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2023.06.07 23:24 WillbaldvonMerkatz Deja vu

Deja vu

August 1941 - destoyed dam on Dnieper
DnieproGES was the top project of first five-year plan and one of the greatest infrastructural achievements of USSR on the path to elctrification of the country. 63 000 people took part in building it. Mainly because the concrete was mixed manually using human legs, as great USSR didn't have any mixers to use. So what do you do with such a monumental piece when invasion strikes? Naturally, you blow it up to prevent enemy from crossing the river (spoiler - it didn't work). As Russia was always Russia, the order came from Kremlin directly and there was nobody to oppose it. Boris Epov, chief Soviet military engineer. arrived straight from Moscov on 15th of August, took 3 days to place charges and then blew up the dam right after.
Results were spectacular. As nobody warned either the civillians or Red Army, the tide of water took the lives of 80 000 to 120 000 Russians. Mostly civillians, but also thousands of soldiers from 9th and 18th Army, as well as 2nd Cavalry Corps. Those units also ended up cut off from supplies and were forced to surrender. Soviets later insisted that at least 1500 Germans also died, but we have zero proof of that.
Epov was arrested by NKVD as a saboteur, because the mission was so highly classified that local parts of military police were not informed. He spent a month in arrest before direct intervention of general Kotlar set him free again. He died in 1991 as a Hero of the Soviet Union.
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2023.06.07 23:22 XeiCeleste Which programming language(s) should I master while looking for a job?

Hello,
As I am currently applying for jobs, I'm having trouble finding solid ground on which programming language(s) or topics I should begin getting familiar with (or if I should keep things simple and with what I currently know). Any help would be appreciated.
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I'll start this off vague first, then get more specific over time.
General Information: I graduated from college in January 2023 with a degree in Computer Science. The first language I was taught in college was C++, then eventually some forms of C. I took a multi-language class named Organization of Programming Languages at another school over the summer, so lectures went by too fast to remember everything. I took a web development class but had trouble getting used to JavaScript, MongoDB, and some Maps windows at the time, even though I did enjoy learning the information. Also, I took .NET Programming during my final semester, which I also didn't mind as the syntax is fairly satisfying (honestly) with some cool parsing regular expressions and web scrapping capabilities.
Problem: I have been searching for Software Engineer (mainly), Cybersecurity, and Network Architecture jobs since November 2022 and have not received much input except for two failed interviews. What leads to the question here is that I also noticed that Java is EVERYWHERE in the job market as well as JavaScript, Angular, React, SQL, ASP.net/C#, etc. But where are all of the C++ positions? I understand Java handles garbage value collection and de-allocation of memory (therefore less screw-ups), but being spoon-fed C++ in a world where Java (and more) is so much more popular IN THE JOB MARKET rubs me the wrong way.
Main Question: When I scroll through jobs, I see the majority of them say Java, Javascript, Springboot, Angular, .NET/C#, etc. Taking into consideration that I like Network Security, Software Engineering, and Cybersecurity with these topics being on the low-level end, what programming language(s) should I pay more attention to or master? Should I just stick with C++ and keep things simple?

Thank you once again,
I want to find the perfect path that feels right for me and that will pay off at the same time.

Best regards,
Jahquan
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2023.06.07 23:22 ellymaejae Graduation 39+0

This sub has been such a great space for me during my first pregnancy so I thought I’d share my experience.
I, (32f) fully expected to go over my due date (June 11th), I was being monitored for a high risk pregnancy due to being “obese” even though all my labs and blood work was textbook perfect. I was having absolutely no labor symptoms and my ob was already kind of talking about induction. I was miserable being pregnant, and getting discouraged.
Saturday the 3rd I told my husband I wanted to start deep cleaning the house since his mom was coming to stay and help in a few days and I was getting anxiety about it. We got a ton done and I was in a good space so we went out for sushi and I got spicy seafood udon soup and it was so delicious. I honestly think it jumpstarted things.
I woke up at 3am on the 4th (39 weeks exactly) feeling like I was just crazy constipated so I made myself some tea and tried to just get through it, but I realized the pain was kind of coming and going pretty consistently every five minutes. I finally realized it wasn't just constipation after I started bleeding a little, which was one of the signs my ob told me to come in for.
So I woke up my husband and we got to the hospital around 5am and I was only 1 centimeter dilated, so they wanted to wait an hour or two and check then.
Hubs was convinced it was a false alarm since it came out of nowhere. I was 4 centimeters when they checked me two hours later so they were like "well, you're not leaving now."
The contractions were unreal and were getting worse so they got me hooked up with an IV for fluids and called the anesthesiologist in, and when she came in to give me the epidural I literally yelled "Oh my god you're my favorite person!"
They did give me Benadryl to try to help me relax while I was waiting, but it just kind of exaggerated how exhausted I was so very not helpful.
I finally got the epidural around 11am and that was super uncomfortable because my contractions were not letting up and I definitely felt it in my spine despite the numbing shot, but as soon as they got it in it was like immediate relief and I could still move my legs even though I couldn't feel them.
I could still feel pressure from the contractions which was helpful for knowing when to push, but there was no pain.
The epidural slowed things down a lot, but eventually my water broke and I was fully dilated around 930/10pm so we started pushing. Babes was super squirmy so they had to screw a little monitor to his scalp to get accurate reads.
We had to stop a few times because his blood pressure or heart rate would drop suddenly and they were essentially saying we could try pushing more until we could get the vacuum on his head, but if his vitals keep dropping we should start considering a c section.
So then they told me to rest for ten minutes and not push and I cried because I was exhausted and I was fine with a c-section, but why the hell did I suffer all day for nothing?
But then even when I was resting my body kept pushing naturally so I asked if I could push on all fours because we hadn't tried that it and the doctor and nurses were surprised, but we did it and babes vitals were great so after a few of those I flipped back on my back and got him out enough to get the suction on his head and we got him out in four or five pushes. He was officially born at 11:56pm.
I had one tiny tear that I didn’t feel and got one stitch that I also didn’t feel. I also was shaking so hard my teeth were chattering due to adrenaline.
The worst part was one of the nurses wasn't counting in time with the other nurse and doctor and kept telling me not to let out any air by grunting or yelling and was not being helpful at all and I was like, definitely using my anger at her for motivation while pushing 😂 If I had known how to be diplomatic I would have asked her to stop and let me friggin just do what I needed to do. She threw off my breathing a bunch and I needed to yell with those final extra pushes and I honestly believe I could have gotten him out sooner if I had spoken.
I had a generally wonderful hospital experience and a lot of the things I was worried or stressed about before were really not issues.
Things that made my experience better:
-the epidural. I have the greatest respect for parents giving birth without, but it was 100% worth the discomfort getting it in.
-expressing my fears and concerns very honestly to my support staff.
-I brought my own robe, slippers, and comfy pjs for post delivery
-I bought my own disposable post partum diapers, the hospital provided mesh briefs, but having specific ones for plus sizes was great.
The whole experience was so surreal and I will say I felt very disconnected until the second morning. I woke up and immediately wanted to see my baby.
We stayed in the hospital for 48hours after delivery, and now we’re home and everything is great.
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2023.06.07 23:22 neoyoda How long for testosterone to bounce back? And/or fatigue?

Hi all,
Orchiectomy April 3, thankfully that's probably all I need for now aside from surveillance, however I am still feeling quite fatigued. I am dealing with depression and work issues that I'm sure contribute, but I continue to wonder if there is a physiological component to the fatigue, especially since it's been way more of a thing since the surgery.
I asked the urologist how long it should take for the remaining testicle to fully take over all testosterone production. They didn't know off the top of their head and didn't seem that concerned about it, said they generally wouldn't test for it unless there are clear signs of a problem. OK.
Anyone with personal experiences or knowledge that might help inform my approach to the situation? I think it's likely that there is something physiological going on, but I acknowledge I am not in a good place with depression/stress either. Thanks!
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2023.06.07 23:21 canglerwisshep06 Catfish me pretending to be my mommy/grandma! (Kik: jonc3434)

Hey everyone I have a really big fetish for my mom/milfs in general, even gilfs! If you’re interested in catfishing me message me on kik or on here. If you have pics that’s even better :)
(Kik: jonc3434)
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2023.06.07 23:21 _Rockatansky I [24M] lost her trust and ruined our relationship [25F]

As much as I would like to explain all the details and things that ever happened, It could be too long for anyone to read and care about, I'll try to mention every important detail. I'll explain myself the best I can, I'm looking for advice.
TL;DR I met my first girlfriend ever, had an almost perfect relationship for 7 months. I ruined everything by not drawing a limit with a female friend I had and falling for my carnal desires. I want to show her I am not the mistake I made. How should I try to rebuild this relationship?
I [24yo] met my first girlfriend ever [25 yo] (let's call her V) almost 9 months ago. Everything happened really spontaneously, wet met during our last year of practice at the hospital. She was one month away until V finished her internship, I just started mine in that moment. During those weeks, having barely time to get to know each other, we fell in love and it was amazing. Since the very beginning there was another girl in the same hospital, I didn't notice her until I met her around the same time I met my gf. I noticed my girlfriend and this woman met each other a couple of months ago, they were not friends, limited themselves to be civil and work together, didn't seem they liked each other. She started to get closer to me and we even became close friends, I just thought at that time that my girlfriend was being a little inmature and a little bit toxic the moment he told me to stay away from that woman, at that time I couldn't understand why.
Then, my gf finished her internship. I have the most beatiful memories with my girlfriend, being together during some night shifts, drinking coffee together and sharing small but beatiful moments, our love felt honest, wholesome, plentiful, peaceful and special. I remember going to visit her the time she was hospitalized, she guided me through all the stuff I had to do at the hospital, we were really comitted with each other. She has more experience than me, have had past relationships and she almost married at a time before me. During these months we had many incidents involving that woman in one or another way, we were surrounded by a very toxic enviroment at that hospital, one day my girlfriend called me crying during one of my 36 hours shifts, she was really sad, had been crying, she told me she couldn't deal with what was happening. I was shocked and didn't understand what was going on.
We agreed on seeing each other when the shift ended and my girlfriend, after two weeks, wanted to break up because some unknown phone number started to text her obnoxious things about me, obviously false at that time. They told her that there was proof of me cheating on her. Then she showed me, some horrible people sent her a noticeably false screenshot of my conversation with this other woman I talked about, calling her beauty, my love and stuff like that. I was really mad, since on my very first relationship, someone else was trying to ruin it and I had absolutely no idea of what was going on, I had no control of the situation. I explained to her, my gf even looked for her brother to show him the picture, he even said to her it was false and very noticeable to see the flaws. After a long talk, she was very sad, and we hug each other and we taken care of our relationship together, telling each other no one would make us part ways, that our love was real and it was. We had many incidents like that. At first I had no fault of what was going on, I felt really confident with my own actions and words, I was honest, tried to protect my girlfriend from the ones who were trying to harm us anonymously.
I really loved my girlfriend, I sincerely felt I could give my life for her, we had a beautiful relationship, shared many beautiful moments, intimacy was really wholesome too, it was almost perfect. After months, this woman who was still in the hospital became a really close friend of mine, I gave my trust to her, I even told her the problems my girlfriend and I had, about us being harrassed anonymously, she even told me she would help me find out.
I lived a lot of first time experiences with V, we weren't perfect but we were committed to each other, things were serious between us. I lived many first time experiences with V, I felt deeply loved and she was really happy with me, as she used to tell me: " I feel free to be myself when I'm next to you", "You are a great man, I am scared to feel so much for you, so fast, but I feel I really love you", our communication was great, but after what happened, I remember all of those words with pain and sorrow, I feel like absolute garbage.
After months of this amazing relationship, after being harrassed online a couple of times again, my girlfriend felt really unconfident and sad, our communication was not great and she was really distant, she confronted me and wanted to breakup when someone sent her a picture of this other girl and me and the picture was real, but it was really easy to get wrong ideas from it. In the picture it seemed like I was touching her face with my hand in a romantic way when the thing that really happened was that a gave her a whiplash with her own face mask, because we were playing like a couple of stupid kids. Months after that incident around february and march I was assigned to the same shift with this other girl because some other guy b*tched about the doctor in charge being too rude and they switched shifts with me being affected, I couldn't switch again. We spent even more time since we worked together, I noticed she started to place her legs on my lap when I was working on the pc and things like that, she started to feel very confident in a physical way when she was around me, this girl has a boyfriend and a 3 year old relationship with him, so I didn't really suspect anything, I saw the situation as "that's what close friends do", in the past I had maybe one or two female friends but really didn't had experience with these kind of non verbal expressions, I used to be the quiet kid, too quiet. I saw no problem with that since it didn't bother me, but I did thought from time to time my gf would be upset is she saw this other girl doing these things. I admit, during those months I started having intrusive thoughts that made me fall at the end. At that time, my girlfriend was very distant, in retrospective I've been an asshole, because the only thing my girl ever asked me to do for her I didn't do it, when it was so simple to tell that other person to stay away from me, at first I thought it was an inmature thing to cut my friendship with that woman just because my girlfriend didn't like her, I guess she noticed, she saw things I couldn't see for myself. If I just did what I should have to. It was my fault, I didn't prioritize my girl and the only things she's ever asked me to do for her, for the sake of "being mature".
During those last two months I started having intrusive thoughts and feeling distant from my girlfriend as she was really hurt when she saw that picture, we had a real bad argument one night, I told her that I wasn't doing anything I shouldn't do and that this picture I mentioned earlier was taken out of context, which it honestly was. I was honest with V. Because of that last argument between us she said she needed time to heal and to forgive me. A couple of weeks later, I convinced her to see each other, we cried, we hug each other, we promise each other to be always honest and loyal, and we stay as a couple, but she was distant. I felt really angry and helpless, because someone else was ruining my relationship from outside. My girl was really distant, and to be honest, I must mention this, since the very first moment I started my sexual life with V, since I lost my virginity with her, I didn't know sex was such a deal for me. Before I thought It was overrated, but I felt sad I wasn't having that kind of quality time with her, I discovered I missed a lot having making love with her. Since we started, due to our responsibilities and free time we could see each other maybe two or three times a week but we used to hang out, we made love maybe once per month and rarely twice, and it always has been like that.
I enjoyed every intimacy moment I could share with her, I didn't know sex was that amazing and mind blowing, not because the pleasure but the sentimental bond we strengthen every time and the fulfillment I felt by giving pleasure to her and she let me know she really enjoyed those moments because of how I expressed my feelings for her too. Imagine the quiet kid in class, who's never had a girlfriend in school and had barely interaction with any girl before, after he was in his last months of university, after 6 years (In my country that's the amount to time med career lasts), feeling that amount of attention, that bond with a girl who really likes you. For us it was not just a physical interaction but a moment to share our deepest thoughts without feeling anxious or scared, we used to tell each other how much we loved each other while making it, she used to tell me how old fashioned she thought I was, because all the things I used to tell her, she used to love when I told her every time we made love that If we are doing it is because we really love each other, and every word I said I really meant, I truly believed that.
I lost myself, I don't know who I am anymore, I betrayed her in march, after sharing many night shifts with that other woman. At that time, before the betrayal, I felt confused, I started feeling anxious, angry because my girlfriend didn't trust me like before and it wasn't my fault, I thought maybe she will cheat on me first, maybe she has something to hide because the interest that she has lost in our relationship. I felt I was receiving something I didn't deserve because of the actions other anonymous people around us.
I started developing intrusive thoughts for that other girl. One thing lead to another, it all started with a conversation, then we started talking about things we shouldn't be talking about, shared details about our sexual experiences. I thought of having sex with her, at that moment I was angry my gf was distant because of her trust issues with me, and me being inocent. (Don't misunderstand please, I will not.try to ezcuse myself here, i did what i did and it is my fault now). We shared too much time together during our shifts since we required teamwork between us. Attraction between us was really noticeable since she confessed she used to have feelings for me, but told me it was months ago, she started to be very touchy, and we were flirting basically, even we both knew we had relationships. I stopped thinking in a coherent way, I behaved like human trash, I desired sex so much after not having sex with my girlfriend after two months. One night, 4 a.m. maybe, this girl was watching some clothes on her phone, shows me and tell me if she would look nice and showed me the picture of a red off-shoulder neckline shirt. I made a joke, which I shouldn't have made since it was innapropiate. I told her, "there are a couple of things you are missing to put on that shirt" , which she replied, "would you like to judge for yourself?", she then proceeded to offer me to touch her chest, opening the neck of her blouse. I didn't think about my girlfriend at that moment. I was just drowned in adrenaline at that moment, thinking about the pleasure, the shape of her body and I touched her, she proceed to lay down and let me touch her almost completely, it happened twice, didn't to further than that.
After that, we had an argument with this other girl, but then we agreed on seeing each other outside the hospital, obviously to have sex. The day comes, my girlfriend wanted to hang out with me that same day, I was down to it because I felt she made me guilty for nothing for a long time, what a bs thought I had. We went to eat something with the other girl, then we were talking about getting some drinks, then to go play some videogames, we were blatantly avoiding the situation we planned for that night. I asked her, "why are we doing this?, I thought our plans had other intentions" and she looked at me, then told me: "You have a girlfriend, I have a boyfriend". I inmediately stepped my shoes on the ground when I saw those eyes of guilt., I started feeling guilty, I started feeling horrible. I almost had an episode of anxiety, real anxiety in that very moment. I experienced one real anxiety attack in my life and this almost became the second. All I could see on my mind was the beautiful eyes of my V in my mind and her voice telling me the thing she always used to tell me: "Please, just don't fail me", "is the only thing I would ever ask you to do". My whole world fell down, my heart still feels too heavy. We sat on a bench that evening. The other woman and I started talking about the things that happened between us, tried to tell me not to feel to guilty since it was mutual, it was her fault too, she told me she didn't want to harm me in that way, or me to make a mistake and harm my girlfriend in that way. She told me, "all men are the same, believe me but I understand this happened, you are a man", she told me that I was a good person, and it was a good sign that I was trying to stop all this madness before something else happens. She proceeded to calm me down because I was crying, all the thoughts I stood for, all the honesty, all those situations when my girlfriend doubted me became real. Then we told each other to keep this as a secret, she recommended, she begged me to to never tell my girlfriend about what happened, because she is unique and I will lose her if she ever find out, those were the words of this girl. Then we part ways. I never kissed her and never had sex with her.
After those days I just couldn't be the same with my girlfriend, who started to approach more, to heal from her doubts of me and to be closer to me again and I just ruined everything. I was broken inside, now I'm devastated. After march I was supposed to travel to another state, in a rural area, to keep going with my practices. My girlfriend gave me an amazing birthday before I traveled, my birthday was at the end of march. we hung out, ate something, kissed a lot, she gave me a surprise, gifted me a cute teddy bear, with a box of chocolates she baked, all of that inside a personalized box covered with printed photos of us together. Days later it was the last time I saw her in person, we stayed at a hotel, went out to dance and take a few drinks, I got sick because I'm not used to drink alcohol. We got back, got romantic, made love and in the middle of the moment I ran to the bathroom to throw up everything. She took care of me, we tried to have sex in the morning, said she wanted to make me go happy before I go and not see her for the next three months, proceed to give me a bj and handjob. We promised to travel together when I finish my internship and come back to the city. All of that happened maybe a week or two after my betrayal.
Since that even making love with my girlfriend wasn't the same, I used to focus on her, my deepest pleasure was not physical but to see her so vulnerable, so free around me, naked and happy. Her smile meant everything to me, it was her smile, her pleasure made me happy. I used to write her beautiful things, corny things but she loved them, always used to tell me I was like a wholesome old man, like an old poet, those kind who doesn't exist anymore. She used to believe I was different, she trust me.She did a lot of things for me, my self steem was taken care of, with love. She highten up my low self steem in every aspect I can imagine, she helped me heal from all those demons I had inside. She made me feel like a god fot her. I feel sorry for V, and I can't forgive myself for all the damage and pain I caused her, I'm broken inside.
With every day that passed I couldn't take that situation out of my mind. Every time she called me to see how I was doing abroad, I felt guilty, I felt wrong for even having sex that last time after the betrayal happened, I felt dirty, like mud around my beloved V. I just couldn't keep up with those beautiful things, stopped telling her how I felt, how much I loved her because I was feeling more and more guilty. I was alone, drowning with my own guilt and shame. One night she hung out with a couple of friends, drank a bit, she called me at 2 a.m. and told me: "I know I drank maybe a bit too much but listen to me because everything I'm about to say I really mean it. I really love you, I love you with all my soul, I want a life with you together, let's go far away together, let's support each other, we should study together, we could live together and build a life together" she told me to promise her to never fail her, never betray her, that she would always be with me even If I choose another professional life she would support me, she would love me with all of her soul, heart, body and mind.
If I was shattered, now I was completely broken. She then proceed to tell me, "Please, promise we will build a life together, just don't fail me and I will be there for you no matter what", then asked me, "have you accomplished what I asked you?, "when was the last time you talked to that girl?"
I was completely broken inside, broke in tears and couldn't hold myself together. V got angry when I first told her the last time I talked to the other girl was at the end of March, when she made me promise to cut all communications with her days before, she made me promise while we were making love. I did stop talking to the other woman but not completely, I excused myself by telling her I still talked with her but just when work intended to. My girl was dissapointed, hung the phone and didn't answer the phone after.
I broke in tears, Couldn't help myself but leaving a 3 hour audio message on her inbox explaining everything I did behind her back, explained with every single detail. I was so honest that after she listened to the audio she called the other girl and thank her for thinking about her and stop everything before it was too late, maybe I made myself too guilty when I explained everything to V, I didn't tell her all the times the other girl sat on my lap, put my hands on her hips and moved as if we were having sex, I didn't told her how she put my hands inside her bra when I was falling asleep and made me touch her intentionally, I received the blame for both of us I guess. Then V proceeded to write in my message inbox:
"You are dead for me"
Time after that, days. Her sister, which I talked to her a few times and she helped me once to speak to V when she was angry with me before. Her sister sent me a message, I tried to explain her, I cried during those days as I never did in my life, I wanted to kill myself, all the things I left in the past came back to me, I wanted to stab myself and I couldn't, I guess I always been to coward to kill myself. I wasn't eating nor sleeping, for the first time in my life I felt as if I killed someone. She said V almost sent me a couple of audio messages telling me she still loved me, but at the end she erased them. She had been crying since, her sister told me maybe she might give you an opportunity but speak to her.
Then I started to talk with V again, but it is obviously not the same, we talk as if we were barely acquantainces. I just asked her to see her just one more time to say goodbye in a proper manner, she didn't want to but she agreed, then she called me almost every weekend during one month and a half, insulting me and telling me how I could do that to her, she told me how could I be so blind to notice the person harrasing us was that girl and how could I be so stupid to make every suspicion she ever had true with my betrayal.
It has been really difficult for me, I think she is stronger than me. since I'm far from her, from my family too and the distance just made the situation worse, I wasted myself in tears and sorrow, I never felt so much pain until now in my life. One day, after we started talking again, she wrote: "I never stopped loving you, I really love you", she even gave me an opportunity, I was happy. Two days after she said she couldn't, she wanted to but she is too damaged. From that day she still calls me from time to time, telling me she won't give me another opportunity, telling me how she went out with x or Y guy and wants revenge but she just can't do anything because she still thinks about me, also tells me how she met a guy who seems to have more details and take about her but that she doesn't care about him. I think is humilliating hearing all those things she tells me about x or y who are trying to pretend her, Then she says she doesn't care about me anymore and that I am a nobody. When I call her she doesn't tend to answer, reads my messages after one or two days. I don't understand why she is doing this. If she hates me so much, why not leaving me outside of her life?
I made one of the worst mistakes in my life, I feel regret, anger, I feel like an instrument of pain, I hate myself for falling for this bulls**t. I know V suffered because of me more than one time, because of me not being a man and do what had to be done. I learned my lesson, I would never be such human trash again. All the suffering I caused, the lesson I learned, I lost my V, I feel broken, I never been so sad in my life. In 4 days I will go back to my city for three days, we agreed on seeing each other. I know the mistake I made is not part of me anymore, I will take time but those decisions I made, I know I can be better, I will be a better man from now on, I should have listened to her, I shouldn't have stepped on V's heart, on her feelings for me. I want an opportunity, I don't know if my heart is making me see something that is not there but maybe she could give me a chance? At least I accomplished, somehow, the promise to be sincere with her, always, no matter the cost.
I feel like absolute garbage, wish I could have taken my life like a coward.
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2023.06.07 23:21 JoazBanbeck Best order of registration to prevent squatting

As we all probably know, there are scum who will try to squat on domain names or email addresses or user names on web sites, and wait for you to pay them to stop squatting. I'm trying to avoid this.
A few months ago I registered a domain, 'x dot com'. Now 'x' was a unique sequence of letters, something that nobody was using for anything. I had googled it, checked facebook, checked gmail, etc., just to be sure that nobody was using it in any form. Yet the next day, when I tried to get 'x at gmail dot com', someone had taken it.
I've read posts from people who have spent months and thousands of dollars to trademark a name, only to find that someone registered that domain within minutes of the announced trademark approval. The advice given to them was that they had the wrong order: that they should have registered the domain first, and then started the trademark process.
I want to be know what order things should be done.
I want to be able to establish a brand, complete with trademark, domain, facebook page, gmail account, Reddit sub, twitter account, and other online presences. And I want to be able to do it in a manner so that squatters have no reasonable opportunity to interfere.
My general belief is that I should start with the easiest/cheapest registrations first, and proceed to the more difficult / most expensive. ( It goes without saying that faster is better, but it is the safest order that I am asking about )
My tentative order:
  1. Gmail address
  2. Twitter account
  3. Reddit sub
  4. Facebook page
  5. Domain name
  6. Trademark
Any suggestions to improve this list? Or has somone done this list already?
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2023.06.07 23:21 Qutiaotiao Nagging feeling that any person I bring into my life will be viewed negatively by AP

I realize I have had this negative feeling lingering subconsciously that any person I might introduce to my parents will end up with immediate negative feedback, regardless of who the person actually is. This has actually prevented me from starting potential relationships. At the same time, my parents have been right a decent amount of the time of past people whom I interacted with. I recall being complimented a single digit number of times offhandedly and generally as a child and adult, with hundreds of put downs, criticisms, insults, etc. It sucks when you have AP who always criticize, when sometimes the criticism is true and many times its not even true, that you no longer even know if you can trust what they say, because it's always negative. I wish I had normal parents who were actually objective and this would actually help instead of hinder. Imagine having kids now who aren't even sure if they can trust what you say, not because they think it is lies, but because it is just default negative. I even see this play out in other aspects of my life, where I am not sure of my own strengths due to far too much criticism, and in fact never even be highlighted on any strength at all. I even had to apologize to my parents as a child for "not being good enough". I wish I had positive parents because I realize even now my view on many things even at 28, including my own self-image, is all wrong. I did a experiment based on what I read in psychology. I went to my childhood home after many years, and examined how I felt outside it (now sold to new owners). All I felt was immense stress for a few minutes, as if I was going into a meeting to get fired or that I had made the worst decision of my life. What insanity. Should I just totally ignore and entirely disregard what they think, and just prepare myself for the likely inevitable backlash that would happen for a relationship to happen? I was also criticized for both bringing the wrong person into my life previously, and "letting" the relationship to end. Wtf?
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2023.06.07 23:20 Quills07 Maybe he's already been highlighted on a Wed, but I generally feel happy with Phil Noto's work in Western comics and media (note about 3rd one in comments)

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2023.06.07 23:19 Living-Card9561 Barbarian - Is HOTA better than Rend build?

Just wondering which build is better in world tier 3 etc or end game in general.. I like hota because you smash like uga bugs style but it feels slow? Which one is better for farming etc etc? Pros and consm
Also I don't get rend are you suppose to spam that attack or just hit rend once on the enemie?
Appreciate everyone's help
Thanks all.
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2023.06.07 23:19 ChildishStromboli Need feedback for recent electrical engineering grad. Applied to over 40 jobs and have no responses. This is only one of my resumes focused on hardware/fpga engineering. I have another resume that looks pretty identical to this one but with emphasis on general electrical engineering.

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2023.06.07 23:19 Prize_Lingonberry365 TMI? bleeding after making bowl movement

Hi guys, sorry if this is tmi but I had an abortion april 26th. (the hospital one) Right after my procedure i was experiencing a lot of discomfort at my anus and every time i had a bowl movement it would be bright red blood. I thought it was just haemorrhoids but now it’s not so much pain sometimes a lot of pain during a bowl movement but still bright red blood. I am worried because it has been going on for so long now. I really don’t want to see a doctor about this. Any advice is appreciated!
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2023.06.07 23:19 pillowcurtain Do I have a drinking problem?

TLDR: I don’t think I do, but I question it. (I also question everything and I sometimes get fixated on moderating everything in life.) Does the fact that I question it also automatically mean I have a problem? Or just overly cautious?
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I’m a male in my thirties and I’ve consumed alcohol casually since my early twenties. I was never into the party scene in college so I don’t have a history of regularly getting wasted or blacked out (though I’ve been there), but I do really love savoring great alcoholic beverages, especially nice beers and bourbons. I generally love all things food and drink, and put a lot of energy into enjoying many aspects of it.
Before meeting my girlfriend, my seasons of heaviest consumption would be 1-3 drinks per day (roughly 7-21 drinks per week), but I typically hover around 5-10 drinks per week. I’m at around 4-7 per week now.
My girlfriend has never had alcohol and actually detests the smell. She also spent a lot of time around wasted friends that she generally doesn’t love when I drink, though she tolerates it to a limited degree. She just thinks it’s unnecessary and gross. This has led me to just drink when she’s not around. She works in the medical field so has long 12 hour shifts so if I drink, I’ll have enough time for the smell to dissipate from me by the time she’s back.
Here’s my conundrum: I don’t really tell my girlfriend that I have those drinks while she’s out of the house. I actually think she’d be bothered if she found out I’m “keeping” this from her. I also buy alcohol almost exclusively when she’s not around. I’m careful not to leave empty bottles or drink glasses around.
The thing is, I don’t think I have a drinking problem because I don’t think I fit the symptoms of alcoholism. I often leave drinks unfinished because I either don’t feel like drinking more or I completely forget, I don’t feel any withdrawal symptoms, and I can’t drink more than a handful of drinks before feeling gross. BUT, I do drink regularly. I find myself drinking opportunistically when I have a chance because I don’t feel like I can drink freely whenever. I don’t need alcohol to function in the way I need caffeine, but I also don’t see an issue with sipping on bourbon before lunch if that’s the only time I’ll get to enjoy it.
What do you all think?
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2023.06.07 23:18 5543798651194 Where to buy a waterproof pouch for phone in Reykjavik

Basically the title… I’m going kayaking in a few days, plus with waterfalls and general rain etc I was hoping to pick up a clear, sealable, watertight (to some basic degree) pouch (I have one at home from Decathlon but couldn’t find it). I have tried Icewear, 66 degrees north and similar stores. Is there anywhere else I could try picking one up? I have a car so getting to somewhere on the outskirts isn’t an issue.
Also could do with a small cooler bag / pouch too, if anyone knows a store that might have those.
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2023.06.07 23:18 Dismal-Jellyfish Commissioner Hester M. Peirce: "Although I agree with the objectives of these rules—namely, to reduce the incidence of misconduct in the security-based swap markets—these final rules leave unaddressed concerns I had at the proposing stage about their breadth, and I accordingly cannot support them."

Commissioner Hester M. Peirce:

Source: https://www.sec.gov/news/statement/peirce-statement-security-based-swaps-060723
Thank you, Mr. Chair. As we have just heard, today the Commission will vote on finalizing Rule 9j-1, which would prohibit fraud and manipulation involving purchases and sales of security-based swaps, and Rule 15fh-4(c), which would prohibit coercion, manipulation, or deception of a security-based swap entity’s chief compliance officer. Although I agree with the objectives of these rules—namely, to reduce the incidence of misconduct in the security-based swap markets—these final rules leave unaddressed concerns I had at the proposing stage about their breadth, and I accordingly cannot support them.
The version of Rule 9j-1 before us today is better than the proposed version. The final rule would adopt a considerably narrower definitions of purchase and sale than the expansive proposed definitions that would have covered the performance of obligations arising out of a security-based swap for the life of the transaction. The definitions in the final rule instead generally tracks the Dodd-Frank definitions of these terms. This change should reduce the likelihood that every action taken by a counterparty to a security-based swap during the life of the transaction, including actions required under the swap’s terms, will expose it to liability. In another positive change, the release also makes clear that attempted violations of the rule require scienter. Finally, the affirmative defenses should mitigate—even if they do not eliminate—the risk that the rule might make it impossible for a lender, which will often possess material non-public information on its borrowers, to use credit default swaps to hedge the risks of those loans.
Notwithstanding these improvements, the final rule is still overly broad. The affirmative defenses may not provide market participants with sufficient clarity to allow them, for example, to feel confident somebody on a firm’s trading desk can hedge a loan using security-based swaps when the firm has obtained material non-public information in connection with the loan. As another example, the negligence standard applicable to paragraphs (a)(3) and (a)(4) of the rule may facilitate second-guessing in enforcement actions.
Most concerning, however, is an overbroad anti-manipulation provision directed at manufactured credit events and other types of opportunistic trading strategies. This provision, too, has been narrowed since the proposal; the provision no longer contains the “directly or indirectly” language, and the release makes clear that violation of this provision requires scienter. But the release describes the scope of the provision in the same broad and ambiguous terms to which I objected when the rule was proposed.[1] Indeed, in words nearly identical to those in the proposal, the release explains that this provision would apply to “an action taken for the purposes of avoiding or causing, or increasing or decreasing, a payment under a security-based swap in a manner that would not have occurred but for such actions.”[2]
As did the proposing release, the adopting release does attempt to provide assurance to market participants that the Commission will use this provision to pursue only “actions taken outside the ordinary course of a typical lender-borrower relationship.”[3] Yet, as one commenter noted, market participants must look to the text of the rule, [4] which makes no reference to (and offers no safe harbor for) actions taken in the ordinary course. Moreover, the Commission repeatedly notes in this discussion that whether an action is taken in the ordinary course is a “facts and circumstances” inquiry under which the Commission will review “all relevant facts.”[5] Although this approach does ensure maximum flexibility for the Commission to pursue misconduct that is hard to describe ex ante, it does so at the expense of clarity for firms that will have to guess at what facts the Commission may, in hindsight, determine to be relevant.
The Commission feels compelled to preserve maximum flexibility for itself because it is trying to prohibit harmful but exceedingly difficult-to-define behavior that has occasionally appeared in the credit default swap markets. This behavior includes manufactured credit events and other opportunistic trading strategies that can cause the market to question whether these instruments will serve the purposes for which they were designed. Drawing in advance a line that cleanly distinguishes between manipulative conduct and actions taken in the normal course of business, even if they are unseemly and potentially unfair, is difficult. That the opportunistic trading strategies the rule targets have occurred relatively infrequently, and that each generally has presented distinct facts, makes the rule-writing task more difficult.
Preserving discretion for the Commission could chill, unnecessarily, perfectly legitimate trading strategies or exercises of a counterparty’s rights under a security-based swap.[6] Moreover, as one commenter noted, security-based swaps are often used to hedge complex financing arrangements that involve heavily negotiated terms providing the lenders with a range of options to protect themselves from the borrower’s default.[7] Lenders worried that they may not be able to exercise such rights without affecting the value of the security-based swap in a way that the Commission later might view as manipulative may be less willing to provide financing in the first place.[8] Moreover, because the release suggests that action—such as rescuing a failing firm—will be subject to greater scrutiny than inaction—such as letting a failing firm collapse—the rule risks spurring inaction and thus reducing market efficiency.[9]
Some circumstances might warrant a rule with these chilling effects, but no such circumstances are present here. The targeted misconduct has occurred only relatively infrequently in this market. Our anti-fraud rules likely already prohibit some of that conduct.[10] And, in a demonstration of the power of private ordering, market participants themselves have addressed some of the offending conduct. Sophisticated repeat players are well-placed to police one another for undesirable conduct, even if it is not illegal. In 2018, the International Swaps and Derivatives Association publicly acknowledged that these manufactured credit event strategies could affect negatively the security-based swap market and in 2019 made its Narrowly Tailored Credit Event Protocol available for adherence by counterparties.[11] This Protocol appears to have eliminated much of the destructive behavior simply by introducing greater uncertainty that these strategies could succeed. As the release notes, this Protocol does not address every possible such strategy, but, the release also does not challenge one commenter’s assertion that these strategies have become “extremely infrequent.”[12] In short, the Commission’s desire to maximize its own flexibility in this anti-manipulation provision does not seem to further any regulatory objective. To the contrary, this rule likely will deter far more entirely legitimate activity than it will prevent truly manipulative activity. The Commission instead should delay taking any action here and wait to see whether the problem of opportunistic trading strategies is significant enough to warrant a solution as blunt as the one before us today.
We can all agree with the sentiment of Rule 15fh-4(c): coercing, manipulating, or deceiving a CCO is bad behavior. But regulation—even regulation that prohibits bad things—always involves trade-offs. Will subjecting every interaction between employees and a CCO to potential legal liability empower the CCO to do her job or simply make employees less likely to approach the CCO to seek her input on compliance-related issues?
I do have a few questions:
If a bank provides a loan to a customer and, in the process of negotiating the terms of that loan comes into possession of material non-public information, would the affirmative defenses permit the bank to hedge that loan exposure through a credit default swap? If so, under what conditions?
LSTA noted in its March 2022 letter that the broad language of the anti-manipulation provision coupled with the use of a facts and circumstances test to determine whether a transaction was in the ordinary course would likely chill perfectly legitimate exercises of a lender’s rights expressly provided for in heavily negotiated financing arrangements.[13] Can you provide me any comfort that these fears are groundless?
The economic analysis suggests that Rule 9j-1 will benefit the market by reducing fraud and manipulation, including opportunistic trading strategies, and thereby increase confidence in the security-based swap market. In July 2022, the Managed Funds Association submitted a comment letter presenting data that it claimed suggested that there was no evidence of any lack of confidence among market participants.[14] The economic analysis seems to wave this evidence away as not persuasive, but does not provide any countervailing evidence that the market is laboring under a significant risk of fraud or manipulation. Is there any such evidence? What evidence, if any, do we have that manufactured credit events or other opportunistic trading strategies continue to present a risk to the market?
One law firm submitted a comment letter identifying different types of market activity it described as “legitimate” that “would be threatened by” Rule 9j-1.[15] I’d like to understand better how the staff would view these examples from that letter:
“An investor who holds CDS (either long or short) participating in an ad hoc restructuring group.”
“An investor who holds bonds and has bought CDS refusing to consent to a restructuring, choosing to rely on CDS protection.”
“An investor who owns bonds and has sold CDS selling bonds back to the Reference Entity.”
“An investor who has sold CDS providing rescue financing to distressed issuers.”
The release states that “misconduct that affects the payments and deliveries under one security-based swap could be prohibited by final Rule 9j-1 if that misconduct occurs in connection with effecting or attempting to effect transactions or purchasing or selling or attempting to induce the purchase or sale of any security-based swap, and not just the security-based swap that was the subject of the misconduct.”[16] Could you provide an example of what type of misconduct this might encompass?
The final rule prohibits manipulation of the price or valuation of a security-based swap. The release states that “the pricing and valuation of security-based swaps are intrinsically connected.”[17] If this is the case, why is it necessary to prohibit manipulation of valuation, given that manipulation of valuation would also almost certainly result in manipulation of price?
Although I cannot support today’s adoption of these rules, I do appreciate the effort that the staff put into reviewing the comments and taking to heart those comments in an effort to make the rule more workable. I especially appreciate the time that Carol McGee spent with me to answer my questions about the rule and Pam Carmody’s work on drafting it. I also want to acknowledge the contributions of the Office of the General Counsel.

Final Rule (136 pages):

https://www.sec.gov/rules/final/2023/34-97656.pdf

Overview of Security-Based Swaps

Security-Based Swaps Generally:
  • Although the definition of security-based swap is detailed and comprehensive, at its most basic level, a security-based swap is an agreement, contract, or transaction in which two parties agree to the exchange of payments or cash flows based upon the value of other assets or upon the occurrence or non-occurrence of some event, including, for example, a change in a stock price or the occurrence of some type of credit event.
  • The exchange of these payments or deliveries, including purchases or sales upon certain events, is a fundamental aspect or feature of a security-based swap.
    • Moreover, this feature of security-based swaps is in contrast to secondary market transactions involving equity or debt securities where the completion of a purchase or sale transaction terminates the mutual obligations of the parties.
  • Security-based swap counterparties, who are considered the issuers of the security-based swaps, continue to have obligations to one another throughout the life of the instrument, which can extend for years if not decades.
  • Parties may enter into a security-based swap for a multitude of reasons, but often, the parties to the contract seek to gain exposure to an asset without owning it or to manage or transfer risks in their asset and liability portfolios (e.g., credit or equity risks).
  • Typical participants in the security-based swap market include, among others, lenders transferring credit risk, insurance companies managing asset and liability risk specific to the insurance industry, activists or hedge funds obtaining exposure to the price movement and dividend payments of a stock without the costs and burdens of stock ownership, and financial institutions that engage in market-making and dealing in security-based swaps.
  • The terms of the contract between the counterparties determine the specific rights and obligations of the parties throughout the life of the security-based swap, including, for example, the amount and timing of periodic payments due under the instrument, the maturity of the instrument, and terms of settlement.
  • Unlike other types of securities where settlement occurs when the buyer receives the security purchased and the seller receives cash equaling the value of the security sold, for security-based swaps, a final net payment is paid by one party to the other at a future point in time to which the parties have contractually agreed.
Two common examples of security-based swaps – credit default swaps (“CDS”) and total return swaps (“TRS”)
  • Generally, a CDS is a contract in which a party (the “protection buyer”), such as a lender, agrees to make periodic payments (the “premium”) over an agreed upon time period to another party (the “protection seller”) in exchange for a payment from the protection seller in the event of default by an issuer (or group of issuers) of securities (the “reference entity”).
  • The CDS contract states whether the CDS is settled physically or in cash in the event of default by the reference entity. Generally, the protection buyer is using the CDS to manage risk and the protection seller is using the CDS to take on risk in return for a premium. A cash-settled CDS contract relying on ISDA documentation is subject to determinations by a committee with respect to whether a defined default event (a “credit event”) has occurred and, if so, to hold an auction to determine the settlement price of the CDS.
    • The auction process includes the determination and publication of a list of deliverable obligations that a CDS protection buyer can deliver to the CDS protection seller after the auction settlement.
    • A CDS protection buyer can deliver any of the obligations on the list, with delivery of the cheapest deliverable obligation maximizing recovery.
    • This feature of CDS contracts is an aspect of some of the manufactured or opportunistic strategies discussed in section I.B.2.
  • A TRS may obligate one of the parties (i.e., the total return payer) to transfer the total economic performance (e.g., income from interest and fees, gains or losses from market movements, and credit losses) of a reference asset (e.g., a debt or equity security) (the “reference underlying”), in exchange for a specified or fixed or floating cash flow (including payments for any principal losses on the reference asset) from the other party (i.e., the total return receiver).
  • If the TRS is negotiated over-the-counter, the terms of the TRS can be individually negotiated and could include one payment at the expiration of the TRS or might include a series of payments on periodic interim settlement dates over the tenor of the TRS.
    • For TRS with periodic interim settlement dates counterparties could agree to reset the price of the reference underlying on the periodic interim settlement date based on current market prices of the reference underlying (“reference price”).
    • Accordingly, throughout the life of a TRS, depending on the terms of the TRS, the reference price that determines that payment on periodic interim settlement dates might be reset based on current market prices of the reference underlying
Security-Based Swap Market Developments
  • In 2010, following the 2008 financial crisis, Congress enacted the Dodd-Frank Act “to promote the financial stability of the United States by improving accountability and transparency in the financial system.”
  • Title VII of the Dodd-Frank Act addressed significant issues and risks in the swap and security-based swap markets, which had experienced dramatic growth leading up to the 2008 financial crisis and were shown to be capable of affecting significant sectors of the U.S. economy.
  • In testimony before Congress introducing the first draft of the Dodd-Frank Act, Treasury Secretary Timothy Geithner highlighted the risks posed by an unregulated OTC derivatives market, which had been operating without the “basic protections and oversight” existing in the rest of the financial systems, including a “limited ability to police fraud and manipulation.”
  • In his written testimony, Secretary Geithner listed four broad objectives of the proposed reforms which were eventually enacted as Title VII of the Dodd-Frank Act:
  1. Preventing activities in the OTC derivatives markets from posing risk to the stability of the financial system;
  2. Promoting efficiency and transparency of the OTC derivatives markets;
  3. Preventing market manipulation, fraud, and other abuses; and
  4. Protecting consumers and investors by ensuring that OTC derivatives are not marketed inappropriately to unsophisticated parties.
  • The security-based swap market remains large. Based on information reported pursuant to 17 CFR 242.900 to 242.909 (“Regulation SBSR”), as of November 25, 2022, the gross notional amount outstanding in the security-based swap market is approximately $8.5 trillion across the credit, equity, and interest rate asset classes.
    • The credit security-based swap asset class is large, with a gross notional amount of approximately $4.7 trillion, of which single-name CDS (including corporate and sovereign) account for the largest category at $4.3 trillion.
    • Additionally, as indicated by data submitted pursuant to Regulation SBSR, the size of the equity security-based swap market is also significant – with approximately $3.6 trillion of equity security-based swaps outstanding as of November 25, 2022.
'The trouble'
  • In general, the ongoing payments of a security-based swap depend, in part, on its gross notional amount outstanding.
  • The particular aspects and characteristics of security-based swaps (described above in section I.B.1) provide opportunities and incentives for misconduct.
  • In general, parties to a security-based swap may engage in misconduct in connection with the security-based swap (including in the reference underlying of such security-based swap) to trigger, avoid, or affect the value of ongoing payments or deliveries.
    • For instance, a party faced with significant risk exposure may engage or attempt to engage in manipulative or deceptive conduct that increases or decreases the value of payments or cash flow under a security-based swap relative to the value of the reference underlying, including the price or value of a deliverable obligation under a security-based swap.
  • Moreover, fraud and manipulation in connection with a security-based swap can affect not just a direct counterparty, but also counterparties to that counterparty.
    • For example, if fraud or manipulation leads to a large change in variation margin, the defrauded counterparty could default on its obligations to its other counterparties. In addition, other counterparties to the same security-based swaps could be affected by fraud or manipulation that affects the reference underlying assets, as could investors in those underlying assets.
  • Given the global and interconnected nature of the security-based swap markets, it is critical that the Commission has appropriate tools to fight fraud and manipulation in these markets.
  • Recent developments in the security-based swap market highlight these concerns.
    • For example, in the 2021 Proposing Release, the Commission discussed certain manufactured or other opportunistic CDS strategies that had been reported by academics and the press:
      • A CDS buyer working with a reference entity to create an artificial, technical, or temporary failure-to-pay credit event in order to trigger a payment on a CDS to the buyer (and to the detriment of the CDS seller).
      • Alone or in combination with the above or other strategies, causing the reference entity to issue a below-market debt instrument in order to artificially increase the auction settlement price for the CDS (i.e., by creating a new “cheapest to deliver” deliverable obligation).
      • CDS buyers endeavoring to influence the timing of a credit event in order to ensure a payment (upon the triggering of the CDS) before expiration of a CDS, or a CDS seller taking similar actions to avoid the obligation to pay by ensuring a credit event occurs after the expiration of the CDS, or taking actions to limit or expand the number and/or kind of deliverable obligations in order to impact the recovery rate.
      • CDS sellers offering financing to restructure a reference entity in such a way that “orphans” the CDS – eliminating or reducing the likelihood of a credit event by moving the debts off the balance sheets of the reference entity and onto the balance sheets of a subsidiary or an affiliate that is not referenced by the CDS.
      • Taking actions, including as part of a larger restructuring, to increase (or decrease) the supply of deliverable obligations by, for example, adding (or removing) a co-borrower to existing debt of a reference entity, thereby increasing (or decreasing) the likelihood of a credit event and the cost of CDS.
  • Taking into consideration all of the above, Rule 9j-1 will be an important additional tool to augment the Commission’s oversight of the security-based swap markets including, but not limited to, the markets for CDS and TRS.

Overview of the Final Rules:

Rule 9j-1

  • Final Rule 9j-1 includes prohibitions on categories of misconduct prohibited by section 10(b) of the Exchange Act, and Rule 10b-5 thereunder, and section 17(a) of the Securities Act, when effecting any transaction in, or attempting to effect any transaction in, any security-based swap, or when purchasing or selling, or inducing or attempting to induce the purchase or sale of, any security-based swap (including but not limited to, in whole or in part, the execution, termination (prior to its scheduled maturity date), assignment, exchange, or similar transfer or conveyance of, or extinguishing of any rights or obligations under, any security based-swap).
  • The final rule also includes a provision prohibiting the manipulation or attempted manipulation of the price or valuation of any security-based swap, including any payment or delivery related thereto.
    • This provision has been moved to paragraph (a)(6) of Rule 9j-1 (from paragraph (b) as proposed) to clarify that these provisions apply to conduct that is undertaken in connection with directly or indirectly effecting, or attempting to effect, any transaction in any security-based swap, or purchasing or selling, or inducing or attempting to induce the purchase or sale of, any security-based swap.
  • Final Rule 9j-1 provides that:
  1. A person with material nonpublic information about a security cannot avoid liability under the securities laws by communicating about or making purchases or sales in the security-based swap (as opposed to communicating about or purchasing or selling the underlying security)
  2. A person cannot avoid liability under section 9(j) or Rule 9j-1 in connection with a fraudulent scheme involving a security-based swap by instead making purchases or sales in the underlying security (as opposed to purchases or sales in the security-based swap).
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Rule 15fh-4(c)

The Commission also is adopting a rule aimed at protecting the independence and objectivity of an SBS Entity’s CCO by preventing the personnel of an SBS Entity from taking actions to coerce, mislead, or otherwise interfere with the CCO. The Commission recognizes that SBS Entities dominate the security-based swap market and also recognizes the important role that CCOs of SBS Entities play in ensuring compliance by SBS Entities and their personnel with the Federal securities laws. As a result, the Commission is adopting Rule 15fh-4(c), which makes it unlawful for any officer, director, supervised person, or employee of an SBS Entity, or any person acting under such person’s direction, to directly or indirectly take any action to coerce, manipulate, mislead, or fraudulently influence the SBS Entity’s CCO in the performance of their duties under the Federal securities laws or the rules and regulations thereunder.

Fact Sheet:

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Press Release:

The Securities and Exchange Commission today adopted rules to prevent fraud, manipulation, and deception in connection with security-based swap transactions and to prevent undue influence over the chief compliance officer (CCO) of security-based swap dealers and major security-based swap participants (SBS Entities). “Any misconduct in the security-based swaps market not only harms direct counterparties but also can affect reference entities and investors in those reference entities,” said SEC Chair Gary Gensler. “Given these markets’ size, scale, and importance, it is critical that the Commission protect investors and market integrity through helping prevent fraud, manipulation, and deception relating to security-based swaps. Today’s set of rules will do just that.” The antifraud and anti-manipulation rule adopted today is designed to prevent misconduct in connection with effecting any transaction in, or attempting to effect any transaction in, or purchasing or selling, or inducing or attempting to induce the purchase or sale of, any security-based swap. The rule takes into account the features fundamental to a security-based swap and will aid the Commission in its pursuit of actions that directly target misconduct that reaches security-based swaps. The Commission also adopted a rule to protect the independence and objectivity of the CCO of a security-based swap dealer or major security-based swap participant. The adopting release will be published in the Federal Register. The final rules will become effective 60 days after the date of publication of the adopting release in the Federal Register.

TLDRS:

  • Hester cannot support.
  • A security-based swap is an agreement where two parties exchange payments or cash flows based on the value of assets or events, continuing to have obligations to each other for the life of the contract.
    • Typical participants include lenders, insurance companies, hedge funds, and financial institutions.
  • The specifics of the swap, such as periodic payments and settlement terms, are determined by the contract between the counterparties.
  • The two common examples of security-based swaps are Credit Default Swaps (CDS) and Total Return Swaps (TRS).
    • A CDS involves a protection buyer making periodic payments to a protection seller in exchange for a payment in case of default by the reference entity.
    • A TRS transfers the total economic performance of a reference asset in exchange for a cash flow.
  • As of November 2022, the gross notional amount outstanding in the security-based swap market was approximately $8.5 trillion.
    • The credit security-based swap asset class accounted for $4.7 trillion, while equity security-based swaps accounted for around $3.6 trillion.
  • Misconduct may occur in security-based swaps to trigger, avoid, or affect the value of ongoing payments.
    • This includes manipulative or deceptive conduct that alters the value of payments under a security-based swap relative to the value of the reference underlying swap.
  • Rule 9j-1 is introduced as an additional tool for overseeing the security-based swap markets, including the markets for CDS and TRS.
    • This rule includes prohibitions on misconduct and manipulation in connection with security-based swaps.
    • In addition, Rule 15fh-4(c) is adopted to protect the independence and objectivity of a Swap Brokerage Security Entity's Chief Compliance Officer.
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2023.06.07 23:18 West-Parsnip9070 She’s unrecognizable

She’s unrecognizable
I’m all about general snark but today I saw this post on tik tok and was super shocked with Cecile’s face. She was perfectly pretty and cute 6 months ago but I’m so concerned that she’s going to the extreme with her face.
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2023.06.07 23:18 EM208 I Need Reassurance :/

Older Sister and I want to leave narcissistic immigrant father and I feel a bit guilty and just must need a reassurance
TLDR: Older Sister and I can no longer handle our immigrant father’s narcissistic and toxic tendencies and want to move out behind his back. I feel guilty and need reassurance because I feel like it’s normalized to put up with this behaviour from a parent with an immigrant background.
My father is an African immigrant who despite being grateful for being our only parent (our mother; a beautiful and very kind person; passed away a decade ago), my older sister and I can no longer handle his narcissistic and toxic tendencies and want to move out behind his back. Believe me I’m not using the word “narcissist” lightly. He constantly gaslights the both of us, victimizes himself, rarely ever takes accountability for his actions and if he does he still makes his victim seem like the problem in someway. He has berated and abused us consistently in the past and currently and has constantly minimized his abuse. We used to think we were crazy but when we find out 8 out of 9 of his siblings dislike him we knew we weren’t crazy and there was clearly a pattern here. He’s also a liar and has lied about some major things including the fact he cheated on my mother. He gaslit my sister for years because our mother, before she passed, cried about it to her and was considering divorcing him before she passed. My older sister has resentment towards him and for years he lied about it until I called him out on it because my mother told me as well. It should also be noted that my older sister moved out a long time ago but she moved back in with us in hopes of fixing the relationship between our father and her. Of course it hasn’t gotten better. And the worst of all he gives my younger sister who has mental health issues, immense anxiety.
He consistently berates her and does the bare minimum when it comes to taking care of her mental health issues and it’s infuriating. He does enough so that he won’t get in trouble and that she could manage but he’s neglectful in a lot of other areas and half asses a lot of things in regards to that. Whenever my older sister and I try to defend her from his berating he uses abusive tactics and stops us from helping her and we’re told that we’re disrespecting him by telling him how to parent when really we’re trying to protect her and deescalate things. In general my father has anger issues, believe me I can’t name a day In the last year where I didn’t wake up in anxiety because he was yelling and going ballistic over something minimal in the morning.
We’ve had to deal with this for years and today I almost got into a physical fight with him because of it. He got mad at my sister for trying to deescalate a situation where ONCE AGAIN he was berating my younger sister and she stepped in, only for him to get mad. I woke up in anxiety today because I heard him yelling as usual and when my sister decided to leave because she couldn’t handle him screaming at her, I stepped in. It should be noted that I’m someone who hates conflict and fighting and I’m generally a peaceful person but because of how bad my father gaslights us and how he doesn’t respect our boundaries I got fed up with him and reacted out of character. My sister and I had a talk and we’ve decided to move out and are currently looking for a place behind his back. We want to take our little sister but legally we can’t :/
Bottom line is I just need some reassurance that we’re doing the right thing. You especially feel bad because people who come from ethnic backgrounds excuse this type of behaviour from the parents because of cultural reasoning. For years we tried to put with up, try to resolve it and find loopholes but nothings changed and I’m fed up. Because regardless of your background it’s not okay for someone to treat their kids like that. Are we right for wanting to leave?
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2023.06.07 23:18 SpicyRamen1 SERE as an older recruit with a family

I posted this on pararescure but I'm posting here as well in case I can get more info here.
I'm going through the process of trying to go forward with getting into the Air Force and I'm leaning towards SERE but I have some questions that I hope some of you might have some answers to.
  1. I'm an older guy, I'm 36, and I'm wondering if I'm too old for the job. I know that the age limit is 39 and that there are lots of factors that can make a difference but I'm asking about in general, or at least in your opinion, is 36 too old for something like SERE, why or why not? I've been training but haven't passed the run portion of the IFT.
  2. I have a wife and son and I'm trying to figure out when they'd be able to join me. I've seen some info saying that they could join me while I'd be in tech school and that I'd be able to live off base with my family, however I've also heard that I wouldn't be able to do any of that until I was done with the initial training/tech school - do you know which is true?
  3. How much time do you get between BMT and starting SERE school? I'm trying to figure out how much time I'd have to see my family after BMT as well as to move from my state to Washington
Thank you in advance.
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2023.06.07 23:18 SwordofMine 26 [TF4A] Schenectedy, NY Quirky neurodivergent Transgirl looking for anything in or near me.

Hello there stranger, I am Valerie, Val to my friends and lovers, and I am here to well… sell you on me as a potential friend/partne(video or board) gaming buddy/roommate/person you’d like to fuck. This is fundamentally, kind of an “open letter” ad, its going to be lengthy; get a drink and a snack. :)
I am, to be frank, very trans, and more than probably neurodivergent (ADHD). I am very happy to meet people responding to this ad; so please, say hi if the following you’re about to read interests you.
I recently moved out here to the Capital Area (I am over in Schenectady, hello!) and I am really looking for local people (I.e within an hour; or otherwise reachable by CDTA bus service in some capacity); the closer to Schenectady, the better. I grew up over in Texas, and lemme tell you, I am loving the weather here compared to Hell’s busted freezer (that was a quip).
Whoever you are; I want you to know a bunch about me so that you can get a sense of who I am; what I ask from you is a few things, if you’re looking for just general friends or gaming buddies, I don’t mind whoever you are, say hi, the door is open; if you’re looking to date/or something like sex; that’s gonna be subject to some requirements.
First off; no matter who replies; I expect you to specify what ad you are replying to (from which subreddit and for what you’re looking for), just so I know you bothered to at least read my expectations for responders. Secondly, if you’re looking to date seriously, I expect you be 24 or over and younger than 35. If you’re looking for something casual, I expect you be at least 21 years old; just a maturity thing.
Okay! So let’s begin; I am Val, I love to cook ( I am okay at it but I LOVE IT) and I like making handmade things like décor and sewn things (clothes, pillowcases, plushies etc). I am a high level strategy video gamer (500-1000+ hours in tons of different strategy games each, probably a combined 10k+ hours in all my strategy games I’ve ever played), and I just generally enjoy board gaming; doesn’t matter what, I have fun. _^
I really love “earth tones” and monochromes (browns, greens, whites, blacks); I feel like they look best on me; and personally I love greens and pastel pink in all occasions. If you asked me “Oh Val, how’d you get your name” I am sad to say, I don’t have a very interesting story; I am literally just Val, I picked it out of a hat practically and I’ve been loving it ever since.
On the travel side I really want to head out and explore whole bunch of the country; or I guess, at least the bits that are still safe for trans people to head out and explore; I also want to visit a bunch of Europe someday, especially the Netherlands and specifically Amsterdam, it seems like an utterly beautiful and forward thinking city and my little urban planning nerd brain can’t help but love the idea of seeing it in person.
Personally I’ve watched a ton of anime; there’s not a single isekai released between 2000 – 2021 I have not watched at least a bit of; I am utterly obsessed with the genre and love it to utter death. I also generally like mecha anime; my favorite one of those was “Gundum: Iron Blood Orphans”.
Currently I am working just a humble retail job but I am headed out back to college this coming Fall to start on the pathway to becoming an Engineering Technician. I want to work with mechanical stuff personally since it seems the most interesting me on a personal level; plus, I feel like learning more about it could let me get into more complex craft projects at home, which really appeals to me.
Someday I want to work on a “starship bridge” gaming rig I.e a setup where you convert a whole room into a “working” bridge of a space ship complete with lights, mechanical prop bits; sliding doors, and custom fixtures to bring the whole cohesive experience together into something that makes you feel like you’re on the set of a science fiction movie.
I love the Fall; I am literally so happy to finally live in a place where leaves actually, you know, fall. Its such a radical concept from living in a place where essentially the trees are some shade of green all year round; with winter being barely cold enough down in the part of Texas I lived (South Texas) to be worth a damn to change any leaves to any color other than greenish-yellow. Is it weird to be this excited about dead plants? I think so, but I am rolling with it!
I think I’ve mentioned I like making food? Okay listen to me closely: I love making soups, stews, stir fries and curries as far as “real food” goes; but I am a big candy maker. Lollipops, taffies, hard candies, chocolates just about anything you want; I’ll bring in. I live to feed other people (and my) sweet tooth. Oh, baking is also fun: ever had real chocolate ganache filled/frosted cupcakes? I can make them for ya.
Real talk moment: I… I am afraid honestly that we’ll meet up and I won’t really “fit” compared to in text. Lemme tell you something: I am a scatter brained ditz who couldn’t focus to save her life; I’ll forget important things, let stuff slip past me, have a hard time paying attention; all that classic “ADHD” flavor. Its not me not caring; my brain literally just won’t let me be normal; and I am really sorry but that’s not a “fixable” thing, I will probably get on medications for it in the future; but its a fundamental part of “me” and my brain all the same, its part of the package with me.
Anywho! I am very pet positive; love cats, love dogs; lizards are cuties; I am “okay” with creepies and the crawlies, just keep them away from me; and I absolutely am mesmerized by fish; feathery friends are welcomed, I am personally a fan of pet chickens but I know most people keep something “traditional” like a parrot or a parakeet, and that’s totally fine. I love animals, there was a point in my life where I thought perhaps that I would even like to make it a career, but nowadays I’ve matured and realized I get too attached to do that as a job.
Oh! Come into this prepared with the knowledge that I love the holidays; no not “those” holidays. ALL OF THEM. I am big in particular into Christmas, Thanksgiving, Valentine’s Day and Halloween but I get really into celebrations so you know, if you want that kind of energy in your life, well you know where to find it. I love to decorate; love to participate; love to just experience the joy of those special days of the year. And by the way, I count Birthdays; I will, if you ask, throw you a party even if its just the two of us.
So… dreams right? That’s a one we can get into: have you ever dreamt big dreams? I have two. I want to find a partner who I can be utterly spoiled by #1; and who I can spoil back with my loyalty, acts of service and just generally love for them. I want to start some of kind of business someday; even though I am getting into something technical, food is a life long obsession of mine; I am leaning towards some kind of hand made candy making company that does online orders to be honest; it seems like the most “unique” thing since customizing candies is a remarkably fun process’ that’s #2.
If you’re not okay with someone that gets off topic a lot; forgets things all the time; talks about; gets distracted and just generally isn’t “all there all the time”, you’re not gonna like me, period. I zone out often and a lot and you’re just kinda going to need to either be ready to deal with it, or anything we do isn’t going to work out; that’s the bag with me, sorry in advance for asking you to carry it; I promise I’ll make it worth your while though.
I am the kind of person that will do anything for those in their “sphere” if only I had the means; you earn my love, or trust, or care, or attention and I’ll do just about anything other than focus for more than a minute to repay it (that’s really hard). Just how I am.
In case you’re wondering: I am happiest with a partner that’s very emotionally open; who knows how to communicate well; and who truly enjoys the things I enjoy and I enjoy a lot of things so as long as there’s some decent behavioral overlap, we’ll get along just fine!
Okay, little lightning round to round this off: I wear glasses, I want to get into custom soda making, I love to garden, I write science fiction and fantasy stories, I have a dream car, I want to own an Rv to take regular vacations in, I want to name a dog “Sumo”, I want to get more into console gaming generally, I am ridiculously excited for Starfield, space exploration excites me to no end just in general.
So yeah, this is the Val experience; like, I am kinda all over the place in a ton of different ways, don’t come into this expecting “OMG you’re ADHD? So quirky” kinda tropes; I am very much kinda… missing a screw somewhere (but there’s nothing wrong with that, its just a part of who I am).
So yeah! Come on down and say hi; and remember to specify what you’re responding to and what you’re looking for with me, I am taking all responders.
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2023.06.07 23:17 SwordofMine 26 [TF4A] Schenectedy, NY Quirky neurodivergent Transgirl looking for anything in or near me. Cis Okay

Hello there stranger, I am Valerie, Val to my friends and lovers, and I am here to well… sell you on me as a potential friend/partne(video or board) gaming buddy/roommate/person you’d like to fuck. This is fundamentally, kind of an “open letter” ad, its going to be lengthy; get a drink and a snack. :)
I am, to be frank, very trans, and more than probably neurodivergent (ADHD). I am very happy to meet people responding to this ad; so please, say hi if the following you’re about to read interests you.
I recently moved out here to the Capital Area (I am over in Schenectady, hello!) and I am really looking for local people (I.e within an hour; or otherwise reachable by CDTA bus service in some capacity); the closer to Schenectady, the better. I grew up over in Texas, and lemme tell you, I am loving the weather here compared to Hell’s busted freezer (that was a quip).
Whoever you are; I want you to know a bunch about me so that you can get a sense of who I am; what I ask from you is a few things, if you’re looking for just general friends or gaming buddies, I don’t mind whoever you are, say hi, the door is open; if you’re looking to date/or something like sex; that’s gonna be subject to some requirements.
First off; no matter who replies; I expect you to specify what ad you are replying to (from which subreddit and for what you’re looking for), just so I know you bothered to at least read my expectations for responders. Secondly, if you’re looking to date seriously, I expect you be 24 or over and younger than 35. If you’re looking for something casual, I expect you be at least 21 years old; just a maturity thing.
Okay! So let’s begin; I am Val, I love to cook ( I am okay at it but I LOVE IT) and I like making handmade things like décor and sewn things (clothes, pillowcases, plushies etc). I am a high level strategy video gamer (500-1000+ hours in tons of different strategy games each, probably a combined 10k+ hours in all my strategy games I’ve ever played), and I just generally enjoy board gaming; doesn’t matter what, I have fun. _^
I really love “earth tones” and monochromes (browns, greens, whites, blacks); I feel like they look best on me; and personally I love greens and pastel pink in all occasions. If you asked me “Oh Val, how’d you get your name” I am sad to say, I don’t have a very interesting story; I am literally just Val, I picked it out of a hat practically and I’ve been loving it ever since.
On the travel side I really want to head out and explore whole bunch of the country; or I guess, at least the bits that are still safe for trans people to head out and explore; I also want to visit a bunch of Europe someday, especially the Netherlands and specifically Amsterdam, it seems like an utterly beautiful and forward thinking city and my little urban planning nerd brain can’t help but love the idea of seeing it in person.
Personally I’ve watched a ton of anime; there’s not a single isekai released between 2000 – 2021 I have not watched at least a bit of; I am utterly obsessed with the genre and love it to utter death. I also generally like mecha anime; my favorite one of those was “Gundum: Iron Blood Orphans”.
Currently I am working just a humble retail job but I am headed out back to college this coming Fall to start on the pathway to becoming an Engineering Technician. I want to work with mechanical stuff personally since it seems the most interesting me on a personal level; plus, I feel like learning more about it could let me get into more complex craft projects at home, which really appeals to me.
Someday I want to work on a “starship bridge” gaming rig I.e a setup where you convert a whole room into a “working” bridge of a space ship complete with lights, mechanical prop bits; sliding doors, and custom fixtures to bring the whole cohesive experience together into something that makes you feel like you’re on the set of a science fiction movie.
I love the Fall; I am literally so happy to finally live in a place where leaves actually, you know, fall. Its such a radical concept from living in a place where essentially the trees are some shade of green all year round; with winter being barely cold enough down in the part of Texas I lived (South Texas) to be worth a damn to change any leaves to any color other than greenish-yellow. Is it weird to be this excited about dead plants? I think so, but I am rolling with it!
I think I’ve mentioned I like making food? Okay listen to me closely: I love making soups, stews, stir fries and curries as far as “real food” goes; but I am a big candy maker. Lollipops, taffies, hard candies, chocolates just about anything you want; I’ll bring in. I live to feed other people (and my) sweet tooth. Oh, baking is also fun: ever had real chocolate ganache filled/frosted cupcakes? I can make them for ya.
Real talk moment: I… I am afraid honestly that we’ll meet up and I won’t really “fit” compared to in text. Lemme tell you something: I am a scatter brained ditz who couldn’t focus to save her life; I’ll forget important things, let stuff slip past me, have a hard time paying attention; all that classic “ADHD” flavor. Its not me not caring; my brain literally just won’t let me be normal; and I am really sorry but that’s not a “fixable” thing, I will probably get on medications for it in the future; but its a fundamental part of “me” and my brain all the same, its part of the package with me.
Anywho! I am very pet positive; love cats, love dogs; lizards are cuties; I am “okay” with creepies and the crawlies, just keep them away from me; and I absolutely am mesmerized by fish; feathery friends are welcomed, I am personally a fan of pet chickens but I know most people keep something “traditional” like a parrot or a parakeet, and that’s totally fine. I love animals, there was a point in my life where I thought perhaps that I would even like to make it a career, but nowadays I’ve matured and realized I get too attached to do that as a job.
Oh! Come into this prepared with the knowledge that I love the holidays; no not “those” holidays. ALL OF THEM. I am big in particular into Christmas, Thanksgiving, Valentine’s Day and Halloween but I get really into celebrations so you know, if you want that kind of energy in your life, well you know where to find it. I love to decorate; love to participate; love to just experience the joy of those special days of the year. And by the way, I count Birthdays; I will, if you ask, throw you a party even if its just the two of us.
So… dreams right? That’s a one we can get into: have you ever dreamt big dreams? I have two. I want to find a partner who I can be utterly spoiled by #1; and who I can spoil back with my loyalty, acts of service and just generally love for them. I want to start some of kind of business someday; even though I am getting into something technical, food is a life long obsession of mine; I am leaning towards some kind of hand made candy making company that does online orders to be honest; it seems like the most “unique” thing since customizing candies is a remarkably fun process’ that’s #2.
If you’re not okay with someone that gets off topic a lot; forgets things all the time; talks about; gets distracted and just generally isn’t “all there all the time”, you’re not gonna like me, period. I zone out often and a lot and you’re just kinda going to need to either be ready to deal with it, or anything we do isn’t going to work out; that’s the bag with me, sorry in advance for asking you to carry it; I promise I’ll make it worth your while though.
I am the kind of person that will do anything for those in their “sphere” if only I had the means; you earn my love, or trust, or care, or attention and I’ll do just about anything other than focus for more than a minute to repay it (that’s really hard). Just how I am.
In case you’re wondering: I am happiest with a partner that’s very emotionally open; who knows how to communicate well; and who truly enjoys the things I enjoy and I enjoy a lot of things so as long as there’s some decent behavioral overlap, we’ll get along just fine!
Okay, little lightning round to round this off: I wear glasses, I want to get into custom soda making, I love to garden, I write science fiction and fantasy stories, I have a dream car, I want to own an Rv to take regular vacations in, I want to name a dog “Sumo”, I want to get more into console gaming generally, I am ridiculously excited for Starfield, space exploration excites me to no end just in general.
So yeah, this is the Val experience; like, I am kinda all over the place in a ton of different ways, don’t come into this expecting “OMG you’re ADHD? So quirky” kinda tropes; I am very much kinda… missing a screw somewhere (but there’s nothing wrong with that, its just a part of who I am).
So yeah! Come on down and say hi; and remember to specify what you’re responding to and what you’re looking for with me, I am taking all responders.
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2023.06.07 23:17 SwordofMine 26 [TF4A] Schenectedy, NY Quirky neurodivergent Transgirl looking for anything in or near me.

Hello there stranger, I am Valerie, Val to my friends and lovers, and I am here to well… sell you on me as a potential friend/partne(video or board) gaming buddy/roommate/person you’d like to fuck. This is fundamentally, kind of an “open letter” ad, its going to be lengthy; get a drink and a snack. :)
I am, to be frank, very trans, and more than probably neurodivergent (ADHD). I am very happy to meet people responding to this ad; so please, say hi if the following you’re about to read interests you.
I recently moved out here to the Capital Area (I am over in Schenectady, hello!) and I am really looking for local people (I.e within an hour; or otherwise reachable by CDTA bus service in some capacity); the closer to Schenectady, the better. I grew up over in Texas, and lemme tell you, I am loving the weather here compared to Hell’s busted freezer (that was a quip).
Whoever you are; I want you to know a bunch about me so that you can get a sense of who I am; what I ask from you is a few things, if you’re looking for just general friends or gaming buddies, I don’t mind whoever you are, say hi, the door is open; if you’re looking to date/or something like sex; that’s gonna be subject to some requirements.
First off; no matter who replies; I expect you to specify what ad you are replying to (from which subreddit and for what you’re looking for), just so I know you bothered to at least read my expectations for responders. Secondly, if you’re looking to date seriously, I expect you be 24 or over and younger than 35. If you’re looking for something casual, I expect you be at least 21 years old; just a maturity thing.
Okay! So let’s begin; I am Val, I love to cook ( I am okay at it but I LOVE IT) and I like making handmade things like décor and sewn things (clothes, pillowcases, plushies etc). I am a high level strategy video gamer (500-1000+ hours in tons of different strategy games each, probably a combined 10k+ hours in all my strategy games I’ve ever played), and I just generally enjoy board gaming; doesn’t matter what, I have fun. _^
I really love “earth tones” and monochromes (browns, greens, whites, blacks); I feel like they look best on me; and personally I love greens and pastel pink in all occasions. If you asked me “Oh Val, how’d you get your name” I am sad to say, I don’t have a very interesting story; I am literally just Val, I picked it out of a hat practically and I’ve been loving it ever since.
On the travel side I really want to head out and explore whole bunch of the country; or I guess, at least the bits that are still safe for trans people to head out and explore; I also want to visit a bunch of Europe someday, especially the Netherlands and specifically Amsterdam, it seems like an utterly beautiful and forward thinking city and my little urban planning nerd brain can’t help but love the idea of seeing it in person.
Personally I’ve watched a ton of anime; there’s not a single isekai released between 2000 – 2021 I have not watched at least a bit of; I am utterly obsessed with the genre and love it to utter death. I also generally like mecha anime; my favorite one of those was “Gundum: Iron Blood Orphans”.
Currently I am working just a humble retail job but I am headed out back to college this coming Fall to start on the pathway to becoming an Engineering Technician. I want to work with mechanical stuff personally since it seems the most interesting me on a personal level; plus, I feel like learning more about it could let me get into more complex craft projects at home, which really appeals to me.
Someday I want to work on a “starship bridge” gaming rig I.e a setup where you convert a whole room into a “working” bridge of a space ship complete with lights, mechanical prop bits; sliding doors, and custom fixtures to bring the whole cohesive experience together into something that makes you feel like you’re on the set of a science fiction movie.
I love the Fall; I am literally so happy to finally live in a place where leaves actually, you know, fall. Its such a radical concept from living in a place where essentially the trees are some shade of green all year round; with winter being barely cold enough down in the part of Texas I lived (South Texas) to be worth a damn to change any leaves to any color other than greenish-yellow. Is it weird to be this excited about dead plants? I think so, but I am rolling with it!
I think I’ve mentioned I like making food? Okay listen to me closely: I love making soups, stews, stir fries and curries as far as “real food” goes; but I am a big candy maker. Lollipops, taffies, hard candies, chocolates just about anything you want; I’ll bring in. I live to feed other people (and my) sweet tooth. Oh, baking is also fun: ever had real chocolate ganache filled/frosted cupcakes? I can make them for ya.
Real talk moment: I… I am afraid honestly that we’ll meet up and I won’t really “fit” compared to in text. Lemme tell you something: I am a scatter brained ditz who couldn’t focus to save her life; I’ll forget important things, let stuff slip past me, have a hard time paying attention; all that classic “ADHD” flavor. Its not me not caring; my brain literally just won’t let me be normal; and I am really sorry but that’s not a “fixable” thing, I will probably get on medications for it in the future; but its a fundamental part of “me” and my brain all the same, its part of the package with me.
Anywho! I am very pet positive; love cats, love dogs; lizards are cuties; I am “okay” with creepies and the crawlies, just keep them away from me; and I absolutely am mesmerized by fish; feathery friends are welcomed, I am personally a fan of pet chickens but I know most people keep something “traditional” like a parrot or a parakeet, and that’s totally fine. I love animals, there was a point in my life where I thought perhaps that I would even like to make it a career, but nowadays I’ve matured and realized I get too attached to do that as a job.
Oh! Come into this prepared with the knowledge that I love the holidays; no not “those” holidays. ALL OF THEM. I am big in particular into Christmas, Thanksgiving, Valentine’s Day and Halloween but I get really into celebrations so you know, if you want that kind of energy in your life, well you know where to find it. I love to decorate; love to participate; love to just experience the joy of those special days of the year. And by the way, I count Birthdays; I will, if you ask, throw you a party even if its just the two of us.
So… dreams right? That’s a one we can get into: have you ever dreamt big dreams? I have two. I want to find a partner who I can be utterly spoiled by #1; and who I can spoil back with my loyalty, acts of service and just generally love for them. I want to start some of kind of business someday; even though I am getting into something technical, food is a life long obsession of mine; I am leaning towards some kind of hand made candy making company that does online orders to be honest; it seems like the most “unique” thing since customizing candies is a remarkably fun process’ that’s #2.
If you’re not okay with someone that gets off topic a lot; forgets things all the time; talks about; gets distracted and just generally isn’t “all there all the time”, you’re not gonna like me, period. I zone out often and a lot and you’re just kinda going to need to either be ready to deal with it, or anything we do isn’t going to work out; that’s the bag with me, sorry in advance for asking you to carry it; I promise I’ll make it worth your while though.
I am the kind of person that will do anything for those in their “sphere” if only I had the means; you earn my love, or trust, or care, or attention and I’ll do just about anything other than focus for more than a minute to repay it (that’s really hard). Just how I am.
In case you’re wondering: I am happiest with a partner that’s very emotionally open; who knows how to communicate well; and who truly enjoys the things I enjoy and I enjoy a lot of things so as long as there’s some decent behavioral overlap, we’ll get along just fine!
Okay, little lightning round to round this off: I wear glasses, I want to get into custom soda making, I love to garden, I write science fiction and fantasy stories, I have a dream car, I want to own an Rv to take regular vacations in, I want to name a dog “Sumo”, I want to get more into console gaming generally, I am ridiculously excited for Starfield, space exploration excites me to no end just in general.
So yeah, this is the Val experience; like, I am kinda all over the place in a ton of different ways, don’t come into this expecting “OMG you’re ADHD? So quirky” kinda tropes; I am very much kinda… missing a screw somewhere (but there’s nothing wrong with that, its just a part of who I am).
So yeah! Come on down and say hi; and remember to specify what you’re responding to and what you’re looking for with me, I am taking all responders.
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