My boyfriend and I (both 22) have been dating for over a year and a half. In the beginning, he treated me like a princess, was always the one to initiate and plan, never stopped expressing his love for me and consistently sent sweet text messages. He was always open to hearing my concerns and I felt really secure in the relationship, knowing that he was an active participant.
Recently, some big changes have taken place in both of our lives, and he finds himself wrapped up in coursework, on campus job and partying. I gave him grace but it was getting really uncomfortable knowing that he never made time to call me. I have high standards for men, and I expect at least 10 minutes of conversation every single day. He used to go on family vacations and completely forget about me, and won’t even bother checking up on how I was doing.
Recently, when we hung out with our friends, I was trying to be close to him, like standing in front of him, gently holding his hand under the table and other light forms of PDA. He disengaged from all that I was left feeling like a fool. He was never uncomfortable with PDA before and always made it a point to show me off and overall being territorial in public and I enjoyed it. When I asked him, he said we should keep it low and I felt like more of a friend to him than a partner. He actively shut down this conversation, refusing to hear my concerns and said I was too needy, too emotional and too demanding. He dismissed everything I said, and although he was jetlagged at the time, that was no way of talking to me. He was already “too busy” giving time to everything except his girlfriend and I resented that.
When I sought Reddit’s advice, I got two things:
1) Got called a bunch of names: “needy” “controlling” “insecure” “codependent”
2) Or given advice that was BS: “talk to him” “say directly” “get therapy” “build some self esteem” - bitch, I have healthy self esteem because I don’t wanna settle for less!
None of this was what I was looking for. I felt neglected, underappreciated and taken for granted in my relationship. Then, I got recommended this book, “Reverse Ultimatum” by Mimi Tanner, that basically gives this advice of leaning back and take an extra amount of pressure off to get his ass to move. It asked me to purposely be less available and “busy” for my man, said no to calls, let him text me and not replying back immediately, got involved in all sorts of activities that made me feel better about myself - and he got curious at first and wanted my attention. It felt sooo good to finally have my boyfriend’s real attention instead of the crumbs he was so used to giving.
But I did not back down just yet. I had to be less available to him, had to fake my busy day, to give him the chance to really miss me and become clingy just like I was once. All the while, I wasn’t demanding or needy or passive aggressive. I was as sweet as a peach and that really created that mystery! I was playing the part of a popular celebrity who was living an “Innocent Charmed Life” - and thus my time was money. I appeared happy, attractive and made it a point to “glow” - and he noticed that! I reassured him whenever he asked me of my love for him, and it finally felt good to be the one who WASN’T asking for reassurances.
I leaned back and watched him send flowers, get me coffee, send me desserts, write poems about me, show me off
So yea ladies, this is me proving how you can absolutely “get” your partner to do things for you and have your needs met. Had I not gotten a hold of that book, I wouldn’t have been able to save the relationship. Today, he treats me the way I want to be treated, because he is afraid of losing me, having gotten a taste of what it’s like to miss me. We don’t “miss” things we already have, and this was the reason why I wasn’t “missed” by him. This was really a turning point in my relationship and today I am much happier with him.
TLDR: playing it dirty isn’t all bad

IMPORTANT: This is about the game Honkai Impact 3rd, not Honkai: Star Rail. Please do not confuse those two games.
Genshin Impact is mainstream for a good reason. Both app's gameplay are completely different, but Genshin will stand the most.
If you are not a competitive and would rather not be overwhelmed, Genshin is for you. The elemental reaction is a unique feature that will boost your experience; you would want to play around it whenever you want. On the other hand, Honkai Impact 3rd leans onto the fast-paced side. With its battling system, there is a convenient feature; the evading. If you perfectly evade an enemy's attack, effects will vary depending on the character; in most instances, time fracture occurs (but not all characters have this). Despite that, Honkai Impact 3rd has a problem that bothers players; the large and flashing effects. The effects are so bright, you can't even see the enemy well; the evading skill has no use unless have good reflexes. On the other hand, Genshin has less effects, yet managed to appear attractive.
The burst---or should I say, ultimate? The ultimate skill animation in Honkai 3rd is unnecessarily long. For a fast-paced action game; why make animations longer than they need to? The burst in Genshin is superior. For 5 star bursts, more effects are used; yet they are used effectively to appear beautifully without disrupting the battle unnecessarily. Especially with the time limit challenge, it is convenient for you to get the shortest time record possible.
Speaking of gameplay, Genshin's open world exploration is much more diverse and enjoyable. The graphics are amazing, you can take beautiful pictures along the way. Gathering, Gliding, Running past enemies to avoid being bullied to death like those high school boys standing near lockers ready to punch you in the face and force you to do their homework, finding stuff along the way, and of course the battles. Aiming is convenient for killing Timmie's bir- I mean enemies from far away. If you have Ganyu, it's stronger yet you will be also bored; just using a sniper like in GTA.
When it comes to character design, Genshin is much more tame than Honkai 3rd. I do know for a fact that Honkai 3rd has decent designs also. But the problem is the revealing body. Genshin lacks that, thus making their character designs more tame. Honkai 3rd is---let's just say, less tame. Some characters have clearly inappropriate designs; such as exposing the chest and curves. I also do know for a fact that Honkai 3rd is mostly for male audiences; but still, it looks it's objectifying women; and they're freaking TEENAGERS, at least in the earlier story. But why does Kiana gotta have her chest exposed in her White Comet battlesuit? Gacha RPG games these days only contain curvy female characters to cater to NEETS. Even if there's male characters, most of the time there are less of them. The same goes for Gacha Music/VN games that only contain male characters, everything is just focusing on one gender to cater to fans; there's no gender equality.
In that case, Genshin stepped up. The team made a decision to attract all types of fans in just one game. Everyone will have peace in enjoying their characters with equality. And there is this one huge problem that is present in both games; lack of diversity. I'm not talking about the personality and design diversity; I'm talking about diversity in race, appearance and culture. Even though both games mention countries (and locations inspired by countries) on their stories, the characters are not diverse enough. Genshin has darker skinned characters, but VERY few. Especially in Sumeru, that region is inspired by Middle East Asia. Yet, most characters are as white as snow. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with having a lighter skin color. But it makes no sense, most people in Middle East Asia are mostly tanned. I'm not sure about Honkai 3rd, but I'm thinking Carole is the only darker skinned character in the entire series---Correct me if I'm wrong. I had high hopes with the story, but that ruined me.
And here comes the part where Honkai 3rd shines the most; story. Not Open World? I don't care. The story is executed better than Genshin. Genshin is not that compelling. In my opinion, its supposed "emotional scenes" are not emotional for me. Pull up those sad backstories, I won't cry; not even Yun Jin's song about Shenhe. I really don't care if Honkai 3rd doesn't have English voice acting, as long as the story is good. But this opinion may vary; certain people prefer fantasy settings, and a story that is not graphic. Some don't want to know the story due to not having English voices. Genshin's English voice acting attracted non-anime fans too, but I'm sorry; Honkai 3rd's story is deeper yet understandable despite only having Chinese and Japanese voices. Not to mention their animated shorts are detailed and beautiful; I do wish MiHoyo Anime Studio comes in a clutch and create 3D animations for Genshin Impact. But yet again, its use of in-game graphics is a sign that Genshin appears to be detailed and colorful; it is better than Honkai 3rd.
Overall? Genshin wins. Honkai 3rd is understandably slightly outdated, especially its age right now. But Genshin has more improvements of features than Honkai 3rd, with lots of quality of life features that weren't be able to added in Honkai 3rd, and also a lot more simple in general.

It seems every time I have some sort of human interaction with, I'm immediately repulsed and offended by everything everyone does all the time.
I only get relief when I'm alone using my computer or when I'm with an INFPs
Being alone doesn't really bother me. I've come to accept that I will always be living inside my head, that's just who I am as a person.
My main concern is if it's healthy for my mind and spirit.
The older I get, the more isolated I become.
I recently got out of an abusive relationship with a narcissist and ever since, I've COMPLETELY isolated myself from the world.
I learned the hard way that the majority of people out there don't think in the selfless way that I do.
Living in my room spending all my time on my computer either working or watching YouTube.
Pushing away childhood friends that call me once a month to check on me.
I get bouts of depression every now and then, and suicidal thoughts.
Though, thinking of killing myself makes me wonder, what do I have to lose if I "put myself out there" since I'm already thinking of taking my own life anyways?
What don't I strive for the betterment of humanity instead of being fascinated with the beauty of the afterlife?
That place I yearn for will eventually come.
It's best to observe the awe and wonder of a DMT explosion in your brain at the age of 90, so you can dance in nirvana with your grandchildren when time has come to a complete halt and you are living in the moment of death for all eternity.

So my ex lived in another town. She didn't have a job, and she has 3 kids. He car also broke down for month's so she was usually stuck at home. Things were generally pretty good between us, we fought and stuff, but two weeks before the breakup we had a big fight. After that, I noticed a change in her behavior.
1, every thing I did and said she suddenly became extremely critical of. This alone could just be signs of the relationship coming to an end, but 2, she started being weird about her phone. She'd stop leaving it around, she'd be texting and acting like she's hiding something, or I'd come by her when she's on her phone and I'd be a bit nosy like "watcha doin" and she'd say, "why are you looking at my phone? Don't you trust me?" 3, when I was out of town she started texting and talking on the phone less and coming up with excuses. 4, the last weekend I was supposed to see her during, she didn't want me to go over because apparently her little sister had a fight with their parents and was staying there and she felt weird about me being there too. Which felt weird, but fine. 5, that last week, her parents fixed up an old car and gave it to her so she wasn't stuck at home anymore. The day we broke up, she was unreachable and posted a picture on her Instagram story in full makeup and a cute dress, which is odd because she usually doesn't get that done up if she isn't going to a family event or going out. I asked her "damn ma where you going looking like that" and she replied that she was going to Ross with her sister and I'm like.... huh. That seems off. I also told her she looked extra fine that day and she just replied "yes." On top of all this, I just had this gut feeling that she wasn't being loyal.
We finally had a fight about stupid stuff, she aggressively told me that I "always give such fucking noncommital responses to fucking everything," I didn't like the way she talked to me, she told me I'm being ridiculous, that's just how she talks, and that I apparently talk to her like I'm better than her (which... yeah just wasn't true.) Anyways, she hung up on me saying she had stuff to do and I was like fine whatever. Some hours go by and my roommate and her bf want to go out drinking, so I text her, "Hey I'm going out tonight so if you want to talk on the phone again maybe we should do it now" and she just replies, "by all means, go out. Have fucking fun." I haven't hung out with them for months because I was giving my attention mostly to her, so I obviously got mad when she didn't want me to go over but didn't want me to enjoy the company if my friends. And me getting mad at that was the last straw for her and she broke up with me. Over text. Didn't even respond to me calling her to try and talk it out or she could tell me straight up it was over.
I'm fine with the break up. But I can't escape this nagging feeling that she cheated on me in the end. Maybe it's the lack of closure on it that's throwing me off. I feel kind of humiliated. Am I crazy for thinking that? Should I just not care and move on?

This is a list top 100 trance songs containing songs that are according to ChatGPT are both popular and or influential.
I have combed through to make sure they are trance for it to be on the list I have used Masterclass definitions of trance.
(Spoiler alert No Lasgo)
Note1: These are not my opinion Note2: There in no particular order Note3: this is not the songs I would have chosen
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1. Energy 52 - Café Del Mar (Three 'N One Remix)
2. Paul van Dyk - For an Angel
3. Above & Beyond - Sun & Moon (feat. Richard Bedford)
4. Armin van Buuren - Communication
5. Tiësto - Adagio for Strings
6. Gareth Emery - Concrete Angel (feat. Christina Novelli)
7. Dash Berlin - Till the Sky Falls Down
8. Cosmic Gate - Exploration of Space
9. ATB - 9 PM (Till I Come)
10. Rui Da Silva Featuring Cassandra - Touch Me (Original 12 inch Mix)
11. Veracocha - Carte Blanche
12. Chicane - Saltwater
13. System F - Out Of The Blue
14. Markus Schulz - The New World
15. Aly & Fila - We Control the Sunlight (feat. Jwaydan)
16. Binary Finary - 1998
17. OceanLab - Satellite (Above & Beyond Remix)
18. Above & Beyond - Alone Tonight
19. Armin van Buuren - In and Out of Love (feat. Sharon den Adel)
20. Robert Miles - Children
21. Rank 1 - Airwave
22. Dash Berlin - Waiting (feat. Emma Hewitt)
23. Gouryella - Gouryella
24. BT - Flaming June
25. Paul van Dyk - Nothing But You (feat. Hemstock & Jennings)
26. Markus Schulz - Perception
27. Andy Moor & Ashley Wallbridge - Faces (feat. Meighan Nealon)
28. Super8 & Tab - Helsinki Scorchin'
29. Armin van Buuren - Shivers (feat. Susana)
30. Above & Beyond - Can't Sleep
31. ATB - Ecstasy
32. Tiesto - Traffic
33. Cosmic Gate - Be Your Sound (feat. Emma Hewitt)
34. Gareth Emery - Long Way Home
35. Solarstone - Seven Cities
36. Gaia - Tuvan
37. Ferry Corsten - Beautiful
38. Aly & Fila - Lost Language
39. Paul Oakenfold - Southern Sun
40. Lange - Drifting Away
41. Above & Beyond - Thing Called Love (feat. Richard Bedford)
42. Armin van Buuren - Burned with Desire (feat. Justine Suissa)
43. Andy Moor - Halcyon
44. Rank 1 - Awakening
45. Paul van Dyk - Time of Our Lives (feat. Vega 4)
46. Chicane - Offshore
47. Oceanlab - Clear Blue Water (Ferry Corsten Remix)
48. Aly & Fila - Eye of Horus (Ronski Speed Remix)
49. System F - Cry
50. Veracocha - Drafting
51. Dash Berlin - Never Cry Again
52. Above & Beyond - Home
53. Armin van Buuren - Blue Fear
54. Push - Strange World
55. Andy Moor - Fake Awake
56. Paul Oakenfold - Ready Steady Go
57. Calvin Harris, Ellie Goulding - Miracle
58. John O'Callaghan - Big Sky (feat. Audrey Gallagher)
59. Above & Beyond - Sun In Your Eyes
60. Dash Berlin - Man On The Run (feat. Cerf, Mitiska & Jaren)
61. Solarstone & Clare Stagg - The Spell (Solarstone Pure Mix)
62. Andy Moor - Love Again (feat. Betsie Larkin)
63. Lange - Follow Me (feat. The Morrighan)
64. Gabriel & Dresden - Arcadia
65. Armin van Buuren - Serenity (feat. Jan Vayne)
66. OceanLab - Breaking Ties (Above & Beyond's Analog Heaven Mix)
67. Kyau & Albert - Are You Fine?
68. Super8 & Tab - Elektra
69. Rank 1 - L.E.D. There Be Light
70. ATB - Don't Stop
71. Chicane - Autumn Tactics
72. Giuseppe Ottaviani - Through Your Eyes
73. Lange - Out Of The Sky (feat. Sarah Howells)
74. Cosmic Gate - Melt to the Ocean
75. Above & Beyond - Good for Me (feat. Zoë Johnston)
76. Armin van Buuren - Fine Without You (feat. Jennifer Rene)
77. Talamasca - A Frenchman In Mumbai
78. Delerium feat. Sarah McLachlan - Silence (Tiesto Remix)
79. Faithless - Insomnia
80. Darude - Sandstorm
81. Alice Deejay - Better Off Alone
82. Astrix - Deep Jungle Walk
83. DJ Sakin & Friends - Protect Your Mind (Braveheart)
84. DJ Sammy & Yanou feat. Do - Heaven
85. Motorcycle - As The Rush Comes
86. Ian Van Dahl - Castles in the Sky
87. Three Drives - Greece 2000
88. Fragma - Toca Me
89. Filo and Peri feat. Eric Lumiere - Anthem
90. Sasha - Xpander
91. Jurgen Vries - The Theme
92. Gareth Emery feat. Bo Bruce - U
93. Tiësto - Lethal Industry
94. Push - Universal Nation
95. Chicane feat. Bryan Adams - Don't Give Up
96. Matt Darey feat. Marcella Woods - Beautiful
97. Lost Witness - Happiness Happening
98. Love Rush Uk fet. Bryan Adams - Tonight in Babylon
99. Sash! feat. Tina Cousins - Mysterious Times
100. Mauro Picotto - Komodo

Having just finished watching spider-man: across the spider-verse, I feel as if there are deliberate parallels between the marvel comics Secret Wars storyline from 2015 and how the current MCU story and spider-verse trilogy are unfolding. These parallels seem to indicate that one particular character will be joining the MCU with absolute certainty, just not how many people may be thinking him to. This post will contain spoilers for across the spider-verse.
First and foremost, context for those that may be unaware. Some paraphrasing is involved but these are the general ideas that are necessary to follow along. Marvel comic's 2015 Secret Wars was a cross promotional storyline devised to reset the then comics Canon. The idea from publishing was to take all of the ongoing stories, mainline and alternate realities, keep what was working and scrap what wasn't.
In the story, the main continuity, which is known as the 616 universe, becomes aware of an ongoing phenomenon that is occurring known as incursions. An incursion is two separate realities colliding with one another, if nothing is done both realities will destroy one another as reality unravels in on themselves. The 616 heros find ways to keep their reality going when a couple separate realities present themselves, this all comes to a head when they are faced with the Ultimate universe. The ultimate universe, designated 1610, is home to many familiar faces but most importantly it's the home of Spider-man Miles Morales. Now, in this universe, Miles took over the duties of Spider-man when his version of Peter Parker is killed. And as these two realities are faced with imminent destruction, two factions of heroes from each earth decide that they are done with the fighting and board multidimensional space ships that will take them into whats next. The world's get destroyed, the heroes find themselves in a new land thats under Dr Dooms control and they begin their next steps towards fixing reality. One of the heroes that makes it is 1610 Miles morales. Eventually, in this battle world, Mr. Fantastic and company are able to usurp Dr. Doom and end up creating the current continuity of Marvel comics that exists. This current continuity which includes the alternate reality 1610 miles morales, which because of cosmic tampering is now Canon to the main 616 universe.
So thats all good and dandy, but what does it have to do with the movies? I believe that specific numbering and events we've seen in films have set the stage and are alluding to the fact that things are playing out very similar to that 2015 storyline.
In Spider-man homecoming, we are all introduced to the character of Aaron Davis in a small, fairly short scene. Aaron Davis is the uncle of miles, in fact he specifically mentions that he has a nephew in that scene. Heavily implying its miles and telling fans that miles is definitely going to be in the MCU in time. Marvel studios introduced the idea of miles joining the MCU with this scenes, all that remains is the how. Sure, they could go for a more traditional route but I don't think they are.
In Dr strange, multiverse of madness, the MCU gets, arguably, the most important exposure to the multiverse. For the purposes of this theory, most of the events in that movie don't have any relevance. The important take away is when Dr strange finds himself in an alternate reality, in that reality, he comes face to face with Christine who tells him he's in reality 838. She then elects to tell him that his reality is 616, in otherwords the MCU is reality 616. They both need to tread carefully however, since a series of devastating reality shattering events have been going on. Events known as incursions.
The parallels should hopefully be showing themselves but there's a little bit more so if you would, please follow along a bit more.
Okay, Into the spider-verse, the 2018 film that is incredible. What does it have to do with this. In that movie, we follow Miles Morales who becomes spiderman after he gets bitten by a radioactive spider and witnesses Peter Parker spiderman die by the hands of the kingpin. The kingpin creates a collider that accidentally brings in alternate reality spider-men to miles universe. His universe which is known as reality 1610. The story is of him coming into his own and accepting the role of spiderman and what comes with it, he saves the day and is able to get the other spiders home. Along the process, he destroys that very same collude that was used to bring people in.
So, from here on out there are going to be spoilers for across the spider-verse. If you haven't seen it, tread with caution.
Across the spider-verse, it's been 1 year and some months since the collider. Miles has learned a lot and has become more capable as spiderman. Early on in the movie he ends up fighting The Spot, a villain who can use black portals to move around space. While the two are fighting, we find out that The Spot is actually a scientist who was at the collider when miles blew it up. Miles is the reason The Spot exists and The Spot detests Miles for it. Miles seemingly defeats him but this leads to the spot realizing he can travel the multiverse. Gwen from the previous movie shows up to miles universe, as she has joined a spider society that works towards fixing mulitversal anomalies, in pursuance of the spot. Realizing the spots no longer there, she leaves and miles follows her, taking him on a journey across the spider-verse. On this journey, he sees that tampering with other realities, or having different realities interacting with each other, cause a reaction that destroys them. Much like the incursions of the MCU.
So, an MCU thats 616. A version of miles morales thats from 1610 with two incredible movies and one more on the way. Incursions happening across movie universes and movie franchises that represent comics from 2015. The MCU is the 2015 marvel mainline comics, the spider-verse is akin to the ultimate universe, and what does the MCU have on the horizon. An MCU movie called secret wars that many believe will consolidate the movie landscape and usher in a new era. The promise of Miles has been hanging for a few years and what better time to deliver than when Miles is at his peak popularity.
The next installment in the spider-verse is said to conclude this chapter of miles story. It's meant to bring him into a new fray. What could be better than introducing him to a new landscape with familiar heroes. His next movie is going to be "Beyond the spider-verse". Whats more beyond a spider-verse than a Marvel cinematic universe?
If you've made it this far, thanks a lot for reading along. I hope you enjoyed and its all in good fun anyway. Have a good one.

First, some background story: my parents were born in a country where during their times, people always had many children and because of the scarce economy, going to school was not popular and people’s existence was based on hard labour, so parents always relied on the help of their children. My mom escaped from this fate, but my dad had a pretty rough childhood. Both his parents didn’t have a high education, they married young and had 5 children ( I have 2 uncles and 2 aunts from his side), my father is the 3rd so basically the middle child, his father was a shepherd and his mother stayed at home. The thing is, my grandfather was a horrible person, he always exploited his children, didn’t let them go to school because they had to help him, he always beat them up and was always in a fight with my grandmother. But my grandmother was not an angel either, because after the fights with my grandfather she left her kids home alone for long periods of time, sometimes even days, and didn’t stand up for them when my grandfather beat them and choose to not divorce him because it’s a embarrassing thing, so that lead to basically her neglecting them.
While growing up my other uncles and aunts left the country one by one to work abroad and so did my father. There he met my mother through a mutual friend, and then they had me and then my brother. I lived 9 years in that country, but when my father started having health problems due to the country’s humidity and he couldn’t go to work, money became tight and my parents decided to move back to their hometown. My father came constantly to his hometown when we lived abroad and during the summer he worked rebuilding his childhood home, so when we came here, my family moved in the house while his parents lived in an annex attached to it.
After years of disputes between my father and my grandfather came to an end when my grandfather died, things started going downfall between me and my grandmother. I have to add a very crucial point, I have a cousin (we will name him “X”) that lived with my grandma, because my aunt didn’t know any better, and she married young and had him before divorcing her husband. X began to live with grandma after his mother dropped him like a piece of garbage and moved abroad to live the rest of her youth. He grew spoiled and in his teenage years he did nothing but party, did bad in school and treated grandma like sh*it, but because she raised him she turned a blind eye on all his actions.
Now, me and my brother were basically her slaves, we did everything for her, bring anything she wanted, ordered us around, made us buy her groceries, did work for her while threatening us she would tell on us to my father if we did not obey her, while X did nothing. I had to cancel plans to help her or delay them. We had to go to the store near 4 times a day to buy sh*t for her, and we started getting sick of being her personal workers so when my brother (8 at the time) refused to go to the store, my grandma lamented to my father and he beat my brother until he pissed himself and his shirt was torn. I started growing resentment towards her, and because I decided to not back down, my disputes with her started.
Well when I grew up things changed, because my other grandma (we will call her Y) came from abroad to live in the house she built while working, and we started living with her when my mother decided to go back every 3-4 months to work abroad while changing places with her mother (so when mother was home, Y wasn’t, and viceversa). And so every time Y came home, we had the chance to escape her.
Y was always sweet to my father’s mother so when one day I come back from school and learn that my father’s mother called Y and named her lazy and disrespectful for not coming to visit her I was furious. Keep in mind that during that period, my father was not home bc he was working abroad, and she was left alone and didn’t have her slaves to help her, and my father sent a package to us that I had to deliver to her. When I get there, I first took the keys and fed the dog and when I came back, I found her screaming at my brother and when she saw me she starts screaming and berating at me, so I start screaming back and confront her about the accusations towards my Y. She started denying that that ever happened, called me a liar and an ungrateful child and refused to accept the package that I carried during winter and in a 50 minutes walk and kept tossing on the ground the keys that opened the gate where the dog stayed. I was shaking and I had no internet connection so when I called my mother with the wi-fi of one of my friends that lived at the end of the street she was shocked and she told me to leave the package there. Then the grandmother started complaining to other relatives that I assaulted her when that never happened, and so I had to defend myself at every family gathering.
When my father returned home with my mother, I could not stand seeing her so I decided to ignore her, no greetings, no eye contact, no helping, no touching etc. and because she is a petty person she did that too.
The current situation is giving me a lot of privileges: I don’t have to do what she wants, I don’t need to run errands for her, my father can’t force me to help her ( because he witnessed a lot of disputes where he realised his mother was really a b*tch), I have more time to myself and I can do whatever I want.
What I don’t like is my father that keeps pressuring me into apologising to her ( and i’m like for what?) because she is old and doesn’t realise what she is doing, but from my perspective she actually knows what her actions mean and their negative consequences and I consider the old age motive not reasonable enough to excuse years of bullying from her.

Introduction

I've been a part of this community for long enough that maybe 3 people recognize the color of my shave towels when I post on /wicked_edge (they're purple). In /wetshaving, I occasionally make dick jokes with mammothben.
As a result, I've spent about an hour ruminating on this post and how to make the Maggard Meetup as awkward as possible. These are my memes and mine alone. I have rejected several cash offers to not post these findings, and I will not be stopped.

Grievance #1: Ending the Base Race

Background

In the before-fore times, the meta for soapmaking that every soapmaker followed was to get a handful of main scents that they keep the same, and release small tweaks to their soap base every 6 months to render the community's collection obsolete and generate a buying spree where people now had to get their favorite scents in the "latest and greatest" soap base.
Many consider this era the golden age of wetshaving, and Barrister and Mann was an active contributor to the base race. White Label/Black Label base, Glissant base, Latha base, Reserve base, Soft Heart base, and Excelsior base all helped encourage wetshavers across the world buy Seville multiple times in the hopes for better slickness, improved cushion (which is totally a thing), and the ultimate post-shave feel.
Then everything changed when the Omniberries attacked.

Omnibus

On September 29, 2021, a nuclear salvo was unleashed from the halls of barristerandmann.com. Leviathan was released in the Omnibus base, and soapmakers around the world waved the white flag on the base race.
Declaration Grooming's Milksteak, Sus Artisan Accoutrement's CK-6, Boob-label & Evans' Kaizen K2. These mainstays of American soap bases have remained stagnant ever since. Omnibus effectively ended the base race across the entire market, and led to the community consensus becoming "chase scents, not bases."

Why This Matters

This alone isn't problematic, having a stable set of great bases to choose from and allowing premiere soapmakers to focus on releasing more interesting scents in smaller batches is good for the community, for the industry, and the world.
The problem arises when old, established brands like Tabac take the end of the base race as a signal from the market that they can cut costs by moving their soaps onto to inferior bases. I'm not saying that it's Will's fault that tallow Tabac is now unobtanium, but you could make the argument that it's Will's fault that tallow Tabac is now unobtanium.

The Solution

The best way the community can address this issue is to write daily letters to Maurer & Wirtz that they need to bring back the tallow base for Tabac, and buy out Maggad Razors' stock of 4.1/4.2 base Saponificio Varesino soaps so they can restock everything in the 4.3 base.

Grievance #2: Financial Abuse

Background

Every few years, the copyright expiration date on Mickey Mouse looms near and Disney lobbies the US government to extend the copyright expiration date so that Disney can maintain their stranglehold on The Mouse, despite their eager use of public domain IP like Sherlock Holmes and King Arthur. Is Will literally Big Soap? I'm not saying he is, I'm just asking questions.

Mousse de Saxe

Will has a whole blog post on how he came about his formulation of Mousse de Saxe, and while it's a very interesting story and his formulation of MdS has become catnip for wetshavers, it's also become something of a crutch in his soapmaking. MdS features in Beadelaire, Full Measure of Man, Lavanille, Le Grand Chypre, and most recently in Vespers.

Why This Matters

Although many of us in the community have no thrill anymore, MdS remains the inimitable constant source of thrill at all of /wetshaving cannot resist. L'appel du mousse is the compelling urge one feels to buy at least a sample (I just need a taste!) of Will's latest release featuring Mousse de Saxe. Will knows this fact about us. He knows it well. My sources tell me Will has bought several jetskis with the money he's earned from abusing this fact about us. And he can't keep getting away with it.

The Solution

Since the turn of the new millennium, sex strikes have proven effective in Colombia, The Phillippines, South Sudan, Togo, and elsewhere. By withholding that which their oppressors desire until behavior is changed, peace can be achieved. So to everyone at the Maggard Meetup, I call upon you to refrain from complimenting Will's scent-making until he releases Mousse de Saxe as a standalone dropper that can be added to soaps and aftershaves a la Declaration Grooming's menthol dropper. Si se puede!

Grievance #3: Olfactory Abuse

Background

It is at this point in the post that I must concede, Will is the superior meme-meister. This absolute madlad is at the gigabrain Dr. Manhattan level of the soapmaking world, except instead of moving to Mars he's decided to dead-ass fuck with us. Seville prints more money than the Nintendo Switch, he's got MdS for whenever he wants the cash to buy another jetski, and Omnibus ensures no other soapmaker will encroach on his soap base superiority. How do I know he's decided to stunt on our noses? Because of 2 scent notes.

Cilantro and Cum

Let's start with Cilantro. When the Four Horsemen series was announced, the wetshaving community was awash with curiosity and speculation about what each of the four horsemen would smell like. Would it be like how Noble Otter tackled the "Firefighter" theme without actually making a soap that smelled like a fire?
No. War would smell like an actual war crime. How does one scent a war crime? Apparently with Cilantro. I have it on good authority that Will devised the scent profile for War when eating tacos for taco tuesday and the topic of how cilantro tastes like soap to some people with a specific gene. "Well what would happen if I added an ingredient that tastes like soap to my actual soap?" and off he went. His friends and family didn't see him for days. The Cleveland Browns found a post-it note that had "Cilantro No Matter What" scribbled on it. And some time later, a scent that could curdle Wholly Kaw's Creme Fraiche base was brought to market. Will knew that we'd buy all 4 scents, get all matchy-matchy, and even dickhole the aftershaves. And then the SOTD's began. "My wife hates this," "my cat peed on the tub when I left it open to dry," "why has god forsaken me?" Guess who was laughing his ass off from Mars? Our very own Dr. Manhattan.
For those of us familiar with Pear Tree blossoms, they have a very particular scent. The kind of scent that makes guys inspect their pant leg and say "I'm fairly certain I didn't miss." The kind of scent that makes women think "Oh gross, honey I told you to change your underwear after last night." That's right, Pear Tree blossoms smell like cum. So when Will was considering what scent to re-release for Spring 2023, did he select fan favorite Paganini's Violin or the fruity fougere Passiflora? (Both of which he relased bath soaps for in February). No, he chose the cum soap. The soap that's supposed to remind you of the time you took a walk through Central Park and rounded a corner only to be accosted by a masturbating homeless man.
I tried to give Will the benefit of the doubt, and asked point blank "Is the pear blossom accord in Rhapsody going to be as, well... pear blossom-y as the original Rhapsody formulation?" to which he responded "Why would I change it?" He knew. He knew what he was doing when he originally released the soap, and he knew why I was asking if he had changed it in the re-release. Dr. Manhattan was laughing on Mars again.

Why This Matters

This matters because Will still hasn't re-released Roam and I need the matching aftershave in my life. There are only so many fresh tubs of Roam out there that j33pguy13 can source for me. Instead, Will chooses to re-release Rhapsody and put together what may go down in history as the most infamous multi-scent meme soap release in history with the Four Horsemen. This is a personal attack on my love for Roam and I will not stand for it.

The Solution

Will, re-release Roam and all is forgiven.

Grievance #4: Feet

Preface

I'm a heterosexual male, but that shouldn't matter when it comes to shaving products or labels. Yes, we drank beer. My friends and I. Boys and girls. Yes, we drank beer. I liked beer. Still like beer. We drank beer.

The Problem

Lavender, Interrupted has been to Will as At the Mountains of Madness has been to Guillermo Del Toro. Everyone wants to see it. Will wants to make it. But the creative ambition of the project makes the promised project almost un-makeable. Lavender, Interrupted had been long promised as an evolution of the lauded Lavanille scent, but faced delays and reformulations, and further delays.
And now, today, many of you will go to the Maggard Meetup anticipating getting a full bottle or sample of the long awaited fragrance. And I can't say I'm not jealous.
I'm really jealous.
But lets wind the clock back to Tuesday March 21, 2023 and remember the Deals/New Products thread from that day.
"Happy Tuesday!
Just wanted to drop in quickly to let you all know that the Q2 2023 Release Schedule is now posted on our blog and that it features a sneak peek at a mockup for Lavender, Interrupted packaging."
Will wanted us to see the packaging. Not a new blog post on how he put the final touches on the fragrance. Not a picture of the bottle it would be sold in. He wanted us to see the picture of sexy feet he put on the box. He postponed Lavender, Interrupted and strung us along just so that his feet pics could get maximum exposure with minimum heat. Are those Will's feet on the box of Lavender, Interrupted? Why does will want us to see pictures of his feet in thigh-high stockings? I'm not saying they are Will's feet on the packaging of Lavender, Interrupted. I'm just asking questions.

The Solution

Nothing really to be done about this other than be mad about discovering new about ourselves. Just accept that we're all going to love this fragrance and that the box with sexy feet on it will be in many wetshavers' dens, delighting Will that his feet pics are going to be all over the sub's mail call threads for years to come.

Conclusion

I'm not sure why you read this far. It's lot to take in, I know. I'm intentionally avoiding a few smaller topics of less import, like... Night Music having poo notes. I'm not going to critique Will/Barrister and Mann beyond that, because it's already been established that he's straight up fucking with us with some of these scents and I am 100% here for it.
I've been wracked with guilt holding onto this knowledge while wetshavers around the world continue to buy Will's wonderful products, but I realized the potential hilarity of pointing out Will's sexy feet pics the morning of the Maggard Meetup was too much to pass up. My intention is just to meme on everyone tangentially related to what I've posted here, and to get Roam a proper re-release. I will not source any of my claims, and I expect you to do your own research. Take my word for it.
After all of this though, I am convinced that Will is an absolute gigachad in the wetshaving world. Please join me in encouraging Will to re-release Roam.
TL;DR Does this sub even have mods anymore? Why is this post still up?

I broke up with my emotional abusive ex and moved out of our shared apartment last year.
He still owed me money and had some things that belonged to me. We texted about it last week but he stopped replying.
Yesterday me and my boyfriend (M29) where watching a movie together over facetime. I told him I didn’t get an answer from my ex yet, and that I‘d like to call him and ask about my money and belongings. My boyfriend agreed but asked if he could stay on Facetime and listen, I told him no.
I called my ex and we agreed that he‘d dropp off my stuff at our mutual friend‘s house.
He asked about the dog (edit: it was "our" dog before the breakup) and I told him that she‘s doing fine, that she was attacked by an off leash dog but no major injuries and that we‘re seeing a dog trainer and so on. He then asked if I was seeing anyone and I told him that I‘m in a happy relationship, he asked a little bit about my boyfriend. I told him that leaving him was the best decision I ever made, that I am lucky to be in a healthy relationship and that I‘m overall doing good.
He told me, he was seeing someone and that he also agreed, tho we had good times, we just didn’t match and we would have destroyed each other if we didn’t went our separate ways. I told him that I hope he won’t repeat the mistakes he made in the past and that he’s happy with his new girlfriend.
In no means do I intent to keep in contact or maintain a friendship. It still felt good to end it once and for all, in good terms. The conversation felt kind of therapeutic, if that makes sense.
The call went on for about an hour and when I hung up my boyriend had send me a message, saying he‘s been waiting, he is pissed.
I told him that I would like to tell him about the conversation, so he called, listened and freaked out.
He was angry that I talked to my ex like he was a friend, that I told him about my relationship and my boyfriend and that I gave him relationship advice, by saying I hope he‘s treating his new girl better. He said, he doesn’t know if he could trust me and if he was able to get over it. He also sent a photo of him crying.
My BF said he was heartbroken and is now turning cold, because I made him feel like I don’t love him and that he will need some time to think about it.
He called again because we usually go to sleep together on the phone but he made clear he doesn’t want to talk.
I haven’t heard from him ever since and I‘m not sure what to do.
Should I try and contact him or leave him be? How can I fix this? I he in the right?

It was September 2019 (I think). At the time, I just finished my Bachelor's thesis. To complete my entire study, I just had to finish one more exam, namely Mobilkommunikationstechnik. Yes, it is in German, because I studied at a German university. Well, I was already wondering what to do next at the time, since it would not be long before I graduated. There are several options here: doing a Master, working, or going back to Indonesia (my home country). I applied for a Master's at RWTH Aachen University and got admitted. I was happy and already began to look for a community of students to start the journey. Things were great.
It was time for preparing the last exam that I had. At the same time, I was personally conducting research on Reinforcement Learning. Everyone said that it is an easy exam, and there is nothing to worry about. So it is what I did. I did not give too much care, and just aimed to pass.
It was exam time. There was approx. 15 multiple-choice questions to solve. Each requires a thorough calculation to answer. I was not sure that I answered everything correctly. Plus the questions were actually very difficult and were not even taught in the lectures. Note that we did not even have any actual lectures, it was just scripts that we all read. The reason we did not have any physical lectures is COVID-19. But at least a virtual lecture was not actually out-of-reach. Anyway, before the exam finished, there was one question that I was not sure I answered right. I wanted to change the answer, but very hesitant to do so. Eventually, I kept the answer as it was.
The result of the exam came out a few days later. I failed. That was surprising, but I kept my calm. I then asked for introspection from the professor, so I could evaluate what I did wrong. And, just right, if I were to switch the answer to that one god-damn option C, I would have passed!

Well, then, why this event changed my life forever?

Since I couldn't wrap up my Bachelor's degree within that semester, the University didn't let me into their master's program. I tried asking for a postponement, but they shot me down. So, I ended up with a whole semester just to focus on one darn exam.
Being the Samuel that I was, I began to think about what I could do for a semester. I decided to at least have a part-time job. I had been wanting to work for an AI startup, called ML6. I knew this company several years earlier from a seminar in Düsseldorf. After contacting the contact point that I knew and several forwarded E-mails from/to other people later, I finally was requested to apply for a full-time position in Berlin. As I had nothing else to do, I did their code challenge for the job application and got 100% accuracy in their Machine Learning challenge. After several interviews later, I was accepted. I would be the first engineer for their Berlin branch office.
Moving to Berlin for a full-time needs some risk-taking though. I did not even complete my Bachelor's yet, meaning if I move to Berlin and fail my last exam, then I would have to move back to Duisburg. And moving out to another city is just a pain in the ass here in Germany. We need to look for an apartment, which is high-demand and low-supply. To make things worse, I do not even know if my student visa allows me to have a full-time yet. I thought I could though, as the hours of full-time - considering I pass the exam three months after I join - are still under the allowed amount of working hours, but quite frankly was not 100% certain.
I decided to take the risk and move to Berlin. For around 2 months, I was preparing the Mobilkommunikations exam as hard as I could. There were more than 200 pages of exercises that I solved, doing at every single free time I had. I also read all of lecture scripts, and also some video lectures coming from a university in India (Youtube baby!). Eventually, I passed the exam, not even with a good mark. By the way, they totally changed the kind of questions topic again. Since then, I never looked back, and currently I even already switched company from ML6 to Bosch Stuttgart.
One question in an exam changes my life path forever, literally. From planning to do a Master, to directly full-time for years and years to come. Of course, I would still do full-time given I did my Master's at the time, but it would be with a different company, etc. The level of discomfort of the whole experience, the hardship of even finding an apartment in Berlin, and the fresh experience as a worker as a Bachelor, all gave me a brand different perspectives than if I would have worked after my Master's degree instead.

I (18F) have been “dating” my bf(18M) for about 1 month now and I am completely confused.
At the beginning of my final year in high school I had a crush on 2 guys. Worst of all, they were best friends. I had no intention of pursuing either of them as I wasn’t looking for a relationship. However as some time passed my feelings grew more and more. One guy, Taylor, I had a huge crush on, but he has never been in a relationship before and has never had a proper crush on a girl before. Taylor and I always clicked; we loved talking about anything and everything and would play games like backgammon together. I always had a hint of him liking me back but completely dismissed it considering his “picky” nature when it came to the girls he liked. I forced myself to move past him and ignore my feelings.
The other guy, Alex, I had helped get over a heartbreak with his ex over the summer and we got closer. We never talked about much other than relationships. We both wanted a significant other and at some point it seemed kind of inevitable that something would happen. He was definitely flirting with me and his friends would hint at it too. I really liked him but we didn’t have much in common. One night we kissed, and afterwards he suddenly asked me if he could call me his girlfriend. I hadn’t even expected it and I felt pressured in the moment so I stupidly said yes.
The relationship moved fast. 2 weeks into dating and he introduced me formally as his girlfriend to his ENTIRE family. I’m talking parents, grandparents, aunts, childhood best friends and the pressure to stay kept piling on and on.
He kept asking if I had told my parents and I hadn’t as it was too soon, but it bothered him and I buckled and introduced him to my parents as well. Within a months time not only had I met his entire family, but he had met mine and everyone at school kept saying we were destined to get married.
I wasn’t happy. I felt pressured to stay and so I did, and I tried to make the relationship work. we had absolutely nothing in common. We had nothing to talk about and all we ever did was couples stuff such as holding hands, cuddling and having sex. It was during this time that my feelings for his best friend, Taylor, began growing deeper. The guilt accompanied by this was agonising and i felt like the biggest asshole.
Eventually, 6 months in, I couldn’t take it and ended the relationship. He didn’t take it well and I helped him though the breakup, consoling him, staying up late into the night calling him if he wasn’t feeling well. soon his friends told me I need to put distance as without it he would never move on. So I did exactly that.
I had this huge relief and felt like a pressure had been taken off my back. But my feelings for his best friend, Taylor, had grown so much over the past months that I was practically drowning in them. I had never felt this way about someone before and was the most lovesick I had ever been in my life. I neglected the feelings as I couldn’t do that to Alex.
One day however, I was studying for an exam with Taylor and he told me he had liked me and asked if I felt the same way. I told him I did.
We then talked for hours about this and came to the realisation that we had both liked each other at the beginning of the year and both of us dismissed our feelings but they only grew over the months. We talked and it felt like a relief to have my feelings out there. We didn’t pursue anything as we it was too late considering the situation with Alex and the fact that we were leaving for uni soon.
A week later Taylor told me he couldn’t take it anymore. It was obvious we liked each other and he said he couldn’t lie to Alex’s face anymore as Alex had been asking Taylor if he liked me. He asked if it was ok for him to tell Alex and as I didn’t want Alex to know, I told him it was ok with me.
When Alex found out he felt betrayed and was calling me a whore and I didn’t know how to respond. Alex and Taylor had fallen out and The guilt was killing me. Alex left school a week earlier and a whole drama escalated as Alex talked with other people at school. I was labelled a whore and the rumours about me were insane.
I never felt so shit in my life in the week that followed. But Taylor was there for me through it all. We both got really close and would stay up late into the night, talking about anything and everything. Some days, he would even wake up early in the morning and be at my house at 4am. We would sit outside, cuddling and talking until 7:00 when we had to leave for school. He would say I looked like summer and he even kept a Polaroid picture of us in his wallet. I told him I wasn’t ready to rush into anything and he said he was more than ready to respect my space. We weren’t officially together but we were essentially a thing.
A week later that he said had been in love with me for the most part of the year. He said he could wait for me as long as I needed, and that he wanted to give us a shot.
we had a one month holiday from school where we couldn’t see each other. In the beginning we would text and call. But later he seemed cold. I would reach out but his messages were dry.
At school he had really gotten cold too.He stopped texting and reaching out, he stopped showing affection in public and I felt confused. I talked to him about it and he apologised and said he hadn’t realised and said things would change. For 2 days he would be active and then he would go back to being cold again. Weeks passed and I had reached out to him multiple times. Each time the same pattern. We talk, he says he didn’t realise, he changes for 2 days, and then goes back to being cold.
In the weeks that followed I had never felt more unwanted in my life. Taylor had made up with Alex and they were back to being friends again but Alex still hated my guts. My friends had different opinions on it. One said that Taylor cared for me and that he simply didn’t know how to act in a relationship. Some of my friends didn’t like the way he treated me and told me I deserved better.
We’ve graduated from high school and I’ve never been more confused He never really opens up to me, and it’s a constant on and off. 90% of the time he’s cold. And only in the 10% does he show affection and care. I’m back home now with my parents and for the past week it has only been me who is reaching out, and when I do he replies 12-24 hours later. He is known to be a shitty texter but I feel like this is more than that.
I care about him so much and everyone keeps telling me that he does too but I don’t know what to do at this point. I feel so unwanted and unloved and I can’t take it anymore but at the same point he means so much to me that I’m not willing to let it go. I’ve already told him exactly what I’ve written here and he said things would change but they haven’t and I can’t go talk to him about this for the 4th time as I don’t want to be overbearing.

Omg omg omg I just saw a video about this shit it’s basically the term for hate for Chinese ppl and it’s opened my eyes to how fucking real this shit is. Like u see ppl obsessing over Korean and Japanese culture bc it’s been so popularised which is good cuz they’re cultures that have been oppressed but there is some sort of negligence towards Chinese culture. Like for example these really popular makeup styles on a Chinese media app, ppl will label it as “douyin makeup” and “manhua lashes” etc but won’t call it Chinese, but have no problem with calling Korean makeup KOREAN makeup. And this actually hits fucking deep becoz I’m pretty sure I’ve bitched about this before but this time when I made a joke abt a Japanese person and to my Asian filo friend she called me racist as a joke obviously and then I played along and said “how can I be racist to my own breed” and out of no fucking where she asks OMG UR KOREAN??? and I was like no I’m Chinese and she looks disappointed and says “oh.” IN THAT EXACT MORHER FUCKING SULLEN TONE LKKE BITCH OMG I’m so angry at myself I didn’t lash the fuck out at her I said nothing but BITCH WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN OH???? ARE WE NOT GOOD ENOIGJ?? The fucking IRONY because on the topic of racism and yet she’s practically ACTUALLY being fucking racist to her own breed like we are both Asian and she has the mother fucking audacity to be like “oh” like bitch that bag u wearing from aliexpress was made by Chinese kids in a sweatshop ur little pencil case was made by Chinese kids in a sweatshop ur practically they’re merchandise consumed and you have the mother fucking auDacity to act like we aren’t good enough even though you’ve never once even looked into Chinese culture, even though Japanese and Korean culture are literally LITERALLY DERIVED from China. U SINOPHOBIC LITTLE BITCH IM SORRY WERE NOT HELD UP TO THE STANDARD OF PEOPLE WHO ARE PRACTICALLY THE SAME AS US I BETTER NOT HER UR RATBAG LITTLE ASS SAY SOME CORNY ASS SHIT LIKE THAT BEFORE I FUCKING SELL YOU TO THE PRESIDENT OF CHINA AND THEN THE BLACK MARKET AND SEE HOW MUCH U WANNA LIKE CHINESE CULTURE THEN GO KILL YOURSELF LJKE WHO DO U THINK U ARE WITH UR KDRAMA OBSESSED LOVING ASS YET AT THE SAME TIME ALIEXPRESS SHOPPING ASS TALKIN BOUT KOREANS AND SHIT SHOPPING ON FUCKING YESSTYLE FOR CLOTHES WHEN THEYRE LITERALLY FROM CHINA AND CHINESE FASHION/CULTURE BITCH U SAY SOME SINOPHOBIC ASS SHIT LIKE THAT AGAIN U TREAT US LIKE WERE LESS OF OUR OWN BREED AGAIN I WILL SEND UR SHORT STUBBY ASS FLYING OUT THE FUCKING ATMOSPHERE SEEING HOW NOTHING PLEASES U U STUPID FUCK

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Hi, everyone.
I started doing daily yoga around three months ago, following the YogaBody hip-opening challenge alongside their Science of stretching programme. Most of the hoods are five minutes long, with some being 2-3 minutes. It’s all gravity poses, which I’ve come to enjoy. Lucas (the instructor) is fantastic.
I have always been inflexible. I can’t remember the last time I was able to touch my toes. I’ve never been able to sit comfortably cross-legged - even in primary school I remember holding my knees as I sat on the floor.
I’m now able to touch my toes pretty comfortably and my cross-legged sitting on the floor is infinitely better than it was. I can see gains in lots of the poses, compared to when I started.
Recently though, I’ve noticed that walking feels different. It’s hard to explain but it’s almost like my gait has slightly changed. I walk a lot - 25-40 miles a week usually and have only noticed this in the last week or so. YogaBody’s team themselves have said it’s not uncommon to experience this, due to the lengthening of tissues and loosening of everything.
I wondered if anyone else has experienced this?

I understand psychology is considered an easy major in some countries, such as the USA. However, I am majoring in Psychology in Canada and am finding it challenging. Psychology courses have a lot of conceptual tests instead of rote memorization and big practice assignments that require experiments and real-world application. My first degree was a Bachelor of Science in engineering, taken 15 years ago, but my CGPA was not competitive, around 3.75. It was a full-time program. I am currently in a 2nd undergrad program to increase my CGPA, but my school said I can only major in a bachelor of arts instead of a bachelor of science. So I chose a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, and I am only required to take 7 courses in psychology. The rest of my courses are from the health science department, such as organic chemistry, general chemistry, physics, anatomy, physiology, biochemistry, etc. My grades are a lot better this time around, but this time I'm a part-time student only since I work full-time in engineering still. I am aware I'll never be truly rid of that 3.75 since they count all courses taken as part of all undergrad degrees when calculating the cumulative GPA.
Do the admission committee just look at the degree name and overall CGPA and filter it out of the application, or do they also look into the individual courses too?

*TL;DR;** : I was dumped after a big fight and my ex losing feelings due to myriad of reasons including family issues, Long distance relationship and my Ex insistence of not fixing the relationship. Did I ever had the chance to save the relationship and how do i get over from this one sided break up?
For context, I (29 M) and my ex (27 F) were of different race and religious backgrounds, we are both doctors from an Asian country and have been dating for 1 year. My Ex is currently living with her widowed mother and her sisters in the same city as me. She is also the eldest in the family (this will be important soon), despite that we tried our best to make our relationship work. Everything was smooth sailing until early Jan 2023, when my Ex Mom discovered our relationship when she snooped around my Ex's phone and her eyes went red. She threatened to disown my Ex, kick her out of the house, started smoking heavily and calling my Ex hurtful things.
We pretended to breakup so to satisfy her mother whimsical needs. However, the end goal is always for me to finally meet her mother and discuss regarding my relationship with her and making it official. However, my ex keeps dragging this issue and at one time I grown impatient and requested her to arrange a meeting with her mother because its hard to arrange a date with my ex due to her mother preying eyes + we are on LDR so we dont meet much anyways (i moved 3 hours away for work) + i am a bit jealous because my ex occasionally went out alone with a guy friend for despite me telling her that i am not comfortable with it .
This decision will cost me dearly
Fast forward 2 weeks, in commemoration of our 1st anniversary I brought my ex to a fancy dinner, went to a theme park, had an amazing sex and suddenly, she decided to break up at the end of the day claiming that she would always choose her family first instead of me and she wanted our last day to be the happiest day. I was blindsided and my heart sank, in a fit of rage, i said some hurtful things, accidentally raised my voice (we never fought before this), calling her selfish and unwilling to fight for me despite all i have done for her. Our breakup was messy and the next day we had another meeting and she communicated that her mother had been growing suspicious past few months, drinking heavily, calling her names. This worried her so she decided to breakup officially. I was unaware of this incident and apologize profusely for saying such hurtful things and asking for a chance and time to repair our relationship. I wanted her to move out from her house as i think she is being emotionally blackmailed by her mother, however she denied this wrongdoing but accepted the idea of giving our relationship a chance.
Unfortunately, for the past 2 weeks, i noticed her becoming colder, distant and more irritable than usual. She would cry every time when we're talking about the future of our relationship and had lingering trauma from our previous quarrel. I apologized and started to call her everyday to talk as per usual prior to our fight. Trying to treat her even better than before, sending her meals and buying her a gift to soothe her ailing heart. As fate had it, I received a sudden notice that i would be transferred to even far off city to work.
To reaffirm our relationship status due to the nature of our Long distance relationship. I cooked her a dinner and invited her for a heart to heart talk. Fortunately, this discussion is far more calmer than before. I reasserted that I still love her deeply and wants to change and fix this relationship by talking openly about both our problems and find a solution for that. My Ex acknowledged that maybe breaking up on our anniversary is not the best thing to do at the time. In spite of this, my Ex claimed her fell out of love with me after our big fight and her scar will forever never heal.
I suggested taking a break so that she can heal but she thinks that time would never heal her and she would only be wasting my time. In a way, she is absolute in her resolve and would not change her stance. I pleaded with her to fix the relationship and showed our pictures together to at least rekindle our passion for each other but alas it was to no avail.
In the end, we broke up amicably but I cant help to think it was one sided. She even requested us to continue being friends but it is something I am conflicted with.
Tell me reddit, I know I was also in the wrong, but did we had any chance to rescue the relationship at all?
Sorry for the long rambling

i made a post a little earlier where i made a race called the Aumodeen, based on orangutans for my monkey world setting. it was my first time brewing and i asked for critique before my cammpaign goes to mid-maxing hell. now i have an uppdated version of which im proud of, but tell me if the race could still be a little more sharpend, or if you simply have other comments
Aumodeen
Abillity scores. You get +2 to intelligence and +1 to an abillity score of your choice
Age. Aumodeens typically become adults at the age 12 years old and can live up to 35 to 40 years old
Size. Aumodeens are between 4 and 5 feet tall and weigh around 200 pounds. Your size is medium.
Speed. Your base walking speed is 20 feet and you have a climbing speed of the same.
Advanced culture. Whenever Aumodeens craft firearms and ammunition to a firearm, they only need half the cost
keen shot. When roling initiative you may choose to go last for a better focus in your weapon. Doing so gives you advantage on one ranged attack roll on that turn. You must concentrate through the whole turn or you’ll loose the advantage and you may do this as many times as your intelligence modifier per long or short rest.
Well taught. you have advantage on history checks that relate to firearms and non-magical gearwork.
You also gain proficiency with firearms, one artisan’s tools of smiths tools, alchemist’s supplies, tinker’s tools and skill of investigation, history, nature, athletics or medicine
Languages. You can read, speak, and write Common and Aumodeen.
lore:Aumodeens are the most advanced of race, inventing things like constructs and firearms. but uh-oh, tragidy accured when the Kochey empire (gorilla empire) enslaved them and made them in to factory slaves to create weapons for their army. for today, most Aumodeens live in a poor life and rarely see the sky, but rumors sais there are still Aumodeens free hidden in somewhere out in the woods, selling weapons to commoners, and on their way for a revolution.