Hey everyone. I found what appears to be an injured crow (IC) walking around on its feet near the apartment complex while I was smoking. I thought it was cool that it hung around. I observed that it was going underneath the bush but then out again, and I hear dlittle birds chirping and thought maybe it has lost its baby. However it was just those chicadees.
The crow approached me a little but didn't get too close and even allowed another person to pass by without flying away. IC then crossed the street.
I then noticed two other crows perch on a nearby street sign. One of them came down and started approaching IC.
I thought maybe they would maybe, but as I watched it seemed that the crow was badgering IC. IC hopped away into the tall grass to get away and I helped by clapping my hands in increasing volumes.
IC seems safe for now.
*Actually as. Writing the crows came back with a third. What's happening?
Anyway, who can I call to help this crow? Will it even be attended to?
TLDR: found injured crow being harassed by other crows. Who can I call to help?

Summary: My 2 year old was invited to a birthday part at the same time that my parents (2 year old's grandparents) will be visiting. I'm looking for perspective on how to prioritize.
Way too long version:
My parents will be coming into town for about 9-10 days to help while my wife is on a long trip abroad (two weekends and the week in between). I'm excited that they're visiting, and this has been planned for a long time. It's been quite a while (about 7 months) since they have seen us, as we live about 8-9 hours apart. I call via phone and video frequently so they get to hear and see their grandson, but it's not the same as in person. We will be visiting them the following month, so we'll be seeing them much more than usual over the next two months.
Today my child got an invitation to attend the birthday party of another kid from his daycare class (2 years old). They've been in daycare together for a long time now and I'm confident they get along well. My kid (a bit less than 2) is just starting to mention his friends' names at home, and this is one of the friends he mentions, so I'm confident my kid would enjoy going. I'm a relatively introverted person, but I have been feeling a bit isolated and have been craving an opportunity to interact with other people at a similar life stage to me (i.e. I would like to make some friends of my own). This feels like a great opportunity to do that because I've never really had a chance to spend time with the other daycare parents. Bonus that the party is at an indoor playground that I'd been interested in checking out with my kid anyways.
The birthday party overlaps with the tail end of the grandparents' visit. It may sound odd, but I would prefer to go without them. I feel like showing up with grandparents in tow is equivalent to bringing along uninvited guests to the party, and risks changing the dynamic in ways that would make it harder for me to make friends with the other parents. I am confident the grandparents will not put up a fuss if I ask to go without them, even if they privately find it a strange request. But I also feel some discomfort about wanting to go to an event without them after they have driven such a long way to visit. I don't want to slight them or signal a lack of appreciation for their help. In the past the grandparents' interest in interacting with the grandchild has waned after 3-4 days anyways, and the party will presumably only be for a couple hours, so maybe I'm making a mountain out of a molehill.
I will of course have an adult conversation with them about it and sort it out that way. But they are typically very passive about this sort of thing and will basically roll with whatever I suggest, even if they privately feel slighted. You fine people of reddit often offer useful perspectives that I failed to consider, thereby helping me make better decisions. So I'm posting this in hopes of getting some help thinking through this. Thanks in advance.

I’ve seen some posts about how useless bloody weddings are, and I wanted to share a story of one done right.
In my current game as custom Duke of Austria turned Holy Roman Emperor, I vassalized France by restoring the Capets from the Vlaanderen usurpers. Both my chad ruler and the Capet restorer died and my wrathful son and new King of France hated each other. King of France then started independence faction. On top of that, my new heir was married to a sterile Karling and wanted to replace her. It just so happens that the Queen Mother of France is a Karling, and as such the Karlings and Capets were one united family.
Enter my evil plot. I search for a random adult unmarried grandchild (who, much later turned out, wasn’t even my son’s son) and killed the husband of the sister of the King of France. I propose a grand wedding, wait for the King of France to return from a hunt and start the event.
After careful analysis of the french succession, it’s clear that the next in line that is not on the slaughter list is the newborn child of the younger brother of the king. I order the little guy be imprisoned and, apart from an opinion hit and minor tyranny gain, I don’t receive that much of a penalty. Events have already been set in motion anyways.
Finally, all guests arrive. The King of France, all his brothers, children, nephews (except for the little guy), and Karling cousins (including my son’s wife) are slaughtered as planned. House Karling goes extinct, apart from the Queen Mother, who ofc hates my guts now. The legacy of Charlemagne is snuffed out in a single night.
As predicted, I get excommunicated. I don’t care, as the single greatest threat to my power was the France-lead faction, which has now completely fallen apart. The new King of France is in my dungeons. I grant him the Kingdom of Aquitaine then revoke it, granting it to the Duke of Aquitaine of House Toulouse, effectively cutting France in half, ensuring who was once my most dangerous vassal will never again be powerful enough to rebel by themselves.
I release the boy king on a hook and use it to force him into a betrothal with one of my granddaughters. I also take him as my ward. He grows up to be a terrific ruler, even managing to take back Normandy in his 30’s from a weakened England.
4 generations later, the resulting split of France and Aquitaine still holds, the two kingdoms evenly matched and engaged in constant wars, forever keeping each other in check.

Disco Elysium is a roleplaying game in which players take on the role of an amnesiac detective who has been tasked with solving a murder in the midst of a heated labour dispute. Events are resolved through skill checks and dialogue trees via a system of 24 skills that represent different aspects of the protagonist.
I'm interested in seeing which skills people who peruse this subreddit gravitate towards and in what capacity ideology plays a part, though it's hard to discern the latter with only six options, so feel free to say which skill you chose and why in the comments.

Volition

Hold yourself together. Keep your Morale up.
Cool for: Sane People. Well-Adjusted Cops. The Non-Suicidal.
Volition urges you to be a good guy – to others and to yourself. It enables you to resist temptation: be it in a bottle, between a pair of legs, or at the end of an iron barrel which promises oblivion. Volition gives you the will to finish the investigation, improving your Morale – one of the two health pools in the game.
At high levels, Volition makes you hyper-sane. When you’re about to get funky, it keeps you normal. It’s a bit of a party-pooper. At low levels, however, you’ll have little Morale. Without it, you’ll be a profoundly unstable cop, falling apart at the seams as you make irreversible mistakes.

Inland Empire

Hunches and gut feelings. Dreams in waking life.
Cool for: Dreamers. Para-Natural Investigators. Mental Creators.
Inland Empire is the unfiltered wellspring of imagination, emotion, and foreboding. It enables you to grope your way through invisible dimensions of reality, gaining insight into that which sight can’t see. What’s really going? What do these enigmatic riddles mean for the world-fate?
At high levels, Inland Empire animates the inanimate. You’ll have conversations with your clothing, conversations that may change the course of the investigation if you’re not thrown in the loony bin first. With low Inland Empire, however, you’ll be void of imagination – and character. And then how will you shape the cosmos?

Empathy

Understand others. Work your mirror neurons.
Cool for: Judges of Character. Interviewers. Interrogators.
Empathy breaks into the souls of others and forces you to feel what’s inside. It enables you to notice social cues others may miss: perhaps a hidden sadness you could coax out a little more, a strange joy from someone who should be bereaved, or a hidden resentment that could return to harm you later.
At high levels, Empathy really puts you in other people’s shoes. You’ll cry for their sorrows, punch walls to relieve their angers, and be an even more unstable cop. With low Empathy, however, you’ll be an ungainly beast unable to talk to anyone without upsetting them.

Authority

Intimidate the public. Assert yourself.
Cool for: Leaders. Experts of Psychological Warfare. Respect-Junkies.
Authority urges you to assert and reassert your dominance over those around you. It enables you to understand the power dynamics of groups of thugs, know how far you can push a perpetrator, and how to establish control of situations.
At high levels, Authority demands respect; even a perceived slight could send you into knee-breaking mode. With low Authority, however, you’re forever in awkward situations – like when you suffer psychological breakdowns after you yell at teenagers and they laugh at you.

Esprit de Corps

Connect to Station 41. Understand cop culture.
Cool for: Cops. Cop-Aficionados. Pretend-Cops.
Esprit de Corps is the very spirit of policing: the cop-geist. It enables you to understand your blue-souled sisters and brothers – not only by picking up subtle signals from your partner, but by witnessing flash-sideways scenes as they play out in your precinct.
At high levels, you’ll be the very heart of the police force: not only willing and able but obliged to take a bullet for your partner. However, without Esprit de Corps you’ll be flying blind, unable to understand discreet remarks colleagues make in high-stakes situations; remarks that might just save your life.

Suggestion

Charm men and women. Play the puppet-master.
Cool for: Diplomats. Charmers. Sociopaths.
Suggestion urges a soft-power approach. If people think they want what you want, you’ve already won. This skill enables you to implant ideas into the minds of others. You can make the citizens like you more. You can make gangsters turn on each other, too; many crime-rings have been broken by just a little doubt, after all.
At high levels, Suggestion makes you affable to everyone and more resistant to their charms in turn. But all that schmoozing and oozing charm will make you slimy. And you’ll know it, even if no one else does. With low levels of Suggestion, though, you’ll have difficulty getting any kind of rapport with others. You’ll be alone, both during the day and at night.
View Poll

Hello fellow rebel riders. I apologize, this is going to be long so I appreciate you if you stick around and read the whole thing. First off, I just want to say I have such a huge newfound respect for y’all, by that I mean those who do their own maintenance and ride and genuinely enjoy it. A little over a year ago I bought my brand new Honda rebel 500 and it’s been a good bike. But life has gotten a lot harder since I bought the bike, I lost my salaried job and now I work a new job that I love but I barely make enough to survive and the commute is much further. I got the bike after my truck was hit by a drunk driver and I figured a bike was a good option as used car prices were insane and I needed a mode of transportation. At the time it seemed like a good idea. It was relatively cheap and I would save a bunch on gas. Plus I’d always loved the idea of riding. But as I’m sure you’ve heard many times, I was very overwhelmed by how much more there is to it. With the job situation, I’ve had to opt to do all my maintenance on my own. So far I’ve done 2 oil changes, replaced the front and rear tire, and changed the chain and sprockets. I don’t have any mechanical knowledge and had never even changed the oil on a car before this. I’ve been able to do it all but I’m honestly extremely overwhelmed by it all and have a constant anxiety that I’m just going to mess something up or that I have and won’t notice until I’m riding. None of this matters for the original question that I made the post for but I just wanted to add some context to the situation. I just feel so in over my head and I’m honestly exhausted of being so anxious about this bike.
But back to my original predicament. I was planning on taking a 2 hour day trip tomorrow. I need to replace my DL as my wallet fell out when I was riding last week so I decided to make a day out of going to the closest DMV that I could get an appointment. When I went to go clean and lube my chain I decided (for some dumb reason) to take my front wheel off to look at the bearings and everything to make sure it looks good(I guess? Please don’t make my try to explain why I took the wheel off it was stupid). Now when I went to put it back I accidentally hit the brake pad with with the rotor and the pads pushed together and I wasn’t able to fit the rotor in between. So I used a screw driver to try to get inbetween the brake pads and I was able to push them back apart but I still couldn’t fit the rotor between so for some dumb reason(again no mechanical knowledge) I decided to press the brake pedal a couple times to make sure it still worked(again I guess, I can’t really explain my actions). Found out quickly that was a mistake as its hydraulic. Well after looking up online how to correct my mistake it looked like you could use pliers to separate them and push back on the hydraulics. Well I did that and everything looked good I think. So I put the wheel in and put the axle through but now I can’t for the life of me get it aligned to fit the axle all the way through. It’s getting stuck and not lining up with the left fork( when you are looking at the bike from the front) I’ve made sure the forks are at the same level and making sure it’s not getting caught on the stand. It looks like the rotor is still getting stuck between the brake pad and the top metal price of the caliper itself. Do I need to push it apart further? It looks like I pushed it back all the way but I can’t tell what looks right and what doesn’t. I’m afraid I’ve messed up and have to replace the whole caliper. I apologize if none of this makes sense and I know it was a long ramble and like I said, I appreciate if you stuck around and read the whole thing.

Called Ziply and the lady who helped us was pleasant, seemed to get things sorted disconnect wise, only problem now is that we are supposed to be getting 1gb internet and our speeds appear to be hanging around the 150-250mb range.
The lights on our wall mounted box are green apart from the data light which flickers yellow.
I am not super technical, so a lot of the helpful advice in the previous post kind of went over my head.

I’m in BPG, apart of growth & strategy. Only been here less than a year and prior to the firm I was a manager for a contingent resourcing/staffing company. I mainly won large pieces of projects and built and managed the teams and budgets from a resourcing stance. I have my CAPM and will get my PMP over the July closure. Aside from essentially managing a program within G&S, I do a lot of Salesforce, Excel, and Power BI reporting. I’ve used SQL and Tableau prior to the firm for fun. I’d say I’m well versed but not a pro and I really enjoy the data part of my job. With the reality of the economy, being admin overhead, and wanting to stay with the firm if layoffs did happen, is it a possibility to find something internal if I had to and what would that process look like? Am I naive to think there’s a chance to move toward Data analysis? What are the safest groups here? I love my job, team and opportunity, hope it stays that way. Man I just don’t want to get caught in a RIF just because I’ve been here less than most and know I provide value and have s lot more to learn.

My GF and I have been together almost 2 years now. In about another year we plan on moving in together in a different state. However, we both have cats, I've had my cat for almost 15 years, she's had hers for a year and a half. We also both live with our parents, I just graduated college and am staying here to save money and pay off loans for a year.
I'm skeptical to move in with her not because I'm afraid our cats won't get along, but because her cat doesn't use the litter box fully. It took my GF almost a full year to get her cat to stop peeing everywhere at her parents home however, he still doesn't use his litter box fully. The cat has puppy pads surrounding the litter box because he won't pee in his box only poops in it. Atleast, as far as my GF is aware. Her cat pees all over her bathroom floor so her bathroom smells of straight cat urine. He use to pee wherever he pleased, but seems to consolidated it only in her bathroom. My GF also tried to move out and into her friends apartment a while ago (she was there maybe 4 months) but had to move back to her parents cuz her friend had to move (family issues in a different state). Also, while living with her friend her cat peed EVERYWHERE so she thought her cat was unhappy so another reason they moved back into her parents... where her car started peeing all over her bedroom and bathroom, but has since (it's been maybe 6 months?) consolidated it back to just the bathroom but not strictly the litter box.
I haven't said much because 1. It's at my GF parents house so I don't have much of a say and 2. I know it bothers my GF, she says she's tried everything but the only things she's actually tried (from what I've seen, and what she's told me she's tried) was clean the pee spot and put a puppy pad down where he peed which IMO only reinforces the behavior.
I have brought it up as a concern to her when we first started talking about moving in together, I said that if we move in together we HAVE to find a solution to have him only use his litter box. She just got mad and irritated and started like half yelling that I can't expect perfection and that she's tried everything so I'd just have to put up with it if he doesn't use his litter box.
This is a huge concern for me for a few reasons. One is I have to bring my cat with too (parents said, plus she's my cat), if my cat sees and smells that my GF's cat is going outside the litter box my cat will most likely start doing the same and having 2 cats not use the litter box would be nightmare fuel because of how bad cat pee smells, plus living like that is totally unacceptable! I can hardly stand it when I go over to her house and use the bathroom, because her cat just pees all over her bathroom floor. And another reason being, it's VERY unhealthy and gross.
It's been a while since this initial conversation. I'm also planning on having a BIG conversation before we move in together once we closer to the actual date, but I still want to try and talk about it sooner then later.
How should I bring this up to her again without trying to sound like I'm being rude? I just really won't be able to handle living with a cat that is going to pee all over, I also am not expecting my GF to give up her cat because I own my own cat so I know how rude that is. I just want to be able to have a civil conversation and actually feel heard about my concerns with her without being yelled at and cutting off every other word!

Sexy blue eyed babe Macy Meadows is carrying her groceries to her apartment and her big, strong neighbor GI Joey wants to help her carry all those bags. Once in her apartment, Macy wants to see how toned his abs are and that is when things turn hotter and naughtier. Joey wants to see more of Macy and they end up both getting what they want."

Hi everyone, one of the roommates in our 6-person house is moving out and we are looking for someone to take his place. The room is pretty awesome. It's practically a studio apartment. Below is the craigslist ad with pics!
https://medford.craigslist.org/roo/d/west-medford-large-top-floor-room-with/7629340576.html

Hello! I’m hoping to get some basic info and/or links to learn about how to help my parents plan for their next stages in life.
They are both around 80, living independently and in basically good health. They’ve been in a home in Illinois for more than 40 years, but have hinted that they are finally thinking about downsizing. My wife and I have already offered to have them stay with us, but they might prefer to rent an apartment near us for a while at first.
They have a few basic assets and income (their home, some regular stock and some in a 401k, a small pension, social security, and maybe a few other odds and ends) but I can’t imagine it would come out to more than 300k - they have written their will to divide whatever they have between my sister and I. My sister, in Missouri, and I, in Illinois with my parents, have a basically good relationship and are in basically good financial situations for our own families. We are trying to understand what to do in order for us all to enjoy whatever time we have left, and to plan ahead for possible difficulties so that they don’t sour anything.
In particular, I would like to learn about aid and support in Illinois for extended at-home or nursing home care. This is definitely an area where my parents are not super-ready financially, and it would be a challenge for my sister and I to provide for them. This is, financially, the thing I worry about most as my parents age. They would like to leave something for us, but what are their options if they end up needing care later on?
What else am I not thinking of that I should be considering?

Hi all! I’ll wishfully be moving to the Tinamaste area if my house offer is approved this month and I’m looking for a place to ride horses very often. I’ve ridden for years in many disciplines and I’m looking to be apart of a program or training facility. Is this something that I’ll be able to find?

TRACK 1: Hello
[Verse 1]
Hello, it's me
I was wondering if after all these years you'd like to meet
To go over everything
They say that time's supposed to heal ya, but I ain't done much healing
Hello, can you hear me?
I'm in California dreaming about who we used to be
When we were younger and free
I've forgotten how it felt before the world fell at our feet
[Pre-Chorus]
There's such a difference between us
And a million miles
[Chorus]
Hello from the other side
I must've called a thousand times
To tell you I'm sorry for everything that I've done
But when I call, you never seem to be home
Hello from the outside
At least, I can say that I've tried
To tell you I'm sorry for breaking your heart
But it don't matter, it clearly doesn't tear you apart anymore
[Verse 2]
Hello, how are you?
It's so typical of me to talk about myself, I'm sorry
I hope that you're well
Did you ever make it out of that town where nothing ever happened?
[Pre-Chorus]
It's no secret that the both of us
Are running out of time
[Chorus]
So hello from the other side (Other side)
I must've called a thousand times (Thousand times)
To tell you I'm sorry for everything that I've done
But when I call, you never seem to be home
Hello from the outside (Outside)
At least, I can say that I've tried (I've tried)
To tell you I'm sorry for breaking your heart
But it don't matter, it clearly doesn't tear you apart anymore
[Bridge]
(Highs, highs, highs, highs, lows, lows, lows, lows)
Ooh, anymore
(Highs, highs, highs, highs, lows, lows, lows, lows)
Ooh, anymore
(Highs, highs, highs, highs, lows, lows, lows, lows)
Ooh, anymore
(Highs, highs, highs, highs, lows, lows, lows, lows)
Anymore
[Chorus]
Hello from the other side (Other side)
I must've called a thousand times (Thousand times)
To tell you I'm sorry for everything that I've done
But when I call, you never seem to be home
Hello from the outside (Outside)
At least, I can say that I've tried (I've tried)
To tell you I'm sorry for breaking your heart
But it don't matter, it clearly doesn't tear you apart anymore
TRACK 2: Send My Love (To Your New Lover)
[Intro]
Just the guitar?
Okay, cool
[Verse 1]
This was all you, none of it me
You put your hands on, on my body and told me
Mmm, told me you were ready
For the big one, for the big jump
I'd be your last love, everlasting, you and me
Mmm, that was what you told me
[Pre-Chorus]
I'm giving you up
I've forgiven it all
You set me free
[Chorus]
Send my love to your new lover
Treat her better
We've gotta let go of all of our ghosts
We both know we ain't kids no more
Send my love to your new lover
Treat her better
We've gotta let go of all of our ghosts
We both know we ain't kids no more
[Verse 2]
I was too strong, you were trembling
You couldn't handle the hot heat rising (Rising)
Mmm, baby, I'm still rising
I was running, you were walking
You couldn't keep up, you were falling down (Down)
Mmm, there's only one way down
[Pre-Chorus]
I'm giving you up
I've forgiven it all
You set me free, oh
[Chorus]
Send my love to your new lover
Treat her better
We've gotta let go of all of our ghosts
We both know we ain't kids no more
Send my love to your new lover
Treat her better
We've gotta let go of all of our ghosts
We both know we ain't kids no more
[Bridge]
If you're ready, if you're ready
If you're ready, I am ready
If you're ready, if you're ready
We both know we ain't kids no more
No, we ain't kids no more
[Pre-Chorus]
I'm giving you up
I've forgiven it all
You set me free
[Chorus]
Send my love to your new lover
Treat her better
We've gotta let go of all of our ghosts
We both know we ain't kids no more
Send my love to your new lover
Treat her better
We've gotta let go of all of our ghosts
We both know we ain't kids no more
[Outro]
If you're ready, if you're ready
(Send my love to your new lover)
If you're ready, are you ready?
(Treat her better)
We've gotta let go of all of our ghosts
We both know we ain't kids no more
If you're ready, if you're ready
(Send my love to your new lover)
If you're ready, are you ready?
(Treat her better)
We've gotta let go of all of our ghosts
We both know we ain't kids no more
TRACK 3: I Miss You
[Verse 1]
I want every single piece of you
I want your heaven and your oceans too
Treat me soft but touch me cruel
I wanna teach you things you never knew, baby
Bring the floor up to my knees
Let me fall into your gravity
Then kiss me back to life to see
Your body standing over me
[Pre-Chorus]
Baby, don't let the lights go down
Baby, don't let the lights go down
Baby, don't let the lights go down
Lights go down, lights go down
Lights go down, lights go down
Down, down, down
[Chorus]
I miss you when the lights go out
It illuminates all of my doubts
Pull me in, hold me tight, don't let go
Baby, give me light
I miss you when the lights go out
It illuminates all of my doubts
Pull me in, hold me tight, don't let go
Baby, give me light
[Verse 2]
I love the way your body moves
Towards me from across the room
Brushing past my every groove
No one has me like you do, baby
Bring your heart, I'll bring my soul
But be delicate with my ego
I wanna step into your great unknown
With you and me setting the tone
[Pre-Chorus]
Baby, don't let the lights go down
Baby, don't let the lights go down
Baby, don't let the lights go down
Lights go down, lights go down
Lights go down, lights go down
Down, down, down
[Chorus]
I miss you when the lights go out
It illuminates all of my doubts
Pull me in, hold me tight, don't let go
Baby, give me light
I miss you when the lights go out
It illuminates all of my doubts
Pull me in, hold me tight, don't let go
Baby, give me light
[Bridge]
We play so dirty in the dark
'Cause we are living worlds apart
It only makes it harder, baby
It only makes it harder, baby
Harder, baby, harder, baby
[Chorus]
I miss you when the lights go out
It illuminates all of my doubts
Pull me in, hold me tight, don't let go
Baby, give me light
I miss you when the lights go out
It illuminates all of my doubts
Pull me in, hold me tight, don't let go
Baby, give me light
[Outro]
I miss you, I miss you
I miss you, I miss you
I miss you, I miss you
I miss you, I miss you
TRACK 4: When We Were Young
[Verse 1]
Everybody loves the things you do
From the way you talk to the way you move
Everybody here is watching you
'Cause you feel like home, you're like a dream come true
But if by chance you're here alone
Can I have a moment before I go?
'Cause I've been by myself all night long
Hoping you're someone I used to know
[Pre-Chorus]
You look like a movie
You sound like a song
My God, this reminds me
Of when we were young
[Chorus]
Let me photograph you in this light
In case it is the last time that we might
Be exactly like we were before we realised
We were sad of getting old, it made us restless
It was just like a movie
It was just like a song
[Verse 2]
I was so scared to face my fears
Nobody told me that you'd be here
And I swear you'd moved overseas
That's what you said when you left me
[Pre-Chorus]
You still look like a movie
You still sound like a song
My God, this reminds me
Of when we were young
[Chorus]
Let me photograph you in this light
In case it is the last time that we might
Be exactly like we were before we realised
We were sad of getting old, it made us restless
It was just like a movie
It was just like a song
[Refrain]
(When we were young)
(When we were young)
(When we were young)
(When we were young)
[Bridge]
It's hard to admit that everything just takes me back
To when you were there, to when you were there
And a part of me keeps holding on just in case it hasn't gone
'Cause I still care, do you still care?
[Breakdown]
It was just like a movie
It was just like a song
My God, this reminds me
Of when we were young
[Refrain]
(When we were young)
(When we were young)
(When we were young)
(When we were young)
[Chorus]
Let me photograph you in this light
In case it is the last time that we might
Be exactly like we were before we realised
We were sad of getting old, it made us restless
Oh, I'm so mad I'm getting old, it makes me reckless
It was just like a movie
It was just like a song
When we were young
TRACK 5: Remedy
[Verse 1]
I remember all of the things that I thought I wanted to be
So desperate to find a way out of my world and finally breathe
Right before my eyes I saw my heart, it came to life
This ain't easy, it's not meant to be, every story has its scars
[Chorus]
But when the pain cuts you deep
When the night keeps you from sleeping
Just look and you will see that I will be your remedy
When the world seems so cruel
And your heart makes you feel like a fool
I promise you will see that I will be
I will be your remedy
[Verse 2]
No river is too wide or too deep for me to swim to you
Come whatever, I'll be the shelter that won't let the rain come through
Your love, it is my truth and I will always love you
Love you, oh
[Chorus]
When the pain cuts you deep
When the night keeps you from sleeping
Just look and you will see that I will be your remedy
When the world seems so cruel
And your heart makes you feel like a fool
I promise you will see that I will be
I will be your remedy
Ohhh, ohhh
When the pain cuts you deep
When the night keeps you from sleeping
Just look and you will see that I will be, I will be
When the world seems so cruel
And your heart makes you feel like a fool
I promise you will see that I will be, I will be
I will be your remedy, mmm, mm-hmm
TRACK 6: Water Under The Bridge
[Verse 1]
If you're not the one for me
Then how come I can bring you to your knees?
If you're not the one for me
Why do I hate the idea of being free?
And if I'm not the one for you
You've gotta stop holding me the way you do
Oh honey, if I’m not the one for you
Why have we been through what we have been through?
[Pre-Chorus]
It's so cold out here in your wilderness
I want you to be my keeper
But not if you are so reckless
[Chorus]
If you're gonna let me down, let me down gently
Don't pretend that you don't want me
Our love ain't water under the bridge
If you're gonna let me down, let me down gently
Don't pretend that you don't want me
Our love ain't water under the bridge
Say that our love ain't water under the bridge
[Verse 2]
What are you waiting for?
You never seem to make it through the door
And who are you hiding from?
It ain't no life to live like you're on the run
Have I ever asked for much?
The only thing that I want is your love
[Chorus]
If you're gonna let me down, let me down gently
Don't pretend that you don't want me
Our love ain't water under the bridge
If you're gonna let me down, let me down gently
Don't pretend that you don't want me
Our love ain't water under the bridge
Say that our love ain't water under the bridge
[Pre-Chorus]
It's so cold in your wilderness
I want you to be my keeper
But not if you are so reckless
[Chorus]
If you're gonna let me down, let me down gently
Don't pretend that you don't want me
Our love ain't water under the bridge
If you're gonna let me down, let me down gently
Don't pretend that you don't want me
Our love ain't water under the bridge
[Outro]
Say it ain't so, say it ain't so
Say it ain't so, say it ain't so
Say that our love ain't water under the bridge (Say it ain't so, say it ain't so)
Say it ain't so, say it ain't so
Say it ain't so, say it ain't so
Say it ain't so, say it ain't so
Say that our love ain't water under the bridge (Say it ain't so, say it ain't so)
Say it ain't so, say it ain't so
Say that our love ain't water under the bridge
TRACK 7: River Lea
[Verse 1]
Everybody tells me it's 'bout time that I moved on
That I need to learn to lighten up and learn how to be young
But my heart is a valley, it's so shallow and manmade
I'm scared to death if I let you in that you'll see I'm just a fake
Sometimes I feel lonely in the arms of your touch
But I know that's just me 'cause nothing ever is enough
When I was a child I grew up by the River Lea
There was something in the water, now that something's in me
[Pre-Chorus]
Oh, I can't go back, but the reeds are growing out of my fingertips
I can't go back to the river
[Chorus]
But, it's in my roots, in my veins
In my blood and I stain every heart that I use to heal the pain
Oh, it's in my roots, in my veins
In my blood and I stain every heart that I use to heal the pain
So, I blame it on the River Lea, the River Lea, the River Lea
Yeah, I blame it on the River Lea, the River Lea, the River Lea
[Verse 2]
I should probably tell you now before it's way too late
That I never meant to hurt you or lie straight to your face
Consider this my apology, I know it's years in advance
But, I would rather say it now in case I never get the chance
[Pre-Chorus]
No, I can't go back, but the reeds are growing out of my fingertips
I can't go back to the river
[Chorus]
But, it's in my roots, in my veins
In my blood and I stain every heart that I use to heal the pain
Oh, it's in my roots, in my veins
In my blood and I stain every heart that I use to heal the pain
So, I blame it on the River Lea, the River Lea, the River Lea
Yeah, I blame it on the River Lea, the River Lea, the River Lea
So, I blame it on the River Lea, the River Lea, the River Lea
Yeah, I blame it on the River Lea, the River Lea, the River Lea
[Outro]
River Lea, River Lea
River Lea
The River Lea-ea-ea
The River Lea-ea-ea
The River Lea-ea-ea
TRACK 8: Love in the Dark
[Verse 1]
Take your eyes off of me so I can leave
I'm far too ashamed to do it with you watching me
This is never ending, we have been here before
But I can't stay this time 'cause I don't love you anymore
[Pre-Chorus]
Please stay where you are, don't come any closer
Don't try to change my mind, I'm being cruel to be kind
[Chorus]
I can't love you in the dark
It feels like we're oceans apart
There is so much space between us
Baby, we're already defeated
Ah-yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah, everything changed me
[Verse 2]
You have given me something that I can't live without
You mustn't underestimate that when you are in doubt
But I don't want to carry on like everything is fine
The longer we ignore it all, the more that we will fight
[Pre-Chorus]
Please don't fall apart, I can't face your breaking heart
I'm trying to be brave, stop asking me to stay
[Chorus]
I can't love you in the dark
It feels like we're oceans apart
There is so much space between us
Baby, we're already defeated
Ah-yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah, everything changed me
[Bridge]
We're not the only ones
I don't regret a thing
Every word I've said
You know I'll always mean
It is the world to me
That you are in my life
But I want to live and not just survive
[Instrumental Interlude]
[Chorus]
That's why I can't love you in the dark
It feels like we're oceans apart
There is so much space between us
Baby, we're already defeated
'Cause ah-yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah, everything changed me
And I-I-I-I-I don't think you can save me
TRACK 9: Million Years Ago
[Verse 1]
I only wanted to have fun
Learning to fly, learning to run
I let my heart decide the way
When I was young
Deep down, I must have always known
That this would be inevitable
To earn my stripes, I'd have to pay
And bare my soul
[Chorus]
I know I'm not the only one
Who regrets the things they've done
Sometimes, I just feel it's only me
Who can't stand the reflection that they see
I wish I could live a little more
Look up to the sky, not just the floor
I feel like my life is flashing by
And all I can do is watch and cry
I miss the air, I miss my friends
I miss my mother, I miss it when
Life was a party to be thrown
But that was a million years ago
[Verse 2]
When I walk around all of the streets
Where I grew up and found my feet
They can't look me in the eye
It's like they're scared of me
I try to think of things to say
Like a joke or a memory
But they don't recognize me now
In the light of day
[Chorus]
I know I'm not the only one
Who regrets the things they've done
Sometimes, I just feel it's only me
Who never became who they thought they'd be
I wish I could live a little more
Look up to the sky, not just the floor
I feel like my life is flashing by
And all I can do is watch and cry
I miss the air, I miss my friends
I miss my mother, I miss it when
Life was a party to be thrown
But that was a million years ago
[Outro]
A million years ago
TRACK 10: All I Ask
[Verse 1]
I will leave my heart at the door
I won't say a word
They've all been said before, you know
So why don't we just play pretend
Like we're not scared of what is coming next
Or scared of having nothing left?
[Pre-Chorus]
Look, don't get me wrong
I know there is no tomorrow
All I ask is
[Chorus]
If this is my last night with you
Hold me like I'm more than just a friend
Give me a memory I can use
Take me by the hand while we do
What lovers do
It matters how this ends
'Cause what if I never love again?
[Verse 2]
I don't need your honesty
It's already in your eyes
And I'm sure my eyes, they speak for me
No one knows me like you do
And since you're the only one that mattered
Tell me, who do I run to?
[Pre-Chorus]
Look, don't get me wrong
I know there is no tomorrow
All I ask is
[Chorus]
If this is my last night with you
Hold me like I'm more than just a friend
Give me a memory I can use
Take me by the hand while we do
What lovers do
It matters how this ends
'Cause what if I never love again?
[Bridge]
Let this be our lesson in love
Let this be the way we remember us
I don't want to be cruel or vicious
And I ain't asking for forgiveness
All I ask is
[Chorus]
If this is my last night with you
Hold me like I'm more than just a friend
Give me a memory I can use
Take me by the hand while we do
What lovers do
It matters how this ends
'Cause what if I never love again?
TRACK 11: Sweetest Devotion
[Intro]
[Verse 1]
With your loving, there ain't nothing that I can't adore
The way I'm running with you, honey
Means we can break every law
I find it funny that you're the only one I never looked for
There is something in your loving that tears down my walls
[Pre-Chorus]
I wasn't ready then, I'm ready now
I'm heading straight for you
You will only be eternally
The one that I belong to
[Chorus]
The sweetest devotion
Hit me like an explosion
All of my life, I've been frozen
The sweetest devotion I know
[Verse 2]
I'll forever be whatever you want me to be
I'll go under and all over for your clarity
When you wonder if I'm gonna lose my way home
Just remember, that come whatever, I'll be yours all along
[Pre-Chorus]
I wasn't ready then, I'm ready now
I'm heading straight for you
You will only be eternally
The one that I belong to
[Chorus]
The sweetest devotion
Hit me like an explosion
All of my life, I've been frozen
The sweetest devotion I know
[Bridge]
I've been looking for you, baby
In every face that I've ever known
And there is something 'bout the way you love me
That finally feels like home
You're my light, you're my darkness
You're the right kind of madness
You're my hope, you're my despair
You're my scope of everything, everywhere
[Chorus]
The sweetest devotion
Hit me like an explosion
All of my life, I've been frozen
The sweetest devotion I know
[Outro]
Sweetest, it's the sweetest
Sweetest, it's the sweetest
Sweetest, it's the sweetest
Sweetest, it's the sweetest devotion
TRACK 12: Can't Let Go
[Verse 1]
When did it go wrong? I will never know
I have loved you all my life
How did it slow down? I go round and around
Thinking about it all the time
​
[Pre-Chorus]
I gave you heaven on a platter, baby
I gave you everything you never gave me
I never lied and I never faked it
Only wanted for you to save me
This love, it ain't over yet
There's too much that I haven't said
[Chorus]
Did you find the note that I wrote?
I hid it in the seam of your coat
It was hard to write with a lump in my throat
Do you even know that I can't let go?
[Verse 2]
Why were you so cold? Let the truth be told
Tell me, was it all for the thrill?
What was I thinking? I gave you everything
But you still went for the kill
[Pre-Chorus]
I gave you heaven on a platter, baby
I gave you everything you never gave me
I never lied and I never faked it
Only wanted for you to save me
[Chorus]
Did you find the note that I wrote?
I hid it in the seam of your coat
It was hard to write with a lump in my throat
Do you even know that I can't let go?
[Bridge]
Ooh, sometimes I feel like I'm in the dark
Ooh, I thought I'd die in your arms
[Chorus]
Did you find the note that I wrote?
I hid it in the seam of your coat
It was hard to write, I had a lump in my throat
Do you even know that I can't let go?
[Outro]
Hope you know, I won't let go
TRACK 13: Lay Me Down
[Verse 1]
I would never lie to you unless you tell me to
Every part of me, all my words to hold
And hold against me, why won't you let it be?
[Pre-Chorus]
Don't you ever say my love, "open up your heart"
No I'm not gonna do it standing up
The words don't come out right when you're right in front of me
Help me baby, won't you turn off the lights
[Chorus]
Lay me down ('til the morning)
Lay me down (through the night)
Lay me down (I can fall in)
Lay me down (Won’t you)
Lay me down (I can baby)
Lay me down (Someone believe me)
[Verse 2]
I would never break the rules unless you tell me to
You can read my mind, be it truth or lies
Lie down beside me, why won't you let it be?
[Pre-Chorus]
Don't you ever say my love opened up your heart
No I'm not gonna do it standing up
The words don't come out right when you're right in front of me
Help me baby, won't you turn off the lights
[Chorus]
Lay me down ('til the morning)
Lay me down (through the night)
Lay me down (I can fall in)
Lay me down (Won't you)
Lay me down (I can baby)
Lay me down (Someone believe me)
[Bridge]
Lay down with me
Lay down with me
Lay down with me
Lay down with me
[Pre-Chorus]
Words don't come out right when you're right in front of me
Help me baby, won't you turn off the lights
[Chorus]
Lay me down ('til the morning)
Lay me down (through the night)
Lay me down (I can fall in)
Lay me down (Won't you)
Lay me down (I can baby)
Lay me down (Someone believe me)
TRACK 14: Why Do You Love Me
[Intro]
Why do you love me, do you love me?
Why do you love me, do you love me?
Why do you love me, do you love me?
Why do you love me?
Why do you love me, do you love me?
Why do you love me, do you love me?
Why do you love me, do you love me?
Why do you love me?
[Verse 1]
Why do you love me?
There must be something in the water
'Cause, baby, I'm in deeper than I knew
How do you keep me coming back for more
After all we've been through?
[Pre-Chorus]
I can't decide if I should run and hide
[Chorus]
It's above and beyond me, it's out of my hands
Your love drives me crazy, it's hard to understand
Just why I want you to love me
I want you to love me
I want you to love me
I want you to love me
[Verse 2]
Who knows why I love you
It could be something in the air I breathe
Whatever it is, I depend on it
And where does the time go?
I spend every single moment daydreaming of you
[Pre-Chorus]
I can't describe how I feel, it feels right
[Chorus]
It's above and beyond me, it's out of my hands
Your love drives me crazy, it's hard to understand
Just why I want you to love me
I want you to love me
I want you to love me
I want you to love me
[Bridge]
You were a shot in the dark that blew me away
And you left your mark, and it never will fade
You've ignited a spark, let the fires away
Are you ready, ready?
You have a place in my heart that will always be yours
You are the peak and art of my universe
Every piece and part, you were the first
I am ready, ready
[Chorus]
It's above and beyond me, it's out of my hands
Your love drives me crazy, it's hard to understand
Just why I want you to love me
I want you to love me
I want you to love me
I want you
[Chorus]
It's above and beyond me, it's out of my hands
Your love drives me crazy, it's hard to understand
Just why I want you to love me
I want you to love me
I want you to love me
I want you to love me
[Outro]
Why do you love me, do you love me?
Why do you love me, do you love me?
Why do you love me, do you love me?
Why do you love me, do you love me?

Hey all,
I’ve been seeing a woman from Brazil here in the US for close to a year. We’ve decided to move to Brazil together and teach English there. I’ve never been to Brazil, but I have spent some time in Peru, and since then I’ve been enamored with the idea of moving down to South America. The people I met while traveling were so much more welcoming, and I felt more at home in their culture than the US. I’ve also lived a pretty decisive and independent life this far in the US, so I should be resourceful and careful enough to pull this off.
She bought an apartment in Brazil- it’s paid for completely in a similar way to a condo in the US. She has taught English there before and I’ve taught English online as well. I do not have a TEFL cert, but I have a solid grasp on grammar, syntax, etc. From what I’m seeing from other expats, most English schools in Brazil just require a teacher to pass a test. Regardless, we intend on starting a business teaching online and in person.
My understanding of the visa process is that I get a 90 day visitation visa upon arrival to the country. I can ask the federal police to extend it another 90 days (they can refuse) or leave the country and come back to stay a maximum of 180 days. Beyond that, a work visa or digital nomad visa could buy me more time. But I think we’re just gonna get married within that 90 days and then apply for the permanent visa that way.
I’m learning Portuguese as quickly as I can. My Spanish is pretty fluent, which I think makes it easier to learn another language with similar syntax and verb conjugation. When I went to Peru, I was able to get by fine even with pretty poor Spanish. So I feel like with the help of google translate and a lot of patience and learning, I’ll be fine.
I’m really excited about the prospect of moving to Brazil. Everyone says the people are so warm and welcoming. The culture seems so vibrant and beautiful.
Lastly, I do have a felony for assault in the US from 5 years ago. I’ve looked into if that is going to come up at the border and the answer seems to be probably not. If it comes up I’m going to say I have no criminal record.
If anyone has advice or feedback, potential pitfalls, or insight into the English teaching market around Recife, I’d be appreciative.

Hi! I'm looking for someone to take over my lease in September this fall. The apartment is at University Crest Apartments, and is a 2 bedroom 1.5 bath. You will have 3 other roommates and will be sharing a room and bathroom with 1 of them. The rent is $638 including utilities. The room is unfurnished but I am selling my twin sized bed frame for $30 (price negotiable). There is a sofa, coffee table, tv stand, table, and chair in the living room. The kitchen has a stove, oven, microwave, dishwasher, and fridge. The apartment complex has an onsite laundry room and pool as well. It is a 15-20 minute walk from UCR and is a gated community. DM me if interested :)

Hi all, I am currently looking for an air conditioner for my 1BR apartment. The apartment only have one window AC slot in the living room, so I gotta find something that can cool all the way from living room to the bedroom. My budget is max 350USD, and after reading lots of review I am torn between BLACK+DECKER BD10WT6 and LG Smart Window Air Conditioner, both 10000BTU. Does anyone have any inputs on which one is better? Or maybe another brand suggestion that fits my budget?
Thank you so much!!

Hi, everyone. I (23F) currently have $15,000 saved for emergencies and also put roughly $935 into retirement funds (spread across from a Roth IRA, 457b, and CalPERS (California Retirement Savings). In addition to this, I also save 15% of my gross income towards an apartment fund. I no longer save to increase my savings fund, and I currently make about 42k a year.
After subtracting my retirement and apartment fund savings and my expenses (I do not have to pay rent as I still live with my parents but do pay for my own phone bill, braces, gym membership, and among other things), I have around $1,200 left to spend. Since I've reached my initial goal of a $15,000 fund, I have stopped saving and spend my money on whatever I like. Recently, it has been for food, family, fun, and typical expenses. Primarily fun (concerts, going out of town, museums, etc). I used to be pretty strict on my spending but since I don't usually do much, I've been spending more (I guess I'm trying to justify myself. I do work full-time and don't want to only be working and going home as my life though).
I am fortunate enough that my parents do not ask me to pay for anything since living at home (car insurance, rent, groceries, utilities, etc). My parents are immigrants (thus, I am first generation), so they don't want me to struggle to pay for anything and let me spend my money as I please.
So multiple questions: Should I continue to increase my emergency fund? If my emergency fund is decent enough, what should I be doing now? Should I stop my big spending and focus on saving more (for what specifically, probably retirement right?)? What should I do in general?

📅 August 1st - January 23rd 🎓 Great location for students
Conveniently located next to bus 7 route, Flag store, Quacks Bakery, Ney Museum and neighborhood pool. Close to UT and downtown. Can bus or bike very easily to UT.
Quiet and nice neighbors. Responsive maintenance. Cute sunroom, can be used as a study. Honestly, we love this apartment but we've since graduated and are moving to a larger location.
📸 More pics upon request and/or tour.
📝 Application fees apply (will go through property management)
🧼 We will get the apartment professionally cleaned before you move in.