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2023.06.07 22:02 mesaywordies Im from a third world country and planning to take the sat i believe i can have a very good mark (1400+) as im top of my highschool in english and pretty good in math and was wondering if purely a good sat score and me being activite in two clubs would be enough to try and get a full scholarship?

for context im 17 and will be 18 in october, i studied at a privateprimary school and at the best middle school in my country but a normal high school. Im racially mixed and nearly top ranked in my city in powerlifting (i heard sports are sought after), the two clubs im in arent particularly famous but ive been voted mvp in them before.
And say i take the august SAT, and get my score after 2weeks then after that what's required of me? do i need to write admission letters to all universities im interested in? do i need a teachers reccomendation? and is it too late to join a bunch more clubs and hope to increase my extracurricular activities? and can i expect a full intership? Without one there's no way i can go to the us
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2023.06.07 22:01 NewAdventures2023 50 [M4F] #Philly suburbs - Attentive, caring daddy seeking 18-27 F for oral, role-playing, travel and more

First a little about me. I recently turned 50. I live in the Philadelphia area, but not in the city (KoP area). I'm attractive with a slight dad-bod build (and working my way towards fit, but right now in-between). I'm successful and established in my career. I lean dominant, but mostly as a playful "pleasure Dom," and I have a very caring and nurturing side. Very honest and straightforward. Frequently tested and clean.
So what about you? You should be under 27, and preferably under 25 (but at least 18, regardless of your state's laws). I like a thin/slim/athletic build but I don't mind a little pudge. And I have a special fondness for A/B-cups :)
It would be great if you're somewhere in southeastern PA or NJ, but since I travel you don't have to be - other areas I frequent are DC/Baltimore, Pittsburgh, upstate NY, CT and MA. Other areas of New England are possible but less frequent. I'm open to any race/ethnicity.
As I said I'm caring and nurturing, and ultimately I have a lot of love to give the right Baby Girl. But don't think I won't put you over my knee if you've been a bad girl. Although one night stands can be fun, ideally I'm looking for a long-term connection. I want to be your friend, your lover, your mentor and perhaps your muse.
Your experience level with men does not matter to me. In my prior Age Gap relationships, I have found the most rewarding moments to be with less experienced/repressed partners, helping them explore their sexuality and truly blossom. Just graduating (and 18+)? Don't go off to college without experience :)
But if you already know what you like and what you don't, that's perfectly fine. Either way, please have a significant interest in both giving/receiving oral.
Besides the obvious Age Gap dynamic, Praise Kinks, Showing Off/Being Shown Off, Semi-public play are all things that interest me. And bi/bicurious girls go to the front of the line.
Yes, I'm looking for a lot. I realize that. But if you've read this far, and think you fit what I'm seeking, please send a message and let's see if there's a good fit. And if there is let's start our New Adventure.
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2023.06.07 22:01 blackbirdbastard Tired of screens

I’m currently a writer (copywriting, blogs, some journalism) and marketer. I’ve been incredibly burnt out for years and got a standing desk, hoping that standing would make me feel better physically and mentally. Unfortunately, that hasn’t been the case.
I’m looking for something that makes decent money. I make over 6 figures now but would happily take a pay cut down to $60k (I live in a high cost of living area and can’t move due to divorce decree for 10 more years).
I’m highly creative and love making things, but I’m incredibly prone to RSI, even with recommended exercises, so things like embroidery/knitting are out, though I do love using my hands. I’d love to write fiction and I do love science journalism, but that still requires being locked behind a screen all day. I love anything medical-related, especially wilderness medicine (I have the NOLS cert for those who know). I spend a lot of time hiking and learning about plant and wildlife in the places I visit. I’m happiest in nature, especially neaon the water. Unfortunately, park rangers make about half what I need to support my kid and I, and I can’t really swing weekend or late-night hours. I have PTSD as well, and the holiday season is particularly rough for me, so I need low stress or I’ll just burn out.
I’d love some ideas on what other careers I could pursue. I currently work for myself (freelance), so I don’t necessarily need to work for someone else. I am not opposed to working for an employer, but I’m a single mom so I need flexibility.
I do have a Bachelors degree (information and data). I’m really good with numbers and statistics.
So, hit me with your best not-a-desk-job ideas. Some desk time is totally okay, but ideally less than 2 hours/day.
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2023.06.07 22:01 KKshilling Making Your Next Career Move: Avoiding the Trap of False Actualization

Making Your Next Career Move: Avoiding the Trap of False Actualization
“The least of things with a meaning is worth more in life than the greatest of things without it.” – Carl Jung
The American culture around work and education emphasizes performance over purpose. Instead of encouraging children to welcome their idiosyncrasies and to deeply embrace the things they find innate joy and talent in, we enforce conformity.
Standardized tests, standardized courses, and standardized degrees produce standardized kids who go on to become standardized adults.
Over the course of two decades, a spirited child full of creativity and wonder is gone, replaced by a drone that’s proficient in Excel macros. It’s great for a vibrant economy, yet it comes at the expense of individual expression.
Nonetheless, our childlike spirit remains in us, trapped under layers of societal conditioning that have drawn us so far away from ourselves that we’ve lost touch with our inborn interests and who we once were.
Yet, it pings at us from time to time throughout our young adult lives, and into the depths of our careers. It’s a dull yet persistent sense that something is not quite right.
This is a common outcome for many of our culture’s brightest minds. So many of us struggle to find a greater sense of meaning, fulfillment, or validation in our work. Although it feels like we need to attain more to be satisfied, that’s a conflation of the feeling. The ping from our soul that something isn’t right is the dormant child inside of us asking to be let loose.
So, how do you avoid the trap of successful-yet-not-fulfilled? How do you design a life that activates the needs and desires you had as a child? How can you think through this intentionally before it’s too late?
Using my own career as an example, I’ll walk through a popular model of human needs and describe how to apply it to making more meaningful career decisions. You’ll see how easy it is to fall into the trap of what I call False Actualization.
By the end, you’ll have hopefully gut-checked yourself before making the next move down a potentially incorrect career path.
And, I hope, find your way back to doing something that speaks to your innermost needs.

Maslow and his Hierarchy of Needs

American psychologist Abraham Maslow is responsible for one of the earliest and most contemplated models for understanding human needs: Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. It spurred the creation of many other models for meaning since it was first introduced.
There’s something about it that hits home, not only with the clinicians in the world of positive psychology but for the average person seeking a framework to understand their feelings of meaninglessness.
As such, I’m going to use this model as the centerpiece for demonstrating the prior missteps I made with my own career.
First, let’s do a quick refresh of the model. Maslow’s theory attempts to categorize a broad set of human needs and their relative hierarchy to one another and has commonly been visualized as a stacked pyramid (even though Maslow didn’t create such a visualization himself).

  • Physiological. We first need to fulfill our basic physiological needs that account for our species-level survival, such as food, sleep, and sex.
  • Safety. Secondly, we must also feel safe and have conditions that ensure our ongoing safety. This is especially true for children.
  • Love. If both the physiological and safety needs are well met, then love, affection, and belonging needs will emerge.
  • Esteem. People need a stable, firmly-held, high evaluation of themselves and others. First, we desire strength, achievement, adequacy, independence, and freedom. Then, we desire reputation, prestige, recognition, attention, importance, or appreciation.
  • Self-Actualization. Even if all the aforementioned needs are met, some individuals may develop discontent or restlessness about their lives. These individuals need to actualize their unique potential and capabilities.
An essential aspect of Maslow’s theory is that each type of need can occupy a different position in the human psyche at any time. For example, all other needs fade into the background when basic physiological needs are not met, such as a person dying of dehydration or starvation.
On the other hand, when all physiological needs are consistently fulfilled, the need for Love or Esteem can take center stage as physiological needs drift into the background of consciousness.

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I like to think of the sequence of needs falling into two broad categories: Survive and Thrive. The bottom of the pyramid houses the essentials for an organism to survive. Above those are the needs that lead to a subjective sense of thriving and fulfillment beyond basic survival.
The purpose of this post is to examine the tradeoffs that we make within the zone of thriving as we push deeper into our careers.

Applying Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs to Your Career

We can think of our careers relative to Maslow’s hierarchy. As an example, when we begin our careers, many of us are focused on fulfilling our basic Physiological and Safety needs.
When I was 21, I got my first full-time job. It didn’t pay much. I earned $18,000 per year and had $30,000 in student debt. Consequently, survival was a primary need at the forefront of my psyche. I needed to have enough money for rent, food to eat, and enough left over after those needs to slowly chip away at my student loans.
The debt overhang felt like a threat to my safety as an organism so getting my net worth out of negative territory was a fundamental safety need for me. Consequently, that became the primary thrust of my career in its early days.


After 5 years of working hard and squirreling away money, I managed to pay off my debt and establish some career momentum. That translated into a sense of security, which made room for a new set of needs to take center stage in my psyche during the next leg of my career push.
But as my career grew, so too did the demands of the job. In turn, this changed which needs were met, and which were neglected.
I call this the demand dimension.
While some jobs allow the separation of your work and life into two separate realms, others require a near-complete integration of the two, like being the CEO or an early employee of a growing startup. These are demanding positions that typically make it difficult for your life not to be dominated by work.
When I was VP and President at Wealthfront, my Safety and Physiological needs were more than compensated for, and my Esteem needs were met due to the prestige that accompanied the position.
However, my Love and Self-Actualization needs were majorly neglected due to soaring career demands.

After several years of putting Esteem needs above other needs, I was paying the price spiritually and emotionally.
This may look familiar to you: it’s typical for high-achievers entering mid-career. Disproportionately high work demands will come at the expense of your other needs.
As Maslow stated, each need may occupy a different position in your psyche at any point in time. It’s essential to understand this attribute instead of thinking that each need on the ladder of needs is a box to be checked. And, once checked, it is perpetually satisfied.
That is not the case. Rather, the needs in the hierarchy tend to trade off with one another, especially when one need is heavily emphasized versus the others.
Perhaps this is at the heart of why active duty military members have the highest divorce rate of any profession in the country, with a divorce rate twice the national average. Members of the military relinquish many of the freedoms that civilians have and face stressful or traumatizing situations regularly.
These situations place significant stress on their relationships. Love, Esteem, and Self-Actualization needs can fall by the wayside in exchange for serving the country.
For many high-achievers, the need for respect, admiration, and achievement can swoop in and occupy the psyche once physiological and safety needs are met. However, it’s important to anticipate the unintended consequences of a rapid and primary focus on meeting Esteem needs.
I have a very close friend that works in tech who once said, “I have zero desire to become an executive. It looks awful. I’d like to make it to Director level, at most, and stay there for as long as possible.”
I deeply respected this, because it highlighted an approach to a more balanced life. He already felt respected and appreciated at work, and would rather have more space to fulfill his love needs with friends, family, hobbies, and more.
His pyramid probably looks something more like this:

His career demands are still high, but he stops himself short of demands that consume other aspects of his life. As a result, he’s one of the most emotionally stable and fulfilled friends I know in the technology industry.
You, too, can have the same. Unfortunately, within the ultra-competitive tech world, high-achievers are often enticed to keep climbing up and up, only to then fall into disrepair once they realize how many of their other needs beyond Esteem may be neglected.

The Trap of False Actualization

“You'll be told in a hundred ways, some subtle and some not, to keep climbing, and never be satisfied with where you are, who you are, and what you're doing. There are a million ways to sell yourself out, and I guarantee you'll hear about them.” – Bill Waterson, Cartoonist and Creator of Calvin and Hobbes
If you’ve been conditioned over decades to follow linear paths of success, you may be prone to going down a path of achievement that is not your own.
Self-Actualization is not the same as achievement. Achievement is typically defined by external measures and expectations from others.
Self-actualization, on the other hand, is not measured according to the opinions of others. It is becoming your authentic self and realizing the full spectrum of your unique interests and capabilities. The end result of self-actualization may be external success, but that’s an unintended consequence, not the objective.
A child may have natural math ability but not actually enjoy math. Still, their teacher or parents may push them to accelerate further in math simply because they are good at it, or because it’s “necessary for success.”
However, that child may be better off in the long run by pursuing literature and writing if those align with the child’s own subjective view of fulfillment and meaning.
I fell quite easily into the trap of False Actualization, which is defined as the path to success based on others’ expectations of you, but not what you genuinely want for yourself.
I was a straight-A student, went to a great college, built a great career, and made great money.
And then I was miserable. That wasn’t the outcome I expected.
Eventually, I understood why. I had succeeded over and over again at doing things others expected of me, a pattern that had been internalized from a very early age. Truthfully, I didn’t enjoy a lot of the work I did. Still, I suppressed the unhappiness and continued onward.
In colloquial terms, False Actualization means that you’ve climbed to the top of someone else’s ladder.
This happens when smart people in Silicon Valley are hellbent on starting a company because that’s the most prestigious thing one can do. It happens when ladder-climbers are determined to become high-ranking high-paid executives without asking “is this what I truly want?
It’s the continuation of the process of standardizing humans that began early in our lives.
I know about this because I have been one of those ladder climbers. At Wealthfront, I was promoted three times in three years. Had I not had a heart attack scare, I would have been on track to be promoted again to CEO — the fourth time in four years.
This is a high-achiever on auto-pilot. I was on auto-pilot headed toward false actualization. I said yes to each new role because I didn’t want to disappoint others, and the esteem was compelling.
By the end of that long journey, my hierarchy looked like this:

I was held in high regard and proud of myself for what I had accomplished, yet I was emotionally, spiritually, and physically bankrupt.
Because I went through all of this, I discovered that there is a better way of doing things.

Avoid the Path of False Actualization: Find Your Model for Meaning

During a recent trip to Northern Thailand, I met a farmer that was a practicing Buddhist. During our conversation, he said something simple but critically important for anyone searching for meaning.
“Everyone wants to get to Bangkok. The problem is that people try to follow other people’s roads to Bangkok. You must find your own road to Bangkok.”
His catchy metaphor is the antidote to False Actualization. You must spend time carving your own path that provides you with your own internal sense of meaning and fulfillment.
Self-Actualization is the output of finding your own way to Bangkok.
For one person, meaning may come through manual labor that pays the bills enough that their family is well-fed and secure. For another person, meaning may come from ditching the rat race to set out on their own path in life separate from the masses, which is my chosen path. Others derive a great sense of meaning by being part of a once-in-a-generation company doing inspiring work, happy to play a small part in a purpose they wouldn’t be able to fulfill on their own.
The question remains: how do I find my authentic purpose so that I avoid False Actualization?
I’ll share my personal process, which I pulled together from various pieces of spiritual wisdom. It involves the following:
  1. Use Spiritual Autolysis to Examine (and Discard) False Beliefs
  2. Protect the Mind to Avoid Toxic New Beliefs from Entering
  3. Develop a Practice That Provides the Heartbeat for Your Life

Examine (and Discard) False Beliefs

Jed McKenna, the pseudonymous author behind the Spiritual Enlightenment Trilogy, coined the term Spiritual Autolysis. Autolysis in biology means to “digest itself”, so it refers in this context to relentlessly assessing all of your existing beliefs to understand what is true.
Ultimately, this is a process to break down and discard old beliefs that are no longer serving you. As Jed McKenna put it:
"Here's all you need to know to become enlightened: Sit down, shut up, and ask yourself what's true until you know. That's it. That's the whole deal - a complete teaching of enlightenment, a complete practice. If you ever have any questions or problems - no matter what the question or problem is - the answer is always exactly the same: Sit down, shut up, and ask yourself what's true until you know."
Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements also provides a repeatable method for Spiritual Autolysis. I’ve taken the approach laid out in his book and adapted it to this particular challenge:
  • Understand your beliefs and where they came from
  • Practice eliminating those beliefs
  • Practice adopting new beliefs
  • Try your best every day
To kickstart the autolysis of your beliefs regarding work and building a career, start with the following questions. Pick one, sit down, shut up, and whittle it down until you find what is true.
  • What is the purpose of a career?
  • What does “success” mean in a career?
  • How much does money matter to me and what would I use a lot of money for?
  • Should I work until I die, or should I not?
  • What do I think of the concept of work-life balance?
  • What did my teachers often tell me about careers?
  • What messages did my parents give me about a career?
  • What do careers look like in different parts of the world?
  • What have careers looked like at different points in human history?
  • What role does a career play in my overall life fulfillment?
  • How have my friends influenced my career decisions?
  • How have my bosses influenced my career decisions?
When I went through this process, I underestimated the depths of the delusion I was living.
The financial insecurity I felt as an adult had its origin in the financial insecurity I felt as a child in a low-income family that went through bankruptcy. This realization helped me shed false beliefs still present in my adulthood that I needed to make more money in order to be safe and secure.
Examining, and then discarding, this belief set me free from sacrificing my physical, spiritual, and emotional well-being in pursuit of yet another unnecessary paycheck.
I also realized the insanity that is the American ideal around retirement. It was no longer true to me that the American way was the only way to work.
Japanese wisdom has a different approach known as Ikigai, which roughly translates to “a reason for being.” Retirement has no place within this ancient system for living a fulfilling life. Carriers of Japanese heritage understood that our lives are cut short when we have no reason for being.
Instead of destroying ourselves with overwork until the age of 65 so that we can fall purposelessly into the grave, we can instead find work that satisfies our soul and feels delighted to do so until we take our Big Sleep.
These are just a few of the false truths I was able to deprogram myself away from via Spiritual Autolysis.

Protect the Mind to Avoid Toxic Beliefs From Entering

The second step in my method is about preventing fast food information from entering your mind – which is most of the highly processed information you receive each day. Your mind is already full of many harmful beliefs because you were brought up in a world that indoctrinated you with information before you had awareness and a choice.
Whereas Spiritual Autolysis helps break those beliefs down and get rid of them, this next step is about preventing more bad ideas from taking root in your mind.
The first step I recommend is getting rid of all junk sources of information. Or, if you can’t get rid of them entirely, use whatever tools are available to filter out most of the noise.
For me, that meant all non-work social media and cable TV news had to go. Unless I can hear directly from the source, I ignore the information. Once you’ve limited the firehose of junk food information, continue to listen critically to everything that you hear.
There’s a reason I only follow just a few accounts on Twitter. One is an account that posts pictures of dogs, the other is a non-profit that I’m on the board of that helps military veterans, and another is Mike Tyson, who has undergone one of the most beautiful spiritual and emotional transformations in recent history.
I try to ignore everything else because, at best, it’s second-hand information. The vast majority of public information has been rinsed, washed, and processed as much as the American diet. To understand what is true for you, you need to create enough space to listen and observe for yourself. Most of what we consume is the noise that prevents us from accessing that signal.

Develop a Practice That Provides the Heartbeat for Your Life

The life you envision for yourself doesn’t happen because you think hard enough about it. The life you desire unfolds as the result of daily practice.
As the psychotherapist Eric Fromm once said, “The first step to take is to become aware that love is an art, just as living is an art... we must proceed in the same way we have to proceed if we want to learn any other art, say music, painting, carpentry, or the art of medicine or engineering."
I implemented two types of practices in my life. I call them Type 1 and Type 2 Changes.
Type 1 Changes refer to the primary pillars of your life: where you live, the type of work you do, your friendships, romantic relationships, family relationships, diet and exercise, sleep, and any other major affiliations such as a religious practice. These are big rocks where new practices may need to be established.
Type 2 Changes are the small rocks. These are the incidentals that fill out a daily routine, such as the use of a meditation app for a brief morning meditation, fitness trackers to count daily steps, etc.
Most people who are hungry for a change in their life tend to dabble in Type 2 Changes while avoiding Type 1 Changes. This is another big trap.
Type 1 Changes have made the largest and most sustained impact on my sense of peace and fulfillment.
I moved away from a stressful city. I quit a stressful and unfulfilling career. I dropped old friends that were not supportive of my new life direction. I picked up participation in a 12-steps program so that I could be around others that were working hard to transform themselves. And now I’ve shifted my career focus to helping others after stockpiling enough savings from my prior work.
I also use Type 2 tools. I have a habit tracker app that helps me stick to a daily routine to log exercise, sugar, and processed food consumption, morning meditations, nighttime journaling, and pleasure reading.
Both types of change are part of my practice. Some are small, daily patterns. Others are monolithic shifts. The magic is found in the combination of both and you must be willing to combine both types of changes if you want a substantial and lasting shift in your overall sense of well-being.

Make Your Next Move

If you already feel in alignment and fulfilled by your current life, keep it up!
But if you’re nodding along while reading, or feeling the ping that something’s not quite right, it may be time for you to listen inward.
Take the sabbatical you’ve been putting off over and over again. Carve out time in your schedule to do the creative project that you’ve put on the back burner. Stop seeking career advice from others. Talk to people that live very different lives than you do. Travel to parts of the world where making a lot of money and having high-profile careers aren’t part of the cultural lexicon. Don’t stop until you discover your own road to Bangkok.
Charles Bukowski captured the spirit of this best when he said, “Find what you love and let it kill you.”

What Inspires Me Right Now

Meet David Bamberger of Selah, Bamberger Ranch. It’s a story of transformation, patience, commitment, and a love of the natural world.
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2023.06.07 22:01 Free_Gate_4516 Does anyone has tips, how this terrain tool works? I am so frustrated by just two days into terraforming...

So, I finally did it! I got the license from nook to finally be able to build plateaus and rivers! But I am so immensely disappointed about how they work. Its absolutely tidious to get that stupid plateau to look the way I want, but it kinda works. But oh lord - how to actually work with that 🤬 rivertool?! It took me more than 2 hours to build a small, natural looking, 2 squares wide river between two waterfalls (on a maybe 5x5 square). And I am still not done. I keep redoing my work. I know, that the way my character turns, they use their shovel, but, sometimes it works "diagonally" and sometimes not. I try not to stand to far, to break away a whole block, but not to near, to erase the river-block i placed. But it keeps happening. The best part, how my river looked is long gone, because of accidentally shoving back the stupid mud to erase the water, and I am only left frustrated.
And that whole thing happened yesterday, when I unlocked the stuff. I try and map out, but it seems like I do something wrong 😕 and every youtube video I found about terraforming, they just dig twice into the earth and its good to go - no hourlong (yeah, I know, they are edited) do and redo.
So - sorry for the whining. And does anyone has tips, how this could work better?
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2023.06.07 22:01 Bruhmangoddman Ace Attorney Investigations 2: Prosecutor's Path. A Score in Review.

Opening songs: Target hits a sweet spot for a cold open and immediately gets you in the mood to object, deduct and spew logic as Miles Edgeworth. Imprisoned verges on a horror vibe, which eventually kind of loses its effect. Inherited is just live action performance of “Piece of Cake” by Jeff and Kate, which is fine, I guess, Forgotten’s really good and Grand uses the Moozilla theme.
Investigation themes: An overall improvement on the AAI songs, with Opening and Core being my favorites.
Testimony themes: Again, an improvement. The most notable one being Edgeworth’s theme. And while the 2011 Presto + Pursuit – Wanting To Find The Truth aren’t quite killer a duo like 2009 + Lying Coldly are, they provide a substantial adrenaline rush and the urge to seek the truth this game so dearly holds.
Reminiscence themes: IS-7 and SS-5 run in parallel to one another as effective musical companions to their narrative counterparts. The Girl’s Lost Memories tug at the heartstrings and explore Kay’s feelings of being lost. And of course we have The Fall of The House of Lang – a downbeat, somber version of a once brave and swag theme accompanying Shi-Long Lang.
People themes. Restless is a curious one, being moderately interesting despite not reinventing the wheel or anything. Strange is OK, albeit not really adept in conveying the eccentricity. And Lamenting People, being easily the best, should’ve just been named a Reminiscence theme.
Character themes. Now here’s where the REALLY good stuff lies. Kate and Jeff’s themes, Sweet Dance and Sweet Happiness, while appropriately saccharine, end up being too saccharine. Joking Motive is swag AF, just like Ray. On the other hand, The Goddess of the Law gifts Justine with a very graceful and regal vibe that compliments the characterization and design. Both of Sebastian’s themes, First-Class Reasoning and First-Class Farewell, represent his character at two different stages, and they do so damn good. Rigorous Justice works best in the game, paired with the devil Blaise is, but on its own it holds up remarkably well, too. The Tone of an Assassin paints such a distinct contrast for Dogen that in comparison with De Killer he seems even more different than through sheer design. Gregory has Defense Attorney’s Knowledge, and oh boy, does that Knowledge sound like a hymn worthy of a true champion of justice (F-ck you, Fool Bright). Zheng Fa and Huang’s theme, The Land of the Phoenix, displays fortitude and forcefulness, while hinting at some hidden tragedy. How rather clever. Oh, but we cannot go to the next category without talking about the best ones, the father-son themes, one – Brandished Flavor – for Dane Gustavia, the other – the One Who Masterminds the Game – for Simon Keyes. God, Gustavia’s theme is such an unabashed banger, so bloody effective in characterizing the man and sounding pleasant to the ear. As far as villain themes go, only Aristotle Means, Roger Retinz, Ga’ran Sigatar Khura’in and the Phantom rival this one (maybe Diego Armando too if we stretch things out). But why’s Simon’s theme not here? Because like Diego, or Tahrust, or Marlon before and after him, he’s not a villain. Yet his theme has the core tenets of being an antagonist motif, with swagger, drip, intelligence and confidence dripping from every note and sound of it. Iwadare, you magnificent bastard, you.
Ending themes. Calm Moment doesn’t quite live to the triumphant mood of its predecessor, Splendid Deduction, but, like its name signifies, it provides adequate relief and peace in the heart. Prosecutor’s Murmur fares better than the last game, however, being a perfect “bookends” theme for AAI2. And the Great Revival 2011 loses to 2009. Case closed.
Other themes. Both Logic Chess songs immerse the player in the dense battle of wits Miles fights each time he pulls this mechanic out, and the Endgame one appropriately ups the tension. Bonds – a Heart That Believes, a profoundly heartwarming piece of visual novel score is a crisscross between a Reminiscence theme and Prosecutor’s Murmur. Oh, and Trifle of Fate – AAI2’s Crisis theme – works well.
AAI2 walks head and shoulders above AAI in terms of character themes. However, it loses nearly everywhere else. 8.6/10
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2023.06.07 22:01 bambinobirbante GMAT in 13 days

I have my GMAT exam in 13 days. I have practiced well and my accuracy in each of Easy, Medium, and Hard sections is good. I have already taken GMAT last year, and before that attempt, I exhausted all the 6 OG mock exams. This time around, I rewrote mocks 1-3 and scored 710-740.
However, today I attempted eGMAT SigmaX mock and scored just 670. My heart literally stopped pumping blood after I saw the score flash on my screen.
Now, the question is - how reliable is this SigmaX? I found varying opinions from people on forums like GMAT Club. Also, in the following days, I am planning to just go through the OG questions from the guides that I have.
Is there any suggestion for me that you wanna give?
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2023.06.07 22:01 Dr_Corenna Fatigue and Recovery After Workouts

First, I want to send my love to everyone in this sub because y'all are the reason I got pregnant - I took your advice to get ovulation strips and got pregnant right away!!! (you can see my post history for my anxiety-induced post about intense exercise and conception if you want lol.)
I'm currently 17 weeks and have been maintaining a 2-3x a week CrossFit routine after a break from weeks 6-10 for nausea. I've been feeling really good about my strength and weight lifting but the cardio/metcons have been killer. I'm someone who already scales a lot, and I'm scaling even more right now. The problem is that I'm very exhausted on days following workouts, often because my sleep is worse that night (for context I have narcolepsy and am currently unmedicated because I'm pregnant - unrestful sleep is a key symptom of narcolepsy).
Any similar experiences or thoughts on how to manage this? I thought about increasing recovery days between workouts but I don't want to lose the consistency that I've been able to manage. Shockingly, working out has been the only thing that I've been motivated to do (mood and tiredness has made doing my job really difficult, oops). Plus, it's helping me stave off any insecurities I'm having about how my body is changing in pregnancy - I feel strong as hell.
I'd love to hear any and all thoughts. Thanks y'all.
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2023.06.07 22:00 ugugug1 32M4F [France] Lonely teacher looking for [chat] and [meet]

Hi ! I'm a teacher, i live in France. It's night time here. In bed already but the weather is too hot it's a bit tiresome but it also keeps from sleeping so I'd like to have some chat, and who knows, maybe we're not far from each other! DM's open, send me asl! Cheers!
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2023.06.07 22:00 gothiestbbwchick 26 [F4A] Johnson City, TN - Goth BBW looking for a partner

Hey, all!
I'm a 26yo goth BBW (size 26ish) in Johnson City, TN. I have a buzzcut, lots of piercings and tattoos, freckles, and deathly pale skin.
I'm into music (especially metal), dancing, concerts, travel, animals, gaming, reading, needlework, and morbid things. I'm essentially an old lady metalhead in a young woman's body. I'm super introverted and shy, so fair warning.
I have a BA and I'm working on a certification to teach EFL. I have a pretty decent job, but I'm open to relocating if I can find something better.
I'm primarily into nerdy, goth, or athletic people, but anyone who loves animals is welcome to shoot their shot. I'm also childfree (permanently), so I'm not looking for parents.
Ultimately, I'm looking for a lifelong partner, someone to build a life with, adopt pets, see the world, and all that fun stuff.
So, if you want to date a shy animal-loving goth, feel free to send me a message!
Locals or close people are preferred, but I'm open to long distance as well, as long as we can meet in person once in a while.
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2023.06.07 22:00 WorthInvestigator433 Been struggling for a while; really resonated with a lecture about Autistic Burnout

Hi. I’ve had a lot to think about the past few days, and am seeking advice/answers/support/perspectives/clarity. Hopefully this is a good place to ask about this. Sorry for brick wall, TLDR at the bottom.
After graduating college in 2022, I moved and started a full-time job in September. Since then, I’ve been going through a very difficult phase in life. I’ve felt like when that unfamiliar phase of life started that a metaphorical mountain of shit was dropped on me all at once, and that since then, I have been drowning in it and trying very hard to slowly climb out of it. I returned to Therapy on January (finding a new one in a new state sucks). Some other context of my life circumstances: I work for a tech company in a new city, and I have no interest in my job; I live alone there (for the first time, turns out I’m terrible at that) and my job is fairly remote. I’ve been traveling a lot the past few months, working in other places where I have friends, and trying to live more presently in that space instead of at work. I had already decided that I plan to stick it out through my 1st year (one year on a resume and signing bonus), and doing this helped me get to a more stable place to a point, though in many ways it’s probably made some things worse, bc it’s harder to focus on my job and many other responsibilities; it’s been more of an escape.
Since I returned to therapy, I do feel like I’ve been slowly slowly improving and am in a better place now than where I was, but it often feels like 2 steps forward 3 steps back. I feel like there’s a million balls in the air, and when I try to focus to lift one of them higher, 2 more come falling back down. Since January, I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD, in addition to having been diagnosed with anxiety and OCD in the past 2-3 years. Therapy has helped in a lot of ways, especially earlier, and I’ve learned a lot about myself and how stuff like my upbringing affects me today. But more recently, I feel like therapy has not been too effective. I’ve been trying to work on my executive functioning, but it feels like no matter what I do I’ve not been able to improve. Many things that I used to do automatically are so difficult now or have gone completely out the window. I’ve overall felt very lost and overwhelmed. I really haven’t received much advice that I’ve resonated with or that helps me.
The reasons for me failing to get my work done are deeper than a lot of the ADHD type symptoms that I’ve experienced throughout my life. Normally doing work I don’t want to do is hard, but once there’s an approaching deadline and a fire under my ass, I’m the king of getting it all done. Now though, bringing myself to work is incredibly difficult deadline or no. Part of me really tries to convince myself that I should get work done, but it feels like a deeper more fundamental part of me completely rejects it. Like I truly don’t believe doing that work is more valuable than some other thing I could do, and trying to force myself to live in the framework that supposedly if I could would allow me to succeed in my job and other endeavors is pretty much impossible. More recently it’s been more extreme; I’ll go a couple days taking way too much adderall and hardly sleeping at all because I gotta finish this amount of work that’s reasonable to compete in a day, and then I will somehow not have done hardly any work that whole time. Even though I’m sacrificing my physical health so much to do so.
The other day, I came across a short video about autistic burnout, which lead me to a 1.5 hour long lecture called “Transition to Adulthood – Autistic Burnout and the Costs of Coping and Passing” by Dora Raymaker. This felt like an epiphany. For the entire lecture, I felt like she was describing exactly what I had been feeling, and related with pretty much every single bullet point. She put into words how I’ve felt the last 8 months, and gave me a feeling of incredible clarity. I felt I immediately understood what was going on in my brain, like suddenly it all made sense. Before, I felt like there was a million separate things all falling a part in my life, and to get them all back into place and rebuild a sustainable life was so daunting, whereas now I feel I see it more clearly that it’s all connected. Like a fog has been lifted from in front of my brain, everything clicked.
I even sent the video to my dad and called him because I was so happy to finally be understood in what I’m going through, because I’d been talking to him about it so much, but never felt like I could effectively communicate it until now. I can’t overemphasize the innate feeling of understanding I’ve felt since, like it’s night and day. So I ask, where do I go from here? If I am going through Autistic Burnout, I guess that means I’m Autistic. I’ve given serious thought to it the past year, but this has brought me to the point where I clearly need to act on this. And here I am. I want to talk to my therapist about it, but he’s on vacation for most of the month. Maybe I can contact my old one, or maybe I should contact and Autism specialist directly.
I also want to know what you guys think. I obviously don’t want to draw any incorrect conclusions. And honestly, I’m really frightened that I am incorrect. I feel so much clarity in what I’m going through, whereas before I felt so lost, so I’m afraid to find out I’m wrong and go back to where I was. Is there another explanation for resonating so deeply with every aspect of this lecture? Honestly just any reply to this with any insight or thoughts would be greatly appreciated. I need to bounce this off people in the autistic community, not just my friends and family. Sorry for wall of text. Much love.
TLDR: Been struggling for a while; found a lecture about Autistic Burnout and it resonated with me completely. What now
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2023.06.07 22:00 Pastoffa Dad's philosophy

My dad was actually my grandfather-my bio parents died in a car crash when I was a baby. He passed away a number of years ago. He was around 90.
I miss him and my mom (grandmother) terribly. They were both kind, loving people that always did their best. They also took in strays that my sister and I brought home (a friend of mine was having problems at home with an alcoholic parent. My mom used to start making bigger family meals and told my friend he was welcome at our house any time).
They were very good people.
Mom was actually less emotional than dad - he would get weepy at the drop of a hat. Mom was also very loving but she was a bit of a matriarch. I only saw her cry twice in my life.
Dad was a very happy, friendly person. "Hail and well met, fellow!" Mom was a class A worrywart (I take after her, naturally). Their marriage dynamic worked like this - intelligent, college-educated mom would work herself into a knot over something and dad (Michigan farmboy who never had no book learnin') would patiently work on loosening the knot.
This was kinda pop's specialty. No matter what shit was going down, dad would just kinda...I don't know, just manage to wrestle the problem down until it seemed manageable. Afterwards, you would think "ok, this is actually something I can deal with."
He was also famous for being able to sleep no matter what. In the middle of any crisis he would put his head on the pillow and be sound asleep in five minutes. Used to drive mom nuts lol
The reason he could do that was because somehow, despite being the son of a tenant farmer in northern Michigan around the turn of the last century, going through the Depression, serving in WW2, and going through an unbearable tragedy when my parents died and they wound up raising 2 small children just about when they were considering retirement, he had developed a kind of Buddhist zen philosophy.
His philosophy was, "If you're worried about something, do whatever you can to fix it during the day. At night, just let it go and get a good night's sleep and keep at it the next day."
Dad was as good as his word. He never lost sleep over things he had no control over. And he often prevailed because, I think, his philosophy encouraged endurance without making a big deal out of it.
Anyways, hope dad's advice can help anyone struggling with problems that are overwhelming. They helped me a lot. And I used to be a very shitty person. I've got a lot better over the years, partly due to dad's advice.
I miss you pops! 😭😭😭😭
And you mom! 😢😭🥹
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2023.06.07 21:59 hyperpopdeathcamp FIX THE GAME

I HAVE TILT STICK ON FOUR DIFFERENT NAMES BUT YET IF THE OTHER PLAYERS CONNECTION IS HORSE SHIT ITS JUST MAGICALLY SMASH STICK AGAIN OKAY WORD GOT IT THIS GAME PLAYS LIKE IT WAS DEVELOPED BY CHILD LABORERS THAT WERE PAID $0.65 AN HOUR OR LIKE THEY PURCHASED THE DEVS OFF OFF OF SHEIN OR SOME SHIT.
“I see you pressed ZR to shield. How about a jump?? 🥺🥺🥺 or better yet… nothing at all 😸😸😸”
FUCK YOU WHAT EVEN IS THAT!?!? IVE NEVER EVEN CONSIDERED BUMPER JUMPERS WHAT IS THIS IM SO CONFUSED. P2P MY ASS THIS IS SOME TRUE DOOKIE. THIS SOME LIKE DONKEY WIFI BRO THE SERVERS ARE ALL IN THE SWAMP ONG. THERES LITERALLY JUST A GUY WATCHING EVERY QP MATCH EVER AND HES SUPPOSED TO LIKE MAKE SURE ITS ALL GUCCI BUT LITTLE DO PEOPLE KNOW HE ACTUALLY SHOTGUNNED HIMSELF IN THE FACE MERE WEEKS AFTER KAZUYAS RELEASE BUT NO ONE NOTICED BECAUSE NO ONE WHO MADE THIS GAME CARED ABOUT ANY OF IT IN THE FIRST PLACE SO HES JUST THERE SITTING LIFELESS IN FRONT OF 3000 SCREENS OF DK CARGO THROWING MFS OFF STAGE IN LAG
“Hey so like your opponent just stood there for three full minutes, but I noticed your controller disconnected for 3 seconds so have an hour ban 🫶”
SUCK ME. SUCK ME TO DEATH YOU FUCKERS. WHAT THE HELL IS EVEN THAT!?!?!???!!!?),?!,$;!,??!!?8???!
ON MY MAMA I WILL SET MYSELF ON FIRE SOMEWHERE IN JAPAN VAGUELY NEAR SAKURAIS HOUSE AND JUST SCREAM TAKE THIS TAKE THIS TAKE THIS TAKE THIS TAKE THIS UNTIL IM A SMOLDERING HEAP IDGAF IF IT ACCOMPLISHES ANYTHING IM JUST ON ONE RN SMASH ULTIMATE? MORE LIKE SMASH NOT VERY GOOD AT ALLTIMATE YOU FUCKERS. YOU FUCKING FUCKERSSSS.
/s
……Unless?
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2023.06.07 21:59 Esoteric_Nobody Honest feedback 🤷‍♂️

Had this phase where I fucked every woman who would fuck me made me feel disgusting. When Id touch someone I'd take something from them in me, I guess that I was empty Now when I love someone they become part of me, even if they're missing. I don't hate women I just think they're all shifty That prejudice was put in me Abused or neglected by women that were sposed to care for me But I'm just a man so my problems don't mean nothing I've been healing I'd do damn near anything for another chance to be with you But that's not what you wanna hear You want me to be fine, you wanna know I'll make it through You want me to be focused on anything but you Move on and cut you loose An all of that I could do all I'd have to do is choose But I just have this feeling that on same day that I do You'll turn around and realize you just wanted me too And I don't wanna do that to you Yea I know your daddy was a dead beat, I know he hurt you Maybe you were worried that I'd be like him too Cuz I didn't go to school and music's what I wanna do Maybe cuz I started slipping when I was staying with you But deep down I think you know that that would never be true I'd always be there for you and any family that we grew You'd all be my whole world and that's the plain honest truth Maybe we're both just young and have some growing to do And we'll find each other again later on down the route The future mother of my children and a partner through and through Just know that's what I saw every time I looked at you I'm not writing this in an attempt to force you I adore your free spirit never wanted to control you I just think there's something special here if we were to follow through I'm presenting you the option in hope that you WANT to The only way to heal this generational disease Is for someone who's been hurt to just take it on the cheek Believe those people won't make the shit repeat And give love even though there's now pain in-between Give Grace and the face of betrayal and disgrace Know that when you love someone they can never be replaced Treasure those people do anything it takes Know that we're all stupid humans who're bound to make mistakes
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2023.06.07 21:59 Esoteric_Nobody Honest feedback 🤷‍♂️

Had this phase where I fucked every woman who would fuck me made me feel disgusting. When Id touch someone I'd take something from them in me, I guess that I was empty Now when I love someone they become part of me, even if they're missing. I don't hate women I just think they're all shifty That prejudice was put in me Abused or neglected by women that were sposed to care for me But I'm just a man so my problems don't mean nothing I've been healing I'd do damn near anything for another chance to be with you But that's not what you wanna hear You want me to be fine, you wanna know I'll make it through You want me to be focused on anything but you Move on and cut you loose An all of that I could do all I'd have to do is choose But I just have this feeling that on same day that I do You'll turn around and realize you just wanted me too And I don't wanna do that to you Yea I know your daddy was a dead beat, I know he hurt you Maybe you were worried that I'd be like him too Cuz I didn't go to school and music's what I wanna do Maybe cuz I started slipping when I was staying with you But deep down I think you know that that would never be true I'd always be there for you and any family that we grew You'd all be my whole world and that's the plain honest truth Maybe we're both just young and have some growing to do And we'll find each other again later on down the route The future mother of my children and a partner through and through Just know that's what I saw every time I looked at you I'm not writing this in an attempt to force you I adore your free spirit never wanted to control you I just think there's something special here if we were to follow through I'm presenting you the option in hope that you WANT to The only way to heal this generational disease Is for someone who's been hurt to just take it on the cheek Believe those people won't make the shit repeat And give love even though there's now pain in-between Give Grace and the face of betrayal and disgrace Know that when you love someone they can never be replaced Treasure those people do anything it takes Know that we're all stupid humans who're bound to make mistakes
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2023.06.07 21:59 Irozie To J, if I can still call you that.

Hey,
Remember me? Of course you do, despite how much you may try not to.
I’ve been reading about the smoke in Brooklyn. I keep thinking about your parents’ house, on that busy little street named after an island. I wonder what it looks like in that orange haze. It’s been years, but here I am worrying about your heart condition from 700 miles away.
If I close my eyes, and sit really still, it’s almost like I’m still there. In my heart I know I don’t want to be, but that doesn’t stop me from picturing it. It’s weird how we both just walk through life carrying each other’s secrets.
I wish we didn’t end the way that we did. I wish we weren’t strangers. How can two people who fell asleep together night after night become strangers? If I could go back in time to the day we met I would tell you I just wanted to be friends. We could have been really great friends. We still might be if I had done that.
The last time we spoke sucked. There’s no other way around it. I caught you in a lie and you gaslit me. I was so mad. Honestly I was heartbroken. I wasn’t dumb enough to think we’d end up happily ever after. But I thought we could at least be friends when it all ended. We had so much fun together. I had confided in you during a really dark time. You felt like an escape.
I’m a different person now. I’ve grown so much. I really like who I am now. What’s funny is that I don’t think you would. You wanted someone submissive, someone you could manipulate and control. You weren’t happy with your life and I intimidated you. It wasn’t healthy. It’s easy to see all this in retrospect, but I still have days like today where I can’t help but remember the good times.
You hurt me a lot, but I grew from it and I hope you’ve grown too. I don’t wish you harm in the slightest. Despite what you did I think you have a good heart, you’re just wounded and traumatized. You were raised in an environment where you had to be tough. I see that. It doesn’t excuse your behavior, but I want you to know that I see that.
You weren’t the person I thought you were. That sucks. Sometimes I wonder if you were ever even pretending to be or if I was just projecting and too stupid to see you for who you really are.
But if it was all fake, why does my breath still catch when I see the forecast in Brooklyn?
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2023.06.07 21:59 jellybellybabybean Struggling with symptoms

Hi Everyone, I’m really struggling with rls symptoms right now, like I was up past 4 am with insomnia and restless legs. I haven’t been taking my iron as diligently as I should so I suspect my iron is low (for rls) again. I am a bit nervous about starting gabapentin, I need to research more about it. But kind of wondering if I should just try to get lab work done and probably pay for an iron infusion out of pocket. (My doc said if I was in a normal range insurance wouldn’t cover and I think he said he wouldn’t recommend if I wasn’t super low) Or should I just get on gabapentin? I don’t want to go back to the neurologist if I can avoid it, I think he mentioned the Parkinson’s meds when I saw him a few years ago.
Does your PCP manage your RLS? Or do you recommend a neurologist? I’d prefer pcp just for convenience. But he’s not well versed in RLS.
Asking here before I talk to my doc, or get labs because I’ve learned so much from you guys that the docs have never told me / don’t know.
Also, I currently take trazodone. I was also taking melatonin because I was having trouble sleeping and realize taking melatonin just probably made everything worse. I only slept after 4 am this morning after I took a low dose of melatonin.
Also wondering if anyone else wakes up immediately after falling asleep? Like I fell asleep for a second early in the night but kind of startled back awake immediately.
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2023.06.07 21:59 BurdenCarrier141 Journey To Find My Gf 3

Needless to say, it didn't take long into the relationship with the previous girl to learn that she was really only in the relationship for sex and to feel loved. She and I had very little in common and she didnt want to go out of her way to change any aspect of her life to accomodate for anything i was trying to bring into it. So shortly after, the relationship ended. I looked back a couple times mostly to get closure. Moving forward, while ovrecoming some life or death situations that have altered my way of thinking slightly, i moved to a new gym which is essentially a club for people my age, only rather than dancing theyre all working out. Every girl somehow looks better than the last. Everyday that one goes in, it doesn't take long before another miraculous assortment of pristine genetics waltzes into the gym to grace everyone's presence in their snazzy gym attire. You can't help but stare. My standards have been heightened and I won't settle for anyone less than one of these dazzling gems with a pure heart. Wish me luck. Im only about 23/100 rejections down, so Ill meet her eventually. :)
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2023.06.07 21:59 VTOnReddit Struggling to get CCTV System Working Correctly

In late 2016 we spent over $20k to have a surveillance system installed with a Seneca server, 4 12MP 360 cameras, and Milestone XProtect. The plan was to add more cameras yearly, up to a minimum of 12 and maximum of 30.
We liked the user interface of Milestone, but trying to use it remotely was useless. Using it in the server room, the video was always super choppy.
Eventually we find out the issue is the video card of the server can’t really handle playing the video it’s recording. But the company we had initially used, was trying to convince us we needed a whole new system, because supposedly our server didn’t meet the requirements for the newest version of XProtect.
I thought that was bullshit, so I have been trying the DIY route. Using a Synology rack and surveillance station.
Originally our cameras were on a separate network, not directly connected to the internet. Synology couldn’t get that to work and made me connect them to the internet.
Still have tons of issues viewing footage, downloading footage, and having the cameras stay connected.
The dewarping on Surveillance Station sucks, and makes the 360 cameras more hassle than they’re worth.
Kind of at a loss as to what to do. Have wasted a year of my life (not constantly trying) working to get this system up and usable.
Just viewed footage with the police of an incident, and the footage is all blurry and nearly worthless.
Any ideas? I was thinking about trying to buy a new version of XProtect myself, and maybe getting a new server too.
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2023.06.07 21:59 user1987623 We [18F & 18M, 1.5 years] agreed to break up before leaving for college but now my boyfriend doesn’t want to

This is a sad post for me to make. We’ve been together since we were 16 and agreed that if we made it through senior year, we would break up when the time came to go to college.
We were both accepted to great universities, with him choosing an in-state option (10 min away) and me choosing the out of state option (8 hours away). We had altered our agreement in January to “we don’t have to break up for college but we should talk about it. This was before we knew I was going out of state.
Once we had put our deposits down to our respective schools, I decided we should have our conversation. We talked in person and he and I seemed to be on the same page: we would be sad to break up for college but didn’t want to be that couple, and we could end on good terms at the end of summer and maybe try again in the future. Later that night after I left, he texted me that he didn’t want to break up.
He’s now been telling people we’re planning on staying together next year and I feel really terrible about how much I’ve been thinking about this. It’s important to me that we stay on good terms if we break up, and I felt like leaving in august was the perfect opportunity to do that. However, a lot of people have told me that if I am planning on breaking up with him then what’s the point of staying together this summer?
Also, I value physical affection a lot and I would have very little of that if we were long distance which would make it hard to be together.
Any advice would be appreciated.
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2023.06.07 21:58 VTOnReddit Struggling to get CCTV System Working Correctly

In late 2016 we spent over $20k to have a surveillance system installed with a Seneca server, 4 12MP 360 cameras, and Milestone XProtect. The plan was to add more cameras yearly, up to a minimum of 12 and maximum of 30.
We liked the user interface of Milestone, but trying to use it remotely was useless. Using it in the server room, the video was always super choppy.
Eventually we find out the issue is the video card of the server can’t really handle playing the video it’s recording. But the company we had initially used, was trying to convince us we needed a whole new system, because supposedly our server didn’t meet the requirements for the newest version of XProtect.
I thought that was bullshit, so I have been trying the DIY route. Using a Synology rack and surveillance station.
Originally our cameras were on a separate network, not directly connected to the internet. Synology couldn’t get that to work and made me connect them to the internet.
Still have tons of issues viewing footage, downloading footage, and having the cameras stay connected.
The dewarping on Surveillance Station sucks, and makes the 360 cameras more hassle than they’re worth.
Kind of at a loss as to what to do. Have wasted a year of my life (not constantly trying) working to get this system up and usable.
Just viewed footage with the police of an incident, and the footage is all blurry and nearly worthless.
Any ideas? I was thinking about trying to buy a new version of XProtect myself, and maybe getting a new server too.
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2023.06.07 21:58 Similar-Pay-2007 Melbourne, any legality in removing someone’s stuff from my apartment?

About 6 weeks ago I had someone who I used to know move 4 suitcases into my spare room. They said if I ever needed the room to give them a weeks notice and they’d remove them. They’ve since moved in about 6-8 more suitcases. They’ve stayed 3-4 times in the meantime for a couple of nights at a time but never paid anything or offered to. It’s become apparent that they have some serious mental health problems and I can’t deal with them anymore and want the stuff gone. I let them know a week ago that I needed the spare room and they needed to remove their stuff but they are refusing. Is there anything stopping me from just telling them I’m putting it out the front this Saturday and doing that?
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