Oath of Greed

Paladins of the Oath of Greed literally only want one thing and it’s disgusting. Their avarice is so great that it is the very source of their powers, allowing them to smite in the name of the almighty dollar. They can be anything from wealthy moguls without a scrap of conscience, to simply particularly grabby adventurers in it for the loot.

Tenets of Greed

The tenets of the Oath of Greed give important advice anyone seeking to make a living in the world should heed.

• Take risks. The riskier the road, the greater the profit.
• Opportunism. If you see an opening, take it.
• Adapt to new situations. Peace is good for business, but so is war.
• Bail when you need to. Continuing on a futile task because of sunk costs will only lead to further sunk costs.

Oath Spells

You gain Oath spells at the Paladin levels listed.
Paladin Lv3: Protection from Evil and Good, Unseen Servant Paladin Lv5: Gift of Gab (Ac. Inc.), Jim’s Glowing Coin (Ac. Inc.) Paladin Lv9: Incite Greed (Ac. Inc.), Motivational Speech (Ac. Inc.) Paladin Lv13: Leomund’s Secret Chest, Control Water (geddit?) Paladin Lv17: Infernal Calling, Bigby’s Hand

Channel Divinity

When you take this Sacred Oath at 3rd level, you gain proficiency in Sleight of Hand (or, if you already have it, one other skill of your choice), as well as the following two Channel Divinity options.
Hostile Takeover. As an action, you point with a free hand to a creature within 60ft and attempt to magically steal an item it is wearing or carrying that you can see. You make a Charisma (Sleight of Hand) check contested by a Strength saving throw made by the target, which has advantage on the roll if the item is magical. If you succeed, the object is ripped from their body and flies directly into your hand. If the object is nonmagical you may then magically transform it into money of equivalent value, which is then transferred directly to your inventory, if you wish. This version of Channel Divinity cannot be used on an object that would need to be disassembled or unfastened in some way to be removed from the target, such as armor or laced shoes.
Business Accumen. As a bonus action, you can use your Channel Divinity to augment your ability to make profit. For the next 10 minutes, you have advantage on Persuasion and Deception checks; automatically know the value and quality of any and all common goods at first glance and can tell if any currency/coinage/money in sight is counterfeit.

Resource Reallocation

Starting at 7th level, Whenever an enemy starts it’s turn within 10ft of you, it takes 1 force damage. You then start your next turn with a number of temp hp equal to the total force damage you have dealt this way since your last turn.
The range of this aura increases to 30ft at 18th level.

Executive Bonus

Starting at 15th level, you have an additional number of attunement slots equal to half your charisma modifier, can attune or unattune to a given magic item as an action, and have a +1 bonus to initiative rolls for every magic item you are currently attuned to.

El Dorado

Starting at 20th level, your all-consuming avarice and skill at acquisition transcend all bounds. You can use your action to turn your skin and armor the shining color of gold and gain the following benefits for 1 hour:

• Your carrying capacity has no upper limit
• Your arms lengthen, extending your reach by 5ft
• You have advantage on all Charisma checks.
• You score a critical hit on a 20 roll of 19 or 20.
• Whenever you score a critical hit, the target must pass a Charisma save or take additional force damage equal to a number of d10s equal to your Cha mod. A creature killed by this effect is petrified into solid silver.

I have multiple DVD's (same series) which I've created an MKV for using MakeMKV. The MKV that comes out of this is fine, but when I multiplex it using mkvtoolnix, the video ends up all blacked out like this.
Even when I change nothing at all in mkvtoolnix, so just open the file, and multiplex it, this happens. And this is happening for all DVD's from this series so there has to be something particular to it.
I've compared the original and multiplexed using MediaInfo. Apart from the overall bit rate, which is 3 kbps lower in the multiplexed file, they're identical. I've included the output of MediaInfo for the multiplexed file below. Does anyone have an idea of what's going on here?

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Big problem,
Audio comes in (we tried 2 capture cards different brands) from a capture card, capture card uses the generic Windows 11 driver, capture card audio is not separated (even if the source is only putting 1 channel in for example).
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** Same devices work perfectly in Windows 10 with perfect audio separation **

Oath of Greed

Paladins of the Oath of Greed literally only want one thing and it’s disgusting. Their avarice is so great that it is the very source of their powers, allowing them to smite in the name of the almighty dollar. They can be anything from wealthy moguls without a scrap of conscience, to simply particularly grabby adventurers in it for the loot.

Tenets of Greed

The tenets of the Oath of Greed give important advice anyone seeking to make a living in the world should heed.

• Take risks. The riskier the road, the greater the profit.
• Opportunism. If you see an opening, take it.
• Adapt to new situations. Peace is good for business, but so is war.
• Bail when you need to. Continuing on a futile task because of sunk costs will only lead to further sunk costs.

Oath Spells

You gain Oath spells at the Paladin levels listed.
Paladin Lv3: Protection from Evil and Good, Unseen Servant Paladin Lv5: Gift of Gab (Ac. Inc.), Jim’s Glowing Coin (Ac. Inc.) Paladin Lv9: Incite Greed (Ac. Inc.), Motivational Speech (Ac. Inc.) Paladin Lv13: Leomund’s Secret Chest, Control Water (geddit?) Paladin Lv17: Infernal Calling, Bigby’s Hand

Channel Divinity

When you take this Sacred Oath at 3rd level, you gain proficiency in Sleight of Hand (or, if you already have it, one other skill of your choice), as well as the following two Channel Divinity options.
Hostile Takeover. As an action, you point with a free hand to a creature within 60ft and attempt to magically steal an item it is wearing or carrying that you can see. You make a Charisma (Sleight of Hand) check contested by a Strength saving throw made by the target, which has advantage on the roll if the item is magical. If you succeed, the object is ripped from their body and flies directly into your hand. If the object is nonmagical you may then magically transform it into money of equivalent value, which is then transferred directly to your inventory, if you wish. This version of Channel Divinity cannot be used on an object that would need to be disassembled or unfastened in some way to be removed from the target, such as armor or laced shoes.
Business Accumen. As a bonus action, you can use your Channel Divinity to augment your ability to make profit. For the next 10 minutes, you have advantage on Persuasion and Deception checks; automatically know the value and quality of any and all common goods at first glance and can tell if any currency/coinage/money in sight is counterfeit.

Resource Reallocation

Starting at 7th level, Whenever an enemy starts it’s turn within 10ft of you, it takes 1 force damage. You then start your next turn with a number of temp hp equal to the total force damage you have dealt this way since your last turn.
The range of this aura increases to 30ft at 18th level.

Executive Bonus

Starting at 15th level, you have an additional number of attunement slots equal to half your charisma modifier, can attune or unattune to a given magic item as an action, and have a +1 bonus to initiative rolls for every magic item you are currently attuned to.

El Dorado

Starting at 20th level, your all-consuming avarice and skill at acquisition transcend all bounds. You can use your action to turn your skin and armor the shining color of gold and gain the following benefits for 1 hour:

• Your carrying capacity has no upper limit
• Your arms lengthen, extending your reach by 5ft
• You have advantage on all Charisma checks.
• You score a critical hit on a 20 roll of 19 or 20.
• Whenever you score a critical hit, the target must pass a Charisma save or take additional force damage equal to a number of d10s equal to your Cha mod. A creature killed by this effect is petrified into solid silver.

(Please read the disclaimers and part 2 before you continue reading this post )
Welcome back to the second part of introspection, we previously explored why being contemplative is an integral part of improving as an individual, and now we'll explore how we should go about it.
As mentioned in the previous post, I define introspection as the ability to perceive, label, and process your internal experience. We'll be looking at each part of the process in depth.
Let's start with perception: how do you go about it?
Fortunately, for most of us, it can be easily done by removing distractions from our minds and simply shifting attention inwards.
You can do that by creating a space in which you allow the brain to sit in a "vacuum," so to speak, where it can't get distracted.
You can try this now by sitting down in a comfortable environment with nothing but a pen and a piece of paper, you can also listen to some white noise, or just relax in your cozy bed.
You have the flexibility to do it however you want as long as you fulfill the following: No easily accessible distractions and an uninterrupted time for you to sit within that physical space (start with 10-20 minutes if you haven't done this before).
Once you do that, your mind and body will populate your experience with all kinds of thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations. It can be quite amazing (and scary) to see how fast this happens.
Now we get to the interesting part, instead of reaching out for your usual distraction, you just need to do nothing, yes, nothing. Just stay with that experience.
An important disclaimer before we continue: Your experiences will vary wildly from each other, including the severity.
If you feel like you truly can't sit with whatever comes up and are filled with immense fear, anger, or sadness (if you rate it as 7/10 or above in terms of discomfort ) then I would highly recommend walking that path with a therapist.
Consult someone who will hold your hand and provide you with the care you need until you can tolerate that experience on your own.
On the other hand, if you feel like the experience isn't that bad, then you may keep experimenting.
You won't be able to "see" at first since your mind is going to process what is happening. Some of the reactions might be quite negative and a little bit overwhelming to you.
It is also normal if you feel that your experience is somewhat foggy or hard to discern what's happening there. This is going to be like learning how to walk. At first, things are going to be messy, but the success is in staying in the mess until your body is familiar with the environment and can tolerate it.
Do this for 10-20 minutes a day, three times a week as a start, and increase the dose as you see fit. The important step here is to just do nothing and to let your mind be as messy as it wants to be, sit there, and pay attention to it.
Then, once you feel like the experience is manageable, try to understand what is happening to you. You do so by directing your attention to the sensations you feel and trying to make sense of them.
Let me illustrate: Try to put your finger on the palm of your hand and move it slowly. Can you perceive that? If yes, then how did you do that?
Well, the answer is that you just do. You always perceive, all the time.
Where that perception goes is the difference, that is attention!
If you were playing a game or deeply involved in any activity and something brushed against your legs or back. Chances are you won't notice it. The reason being is that all of your attention is directed toward something else, so your mind doesn't have similar bandwidth for other inputs.
So what you're doing is shifting attention from one point to another, and that is what you need to practice, shifting your attention from point A to point B.
This is why it is important to create a space with no distractions where you direct your attention to the immediate feedback you receive from your body.
That is, dear stranger, how you perceive your internal experience!
(I realize that this does seem quite obvious to some of you)
Okay, so if I want to "see" then I need to get rid of distractions and shift my attention to my body, right?
Yes, that is exactly it. If you find yourself speed-running this, then you can move into the nuances of your feelings and thoughts.
Okay, then what about the other two?
Yes, let's do the second one, labeling. How do you go about that?
The obvious answer is to just label your experience, which doesn't seem challenging, right?
While I agree that it does seem easy, labeling your experience can be quite challenging once you clear the beginner level. Let us go through these levels together.
Beginner level:
Can you differentiate between physical sensations, thoughts, and emotions:
Can you label each one: "okay this is a thought", "Oh I see, this is an emotion" or "Oh this is an emotion with physical sensations" etc.
If you can do that, then congratulations, you can move on to the next level!
Intermediate level:
Can you name the emotion you're feeling: Is it anger, fear, happiness, shame, pride, or disgust: "I just finished this task, it took me so much time and effort, but I was able to do it, you know! I feel good about myself"
Can you put your thoughts into words: "I think I disagree with what you said, I think that having A and B alone is nonsense".
Can you describe the physical sensation in detail: " I feel a tightness around my chest and a weird feeling in my throat"
I would recommend using the famous feelings wheel as a helpful guide. Many of my clients have found this to be quite useful. The way you use it is fairly straightforward: go through the basic emotions(angry, fearful, bad, surprised, happy, sad, disgusted) and see which one will "click" with you or feels the closest to what you're experiencing.
Then move to the next stage (e.g: looking at the angry section, are you feeling humiliated, bitter, or mad?).
Then move on to the next stage (e.g: Feeling jealous).
Great! Now, you have a more nuanced view of your experience.
If you cleared this level, then congratulations. You can now move to the advanced level.
Advanced level:
Can you expand on the nuances of the internal experience:
Emotion: "I feel a sense of pride that I was able to finish this task. I am relieved that I was able to achieve this. At the same time, I feel sad that this journey has come to an end. This was quite the journey!"
Physical sensation: "I feel this tightness in my chest and there is this weird sensation at the back of my throat, it almost feels like my throat is dry. I also notice a strain on my eyes, I think I'm about to cry"
Thought: " I think that the issue you didn't mention here is that X, Y, and Z are fundamental parts of the process and while I agree that A and B are important as well, I don't see how we can dissociate the two processes from each other as it will result in issue C, D, and E"
Do you see, dear stranger, how we managed to go from simple labels to descriptions and expansions and how that allows us to have a greater understanding of what's going on?
The important thing to mention here is that you're not going to be at the same level across all the dimensions of your experience. Chances are you're going to be fairly good at one of the three (relatively speaking). You may find it fairly easy to describe physical pain in great detail, or you can write an entire paragraph on why you think this post is a waste of your time, or you can talk for a whole hour about how sad you are over the loss of someone you care about.
It's even a little more nuanced than that. For example, you may be very fluent at speaking "sad", but you may find it challenging to speak "angry", "loved", or "scared".
The unpredictable nature of human life will predispose you to be good at some things and not at others, which is normal. Therefore, if you find it easy to speak one dialect, that doesn't mean there is no area of improvement there. This also means that if you can't speak another dialect, then that also doesn't mean that things are hopeless. Being able to put your experience into words and expand on its nuances is a lifelong skill. You will get better at it the more you try to do it. Use the feelings wheel, talk to friends, or work with someone. The important thing to me is that you keep trying to express what you feel.
This finally brings us to the third point: processing!
Luckily, for processing, you only have to do half the work. Your mind will do the rest (given the right space to do so).
So what is emotional processing?
It is how your brain manages to understand your experience of the world and integrates that model as part of you. This usually will allow you to manage highly emotional states and go back to your baseline.
Let's look at a classic example: Break-ups.
Let's say that you have been with a person for some time and now you have both come to the decision to end things.
Well, at first, this change is going to feel drastic, but as time goes on and as you grieve properly, you will notice that your brain has naturally "adapted" to this change. That adaption is your brain processing the experience you went through. You might even have discovered that you have gained some insight into how to navigate romantic relationships in the future.
So what you're saying is processing is like moving on? Yes, to a certain extent, it is the ability to walk through the experiences you have, make sense of them and adapt to them by either shifting to a different model or by grieving some part of the old model.
I'm lumping the self, relationships, belongings, and ideas into one group called "model").
The good news is that if you allow your brain the space and time to feel, and make sense of things, then most of the processing will be done for you.
Unfortunately, our technology-driven lifestyle robs us of this ability. Being a little more intentional about this can be quite helpful.
The good news here is that paying attention and labeling your experience is technically part of processing your emotions, so you're halfway there!
Here is a breakdown for the rest:
First, create the space as we discussed. This is the seeing that we talked about, take some time out of your day to just have some alone time.
Second, pay attention to your external experience, and be present. The aim here is to try to understand and not change.
Third, Inquire:
Let's take X for example. On Tuesday morning, while going to work. A coworker of X said: "Hi, X!" and X felt this sudden urge to be aggressive towards coworker A.
Let's see how we can be introspective and process our experience by modeling X's behavior:
X: "Okay, so what was that all about, I was walking to work, as usual, coworker A said hi and I wanted to punch him in the face"
Okay, this is great, X took the first step, and the door is open, X took some time to think about this and shifted his attention inward. What's next? That's right, time to label.
X: "Well, thinking back on it, I felt angry all of a sudden. Wait, was I angry at him?"
Again, try to inquire and ask questions, the aim here is to empty that emotional energy that is stored within you. We're going to keep expanding on how X feels until he has nothing to say about that specific situation anymore.
X:" I don't think I'm angry at him necessarily. It's just that he is so annoying"
X: "Wait, why do I find him annoying?"
X: "Umm, It just feels so fake, like the way he greets us doesn't feel genuine and that makes me angry"
Okay, X is doing great here. He managed to stay curious, dig deeper and expand on how he felt. The next question would be, what about his greeting that makes him feel not genuine?
X: "Thinking back on it, he is always smiling and happy, but I know for a fact that this is not possible. Like how can he be happy all the time?"
Interestingly, it seems that X is more bothered by coworker's A attitude and how his smiling is bothersome to him because it is impossible to be that happy.
X: "I don't know, I just feel like, are you so happy that you want to rub it in my face every morning?"
We started with anger, and now it seems that the experience is shifting to another emotion.
X: "Wait a second, I'm envious of the guy, haha, oh my god! I'm envious of the guy, but why?"
Again, X is curious, asking questions, and making sense of things.
X: "I think I hate that I don't have what he has. It's like even though we're on the same boat I don't get to feel what he's feeling"
X: "Wait, I'm dissatisfied with my life, and I'm envious of him?! I also feel bad about not being able to achieve the same things at work. Wait, I can't really tell what this feeling is, let me get that feelings wheel that the guy talked about"
Great job at noticing when labeling gets difficult
X:" Oh, here it is, now let's see, there it is, shame! I'm feeling shame! wow, that is quite the surprise, I am ashamed of myself?!"
X:" Wait a second, so you're telling me that the reason I'm annoyed with him is that he's doing better at me in life even though we have the same job, and I feel ashamed about that. I'm also envious because I don't have what he has and every time he greets me with a smile it feels like he is rubbing it in my face!
What! I have never looked at it this way, wow, just wow! I mean this is alarming, I gotta apologize to the guy"
And that is an exaggerated and accelerated example of processing. What you see here is that X was living in ambiguity. By digging into that ambiguity and by labeling his experience and making sense of it, he was able to shift his perspective and "move on" from the previous model to a new one.
There might be some additional steps that he needs to go through before moving on completely and overcoming the feelings of shame and inadequacy, at the same time, he was able to start his journey by simply keeping a curious mind, asking questions, trying to understand, and making sense of things.
Once your mind clicks, when you have these "oh I see" moments in your reasoning, then that means your brain has acquired a new piece of data to integrate.
The other important thing to mention here is that sleep is also vital for processing.
If you feel like you haven't made much progress doing introspection for that day. I would highly recommend waiting until the next couple of days to check in with yourself. Some of the steps for "moving on" require some processes that are only available through sleep. So wait a day or two, then see how you feel about the issue.
The other important variable is time. Processing takes time and is not a linear process. You will find yourself going back to some points over and over and over until they click. Once they do, however, you will notice that those same issues won't feel as bothersome to you as they used to.
That is it; that is how you go about introspection, now go out there and open the door to the mysteries of your own mind! :)
Alright, dear stranger, this brings us to the end of today's post. I hope that I was able to shed some light on the importance of introspection as an integral part of change.
I'll see you all in next week's post: The why.

GPT-4 reply:

1. 1959 - Machine learning: Arthur Samuel developed a self-learning checkers program, demonstrating that AI could learn and improve its performance over time.
   
2. 1961 - Assembly line work: The first industrial robot, Unimate, was used in a General Motors factory to perform repetitive tasks, increasing productivity and safety.
   
3. 1964 - Optical character recognition (OCR): AI software for converting printed text into digital text was developed, making data entry more efficient.
   
4. 1970 - Medical diagnosis assistance: AI programs like MYCIN began aiding doctors in diagnosing bacterial infections, improving accuracy and reducing human errors.
   
5. 1976 - Speech recognition: AI systems like Carnegie Mellon's HARPY system understood spoken language, transcribing speech into text more efficiently.
   
6. 1981 - Robotic vacuum cleaners: The first robotic vacuum cleaner, the "Fugure 2000," demonstrated that AI could perform household cleaning tasks.
   
7. 1997 - Chess playing: IBM's Deep Blue defeated world chess champion Garry Kasparov, showcasing AI's ability to outperform humans in strategy games.
   
8. 2002 - Robotic lawn mowing: Robomow introduced automated lawn mowers, enabling efficient and precise lawn maintenance without human intervention.
   
9. 2005 - Autonomous driving: DARPA's Grand Challenge showcased self-driving cars, paving the way for AI to revolutionize transportation.
   
10. 2010 - Image recognition: AI algorithms like AlexNet excelled at classifying images, surpassing human performance in object recognition tasks.
    
11. 2011 - Natural language processing: IBM's Watson defeated Jeopardy! champions, demonstrating AI's capacity for understanding and processing human language.
    
12. 2012 - Automatic translation: Google Translate's AI-driven algorithms significantly improved, providing more accurate translations between languages.
    
13. 2014 - Facial recognition: DeepFace, developed by Facebook, achieved human-level performance in identifying faces, enabling advanced security and identification applications.
    
14. 2015 - Video game playing: AI agents began surpassing human performance in complex games like Dota 2, showcasing their ability to learn and adapt.
    
15. 2016 - Voice assistants: AI-powered voice assistants like Amazon Alexa and Google Assistant became widely adopted, offering hands-free assistance in daily tasks.
    
16. 2017 - Medical image analysis: AI systems surpassed human performance in diagnosing diseases from medical images, improving accuracy and speed in healthcare.
    
17. 2018 - Protein folding prediction: DeepMind's AlphaFold demonstrated significant advancements in predicting protein structures, revolutionizing drug discovery and biology.
    
18. 2019 - Text generation: OpenAI's GPT-2 showcased human-like text generation capabilities, automating content creation and summarization tasks.
    
19. 2020 - Autonomous drones: AI-powered drones were developed for precise agricultural monitoring, reducing human labor and increasing efficiency in farming.
    
20. 2021 - Artificial creativity: AI-generated art and music began achieving human-level quality, pushing the boundaries of creative expression.
    
21. 2021 - Robotic surgery: AI-assisted surgical robots like the da Vinci Surgical System achieved human-level precision, enabling minimally invasive procedures with reduced complications.
    
22. 2021 - Drug discovery: AI-driven platforms accelerated drug development, predicting molecule behavior and optimizing drug candidates with greater speed and accuracy.
    
23. 2021 - Fraud detection: AI algorithms outperformed humans in detecting fraudulent transactions, increasing security and reducing financial losses for businesses.
    
24. 2021 - Customer service: AI-powered chatbots provided efficient, 24/7 customer support, resolving inquiries with human-like responsiveness.
    
25. 2021 - News summarization: AI systems excelled at summarizing news articles, providing concise, accurate summaries at a fraction of the time required by humans.
    
26. 2022 - Stock trading: Algorithmic trading systems outperformed human traders, utilizing vast amounts of data to make more informed decisions and execute trades faster.
    
27. 2022 - Robotic exoskeletons: AI-powered exoskeletons enabled disabled individuals to regain mobility, performing movements with human-like precision and responsiveness.
    
28. 2022 - Autonomous shipping: AI-controlled cargo ships demonstrated safe, efficient navigation, reducing the need for human crew and the risk of accidents.
    
29. 2022 - Content moderation: AI algorithms became more effective at identifying and removing harmful content online, reducing the burden on human moderators.
    
30. 2022 - Movie script analysis: AI systems assessed movie scripts for potential success, predicting box office performance with greater accuracy than human experts.
    
31. 2022 - Document review: AI tools outperformed humans in reviewing and categorizing legal documents, increasing efficiency and reducing the risk of human error.
    
32. 2022 - Retail inventory management: AI-powered inventory systems optimized stock levels and predicted demand, enabling more efficient supply chain management.
    
33. 2022 - Waste sorting: AI-assisted robots accurately sorted waste materials, increasing recycling rates and reducing the need for manual labor.
    
34. 2022 - Weather forecasting: AI-driven models enhanced weather predictions, improving accuracy and providing more detailed forecasts than traditional methods.
    
35. 2022 - Human resources: AI-powered tools streamlined recruitment, assessing candidate qualifications and predicting job performance with greater accuracy than human evaluators.
    
36. 2023 - Financial planning: AI-driven financial advisors provided personalized, data-driven advice, outperforming human financial planners in generating optimal investment strategies.
    
37. 2023 - Elderly care: AI-powered robots assisted in elderly care, monitoring health, providing companionship, and performing basic tasks with human-like compassion and skill.
    
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84. 2026 - Veterinary diagnostics: AI systems accurately diagnosed animal diseases, improving veterinary care and reducing the need for invasive procedures.
    
85. 2026 - Water management: AI-driven water treatment and distribution systems optimized resource usage and minimized waste, outperforming traditional human-operated systems.
    
86. 2027 - Animation: AI-generated animations achieved human-level quality and expressiveness, reducing the time and labor required for complex animation projects.
    
87. 2027 - Space exploration: AI-powered systems and robots performed space exploration tasks with greater autonomy and efficiency, reducing the need for human intervention in harsh environments.
    
88. 2027 - Supply chain management: AI-driven tools optimized supply chain logistics, predicting demand fluctuations and reducing costs more effectively than human planners.
    
89. 2027 - Forest management: AI-assisted drones and robots monitored and maintained forest health, improving conservation efforts and reducing the need for human labor.
    
90. 2027 - Sentiment analysis: AI algorithms accurately assessed human emotions in text and speech, enabling more effective communication and customer service.
    
91. 2027 - Intellectual property management: AI-powered tools streamlined the patent application process, identifying prior art and generating patent claims more efficiently than human experts.
    
92. 2027 - Archaeological analysis: AI-driven tools deciphered ancient texts and analyzed artifacts with greater speed and accuracy than human archaeologists, uncovering new historical insights.
    
93. 2028 - Industrial inspection: AI-powered robotic systems performed comprehensive inspections of infrastructure and machinery, detecting flaws and predicting failures more accurately than humans.
    
94. 2028 - Interior design: AI-generated interior designs optimized space usage, aesthetics, and functionality, outperforming human designers in efficiency and personalization.
    
95. 2028 - Real estate appraisal: AI-driven tools assessed property values with greater accuracy and speed, reducing the need for manual appraisals.
    
96. 2028 - Human pose estimation: AI algorithms accurately analyzed human body movements in real-time, enabling advanced applications in sports, healthcare, and entertainment.
    
97. 2028 - Art curation: AI-generated art exhibitions combined aesthetics, historical context, and visitor preferences more effectively than human curators, enhancing the museum experience.
    
98. 2028 - Urban sanitation: AI-driven sanitation robots efficiently cleaned and maintained urban environments, reducing the need for human labor and improving public health.
    
99. 2028 - Sleep analysis: AI-powered sleep tracking devices provided personalized recommendations for sleep improvement, surpassing human-led sleep assessments in accuracy and convenience.
    
100. 2028 - Predictive policing: AI-driven tools analyzed crime data to predict and prevent criminal activity, enhancing public safety and resource allocation more effectively than traditional methods.
     
101. 2029 - Astrophotography: AI-driven image processing techniques enhanced astrophotography, achieving higher-quality images and revealing celestial details previously unattainable by human processing methods.
     
102. 2029 - Energy management: AI-powered systems optimized energy consumption and distribution in smart grids, improving efficiency and reducing environmental impact more effectively than human-led efforts.
     
103. 2029 - Telecommunications: AI-driven tools maintained and optimized telecommunications networks, enhancing reliability, and reducing downtime more efficiently than human technicians.
     
104. 2029 - Soil analysis: AI-powered soil sensors and analysis systems provided detailed, real-time information about soil health and composition, surpassing traditional human-operated testing methods.
     
105. 2029 - Sports analytics: AI-driven performance analysis tools provided real-time insights into team dynamics and player performance, improving coaching decisions and strategies more effectively than human analysis.
     
106. 2029 - Robotic caregiving: AI-assisted robots provided human-like care for children and individuals with special needs, offering personalized support, and reducing the burden on human caregivers.
     
107. 2029 - Art valuation: AI-driven systems accurately predicted the value of artworks, streamlining the appraisal process, and reducing subjectivity in the art market.
     
108. 2029 - Political analysis: AI-powered tools analyzed political data and public opinion more efficiently than human analysts, providing more accurate predictions of election outcomes and policy impacts.
     
109. 2029 - Film editing: AI-driven software streamlined film editing tasks, automatically selecting and combining clips to create engaging narratives more efficiently than human editors.
     
110. 2029 - Chemical engineering: AI algorithms accelerated chemical process design and optimization, predicting reaction outcomes and reducing trial-and-error experimentation in comparison to traditional human-led approaches.
     
111. 2030 - Gaming: AI-generated game content and characters provided unique, adaptive gaming experiences, surpassing the capabilities of traditional human-driven game development.
     
112. 2030 - Pest control: AI-powered pest detection and management systems improved agricultural productivity and reduced environmental impact more effectively than human-operated methods.
     
113. 2030 - Speech therapy: AI-driven speech therapy tools provided personalized, real-time feedback and progress tracking, enhancing outcomes more effectively than traditional human-led therapy.
     
114. 2030 - Natural language generation: AI systems composed human-like text across various domains, outperforming human writers in speed, accuracy, and adaptability.
     
115. 2030 - Job matching: AI-powered platforms accurately matched job seekers with relevant opportunities, optimizing the hiring process and reducing the need for human recruiters.
     
116. 2030 - Marine biology: AI-driven analysis of marine ecosystems provided deeper insights into species distribution and behavior, enabling more effective conservation efforts beyond human capabilities.
     
117. 2030 - Earthquake prediction: AI algorithms accurately predicted seismic events by analyzing vast amounts of geological data, outperforming traditional human-led methods.
     
118. 2030 - Online privacy: AI-driven privacy protection tools detected and mitigated online threats, ensuring user privacy and security more effectively than human-operated methods.
     
119. 2030 - DNA synthesis: AI-powered tools optimized DNA synthesis, improving the efficiency and accuracy of gene editing and synthetic biology applications beyond human-led approaches.
     
120. 2030 - Travel planning: AI-generated travel itineraries combined personal preferences, local insights, and real-time data to create customized experiences that surpassed traditional human-led planning.
     
121. 2031 - Space debris tracking: AI-driven systems accurately tracked and predicted the movement of space debris, improving satellite safety and collision avoidance beyond human capabilities.
     
122. 2031 - Wildlife conservation: AI-powered tools analyzed wildlife populations and habitats, enabling more effective conservation efforts and reducing the need for manual monitoring by humans.
     
123. 2031 - Molecular modeling: AI algorithms accurately predicted molecular structures and interactions, speeding up drug discovery and materials science research compared to human-led methods.
     
124. 2031 - Legal document analysis: AI-driven tools streamlined the review and analysis of legal documents, increasing efficiency and reducing errors compared to traditional human-led approaches.
     
125. 2031 - Smart homes: AI-powered systems managed energy consumption, security, and home maintenance more effectively than human-operated methods, improving comfort and sustainability.
     
126. 2031 - Disaster recovery: AI-driven robots and drones performed search and rescue operations in hazardous environments, reducing the risk to human responders and improving recovery outcomes.
     
127. 2031 - Bioinformatics: AI algorithms analyzed vast amounts of biological data, identifying patterns and correlations beyond human capabilities, leading to new discoveries in genetics and molecular biology.
     
128. 2031 - Waste management: AI-powered sorting and recycling systems improved waste management efficiency and reduced environmental impact more effectively than human-operated methods.
     
129. 2031 - Climate modeling: AI-driven climate models provided more accurate predictions of climate change impacts, informing policy decisions and mitigation strategies beyond human-led modeling capabilities.
     
130. 2031 - Talent scouting: AI-powered tools identified and evaluated prospective talent in sports, entertainment, and various industries, reducing human biases and improving selection processes.
     
131. 2032 - Robotic surgery: AI-assisted surgical robots performed complex procedures with greater precision and reduced complications compared to traditional human-led surgeries.
     
132. 2032 - Meteorology: AI-driven weather prediction models provided more accurate and localized forecasts, enhancing public safety and informing decision-making beyond human capabilities.
     
133. 2032 - Customer behavior analysis: AI-powered tools analyzed customer behavior and preferences more effectively than human analysts, enabling more targeted marketing and sales strategies.
     
134. 2032 - Pollution monitoring: AI-driven systems detected and analyzed air and water pollution levels, informing more effective environmental policies and cleanup efforts compared to traditional human-operated methods.
     
135. 2032 - Drone traffic management: AI-powered tools optimized drone flight paths and airspace usage, improving efficiency and reducing the risk of collisions beyond human-led management.
     
136. 2032 - Public health: AI algorithms analyzed vast amounts of health data, identifying disease outbreaks and predicting public health trends more accurately than human-led methods.
     
137. 2032 - Nanotechnology: AI-driven design and synthesis of nanomaterials accelerated advancements in electronics, medicine, and other fields beyond human capabilities.
     
138. 2032 - Personal finance management: AI-powered tools optimized budgeting, investment, and tax planning, providing personalized financial advice more effectively than traditional human advisors.
     
139. 2032 - Digital art: AI-generated visual art achieved human-level creativity and complexity, pushing the boundaries of artistic expression and reducing the time and effort required by human artists.
     
140. 2032 - Scientific peer review: AI-driven systems evaluated the quality and validity of scientific research, streamlining the peer review process and reducing human biases and errors.
     
141. 2033 - Electronic component design: AI-driven tools optimized the design and manufacturing of electronic components, improving performance and efficiency beyond human-led methods.
     
142. 2033 - Aquaculture: AI-powered systems managed fish farming operations, optimizing feeding, water quality, and growth rates more effectively than traditional human-operated methods.
     
143. 2033 - Fashion design: AI-generated fashion designs combined creativity, trend analysis, and customer preferences more effectively than human designers, streamlining the fashion industry.
     
144. 2033 - Music composition: AI-driven systems composed original music pieces in various genres, achieving human-level creativity and expression while reducing the time and effort required by human composers.
     
145. 2033 - Mental health assessment: AI-powered tools accurately assessed and diagnosed mental health conditions, improving access to mental health care and reducing the burden on human professionals.
     
146. 2033 - Materials discovery: AI algorithms accelerated the discovery and optimization of new materials for various applications, reducing the time and cost of experimentation compared to human-led approaches.
     
147. 2033 - Industrial design: AI-driven tools streamlined product design and prototyping, optimizing functionality, aesthetics, and manufacturability beyond human capabilities.
     
148. 2033 - Ecosystem restoration: AI-powered systems analyzed and managed ecosystem restoration projects, improving the efficiency and success rate of efforts to restore degraded environments.
     
149. 2033 - Seismology: AI algorithms analyzed seismic data more effectively than human seismologists, improving our understanding of Earth's geology and natural processes.
     
150. 2033 - Cognitive training: AI-driven cognitive training tools provided personalized and adaptive exercises, enhancing learning and memory more effectively than traditional human-led methods.
     

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I am really sorry for the English post, please delete it if it is not allowed.
So I have been approached by a small startup company to do some freelance for them. I need to tell them my rates. I have never done this before so maybe some of you can help me on deciding if I am pricing myself right? Thank you so much in advance!!
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This year Florida's legislative session runs from March 7 to May 5. For the past several years nothing good has come out it, as far as marijuana is concerned. First they tried to limited medical marijuana to 10% THC (twice, but ultimately failed). This year is looks like they are going after the completely unregulated Delta-8, THC-O, THC-P, HHC and HHCP hemp market. That bill is a story for another post.
However, this year we are also getting HB387. This is great news. Here's the relevant portion of this bill

For an initial certification, the examination must be a physical examination conducted in person with the patient. For a certification renewal, the examination may be conducted through telehealth as defined in s. 456.47.

Finally! Even if you don't have to drive far, going to these appointment is just a pain, especially since, I think we all agree, they are completely unnecessary.
HOWEVER, if you use one of the offices that employs many doctors and you end up seeing a new Doc every time, the house just inserted an amendment on March 16 that just sucks!
The original text of the bill was modified it now says
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For an initial certification, the examination must be a physical examination conducted in person with the patient. For a physician certification renewal by the same qualified physician who issued the initial physician certification, the examination may be conducted through telehealth as defined in s. 456.47(1).

https://www.myfloridahouse.gov/Sections/Bills/billsdetail.aspx?BillId=77102&SessionId=99
So once again write to your Reps and let them know the situation. I would suggest proposing this amendment to their amendment:

For a physician certification renewal by the same qualified physician or another physician practicing at the same medical practice, that issued the initial physician certification, the examination may be conducted through 28 telehealth as defined in s. 456.47(1).

The saga is ongoing. Lots of updates. Lots of flowery language. Cheerleading.
I'll post the 32 OP posts in comments so save you all going through the whole thread if you're not MN members. Eta - couldn't add as a comment so here's the longest post ever.
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4756410-he-has-run-off-with-the-kids-advice-needed-and-handhold
The saga is ongoing.
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4756410-he-has-run-off-with-the-kids-advice-needed-and-handhold
He has run off with the kids, advice needed and handhold 32 replies Iamworthit · 05/03/2023 09:30
Posting for traffic. Apologies, its long.
Some might remember my previous threads. Basically I separated from my controlling ex in February. Things moved really quickly. And I managed to find a house. I moved out on Thursday. Instead of taking the kids out whilst I moved to make it less distressing for them which we had previously agreed, he stayed and made me take all my stuff out in front of them, and put it into the front garden. My friend and her children came over to help load her car up with my stuff. As awful as it was I stayed strong for the kids, they were excited about the new house, their new bedrooms and where choosing which toys to bring as well as playing with their friends in the front garden. Once my stuff was out (not much, he refused i take any furniture), he demanded my keys back, demanded the kids go inside, and literally pulled my 4 year old away from me, she was screaming and crying. He slammed the door in my face and shut the curtains. In hindsight I should have called the police then, believe me I realise that now. However i was trying to cause as least stress as possible. Due to previous advice on here I have recorded him on multiple occasions. I recorded the children Thursday morning whilst they were playing whilst I was moving my stuff out. You can see my stuff in the front garden and the kids happy and playing. When he took my daughter off me and put the other two inside and slammed the door on me, I started recording then too. You can clearly see and hear my daughter screaming behind the door , (part frosted glass door) and him pulling her as she's holding onto the front door handle from the inside. You can also hear him say you will see mummy tomorrow. Him and I had agreed that they would come to my new house on Friday morning whilst he goes to work. He has been using my past mental health against me, (see previous threads, I will try to link,) since I told him I wanted to separate, he wanted me to provide him a letter from a medical professional saying im sane 🙄. My cpn is dicharging me next week, so he will have that on paper - i know i dont have to do that but I will send him a copy because i have nothing to hide. On Thursday afternoon he phones me asking when will I be giving him half the child benefit. I tell him I am arranging mediation and we can discuss it there as he keeps ranting at me down the phone. So, Friday morning comes around. I message to double check what time he is dropping them over. I get back one message saying the kids are safe, I'm not taking any calls. He then ignores my texts and calls. I got round to his house and the car is gone, the curtains are drawn. He has done a runner with the kids! I phoned police and social services. As we have only just separated there is no child arrangements order in place. I'm absoloutely heartbroken. I've never known pain like it. They are 1, 4 and 6. They spend the majority of the time with me. Nearly 4 years ago he built and insulated a shed in the bottom of the garden. He has slept out there 99% of the time since. Leaving me to do all night time childcare since then. The girls who are 4 and 6 sleep in the bedroom next to me, the 4 year old wakes almost every night and comes and spends the rest of the night with me. My one year old has been in my bed since birth, what must my poor babies be thinking? He also works part time where I have the children on my own. The 4 and 6 year old are homeschooled. I take them to all activities and clubs and play dates etc. I know this is 100% about control, that he is using the children to try to break me so that his "she's an unstable mother" claims come true. I am 100% confident in my ability to parent my children. I am 100% confident that there is no issue with me, infact I've never felt stronger, my mh has never been better. That's why I knew I had to leave, because I knew I could be a strong single mother to my beautiful babies and I didn't want them witnessing his toxic behaviour any more. I will not have my children growing up thinking his behaviour is acceptable. I have a solicitors appointment Monday morning at 9am. All services have been informed, mediation is booked for 2 weeks time. I have phoned the police 4 times since Friday, who advise its a civil matter. I have spoken to social services who have said I'm doing everything right and have contacted every one I need to. I have even contacted universal credit. I believe part of the reason he has taken the children is because he won't receive the child element of universal credit anymore. He has Been begging for half the child benefit which thankfully is in my name. I was receiving pip due to my previous mental health issues, and he claimed carers element in universal credit. Obviously now I've moved out, and said he isn't my carer since we split, he doesn't get that anymore. He was only having to work part time because of this, despite claiming to be my carer, I was doing the vast majority of child care and household chores, whilst he slept in the shed so his sleep wasn't disturbed.
I have never felt pain like this. Being away from my children and wondering what they must be thinking, why they aren't seeing me, what he's filled their heads with is breaking my heart. I know and I will be strong and get through this short time until the courts decide on child arrangements. I'm also realistic about the fact that he could keep them until that date, in which case it could be at least a month before I see them again. Even when I had pnd 4 years ago, I went to a mbu with my daughter, they knew it was imperative that she be with me. I did end up being sectioned but my medication was adjusted and I made a rapid recovery. I was allowed to leave early from the section and even then all my children were allowed to visit me in the family room next to the unit as everyone knew how important it was they and I have regular contact. I was never a danger to my children, I just felt that I wasn't good enough to be their mother. However I've worked hard on myself, I am fully recovered. I engaged in all therapy, took the medication properly and came off it under their advice. I look after myself because I know that to be a good mother to my kids I need to be good to myself. I since have had my 1 year old and there's been no issues at all. Infact as 'my carer' he never once phoned any services or teams on me with any concerns regarding my mental health in an extremely long time, years, So there is also evidence of this.
I have my furniture being delivered today, the girls Bunk beds and sofa, tables etc. I will make this house a special and safe home for my babies, where they feel respected and loved.
I'm sorry for the huge post. Please if anyone has any more advice on what I can do, Or any questions for the solicitor appointment tomorrow I would so appreciate it. I need all the support and advice I can get. Thankyou
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Iamworthit · 05/03/2023 10:52
NEmama · 05/03/2023 09:46
Stay strong. Are his family involved? Would ex mil speak to him . Awful situation for you op x
Nope, no one is answering or responding. I have absoloutely no idea where they have gone. My guess is he's spoken to a solicitor and they've told him he is legally with in his rights to take the kids as he has parental responsibility and there is no court order in place
Go to post Iamworthit · 05/03/2023 14:48
Dartsplayer · 05/03/2023 14:43
Unfortunately, having gone through the same thing with a family member, this is correct and there is nothing the police can do.
@Iamworthit you need to download a C100 form and submit it to your local family Court for an emergency hearing to have the children returned to your care as soon as possible. This group were invaluable in guiding us through the process from the children being taken to getting a Child Arrangement Order in place. You sound like you are doing everything right
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Show quote history I have my solicitor appt Tomorrow. Will she do that?
Go to post Iamworthit · 05/03/2023 23:08
CalamityClam · 05/03/2023 10:19
Hold tight. My ex did the same thing. I had to leave without them. The DCs were safe with him even though I knew he was an absolute controlling TWAT - I knew they’d be upset, but I knew they’d be safe. I did everything you’re doing, determined to have it sorted legally so he couldn’t do it again, even if it meant waiting to see them. Believe me, the novelty will soon wear off for him when he realises he’s stuck with the kids and you’re as free as a bird.
It resolved for me quite quickly- within a couple of weeks. We shared care going forward. The DCs are adults now and have a very distant relationship with their dad.
So reassuring to speak to someone who has been through this and there was a positive outcome. I haven't spoken to them at all or seen them since Thursday morning, this is the longest its been. I'm assuming he has gone to his parents over an hour away. The police managed to get hold of him today and will be doing a welfare check tonight or tomorrow. They can't give me his wareabouts. Im terrified my kids are going to forget me, especially the one year old, other than a handful of nights where he agreed to have him for a night or 2 whilst I visited friends/ family, he's always been with me. And what if he turns them against me. I'm so scared they will think I've abandoned them and hate me or forget me. It could be weeks before a court hearing. Can a 1 year old Remember that long. I don't know.
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Sunriseinwonderland · 05/03/2023 11:27
Take a deep breath and step back OP. My ex pulled this stunt more than once and the judge awarded me full custody and him none because DS was so traumatised by him. It took a while but it was ok. Well done for recording it. Your solicitor will advise you.
How long did he keep your son away from you for? I'm so scared they will forget me x
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Iamworthit · 05/03/2023 23:29
macncheeeesey · 05/03/2023 12:34
He's trying to punish you and unfortunately you have to abide by the system.
He will likely realise how hard it is very soon and won't be able to keep up with the homeschooling and caring for three little ones - especially as you say he sleeps in a shed normally.
Use this time to make the house a home for them. You can apply for an emergency family hearing - I'm sure your solicitor has advised on that.
He's an evil man who is damaging your kids but he won't be able to keep them. You've done everything you need to and informed the right people.
Try to distract yourself and use this time to work on your plan of attack to get them back and get yourself right.
My ex took our DD and wouldn't give her back but did eventually. Police wouldn't get involved after they did one welfare check. I would call them and ask them to do a check and say he is mentally unstable and you're worried about the kids. This will be logged and hopefully will scare him a bit.
I know the feeling, my DD wanted to come back but ex wouldn't let her. When she did some back she was super clingy. She knew what her dad did was wrong.
You've got this and you'll get them back.
I'm sorry you went through this too. How old was your daughter when he did that? How long was she away from you for. I'm scared they will hate me, god knows what he's telling them about why they can't see me
Go to post Iamworthit · 05/03/2023 23:33
liveforsummer · 05/03/2023 12:47
Presumably he was taking care of them while she was sectioned so whilst he may not look after them when she’s gone he clearly can.
He looked after 1 dc then, not 3. He has become increasingly abusive since then
No, he went to work when I was in the mother and baby unit with my 2nd daughter. My mum and mil took it in turns to look after our eldest and he would look after her when not at work. Even when i went away for a couple of kights for my friends wedding my mum came to help him look after the kids
Go to post Iamworthit · 05/03/2023 23:40
Springchicken75 · 05/03/2023 19:36
Op I would also strongly advise you to contact women’s aid after your appointment with the solicitor, they will offer some much needed support and advice.
www.womensaid.org.uk I did this a few weeks ago and I just got an email back with endless other support agencies, solicitors to call.
Go to post Iamworthit · 05/03/2023 23:45
OhmygodDont · 05/03/2023 20:00
Snatches children like some mad man on the street. Or a father having his children for the weekend or maybe even being the resident parent.
With this whole women and men are equal they are aLeo equal parents 🥱. He text saying they were safe and he would not be taking her calls. Police have been called 4! Times and don’t seem to think there is any issue. Op willingly left them on the Thursday.
Im sure op will hear find out more Monday morning but nothing makes her the better or more superior parent in the eyes of the law currently.
The police got back to me today. They are doing a welfare check tonight or tomorrow. I didn't Willingly leave them on Thursday. I left them heartbroken, not wanting to cause any more distress and with a stupid idea he would do the right thing and give them to me the next day as planned.
Go to post Iamworthit · 06/03/2023 05:16
Sami561 · 05/03/2023 20:22
I am so sorry you are going through this OP. The pain is like nothing else.
I have been in the same position as you and, unfortunately, as you have probably found, The Police have no powers if the father has parental rights. They say it is a civil matters for the courts.
All I can say is that this will massively go against him in family court proceedings- it did for my estranged husband. He was banned from having our child overnight for a considerable amount of time until he could prove he was trustworthy again. The courts and professionals also named that he was using our child as a emotional weapon towards me by doing this. Your husband will be viewed in exactly the same way by all involved. He isn't thinking about the children at all, he is thinking about himself and getting one over on you.
Brilliant that you have a solicitors appointment tomorrow, they will give you the advice you need.
Stay strong and get that child arrangements order in place💐
I really hope they do the same. I'm sorry you had to go through this too. It so incredibly cruel and unfair to the children.
Go to post Iamworthit · 06/03/2023 05:46
Kinneddar · 05/03/2023 21:49
Probably because it doesn't meet the criteria. The children are with their Dad, there's nothing to suggest they're at risk. Just because their Mum doesn't know where they are doesn't mean there's anything wrong.
The other thing is the police will look at the history of the family in assessing things. They've been called out before because the OP was threatening self harm. She's still currently under a MH section & despite being told its not a Police matter has phoned numerous times today. Regardless of what anyone here thinks they'll make the assessment based on the information they have, which from the sounds of it possibly doesn't look great for the OP. AND the other thing is, we only know OPs version of events. I'm not saying they're not accurate but we have absolutely no way of knowing
Police don't do a welfare check just because someone wants them to, there has to be grounds.
If for instance they don't turn up at school tomorrow that would have things reassessed.
Even if officers did go out to the house tonight & noone was home they're not going to turn it into a misper enquiry at this stage.
Show quote history The police were never phoned with regards to my mental health. I always went through the proper channels with the perinatal team. Yes I did have the crisis team involved but that was 4 YEARS AGO. I was in a mother and baby unit and the medication they gave me to treat it was to low a dose. I was always with my daughter at the mbu. I got sectioned 4 years ago, and once there, my dd went back to the family home with her dad. My mum and mil also took it turns to stay with them for extra support. My section was supposed to last 28 days. I was released at day 14 due responding so well to the medication. I had been observed with my children by the nurses and Dr's theres (yes I still got to see my kids, and kept breastfeeding her and pumping the whole time) even during that period I have never been away from the kids for this long. Everyone in my care knew I was a brilliant mother, I have documents from being there. I struggling with pnd, and never a harm to my children. We were very much bonded, I just felt absolutely not good enough to be their mother. I have engaged with services at every single point along the way. I since had another baby - the one year old, and I was put under the perinatal mental health team again for precaution, but due to me doing really well during that pregnancy my contact with them was very little and the discharged me a year after birth with a plan to come off my medication, which I have done. Even after all this I'm still strong because I know I have to be there for my kids when I do get them back they will need me more than ever. Yes he was claiming carers allowance. However he hasn't phoned any mental health team in years with any concerns about me. He is trying to gaslight me to say that he has concerns, well than why as he only just raised concerns since I told him I was leaving ? Thankfully this is all fact and documented. My cpn has been phoned by my ex regularly since for the last few weeks since I said I'm leaving. My cpn has received calls from my ex and his family claiming I needed a welfare check. I arranged for my cpn to see me, who agreed that I'm fit and well and will be discharged this week. My cpn told me he said to the mil that they are all wasting his time and to stop calling him. My cpn visited me on Friday when I phoned him to say my ex had taken the children, he came over straight away, and is still satisfied I can be discharged. I've had a traumatic childhood, pnd was almost inevitable I've been told, however I have worked bloody hard on myself and am a credit to my children. Any one else reading this thread in the future who has to go through similar, please do not let posters like this wear you down. I have had PREVIOUS mental health issues. My mental health now is better than its ever been.
Go to post Iamworthit · 06/03/2023 08:55
Thankyou. Omg 8 months your poor baby
Go to post Iamworthit · 06/03/2023 10:28
UPDATE solicitor was great. She will apply for an urgent hearing today. Expensive, but my mum will pay this initial fee. Hopefully be seen by the court today 🙏 With a predicted respond date by Friday from him. I don't know when this means I will get them back, but at least the ball is rolling She will also put in a Prohibited Steps Order to stop him from changing their gp, Registering them for school, or taking them abroad.
Go to post Iamworthit · 06/03/2023 10:38
SchoolTripDrama · 06/03/2023 10:36
Fantastic news, I'm pleased for you.
Also, him doing this, will MASSIVELY negatively affect his chances of getting access in the future, via legal routes. Judges look extremely dimly on parents who pull this stunt
Show quote history Thankyou. I hope this can be resolved ASAP. I think she said she's going to request an urgent live with order too
Go to post Iamworthit · 06/03/2023 13:46
mucky123 · 06/03/2023 13:33
I have no actual knowledge of the Court system in these circumstances or anything helpful to say but I just wanted you to know that I have read the whole thread and I think you are incredibly brave and strong. I think lots of people would have crumpled at this and maybe gone back to him or just broken down. Well done, keep fighting, hope it is all over soon.
Thankyou. Don't get me wrong I've sobbed huge tears of grief this weekend and been full of panic and worry, one thing I will not do is let him break me. My kids need the best version of me right now, and so that's my focus x
Go to post Iamworthit · 06/03/2023 19:25
Another update Not so great. He also did a Prohibited Steps Order. So the judge received them both today. They decided to see us together but the quickest available date is on the 21st of March! I've seen a copy of his order and requests. He wants me to admit I'm unstable. He wants confirmation from mh professionals I'm OK. It looks like he says I can have Supervised contact and calls. So obviously yes I'll take anything I can get, but need solicitor to confirm this. Also made allegations about how "unstable" I am. That I'm a suicide risk, that I've done x,y,z... BUT there's no record of him phoning my gp or cpn or anything, so hopefully that can quash that! He also keeps phoning my cpn telling him he is going for custody or he is giving me the order, or he is hiding away with the kids... So obvious he wants me to crack in front of the cpn. With regards to my cpn he is telling me he is putting my case to the team for discharge tomorrow, there is a chance they won't agree, and with the luck I'm having atm I'm beginning to think that they are going to say they won't discharge me.
Thanks for all the support. I really appreciate everything you ladies have said. I will update tomorrow with any news.
Go to post Iamworthit · 07/03/2023 06:30
Nope not since Thursday morning
Go to post Iamworthit · 07/03/2023 06:46
Scalessayeek · 06/03/2023 22:00
OP I can’t believe how some people are trying to bring you down. I would have completely fallen apart in your situation. You just need someone to see your posts on here to see how centered you are at the moment.
Sending you all the strength and luck in the world!
Thankyou. My kids have never needed more. All his behaviour is doing now is showing me just how controlling he is, and that getting out of that relationship is the best thing for me and the kids long term.
Go to post Iamworthit · 07/03/2023 06:48
P3N · 06/03/2023 19:42
Stay strong OP. You are doing amazing. Have the police got back about the welfare check? Your ex is disgusting trying to use your MH against you.
Yes. They saw the children and reported they aren't in harms way.
Go to post Iamworthit · 07/03/2023 06:54
Iamworthit · 07/03/2023 06:48
Yes. They saw the children and reported they aren't in harms way.
Show quote history Physical harm that Is. I said I'm guessing they are at the grandparents then and his expression told me everything I needed to know. At least they know them. Although they are nearly 80.
Go to post Iamworthit · 08/03/2023 15:57
Whiskeypowers · 08/03/2023 15:47
Hope you are holding up ok @Iamworthit
have you had any updates from the police or your solicitor etc?
No more information from police. He came back last night to his house, was there this morning amd gone this afternoon. I was notified by my friend who lives close by. No idea if the kids are with him. Waiting to hear if I can have Supervised visits before court hearing on 21st. Tonight will be night 7..
Go to post Iamworthit · 08/03/2023 22:08
Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 08/03/2023 19:19
Just for my own understanding, why do you need supervised visits?
Show quote history I don't. He is claiming I'm mentally unstable and a flight risk because he's a controlling, pathetic excuse of a man. He vanished with the kids and put an application for a Prohibited Steps Order that I can't have the children back until he sees a letter from a medical professional to state otherwise.
Go to post Iamworthit · 08/03/2023 22:10
MaireadMcSweeney · 08/03/2023 19:54
Honestly I would probably do this too, but I don't know how that would impact on the court hearing. Remember now the process has started you can't just pull out and cancel it.
Show quote history This. I can't do anything because it's with solicitors, police and social services.
Go to post Iamworthit · 08/03/2023 22:33
Hi ladies. My cpn came over today. He isn't going to discharge me for another few weeks. This is positive, because it means he can tell the courts/judge that he is having the most recent interactions with me and there for can give an honest and open account of how I am. He phoned My solicitor personally and she agreed this would help my case. He has written a letter for this interim period to say he has no concerns. My solicitor believes if he with holds supervised visits before the court date he will be doing himself no favours at all. My cpn also told me that in his notes he has written that in his professional opinion my ex is mentally unstable (he has been pestering my cpn every few days for the past few weeks, since I told him I wanted to leave, however not once in over 3 years before I wanted to split was he concerned). Also that he is bring coercive, he is controlling, and the fact he sleeps in a shed 🤣🤣!! My cpn has Been brilliant throughout this whole thing. It's a case of playing the long game at the moment, I can't do anything to jeopardise seeing my kids. This is night 7. I last saw them a week ago tomorrow at around 11. I will not let him break me. He is using every tactic he can think of.
Go to post Iamworthit · 09/03/2023 11:33
cpphelp · 09/03/2023 08:03
The update about your CPN is fantastic. You are doing everything right. I think you're amazing, and all of this will be working in your favour. Maybe once all of this is over, they will insist on supervised visits only for him! How's the house coming along? Charity shops and the British heart foundation furniture shops are great for filling up a house xx
Thankyou. Yes my cpn has been great! Every second that goes by is another second without seeing my children, but it's also one second closer to getting them back in My arms.
Today marks a whole week since I last saw, held, played with, cuddled or even talked to my beautiful babies.
Go to post Iamworthit · 13/03/2023 20:34
UPDATE So, I got to see them this weekend!!! Supervised with my mum present at his request, but after 9 long days I finally got to see them, hold them, tell them I love them and they didn't forget me! ❤️ They loved the house, and their new bedroom 🤗 it was magic!
I'm hopeful for more contact this week which solicitor is hoping to negotiate. I'm STILL waiting for my letter from the CPN!. He was told by his manager to go through the NHS solicitors to make the letter water tight so that ex/his solicitors can't pick holes in it, so I'm actually waiting on the NHS solicitors now, its frustrating... They have had a similar case happen before, so want to do as much for me as possible.
However, ex agreed to contact this weekend, both days, due to my CPN speaking on the phone with my solicitor, and informing her I am well, capable, of sound mind, has seen me / spoken to me every few days since ex started with these mind games a month ago.
The kids were very anxious about going back to him, which was heartbreaking, but at the very least they know I'm always here, I have a safe home and I'm going to fight for their right to be with me, their mum.
Thankyou for all your support ladies. The first "urgent" hearing is next week, and then it's dealing with cafcass, social services etc for the next (and hopefully final) hearing in 2 months time where we will find out the child arrangements order.
Still a bloody long way to go till this is sorted, I don't trust that he won't do anything he can to get at me. He is already disputing the kids living with me and now my benefits may be stopped or suspended until this is sorted, which is just another form of him trying to control me.
I will never go back to him. I have lost all respect, faith, trust and any love I had for him is well and truly gone. He was able to hide behind clever words, confuse me, manipulate me and control me for far too long.
I hope the kids will forgive me for this upheaval in their lives, and I hope beyond all hope that they are back with me on a regular basis and that the judge can see him for what he is and that his actions have impacted our children's emotional well being significantly. But, until I have the judges decision, I know I won't take anything for granted. Anything could happen and now I know ex is capable of this, he could be capable of more and throw something else at me.
As always, thanks for checking in on me and your support xxx
Iamworthit · Yesterday 18:44
Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · Yesterday 10:33
@Iamworthit your court case is Tuesday I think? How are you doing? Have you seen your children again?
Hi, nice username, dd2 loves hungry caterpillar!
I saw them once in the week aswell as yesterday and today. All had to be supervised by my mum, despite his solicitor confirming she sent him the letter from my CpN on Tuesday lunchtime, and me also sending him a message to say he now has it. However this letter he so desperately said he needs for me to have unsupervised and overnight visits he hasn't even responded to. I'm presuming he is waiting till court on Tuesday.
Yesterday the girls informed me that daddy left them at a strange woman's house whilst he went to work...
The time has been wonderful and I've really treasured every moment. Yesterday my one year old was in desperate need of a nap, he snuggled up to me in our new king-size bed in our new house and he slept peacefully for well over 2 hours. I feel so blessed to be their mummy and am thrilled at how comfortable they have been when back with me for these times. If anyone reads this in the future going through something similar - they don't forget you. That was my biggest fear, but I have more faith now that the bond between a mother and her children will always be there, no matter what or who stands in the way. Love is love.
So, our new magic house (the girls named it) is empty again for now. I'm just counting down the time until Tuesday afternoon and hoping/praying/wishing/ that the judge sees him for what he is and what he has put the children through. My solicitor is hopeful, but obviously no one knows what's going to happen on the day. I never thought my ex was capable of what he has done, but here we are.
I hope everyone has had a lovely mother's day 💗
Go to post Iamworthit · Today 11:18
Thankyou for all your messages and words of support for tomorrow. The police know everything, they did their welfare check on the children whilst he was staying at his parents house in their old country farm house with the attatched holiday home for them to stay in surrounded by their 40 acres of land. Not in the home where he and I lived with his shed at the bottom of the garden and no doubt chaos in the house where for the first time he is having to do all housework, laundry and cooking. They have been back at his for almost 2 weeks now. I have found a small comfort in them choosing games on their tablets and me getting the notification to approve their choices. The fact that I left with barely anything means they have the majority of their toys there, beds, tv etc and to them it was our home where we all lived together so at least they have familiarity. Cafcass will probably be doing a Section 7 report in which case they will meet with us and the kids in both houses so can make their own assessments from that.
They love our new house and I've explained to them the benefits of two houses, bedrooms, toys, Christmas, birthdays etc. They are being so resilient and brave through it all. I'm hoping for them it's just been a bit of an adventure.
The children filled me in on their day at the 'stranger ladies' house, where there was other children, guinea pigs a cat and a dog. They watched telly and played with the other kids and the animals and they gave dd2 a dress she particularly liked. They were very animated about it. I guess at the very least they had fun, I imagine they've been pretty bored with him. We had to drive past his house and up the road next to ex's house to get to mine yesterday and dd1 proudly pointed out 'that ladies house'. Would you believe it's almost directly behind his house!! For all I know he's been seeing this woman behind my back. She could have been hopping over the fence every night and going into his shed for all I know. I can't believe this is my life right now, you couldn't make it up. But as I've come to learn the hard way I certainly can't trust him, and I won't put anything past him.
Literally just counting down till tomorrow now.
X
Go to post Iamworthit · Today 13:28
I have no idea who she is. I did however do a Facebook search of the local "Andreas" in the area and the kids pointed to who she was and pointed to the children who they recognised. It took all of about 60 seconds to find her. And the kids named the kids correctly to what she had shared publicly on her fb page. There's even a picture of her 'cheers-ing' her primary aged son both of them holding glasses of red wine. I've taken screenshots. Her name isn't on any registered childminder lists.
Go to post Iamworthit · Today 13:29
ThreeLocusts · Today 12:12
Will light a candle for you tonight. You've kept it together amazingly through all this. Here's hoping your kids will be back with you tomorrow.
Thankyou x
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Iamworthit · Today 13:41
Ilovethewild · Today 13:10
Op, stay true to yourself and your children.
don’t get caught up with what ex is doing/seeing/sleeping with. It is irrelevant! You can’t control it and the kids are ok. It will just muddy the waters. As others say it’s another twist from ex to distract you and send you off the rails.
focus on what you can do and what’s in the childrens best interest.
good luck with tomorrow, I hope the kids come home to you asap.
I genuinely don't care what he's up to relationship wise, I've been hoping he'd find someone else for a long time and leave me alone.
What I do care about is him leaving the kids with someone they don't know for whatever reason, when I'm round the corner desperate to see them, and him thinking he can do whatever he likes without any consideration for them, me or my mum who's had to drop everything (shes been brilliant in all this) without question, to supervise time for me to have my own children.
I will definitely be asking for first refusal of child care as some other posters have suggested.
Go to post Iamworthit · Today 13:42
Sunriseinwonderland · Today 13:20
My ex hid him for a month. DS was desperate to see me. My ex is a very wicked man.
Show quote history That's despicable. I'm so sorry x
Go to post Iamworthit · Today 19:19
Tomorrow is an urgent hearing to sort out the interim child arrangements before the first official hearing in May after cafcass have done their reports. It's possible there will be another 2 Hearings after that and this could take anywhere from 6 months up to a year to resolve.
Because he did a runner with the kids first, filed a Prohibited Steps Order to stop them living with me because he is saying I'm mentally unstable.
Best case scenario they return to live with me and the judge sees through his controlling behaviour and that he doesn't have the kids best interests at heart. Worst case scenario it stays as it is.
I suspect he has something else up his sleeve to throw at me tomorrow. Its clear he wants me to suffer as much as possible.