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I need advice on how to accept that I am ugly. And by that i mean most of girls i have talk to would rate me 4/10 AT MOST. And yesterday my female friend literally went to bathroom to vomit after we joked about kissing each other. I feel like shit and i don't know how to deal with being bellow average (which means i will never get a date)

Tl;dr My still technically wife and I have been going through a messy separation, looking for insight listed at the end of the post. Fair warning it's a long one
Made 2 previous posts Me (M23) and wife (F24). This is kind of the whole of those 2 previous posts and all that has happened since
My wife and I originally went to school together and rekindled a friendship in 2021. We began dating on June 26th of that same year while I lived in Texas and her in Oklahoma. She had to kids, both from different partners. While we were friends she vented to me about how her previous partner left because he wasn't interested in being a parent. I was upfront to her that I was in a state where I was working on myself, mainly esteem wise both from a past partner and with my upbringing, and told her I did not want it to become her problem if we were together. At that time, we agreed to be communicative about our own hardships and to speak to each other so we could help each other through hard times.
We were together for about 3 months, during which I would make visits to Oklahoma to hang out with her and her kiddos, spend quality time with her, with them, and with all of us together as well. After this 3 months span, we thought things were going okay enough for me to move in with her. I moved in with her near the end of September 2021 and for a while we were very happy with one another. We were very openly intimate and basically honeymoon phasing still. Since her family helped her out beforehand with child care, and since we still needed it to both work, we moved in with her family in November 2021.
Around this time, we ended up finding out she had gotten pregnant. Her and I kept it between the two of us as she was unsure of her families reaction to it. Her and I were both working still during this time and in February 2022 was when we hit our first bump in the road.
Her and I had always been very open with our phones, and had shared passcodes and the like. In February 2022 she had been acting off, I thought due to her pregnancy she had of course wanted some space to herself. I ended up finding out by looking at her phone one night that she had been sending illicit images to someone on her snapchat. I confronted her about, and the first thing she tried to say was that they were old (they were not, because some of them as a scrolled up said October 2021, the previous year). After this I asked her to explain herself on it, to which she responded that the person was an old F buddy who had threatened to release her photos online if she didn't continue supplying him. I was unsure to about this response, and took some time to deliberate everything.
In my mind I could not just take my own emotions in to account, I had to consider her 2 step kids getting to know me as dad as well as my unborn child. She had given me to no reason to distrust her before that so I was willing to go forward with the relationship on the grounds that we be more open with one another. In the months that followed, she even showed improved resolve, and began showing more affection towards me once again. At times she was still down on herself and beating herself up over it, so I decided in April to show her I was committed to making things work and proposed to her. We got courthouse married in May of 2022.
Things continued on this way, in May 2022 I started a new better paying job and also her family decided to move to Texas, so we ended up paying them monthly to live in the house in Oklahoma. In June my wife went on maternity leave from her job, and we discussed her being a stay at home mother and me being the sole working party. We agreed it would work best so we wouldn't have to pay for child care.
Over the course of the rest of 2022, I ended up working more hours to make ends meet. At times, my wife's mother would speak with her and give her a hard time about not working. After she had these conversations with her mother I would reassure my wife that I would make sure everything was taken care of financially. Our baby was born in July of 2022.
In March 2023, I started a new job with the same company that paid almost twice per check what I had been making previously. I felt like financially, things were taking a turn and that it could be a big improvement in life quality for my wife and kiddos. However during this particular month I had an incident where my stress had overwhelmed me. It was like any other day where my wife handed me our baby as she was putting the 2 big kids to bed. The baby was teething and crying her head of, I had a lot of stress in apartment hunting, working related, etc burdening me and the whole situation overwhelmed me. I threw a bottle toward the wall, my wife came in hearing me throw it and tried to take the baby from me. In my flurry of emotions, I stiff armed her from me to keep her from taking the baby. A few hours later, I went downstairs to her and we spoke about it. I apologized and explained my sensory overload I was experiencing, but admitted it was no excuse for how I acted. I asked her how she was feeling, and she told me she was doing good that the incident had left her tired.
April 2023 is where everything now has fallen apart. I brought up a discussion to my wife because I had noticed that I had been messing up on my end by hanging out with gaming friends too much. I brought this conversation up to her and asked how she had felt about. This is when she outpoured a bunch of issues she had kept quiet on up until this point. She told me she felt like I had more fun gaming with my friends than hanging out with her and the kids, and she admitted to me that from the previous incident she was scared about my reaction at that time. Immediately upon her bringing these up, I tried to discuss with her a plan so I could work to make improvements. When I tried to communicate however, she said she didn't think we could fix things, and told me she wanted to separate. I was devastated because over the course of the relationship I was constantly adapting and improving to my best me for her and our kids and I felt like she was giving up on our marriage so easily. In the days following I worked on improving these things she addressed and we were working towards finding common ground
A few days after this conversation however, she got an incoming call from a person named "Papi" on her phone. When I tried to address it she tried telling me it was "an alarm". When I pushed the issue and told her what I saw she admitted to me that since mid April she had been talking to another man (who was also married). She said they started off talking as friends and complaining about their partners and it turned into flirtation. When I brought up blocking him, she said she didn't feel comfortable doing so, but later on claimed that she did block him since it was hurting me.
From then on we had discussions that ran in circles, I wanted to work for and fight for our marriage, and she said she wanted to be by herself and work on herself. We could not find common ground, and in a lot of conversations she would try to find a way out and said that the conversations for her were draining. Ultimately we both decided we were going to move to Texas, be separate and co parent as we worked on ourselves. We set boundaries regarding ourselves and the children and planned our move. One boundary I was very particular about was that I did not much care who she dated since we were going to be separate, but that if she dated the guy she emotionally cheated with that I wanted him in no way to be around our baby (I did not want this person, who to me was of very questionable moral character to be around my child). She agreed to me and even reiterated that she had blocked him.
In mid May, we both made our move to Texas. However, her mother was the owner of the house we had been staying at and had security cameras at the house connected to an app on her phone. Her mother had new about my wife's emotionally cheating and had shown me that after I had left the house that the man she cheated with showed up to help her move. And against my wishes, she brought him around our child and even had him carry our baby out of the house. Our plan was for her to drop my daughter off to me a few days after the move, but after seeing what happened I messaged her and asked if she could drop my daughter off to me that same night. She agreed.
During that night, she dropped her off to me and I then confronted her about what I saw. When she was planning the move, she has told me her cousin was helping her move. She tried to lie again and say she didn't know her cousin was going to bring him to help. I was baffled she was still trying to lie her way out. Currently, I only keep in contact with her to update her on the baby, send pictures, or to planned supervised visits to where I am currently staying.
She is currently staying with the man she cheated with. And this person even drops her off for her visits with my daughter. She claims to be sorry but her actions to me tell a different story. I had made mistakes but was willing to put in effort to fix them and she wanted nothing to do with it. I don't feel like my transgressions were bad enough to deserve how she reacted. Even in light of all this, she is trying to claim to be doing what's best for the kids, but is immediately introducing a new male figure into their life after I've been her step kids father for the past 2 years.
I want better insight on to why she might have handled things the way she did. All I feel now is anger at all the lies and betrayal and it makes it difficult to move forward with my self improvements. The only thing motivating me is my now 11 month old daughter. Even in spite of all that happened I don't wish I'll to my wife, but I feel like she has a serious lack of accountability or responsibility. I feel like her actions were very selfish to her own feelings, and that her cutting of communication with me and instead talking to another man rather than working on our marriage is a big issue on her part. I felt our marriage was very fixable yet she wanted to move on so quickly. And honestly I don't know what to believe from her anymore with all the lies she has told. Can you guys provide any clarity on why she might have acted this way, and what I can do to improve myself as well?

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So I have a family member who LOVES to info dump. I totally get it. I get the urge sometimes, but usually am stopped pretty quickly with the thought of “this person doesn’t care and I’m bothering them.” So over the last few years, I try very hard to make everything more concise because I know in the past I’ve had the problem of being long winded. However, when other people do it to me, I typically try to listen as best as I can, ask questions, and not be dismissive.
Anyways, one of my family members in particular (who is not diagnosed, has no clue what info dumping is but I am pretty sure they’re on the spectrum based off of having to be around them often) has a special interest in our families ancestry. While I do find it interesting, I am also being sent paragraphs upon paragraphs of information. Which is fine… I know I don’t have to respond immediately (or at all). But for the most part I do try to skim through the texts and ask a question or two or say something to the effect of wow that’s interesting. This isn’t the only topic this person info dumps with, but it’s definitely the current obsession.
My main issue isn’t really even the info dumps themselves. It’s the fact that if I tell this person about anything I’m interested in or what’s going on with me, they usually don’t return the same energy I give them. They expect me to read paragraphs of info randomly sent to me, but if I tell them 3 sentences of information that isn’t something they personally care about (in person), their reaction is SO lackluster and they’ll often change the subject to find a way to relate anything to their special interest.
I will be complaining about work and the person will quickly start going on a tangent about all of the jobs they used to work at. And it’s not quite in a way of “I relate to that, here’s my story, now let’s circle back to you.” Same thing if I talk about literally almost anything regarding myself or people in my life.
I’ve addressed it in the past, but it’s usually been in the heat of the moment and since I’m a much more calm and collected person lately, I just let it go. I’ve told this person in the past that I feel like they’re not listening to me, don’t care, or will occasionally ask “but what does that have to do with what I’m talking about?”
It is what it is and I’ve somewhat accepted that this is how our relationship will be, but it still hurts at times and I really struggle to understand how they don’t realize how dismissive they can be.

The older I get, the more I realize it is harder to make friends irl than it was on my early 20s. While I do have friends and family irl, it's not always easy to talk with our busy schedules and that's a bummer. I figured there are others going through something similar, or simply needing a friend and using reddit would be a great way to find someone to talk to on a consist basis.
I enjoy reading, writing, cooking, baseball, football, golf, video games, cozy nights, exploring outside with my dog, Star Wars, documentaries and TV series.
If you're needing a friend, someone to listen, a person to vent to, silly or serious conversations etc., hopefully we can connect and have a genuine friendship!

Hi Simon,
I tried contacting you through email but I guess you missed it. My name is Ajmal. I am 17 years old. I hope you and your family are doing well. My english is not the best so please ignore my mistakes. I am reaching out to you because I am in need of help. My mother is suffering from Pancreatic cancer. We found out earlier this month when we noticed she was suffering from severe back pain. she also kept loosing weight very fast and didnt eat as much. So we went to the doctor who gave us the news that she had pancreatic cancer. We started the treatment with whatever money we had and we managed to save up around 3000$. But as of 3 days ago her treatment has been put on hold because we are not able to pay the remaining 4000$. My father is very old to work now and we tried asking for help from everyone we know but no one has helped us. I managed to get 400$. But i am trying to reach you because I have been watching you since I was 11 years old and I feel like you are my friend and u are part of my family. you give away 1000$ every reddit video. So I request you to give me the 1000$ for the best reddit post this month as that would really really help me right now. Thank you Simon. Congrats on the wedding.
God Bless you all and be kind to each other.
Alhamdullilah

I am selling my camera on marketplace in the UK, the person who wants to buy it lives about 45 miles away and asked if I would post, he wants to pay paypal and get it posted via Royal Mail tracked and signed.
My question is, is there any sort of scam that he could be pulling? I’ve seen the send my own courier and things like that, is there any safeguards I could use in the payment that would protect me? I believe family and friends you can’t do chargebacks, but I may be wrong. Any help or tips would be great.

The older I get, the more I realize it is harder to make friends irl than it was on my early 20s. While I do have friends and family irl, it's not always easy to talk with our busy schedules and that's a bummer. I figured there are others going through something similar, or simply needing a friend and using reddit would be a great way to find someone to talk to on a consist basis.
I enjoy reading, writing, cooking, baseball, football, golf, video games, cozy nights, exploring outside with my dog, Star Wars, documentaries and TV series.
If you're needing a friend, someone to listen, a person to vent to, silly or serious conversations etc., hopefully we can connect and have a genuine friendship!

This has been going on for a while and it’s basically what the title says. I just look at my parents and stare at them with my thoughts being “that’s ur mom/dad” but me somehow being unable to actually understand that they are my mom and dad. And it’s not only with them but with my friends and other relatives. Other times I’ll be casually thinking of our memories and their faces will obviously pop out in my mind but I wouldn’t be able to realise who they are. Like the word “mom” and “dad” will be floating around but will have no weight. It’s scarier when it happens in real time, when I’m looking but not understanding. I’ve told my mom about this problem but she has no idea what to do. Another thing that scares me is that as soon as I leave someone for a certain amount of time I have hard time remembering what their face looks like. Like I’ll be at a vacation with my family for a week and when I come home my friend would call me but her face won’t pop up in mind. Some people have left my life for certain time and I feel like my mind is erasing their faces as soon as I hear goodbye.
I am really scared.

I can barely fake a smile. I don’t want to worry the few people I have left. I’ve been on a deep decline losing control of my mental health and on the verge of overdoses. I’m heartbroken and memories haunt me every day. I think about suicide a lot. There was a time I was proud to say I had overcome my urge to self destruct and quieted the suicidal thoughts for a while, now I’ve been beaten down by everything and am just too exhausted to care. It feels like when you’re transgender no one understands or wants to be friends. The whole world thinks there’s something wrong with me, sees me as a threat, and doesn’t want to share a space. I’m in so much pain, it’s hard to breathe through the heartache and loneliness. I cry every day. And before estrogen, I was completely numb. I’m glad I can feel but it’s too overwhelming after all the trauma I went through. I can’t rely on any of my family for support either. How am I supposed to live with this extreme loneliness? I wish I was strong like I used to be, but I feel my days are numbered now and dying young doesn’t even sound too bad anymore. :(

I (28f) and my bf have been together for almost 3 years. To be completely honest I shouldn’t have jumped into this relationship but idk he just won me over. He was different. He’s a great guy. He was respectful kind responsible, so I said yes. Well a month after we started dating I got pregnant and we were actually happy about it (also I have a daughter, 3) so I know it was a big change for him being single for a long time to having a little family and a baby on the way. Also a big change for me since I had no idea how to deal with my daughters father. He would blow me up all the time and I would answer because he had our daughter, then we had got her and brought her home with us and her dad would blow me up even more just fighting and trying to tear me down. I didn’t know how to handle it. But after a while I had a few people telling me that I don’t have to do anything for him or be in contact with him (he’s an alcoholic drug addict) so eventually I figured it out but I guess it was too late since it kinda messed with our groove. So anywho, I’m pregnant for a month before we find out. We have some appointments cool. Next one was a ultrasound “we” were so excited to see our baby! As we’re sitting there they checked everything and the nurse didn’t say much.. just said she’d be right back.. she eventually came back and handed me a phone. It was the doctor on the line.. they said our baby had no heartbeat and that he was measuring at 9 weeks when we were supposed to be at 12…. I had her repeat it on speaker so my bf could hear it since I didn’t want to tell him. I just broke down. After that they scheduled an appointment for a d&c. We went to pick my daughter up. Cried with loved ones after telling what happened.. So I get the procedure done.. some time passes and we’re both sad of course and we don’t really know what to say or how to talk about it. I just cried and bled.. One morning he goes to the gym but the whole time he was gone I had this weird feeling. My intuition was trying to tell me something.. Like maybe he didn’t love me anymore, he had been acting different and my mind didn’t go to cheating that was actually the last thing I had in my mind. He’d n e v e r do me like that.
When he got back I didn’t say much so he asked what was wrong. I was honest and told him that I’ve noticed a difference in him like he was pulling away from me and if he had anything to tell me he can, that he didn’t have to be afraid of hurting my feelings. He stayed very quiet for a long time. Whatever it was, he wanted to say it but he didn’t know how. So I cut in before giving him the chance and basically gave him a good excuse. “is it because of the baby?” “Yes” he answered almost immediately and even shed a few tears.. we finished up our talk and it ended on how maybe we needed some alone time and we went on a date later that evening. After this I started noticing more stuff like him taking longer to get ready for the gym and work and a certain girl he followed who had posted a picture and the day I had my d&c procedure. The caption read “happy Friday” and he liked it. ON THAT DAY?? (He wasn’t with me at the hospital he had to drop me off, went home for a few hours and then picked me up) I had also checked her other posts and he had liked a few in the past. I had to bring it up to him and basically admitted that she was a girl from a story he had already told me a few days into our relationship. So I had a face. I felt sick to my stomach. And on top of that he had a girl he screwed on social media?? Can’t be the only one..
I just felt so hurt. It was NOT a happy Friday for us.. how could he do that? All he could do was unlike the post.. a couple weeks later he was still cold towards me and was getting this feeling like something was still off I can’t explain the feeling but it was at the pit of my stomach.. I turned and looked at his Apple Watch that had been sitting on the charger for the last several months. Never touched never even thought about it for a second.. but there we were.. just staring at each other. Something told me to look though it. I never wanted to go though his things but I did. I went to his text messages.. there they were.. tinder codes, bumble codes, hud codes, mature.. soo many times he deactivated and logged back in. The dates and times will forever be ingrained in my mind (2/20-3/25 ish)
He was on tinder the day of our ultrasound and Later that night!
(He called his job to let them know he lost his baby and they gave him 3 days to recover, apparently tinder was able to help with this)
While MY DAUGHTER AND HIM waited for me in his car to get the D&C appointment made! The day of the D&C procedure! When he was getting ready for the gym! While he was at the gym! At work! (He “only” gets a lunch and he FaceTimes me everyday) While getting us food! He even paid for tinder! ANYTIME HE LEFT ANYWHERE!
I never cried so much.. I was so shook my heart felt like it was going to explode. But I didn’t say anything. I pretended for maybe 2 or 3 days until it started driving me nuts. I got a call from him after work, he was telling me that he was gonna go across the street with his manager for a drink and to talk about work. I felt sick thinking he was finally maybe going on a date with a match and there was absolutely NOTHING I could do about it. After maybe 2 hours he came home, he had on a different shirt (to this day I don’t really know if he was telling the truth or if it was a date) I kept it short with him never asked how it went or what they talked about. HE started rambling on himself about how it went. I didn’t say much and he started noticing so he asked if I was ok. He asked if something was wrong I said no. But then after a while I figured how I’d do it. “Are you on any dating apps?” “No!” “My friend told me she saw your picture” He tried to laugh it off, but I wasn’t. I stayed firm with tears in my eyes “Are you on any dating apps?” “No” “Have you been on any dating apps in the last week” “I’m not on any dating apps” Have you been on any dating apps in the last month?” “No I’m not on any dating apps”
He didn’t lie. But he was going around truth using loopholes. He wasn’t on any dating apps, ANYMORE. The last day he went on before deleting them all was the day we went on our date after our miscarriage.. because of the guilt I think.. or he was scared of getting caught.
I told him I knew the truth and I was only giving him the chance to admit it.
Deny deny deny of course
I gave him 3 chances to come clean until I had no choice but to tell him.
“I saw everything” “What do you mean?” “You remember your watch?” “What watch?” “Your watch that’s been sitting on that charger for months?” “Oh” His face immediately changed. He knew he was defeated and I knew now that he’d be more careful with his watch.
He started apologizing. But in reality, he was never going to come clean. Was he really sorry? Or just sorry he got caught?

Having a massive cry tonight. In pain in my joints and feeling shit. Definitely get down after being glutened - missing the old days before I had to think about this crap. Usually im pretty good at just pushing on but feeling down tonight. The flakey scalp comes on out of nowhere and then just disappears. Insane how the body reacts. Just wanted to rant 😔

So I was bored and I decided to make a little quiz for you guys to see which one of my lgbtq+ friends you are like the most. You don't have to do this quiz, but you can if you want to. 😊 Ps. I'm not going to use my friends real names.
Question 1. What did you do on 1.6.2023? A. I decorated my room and made a ton of tiktoks. B. I met with my family/friends to celebrate. C. I spent the day w/ my significant other. D. I watched Stranger Things and ate chocolate in my bedroom.
Question 2. What is your big plan for pride month? A. I'm going to the pride parade with my friends. B. I'm going to get my first pride flag and go to a camp to have my own little pride parade. C. I don't know yet. Probably something exciting. D. I'll buy a big canvas and paint a pride themed painting.
Question 3. What is your gender and sexuality? A. I'm nonbinary and a bisexual. B. I'm genderfluid and a pansexual. C. I'm a girl and a lesbian. D. I'm a trans man and gay.
Question 4. If you had one day left to live what would you do? A. I'm going to turn into a troll and run around barefoot in the woods for the whole day. B. I'm going to dress into my favorite outfit and go have a picnic with my friends and family on a huge field next to the sea. C. I'm going to do as many things as possible. D. I'm going to paint, sleep and eat junk food for the entire day.
Question 4. Are you in a relationship? A. No, but I want to be. B. No and I don't mind if I'm never going to be. C. Yes and I love them very much. D. Yes, but I'm not sure if they are my one true love.
Question 5. Do you have any pets? If so, what? A. Yes. I have a very friendly dog. B. Yes. I have an indoors cat. C. Yes. I have an outdoors cat. D. Yes. I have a chihuahua.
Question 6. When did you realize that you weren't straight/cis? A. I realized about 1 and a half years ago. It was surprising to the rest of my family, but they are pretty welcoming. B. I am not sure when I realized but when I did I only came out to my mom and decided that was enough coming out. My family is very supportive. C. About 4 or 5 years ago. I came out to my family by just saying it and leaving it there. My family hasn't really discussed the matter, but I think theyre supportive. D. I realized about 2 and a half years ago. I realized I didn't like my body and when I noticed it was because I was trans everything started to make sense. My family is osmetimes supportive and sometimes it isn't, but they love me nonetheless.
Question 7. What is your favorite color? A. It's orange. B. It's rose. C. It's black. D. It's green.
Question 8 (final). Does pineapple belong on pizza? A. Yes, but not all pizzas. B. Yes if you want it to. C. No. I'm allergic. D. YES! IT'S AMAZING!
Answers: Mostly answered A: You are like my friend Troll. You are funny, childlike and you love the nature. You also probably hate shoes and sometimes have strong opinions. You are joyful and loving, but sometimes you get bad ideas and need someone to watch over you. Mostly answered B: You are like me. You are determined, kind and empathic. You believe in people and you are willing to help people. You don't always have an opinion and you let people do as they please as long as they are not hurting anyone. You also may have a bit of a temper sometimes and you won't let people walk over you. Mostly answered C: You are like my friend Cate. You are the boss with a loving heart. You are ambitious, strong and a great leader. You will not listen bs from other people and you are going to protect what's right. You will definitely not be standing in a corner listening and will speak your mind. You can be a bit arrogant, but you make your best efforts at being nice. Also you should learn how to ask for help. Mostly answered D: You are like my friend Riio. You are artistic, fun and have a great sense of style. You paint day and night and you have goals, but you can also take it easy. You are very kind and probably like spices. You own like 50 pairs of heels and every time you wear any of them you feel like a true drag queen. You can be a bit forgetful and often late, but just remember to set your alarm earlier. If you have a problem with somebody you often will complain about them to someone, but hey don't we all?
Thanks for doing this little quiz. HAPPY PRIDE!!!🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️💅

Hi, my boyfriend and me moved in together a few months ago. Our relationship is kind of perfect in most ways, he really treats me like a princess and we literally never fight. I took in a kitten off the street a few years ago, and she really helped me get through the pandemic, especially because that was around the same time my bf helped me see that a lot of my friends and even my family were kinda toxic and I grew apart from them. Anyway my cat is really important to me!
The only thing that annoys me about her is that she is a diva with her toys. When I get her a new toy, she LOVES it for 3 days and then she totally ignores it. She does this with any toy, whether it’s 50 cents or five dollars. Soooo…I have started buying her a new cheap toy every few days to spoil her (a lot of times I get a big pack on amazon and then ration them out lol). I have a pretty good job and make enough money that I can easily afford the extra $10-20 a month.
My BF thinks this is really wasteful. I always give the toys away and never trash them, so they always get a new home. I think it’s a small price to pay for my cat’s joy but he keeps telling me I need to stop. We kind of got into a small argument the other day and he said that he knows I’ll see that he’s right, but I just don’t think so.
How do I make him see this is a small thing I really want?
tldr: my cat gets bored easily so I like buying her new toys, but my bf says I need to stop…

TLDR: met a girl in another country. It’s the definition of a situationship, but I caught feelings, which makes me uninterested in dating other women. However I don’t want to pause my dating life for a situationship that is gonna lead nowhere, especially not because it’s long distance and we only see each other for a week every 3-4 months. How can I dial down my feelings for her, so I can continue this situationship, while I also can keep dating other girls? This is my first (long distance) situationship and I need some advice with handling feelings. I (31m) met Elza (30f) in her country about a year ago. We had a one night stand, and the day after she sent me incredibly long messages about how she was 6 months out of a toxic relationship and was in therapy to learn to love herself again, and that I made her feel the most beautiful version of herself since very long time. Wonderful messages to receive of course and for me the sex was really amazing, which led to us meeting for another time two days later before I had to fly back. Afterwards we kept in touch, but it was very casual. No daily messages or video calls like most long distance “couples”. We met up in person twice, once I flew to her and once she came to me. When she came to me, I even got an hotel in another city, to really show this was 100% casual. We basically only left the hotel room to get lunch and dinner. Then after a few days we admitted we wanted to see each other again fast. She invited me over and so I flew back, but this week felt less casual than our times together before. She had to work some days, so it felt like a normal relationship at some times. She introduced me to her parents and some friends. We bought gifts for each other: I gave her a sex toy she always wanted, and she gave me an expensive bracelet, to show the difference. Car rides were filled with deeper, more personal talks, like about countries we would like to live in and if we (not together) would like to have children in the future. Not all these subjects came from her, I also started thinking more and more if this could lead anywhere serious, so I was getting more and more curious in her future plans. However, we never really talked about us. Nobody asked “so what are we?“. We didn’t even talk about going exclusive. I kept dating other girls, and while we did not talk about it, I assumed she did see other guys as well. However after the last time we met, I noticed I was finding it more and more difficult to date other girls. Both from a moral view (it felt like cheating, even tho it wasn’t), but I also unfairly kept comparing my dates to Elza. So yeah, safe to say I caught feelings. She visited me once more, and while we both had to work some days, it was pure magic. I was falling in love hard. Then two weeks ago I was about to go on a three week solo roadtrip with my motorcycle, and the night before I left we had another video call. It was fun as usual, but at some point she tells me to make sure to bring enough condoms with me on the trip. We made comments like that before, especially in the beginning, to focus on how casual our situationship is. I thought it was a good moment to talk about "our future". She admitted she thought about it a lot too. For her it basically boiled down to: if I was born in her country, we were probably already engaged by now. But as I’m not, she doesn’t feel it can ever be serious. Her family doesn’t talk English, she could never move to another country, she saw a lot of hurdles, which are valid. To be really honest, I saw these hurdles too but I could already imagine me living in her apartment, doing my daily duolingo lessons to learn her language. She didn’t see any reason to make our situationship exclusive, but she said she hasn’t been dating after the second time I visited her, because she doesn’t need it. She did meet another guy recently who was perfect on paper, but she also kept comparing him to me, so she wasn't really attracted to him. But as it is now, it feels like our situationship will go on until she meets or I meet another person that we would actually want to go exclusive with. And as I don’t feel the need to date other girls, it’s basically me waiting until she tells me it’s over, which I’m not comfortable with at all. So I went on my roadtrip, and got a few dates, but it still didn’t feel right. So, for me it comes down to: I don’t want to pause my (dating) life for a situationship that will lead to nowhere. However, the only solution I see is breaking up with Elza, go through a period of grief but then afterwards I can start dating other people again. That would hurt like shit, and it feels like an overly dramatic choice. Is there a way for me to again become less invested in Elza, so I can actually date other people while I keep in contact with her and see her in person every few months and we have an amazing time?

Hey PubTips, please tear my query apart. Q: HOUSE OF SALT AND SORROWS (2019) - too old to comp??
Dear Agent,
I’m excited to share with you TIDESPEAKER, a YA Fantasy complete at 87,000 words. TIDESPEAKER can be pitched as ‘MANSFIELD PARK with magic’. It will appeal to fans of the gothic atmosphere and coastal setting in HOUSE OF SALT AND SORROWS by Erin A. Craig, as well as the neurodivergent protagonist and enemies-to-lovers romance in UNSEELIE by Ivelisse Housman.
As soon as Orith Fraine, a Floodmouth, turns eighteen, she's sent to serve a noble family on a lonely tidal island. It's a dangerous position for one of her kind - Orha, who can speak to the elements - since she's expected to wrangle with the monstrous tides that constantly ravage the Queendom's coastline.
If that wasn’t upheaval enough, Orith is offered a deal by rebel Orha group, the Cage: spy for them on House Shearwater’s island and help them break down the family’s defences. In return, they’ll reward her with a safer position elsewhere. Plus, she’ll find out what happened to her only friend, who went missing from their training institution after failing an exam.
Orith is thrown headlong into a new world: one of menial chores but also glittering balls, political intrigue and lethal secrets. She’s repulsed yet strangely captivated by the four aristocratic Shearwater siblings, particularly the younger son, Llir, who, like his brother and sisters, is hiding something. Something big.
As the Shearwaters are threatened by a rival House, then play host to a pair of charismatic visitors, Orith finds herself rapidly running out of time. Her loyalties grow murky, her missteps more destructive, and she soon finds herself forced towards a risky allegiance, a bitter betrayal and the making of even deadlier enemies.
I’m a neurodivergent copywriter who has worked with words for over a decade, and live in Hampshire with my husband and toddler daughter.
Thank you for your consideration!

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The headphones I currently have are breaking, so I am looking for Bluetooth and wireless headphones mainly to listen to music playing from my computer or from my phone. I’d also like them to have a microphone.
Albeit being on the lower level of quality, I am searching for something similar to the ones I had for years. The previous are called Besign SH03. Full-sized headphones are “okay”, but my pet peeve is that I dislike big headphones and ones that make me sweat. I personally do not like IEMs. A family member of mine suggested bone-conducting headphones. They allow me to hear the audio while still being aware of your surroundings (mainly because I live in a big city in the EU), which is a huge bonus for me. However, I don’t think the price is worth it for someone like me. I’m not a runner nor I wear my headphones while on the bike, and I don’t think this type of headphones would provide the musical enhancement I’m looking for.
The most important element I check for in a pair of headphones is the sound quality because I mostly use them to listen to music. So, I’d like to avoid canny or muffled sounds. Since I tend to listen to music in public while also indoors, quality includes no sound leakage. I want to focus on listening to music instead of worrying if other people also hear what I’m listening to. I’m also into blocking outside noises and other external distractions. I crave for isolation! Furthermore, I’m interested in durability and sturdy build quality to withstand “some” (and, by “some”, I mean “a lot”) of my rough handling.
I tend to listen to punk or “emo” music, with the occasional alternative rock song. In order to give you an idea, the type of bands on my playlist include mainly My Chemical Romance and The All-American Rejects, but also blink-182, Bring Me The Horizon, Fall Out Boy, Green Day, Panic! At The Disco, Paramore, and Pierce The Veil. In other words, I guess I’d want a tonal balance that mixes bass and drums with lyrics.
My previous headphones cost around 35€, but I would like to upgrade. A friend suggested me a brand that ranges between 50€ and 100€. Some I saw were even at 120€, but I think that is too much.
Appreciations in advance for recommendations and advices!

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Freshly separated since last Friday (me 37F, stbxh nearly 39M). The gravity of the situation has hit me over the last 24 hours. We’re still having to live together for now until we can find the time to actually sit down and talk about the situation sensibly. We have a therapy session on Friday so we’re holding off until then. I just don’t know how I’m going to cope with all of this.
How do we tell our daughter (9)? She’s bright, she knows something is up as I’m sleeping in the bed and dad is on the couch downstairs. It’s too early yet, but the atmosphere at home is sour and I can tell she’s picking up on it. She was reading a book last night where a 10 year old boy was wishing his parents would reconcile (coincidence) and the language was very manipulative with dad desperately wanting to move back in with the family and be “taken back” because it would make the kid happy. How can I convince her that this isn’t healthy? It’s his birthday next week so naturally she wants to get him lots of gifts and spoil him. It feels weird booking dinner for us and buying him lots of gifts on her behalf, but it would be even worse if I didn’t at this point.
How do I deal with the guilt of him sleeping on the couch? I suggested me sleeping on the air mattress in our downstairs office, but he volunteered to sleep on the couch. But every night when I go up to bed I feel guilty that he’s having to sleep on it when I have the double bed to myself. The separation was my decision. I should be the one sleeping downstairs, but he said it’s fine.
How do I deal with the fact that he’s said he’s going to walk out of out daughter’s life completely because he can’t have his family. He said that our town is too small and the chance of us regularly seeing each other is too high and he can’t deal with that. So he wants to move away and not see her again. I don’t understand as he’s a great dad and they’re close. How can he just walk out of her life. I’ve suggested 50/50 and he’s said he doesn’t want “scraps” and he’d rather not see her at all.
How do I deal with losing my best friend? He’s a shocking husband, but he’s been in my life for nearly 20 years. It feels like a death. Even just pulling away from him at home is hard. The in jokes, doing stuff together, chatting. I know these things aren’t reasons to stay compared to how he’s treated me, but I feel like I’m losing a limb.
How do I navigate the future? I’m terrified of dying alone and unloved. I just turned 37 last week and I have no desire to have more children. Of course not interested in dating at the moment, but I know there will come a time in the future when I want to go down that road. Im scared that im never going to find someone and that this toxic, confrontational, sexless marriage was the best it will ever get. I’m keen to be alone right now (I have friends and some family nearby) but I’m scared of being lonely.
Sorry for the vent, but I needed to get all of this off my chest.

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