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2023.06.02 00:15 Adventurous-Turn-144 My Partner Experiments Too Much With Food
So, while I'm not a SUPER picky eater per se, I am someone who is picky about the types of food I eat. This Meaning, I am not an adventurous eater, so I don't eat a lot of stuff outside of the basics, but I do eat a variety of foods that the same kinds of ingredients are in. I enjoysinple foods that dont require a lot. I enjoy flavor and variety, but it's unlikely oll vebture out to eat certain kinds of meats and things like that. I'm also particular about texture and texture combination. I also have safe foods, like things I like to keep in the home or have often, and I have my burnout foods. Those are the things I like to eat when I'm low energy and not functioning in the way I usually do, so they're fast and easy more often than not.
With all that said, I am getting frustrated with my Karter and how he cooks. Most of the time, he makes great food, but he always (I've been with him for six years) makes the wildest additions to stuff. I spoke to him a few months ago and asked him why he feels like he has to add extra to very simple things that are already good? For example, he likes to add zucchini and squash to the rice he makes, and I've told him repeatedly that the texture of the rice with those veggies specifically makes enjoying the food really hard. He said he likes to try new things. And it's like...ok, but make your veggies on the side so YOU can add whatever YOU want to your food. Don't make a whole pot of food like that. Or when im like, "i really want some BASIC chocolate chip cookies," he adds stuff to it like cinnamon or ceareal pieces. Or if i want a fried egg sandwhich, he toasts my bread or makes my eggs with the yolk still a little runny EVEN THOUGH IVE BEEN EATING AND MAKING FRIED EGG SANDWHICHES THE SAME EXACT WAY MY ENTIRE LIFE. And then today, he made rice and beans and added carrots and BOLOGNA to it????? Why???? I'm getting super annoyed. He's constantly doing this even though he knows I hate it. For one, this is just ridiculous. For two, why not ask me if that's OK knowing how I am about food? For three, he spends all this extra time on food that I don't even like that much when he's done. I don't wanna waste the food, so I eat it, but it's such a chore. I don't get this. Especially since most of his cooking is really good aside from the weirdo shit he does for damn near every meal. If it isn't broke, don't fix it as they say. I hate to sound ungrateful. He's great to me, and I love that he cooks more than I do, but....It's just dumb and I hate it, and he's getting on my nerves.
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With all that said, I am getting frustrated with my Karter and how he cooks. Most of the time, he makes great food, but he always (I've been with him for six years) makes the wildest additions to stuff. I spoke to him a few months ago and asked him why he feels like he has to add extra to very simple things that are already good? For example, he likes to add zucchini and squash to the rice he makes, and I've told him repeatedly that the texture of the rice with those veggies specifically makes enjoying the food really hard. He said he likes to try new things. And it's like...ok, but make your veggies on the side so YOU can add whatever YOU want to your food. Don't make a whole pot of food like that. Or when im like, "i really want some BASIC chocolate chip cookies," he adds stuff to it like cinnamon or ceareal pieces. Or if i want a fried egg sandwhich, he toasts my bread or makes my eggs with the yolk still a little runny EVEN THOUGH IVE BEEN EATING AND MAKING FRIED EGG SANDWHICHES THE SAME EXACT WAY MY ENTIRE LIFE. And then today, he made rice and beans and added carrots and BOLOGNA to it????? Why???? I'm getting super annoyed. He's constantly doing this even though he knows I hate it. For one, this is just ridiculous. For two, why not ask me if that's OK knowing how I am about food? For three, he spends all this extra time on food that I don't even like that much when he's done. I don't wanna waste the food, so I eat it, but it's such a chore. I don't get this. Especially since most of his cooking is really good aside from the weirdo shit he does for damn near every meal. If it isn't broke, don't fix it as they say. I hate to sound ungrateful. He's great to me, and I love that he cooks more than I do, but....It's just dumb and I hate it, and he's getting on my nerves.
2023.06.02 00:15 NoPumpkinsPlease I took way too much meds and I feel alive for the first time in a while
So yeah im a tiny 17 yo girl with rly fast metabolism and (obviously) very poor self control. I did not sleep at all last night, accidentally took my medicine at like 6 PM and have this huge math exam tomorrow. You probably already know where this is going. I took my regular medicine this morning at like 7 AM(150mg sertraline 70mg Elvanse) and had 8 cups of coffee so far and its 8:50 pm rn. Well yeah Ive been too tired and ig all the elvanse if out of effect I decided to snort it. lol. I mean istg most of us have tried it at some point right? Now I dont do drugs or anything dont worry this was actually my second time ever snorting anything, the first time being when I had 16mg Elvanse. Hahshhsh well yeah. So I snorted my 70mg capsule, which hurt like a bitch lemme just tell u omg, and shit just went south. Then north. then left. and yeah. but its ALL RIGHT NOW HA HA HA. omg stfu
Well its been like an hour and im kinda fine now. I did the whole line in one go which was stupid as fuck cause not soon after I started kinda hearing and feeling my heartbeat going faster and faster and my hand were kinda shaking and I somehow I got rly lightheaded and i just zooned out deeeep for a minute. Then I got so much energy and thoughts and I was walking around switching between playing drums and studying and cooking food and changing my outfit and yeah. AND OMG I HAVENT FELT LIKE THIS IN SO LONG I MISS IT SO MUCH AAAAAAAAAAH
Cause look Ive been on sertraline going up and down between 125mg-175mg(which btw if u dont know is a shit ton of antidepressants) for about two years and have been on elvanse 70mg for like 10months and omggg I dont even think Ive realised how much it just brings you down and just calms you. Like yeah Ive forgotten to take my medicine so many times but those times all I get is withdrawls and shit. But taking way more than u should wtf I felt like myself 2 years ago istg. Suddenly I started having 1000 thoughts at once and so much energy i just wanted to go for a run and I got so many ideas of things I should do and fr recorded like 3 songs. Bro ngl I've missed feeling like this. Ofc I still know why I began the meds in the beginning and I probably wouldnt go back just because all the trouble my ADHD has caused me n shit. But damn have I missed this feeling omg. Still feeling the energy and all that btw if its not noticeable enough lol my heart is fine but my hands r still a little shaky idk. Tbh this was all prob a big mixture of overtiredness, a bit to much caffeine, stress and ofc the meds cause I didnt rly get high yk.
Anyway yeah just wanted to share this experience and yeah uhm please do not try this. I made my friend look up the risks and like if I should have gone to a doctor and istg I was one symptom from calling an ambulance. I wont be doing this again and neither should you ESPECIALLY under similar circumstances. So yeah now both me and you know what it feels like and neither of us should try it again. Okay. Bye. Love u take care.
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Well its been like an hour and im kinda fine now. I did the whole line in one go which was stupid as fuck cause not soon after I started kinda hearing and feeling my heartbeat going faster and faster and my hand were kinda shaking and I somehow I got rly lightheaded and i just zooned out deeeep for a minute. Then I got so much energy and thoughts and I was walking around switching between playing drums and studying and cooking food and changing my outfit and yeah. AND OMG I HAVENT FELT LIKE THIS IN SO LONG I MISS IT SO MUCH AAAAAAAAAAH
Cause look Ive been on sertraline going up and down between 125mg-175mg(which btw if u dont know is a shit ton of antidepressants) for about two years and have been on elvanse 70mg for like 10months and omggg I dont even think Ive realised how much it just brings you down and just calms you. Like yeah Ive forgotten to take my medicine so many times but those times all I get is withdrawls and shit. But taking way more than u should wtf I felt like myself 2 years ago istg. Suddenly I started having 1000 thoughts at once and so much energy i just wanted to go for a run and I got so many ideas of things I should do and fr recorded like 3 songs. Bro ngl I've missed feeling like this. Ofc I still know why I began the meds in the beginning and I probably wouldnt go back just because all the trouble my ADHD has caused me n shit. But damn have I missed this feeling omg. Still feeling the energy and all that btw if its not noticeable enough lol my heart is fine but my hands r still a little shaky idk. Tbh this was all prob a big mixture of overtiredness, a bit to much caffeine, stress and ofc the meds cause I didnt rly get high yk.
Anyway yeah just wanted to share this experience and yeah uhm please do not try this. I made my friend look up the risks and like if I should have gone to a doctor and istg I was one symptom from calling an ambulance. I wont be doing this again and neither should you ESPECIALLY under similar circumstances. So yeah now both me and you know what it feels like and neither of us should try it again. Okay. Bye. Love u take care.
2023.06.02 00:15 Majestic-Bowl-4136 43% Body Fat
I was pretty shocked the other day when I measured my body fat percentage for the first time in over 10 years. I used the InBody machine.
Other details about me: - 34F - 189 lbs - size 12 in pants - pear shaped
I want to fix this, in a sustainable way (ie go at it on my own before I even think of diet pills, etc)
However, I will be traveling to a “foodie city” for work a couple weeks a month until the end of the year. I’ll be at hotels so no kitchen available, and sometimes I’ll need to dine out with coworkers.
Is the following plan feasible ? - Do HIIT workouts (like Orangetheory) a few times every week. Luckily both my home city and my work city have studios. - during my non-travel weeks, eat clean and watch my diet more. - during my travel weeks, eat a light lunch and save most of my calories for dinners with the coworkers but at same time make better decisions with my choices at the restaurant. ie Don’t get the fruity cocktail, etc
I’m NOT expecting fast results. Just want to get back into shape and be healthier.
Anything else that I can do? What is a realistic goal for weight loss and body fat % points reduction with my above plan?
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Other details about me: - 34F - 189 lbs - size 12 in pants - pear shaped
I want to fix this, in a sustainable way (ie go at it on my own before I even think of diet pills, etc)
However, I will be traveling to a “foodie city” for work a couple weeks a month until the end of the year. I’ll be at hotels so no kitchen available, and sometimes I’ll need to dine out with coworkers.
Is the following plan feasible ? - Do HIIT workouts (like Orangetheory) a few times every week. Luckily both my home city and my work city have studios. - during my non-travel weeks, eat clean and watch my diet more. - during my travel weeks, eat a light lunch and save most of my calories for dinners with the coworkers but at same time make better decisions with my choices at the restaurant. ie Don’t get the fruity cocktail, etc
I’m NOT expecting fast results. Just want to get back into shape and be healthier.
Anything else that I can do? What is a realistic goal for weight loss and body fat % points reduction with my above plan?
2023.06.02 00:13 TreasureHunter112 Uncharted PS5 lagging
I posted this in Uncharted subreddit and I will post this here to in case someone can help me.
Hello everyone, I hope you can help me with this weird problem I have with Uncharted: The Legacy of Thieves Collection on PS5. It's really weird and this will be a long post so bear with me.
Anyway, I have a PS5 for two years now and I never had a single issue with it. Recently, I bought Seagate Firecuda 530 2TB SSD and inserted it in expansion slot in my PS5. I just moved one game on it and I continued to use internal PS5 SSD for playing games.
At the time, I was playing God of War: Ragnarok and everything worked just like it did before I put SSD in PS5. Few days ago, I noticed that PS5 struggles to read disc. I turn on the console, put the disc in and PS5 struggles to read it. It takes a bit longer than it did before. Everything works normally but when you put the disc in you can hear the mechanism spinning and then stopping and then spinning again when the disc is read. But this is just a minor problem and it really doesn't bother me all that much.
However, bigger problem is with Uncharted The Legacy of Thieves Collection on PS5. I played the game in June last year and it worked perfectly. I didn't play it since then and I downloaded the patch they released in September 2022 but I didn't play the game since June. Today, I booted up the game and I noticed that the game has all these weired stutters/lags. They happen frequently but they are really noticable when you enter a new room on when a cutscene switches to gameplay. Cutscenes are 90% of the time smooth but they too get some stutter. Like Ragnarok, I played this game off PS5's internal drive. Ragnarok worked fine but this has all these stutters which didn't happen at all last year. I moved this game to SSD I bought and sutters are still present. Also, I noticed that PS5 isn't checking for disc when playing Uncharted every hour or so, but everything (except the stuttering) works normaly. I play in Performance mode on an old 1080p TV.
Does anyone know what causes this stutters? I played Ragnarok two days ago and it played great as always but Uncharted is stuttering whether I play it off PS5's internal of new SSD I bought. Can anyone please help me?
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Hello everyone, I hope you can help me with this weird problem I have with Uncharted: The Legacy of Thieves Collection on PS5. It's really weird and this will be a long post so bear with me.
Anyway, I have a PS5 for two years now and I never had a single issue with it. Recently, I bought Seagate Firecuda 530 2TB SSD and inserted it in expansion slot in my PS5. I just moved one game on it and I continued to use internal PS5 SSD for playing games.
At the time, I was playing God of War: Ragnarok and everything worked just like it did before I put SSD in PS5. Few days ago, I noticed that PS5 struggles to read disc. I turn on the console, put the disc in and PS5 struggles to read it. It takes a bit longer than it did before. Everything works normally but when you put the disc in you can hear the mechanism spinning and then stopping and then spinning again when the disc is read. But this is just a minor problem and it really doesn't bother me all that much.
However, bigger problem is with Uncharted The Legacy of Thieves Collection on PS5. I played the game in June last year and it worked perfectly. I didn't play it since then and I downloaded the patch they released in September 2022 but I didn't play the game since June. Today, I booted up the game and I noticed that the game has all these weired stutters/lags. They happen frequently but they are really noticable when you enter a new room on when a cutscene switches to gameplay. Cutscenes are 90% of the time smooth but they too get some stutter. Like Ragnarok, I played this game off PS5's internal drive. Ragnarok worked fine but this has all these stutters which didn't happen at all last year. I moved this game to SSD I bought and sutters are still present. Also, I noticed that PS5 isn't checking for disc when playing Uncharted every hour or so, but everything (except the stuttering) works normaly. I play in Performance mode on an old 1080p TV.
Does anyone know what causes this stutters? I played Ragnarok two days ago and it played great as always but Uncharted is stuttering whether I play it off PS5's internal of new SSD I bought. Can anyone please help me?
2023.06.02 00:12 Ok_Progress_1710 Alter concepts #2, 3, and 6 (I messed up the order) Yato, Rangers, and 12F. The siege of Rhoads Island.
Event name: The Siege of Rhoads Island.
Event type: integrated strategy
Alter character: Yato, Doctor's Sword. Rangers, Doctor's Bow. 12F, Doctor's shadow.
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We'll start with Yato DS:
Class: specialist, nuker, fast redeploy
Branch: Executioner, but with a comparatively high DP cost compared to other executioner types.
Talent: Demonic presence. When deployed, all enemies in a 5x5 area are afflicted with 'unsettled' for 5 seconds. Unsettled causes a 50% chance to miss ranged attacks and reduces melee damage by 25%.
E2 talent upgrade: Unsettling fear now lasts 10 seconds and slows enemies by 10%.
Default ability, passive: Deals 500% ATK to all enemies in a 3x3 area. Yato DS will automatically retreat after 10 seconds and her deployment cost will not increase.
E1 ability, offensive recovery, auto: Oni's fury. The next attack strikes 5 times in half a second, dealing 120% ATK on the first, third, and fifth hit, and 100% ATK as arts damage on the second and fourth hit.
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Rangers DB:
Class: sniper, DPS, crowd control
Branch: Heavy shooter, prioritizes enemies with the lowest DEF.
Talent: Draconic presence. When deployed, ranged operators in a 5x5 area granted 'Inspired'. Inspired gives allies +25% ASPD.
E2 talent upgrade: Increases the ASPD boost to 30% and reduces damage taken by inspired operators by 5%.
Default ability, offensive recovery, auto: Dragon's focus. ATK doubles and half of the damage dealt is now arts damage. ASPD -50%. Unlimited duration.
E1 ability, auto recovery, manual: Inspired ranged operators will change their attack priorities. First priority is now unblockable enemies, second priority is now enemies with the highest ATK, third priority is now ranged enemies. (Operators that prioritize flying enemies will keep their normal priorities.)
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12F, DS:
Class: caster, DP recovery, survival
Branch: Mystic caster. When there are no enemies in range, attacks will be turned into 5 DP after not being used for 10 seconds.
Talent: Beastly presence. 12F DS can be deployed on ground tiles and is a 2 block. When deployed, all ground operators gain +50% DEF and +10 RES.
E2 talent upgrade: If there are any alter operators in the team (including 12F DS), 12F DS gains a shield equal to 25% HP times the number of alter operators. (Maximum of 200%)
Default ability, auto recovery, auto: gain a shield equal to 25% HP. Stacks with other shields, but still cannot exceed 200% HP.
E1 ability, defensive recovery, manual: Wyvern's rejection. For 20 seconds, taking damage charges 12F DS's next attack, when the 20 seconds are over, the damage of the next attack is multiplied by the number of hits taken. Cannot surpass 10x.
Example: if hit once, the next attack deals 1x damage. If hit twice, the next attack deals 2x damage. If hit 10 times, the next attack will deal 10x damage.
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Appearances:
For E0-1, all three operators maintain their normal appearances, the only change is in their cloths.
Yato has gotten herself an oni mask, one which bares the scowling face of traditional Chinese guard dog statues. She also has a second sword in a sheath behind her back.
Rangers now wears an Olympic archery competition uniform and has an elaborate flower petal design engraved on his bow and arrow quiver. (YOSTAR PLEASE ADD A COSTUME LIKE THIS TO THE BASE GAME!)
12F brandishes a tanto knife in his right hand, and has replaced his wand with a staff that he holds in his left hand. His jacket has been improved, with a hexagon patterned kevlar plate guarding his front and back. The sleeves are also shorter.
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After their E2 promotions, all three operators undergo a similar change. The background of their E2 art shows the other two operators standing behind the main operator, all wearing their E2 designs.
For E2, their respective cloths gain a medal on the chest, right over where the heart is. The medals resemble gold potential tokens.
Other E2 changes include Yato now holding both her swords, Rangers knocking (loading) An arrow onto his bow, and 12F gazing at his reflection in his tanto blade.
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Voice lines.
Operator aquired:
Yato: "Doctor, I'm glad to see that you unharmed after the siege. If such a thing happens again, please don't stray from my side."
Rangers: "Well, how do I look? Heh, I found this uniform in a storage locker while retaking Rhoads Island. It reminds you of the simpler times, does it not?"
12F: "Hmm, doctor? Yes, this is so I can better protect you. Hah! Don't worry, I won't start acting like Gravel."
Promotion:
Yato: "These blades grow ever sharper... hopefully I won't need them one day."
Rangers: "My aim has gotten better. Hey doctor, toss that target in the air!"
12F: "Yet another honor you have bestowed apon me. Thank you, doctor."
Mission begins:
Yato: "Keep close doctor. There's no telling when an ambush may strike."
Rangers: Coming right at us, are they? Alright then, LET'S DANCE!"
12F: "And thus the chess game begins..."
Trust tap:
Yato: "Ahhh, thank you doctor, my shoulders were really stiff."
Rangers: "Hey doctor, if you aren't busy, would you like me to teach you some archery?"
12F: "Hmm, I never accounted for such a move. I do believe that is checkmate."
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Event type: integrated strategy
Alter character: Yato, Doctor's Sword. Rangers, Doctor's Bow. 12F, Doctor's shadow.
++++++++++++++
We'll start with Yato DS:
Class: specialist, nuker, fast redeploy
Branch: Executioner, but with a comparatively high DP cost compared to other executioner types.
Talent: Demonic presence. When deployed, all enemies in a 5x5 area are afflicted with 'unsettled' for 5 seconds. Unsettled causes a 50% chance to miss ranged attacks and reduces melee damage by 25%.
E2 talent upgrade: Unsettling fear now lasts 10 seconds and slows enemies by 10%.
Default ability, passive: Deals 500% ATK to all enemies in a 3x3 area. Yato DS will automatically retreat after 10 seconds and her deployment cost will not increase.
E1 ability, offensive recovery, auto: Oni's fury. The next attack strikes 5 times in half a second, dealing 120% ATK on the first, third, and fifth hit, and 100% ATK as arts damage on the second and fourth hit.
+++++++++++++++++++
Rangers DB:
Class: sniper, DPS, crowd control
Branch: Heavy shooter, prioritizes enemies with the lowest DEF.
Talent: Draconic presence. When deployed, ranged operators in a 5x5 area granted 'Inspired'. Inspired gives allies +25% ASPD.
E2 talent upgrade: Increases the ASPD boost to 30% and reduces damage taken by inspired operators by 5%.
Default ability, offensive recovery, auto: Dragon's focus. ATK doubles and half of the damage dealt is now arts damage. ASPD -50%. Unlimited duration.
E1 ability, auto recovery, manual: Inspired ranged operators will change their attack priorities. First priority is now unblockable enemies, second priority is now enemies with the highest ATK, third priority is now ranged enemies. (Operators that prioritize flying enemies will keep their normal priorities.)
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12F, DS:
Class: caster, DP recovery, survival
Branch: Mystic caster. When there are no enemies in range, attacks will be turned into 5 DP after not being used for 10 seconds.
Talent: Beastly presence. 12F DS can be deployed on ground tiles and is a 2 block. When deployed, all ground operators gain +50% DEF and +10 RES.
E2 talent upgrade: If there are any alter operators in the team (including 12F DS), 12F DS gains a shield equal to 25% HP times the number of alter operators. (Maximum of 200%)
Default ability, auto recovery, auto: gain a shield equal to 25% HP. Stacks with other shields, but still cannot exceed 200% HP.
E1 ability, defensive recovery, manual: Wyvern's rejection. For 20 seconds, taking damage charges 12F DS's next attack, when the 20 seconds are over, the damage of the next attack is multiplied by the number of hits taken. Cannot surpass 10x.
Example: if hit once, the next attack deals 1x damage. If hit twice, the next attack deals 2x damage. If hit 10 times, the next attack will deal 10x damage.
++++++++++++++++++
Appearances:
For E0-1, all three operators maintain their normal appearances, the only change is in their cloths.
Yato has gotten herself an oni mask, one which bares the scowling face of traditional Chinese guard dog statues. She also has a second sword in a sheath behind her back.
Rangers now wears an Olympic archery competition uniform and has an elaborate flower petal design engraved on his bow and arrow quiver. (YOSTAR PLEASE ADD A COSTUME LIKE THIS TO THE BASE GAME!)
12F brandishes a tanto knife in his right hand, and has replaced his wand with a staff that he holds in his left hand. His jacket has been improved, with a hexagon patterned kevlar plate guarding his front and back. The sleeves are also shorter.
+++++++++++++++
After their E2 promotions, all three operators undergo a similar change. The background of their E2 art shows the other two operators standing behind the main operator, all wearing their E2 designs.
For E2, their respective cloths gain a medal on the chest, right over where the heart is. The medals resemble gold potential tokens.
Other E2 changes include Yato now holding both her swords, Rangers knocking (loading) An arrow onto his bow, and 12F gazing at his reflection in his tanto blade.
+++++++++++++++++
Voice lines.
Operator aquired:
Yato: "Doctor, I'm glad to see that you unharmed after the siege. If such a thing happens again, please don't stray from my side."
Rangers: "Well, how do I look? Heh, I found this uniform in a storage locker while retaking Rhoads Island. It reminds you of the simpler times, does it not?"
12F: "Hmm, doctor? Yes, this is so I can better protect you. Hah! Don't worry, I won't start acting like Gravel."
Promotion:
Yato: "These blades grow ever sharper... hopefully I won't need them one day."
Rangers: "My aim has gotten better. Hey doctor, toss that target in the air!"
12F: "Yet another honor you have bestowed apon me. Thank you, doctor."
Mission begins:
Yato: "Keep close doctor. There's no telling when an ambush may strike."
Rangers: Coming right at us, are they? Alright then, LET'S DANCE!"
12F: "And thus the chess game begins..."
Trust tap:
Yato: "Ahhh, thank you doctor, my shoulders were really stiff."
Rangers: "Hey doctor, if you aren't busy, would you like me to teach you some archery?"
12F: "Hmm, I never accounted for such a move. I do believe that is checkmate."
2023.06.02 00:12 LifeLibertyPancakes Olivier & Sandrine: "Martin, you can't move to Portugal!" Olivier & Sandrine: "We're moving to Brazil!"
I recently started watching this show and have to say that I was surprised at how Olivier & Sandrine reacted when Martin told his parents that Eve and him were going to be moving to Portugal for the new job that Eve had landed in her architectural firm as it would help her career grow (pre covid). Martin's parents and brothes (except Raphael) had a freaking temper tantrum at the idea of him moving away. When Olivier told Martin to "think of the family!" Martin responded with "I am. I'm thinking of MY family." Olivier was not having it and made sure everyone knew how Martin had ruined his news of the boat purchase. THEN you fast forward to S3, Final episode, where Olivier and Sandrine announce they not only bought a house in Brazil (a whole different continent!) but that they're handing over the reins! I couldn't help but feel how they both came out as such hypocrites, as you recall, Sandrine argued that she wouldn't get to see Martin's kids if he moved, that the family dynamic would be 'off,' they wouldn't be able to have family dinners anymore or see one another as often. When Martin pointed out that Portugal was only a one hour flight and that she could still see them on the weekends for a quick visit, she angrily replied with "that's not the same! A weekend is not the same, it's not enough time!"
SAY WHAT?!?! So they bitch and moan about their daughter-in-law advancing her career and their son supporting her, while at the same time he was willing to grow the real estate business in Portugal and they shoot him down (Covid also played a part), but then they throw the bombshell of "We're moving to a different country, good luck guys." The level of hypocrisy and wanting to have control over the lives and decisions of your married children and their families. WTF. I wish Martin would've had a bigger back bone and had spoken up during the news blitz at the beach.
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SAY WHAT?!?! So they bitch and moan about their daughter-in-law advancing her career and their son supporting her, while at the same time he was willing to grow the real estate business in Portugal and they shoot him down (Covid also played a part), but then they throw the bombshell of "We're moving to a different country, good luck guys." The level of hypocrisy and wanting to have control over the lives and decisions of your married children and their families. WTF. I wish Martin would've had a bigger back bone and had spoken up during the news blitz at the beach.
2023.06.02 00:11 Academic_Tie_2512 She tried to kill me. she was supposed to kill me.
Foresight: late 20’s male, USA; prior military
The dream is vivid and only slightly lucid ( it still has a script apparently and it goes based on my reactions it seems)
Setting : European style church
Im dressed in ceremonial dress attire aswell as my dream father
I hear the priest say “I don’t want him in the ceremony.”
As im walking behind my dream father he gestures to stay while walking through the door.
The ceremony ( of which I have no idea what for, whom, etc )
In attendance is clergy and seemingly members of military uniforms unknown. Their uniforms resemble dated tunics and golden shoulder pads.
Military members and other civilians start slaughtering the church members and clergy as the “Ceremony begins”
(in my mind) “this is the beginning of genocide”
I don’t run I don’t panic I just watch. After a few seconds I just sit down in a pew trying to understand the meaning of this dream.
I look to my right and there is this young woman (mid 20’s) she had blonde hair and she was beautiful. Her eyes were an amazing silver. We lock eyes and she stabs me in the right shoulder with an ice pick. I don’t react. I don’t feel it. We stay eyes locked. ( I AM MEZMORIZED BY HER EYES)
She says, “your just gonna watch that. And not expect this to happen?”
she takes it out and slashes in between my groin and abdomen. She gets up as our eyes are locked still
I say “ oh no, I understand” ( I still don’t react. I don’t move.) her eyes go from confident and filled with purpose. To confusion and sadness as she slowly walks away.
(BLACKOUT) - I awake in real life ( in my mind ) “that cant be it. I want back in that dream” (im successful)
Now im in the basement of the church. I hear people being finished and begging for their life.
(in my mind) “I want to die in the sunlight, this doesn’t seem it”
I start fumbling and running into a catacomb like underground until I reach the end and im somewhat blinded by sunlight. I look towards it. Its her. And three of her “friends” (all brunettes and beautiful and never engaging vocally with me)
She say’s “come on your bleeding out, lets go.” – I follow
Now we are outside in a new setting ( somewhat European and middle eastern ; can be compared to up and coming Bahrain in the mid 2010’s ; brand new tall white beautiful walls, buildings growing with scaffolding and the only pollution is concrete dust and small construction debris)
We are all walking towards a hotel ( I’m seemingly healed ) local law enforcement approaches us and he asks the blonde. “ where are yall going? Who is this?”
I look at her. She looks back. Then speaks to the officer “ this is -------- “( a name I can not pronounce or remember, it had an European and middle eastern feel to it )
The officer is distracted by one of her friends. The blonde hands me a bill.
“give this to him, he’ll go away”. – I grab it.
I look at it. It has a 3 and 1\2 numeral. And looks like a combination of a Euro and a Dinar. No visible governmental figure. – he grabs it and says “thank you sir” and goes about his day.
We get to the hotel. All of sudden her friends have a man and they’re pushing him past the mud room. ( first entrance to take off shoes and etc, its essentially a front porch but enclosed )
One of them says “ THIS MOTHERFUCKER JUST STARTED BEATING ME FOR NO REASON”
I close to the door to mudroom in assistance and they are stomping and beating this man senseless.
Im shaking my head up and down and (in my mind) “these girls are pretty fuckin’ awesome”
I hear the blonde in the mudroom she’s audibly struggling and making noise and I hear herself slam herself against the wall a couple times in hesitation. Im confused thinking shes being attacked but its just her in there. She stabbed herself in the side 2 to 3 times with the help of the wall. ( I don’t think she had the heart to just straight up do it, she had to fall into the wall and force herself into it. )
I open the door quick and inquisitive; she perks up and try’s to hide what she just did. thinking a smile will make the cause for concern go away.
BLACKOUT ( A FUCKIN GAIN I awake. ---- as before i know there is still more. ) I fall back asleep.
Now were walking down the street all of us. Twilight is beginning . the brunettes are in front. im in the middle and the blonde is behind me a couple feet apart. The brunettes stop in their tracks with maps trying to assess where to go. so they stop. I stop just short of them. The blonde bumps into me because she didn’t notice. I can see her. Her eyes still amazingly silver but they’re filled with tears and pain, she’s wincing.
I approach and say. “breathe ( gesturing nose first and out the mouth) you need to breathe. Do it with me” (still gesturing) and the brunettes surround the blonde and I, in a hugging circle, and they’re helping to get her breathing under control. She’s got it down and it has seemed to work.
Then the blonde comes in to me and kisses me. THE most passionate kiss I have ever had (topping real life experiences) this lasted about 10-15 seconds.
I Awake. And I cant go back and see the rest of this out because I awoke 7 minutes before my alarm.
It pains me that I cant. I just don’t understand any of it, but I want back in.
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The dream is vivid and only slightly lucid ( it still has a script apparently and it goes based on my reactions it seems)
Setting : European style church
Im dressed in ceremonial dress attire aswell as my dream father
I hear the priest say “I don’t want him in the ceremony.”
As im walking behind my dream father he gestures to stay while walking through the door.
The ceremony ( of which I have no idea what for, whom, etc )
In attendance is clergy and seemingly members of military uniforms unknown. Their uniforms resemble dated tunics and golden shoulder pads.
Military members and other civilians start slaughtering the church members and clergy as the “Ceremony begins”
(in my mind) “this is the beginning of genocide”
I don’t run I don’t panic I just watch. After a few seconds I just sit down in a pew trying to understand the meaning of this dream.
I look to my right and there is this young woman (mid 20’s) she had blonde hair and she was beautiful. Her eyes were an amazing silver. We lock eyes and she stabs me in the right shoulder with an ice pick. I don’t react. I don’t feel it. We stay eyes locked. ( I AM MEZMORIZED BY HER EYES)
She says, “your just gonna watch that. And not expect this to happen?”
she takes it out and slashes in between my groin and abdomen. She gets up as our eyes are locked still
I say “ oh no, I understand” ( I still don’t react. I don’t move.) her eyes go from confident and filled with purpose. To confusion and sadness as she slowly walks away.
(BLACKOUT) - I awake in real life ( in my mind ) “that cant be it. I want back in that dream” (im successful)
Now im in the basement of the church. I hear people being finished and begging for their life.
(in my mind) “I want to die in the sunlight, this doesn’t seem it”
I start fumbling and running into a catacomb like underground until I reach the end and im somewhat blinded by sunlight. I look towards it. Its her. And three of her “friends” (all brunettes and beautiful and never engaging vocally with me)
She say’s “come on your bleeding out, lets go.” – I follow
Now we are outside in a new setting ( somewhat European and middle eastern ; can be compared to up and coming Bahrain in the mid 2010’s ; brand new tall white beautiful walls, buildings growing with scaffolding and the only pollution is concrete dust and small construction debris)
We are all walking towards a hotel ( I’m seemingly healed ) local law enforcement approaches us and he asks the blonde. “ where are yall going? Who is this?”
I look at her. She looks back. Then speaks to the officer “ this is -------- “( a name I can not pronounce or remember, it had an European and middle eastern feel to it )
The officer is distracted by one of her friends. The blonde hands me a bill.
“give this to him, he’ll go away”. – I grab it.
I look at it. It has a 3 and 1\2 numeral. And looks like a combination of a Euro and a Dinar. No visible governmental figure. – he grabs it and says “thank you sir” and goes about his day.
We get to the hotel. All of sudden her friends have a man and they’re pushing him past the mud room. ( first entrance to take off shoes and etc, its essentially a front porch but enclosed )
One of them says “ THIS MOTHERFUCKER JUST STARTED BEATING ME FOR NO REASON”
I close to the door to mudroom in assistance and they are stomping and beating this man senseless.
Im shaking my head up and down and (in my mind) “these girls are pretty fuckin’ awesome”
I hear the blonde in the mudroom she’s audibly struggling and making noise and I hear herself slam herself against the wall a couple times in hesitation. Im confused thinking shes being attacked but its just her in there. She stabbed herself in the side 2 to 3 times with the help of the wall. ( I don’t think she had the heart to just straight up do it, she had to fall into the wall and force herself into it. )
I open the door quick and inquisitive; she perks up and try’s to hide what she just did. thinking a smile will make the cause for concern go away.
BLACKOUT ( A FUCKIN GAIN I awake. ---- as before i know there is still more. ) I fall back asleep.
Now were walking down the street all of us. Twilight is beginning . the brunettes are in front. im in the middle and the blonde is behind me a couple feet apart. The brunettes stop in their tracks with maps trying to assess where to go. so they stop. I stop just short of them. The blonde bumps into me because she didn’t notice. I can see her. Her eyes still amazingly silver but they’re filled with tears and pain, she’s wincing.
I approach and say. “breathe ( gesturing nose first and out the mouth) you need to breathe. Do it with me” (still gesturing) and the brunettes surround the blonde and I, in a hugging circle, and they’re helping to get her breathing under control. She’s got it down and it has seemed to work.
Then the blonde comes in to me and kisses me. THE most passionate kiss I have ever had (topping real life experiences) this lasted about 10-15 seconds.
I Awake. And I cant go back and see the rest of this out because I awoke 7 minutes before my alarm.
It pains me that I cant. I just don’t understand any of it, but I want back in.
2023.06.02 00:11 CobraPanther99 In honor of The Finals starting tonight, I’ve decided to embark on a journey to get all teams in the NBA to win a title that have never done so before (via sim). More details below.
 | The goal is simple, will see how long it takes to get every NBA team to win a championship. I will user every team that has never won and keep track of how long it takes each team to get that elusive first title. submitted by CobraPanther99 to NBA2k [link] [comments] Each time I win a title with a team that has never won, I will un-user that team and ler the CPU fly with it from there. My goal is to not trade between the teams I’m usering, but I will allow myself to compete against my own teams in terms of free agency. With my sim of the 2022-23 Finals (using the “Start Today” feature, the Nuggets beat the Heat 4-1, so I will be un-usering Denver. |
2023.06.02 00:10 TheArchon300 Top 5 mistakes players make in the Field Office Boiler battle
The hardest boss battle in the game, defeating the Boiler requires strategic planning beyond knowing predetermined gag combos. Having done a plethora of Field Offices in both random and arranged teams, here are some common mistakes I see amongst the players. Hopefully this will shed some light on how to make Field Offices more streamlined and less chaotic.
1) Suboptimal use of level 6 gags
The obvious example is opening with Storm Clouds instead of cream pies in 2+ star Field Offices. In a 1 star Storm Clouds are better, but in 2+ stars, you want to maximize the damage bonus during Fired Up phases. Unless you plan on restocking, start with 4 cream pies.
Another one is when to use Cakes or Storm Clouds. Most groups opt to use Cakes for all 3 turns during the 1st Fired Up phase, but a better tactic is to use Cakes, then Clouds, then Cakes (+ TU when necessary). While Cakes deal more damage, alternating between Throw and Squirt allows your team to play around Quality Control. If you use all your cakes and the Boiler siphons away squirt, you'll be left without a strong gag the following 2 turns. You'll need to use all your Clouds and Cakes to destroy the Boiler, so the sacrifice in damage doesn't matter in the end.
2) Suboptimal use of level 7 gags
Level 7 gags are used frequently on the Boiler, but treating them as merely another level 6 is doing a disservice. Wedding Cakes and Geysers affect all cogs, so their opportune time is after the Boiler leaves Defensive phase as they will kill surviving cogs in the process. If you are delivering the coup de grace, by all means use them, otherwise save them to get more bang for your buck.
Opera is used turn 2 when level 14+ cogs are present. You only need 1 Opera + 3 Fog to kill these, any extra are better saved until Boiler Fires Up. If 3 cogs die to Fogs, consider using Drop instead. The same principle applies to Soundless toons deciding whether to use Sound SOS.
3) Using remotes on weak cogs
Cogs in a 1 star are easily dispatched with Lure+Trap or Squirt+Drop. As long as your group kills 2-3 of the strongest cogs Turn 1, then heal and kill survivors before new cogs arrive next turn, you do not need remotes. Cogs in 2-3 stars can be dealt with the same way if no one is low on laff. Barring that, 1 damage + 1 healing while the other 2 toons attack or heal is usually sufficient. Putting 4 remotes during Defensive phase is redundant or even undesirable* in most cases.
*Level 8 cogs die to two lvl 1 damage remotes, Level 9 cogs die to two lvl 2 damage remotes.
4) Not being fast enough when elevator cogs appear
It is almost always better to pick a gag before elevator cogs join the fray. This is doubly true in the Boiler battle where undamaged cogs get promoted.
5) Healing at the right times
Given how much damage the Boiler inflicts, Toon up is essential for a successful run. When the Boiler is Fired Up, you want to deal as much damage as your team can get away with. Thus it is imperative to memorize laff thresholds, or minimum laff needed to survive a boiler attack. Any lower and healing is required. Also pay attention whether or not burn damage is in effect. For example, to tank a hit from 3 star Boiler a Toon needs at least 54 laff, 72 with burn damage. As for Toon up Unites, it pays to wait until you see what attack the Boiler uses before popping one.
There are a few examples of mistakes that can be avoided with adequate planning and coordination. If there are others you have seen, feel free to share below.
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1) Suboptimal use of level 6 gags
The obvious example is opening with Storm Clouds instead of cream pies in 2+ star Field Offices. In a 1 star Storm Clouds are better, but in 2+ stars, you want to maximize the damage bonus during Fired Up phases. Unless you plan on restocking, start with 4 cream pies.
Another one is when to use Cakes or Storm Clouds. Most groups opt to use Cakes for all 3 turns during the 1st Fired Up phase, but a better tactic is to use Cakes, then Clouds, then Cakes (+ TU when necessary). While Cakes deal more damage, alternating between Throw and Squirt allows your team to play around Quality Control. If you use all your cakes and the Boiler siphons away squirt, you'll be left without a strong gag the following 2 turns. You'll need to use all your Clouds and Cakes to destroy the Boiler, so the sacrifice in damage doesn't matter in the end.
2) Suboptimal use of level 7 gags
Level 7 gags are used frequently on the Boiler, but treating them as merely another level 6 is doing a disservice. Wedding Cakes and Geysers affect all cogs, so their opportune time is after the Boiler leaves Defensive phase as they will kill surviving cogs in the process. If you are delivering the coup de grace, by all means use them, otherwise save them to get more bang for your buck.
Opera is used turn 2 when level 14+ cogs are present. You only need 1 Opera + 3 Fog to kill these, any extra are better saved until Boiler Fires Up. If 3 cogs die to Fogs, consider using Drop instead. The same principle applies to Soundless toons deciding whether to use Sound SOS.
3) Using remotes on weak cogs
Cogs in a 1 star are easily dispatched with Lure+Trap or Squirt+Drop. As long as your group kills 2-3 of the strongest cogs Turn 1, then heal and kill survivors before new cogs arrive next turn, you do not need remotes. Cogs in 2-3 stars can be dealt with the same way if no one is low on laff. Barring that, 1 damage + 1 healing while the other 2 toons attack or heal is usually sufficient. Putting 4 remotes during Defensive phase is redundant or even undesirable* in most cases.
*Level 8 cogs die to two lvl 1 damage remotes, Level 9 cogs die to two lvl 2 damage remotes.
4) Not being fast enough when elevator cogs appear
It is almost always better to pick a gag before elevator cogs join the fray. This is doubly true in the Boiler battle where undamaged cogs get promoted.
5) Healing at the right times
Given how much damage the Boiler inflicts, Toon up is essential for a successful run. When the Boiler is Fired Up, you want to deal as much damage as your team can get away with. Thus it is imperative to memorize laff thresholds, or minimum laff needed to survive a boiler attack. Any lower and healing is required. Also pay attention whether or not burn damage is in effect. For example, to tank a hit from 3 star Boiler a Toon needs at least 54 laff, 72 with burn damage. As for Toon up Unites, it pays to wait until you see what attack the Boiler uses before popping one.
There are a few examples of mistakes that can be avoided with adequate planning and coordination. If there are others you have seen, feel free to share below.
2023.06.02 00:10 JacksonDavinci [PC] [probably 2000] a game where you fight in a dungeon looking place
Its a top down view game where you choose a character to fight with one of the characters had bow and arrows, you'd walk in a place that looks like a dungeon killing monsters and some times a room would open and lots of mice would come out and you have to kill them fast, i remember also you could sometimes find bombs i think which helps you kill a larg number of enemies at the same time
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2023.06.02 00:10 Dieguete_Yo LFM People: Say Hello to your new Latifi
And it'll be me! As I just got my license for LFM!
I'm making this post summarizing my learning and giving some useful tips that helped me get here. This was my first sim and the first time I got serious on it:
1.- Forget of learning all the tracks: Get some variety of tracks and use a while to go around them, don't worry about the times, just learn the track, go fast and learn to go on the limit. One trick I also used to myself was to put the track conditions to "fast", as that gave me some leverage for the time.
2.- Give it time! And be patient, you cannot learn in a couple of days, and if you see somebody saying "it took me 10 hours to get the license", they are experienced simracers. You'll need easily 10 hours to learn a single track, without having a competent race pace. Just forget about that, you'll get there.
3.- Don't put the AI too aggresive: Practicing against the AI is the best to learn to be predictable, drive safe and get yourself used to trac conditions during a race. If you put too high aggresive AI, they will dive bomb like crazy and you're not really learning. Also, don't make short races, the key for this is consistency, and if you are able to make 30-45 minute races without issues, you're there.
Once you got this, practice a bit the license server, any other track will just need a few hours practice and a touch on your setup. With just this and practice I got through.
I wish you luck guys! Hope to see you all on the track soon!
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I'm making this post summarizing my learning and giving some useful tips that helped me get here. This was my first sim and the first time I got serious on it:
1.- Forget of learning all the tracks: Get some variety of tracks and use a while to go around them, don't worry about the times, just learn the track, go fast and learn to go on the limit. One trick I also used to myself was to put the track conditions to "fast", as that gave me some leverage for the time.
2.- Give it time! And be patient, you cannot learn in a couple of days, and if you see somebody saying "it took me 10 hours to get the license", they are experienced simracers. You'll need easily 10 hours to learn a single track, without having a competent race pace. Just forget about that, you'll get there.
3.- Don't put the AI too aggresive: Practicing against the AI is the best to learn to be predictable, drive safe and get yourself used to trac conditions during a race. If you put too high aggresive AI, they will dive bomb like crazy and you're not really learning. Also, don't make short races, the key for this is consistency, and if you are able to make 30-45 minute races without issues, you're there.
Once you got this, practice a bit the license server, any other track will just need a few hours practice and a touch on your setup. With just this and practice I got through.
I wish you luck guys! Hope to see you all on the track soon!
2023.06.02 00:10 Misfit-for-Hire Misfit’s Sober Songs #1
As of the thirtieth day of May in 2023, it has been one year since I last drank alcohol. Day 1 was Memorial Day last year, when I woke up after another night of binge drinking and felt so sick I could hardly remember my name. I eventually managed to get up and feed my pets (later than they would like), then crawled straight back into bed. The rest of that day was a tossing, turning, fever dream blur as I went in and out of sleep, waiting until 6 PM when I planned to go to a recovery meeting. I had been to them before, but not regularly. That day I had reached a critical mass of desperation and was willing to try again. I eventually dragged myself out of bed again, got some nasty fast food in an effort to feel less like microwaved death, and showed up at the meeting. I was weepy, pissed off, and disheveled. But I spoke up for the first time at that meeting, went to dinner with people after, and finally managed to start stringing together consecutive sober days.
Memorial Day this year was similar in that I stayed in bed most of the day, but just because I had returned from a week-long work trip the night before. I wasn’t sick or anxious or ashamed, just righteously exhausted.
With one alcohol-free year behind me, I find that I still have a strange feeling of…waiting. As if sobriety is like being put in time-out, and eventually some adult will come along and say “Okay, Misfit, the egg timer went off! You can go back to your regularly scheduled drinking now”. I can clearly see the benefits of not drinking: no longer throwing up daily, having all my brain cells in play again, etc. But some part of me still isn’t sold on it and misses having the option to douse my general existential angst in vodka. The escape hatch is gone and all the problems that were there before…are still there. The adult came around after all, but instead of releasing me from time-out, they said “Congratulations, Misfit! You have achieved Basic Sobriety! Now you can get down to the business of confronting your trauma, learning more productive coping skills, and deciding what you really want to do with your life!”
Thanks, I hate it.
All that to say, I feel like my second year of sobriety may actually be harder. To avoid returning to drinking out of sheer panic at some point, I'm giving myself a project here. Music has been a big support through all of this. In the boredom that is early sobriety, I often distracted myself with TikTok videos and started picking up new music and artists from them. Later, I reconnected with old favorites and started to remember what life was like before addiction. Now, I still have a hard time feeling positive emotions (which has been the case for years), but music tends to be one of the things that can reach through the anhedonic haze. I will make a post here each day to tell anyone who cares to read about a song that has meant something to me since reaching this side of sobriety. I’m going to start with songs that I remember from early sobriety and see where it goes from there.
Sober Song #1
[Put The Gun Down - Andy Black](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TF8XyBXEEs4)
Here's where it starts, another night alone in the dark
Hate is running through my veins
Steady now I'm takin' aim
The darkness of day, all the skies are turning to grey
I can't tune the voices out
How'd they get so goddamn loud?
Oh, cause there's a side, another side of me that can't get out
A darker side that no one knows about
Can't anybody hear me?
Can't anybody see me?
Cause I think I lost my way
Put the gun down, Just put the gun down
Will anybody watch me?
Is someone gonna stop me?
This could be my last mistake
Put the gun down, just put the gun down, down
This song encapsulates one of the first realizations I had that would eventually push me toward taking action on sobriety: the realization that I could drink myself into a stupor, into the gutter, into the grave if that’s what I was determined to do. Nobody can force you to stop but you. It also describes how I felt like nobody noticed how much of a problem I was starting to have. I was a pretty functional alcoholic and a lot of my hardest drinking was alone, at home, during COVID. My family, friends, and colleagues didn’t notice anything amiss over Zoom. I eventually realized I felt resentful over that, like I was drowning right in front of them but they didn’t even see it. My mean internal voice had always been there, but suddenly it was so loud that I was desperate for anything to make it stop. I was “cold and shut off”, sitting at home most nights with a figurative gun aimed at my own head. I wondered to myself: “If this gets bad enough, will someone stop me? They’ll eventually figure it out and do something, won’t they?” The answer was no. I had to be the one to break my own cycle of self harm. I had to make the choice to put the gun down.
I hope you found this interesting and enjoy the song. IWNDWYT. <3
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Memorial Day this year was similar in that I stayed in bed most of the day, but just because I had returned from a week-long work trip the night before. I wasn’t sick or anxious or ashamed, just righteously exhausted.
With one alcohol-free year behind me, I find that I still have a strange feeling of…waiting. As if sobriety is like being put in time-out, and eventually some adult will come along and say “Okay, Misfit, the egg timer went off! You can go back to your regularly scheduled drinking now”. I can clearly see the benefits of not drinking: no longer throwing up daily, having all my brain cells in play again, etc. But some part of me still isn’t sold on it and misses having the option to douse my general existential angst in vodka. The escape hatch is gone and all the problems that were there before…are still there. The adult came around after all, but instead of releasing me from time-out, they said “Congratulations, Misfit! You have achieved Basic Sobriety! Now you can get down to the business of confronting your trauma, learning more productive coping skills, and deciding what you really want to do with your life!”
Thanks, I hate it.
All that to say, I feel like my second year of sobriety may actually be harder. To avoid returning to drinking out of sheer panic at some point, I'm giving myself a project here. Music has been a big support through all of this. In the boredom that is early sobriety, I often distracted myself with TikTok videos and started picking up new music and artists from them. Later, I reconnected with old favorites and started to remember what life was like before addiction. Now, I still have a hard time feeling positive emotions (which has been the case for years), but music tends to be one of the things that can reach through the anhedonic haze. I will make a post here each day to tell anyone who cares to read about a song that has meant something to me since reaching this side of sobriety. I’m going to start with songs that I remember from early sobriety and see where it goes from there.
Sober Song #1
[Put The Gun Down - Andy Black](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TF8XyBXEEs4)
Here's where it starts, another night alone in the dark
Hate is running through my veins
Steady now I'm takin' aim
The darkness of day, all the skies are turning to grey
I can't tune the voices out
How'd they get so goddamn loud?
Oh, cause there's a side, another side of me that can't get out
A darker side that no one knows about
Can't anybody hear me?
Can't anybody see me?
Cause I think I lost my way
Put the gun down, Just put the gun down
Will anybody watch me?
Is someone gonna stop me?
This could be my last mistake
Put the gun down, just put the gun down, down
This song encapsulates one of the first realizations I had that would eventually push me toward taking action on sobriety: the realization that I could drink myself into a stupor, into the gutter, into the grave if that’s what I was determined to do. Nobody can force you to stop but you. It also describes how I felt like nobody noticed how much of a problem I was starting to have. I was a pretty functional alcoholic and a lot of my hardest drinking was alone, at home, during COVID. My family, friends, and colleagues didn’t notice anything amiss over Zoom. I eventually realized I felt resentful over that, like I was drowning right in front of them but they didn’t even see it. My mean internal voice had always been there, but suddenly it was so loud that I was desperate for anything to make it stop. I was “cold and shut off”, sitting at home most nights with a figurative gun aimed at my own head. I wondered to myself: “If this gets bad enough, will someone stop me? They’ll eventually figure it out and do something, won’t they?” The answer was no. I had to be the one to break my own cycle of self harm. I had to make the choice to put the gun down.
I hope you found this interesting and enjoy the song. IWNDWYT. <3
2023.06.02 00:10 TreasureHunter112 Uncharted PS5 lagging
Hello everyone, I hope you can help me with this weird problem I have with Uncharted: The Legacy of Thieves Collection on PS5. It's really weird and this will be a long post so bear with me.
Anyway, I have a PS5 for two years now and I never had a single issue with it. Recently, I bought Seagate Firecuda 530 2TB SSD and inserted it in expansion slot in my PS5. I just moved one game on it and I continued to use internal PS5 SSD for playing games.
At the time, I was playing God of War: Ragnarok and everything worked just like it did before I put SSD in PS5. Few days ago, I noticed that PS5 struggles to read disc. I turn on the console, put the disc in and PS5 struggles to read it. It takes a bit longer than it did before. Everything works normally but when you put the disc in you can hear the mechanism spinning and then stopping and then spinning again when the disc is read. But this is just a minor problem and it really doesn't bother me all that much.
However, bigger problem is with Uncharted The Legacy of Thieves Collection on PS5. I played the game in June last year and it worked perfectly. I didn't play it since then and I downloaded the patch they released in September 2022 but I didn't play the game since June. Today, I booted up the game and I noticed that the game has all these weired stutters/lags. They happen frequently but they are really noticable when you enter a new room on when a cutscene switches to gameplay. Cutscenes are 90% of the time smooth but they too get some stutter. Like Ragnarok, I played this game off PS5's internal drive. Ragnarok worked fine but this has all these stutters which didn't happen at all last year. I moved this game to SSD I bought and sutters are still present. Also, I noticed that PS5 isn't checking for disc when playing Uncharted every hour or so, but everything (except the stuttering) works normaly. I play in Performance mode on an old 1080p TV.
Does anyone know what causes this stutters? I played Ragnarok two days ago and it played great as always but Uncharted is stuttering whether I play it off PS5's internal of new SSD I bought. Can anyone please help me?
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Anyway, I have a PS5 for two years now and I never had a single issue with it. Recently, I bought Seagate Firecuda 530 2TB SSD and inserted it in expansion slot in my PS5. I just moved one game on it and I continued to use internal PS5 SSD for playing games.
At the time, I was playing God of War: Ragnarok and everything worked just like it did before I put SSD in PS5. Few days ago, I noticed that PS5 struggles to read disc. I turn on the console, put the disc in and PS5 struggles to read it. It takes a bit longer than it did before. Everything works normally but when you put the disc in you can hear the mechanism spinning and then stopping and then spinning again when the disc is read. But this is just a minor problem and it really doesn't bother me all that much.
However, bigger problem is with Uncharted The Legacy of Thieves Collection on PS5. I played the game in June last year and it worked perfectly. I didn't play it since then and I downloaded the patch they released in September 2022 but I didn't play the game since June. Today, I booted up the game and I noticed that the game has all these weired stutters/lags. They happen frequently but they are really noticable when you enter a new room on when a cutscene switches to gameplay. Cutscenes are 90% of the time smooth but they too get some stutter. Like Ragnarok, I played this game off PS5's internal drive. Ragnarok worked fine but this has all these stutters which didn't happen at all last year. I moved this game to SSD I bought and sutters are still present. Also, I noticed that PS5 isn't checking for disc when playing Uncharted every hour or so, but everything (except the stuttering) works normaly. I play in Performance mode on an old 1080p TV.
Does anyone know what causes this stutters? I played Ragnarok two days ago and it played great as always but Uncharted is stuttering whether I play it off PS5's internal of new SSD I bought. Can anyone please help me?
2023.06.02 00:09 GiftedHallways Best Essay Writing Service Reddit: A Comprehensive Guide
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2023.06.02 00:08 JagHarReddit Fun challenges to try at the beginning of a new GBL season
When a new season of GBL starts you don't have to win to improve your rank so it's a good time to try out fun challenges! Here are some suggestions, if you can think of something that is not listed here please add it in the comment section!
Autorekt Challenge
Delete all your league battle parties and enter GBL, now PoGo will give you 3 random Pokemon to battle with. You can back out and enter again if you want 3 new random Pokemon. When you get Pokemon that you have not double-moved you get to find out during the battle what fast/charge move they have. If you want to make it easier you can allow yourself to change single-moved Pokemon to the same species that you have double-moved and powered up.
Unique Pokemon Challenge
You can only use a Pokemon for a single battle so for 5 sets you need 3 * 5 * 5 = 75 Pokemon. Takes some time to figure out teams since you have to make sure that you have not used them already. If you are lazy and have a lot of Pokemon built you can copy a content creators teams to save planning time. PogoKieng has done this with both regular and shadow Pokemon.
Shadow Pokemon Only Challenge
Same Type Challenge
For example use only water Pokemon for one set, ghost in the next and so on.
Themed Pokemon Challenge
Think of a fun theme to use for example only Pokemon that has more than one head.
Copycat Challenge
In the next battle you have to use your previous opponents team. If you don't have all of them you can change to something similar.
Shiny Pokemon Only Challenge
Region Challenge
You can only use Pokemon from the same region, for example Kanto, Johto.
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Autorekt Challenge
Delete all your league battle parties and enter GBL, now PoGo will give you 3 random Pokemon to battle with. You can back out and enter again if you want 3 new random Pokemon. When you get Pokemon that you have not double-moved you get to find out during the battle what fast/charge move they have. If you want to make it easier you can allow yourself to change single-moved Pokemon to the same species that you have double-moved and powered up.
Unique Pokemon Challenge
You can only use a Pokemon for a single battle so for 5 sets you need 3 * 5 * 5 = 75 Pokemon. Takes some time to figure out teams since you have to make sure that you have not used them already. If you are lazy and have a lot of Pokemon built you can copy a content creators teams to save planning time. PogoKieng has done this with both regular and shadow Pokemon.
Shadow Pokemon Only Challenge
Same Type Challenge
For example use only water Pokemon for one set, ghost in the next and so on.
Themed Pokemon Challenge
Think of a fun theme to use for example only Pokemon that has more than one head.
Copycat Challenge
In the next battle you have to use your previous opponents team. If you don't have all of them you can change to something similar.
Shiny Pokemon Only Challenge
Region Challenge
You can only use Pokemon from the same region, for example Kanto, Johto.
2023.06.02 00:08 Uranit_78 The Vexation of 3.7 Spiral Abyss' flawed design
 | The day is 1st of June, 2023. We log in to our favorite game, Genshin Impact, to do our dailies, spend the day of Resin, some of us do some crazy things like walk from King Deshret's Pyramid to Mondstadt. But, since it's a first day of a month, we get to enjoy our ever so distant monthy content - the reset of the shop, new free wishes, and the reset of Spiral Abyss submitted by Uranit_78 to Genshin_Impact [link] [comments] and... To no surprise to anyone, the 3.7 version of Spiral Abyss is one of, if not the most aggravating one since launch despite the obnoxious cycle of last abyss rotations. We came from hating Golden Wolflord to Triple Kenki, from Triple Kenki to the Wenut - Abyss isn't spoiling us to be fair. And we have to deal with those Consecrated Beasts, our most beloved all the time. Yet this round up is the worst not because the monsters are annoying as hell, not fully at least. 3.7 Spiral Abyss is inherently badly designed Let's have an overview of the latest Floor 12, and analyze it's infuriating flaws. Sidenote - i am aware of the difficulty increase in Floor 11 as well, yet it's much more generous timers offset that spike for now. We'll start from the whole 1st Half, since i want to go over half individually Floor 12-1-1 1st Wave - 1 Pyro Whopperflower, 2 Cryo Whopperflower, followed by 2 Pyro Whopperflowers and 1 Cryo Whopperflower 2nd Wave - 3 Primal Constructs, followed by 3 Primal Constructs The starting part of the Floor 12 is the probably the second least daunting one of the 6 halfs, but it's lineup still forces a certain playstyle upon you. While the 6 flowers may be annoying with their hopping and underground digging, they do fall quickly, and their inexistant poise makes them easy to stagger and quickly eliminate. The Doritos however are a diffirent story. If you don't blitz them down, they go poof and enter stealth, unallowing you to comfortably attack them since the auto target system in Genshin will bruteforce you into one of their "beyblades" they leave while vanished. To burst the state prematurely, you ought to trigger a Quicken reaction on them, which will also stun them for a while. Obviously then, running a Dendro/Electro duo is rather a must, that's alright, Genshin is a gacha, the amount of characters available is there for something, we cannot just blitz through everything with just Raiden National and Kuki Hyperbloom. The other issue is the matter of the enemy spawn. The half consists of 12 enemies total, 6 for each type. However only 3 of them can be alive at a given time - once 1 goes down, it's immediately replaced with a diffirent one, providing a steady stream of foes. It might be an non-issue if you play someone like Alhaitham/Yae, but if you play something like Nahida, you constantly need to refresh your E, which may vary from a mild inconveniance (Keqing) to a serious displeasure (Cyno) Floor 12-2-1 1st Wave - Jadeplume Terrorshroom Chicken. Our dear and beloved Chicken. Will anyone be surprised if i say this is the easiest half of all 6? I mean, it's just one singular boss, a damage sponge who may hit you, but is rather fair to play against, it doesn't zoom from one edge of the arena to the other while chain knocking you up, right? Floor 12-3-1 1st Wave - Consecrated Horned Crocodile & Consecrated Fanged Beast 2nd Wave - Consecrated Horned Crocodile & Consecrated Fanged Beast Game's public enemy nr. 1 right now, and it's easy to tell why if you fought them once. The Beasts have around a million HP each (tankier than Azhdaha), 40% resist to every element, increased to 70% for their own (Hydro for Crocodile, Dendro for Beast), have insane knockback on their attacks, deal gargantous amounts of damage and are surprisingly fast. The Fanged Beast even has an untargetability state to it. We already had Consecrated Beasts in the Abyss. They actually are with us for nearly the whole 2023 - first ones appeared in the 2nd Chamber of 3.4 Floor 12. Up to this point, each time they were present, they fought in 2 each half. This time is no diffirent, we will face 2 of them at the same time - but this time, twice. After defeating the 2 beasts, you fight the exact same line-up over again. This really makes the blood boil, since they were already a problem in 2, not to say 4. While this may come off as a hyperbole, shields are mandatory in this half, or at least something that grants resistance to interruption, such as Xingqiu's Rain Swords. You are going to be thrown around like a bag of potatoes otherwise. Despite it's catastrophic finish, i'd wager to say that the First Half of Floor 12 is fairly designed. You might say right now "THe hell? How 4 Consecrated Beasts be fair desing? DOWNVOTE!" - hear me out. I am as pissed off about their existance as you are, but if you pick a Dendro Character for the Doritos in the 1st half, you will not be regretting that, despite the increased resistance of Chicken and Fanged Beast. Second Half, however, is diffirent Floor 12-1-2 1st Wave - 1 Cryo Abyss Mage, 1 Hydro Abyss Mage 2nd Wave - 1 Abyss Herald: Wicked Torrents, 2 Abyss Heralds: Frost Fall This lineup is a straight up "f**k u" from Hoyoverse. The Abyss Mages are not really an issue here - they are alone and they die fast. The Heralds are the problem. All the issues of this half stem from one thing - their elements. Combination of Hydro and Cryo attacks will result in constant Freezes, while the wide coverage and high range of the Heralds will make it hard to avoid the Freeze. Then, given the design of Heralds, you have to deal with a chunky Hydro and Cryo Shields. This sparks a seed for a big problem of this phase's Second Half - Elemental Restrictions. You cannot go Freeze Teams in the second half. You cannot go Nilou Bloom team (not that you'd want to, Second Half is nearly exclusively single target). Hyperbloom teams are hindered because of Cryo. Hydro Teams also do not work. That leaves us with Mono Geo, Anemo Carry, Pyro and Electro teams. Since the former elements are inert, and react in a diffirent manner, let's close up on the latter. Electro teams can certainly do this phase, but it's not worth the time, as Electro needs time to chunk both Hydro and Cryo shields, while Pyro will only slightly struggle with Hydro. Floor 12-2-2 1st Wave - Thunder Manifestation Remember that bit about Electro being able to do that? Yea, don't bother, there's a Mosquito waiting to ruin all your plans. The whole boss honestly isn't too bad, however it is more unpleasant compared to the Shroom. It can blink, quickly make or close distance, and flies in the air, which may come as a discomfort for certain melee users. But it's attacks are telegraphed, easy to dodge. The existance of Thunder Manifestation in the Second Chamber solidifies the Second Half as a Pyro-focused one. And as i said in the 12-1-1 analysis, it's ok. Genshin is a gacha game, it's made to test multiple diffirent strategies. There's nothing wrong with making a Pyro-centric half... Floor 12-3-2 1st Wave - Iniquitous Baptist - (forget the title) ...unless it then requires other elements. Iniquitous Baptist is a new Abyss Boss released in Version 3.6. The boss itself is actually one of the squishiests ones in the game, but it has a gimmick. Since it's an Abyss creature, it has a benefit of Elemental Shields, which are used in the battle. Shortly after the he spawns, Baptists creates 3 crystals around himself and channels, gaining approx. 270% damage reduction and a shield. To destroy the shield, you need to destroy the crystals - which require attacks from various, diffirent elements. After that shield dissapears, the Boss will cover himself in another elemental shield, which needs to be destroyed in a more traditional way. Normally, it wouldn't be a problem. I think that it's a cool boss, and it's existance in Abyss doesn't frighten me. However, Floor 12's Second Half already excluded Hydro, Cryo and Electro from optimal usage by the way of Heralds and Thunder Manifestation. This creates a situation in which you need to pray that the Baptist never covers himself in a Pyro shield nor will he spawn a Pyro crystal which will be impossible to destroy. Aeonblight Drake did the similiar thing with forcing players to use bow characters against him, but following ASIMON did not punish you for having a Collei or Yelan the way that Baptist punishes you for going mono-Yoimiya for example. Now, you can say "U can use supports to kill the shield". Sure, but that takes time. We are talking about Abyss 12, we have 3 minutes to complete BOTH halfs in order to get 3 stars. Some people want to 36 star the abyss for those extra primos, some for the personal achievement. The last chamber already has beasts, which can take up even 2 minutes in optimal scenarios, leaving 1 minute for a boss which sometimes will be impossible to tear down. This isn't even a numbers thing - You can whale 10k $ on Yoimiya's banner right now to get her C6 and a R5 Thundering Pulse to top that yet you still won't be able to damage the Baptist if he gets a Pyro shield. The design of this Abyss just doesn't make sense in any way, which sparks frustration. I will allow myself to compare the new Abyss to the one from 2.5, when the rise of difficulty in Abyss started to become noticable https://preview.redd.it/fzv09ci9ah3b1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=ac3e1fbf1da6bff563f5840d4fb0b4f7d7ba5ddb Now how is this one fairly designed? It has Wolflord! Look, this Abyss cycle is practically neutral Elementally. The only place where usage of a certain element is either encouraged or prohibited is in 12-2-2 against the Wolflord. Indeed, that boss is a pain in the butt, taking a lot of time, and i agree that it's presence is not satisfactory, but it does not require us to use an element previous chamber disincentivized. To summarise, the irritation that the new Abyss generates comes from it's bad design. First half shows us the issue of bloated health bars and overpowered mobs, while second half has inconsistant elemental requirements for it's enemies. |
2023.06.02 00:08 throwawaywhocares96 Job interview
So I’m pretty unremarkable. I’m 27F, definitely introverted and all I do is go to work, eat, sleep and repeat. I’ve been pretty lucky in that any time I’ve interviewed for a job, I always get a call back to be hired. But those jobs are usually easy to get hired to like fast food or I’ve had a little connection to put in a recommendation for me like my job as a warehouse worker. The other day I got a call back to start the process of working as an Amazon delivery driver.
But another ad I answered previously and just got a notification from was for an animal control position in my city and I would definitely choose that over Amazon if they decide to hire me. The problem I have is that this would be the most “serious/adult like” job I’ve ever had and I don’t want to screw up the interview. Luckily the first is a one way recording I do that gets sent to them, so I get a few tries to redo my answer if I don’t like it. But the question I don’t want to mess up is the classic “tell me about yourself”.
I never know how to answer it since my life is pretty bland. I know people suggest listing schooling but all I have is a basic Associates degree that is not truly useful for anything other than saying I have been to college. I’ve worked fast food, warehouse, and the last thing I did was Rover pet sitting for about 2 years which is what I’ll be using to lean on in the interview.
Telling them about strengths, weaknesses, times I’ve resolved conflict, stress, etc are easy for me. It’s just that first question that I always struggle with. So how should someone like me respond?
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But another ad I answered previously and just got a notification from was for an animal control position in my city and I would definitely choose that over Amazon if they decide to hire me. The problem I have is that this would be the most “serious/adult like” job I’ve ever had and I don’t want to screw up the interview. Luckily the first is a one way recording I do that gets sent to them, so I get a few tries to redo my answer if I don’t like it. But the question I don’t want to mess up is the classic “tell me about yourself”.
I never know how to answer it since my life is pretty bland. I know people suggest listing schooling but all I have is a basic Associates degree that is not truly useful for anything other than saying I have been to college. I’ve worked fast food, warehouse, and the last thing I did was Rover pet sitting for about 2 years which is what I’ll be using to lean on in the interview.
Telling them about strengths, weaknesses, times I’ve resolved conflict, stress, etc are easy for me. It’s just that first question that I always struggle with. So how should someone like me respond?
2023.06.02 00:06 MIZSTLDEN Opinion on Border Collie Ziggy
Hi everyone, I need some advice on what to do with my border collie, Ziggy.
Ziggy is a high energy border collie with an intense work drive. He has been more aggressive recently so we took him to the vet to see if it is being caused by medical issues. The vet tested his back leg and found when he pushes one of his back legs up, ziggy does not put it back down on the ground correctly. The other leg is fine. The vet said no exercise and medicine for 2 weeks. Fast forward 2 weeks and we are recommended to a specialist since the behavior is still the same. This appointment is set for 6 weeks out. My questions are below:
Ziggy was not showing signs of any pain before and there is really no indication of his pain aside from the tests that the doctor did and the aggression. He would go sprint in the backyard for 3 hours today if I let him and nobody would guess he is injured. Is it in his best interest to not exercise at all for 2+ months? Wouldn't that feed in to other aggression issues? I feel like depending on results from the specialists assessment he could be out of commission for a long time!
Even if it's technically the right thing to do medically, should I take his quality of life in to account here? What if I let him exercise up until the specialist appointment?
To reiterate, Ziggy was only showing signs of pain when the vet was pushing one of his back legs up, and it was only a panting and looking back at the vet. No whining or yelping. I just want to do what's best for him and I know he's miserable right now.
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Species: Border Collie
Age: 3
Sex/Neuter status: Male
Breed: Border Collie
Body weight: 57 lbs
History: Aggression, bad poops, allergic to chicken
Clinical signs:
Duration: Unsure
Midwest
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Ziggy is a high energy border collie with an intense work drive. He has been more aggressive recently so we took him to the vet to see if it is being caused by medical issues. The vet tested his back leg and found when he pushes one of his back legs up, ziggy does not put it back down on the ground correctly. The other leg is fine. The vet said no exercise and medicine for 2 weeks. Fast forward 2 weeks and we are recommended to a specialist since the behavior is still the same. This appointment is set for 6 weeks out. My questions are below:
Ziggy was not showing signs of any pain before and there is really no indication of his pain aside from the tests that the doctor did and the aggression. He would go sprint in the backyard for 3 hours today if I let him and nobody would guess he is injured. Is it in his best interest to not exercise at all for 2+ months? Wouldn't that feed in to other aggression issues? I feel like depending on results from the specialists assessment he could be out of commission for a long time!
Even if it's technically the right thing to do medically, should I take his quality of life in to account here? What if I let him exercise up until the specialist appointment?
To reiterate, Ziggy was only showing signs of pain when the vet was pushing one of his back legs up, and it was only a panting and looking back at the vet. No whining or yelping. I just want to do what's best for him and I know he's miserable right now.
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Species: Border Collie
Age: 3
Sex/Neuter status: Male
Breed: Border Collie
Body weight: 57 lbs
History: Aggression, bad poops, allergic to chicken
Clinical signs:
Duration: Unsure
Midwest
2023.06.02 00:05 generalpao Things to do in Houston this weekend - June 1st - 4th
Enjoy your weekend Houston!
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Astros vs Angels @ Minute Maid Park @ 7PM *Promotions: Alex Bregman Jump Throw Bobblehead and Coca-Cola Ballpark Bundle.
'Chocolat' Screening @ MFAH @ 7PM This classic 1980s film about the legacy of French colonialism in Africa is shown in new 4K digital restoration.
MusiqaLab @ CAMH @ 6:30PM Free concert by MusiqaLab collective.
Toy Story in Concert @ Woodlands Pavilion @ 8PM The Houston Symphony performs the award-winning score by composer Randy Newman live to the film.
Golden Dawn Arkestra @ Discovery Green @ 7PM / 9PM Virtuosos Golden Dawn Arkestra take listeners on a whirlwind adventure through musical genres and styles.
Matt Mathews Stand Up @ Houston Improv @ 7:30PM / 9:45PM
Ill Nino @ Warehouse Live @ 6:30PM
Playdate @ MFAH @ 11:30AM Through play and experimentation in programs like MFAH Playdate, toddlers have their first experience with art.
World Trekkers: Philippines @ HMNS @ 7PM Expand your horizons with an evening dedicated to the culture of Philippines- see a traditional dance performance and craft a special inlay box.
Classic Albums Live - The Beatles @ Miller Outdoor Theatre @ 8:30PM The beloved Classic Albums Live partners with the Houston Symphony musicians for an epic performance of the 1967 Beatles album 'Stg. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band.'
Jay Wheeler @ Smart Financial Centre @ 8PM
Bryson Tiller @ House of Blues @ 7PM
Randy Rogers Band @ White Oak Music Hall @ 6PM
Dillon Carmichael @ Warehouse Live @ 8PM
Gareth Emery @ Stereo Live @ 10PM
Keeshea Pratt Band @ The Heights Theater @ 8PM
Dolly Parton Dance Party @ White Oak Music Hall @ 9:30PM
Dash vs Orlando Pride @ Shell Energy Stadium @ 7:30PM
Double Exposure Portraits @ CAMH @ 2PM In this drop-in activity, visitors can create a digital double exposure portrait inspired by one of current museum exhibitions.
Ongoing - Saturday Stargazing @ George Observatory in Needville
Ongoing - Workouts in the Park @ Discovery Green @ 9AM / 10AM This week, enjoy Hatha Yoga and Tai Chi at the park!
Ongoing - Arte en el Parque / Art in the Park @ Discovery Green @ 12PM Students, ages 3 to 12 will create a unique art piece while improving their speaking and listening skills en español!
'Turning Red' Screening @ Discovery Green @ 7PM / 8:45PM Enjoy this Disney and Pixar movie at Discovery Green's Anheuser-Busch Stage.
Coffee and Cars @ POST @ 9AM Come out and enjoy an amazing display of machines at POST!
Accordion Concert @ Miller Outdoor Theatre @ 7PM Presented by Texas Folklife, this evening concert is a dedicated celebration of the unofficial instrument of Texas - the accordion!
Janet Jackson @ Woodlands Pavilion @ 7:30PM *With Ludacris
Rebelution @ Bayou Music Center @ 6:30PM
RUEL @ House of Blues @ 7PM
Doyle @ Warehouse Live @ 7:30PM
Rhapsody of Fire @ Warehouse Live @ 8PM
shame @ White Oak Music Hall @ 8PM *With Been Stellar
Paul Oakenfold @ Stereo Live @ 10PM
Hoang @ RISE Rooftop @ 10PM
'Dancing the Twist in Bamako' Screening @ MFAH @ 5PM This is a romantic story set against the backdrop of post-colonial Mali in 1960s on the cusp of dramatic political change.
Sunday Family Studio @ MFAH @ 1PM Spend time exploring the galleries with a teaching artist and then head to the studio to create your own artwork.
J. Worra @ Clé Pool @ 2PM
FRIDAY & SATURDAY - Houston Palestine Film Festival @ MFAH The MFAH is hosting the opening weekend of the 16th Houston Palestine Film Festival with a trio of internationally acclaimed features.
FRIDAY & SATURDAY - Nimesh Patel Stand Up @ Houston Improv
SATURDAY & SUNDAY -Led Zeppelin Experience @ HMNS @ 5PM The music and lyrics of the classic rock group Led Zeppelin have been visually interpreted using three-dimensional fulldome technology.
All weekend - 'Wicked' Musical @ The Hobby Center A Broadway sensation, this musical looks at what happened in the Land of Oz…but from a different angle.
All weekend - 'Divergence' Ballet @ Brown Theater LAST CHANCE - This mixed repertoire program features Stanton Welch's explosive 'Divergence,' as well as several other exciting new performances.
All weekend - 'Torera' Play @ Alley Theatre LAST CHANCE - A world premiere play written by a stunning new voice in the American theatre, 'Torera' tells a poignant story about becoming your truest self by proudly stepping into the ring
[Ongoing - Si Lewen ‘The Parade’ Exhibition @ Menil] (https://www.menil.org/exhibitions/366-si-lewen-the-parade) Menil’s latest exhibition features 63 drawings by Polish-American artist Si Lewen, which compromise a graphic novel depicting WWII and the liberation of Poland.
Ongoing - ‘Hyperreal: Gray Foy’ Exhibition @ Menil The exhibition features American artists Gray Foy’s most important and celebrated works.
Ongoing - ‘The Curatorial Imagination of Walter Hopps’ Exhibition @ Menil The exhibition explores the influential vision of one of the most distinguished curators - Walter Hopps, and features artwork by Warhol, Kienholz, Gilliam, and many others.
Ongoing - 'Art of the Cameroon Grassfields' Exhibition @ Menil This exhibition celebrates the enduring artistic traditions from Cameroon and its global diaspora.
Ongoing - Wall Drawing Series: Mel Bochner @ Menil Drawing Institute The Menil Drawing Institute is proud to work with artist Mel Bochner on the fourth installment of the museum’s ephemeral wall drawing series.
Ongoing - 'Where Do We Go From here' Exhibition @ CAMH Contemporary Arts Museum Houston’s (CAMH) Teen Council presents their 13th biennial exhibition featuring work from Houston-area teen artists.
Ongoing - 'Ming Smith: Feeling the Future' Exhibition @ CAMH NEW - the exhibition explores artist Ming Smith’s unique, multi-layered work in various formats.
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THURSDAY - JUNE 1st
Rocky Horror Picture Show @ Rooftop Cinema Club Uptown @ 7:45PMAstros vs Angels @ Minute Maid Park @ 7PM *Promotions: Alex Bregman Jump Throw Bobblehead and Coca-Cola Ballpark Bundle.
'Chocolat' Screening @ MFAH @ 7PM This classic 1980s film about the legacy of French colonialism in Africa is shown in new 4K digital restoration.
MusiqaLab @ CAMH @ 6:30PM Free concert by MusiqaLab collective.
Toy Story in Concert @ Woodlands Pavilion @ 8PM The Houston Symphony performs the award-winning score by composer Randy Newman live to the film.
Golden Dawn Arkestra @ Discovery Green @ 7PM / 9PM Virtuosos Golden Dawn Arkestra take listeners on a whirlwind adventure through musical genres and styles.
Matt Mathews Stand Up @ Houston Improv @ 7:30PM / 9:45PM
Ill Nino @ Warehouse Live @ 6:30PM
FRIDAY- JUNE 2nd
Astros vs Angels @ Minute Maid Park @ 7PM *Promotions: Lance McCullers Jr. '90s Throwback Replica Jersey, Pregame Happy Hour, Lou Gehrig Day, Friday Night Fireworks.Playdate @ MFAH @ 11:30AM Through play and experimentation in programs like MFAH Playdate, toddlers have their first experience with art.
World Trekkers: Philippines @ HMNS @ 7PM Expand your horizons with an evening dedicated to the culture of Philippines- see a traditional dance performance and craft a special inlay box.
Classic Albums Live - The Beatles @ Miller Outdoor Theatre @ 8:30PM The beloved Classic Albums Live partners with the Houston Symphony musicians for an epic performance of the 1967 Beatles album 'Stg. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band.'
Jay Wheeler @ Smart Financial Centre @ 8PM
Bryson Tiller @ House of Blues @ 7PM
Randy Rogers Band @ White Oak Music Hall @ 6PM
Dillon Carmichael @ Warehouse Live @ 8PM
Gareth Emery @ Stereo Live @ 10PM
Keeshea Pratt Band @ The Heights Theater @ 8PM
Dolly Parton Dance Party @ White Oak Music Hall @ 9:30PM
SATURDAY- JUNE 3rd
Astros vs Angels @ Minute Maid Park @ 3PM *Promotions: Jeremy Peña Gold Glove Bobblehead and Girls’ Night OutDash vs Orlando Pride @ Shell Energy Stadium @ 7:30PM
Double Exposure Portraits @ CAMH @ 2PM In this drop-in activity, visitors can create a digital double exposure portrait inspired by one of current museum exhibitions.
Ongoing - Saturday Stargazing @ George Observatory in Needville
Ongoing - Workouts in the Park @ Discovery Green @ 9AM / 10AM This week, enjoy Hatha Yoga and Tai Chi at the park!
Ongoing - Arte en el Parque / Art in the Park @ Discovery Green @ 12PM Students, ages 3 to 12 will create a unique art piece while improving their speaking and listening skills en español!
'Turning Red' Screening @ Discovery Green @ 7PM / 8:45PM Enjoy this Disney and Pixar movie at Discovery Green's Anheuser-Busch Stage.
Coffee and Cars @ POST @ 9AM Come out and enjoy an amazing display of machines at POST!
Accordion Concert @ Miller Outdoor Theatre @ 7PM Presented by Texas Folklife, this evening concert is a dedicated celebration of the unofficial instrument of Texas - the accordion!
Janet Jackson @ Woodlands Pavilion @ 7:30PM *With Ludacris
Rebelution @ Bayou Music Center @ 6:30PM
RUEL @ House of Blues @ 7PM
Doyle @ Warehouse Live @ 7:30PM
Rhapsody of Fire @ Warehouse Live @ 8PM
shame @ White Oak Music Hall @ 8PM *With Been Stellar
Paul Oakenfold @ Stereo Live @ 10PM
Hoang @ RISE Rooftop @ 10PM
SUNDAY- JUNE 4th
Astros vs Angels @ Minute Maid Park @ 1PM *Promotions: Astros Baseball Clutch, Kids Run the Bases, Yoga Day, and Family Sunday 4-Pack'Dancing the Twist in Bamako' Screening @ MFAH @ 5PM This is a romantic story set against the backdrop of post-colonial Mali in 1960s on the cusp of dramatic political change.
Sunday Family Studio @ MFAH @ 1PM Spend time exploring the galleries with a teaching artist and then head to the studio to create your own artwork.
J. Worra @ Clé Pool @ 2PM
All Weekend
THURSDAY & FRIDAY - 'Sleeping Beauty' Ballet @ The Grand @ 7PM The classic tale performed by the Galveston Ballet.FRIDAY & SATURDAY - Houston Palestine Film Festival @ MFAH The MFAH is hosting the opening weekend of the 16th Houston Palestine Film Festival with a trio of internationally acclaimed features.
FRIDAY & SATURDAY - Nimesh Patel Stand Up @ Houston Improv
SATURDAY & SUNDAY -Led Zeppelin Experience @ HMNS @ 5PM The music and lyrics of the classic rock group Led Zeppelin have been visually interpreted using three-dimensional fulldome technology.
All weekend - 'Wicked' Musical @ The Hobby Center A Broadway sensation, this musical looks at what happened in the Land of Oz…but from a different angle.
All weekend - 'Divergence' Ballet @ Brown Theater LAST CHANCE - This mixed repertoire program features Stanton Welch's explosive 'Divergence,' as well as several other exciting new performances.
All weekend - 'Torera' Play @ Alley Theatre LAST CHANCE - A world premiere play written by a stunning new voice in the American theatre, 'Torera' tells a poignant story about becoming your truest self by proudly stepping into the ring
Ongoing events
Ongoing - Impressionist and Post-Impressionist Masterpieces Exhibition @ MFAH NEW - See outstanding works by art stars including Cezanne, Degas, Gauguin, Van Gogh, Manet, and Modigliani presented within the context of their experiences.[Ongoing - Si Lewen ‘The Parade’ Exhibition @ Menil] (https://www.menil.org/exhibitions/366-si-lewen-the-parade) Menil’s latest exhibition features 63 drawings by Polish-American artist Si Lewen, which compromise a graphic novel depicting WWII and the liberation of Poland.
Ongoing - ‘Hyperreal: Gray Foy’ Exhibition @ Menil The exhibition features American artists Gray Foy’s most important and celebrated works.
Ongoing - ‘The Curatorial Imagination of Walter Hopps’ Exhibition @ Menil The exhibition explores the influential vision of one of the most distinguished curators - Walter Hopps, and features artwork by Warhol, Kienholz, Gilliam, and many others.
Ongoing - 'Art of the Cameroon Grassfields' Exhibition @ Menil This exhibition celebrates the enduring artistic traditions from Cameroon and its global diaspora.
Ongoing - Wall Drawing Series: Mel Bochner @ Menil Drawing Institute The Menil Drawing Institute is proud to work with artist Mel Bochner on the fourth installment of the museum’s ephemeral wall drawing series.
Ongoing - 'Where Do We Go From here' Exhibition @ CAMH Contemporary Arts Museum Houston’s (CAMH) Teen Council presents their 13th biennial exhibition featuring work from Houston-area teen artists.
Ongoing - 'Ming Smith: Feeling the Future' Exhibition @ CAMH NEW - the exhibition explores artist Ming Smith’s unique, multi-layered work in various formats.
2023.06.02 00:05 strictlyjay Should I (F26) give my ex (M27) another shot? We last broke up 3 years ago and dated other people after.
My ex and I met at high school and dated for almost 6 years. We broke up as soon as I graduated university for no dramatic reason but just because he felt we grew apart and wanted to explore our lives independently. We were always on good terms and would catch up from time to time. A year after our break up he wanted to get back together and was putting a lot of effort so we got close again for about 6 months but something unexplainable was stopping me from getting back together with him. I had worked so hard on moving on that year and as soon as I began to he decided to come back. Anyways I decided to end things with him as I had a strong feeling of doubt although he was doing all the right things. Less than a year later I got into a very toxic relationship where my new partner(32M) asked me to block my ex and stop any contact with him. I unfortunately did that which drove my ex to attempt to reach out multiple times as it is very unlike me. The toxic relationship ended not long after and a few months after the break up I reached out to my said ex (M27) to apologize for blocking him and explain the situation I was in. He immediately replied and was very understanding and we caught up over a phone call where he told me that he has worked super hard to move on for the past year and has started seeing someone. This was in October 2022. I truly wished him the best and have been enjoying my single life ever since. Last week he reaches out to me and asks to catch up over drinks. I went and saw him and it was like we never stopped talking. We caught up and it sounded like he wanted me in his life again although he did not mention anything. Now he’s asked me to meet again and texted me a few times throughout this week. I don’t know how to feel about this and don’t want to waste my time or his. We are the kind of people who rarely fight or argue, and are super comfortable around each other so this could so easily linger. I don’t know what his intentions are and neither do I know mine. I’m super confused on how to and whether to go with the flow or stop meeting him. I don’t really have anyone in my life right now, I have a crush on a friend but it’s super new and I doubt it would go anywhere. I know that having a conversation with my ex would be fine but I feel it’s too early at this point - it’s not like he asked to get back together. Keeping in mind that our relationship (we were super young) was quite healthy and we align on so many things when it comes to life and values - our timing was just never right. I just don’t know why I have my reservations. Am i overthinking or once the paper is crumbled it can never be smooth again?
TLDR; My highschool/university ex of 6 years reconnected with me last week. We’ve had our fair share of ups and downs. Should i give it a third try or not even try?
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TLDR; My highschool/university ex of 6 years reconnected with me last week. We’ve had our fair share of ups and downs. Should i give it a third try or not even try?
2023.06.02 00:05 Glen_Garrett_Gayhart Cheetahs in GURPS?
How would one stat a cheetah, or some other very fast thing like a droideka, in GURPS? Do you just pay the ~500 points needed to increase Basic Speed up to around 31? Is it even conventionally possible to buy that much Basic Speed, or is there a limit on how much Basic Speed one can buy?
Is there any more economical way to get something to have a really high speed, without invoking supernatural stuff like altered time rate?
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Is there any more economical way to get something to have a really high speed, without invoking supernatural stuff like altered time rate?
2023.06.02 00:05 Snap-Zipper I (27F) don't know how to navigate my relationship with my abusive parents (50 F, 50 M)
I will try and give a short backstory first.
I am the youngest of 4; I have two sisters in their 30's and a brother in his late 30's. My parents are in their 50's.My father was a smoker and drinker, who abused us mentally and emotionally. He really tore us down. Because I'm the youngest by quite a bit, I was alone with them when everyone else reached adulthood, so I received that much more of the abuse. I had no self-worth and was very depressed and angry. The depression and anger caused my parents to treat me like there was something wrong with me because my siblings had hidden their feelings well, and it just got worse and worse.
Things really reached a breaking point when I was sexually abused by a boyfriend who was much older than I was, and my parents cared very little. In fact, they seemed to blame me.When I was in my late teens, I began dating my now fiancé. My parents kicked me out as they believed he would take care of me, and he really helped me to accept my past and heal. It was a long journey, but I'm so proud of how far I've come.
So that brings us to now. Both of my sisters have children. One of them is a narcissist with extreme main character syndrome, who I will call N. She has followed in my parents' footsteps and is verbally abusive to both of her young children. One of them is already in therapy at a very young age, and I'm honestly shocked that she even let the poor kid get mental help. Their dad is not in the picture. N also has a fetish for stealing married men away from their wives, which my parents seem to have no issue with. My parents spoil her and have left everyone else for dead. It's disturbing.
My other sister is my best friend- I'll call her L. She is a fantastic mother and has overcome so much abuse to not repeat harmful cycles. However, she still puts herself in positions where she can be hurt. She'll always visit my parents when they invite her over, even though N will always be there too. L will drive all the way there just to be ignored in favor of N, who my parents see constantly anyway. She keeps insisting on going because she wants to be here for N's children, and she wants the cousins to have a good relationship, which they do. It hurts to see her put herself in the line of fire constantly, and it makes me feel guilty about not doing it as well sometimes.
My brother minds his own business. He doesn't like what my parents and N are doing, but he's over the bullshit and does his own thing.
My parents ooze judgement and negativity. If you've ever read 'the narcissist's prayer', that is pretty much their MO. Zero responsibility, zero accountability, and they've taught N to be the same way. I've had many fights with my parents over the years, trying to show them how much they've hurt me, and all I get back in return is denial. This came to a head in 2020, when N was dating a married man and his wife found out. A family friend was the one who contacted the woman, but I was blamed for some reason, even though it clearly was not me. My mother told me she didn't love me anymore. My father told me I was no longer family. I really thought that would be the end of it. How was that not the end of it?
They continue to act like NOTHING happened at all. I still get invited to holidays (but not hangouts). Sometimes fiancé and I go, sometimes we don't. My mom guilt-tripped me into going on a shopping trip for my birthday because my father is very sick, and she's been understandably stressed. No accountability for saying she doesn't love me. Nothing.
Here's the thing. I really don't want to see them anymore. I probably still would to an extent, like at L's children's birthdays, but Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.? They're nothing but stress on me, and I truly only go now because I want to support L, because this girl will not stop going over there for the sake of N's children. And I love N's kids too, very much, and I hate how they're treated, but I can't do anything. And it sucks, dammit.
One of N's kids has a birthday coming up, which I already said I would make an appearance at. It's unknown if my parents are attending. I haven't spoken to my father since late 2022 and I wished my mother a happy Mother's Day, but I was left on read. Needless to say, I do not want to see them there.
Now I'm torn on what to do. Do I send a text? Do I say, again, that how I was previously treated was unacceptable? That I've been 100% checked out of this relationship with all 3 of them since the 2020 issue and I want to make this breakup official? Or do I keep half-assing this for the sake of giving N's kids some positive interaction a few times a year, even if that is possibly accomplishing nothing? Am I secretly afraid to let go? I just feel confused and sad.
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I am the youngest of 4; I have two sisters in their 30's and a brother in his late 30's. My parents are in their 50's.My father was a smoker and drinker, who abused us mentally and emotionally. He really tore us down. Because I'm the youngest by quite a bit, I was alone with them when everyone else reached adulthood, so I received that much more of the abuse. I had no self-worth and was very depressed and angry. The depression and anger caused my parents to treat me like there was something wrong with me because my siblings had hidden their feelings well, and it just got worse and worse.
Things really reached a breaking point when I was sexually abused by a boyfriend who was much older than I was, and my parents cared very little. In fact, they seemed to blame me.When I was in my late teens, I began dating my now fiancé. My parents kicked me out as they believed he would take care of me, and he really helped me to accept my past and heal. It was a long journey, but I'm so proud of how far I've come.
So that brings us to now. Both of my sisters have children. One of them is a narcissist with extreme main character syndrome, who I will call N. She has followed in my parents' footsteps and is verbally abusive to both of her young children. One of them is already in therapy at a very young age, and I'm honestly shocked that she even let the poor kid get mental help. Their dad is not in the picture. N also has a fetish for stealing married men away from their wives, which my parents seem to have no issue with. My parents spoil her and have left everyone else for dead. It's disturbing.
My other sister is my best friend- I'll call her L. She is a fantastic mother and has overcome so much abuse to not repeat harmful cycles. However, she still puts herself in positions where she can be hurt. She'll always visit my parents when they invite her over, even though N will always be there too. L will drive all the way there just to be ignored in favor of N, who my parents see constantly anyway. She keeps insisting on going because she wants to be here for N's children, and she wants the cousins to have a good relationship, which they do. It hurts to see her put herself in the line of fire constantly, and it makes me feel guilty about not doing it as well sometimes.
My brother minds his own business. He doesn't like what my parents and N are doing, but he's over the bullshit and does his own thing.
My parents ooze judgement and negativity. If you've ever read 'the narcissist's prayer', that is pretty much their MO. Zero responsibility, zero accountability, and they've taught N to be the same way. I've had many fights with my parents over the years, trying to show them how much they've hurt me, and all I get back in return is denial. This came to a head in 2020, when N was dating a married man and his wife found out. A family friend was the one who contacted the woman, but I was blamed for some reason, even though it clearly was not me. My mother told me she didn't love me anymore. My father told me I was no longer family. I really thought that would be the end of it. How was that not the end of it?
They continue to act like NOTHING happened at all. I still get invited to holidays (but not hangouts). Sometimes fiancé and I go, sometimes we don't. My mom guilt-tripped me into going on a shopping trip for my birthday because my father is very sick, and she's been understandably stressed. No accountability for saying she doesn't love me. Nothing.
Here's the thing. I really don't want to see them anymore. I probably still would to an extent, like at L's children's birthdays, but Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.? They're nothing but stress on me, and I truly only go now because I want to support L, because this girl will not stop going over there for the sake of N's children. And I love N's kids too, very much, and I hate how they're treated, but I can't do anything. And it sucks, dammit.
One of N's kids has a birthday coming up, which I already said I would make an appearance at. It's unknown if my parents are attending. I haven't spoken to my father since late 2022 and I wished my mother a happy Mother's Day, but I was left on read. Needless to say, I do not want to see them there.
Now I'm torn on what to do. Do I send a text? Do I say, again, that how I was previously treated was unacceptable? That I've been 100% checked out of this relationship with all 3 of them since the 2020 issue and I want to make this breakup official? Or do I keep half-assing this for the sake of giving N's kids some positive interaction a few times a year, even if that is possibly accomplishing nothing? Am I secretly afraid to let go? I just feel confused and sad.