a specific gene. "Well what would happen if I added an ingredient that tastes like soap to my actual soap?" and off he went. His friends and family didn't see him for days. The Cleveland Browns found a post-it note that had "Cilantro No Matter What" scribbled on it. And some time later, a scent that could curdle Wholly Kaw's Creme Fraiche base was brought to market. Will knew that we'd buy all 4 scents, get all matchy-matchy, and even dickhole the aftershaves. And then the SOTD's began. "My wife hates this," "my cat peed on the tub when I left it open to dry," "why has god forsaken me?" Guess who was laughing his ass off from Mars? Our very own Dr. Manhattan.
For those of us familiar with Pear Tree blossoms, they have a very particular scent. The kind of scent that makes guys inspect their pant leg and say "I'm fairly certain I didn't miss." The kind of scent that makes women think "Oh gross, honey I told you to change your underwear after last night." That's right, Pear Tree blossoms smell like cum. So when Will was considering what scent to re-release for Spring 2023, did he select fan favorite Paganini's Violin or the fruity fougere Passiflora? (Both of which he relased bath soaps for in February). No, he chose the cum soap. The soap that's supposed to remind you of the time you took a walk through Central Park and rounded a corner only to be accosted by a masturbating homeless man.
I tried to give Will the benefit of the doubt, and asked point blank "Is the pear blossom accord in Rhapsody going to be as, well... pear blossom-y as the original Rhapsody formulation?" to which he responded "Why would I change it?" He knew. He knew what he was doing when he originally released the soap, and he knew why I was asking if he had changed it in the re-release. Dr. Manhattan was laughing on Mars again.

Why This Matters

This matters because Will still hasn't re-released Roam and I need the matching aftershave in my life. There are only so many fresh tubs of Roam out there that j33pguy13 can source for me. Instead, Will chooses to re-release Rhapsody and put together what may go down in history as the most infamous multi-scent meme soap release in history with the Four Horsemen. This is a personal attack on my love for Roam and I will not stand for it.

The Solution

Will, re-release Roam and all is forgiven.

Grievance #4: Feet

Preface

I'm a heterosexual male, but that shouldn't matter when it comes to shaving products or labels. Yes, we drank beer. My friends and I. Boys and girls. Yes, we drank beer. I liked beer. Still like beer. We drank beer.

The Problem

Lavender, Interrupted has been to Will as At the Mountains of Madness has been to Guillermo Del Toro. Everyone wants to see it. Will wants to make it. But the creative ambition of the project makes the promised project almost un-makeable. Lavender, Interrupted had been long promised as an evolution of the lauded Lavanille scent, but faced delays and reformulations, and further delays.
And now, today, many of you will go to the Maggard Meetup anticipating getting a full bottle or sample of the long awaited fragrance. And I can't say I'm not jealous.
I'm really jealous.
But lets wind the clock back to Tuesday March 21, 2023 and remember the Deals/New Products thread from that day.
"Happy Tuesday!
Just wanted to drop in quickly to let you all know that the Q2 2023 Release Schedule is now posted on our blog and that it features a sneak peek at a mockup for Lavender, Interrupted packaging."
Will wanted us to see the packaging. Not a new blog post on how he put the final touches on the fragrance. Not a picture of the bottle it would be sold in. He wanted us to see the picture of sexy feet he put on the box. He postponed Lavender, Interrupted and strung us along just so that his feet pics could get maximum exposure with minimum heat. Are those Will's feet on the box of Lavender, Interrupted? Why does will want us to see pictures of his feet in thigh-high stockings? I'm not saying they are Will's feet on the packaging of Lavender, Interrupted. I'm just asking questions.

The Solution

Nothing really to be done about this other than be mad about discovering new about ourselves. Just accept that we're all going to love this fragrance and that the box with sexy feet on it will be in many wetshavers' dens, delighting Will that his feet pics are going to be all over the sub's mail call threads for years to come.

Conclusion

I'm not sure why you read this far. It's lot to take in, I know. I'm intentionally avoiding a few smaller topics of less import, like... Night Music having poo notes. I'm not going to critique Will/Barrister and Mann beyond that, because it's already been established that he's straight up fucking with us with some of these scents and I am 100% here for it.
I've been wracked with guilt holding onto this knowledge while wetshavers around the world continue to buy Will's wonderful products, but I realized the potential hilarity of pointing out Will's sexy feet pics the morning of the Maggard Meetup was too much to pass up. My intention is just to meme on everyone tangentially related to what I've posted here, and to get Roam a proper re-release. I will not source any of my claims, and I expect you to do your own research. Take my word for it.
After all of this though, I am convinced that Will is an absolute gigachad in the wetshaving world. Please join me in encouraging Will to re-release Roam.
TL;DR Does this sub even have mods anymore? Why is this post still up?
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2023.06.03 13:18 RavenNevermore4 More from Bunnie's podcast with Kail

From The Ashley:
On cheating on her partners & having a “revolving door of men” in her life:
“I get a lot of s**t because I do cheat, or I have cheated,” Kail said.
Kail pointed to her childhood trauma as a possible reason for her cheating, but stated that she also refuses to be unhappy in a relationship.
“I also leave if I’m not satisfied or happy and I think that people don’t like that. People don’t like that I leave,” she said. “I’m not gonna stay somewhere I’m not happy. So it does kind of look like [I have] a revolving door of men, but also I know when and when not to introduce them to my kids.
“There’s people who date all the time and they don’t get s**t for it.”
On why she almost got an abortion with her fourth son, Creed:
Kail also discussed her time with Chris, which she called “by far, my most tumultuous, toxic relationship.”
“When I met Chris, it started off very toxic. I would say about six months in, I had already had a miscarriage with him. At that point, I had found out that he had two other girlfriends, full-time girlfriends. These were not side chicks. All three of us were main f**king girlfriends…I found out when I was pregnant with my son Lux. None of us knew about each other.”
Kail claimed that Chris was living with her full-time during this period.
On finding out Chris was having a baby with his other girlfriend:
“That was really hard for me to learn that he was having a baby with her,” Kail said. “I had a mental breakdown that day…I called my therapist on an emergency basis and she talked me through it. I basically blacked out. I don’t even remember what the conversation was. I accepted that he was having this child and from that point forward, I never looked back.”
Kail said she hasn’t had a good relationship with Chris since.
“I’ve never hooked up with him, we don’t talk, we don’t hang out, we’re not friendly. There’s been one or two friendly times where we’ve tried to be cordial but it ultimately just goes to s**t every time. It’s hard,” she said.
On the only reason she doesn’t try to get with Chris anymore:
Kail— who, earlier in the podcast, stated that she loved Chris more than she’s ever loved anyone she’s dated— admitted that she would probably still be trying to get with Chris if it wasn’t for one thing.
‘Here’s the thing: I don’t date men with kids. And if it wasn’t for that, I don’t think I would be done with him today,” she said.
On the real reasons she left ‘Teen Mom 2’:
“It was a really hard decision for me but I had been really struggling with the fact that I went through such a public divorce. And then the stuff with Chris was so messy. My kids are getting older, Isaac really didn’t want to film anymore. So I was just kind of feeling like, ‘Maybe this is time for me to move on,'” she said.
“My kids didn’t want to film. I just wanted the privacy and to kind of just move on,” she added.
On whether or not she would return to a ‘Teen Mom’ show:
Kail has made it clear that she is interested in coming back to reality TV, but says it won’t be on a ‘Teen Mom’ show.
“They’ve asked me a couple times to come back, but I’m so far removed from that now that I can’t see myself going back to the show, specifically,” Kail said, although she stated that she would “absolutely” be down to star on her own reality show.
On plastic surgery:
Kail also talked about the plastic surgery she’s gotten over the years, including a tummy tuck, Lipo 360 and the Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL) she got live on Snapchat by Dr. Miami in 2016.
“I love plastic surgery,” Kail said. “The only regret I have is not waiting until I was done having kids. I had the Mommy Makeover after my second son and I could definitely go for another.”
One thing Kail regrets, though, is getting her BBL, which she says has not aged well.
“I don’t love [my BBL]. I want it removed immediately,” she said. “Gravity is kind of pulling it down a little bit.”
When I did the BBL and I did the Lipo 360 I wanted everything to match because I felt like, ‘I can’t have a huge butt and then have my waist be small and my arms big.’ So I had it in my arms. My butt and my arms have grown insane. But now what? I don’t know what I can do about it. Gravity pulls down your butt a little bit and it just looks crazy and I can’t find jeans that fit me.
On having even more kids:
Kail has four kids currently, (and it’s been intensely speculated that she gave birth to a fifth child by her current boyfriend Elijah Scott around November 2022, but she’s never confirmed it). However, she said she’s willing to grow her litter even more.
“I am in a relationship now and yes [I’m open to having more kids]…[Elijah] deserves kids of his own,” she said.
https://www.theashleysrealityroundup.com/2023/06/02/kail-lowry-talks-to-bunnie-xo-about-her-revolving-door-of-men-why-she-really-quit-teen-mom-2-what-plastic-surgery-she-regrets-getting/
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2023.06.03 13:16 vivaladisney 31M - I'm lonely and I need a friend [friendship]

Oh, hi, I almost didn't see you there. so, as much as I might try to hide it, I'm a human just like the rest of us. I think that humans need some level of social interaction. I am usually fairly content doing things on my own, but I need to be honest with myself and admit that I am missing something. I am lonely. I would really like to have a friend, someone that I can connect to, have a real human connection with. even though I have always kind of been more on the side of being a loner, I do like talking. with the right person, that is. and I'm hoping to find the right person. because when I am talking to the right person, I love it. I love just chatting about any random thing that pops into our head.
a bit about me, I'm a 31-year-old guy from california, I'm single, and only because I think that it's somewhat relevant, I have OCD. no need to dwell on that, though.
I'm pretty bad at talking about myself unprompted, I prefer to have a back and forth with someone as a way of getting to know each other. I love questions, I think that asking each other questions is a great way to get to know the person you're talking to, and I also just think it's really entertaining.
but okay, how about some things that I'm interested in;
•movies. this is a big one. I really love film, and I'll watch any type. I basically want to watch and know about as much as I can when it comes to movies. from the most highbrow art film, to the trashiest horror movie, I'll watch it all, and I love it. see anything good lately? I want to hear about it.
•magic. as in, you know, like, tricks. I've been doing it my whole life, and I don't care how nerdy it is, I find it really interesting and fun.
•reading. all kinds of different things. I like nonfiction, especially digging through articles of weird events from history and stuff like that. but I also like short stories. I think that mysteries and detective stories are really cool. I do enjoy novels as well, but I just don't read as many of them as I would like. read anything good lately? let's hear about it.
•I told you I was bad at talking about myself, so I can't think of another thing to mention off the top of my head. I guess if you're curious you'll just have to message me and you can find out.
as for what I'm looking for, I'm pretty open. some things that I would request of the person I would talk to though, would be that you are over the age of 18 (okay, this one is less of a request, and more like I won't reply if you aren't), although aside from that I don't really care too much about age, that you're open-minded, and I would also say that, although it's not as if I'm specifically looking for anything like this, I would request that if you aren't single, that you can at least be sure that whatever your relationship situation is, if we talk it won't be anyone's back. I'm not comfortable with that. oh, I will also say that if you are the type of person who is prone to ghosting people, I'd request that you not reach out, because I have just had enough of those experiences and it's kind of a pet peeve of mine. I'm not saying that I expect long involved conversations with every single person that I interact with, but if we do get in touch and you decide that you aren't really feeling it and would rather not keep it going, then one simple, short message letting me know that would go a long way. so apart from those things, there's not really much else. I really am open to talking to just about anyone.
so, as I said, if you're curious, or looking for someone to talk to, feel free to message me.
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2023.06.03 13:14 vivaladisney 31M - I need a friend

Oh, hi, I almost didn't see you there. so, as much as I might try to hide it, I'm a human just like the rest of us. I think that humans need some level of social interaction. I am usually fairly content doing things on my own, but I need to be honest with myself and admit that I am missing something. I am lonely. I would really like to have a friend, someone that I can connect to, have a real human connection with. even though I have always kind of been more on the side of being a loner, I do like talking. with the right person, that is. and I'm hoping to find the right person. because when I am talking to the right person, I love it. I love just chatting about any random thing that pops into our head.
a bit about me, I'm a 31-year-old guy from california, I'm single, and only because I think that it's somewhat relevant, I have OCD. no need to dwell on that, though.
I'm pretty bad at talking about myself unprompted, I prefer to have a back and forth with someone as a way of getting to know each other. I love questions, I think that asking each other questions is a great way to get to know the person you're talking to, and I also just think it's really entertaining.
but okay, how about some things that I'm interested in;
•movies. this is a big one. I really love film, and I'll watch any type. I basically want to watch and know about as much as I can when it comes to movies. from the most highbrow art film, to the trashiest horror movie, I'll watch it all, and I love it. see anything good lately? I want to hear about it.
•magic. as in, you know, like, tricks. I've been doing it my whole life, and I don't care how nerdy it is, I find it really interesting and fun.
•reading. all kinds of different things. I like nonfiction, especially digging through articles of weird events from history and stuff like that. but I also like short stories. I think that mysteries and detective stories are really cool. I do enjoy novels as well, but I just don't read as many of them as I would like. read anything good lately? let's hear about it.
•I told you I was bad at talking about myself, so I can't think of another thing to mention off the top of my head. I guess if you're curious you'll just have to message me and you can find out.
as for what I'm looking for, I'm pretty open. some things that I would request of the person I would talk to though, would be that you are over the age of 18 (okay, this one is less of a request, and more like I won't reply if you aren't), although aside from that I don't really care too much about age, that you're open-minded, and I would also say that, although it's not as if I'm specifically looking for anything like this, I would request that if you aren't single, that you can at least be sure that whatever your relationship situation is, if we talk it won't be anyone's back. I'm not comfortable with that. oh, I will also say that if you are the type of person who is prone to ghosting people, I'd request that you not reach out, because I have just had enough of those experiences and it's kind of a pet peeve of mine. I'm not saying that I expect long involved conversations with every single person that I interact with, but if we do get in touch and you decide that you aren't really feeling it and would rather not keep it going, then one simple, short message letting me know that would go a long way. so apart from those things, there's not really much else. I really am open to talking to just about anyone.
so, as I said, if you're curious, or looking for someone to talk to, feel free to message me.
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2023.06.03 13:11 random_vote 31 [M4F] Europe/Europe - Affection, cuddles and a genuine connection!

Hello! I'm looking for a connection, someone with whom awkward silence is just an enjoyable and quiet moment rather than a big deal. I want that sort of connection where we both enjoy simply being together, one that makes us want to know everything each other and where hours pass and we feel like it's only been minutes. :)
As may well be evident, I'm definitely a bit romantic. I'd describe myself as a sensitive, very romantic and affectionate person who simultanously still values his own masculinity. In general, I'm a relatively quiet person but I can talk about things I'm passionate about for hours! Looks-wise I'm a fairly average looking 1,72m guy with blond hair and blue eyes.
As for my character, I quite like myself and have done a lot of self-improvement over the past years. I am a confident and caring person and in relationships I'll probably shower you with affection. I'm also the sort of person who doesn't mind a lot of stuff many people seem to - I can very honestly tell you whether I prefer the red or the blue shirt if you were to ask me which one I prefer. I've been told that's a good quality to have, so yay! Oh - also, I quite like cuddling! Relatively good listener too, I'd say!
While I use a vaporiser device occasionally, I don't drink alcohol and I don't smoke or anything of that sort - best case scenario you don't either, but so long as it's not an alcohol/drug addiction or that sort of thing it'll be fine. I have many hobbies from the more obvious watching an interesting show or movie and playing a video game to writing/worldbuilding(just for myself), cultures, languages, history, geography, all the things that surround us.
With a partner I can both be the type of person to just listen and go with the flow as well as take charge and lead - I think both are good traits to have and being able to do both generally has always felt like the best way to me :) In a woman I value compassion, communication, emotional maturity & availability and these sorts of traits a lot. Of course, humour is always appreciated, I make the best and worst jokes, and within minutes of each other. My type of humour can be dry, occasionally even eyeroll-inducing. I should warn you of that! It's also occasionally edgy, but not overly.
I'm straight, but I wouldn't get along well with someone who has issues with LGBT+ people. I am agnostic, and I don't have a particular preference for a religious background.
I'm bilingual with German and English. So long as we can understand each other, any background is fine. I'm neurodivergent, currently awaiting an autism diagnosis, and have depression, although I tend to not show that very much I'd like to think.
If you're interested, live in Europe (& plan to stay in Europe) and would like to get to know each other please feel free to send me a message!
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2023.06.03 13:11 bobraisbored My bf(M18) ruined his relationship with his best friend (M18) to be with me(F18). He used to put in a lot of effort but 2 months have passed and he treats me more like a friend. I’ve confronted him about this multiple times and he says he will change but he doesn’t. What do I do?

I (18F) have been “dating” my bf(18M) for about 1 month now and I am completely confused.
At the beginning of my final year in high school I had a crush on 2 guys. Worst of all, they were best friends. I had no intention of pursuing either of them as I wasn’t looking for a relationship. However as some time passed my feelings grew more and more. One guy, Taylor, I had a huge crush on, but he has never been in a relationship before and has never had a proper crush on a girl before. Taylor and I always clicked; we loved talking about anything and everything and would play games like backgammon together. I always had a hint of him liking me back but completely dismissed it considering his “picky” nature when it came to the girls he liked. I forced myself to move past him and ignore my feelings.
The other guy, Alex, I had helped get over a heartbreak with his ex over the summer and we got closer. We never talked about much other than relationships. We both wanted a significant other and at some point it seemed kind of inevitable that something would happen. He was definitely flirting with me and his friends would hint at it too. I really liked him but we didn’t have much in common. One night we kissed, and afterwards he suddenly asked me if he could call me his girlfriend. I hadn’t even expected it and I felt pressured in the moment so I stupidly said yes.
The relationship moved fast. 2 weeks into dating and he introduced me formally as his girlfriend to his ENTIRE family. I’m talking parents, grandparents, aunts, childhood best friends and the pressure to stay kept piling on and on.
He kept asking if I had told my parents and I hadn’t as it was too soon, but it bothered him and I buckled and introduced him to my parents as well. Within a months time not only had I met his entire family, but he had met mine and everyone at school kept saying we were destined to get married.
I wasn’t happy. I felt pressured to stay and so I did, and I tried to make the relationship work. we had absolutely nothing in common. We had nothing to talk about and all we ever did was couples stuff such as holding hands, cuddling and having sex. It was during this time that my feelings for his best friend, Taylor, began growing deeper. The guilt accompanied by this was agonising and i felt like the biggest asshole.
Eventually, 6 months in, I couldn’t take it and ended the relationship. He didn’t take it well and I helped him though the breakup, consoling him, staying up late into the night calling him if he wasn’t feeling well. soon his friends told me I need to put distance as without it he would never move on. So I did exactly that.
I had this huge relief and felt like a pressure had been taken off my back. But my feelings for his best friend, Taylor, had grown so much over the past months that I was practically drowning in them. I had never felt this way about someone before and was the most lovesick I had ever been in my life. I neglected the feelings as I couldn’t do that to Alex.
One day however, I was studying for an exam with Taylor and he told me he had liked me and asked if I felt the same way. I told him I did.
We then talked for hours about this and came to the realisation that we had both liked each other at the beginning of the year and both of us dismissed our feelings but they only grew over the months. We talked and it felt like a relief to have my feelings out there. We didn’t pursue anything as we it was too late considering the situation with Alex and the fact that we were leaving for uni soon.
A week later Taylor told me he couldn’t take it anymore. It was obvious we liked each other and he said he couldn’t lie to Alex’s face anymore as Alex had been asking Taylor if he liked me. He asked if it was ok for him to tell Alex and as I didn’t want Alex to know, I told him it was ok with me.
When Alex found out he felt betrayed and was calling me a whore and I didn’t know how to respond. Alex and Taylor had fallen out and The guilt was killing me. Alex left school a week earlier and a whole drama escalated as Alex talked with other people at school. I was labelled a whore and the rumours about me were insane.
I never felt so shit in my life in the week that followed. But Taylor was there for me through it all. We both got really close and would stay up late into the night, talking about anything and everything. Some days, he would even wake up early in the morning and be at my house at 4am. We would sit outside, cuddling and talking until 7:00 when we had to leave for school. He would say I looked like summer and he even kept a Polaroid picture of us in his wallet. I told him I wasn’t ready to rush into anything and he said he was more than ready to respect my space. We weren’t officially together but we were essentially a thing.
A week later that he said had been in love with me for the most part of the year. He said he could wait for me as long as I needed, and that he wanted to give us a shot.
we had a one month holiday from school where we couldn’t see each other. In the beginning we would text and call. But later he seemed cold. I would reach out but his messages were dry.
At school he had really gotten cold too.He stopped texting and reaching out, he stopped showing affection in public and I felt confused. I talked to him about it and he apologised and said he hadn’t realised and said things would change. For 2 days he would be active and then he would go back to being cold again. Weeks passed and I had reached out to him multiple times. Each time the same pattern. We talk, he says he didn’t realise, he changes for 2 days, and then goes back to being cold.
In the weeks that followed I had never felt more unwanted in my life. Taylor had made up with Alex and they were back to being friends again but Alex still hated my guts. My friends had different opinions on it. One said that Taylor cared for me and that he simply didn’t know how to act in a relationship. Some of my friends didn’t like the way he treated me and told me I deserved better.
We’ve graduated from high school and I’ve never been more confused He never really opens up to me, and it’s a constant on and off. 90% of the time he’s cold. And only in the 10% does he show affection and care. I’m back home now with my parents and for the past week it has only been me who is reaching out, and when I do he replies 12-24 hours later. He is known to be a shitty texter but I feel like this is more than that.
I care about him so much and everyone keeps telling me that he does too but I don’t know what to do at this point. I feel so unwanted and unloved and I can’t take it anymore but at the same point he means so much to me that I’m not willing to let it go. I’ve already told him exactly what I’ve written here and he said things would change but they haven’t and I can’t go talk to him about this for the 4th time as I don’t want to be overbearing.
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2023.06.03 13:11 random_vote 31 [M4F] Europe/Europe - Affection, cuddles and a genuine connection!

Hello! I'm looking for a connection, someone with whom awkward silence is just an enjoyable and quiet moment rather than a big deal. I want that sort of connection where we both enjoy simply being together, one that makes us want to know everything each other and where hours pass and we feel like it's only been minutes. :)
As may well be evident, I'm definitely a bit romantic. I'd describe myself as a sensitive, very romantic and affectionate person who simultanously still values his own masculinity. In general, I'm a relatively quiet person but I can talk about things I'm passionate about for hours! Looks-wise I'm a fairly average looking 1,72m guy with blond hair and blue eyes.
As for my character, I quite like myself and have done a lot of self-improvement over the past years. I am a confident and caring person and in relationships I'll probably shower you with affection. I'm also the sort of person who doesn't mind a lot of stuff many people seem to - I can very honestly tell you whether I prefer the red or the blue shirt if you were to ask me which one I prefer. I've been told that's a good quality to have, so yay! Oh - also, I quite like cuddling! Relatively good listener too, I'd say!
While I use a vaporiser device occasionally, I don't drink alcohol and I don't smoke or anything of that sort - best case scenario you don't either, but so long as it's not an alcohol/drug addiction or that sort of thing it'll be fine. I have many hobbies from the more obvious watching an interesting show or movie and playing a video game to writing/worldbuilding(just for myself), cultures, languages, history, geography, all the things that surround us.
With a partner I can both be the type of person to just listen and go with the flow as well as take charge and lead - I think both are good traits to have and being able to do both generally has always felt like the best way to me :) In a woman I value compassion, communication, emotional maturity & availability and these sorts of traits a lot. Of course, humour is always appreciated, I make the best and worst jokes, and within minutes of each other. My type of humour can be dry, occasionally even eyeroll-inducing. I should warn you of that! It's also occasionally edgy, but not overly.
I'm straight, but I wouldn't get along well with someone who has issues with LGBT+ people. I am agnostic, and I don't have a particular preference for a religious background.
I'm bilingual with German and English. So long as we can understand each other, any background is fine. I'm neurodivergent, currently awaiting an autism diagnosis, and have depression, although I tend to not show that very much I'd like to think.
If you're interested, live in Europe (& plan to stay in Europe) and would like to get to know each other please feel free to send me a message!
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2023.06.03 13:10 vivaladisney 31M - lets be honest with ourselves here, I'm lonely and want to make a friend

Oh, hi, I almost didn't see you there. so, as much as I might try to hide it, I'm a human just like the rest of us. I think that humans need some level of social interaction. I am usually fairly content doing things on my own, but I need to be honest with myself and admit that I am missing something. I am lonely. I would really like to have a friend, someone that I can connect to, have a real human connection with. even though I have always kind of been more on the side of being a loner, I do like talking. with the right person, that is. and I'm hoping to find the right person. because when I am talking to the right person, I love it. I love just chatting about any random thing that pops into our head.
a bit about me, I'm a 31-year-old guy from california, I'm single, and only because I think that it's somewhat relevant, I have OCD. no need to dwell on that, though.
I'm pretty bad at talking about myself unprompted, I prefer to have a back and forth with someone as a way of getting to know each other. I love questions, I think that asking each other questions is a great way to get to know the person you're talking to, and I also just think it's really entertaining.
but okay, how about some things that I'm interested in;
•movies. this is a big one. I really love film, and I'll watch any type. I basically want to watch and know about as much as I can when it comes to movies. from the most highbrow art film, to the trashiest horror movie, I'll watch it all, and I love it. see anything good lately? I want to hear about it.
•magic. as in, you know, like, tricks. I've been doing it my whole life, and I don't care how nerdy it is, I find it really interesting and fun.
•reading. all kinds of different things. I like nonfiction, especially digging through articles of weird events from history and stuff like that. but I also like short stories. I think that mysteries and detective stories are really cool. I do enjoy novels as well, but I just don't read as many of them as I would like. read anything good lately? let's hear about it.
•I told you I was bad at talking about myself, so I can't think of another thing to mention off the top of my head. I guess if you're curious you'll just have to message me and you can find out.
as for what I'm looking for, I'm pretty open. some things that I would request of the person I would talk to though, would be that you are over the age of 18 (okay, this one is less of a request, and more like I won't reply if you aren't), although aside from that I don't really care too much about age, that you're open-minded, and I would also say that, although it's not as if I'm specifically looking for anything like this, I would request that if you aren't single, that you can at least be sure that whatever your relationship situation is, if we talk it won't be anyone's back. I'm not comfortable with that. oh, I will also say that if you are the type of person who is prone to ghosting people, I'd request that you not reach out, because I have just had enough of those experiences and it's kind of a pet peeve of mine. I'm not saying that I expect long involved conversations with every single person that I interact with, but if we do get in touch and you decide that you aren't really feeling it and would rather not keep it going, then one simple, short message letting me know that would go a long way. so apart from those things, there's not really much else. I really am open to talking to just about anyone.
so, as I said, if you're curious, or looking for someone to talk to, feel free to message me.
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2023.06.03 13:07 aatank619 India and we Indians, and the comfort zone we create around our misery

India and we Indians have accepted the dysfunction of the administration, government, basic necessities as the fate and absolute reality that we will live forever. No matter which political party forms the government, the plight of common citizen will remain the same. The good will happen, but the bad and worse will remain constant. The high and mighty will never face the struggle that people face everyday on their walks of life, and you will get a constant reminder of how grateful you need to be for a Public Servant to do their duty on time or years later. They'd always have someone to blame on to, while the common citizen will blame it on themselves.
The tragedies like Odisha Train collision were rampant in past, and has been reduced greatly in last decade. That doesn't mean we can discount the fact that it happened. If we are still crying that India is such a large country and has a huge population, then we learned nothing at all about scaling up. If we can't scale up with the increasing population, then we are doomed, unless everyone loses ability of procreation.
Keep on blaming someone for something until it happens with us. Never ask for accountability from our leaders because our leaders definitely will think about us in their own sweet time. If they don't, then the next leader can definitely blame it on the previous for not caring about us enough and they will also do the same.
Sorry for the long post. But I lost a family member in 2002 Rajdhani Express derailments in Bihar. People drowned in water, they coudnt escape and that time also everyone just played blame game and moved in with life. Things haven't changed much.
May all the victims of Odisha mishap finds peace, and ones who survived gets a speedy recovery.
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2023.06.03 13:05 aatank619 [Rant] India and We Indians, and the comfort zone we created in our misery

India and we Indians have accepted the dysfunction of the administration, government, basic necessities as the fate and absolute reality that we will live forever. No matter which political party forms the government, the plight of common citizen will remain the same. The good will happen, but the bad and worse will remain constant. The high and mighty will never face the struggle that people face everyday on their walks of life, and you will get a constant reminder of how grateful you need to be for a Public Servant to do their duty on time or years later. They'd always have someone to blame on to, while the common citizen will blame it on themselves.
The tragedies like Odisha Train collision were rampant in past, and has been reduced greatly in last decade. That doesn't mean we can discount the fact that it happened. If we are still crying that India is such a large country and has a huge population, then we learned nothing at all about scaling up. If we can't scale up with the increasing population, then we are doomed, unless everyone loses ability of procreation.
Keep on blaming someone for something until it happens with us. Never ask for accountability from our leaders because our leaders definitely will think about us in their own sweet time. If they don't, then the next leader can definitely blame it on the previous for not caring about us enough and they will also do the same.
Sorry for the long post. But I lost a family member in 2002 Rajdhani Express derailments in Bihar. People drowned in water, they coudnt escape and that time also everyone just played blame game and moved in with life. Things haven't changed much.
May all the victims of Odisha mishap finds peace, and ones who survived gets a speedy recovery.
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2023.06.03 13:05 stackumandrackum Looking for creative space to rent.

My wife and I are looking for affordable housing to rent in Detroit. But our situation comes with baggage .
We are both freelance artist /designers so we need creative space as we work from home. We have been in our current spot for over 10 years, but it’s time to move on as the landlord is about to sell the property very soon.
Our credit is bad, my wife has no credit history, and mine is shot from student loans and identity theft as my ssn has doing the rounds here in Detroit for years now. We haven’t needed credit so we never got it fixed and now it’s beyond repair.
Does anyone know of any affordable micro home situations, rent to own or affordable creative artist communities that would take us in?
Thank you in advance. Big love to the DET community.
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2023.06.03 13:03 FelicitySmoak_ On This Day In Michael Jackson HIStory - June 3rd

On This Day In Michael Jackson HIStory - June 3rd
1972 - "I Wanna Be Where You Are" by Michael enters the Billboard US Hot Soul Singles Chart, where it will make a 12 week run for the #2 poisiton.
1972 - "Got To Be There", the 1st solo album by Michael, enters the UK's Top 50 albums chart, where it will peak at #37 during a fiveweek run.
1973 - "Lookin' Through the Windows" by The Jackson 5 on the Motown label hits the Billboard music charts at #94, where it peaks at #7. It remains on the chart for 33 weeks.
1979 - The Jackson perform their Destiny tour at Carolina Coliseum in Columbia, South Carolina. They give a press interview at the Carolina Inn

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1990- Michael collapses while dancing at his Westwood condo known as 'The Hideout'. He is taken to St John Hospital of Los Angeles around 9pm where he is treated for chest pains.
He gets visits from the whole Jackson family (except LaToya, who sends him a dozen black roses) .Elizabeth Taylor also visits him. She had been in the hospital undergoing treatment for a near fatal bout of pneumonia since mid April.
“According to his physician, he is in stable condition and appropriate tests are being conducted", nursing officials said in a prepared statement.
1992- At the Tavern On The Green in New York City, the One To One award is given to Michael by the Operation One to One organization in charge with creating better living standards for young people, for efforts committed to helping economically disadvantaged youth. Michael attends the Operation One To One Honors dinner with friends Elizabeth Taylor and Donald Trump.

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1992 - Crystal Cartier filed a $40 million federal lawsuit against Michael Jackson, Sony Music Entertainment, MJJ Productions and Epic Records. She alleged that she originally wrote and recorded "Dangerous."
In February of 1994, a Denver Federal court jury ruled in Michael's favor
1995 - The Hollywood Chamber of Commerce rejects Michael's application to cover up the famous 'Hollywood' sign with the word 'HIStory' to promote his new compilation album
1997 - Michael Jackson plays the Mungersdorfer (now RheinEnergieStadionStadium) in Cologne, Germany, to an audience of 60,000 on the HIStory World Tour

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2005 - Trial Day 67
Michael goes to court with Katherine, Joe, Janet and LaToya.

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Michael was greeted outside court by hundreds of chanting fans. He arrived with his parents and his famous siblings - Janet, LaToya, Jermaine, Tito and Randy. They waved to the fans chants of “Michael is Innocent!”

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Defense attorneys completed their closing arguments, labeling the Arvizo family liars and con artists trying to pull “the biggest con of their careers”.
"They are trying to take advantage of Michael Jackson," said impassioned defense attorney Thomas Mesereau. "They are trying to profit from Michael Jackson. They think they have pulled it off. They are just waiting for one thing - your verdict."
"What they are trying to do to Michael Jackson is so harmful, so brutal, so devastating if you have any reasonable doubt about the double-talk, the lies, its over. You must acquit Michael Jackson," he told the 12 jurors.
Mesereau spoke about the American system of justice and said, "We have the best system in the world and ladies and gentlemen I'm begging you to honor the system. You must acquit him."
He accused prosecutors of trying to "dirty up Michael" because they lack the evidence to prove their case.
"The witnesses are preposterous, the perjury is everywhere," Mesereau declared. "None of it works. The only thing they've had is to throw dirt all over the place and hope it sticks."
He added: "If you look in your hearts do you believe Michael Jackson is evil in that way? Is it even possible? It really is not."
Mesereau then played excerpts from a video in which Jackson denies any sexual impropriety and said that he had “never been betrayed or deceived by children.”
The defense attorney conceded that Jackson had been lax with his money and had let the wrong people into his circle. But, he said, the singer was not the “monster” the prosecution were trying to depict and that he was not guilty of any crime.
Afterwards, prosecutor Ron Zonen delivered a brief rebuttal. He sought to answer the question of Jackson’s motivation for the crime asking, "Why would Mr. Jackson do it? Because he could This child was in love with him. This child would do anything he said."
Zonen reminded jurors of the past allegations made against Jackson saying that this was necessary in order to “see the total picture”. He claimed that Jackson was “in love” with his 1993 accuser and added that the current accuser is a “clone” of the boy in that case.
After both sides rested for the last time, Judge Rodney Melville ordered the eight women and four men on the jury to begin their deliberations. He gave them a 98-page book of instructions.
The Judge told Jackson that he could stay at Neverland during the proceedings but requested that the attorneys remain within 10 minutes of the courthouse in case the jurors had any questions.
These deliberations are the final stage of an ordeal that began 14 weeks ago. During this time the jury has heard testimony from over 130 witnesses.
A verdict was expected early next week.
Court Transcript
While Jury deliberations take place, the whole Jackson family waits for the verdict at Neverland.

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2008 - Michael has dinner with Thomas Barrack Jr, chairman and CEO of Colony Capital LLC, at the Las Vegas Hilton's Verona Sky Villa.
2009 - Michael goes to Culver Studios with Prince, Paris & Kenny Ortega, where he shoots “The Drill” 3D

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He also, once again, goes to Dr Klein’s in Beverly Hills.
2013 - Jackson v AEG Trial Day 22
No Jackson family member was at the courthouse.
Paul Gongaware
AEG cross
Putnam asked Gongaware if MJ was comfortable with all the show dates. "Yes, I went through all of the dates with him," Gongaware said. Bugzee, the tour manager, had a big calendar on the walls, Gongaware explained, saying they changed the dates of the shows four times. The jury was shown an email in which Gongaware worked with a staffer to create a calendar to show Jackson. He wanted colors changed. He wanted the calendar to be changed so that it reflected Jackson's show dates and off days differently. Gongaware email:
Figure it out so it looks like he's not working so much
As to the email, Putnam asked if he was trying to fool Michael:
"No, I was trying to make it clear, trying to get it just the way I wanted it," Gongaware responded.
After changing 4 show dates Gongaware said Michael was comfortable with it. He would do 8 shows in July, 10 in August, 9 in September. There would be no shows in October, November and December, resuming with 10 shows in January, 10 in February and three in March. No back-to-back shows. Gongaware said the O2 Arena had a previous commitment in Oct-Dec of 2009 and they could not have the concerts.

Putnam: "Was this a rigorous schedule?"
Gongaware: "No, not at all"
Gongaware recalled that on the HIStory tour they did 10-12 shows per month, from country to country, but this one would stay in London only. Gongaware said he wasn't concerned with Michael's age. "He seemed great to me," he said, and this was stationary show, didn't have to travel.
Gongaware:
The reason Michael wanted to delay the 1st show was he wanted more time to rehearse in the O2 Arena where the show would take place.
He said Michael and Kenny Ortega would decide the rehearsal schedule. Gongaware explained Michael didn't have to attend rehearsals, since it was not part of his deal. He said they never require an artist to rehearse. "I didn't have any expectation," Gongaware said regarding Michael rehearsing. He said he's never seen a requirement for a musicial artist to rehearse & that during the HIStory tour, Michael didn't rehearse but nailed it. "When it was game time, he would show up," Gongaware explained. For instance, Gongaware cited an outdoor concert in Bangkok in high heat, humidity.
As to the email Gongaware wrote about calling Michael lazy, he said he used unfortunate choices of words, Michael didn't like to rehearse.
Talking about the elements of the show, Gongaware described what they wanted to do for the opening of the show. He said Michael would be dressed up in a LED suit, like a television, flashing on him brief movie about things that happened in history. Michael would be lowered down onto the stage. He called the LED suit a "Moon man" suit, but Ortega called it "Light man." Putnam showed a presentation of how the LED suit idea would work. Footage is not on This Is It documentary because it was early stages of prep. Gongaware said the 1st idea was to make Michael float from the audience, but they couldn't make it work. So they decided to lower him down onto the stage. Gongaware said the big screen on the back of the stage was 3D capable. The audience would be given glasses when they entered the show. The 3D songs would be Thriller, Earth Song and Smooth Criminal. "He wanted to do biggest, best show ever, live show," Gongaware said
Putnam showed email chain from Ortega to Gongaware asking to make a deal with choreographer Travis Payne. Answer from Gongaware:
This is not AEG money, it's Michael's money so it takes a lot of time to get approvals
Defendants were trying to establish a pattern that all the money spent was actually Michael's money, not AEG's, just like with Dr. Murray
At one point Gongaware said he learned from Michael about a doctor named Murray. "He came to me and said he wanted his personal doctor on the tour". Gongaware said he suggested to Michael to get a licensed doctor in London who would know the lay of the land, in case of need. "This is the machine, we have to take care of the machine. I want Conrad," Gongaware said Michael responded. I think what he meant was his brain could create it but his body had to deliver the show every night

Putnam: "Were you surprised he wanted to take his doctor on tour?"
Gongaware: "No"
Putnam: "Why not?"
Gongaware: "He had doctors before"
Gongaware said other artists take doctors as well, so he was not the only one and it didn't surprise him. Gongaware said he's been on tour before where an artist had chiropractors, but couldn't remember being in one with a doctor
Putnam: "Did you worry Michael might have a health issue?"
Gongaware: "No"
Putnam: "Why not?"
Gongaware: "He seemed fine to me, had a physical and passed"
Gongaware said the suggestion for a London doctor was due to the cost; paying a doctor full time was much more expensive than hiring a local doctor. Gongaware said Dr. Murray treated Michael for about three years before 2009. He knew the doctor was from Las Vegas but said he was in LA. Gongaware said he then called Dr. Murray to work out a deal. Gongaware testified he didn't have Michael's direct phone number, would go through Michael Amir Williams, his personal assistant, to reach him. Gongaware called Murray on behalf of Michael saying the singer wanted to take him to London. "What do you want to be paid for that," Gongaware asked. Gongaware said he thought Dr. Murray was expecting his call and was aware of the desire to take him on tour. "He said he would need $5 million," Gongaware recalled. "He said he has 4 clinics to close, would lay off people, needs $5 million for that." Asked by Putnam if Murray's price was reasonable: "It was ridiculous," Gongaware said about the amount asked. "It was a lot of money for something like that and Michael could not afford it." Gongaware said he responded that it wasn't going to work" He said this was the first time he spoke with Dr. Murray. After that, Gongaware said he told Michael Amir and Randy Phillips what the doctor had asked. He also told Frank DiLeo. Gongaware said a lot of people who wanted to work for MJ asked for huge sums of money, thinking he had a lot.
Putnam: "Would you be doing this if Michael had not asked you?"
Gongaware: "No"
Putnam: "Did you contemplate bringing a doctor on tour?"
Gongaware: "I didn't think he needed one, we didn't have one in History, he was fine"
"He was Michael's doctor, Michael wanted him. That was it," Gongaware said.

Putnam:" Did you think about checking the doctor?"
Gongaware: "No"
Putnam: "Why not?"
Gongaware: "He was Michael's doctor"
" I'm not going to tell Michael Jackson who his doctor should be," Gongaware explained. "It wasn't my place to say who his doctor was going to be," Gongaware said. "It was his decision."
Gongaware said he doesn't think a doctor's financial situation has anything to do with being an ethical doctor. Gongaware said it never crossed his mind to either do a background check on Dr. Murray or to suggest to anyone to do it. "I just expect doctors to be ethical, the financial side of their lives shouldn't have an impact on their medical decision," Gongaware opined.
Gongaware said he never did a background check on anyone he hired and had he done one on Dr. Murray, it would've been out of the ordinary.
He also said he never considered performing background checks on Jackson's makeup artist, a choreographer who worked one-on-one with the singer or Kenny Ortega, the tour's director. "I didn't see the need for it," he said.
Dr. Finkelstein, a friend of Gongaware, said a doctor should charge $10,000 a month for the tour work. But Dr. Finkelstein would've done it for free, since he was on the Dangerous tour before and had a lot of fun
The second call about Dr. Murray came from Michael Amir Williams saying they were going to need to get a deal done for the doctor. Gongaware said he heard Michael in the car saying "offer 150, offer 150." Gongaware understood that to be $150k/month. Gongaware called Dr. Murray, said he was authorized to offer him $150k a month. He said Dr. Murray responded that he couldn't do it for that. Gongaware told him the offer came directly from the artist and Dr. Murray responded: "I'll take it" Gongaware said Michael approved the amount of compensation. "Michael told me offer 150," Gongaware recalled. "And that's what I did." Gongaware inquired from Dr. Murray how he would get a license in London and the doctor told him not to worry about it. They talked about Dr. Murray's request for a house in London, and the doctor said he would need a three bedroom house. Gongaware recalled Dr. Murray saying he would probably need an assistant and some equipment, but no details were given at this point. After the call, Gongaware said he let Michael Amir Williams know what the result was in a May 6th email: Done at 150k per month, per MJ. He needs about 10 days to wind down his practice then he will be full time
Asked why he had negotiated with Murray, the AEG executive replied that he was "instructed to by Michael Jackson." Gongaware said there was no other reason for him to deal with the doctor. Marvin Putnam asked Gongaware why he didn't tell Jackson he couldn't take Murray on tour with him."Because he could if he wanted," Gongaware said.
Gongaware said he passed Dr. Murray on to Timm Wooley, never had any other conversation with Dr. Murray about him possibly going to London.
Putnam: "Do you have any understanding as to whether a contract with Dr. Murray was executed?"
Gongaware: "One never was"
Putnam: "Did AEG pay Dr. Murray any kind of money?"
Gongaware: "No"
Gongaware said Michael was ultimately responsible for his own health:
"I think everyone is responsible for their own health and well being. He was a grown man with the capability to make decisions regarding his health and medical care"
Putnam showed Gongaware a frame from the This Is It film in which Jackson's manager, Frank Dileo, was sitting in on dancer auditions. Dancers auditions took place at the Nokia Theater on April 13, 14 & 15. Michael attended the last day and made the final decision, Gongaware said. He said Ortega wanted to film the audition to use fresh footage on michaeljacksonlive.com. The cost for crew to shoot the audition was very high, so Gongaware bought a couple of cameras and used his own crew to shoot the rehearsals. He said he wasn't sure what he would use the video for, but thought the website would be a good platform.
Gongaware said during the period at Center Staging, Michael was good, engaging, didn't think there were any health issues or was using drugs
Gongaware said the media in the UK was going wild with gossip about Michael Jackson. "They just lie about things." The Sun claimed Michael had skin cancer on his chest. "It was sport over in London," Gongaware said about stories on tabloids. Gongaware testified about emails in which UK press agents working on This Is It sent him tabloid reports on Michael's health. Gongaware said he urged the press agents not to respond. He wanted Jackson's performance to speak for itself & silence skeptics.
Gongaware on 5/27/09:
The Kid is healthy and rehearsing every day. He was still there at dance rehearsals at 9pm last night when I left. Our redemption will be when he does his shows, that makes all of this build up so damn sweet. We don't have to sell tickets, so we can just sit back and prove them wrong by just doing it.
Gongaware said he was not concerned
"If there was something going on, if he had cancer, we would've heard about it."
Michael Jackson rehearsal venues:
  • Mar 28- Center Staging
  • May 27- Forum June 23 - Staples Center
  • July 13 - O2 Arena
Putnam also asked Gongaware about an incident Karen Faye testified about, that she heard him yelling at Michael's assistant one day. The incident occurred while This Is It rehearsals were happening at The Forum in LA. Faye claimed she heard Gongaware yelling about Jackson being late to a rehearsal and told his assistant to get him there. "Never, never happened," Gongaware said, shaking his head.
Putnam went through a chain of emails about tabloid reports in the UK regarding Michael. In one, it said Michael had asked AEG to reduce the number of shows by half. Gongaware said that such a discussion never happened. Gongaware testified he woke up to one gossip headline pretty much every day. His idea was simply to ignore the tabloids. "An amazing show would be the answer", Gongaware said
Gongaware on 6/5/09 in response to Sunday Mirror Query:
"We can only make this work, of course, if MJ puts on the best show of his life. I'm here to tell you that be will. I have seen it for myself. Last night he ran 9 songs with full band, singers and dancers. Sang every one, he was amazing, captivating, riveting. And he's just getting started. Taking it one step further. When people realize that bulls**t the press has been, they will be in receptive mood for the truth Hey look. No skin cancer. He's just a good dad, loving raising his kids. His art and his craft are paramount. A gentle, loving man who does care about people
"The shows were going to be spectacular," Gongaware said. Putnam showed a clip of Michael in front of a green screen with 11 dancers, who would become 11,000. Gongaware said Michael was great at this point
Regarding email Phillips sent Gongaware directing to remove Michael's "skeletal" scenes Gongaware said he didn't take anything out of the movie.
Putnam: "Did you remove anything from the movie?"
Gongaware: "No"
Putnam showed a clip from This Is It with the making of "Thriller 3D" and Jackson wearing red jacket.
Putnam: "Did you try to alter in anyway how Mr. Jackson looked, appeared?"
Gongaware: "No"
Gongaware said he didn't remember any of the footage been removed because of how Michael looked. "We just let the footage speak for itself"
The mini-movie of "Earth Song" a bulldozer would come out from a ramp in center stage.
Putnam: "A real bulldozer?"
Gongaware: "I wish, it would've been cheaper, but it would have crushed our ramps"
Gongaware said they had to build the bulldozer like a prop. It would appear at the end of the song on stage. "I think the live audience would be just captivated by it," Gongaware said about the little girl running after the last plant on Earth song.
End of the show would be 3D animation. An airplane taxis up, door opens, Michael entered the plane. The airplane door closes, Michael would actually take an elevator down and out of the building, but the plane would take off over the audience
Gongaware said he didn't know if anyone was responsible for Michael's nourishment. Tour would be demanding and exhausting
Gongaware said he met Dr. Murray once at MJ's Carolwood house and ran into him at The Forum during rehearsal. There was a meeting scheduled to discuss Michael's nutrition with Randy Phillips, Kenny Ortega, Dr. Murray, Michael, Gongaware and DiLeo.
Putnam: "Do you recall anyone in that meeting ever telling Dr. Murray how he should be treating Michael?"
Gongaware: "No"
Gongaware said he didn't have any medical training and wasn't qualified to tell Conrad Murray how to treat Jackson
Gongaware said neither Dr. Murray nor Michael talked about the treatment he was receiving. The meeting was about nutrition & vitamin therapy. Gongaware said he had no idea Dr. Murray was giving Michael Propofol and first heard of the anesthetic after Michael died. Gongaware said Dr. Murray was really engaged in the meeting, seemed like a very intelligent guy and wanted to take care of Michael very much. This was the first time Gongaware met with Dr. Murray. He said there were no signs of Michael being poorly treated by the doctor. "Michael was engaged in the meeting, attentive, seemed happy we were having this meeting," Gongaware opined. "He's a doctor, he'd know better than anybody how to treat his patient," Gongaware said about Dr. Murray.
As to Gongaware's email saying AEG, not Michael, paid Dr Murray he said he was mistaken. "We wouldn't pay his salary, we'd advance Michael's money". Gongaware said he didn't remember writing/receiving the email, but never denied he did it.
As to Michael being habitually late, Gongaware said the singer worked on his own schedule, did things his way
Gongaware said his understanding was that Michael hired a trainer of his choice, Louis (Lou) Ferrigno: "I made the deal with him (Ferrigno). He was supposed to be paid a certain amount of money per session" He didn't elaborate on fee, how many times he worked with Michael. Putnam showed an email from Travis Payne, he suggested a massage chair to be put in Michael's dressing room.
As to Bugzee's email saying MJ needed cheeseburgers, brats and beers, Gongaware said Bugzee was joking, Bugzee cared very much for Michael. Gongaware testified he didn't recall having any concern about Michael's health/using painkillers as of Monday 6/15/09, 10 days prior to his death
Gongaware was asked about several emails that have been shown before, including messages related to MJ missing rehearsal on June 19, 2009. The executive was on the East Coast for a family wedding, but responded to one message questioning why Murray wasn't at rehearsal. Gongaware email:
Take the doctor with you. Why wasn't he there last night?
He then explained his thinking to the jury. Gongaware:
If his patient is having a problem and he's sick, and he's his only patient, it seemed like he should be there
Gongaware said on 6/19/09, he was out of town. "This is the day Michael had chills at rehearsal and was apparently sick," Gongaware recalled. "If the meeting was going to be about what happened that night, the doctor should be there," Gongaware said.
Gongaware said he believed Michael wanted to go on tour. He said he doesn't remember anyone talking about pulling the plug on the shows.
Putnam: "Did anyone tell you at this point that Michael needed a drug addiction specialist?"
Gongaware: "No"
Putnam: "Did anyone tell you they were concerned with the care Dr. Murray was giving to Michael?"
Gongaware: "No"
Gongaware said that on 6/20/09 he did not think Michael's health was deteriorating.
With last questions of the day, Putnam asked Gongaware if he was concerned about Jackson's well-being. He said "Yes"
Court Transcript
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2023.06.03 13:03 russianbababooey The "Campi Hobbit", an alternative to the Mainstream

The

DEFINITION

The "Campi Hobbit" were manifestations organized by the Fronte della Gioventù, the Youth organization of the MSI. They were inspired by more Movementist and Revolutionary tendencies inside the MSI, theories that proved to be much more attractive to the Idealistic Youth rather than the Reactionary Evolian theories.
DENOMINATION
They were called Campi Hobbit for the Neo-Fascist inspiration to Tolkien and his books, one of them featuring the Hobbit. On that same mystic inspiration the Fascist Youth also started using the celtic cross as a symbol instead of the original Fasces.
THE TRANSFORMATION OF FASCISM
In the year 1977 the Far Left in Italy had gotten much stronger and gave birth to the Movement of '77, a series of contestations against the PCI (deemed too moderate by the Radicals). In this exact moment a new man entered the Political scene attracting many young Fascists and Idealists, his name was Giuseppe Rauti, also called Pino. He was a strong opponent of Right-Wing "Fascism", and wanted to make the MSI move left in order to attract a younger and least corrupt group. This led to him getting inspiration from more collectivistic and alternative methods, in the end giving birth to the Campi Hobbit.
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THE FIRST CAMP
The Camp Hobbit was held from 11 to 12 June 1977 in Montesarchio, in the province of Benevento, organized by the local MSI leader, Generoso Simeone. The idea was to gather militants to share "metapolitical" initiatives that had been circulating in the environment for some years: music, radio, graphics and social issues such as unemployment, the condition of women and ecologism, which were not normally dealt with by the Party. In this field, between the traditional paramilitary camp and the youth festival, the new symbol of the Celtic cross dominates. Even a human Celtic cross was successfully performed. The groups playing in concert are Amici del Vento, La Compagnia dell'Anello and Janus from Rome.
THE SECOND CAMP
The second camp was held at Fonte Romana di Pacentro, in Abruzzo, from 23 to 25 June 1978. Compared to the previous year, a film was also shot on the event which was soon to tour sections throughout the whole Italy. It is perhaps the least successful gathering, born on the official initiative of the Youth Front as a whole, which attempts to take away the hegemony of the youth world from Rauti. However, the music remains the qualifying the Compagnia dell'Anello and the Janus performed in the concert.
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THE THIRD CAMP
The third Campo Hobbit was held from 16 to 20 July 1980 in Castel Camponeschi, an old uninhabited village. The neo-Fascist alternative music as it was called at the time, sees among the numerous interpreters and groups that will perform in those days the historical group of La Compagnia dell'Anello and the Fr*nchman Jack Marchal with his album Science et Violence.
THE FOURTH CAMP
The fourth camp had a radically different nature from the previous ones, being associated with a relief expedition sponsored and organized by the weekly "Linea di Pino Rauti" and by "Radio Alternativa", preceded by a collection of basic necessities by the "Rautian" sections of the MSI of Rome organized at the head of a large group of youth militants of the MSI following the 1980 Irpinia earthquake not having a party nature nor music, had above all the value of a moment of human compaction for the Youth of the MSI.

CONCLUSION

The Camps were all extremely successfull, except the second which still got some traction. The need to reorganize and bring these collective events back is evident if we actually want to triumph and attract more people to the Fascist ideal. Talking about Theory might be good on the short term, but without the action Fascism doesn't have a reason to exist and the only way to win is to apply the principles in society and make everyone see that we are not the absolute evil that the media tries to equate to us.
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2023.06.03 12:59 NeccoMunster I was mistaken for a girl……

Well, I am 63 yrs, been on hrt for 18 months, I don’t try and present, but I wear women’s clothes (jeans, tops, ect) that could go either way, when I’m not working. So I driving 5.5 hrs to visit my 93 old mom (extremely excepting, knows my whole story and supports me) for the weekend. I am wearing some more type girly clothes (JJill blue shorts and a I nice red v-neck, curve flattering, t-shirt), this time and I’ve been letting my natural curly hair grow out a bit, so its curly and colored.
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Funny at 63 yrs you still get that thrill when someone really and honestly mistakes to for who you really want to be!! For all the bad things that happen to us, and so many of the sad things also, you gotta feel great when a positive affirmation comes your way. I did and still am feeling good.
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tldr: gf has attachment issues and won't cut of her exes. I trust and believe her when she says she doesn't want to be with them but it makes me uncomfortable
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