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TLDR: intimacy struggles consistent over the last 3 years with recurring conversations to repair it, but we always fall back to the old ways and can’t find a solution that sticks. Do we stay together through it and hope something changes or go separate ways?
My (27f) fiancé (27m) and I have been together for 8 years (engaged about 2). We have lived together for 6 out of our 8 years together and used to have sex 3-5 times a week. Now we are lucky to have it once a month. We cycle through this issue about every 4-6 months for probably the last 3 years and it is the only argument/disagreement we have.
For context: Our normal routine is he is gone for work by the time I get up. I WFH and he gets home around 5:30-6PM. He says he turns his brain off once he’s off work so we maybe exchange 10-20 words, he showers, and goes to play video games with friends. I will cook dinner about an hour after he gets home. He eats while playing games in the office and I eat at the table or couch watching a show. I clean the kitchen, shower, and go to bed. Normally he comes to bed about 20 minutes after me, we exchange a goodnight and a kiss, then to sleep. Rinse and repeat. Weekends consist of me grocery shopping, he playing games or we go shopping for something the house needs and then it’s back to separate rooms to do our own things. Dinner date out once a week or two, but not tons of conversation.
We have this disagreement, both say things that each other will do to improve it. He will make an effort to spend more time with me and asking about my days and following more of my love language (acts of service/gifts) like bringing home flowers or cleaning when I don’t explicitly ask him to. I say I will try to do more things to get myself in the mood, like doing hair and makeup, wearing clothes that make me feel good, porn, etc (his love language is physical touch). It works for a month or two and then it’s back into the same routine. He slowly stops interacting/cleaning/etc and I slowly start pushing back on the affection. He is no longer trying to initiate sex because he has been turned down too many times by me that he just expects I will say no, which I understand, but I struggle to initiate because I feel like we are just roommates now and there’s nothing there to work off of. Whenever I do initiate, he is always down and we will have sex.
We both love each other, but I’m starting to wonder if I just love him as a person and I’m not so much in love with him anymore. I’m scared this will be the rest of our lives and I feel this doubt that this shouldn’t be happening to people in love who are getting married. We both feel like something needs to change, we both don’t want to leave, but we’re both feeling very sad and distant the past few months and can’t find a way to resolve it.
How do I/we know if this patch will last? How do you get over the feeling that if this isn’t what is right for us, that we are losing someone that’s been apart of our life for 8 years and starting over completely? Has someone’s relationship succeeded after something like this? What changed?

Alright so tenant here! Hey.
Signed a two year lease in a home just over a year ago. Great spot, in the upstairs of a two story home while our landlord builds a mother in law unit downstairs. To be rented out at a later date.
Well, here comes the trouble. Landlord got divorced suddenly and moved in downstairs without notice. This is feb of lat year (two months after our move in) fine, I felt bad for the guy & had given us no reason to distrust him yet. Units are separated and really wasn’t worried. (But was not what we signed up for in the lease. We did not want to live in the same home as our landlord and likely wouldn’t have signed initially if that was the case.) but I digress.
Fast forward a couple months and we have noticed a distinct smell coming from downstairs. Like a farm smell. Followed by chirps and eventually clucks and full on cockadoodle doos. Come to find out, This man is raising 12-18 chickens downstairs and just letting them poo and pee wherever. (I realize the solution is not potty training the chickens.) addressed it directly with no solution. Except that they will be gone eventually ( took him 6 months to slowly eat through his roommates)
Animal control and the department of construction and inspections both told us that this wasn’t their problem.
Beginning shortly after that we noticed the fire alarms were going off at least weekly and he would burn things on the stove and get distracted, gardening outside, he has even left to run errands, leaving our upstairs unit smelling like burnt chicken shit for days.
We began problem solving with compassion but frankly, at this stage there is a lot of unpleasantness in our household. Tenants (us) have been very vocal about stopping all of these nuisances and it has resorted to landlord name calling, ignoring, doing 10pm construction, all sorts of childish retaliation.
Spring has sprung and burning has increased to daily. I think he has removed his fire alarms as they are no longer going off daily. And on top of that it smells and sounds like he has some fresh chicks down there.
My spouse and I have been saving to buy a home. We’re almost there and know that this is at very least a “break your lease for free card.” But, at this stage I want some childish games of my own.
Anyone had similar experiences with landlords?
How do I stick it to this asshole?

Hello! Found an amazing deal on a gently used pair of 990V5’s that I want to get for my around the house/beater shoes. Usually in the past I would wash the shoes in the washing machine to clean and disinfect them but have never done that with New Balance/suede shoes. How would you guys recommend cleaning suede New Balances deeply? Heard you are never supposed to wash/get wet but what do you guys think? Thanks so much

Im a 21 year old female going through university for forensic science with a minor in psychology, every day at work i experience people asking me what i do outside of my jobs, when i reply with my schooling and what i do i receive the same responses every time, “that’s a man’s job” “why would you even consider that?” “ew that sounds disgusting” “you’re too young for a life of dealing with crime” “that’s a hard career are you sure you can do it?”
i grew up with my parents who were cops, murder cases were prevalent in my house as one of my parents was a homicide detective, i grew up learning how more and more crime was committed and i grew up knowing i wanted to help with it in some way, forensics has interested me since highschool and i do good in my classes, but every now and then i catch myself thinking “why am i putting my money and energy into this when nobody believes i should be doing it”. I don’t necessarily care about their opinions for the most part but every so often i catch myself thinking about it.
i’ll never understand why people can’t understand the comments they make towards someone’s life and future actually does affect them.
thanks for letting me rant

Long story short- I have had a Venmo debit card for a few months. I clean houses whenever work comes up. I cleaned a house today and the lady paid me through Venmo. it was a business transaction. I am in the underwriting process on my mortgage loan. Can my underwriter see that I have a Venmo debit card that I am using to buy groceries and etc? I will report this income at the end of the year but I am afraid if I mention that will mess everything up. I am really stressing about this. Help.

As the title says, purchased in mid-January and has 700 miles on it. Drove it to the store and came back out to drive home. Sounded like it was trying to start with the continuous cranking noise, but wouldn’t. Sat there for 20 minutes waiting for a tow. I finally got it to start, but the check engine light was on (solid not flashing). Drove it to my house and getting it towed to the shop. Not sure if it’s the alternator or something else. Just sucks.
My ZL1 has been in the shop with them too for over a month with the classic oil pump failure.

My partner (M45) and I (F28) are in an ENM relationship from the get-go for almost 5 years now. We were in a long-distance relationship for the first 2 years and for this time we were kind of solo poly, having our connections in our cities, and then I moved to live with him in his country (Canada), so we became each other’s NP. But this was during the pandemic, so we were not dating apart because of social restrictions, when we were dating it was mainly together.
Last year, I started to date on my own in Canada and now in 2023 I've been kind of dating a cute pal (F28) who I really like and want our relationship to continue. She is also bi, solo poly and understands my situation with a primary and nesting partner. Coincidentally they both work at the same place, not exactly working together, but they receive their paycheck from the same company, and when I first suggested introducing them both she weirded it out saying that this would be too awkward because they work at the same place. I understood it as her expressing she is not comfortable yet meeting a meta and ok. My NP, otherwise, had an unexpected reaction (for me) and didn't like her response, said that she was BSing me and that she is not that comfortable with the idea of polycule and me having an NP, and also said that he would not feel comfortable if I bring her over when he is not here (because I asked him if could host her while he's working, her shift ends when his starts).
This last information broke my legs because we do live together in a 1br place, she also has a roommate, so our housing situation makes it harder for one of us to host and have more intimate moments. In 3 months we only had sex once because there is no place for us and I'm too broken to pay for an Airbnb. I really felt so belittled, because I was not asking him to accommodate us, I asked him to use the place I also live in to bring someone important to me while he is not at home, they would not meet, but he kept saying that he is not comfortable, that's his private place and he doesn't want people he doesn't know here. So I realized that I had to introduce them to make, at least, my NP “accept” my new relationship and feel comfortable with this new dynamic.
After more dates, I asked her again how she would feel about meeting my NP, and she told me she would like to meet him and we scheduled to watch UFC at our place as a platonic activity to make everyone feel involved. My NP accepted it but asked me to “go slow” and don't show too much affection to her in front of him. Short long story: this meeting was the most awkward situation we 3 ever experienced. She barely talked to him, he tried to start a few conversations and she would just respond if I was somehow involved in the topic, she couldn't even look at him. And nonetheless, she was super “aggressive” in showing affection to me, really making some moves to get closer and touch me, and I got super nervous because as much as I wanted to be cuddling and touching her, I had promised my NP that I would not do it at this first meeting. I totally failed to keep my boundaries, he felt she was being territorial with me, that she lacks self-awareness and social skills because she turned a platonic meeting to introduce metas as a single date with me and my NP as the obstacle to making this private date happens.
It was a disaster! He had a bad impression of her, said he thinks she is a narcissist, that she was deliberately ignoring him and was just being slightly polite when I was present. I wanted to nurture a KTP dynamic, but he said he wants to keep things parallel, not exactly a DADT, but doesn't want her crossing his path in any way, including not allowing me to bring her over to our place when he is not here.
I'm so torn with this situation, maybe I underestimated how new and awkward this would be for all of us. He's already made up his mind and doesn't to interact with her again, I can not bring her over here at all. I'm wondering if I should have a conversation with her to try to understand what was her view on this situation, I'm also wondering how honest should I be with her regarding my NP’s opinion of her and our meeting... Because I don't want to make things more awkward than it is.
How should I approach her? Which questions should I ask her? How could I tell her that my NP basically hated her and that I don't have autonomy enough to bring her to my place? Is there a way I could make things different or slightly better? How can I navigate a dynamic of parallel partners? I know I can't have a KTP situation with them or make them friends, but is there a way I can mitigate their “disgust” for each other?
Thank you so much if you read here and I apologize if the text is too confusing, English is not my first language.

The Nashville Police Department is searching for two suspects who allegedly spray-painted swastikas and “hate messages” on several homes in the Sylvan Park neighborhood in the early hours of Sunday morning. A doorbell camera captured one of the suspects running on to someone’s porch, spray-painting the camera, ripping down a flag, then vandalizing the house. … Continue reading Nashville police searching for suspects who spray-painted swastikas and ‘hate messages’ on homes: video

tldr: GF has used me as an emotional crutch and I don't think I can take it anymore. I'm afraid I'm overreacting though, or maybe just afraid of being alone.
Rough Summary
I'm not sure where to start. She has emotional regulation issues, and has since we've gotten together. Several meltdowns per week, usually regarding hating herself. I've always been incredibly patient with her. During each breakdown shes ever had I would sit with her and talk her down off the ledge. Her therapist said what i was doing was great, and the way I was doing it was good as well. So I carry on. As time goes on, she gets a little better but generally no real improvements. She's negative all the time which wears on me, because I'm very positive. She's very jealous of what other people have, mainly money and physical looks.
So the doubts started a couple of weeks ago. I lost my job due to the current tech layoffs and one of her first reactions was to be bitter at my brother because he "gets all the luck" because he has a great job and this is the 2nd time I've lost my job in this way(2020 Covid layoffs being the other). This broke something inside me. I felt sick being in the same room as her. So I asked her for some time apart. I would go to my brother's and just think about things, chill out. With the intention of going back.
Her reaction was to basically not give me any time because she was upset. Which is understandable. It's all very scary and weird, but I wasn't leaving her. I just needed time to process and made that very clear. Over the entire week she just pushed harder and harder and I realized that this was the same as the breakdowns. She was upset and needed me to put my feelings aside to fix her. That's when it all came to me, I've spent most of the last 5 years as a drained husk of a person because I've been regulating her emotions for her, at the expense of myself.
I told her this and she said things like "I thought I've been wearing you out" which is crazy, because if I knew something I was doing was hurting my partner I would do anything to change it. She admitted that she had a problem with not handling her emotions and that she has been using me as a crutch, but in the same breath continues to not handle her emotions and expecting me to fix it(return to normal) instead of taking the time I need. She says manipulative things like reminding me that our dog misses me, she can't sleep and threatening to check herself into a mental health facility and back tracking when I agree. She promised to change and get better, but hasn't in the last 5 years. The kind of emotional damage and self hatred she has doesn't just go away.
I was just asking for a week to sort myself out and assuming we could figure it out, but she's just showing how unstable and dependent she is on me for her well being. I think if we just started things back up she would put on a happy face at her own expense and not actually address her issues or heal. Which wouldn't be healthy for either of us. The way she was lightly manipulative also has left a pretty bad taste in my mouth.
So I told her we should break up and she basically just cried and said she would change and that it was unfair to throw away everything we have so suddenly.
I also found out last night from a mutual friend that she was telling people I cheated on her because another girl came over and I apparently turned off the cameras while she was over. A girl did come over, I was changing the oil on her car because I'm unemployed and need money and that's it. The cameras were in fact on and I don't know what her angle with all this is.
It broke my heart because I love and care about her, I just can't be her emotional crutch anymore. I don't think that she has been malicious in using me for a crutch, it just kind of happened. I believe that she can change and get better(I've always believed in her), but it will take a lot of time and I don't know if I can be there to wait for it to (possibly)happen.
Background We've been together for 5 years and have an otherwise great relationship. We have tons in common. We have a house. Neither of us want kids. We have most of the same beliefs.
Final thoughts
I'm currently stuck wondering if I'm overreacting to all of this or if I'm just afraid of being alone as a shy antisocial dude in his 30's. I'm also worried that if we did break up, she would go back to her abusive ex, which I know isn't my problem, but it's still hard. Any thoughts, ideas and questions are welcome.

Hi. I got accepted for the fall semester for GGU and I’m just wondering if you guys have advice for good areas for me to move to. I know SF is expensive, but I’ll be receiving the GI Bill along with using my savings to tackle on the expenses. I have about $10k saved up and am looking for an area to rent for under $2k a month. I’ve only been to SF twice, but it was for vacationing and sightseeing so I can’t really tell what places are good to live. Ideally I’m looking for a single apartment or bedroom in a good area with low crime that’s close enough for me to attend classes without taking over an hour for transit. Thank you in advance.
EDIT: I’m also open to places even 2 hours away since I’ll be taking hybrid classes so I won’t be in class every day.

Competition is exhausting. Opponent is living in your head, rent-free. Even I won, I feel bad for other person. And then if I lost?, I feel bad for myself.
I hate and quit competitive mindset long time ago. However, in my life, I realized best performing years are from competitive years.
I find and tried new routes for motivation. But they’re not giving me same results. Is competitiveness just straight up necessary in this world? Should I embrace it and cope after- results with something else? Is there any alternative? What did work for you guys?

After the pandemic started and everyone went remote, I moved out of LA. I lived there for almost 10 years.
I'm surprised I lasted this long given how horrible hard water in LA is. Dry skin, dry scalp, dandruff, skin rashes, the fact that you cannot rinse properly made me smell because you never really cleaned yourself, the list goes on. It was absolutely HORRIBLE. And to top it off, the dry weather + even drier air when in an AC'd room, my god. So awful.
Yes, I can always get a water softener, but for me to do that, I need to buy either a house or a townhouse that has access to a water heater. You cannot install a water softener in a condo. And I don't have a million + dollars to buy a townhouse or house anywhere near any decent area (mainly the west side).
I could rent anywhere I want in LA but then I gotta deal with hard water.
How do you people cope with such poor quality water? to make matters worse, I hear water softeners are banned in LA. are you telling me people who buy 50 million dollar mansions are bathing in disgusting hard water? LOL

As the title says, purchased in mid-January and has 700 miles on it. Drove it to the store and came back out to drive home. Sounded like it was trying to start with the continuous cranking noise, but wouldn’t. Sat there for 20 minutes waiting for a tow. I finally got it to start, but the check engine light was on (solid not flashing). Drove it to my house and getting it towed to the shop. Not sure if it’s the alternator or something else. Just sucks.
My ZL1 has been in the shop with them too for over a month with the classic oil pump failure.

Hi all, I live with my bf and we discuss money/ future goals often. We agreed I would pay off my student loans 27k for the next year. In the meantime I throw him money for groceries. He refused to take rent money from me despite me offering since my name is not on the house.He did mention he wants to have his car paid off before saving for a ring. (His money is tight between the house and his car payment.). Should I help him pay his car off so our future will be better together? I'm cautious about doing so since my name is not on the car and in prior relationships I was used for money. I suggested an alternative of both of us getting side jobs so we can work towards a better future money wise together. Thoughts?

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I fell on my hand/pole skiing 4 days ago. I skied the day of the accident (happened in the morning) and the next day until the strain of skiing with a compromised core made me call it quits. I thought i was just bruised. I went to the ER yesterday and found out I had:
"Acute appearing minimally offset with lateral left 5th and 6th rib fractures. Possible additional nondisplaced buckle fracture of the left 7th rib."
I can breath regularly without pain. If I deep breathe the pain is 2/10 . I can lightly cough with 3/10 pain. Sneezing....don't want to try that again 8/10.
I don't feel too bad moving around the house. Lightly twisting torso is 3/10. Sleeping is a bit of a bother as its often hard to get comfortable.
I've been icing off and on, taking ibubrofin, doing heat packs, deep breathing.
I start a relatively physically demanding job in 2 weeks as a gardener. What's the best case for being able to do full duties (mowing, mulching, planting)? Should I be using pain as a guideline or is there a minimal amount of time that I should do no lifting or other straining activities?

Scene opens with Alyssa and her girls having a coffee. No one is crying. Yet.
Alyssa: "So girls as you know I have a child" (audible gasps) " and he is my first priority ... you knew that right?"
Friend 1: "OMG I wish you had told me but of course that makes sense. So, does Duncan know he will be sleeping in a pile of leaves at the back of the house. Because you know and we know he is your 652nd priority so that seems fair yeah?"
Friend 2: "And you've explained that the only time you can possibly see him is for 8 minutes on Tuesday in years where Halley's Comet appears, every 3rd Wibbleday, 1 hour 27 minutes of non contiguous time in months whose letters fall alphabetically in Sanskrit, that one time in August just before you do bulb planting for spring and... Thursdays. Right?"
Alyssa nods glumly and ... cries: "Yes I told him all that and gave him the Alyssa availability app so he can book in those minutes (available on all sites for just 99 cents!) and showed him his leaf pile but I just don't think he understands how low down my enormous list of priorities he comes." \sob**...
Alyssa continues \sob** "Like I explained that rotating the tires on my car and desexing my 2nd cousins dog must take priority over our relationship but I just don't think he really understands what an insignificant piece of shit he is to me.." \sob* ALyssa's shoulders sag and she *sobs* again*
The friends wipe her tears away and nod.
"It's OK honey, lets organise a coffee and a sit down with him....".
Cutaway to Duncans face as the blood slowly drains from his face......ominous music swirls in the background

Hello, We are stuck on where to go next. Our new mortgage servicer refuses to issue us a 1098 form. I have been back and forth with them a number of times so far and have even contacted the IRS taxpayer advocate for advice. Their reasoning is because its in a trust.
The house was put into "this is key" a revocable trust Not a irrevocable trust. This was done in 2015 and was done to avoid probate court as my wife bought the house before we were married.
The current servicer is PHH mortgage based in NJ. They refuse to generate the 1098 form because on the 1098 form its states that they don't have to issue one because its in a trust. they actually quoted the paragraph directly from the form. below.
https://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/i1098.pdf
"Exceptions You need not file Form 1098 for interest received from a corporation, partnership, trust, estate, association, or company (other than a sole proprietor) even if an individual is a co-borrower and all the trustees, beneficiaries, partners, members, or shareholders of the payer of record are individuals. "
If you actually read the IRS documentation below a revocable trust isn't recognized as a trust as defined in the info on the 1098 instruction page. So I can see where they are coming from, but its wrong. The trust documentation has a SS number not an EIN number. The previous two servicers generated 1098 form as well as 1099 INT forms ever year. PHH even generated a 1099 INT for this year as well. Hell they even generated a 1098 last year.
https://www.irs.gov/businesses/small-businesses-self-employed/abusive-trust-tax-evasion-schemes-questions-and-answers
" Q: What is a grantor trust?
A: "Grantor trust" is a term used in the Internal Revenue Code to describe any trust over which the grantor or other owner retains the power to control or direct the trust's income or assets. If a grantor retains certain powers over or benefits in a trust, the income of the trust will be taxed to the grantor, rather than to the trust. (Examples, the power to decide who receives income, the power to vote or to direct the vote of the stock held by the trust or to control the investment of the trust funds, the power to revoke the trust, etc.) All "revocable trusts" are by definition grantor trusts. An "irrevocable trust" can be treated as a grantor trust if any of the grantor trust definitions contained in Internal Code §§ 671, 673, 674, 675, 676, or 677 are met. If a trust is a grantor trust, then the grantor is treated as the owner of the assets, the trust is disregarded as a separate tax entity, and all income is taxed to the grantor."
"Q: What are irrevocable/revocable trusts?
A: An irrevocable trust is a trust, which, by its terms, cannot be modified, amended, or revoked. For tax purposes an irrevocable trust can be treated as a simple, complex, or grantor trust, depending on the powers listed in the trust instrument. A revocable trust may be revoked and is considered a grantor trust (IRC § 676). State law and the trust instrument establish whether a trust is revocable or irrevocable. If the trust instrument is silent on revocability, then most states consider the trust revocable."
The taxpayer advocate said they don't have instructions for forcing a servicer to produce a 1098 as they do for W2 forms so they told us to estimate and save the mortgage statements in case of audit. I suspect we will eventually because there will be no matching 1098 on file with the IRS and we are clamming the mortgage interest as a deduction.
So as I understand this, a revocable trust is a grantors trust so the 1098 must be generated as the guarantor is responsible for all taxes? Do we have any avenue to force the issue further?
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Sorry to bother but I’m looking at dorm options for my freshman year, I’m majoring in Mechanical Engineering, have tuition for full housing coverage, and am part of the honors college. Would Ridgecrest south (the honors dorms) be the best option or is there another option that is better?

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Are any other FIRE becoming more nervous about the financial situation in the US? What plans are you making to weather the storm of currency devaluations to protect your assets from increasing inflation, taxation, and a stagnant economy. The more I learn, the more it seems likely that the US Dollar could have a devastating “Reset” brought on from the expansion in deficit spending and the loss of faith in the US Dollar. The turmoil we are causing from inflation / interest rate hikes / bank failures is affecting the rest of the world forcing some countries to unite under BRIC’s to create an alternate reserve currency. Brazil, Russia, India, China, Saudi, South Africa, Turkey, etc (~50% of the the worlds population) are making moves boosting their physical gold reserves and alignment to potentially covert to an asset backed digital Yuan; currency backed by Gold/Oil. This would destabilize the dollar as the reserve currency and eliminate the need for foreigner’s to buy our Treasury Bonds and if OPEC converts off US$ to the Digital Yuan or Bitcoin for oil trading we could see even greater inflation and require even higher interest rates to try and control it. Like protecting your assets from frivolous litigation using an offshore Cook Island trusts, is it realistic to hoard up on Monster boxes (silver eagles) in the vault to protect 10% of your wealth? Hard to imagine buying food with silver coins as a currency and having enough guns to protect it from those who follow you home. Or would it be better to hold cash flowing residential real estate that will increase with inflation so long as tenants can afford to pay rents. Or hold more of your wealth in the top 5 crypto currencies, but they can be volatile if we are able to keep kicking the can down the road and defer a currency collapse. Any good strategic moves to protect wealth we have spent years to create?