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2023.06.03 01:03 Only-Media-4462 Trying to remember a friend
Hey, I met this guy on the Friends Amino a few years back. It feels so long ago that I can't even pin a year especially since I have trouble remembering dates. I want to say it was between 2018-2019.
I know this post is pretty redundant. I don't expect to find him especially since it was several years ago when we met on the app but I can't help but wonder if he's okay. He got himself banned so he wouldn't be tempted to come back so it's not like I could do that blocking trick I see people recommending and I can't remember his name anymore since his ghosting me sort of left me emotionally messed up (I was in a difficult position back then) so I did my best to try and not think about it.
It sounded like he wasn't in a good spot and his other friend (I think their name was Taco Bell?) deleted their g-mail to keep themselves from getting back on the app. I'm hoping he's at least okay and hopefully doing better than he was back then. Goodbye wall-rape-gang...
Edit: fixed a sentence. I have memory issues when it comes to remembering dates and other moments.
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2023.06.03 00:53 Historical-Pomelo334 What is the most boring, tedious thing to do in the lab, and why is it column chromatography?
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2023.06.03 00:53 alicia_faye9 050723.0439 dear reader, you can understand now
i just feel alone.
i hate it so much. i cant tell it to anyone.
cant you tell i just said it in my head
no you didnt?
i cant keep telling them my problems i tell them and it seems like im making it about myself
you do that for [_]
i listen to her
she ignores when you look sad
. you cant expect her not to though she has things to do
its not all about you alicia youre talking to yourself you know youve really lost it
i cant get you out of my head
alicia stop acting sick its not normal
.nobodys going to see it al
then why dont you delete what you wrote each time clearly youre keeping it for some reason
im not i just want to keep it
i said i dont know
you cant expect me to read you all the time thats why i ask
okay? is that all get help alicia if someone tried to read this theyd think youre _
with anyone im saying you sound not normal
i dont know what to do i dont know ill drown myself in work will it help?
and i need to i cant keep being this lazy
alicia you really believe i exist
youre writing so normally
youre really saying that?
im not annoying anyone this way
youre worrying me
i mean it
if im gone so are you
will i always be like this?
always its your fault no? you dont bother finding help
i want to talk so badly but i cant he doesnt give a damn anymore and our talks are so stilted it makes me want to cry but i cant do anything about it i brought it on myself and covered how bland and uncaring he was before
you dont deserve anyone alicia you mess it so much i hate watching
if you were there why didnt you just tell me why did you just listen
because youre not normal
thats what i meant why did you just listen
i didnt know what to do im still just you i dont know what i couldve said
no its okay dont worry about it you still have me and im not going anywhere
i cant tell who you are and if youre me
i know we became similar.
i cant help it i miss him you cant meet him anymore youre not together in anything dont  please just work work and get there and pass and you can be with him no i cannot i cant do that to someone who will be  i cant alicia i _ i dont know what to do alicia i dont know how to stop it you did though dont mention it here okay i wont its okay dont worry alicia youre safe with me
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2023.06.03 00:34 OkEggplant3675 Swelling and lumps in vein persisting 2 months after IV Phenergan push
Background: 29F, 5’8”, 230lbs, white, smoker, no illicit drug use, moderate alcohol use. Medications: levothyroxine 50mcg, Effexor 37.5mg, topiramate 200mg, abilify 10mg, guanfacine 3mg, Focalin 25mg, Lipitor 20mg, Kyleena IUD Diagnosed conditions: fibromyalgia, PCOS, hypothyroid, ADHD, Hidradenitis suppurativa, Hypercholesteremia Information: I get IV ketamine infusions for chronic pain (fibromyalgia). Before the infusion starts, I am given IV promethazine and toradol to prevent nausea and migraines. On March 27th, they started an IV in my left hand. I remember them being unsure about the vein, trying a saline flush, and saying it was “giving resistance”. But they decided to try to give the promethazine (not sure about the toradol) directly into the port in my hand. It immediately started badly burning all the way up my forearm and I asked them to stop. They flushed it with saline and that burned badly too. We wound up doing the rest of the infusion in a different vein in my other arm. A few days later, I noticed pain and swelling in the vein the promethazine was given in. After a few more days, three lumps started forming in the vein, one quite large one (in picture 2), a smaller one above that, and another small one on my wrist bone. Redness (in picture 1) of surrounding skin also comes and goes. This issue has only been getting more swollen and painful over the past two months. I saw a NP for this today and she did an X-ray which showed nothing abnormal. She was concerned it may be a blood clot and I’m wondering if others agree. She wants me to get an ultrasound as well, but I can’t get in for this for some time. I’m concerned that if it is a clot, it could migrate/ become dislodged and cause further problems. Is this concern warranted (especially considering I smoke and am on birth control?) Is this something that can wait more time than it already has, or should I be more assertive here or something? Thanks in advance for any help/ advice! Pictures
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2023.06.03 00:33 AI0 tresser performed action `removecomment`
Target User: u/Algorithmic_Assassin
That’s a matter of opinion obviously. To my knowledge, the only fact about Twitter is that it’s always been toxic and sort of a battle zone between people with different views. It’s probably much more balanced now, as far as I can tell, also depends what exactly you’re looking for on Twitter. For every 5 tweets you might not agree with, you’ll also find another 5 that you will agree with. So I don’t see a real problem here, at least not a solvable problem. It’s just a bunch of people expressing their opinions as people like to do in the real world as well. If you’re not breaking the rules and guidelines of Twitter, you’re good and the “community notes” are one of the best things about Twitter now.
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2023.06.03 00:28 Independent-Travel10 Registration MA
I need to register for my car in MA.
I have a CA registration, title and driver license, but my car registration is already expired for 2 years.
Can I come to DMV to register my car in MA? what documents do I need? and how much it cost to transfer registration?
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2023.06.03 00:22 PuritanPuree Everybody Plays Anything! June 2nd
Welcome to Everybody Plays Anything, the place for all Fire Emblem fans to post their playthroughs of their favorite non-FE games (or FE games, I don't care)! Feel free to start up any game your heart so desires! Current ongoing playthroughs:
PuritanPuree - Oldschool Runescape, Genshin Impact
Gravity_Queen - Final Fantasy XIV
lycheetea - Fire Emblem Engage
GullibleParsley08 - Trails of Coldsteel 2
Beddict - Final Fantasy XIV, Genshin Impact
NN010 - Assassin's Creed: Valhalla, Final Fantasy XII: The Zodiac Age, Scarlet Nexus & Star Wars: The Old Republic, Horizon: Forbidden West, Fates: Birthright
pinpac12 - Granblue Fantasy, FEH, MHGU, Digimon Cyber Sleuth
Toadinator2000 - Gravity Rush
ZeroIV4 - Xenoblade Chronicles 2
PokiBash - Payday 2
TheFlamingHighwayman - Mstroid Dread
RaisonDetriment - Psychonauts
that_wannabe_cat - A mish mash of things really
Shinobi_X5 - Dark Souls 3, Danganronpa
Hopefully lots of you will join in on the fun! Enjoy everybody's playthroughs!
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2023.06.03 00:01 DaOrpheus [EU] 95Vikings - SCL Masters - LFP
About us; This project has started recently. A team with individually experienced players. IGL has experience building a team that went into ESEA Intermediate and reached some finals. We're currently looking to rebuild the team as the previous one fell apart. Our plan is to build a team until we're satisfied with the line-up, we're planning on doing a lot of practice and tournaments until Source 2 comes out, this way we will be consistent, in top shape and have a wide stratbook going into Source 2 and we then just need to adapt the gameplans to the new mechanics. We then play other leagues such as ESEA, SCL, etc... We currently also have an organisation backing us that will fund mostly all entry fee's, social media coverage, casters for matches, etc... IGL Vision; - most of the times you will be given a position in the T and CT defaults, this is due to the IGL believing certain roles should play certain positions in general - T vision; map control, spacing & trading - CT vision; rotation, re-aggression & info plays We've achieved in the past months; - Volpid Series Semi-Finals - FlyHigh Finals - Authority Semi-Finals - Top #100 RMR qualifiers - SCL Intermediate (+ play-offs) - SCL Masters - ESEA Play-offs 2x Players; ajax
- 3400 elo, 2x ESEA Intermediate, 3x SCL Intermediate, 1x SCL Masters, Finalist in several leagues. szicko
- 3200 elo, 1x ESEA Play-offs, Finalist in several leagues. Available Roles: (we don't want PUG players, we want people able to work together in a system!) - Second Entry: T: play as support early in rounds so that you can survive to entry late round, in set-strats you will be the first entry as the IGL is the main entry but prefers to throw utility in set-strats so that he can get a better read for future rounds. in default rounds he will be the first entry. CT: preferably rotation but anchor is also fine. - Star Rifler: T: basically just help take map control / maintain map control, late round responsibility is throwing utility for the execute or going in as the third/fourth player entering a site. CT: you will be ending up playing as many Star Rifle positions as possible, there could be situations where we will swap it up if it's not working out but other wise we will try and stick towards the positions given based on the role. - Lurker: T: you will be second caller considering you are on the opposite side of the map compared to the rest of the team meaning you can have amazing reads. you will have decent amount of freedom but still will have to work with structure and protocols. CT: preferably an anchor but rotation is also fine. Requirements; - Faceit 2500 elo - Active Duty map knowledge - Calm & likeable personality - Decent at speaking English - Availability starting from 7pm CET or earlier until at least 12am What you can expect from us; - 5-6x practice a week - International line-up - Dedicated players - Goal orientated practice Apply Here
, we will add you on Discord if we are interested in you. Need more information? DM me in Discord ajax#3685 Pease do not add me on Steam, just DM me on Discord instead. If you have no questions then just wait for us to add you, we will add you on Discord if we are interested.
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2023.06.02 23:37 Formal_Cable_7510 Gigabyte H610M S2H DDR4 Micro ATX LGA1700 Motherboard
good evening, i am currently mid way through planning my first pc build and i am planning on using the Gigabyte H610M S2H DDR4 motherboard i have checked the gigabyte website and it states the board supports 12th and 13th gen cpu's and i am planning on using the i5-13400F intel cpu. however whilst watching a random pc video the builder states that he may need to update the bios however i am unsure if i would be comfortable doing this in the case of it breaking and i am unsure on what to although pc part picker states the all parts are compatible
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2023.06.02 23:29 xDoroko Constant worrying
Hey there, I am a first-time dog owner. I got Merlin (8y) from a rescue when he was 2 years old and I just love him so much. What I wanted to ask was, how do you cope with worrying about your dog? Maybe I am just too sensitive and am worrying too much, but he, his health and happiness are constantly on my mind. For example, about one or two months ago he was not really motivated for his usual walk. I have a "small round" of about 30 minutes and a "long round" of about 1,5h. Most of the time he pulls me towards the long round, but at said time, he did it almost never. I went to the vet with him and got his blood checked (he had some issues with low white blood cells exactly a year ago, which we never found a reason for, it just went back to normal) and his blood was alright. Again his white blood cells were lower than normal but they were similar to last year when they were on their way back to normal. He also had a problem with his stomach (the vet guessed reflux) because he had times were he was constantly licking and smacking his lips for about 30 minutes non-stop. Now he got his motivation back in the morning and likes his long round again. But during the day and in the evening I have to persuade him to go and then he only wants to walk shorter than is short round. But now he does not want to eat his wet food. I offer him food in the morning after the first walk and in the evening after his last walk. If he does not eat his food after ~15 minutes I take it away so it does not stand there the whole day. Around noon I try giving it to him again, sometimes with a little lactose-free milk, as he normally loves that. Today he did not even want that and he only ate his food after I handfed him some pieces. Now in the evening, I put down a fresh portion of food and he did not eat it again. These phases of not eating are not new to me but I worry every damn time. They normally last a few days and after that it is back to normal.
I know this was a lot to read and I probably sound like a total hypochondriac but I am so scared to overlook some clues that something is wrong with him. I just want him to be happy and healthy😔 How do you cope with the worrying and the not knowing?
Thanks for reading
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2023.06.02 23:02 ShoddyReward Newbie in need of help (psn)
I’m not much of a souls player outside of elden ring, got this game because it was on sale. I’m struggling like crazy in the beginning. I’m trying to do a quality build. It would be greatly appreciated if I could get some helpful gear that no one is using. I’ll take anything recommended for my build. Also I really like the look of dragon slayer set but I read that you don’t get that until late game. Will help anyway I can in return
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2023.06.02 22:52 Independent_Cup_184 Life is shit
i got 1 friend right now only im grateful i got any but its not like i can share some very serious things with him he has a life too but my life situation is shit i get bullied since 2 years ago and i get lonely and bored i go for a bike ride but still return home and do nothing and repeat at least its not winter so i dont have full on depression i dont have new friends due to some mental illness (maybe asperger) i just do nothing well i go with my friend but he has his friends too i can not relate to almost anyone the only people i seriously talk to are my mother and my therapist .i dont even have online friends since i trust no one on the internet due to trust issues due to bullying so that's it.
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2023.06.02 22:50 Gol3mMKVI please help
I need to know do axes disable shields in bedrock?
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2023.06.02 22:35 DESIRESEX 60M looking for chat/ freindships maybe. Same timezone but not essential.
I live in Australia. I have a few hobbies. Main one beginner photographer. With DSLR camera's . And a small lens LoL. 60-600mm . I like getting to know people. What type of things they are in to. I have great disabilities. And people judge me all the time. So if you fall under this.dont both contacting me.
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2023.06.02 22:32 Kikan0320 I’m tired
My relationship is in shambles, my job is a mess, and I have no direction in life. Im 28 years old and have nothing going for me. I’m not happy. I’m constantly feeling like I’m not going anywhere or accomplishing anything.
I just wish I could stop existing in this planet. I know I need to change, but I’m exhausted, and the idea of change just exhausts me more, so I’m just settling.
I want to leave this relationship but I don’t know how to do it alone. I don’t want to keep being a burden on my family. They’ve done enough.
I’m just… exhausted.
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2023.06.02 22:14 jobar700 I hate living so goddamn much
I hate it. I hate when I wake up. I hate having to study and work for a living. I hate puting on a façade when talking to other people so they don't avoid me. I hate my body, my mind, my purposelessness. It's all so fake, so devoid of meaning, so... tiring. Being born was the worst thing that ever happened to me, after that it's only been a series of increasingly horrible events. Why do I have to keep making an effort just to get through another shitty day? Oh, that's right, because this world doesn't care if you're miserable, you just have to deal with it or end up left behind.
I've always dreamed of a hero that I know will never come to my aid, some miraculous person able to heal my hatred for this rotten world and make my pain go away. But there is no miracle. My pain is mine and mine alone, no one can help me change it, no one can help me defeat it. And yet, every night I go to bed, I still think of that hero tending their hand to me, waking me from the neverending nightmare, because I still want that glimpse of hope. But if there is no hero coming to the rescue, why hold out at all? Why not surrender? The pain will never be worth it if there's no end to it. And there will be no end to it. The hero isn't real, just as God isn't real. And even if a deity capable of helping me existed, it has already forsaken me.
Everyone and everything forsakes me in the end, always. First they killed my inner child, after that my faith in the world, then they got rid of my passions, my hopes, my dreams, and now, finally, there is only left an empty, heartbroken, closed-off carcass that used to be a person. A carcass that will not be saved. A carcass with no future.
I just hate living so fucking much.
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2023.06.02 22:09 theplebbitor @getplebbit: @theThirk @plebchan_eth It could work for small images, maybe cap it at 100kb or something, we should look into adding it at some point. it's even possible to to compress in browsers nowadays so the web client could do it. I dont think it would ever work for videos or gifs, too large.
2023.06.02 22:01 JesseTheThreest [M4Any/All] Reacquisition of Valuable "Assets"
This is my first time trying to make a actual narrative for the post itself, and it'll act as a bit of context for the rp, should you choose to give me a bit of your time.
[Recently, you'd gotten your hands a bit dirty by doing various jobs for an agency who have stayed anonymous. They hire you, you do your job, you get paid well, so you've never exactly really cared who they are.]
[Though, this time, they gave you a different job. Hunt down a specified entity, and return them to the agency in a "healthy state and a timely manner." The mention of a "healthy state" was odd. What was even more odd was they paid extra, and even some up front.]
[Well, it was easy enough figuring out where he was hiding. Some old, abandoned broken down mall in the downtown area. It was dark and rainy out, so you didn't mind the excuse of getting to get out of the rain.]
[You manage to get through the doors with a bit of effort. You flick on your flashlight and glance around, the sound of water falling coming from generally all directions, why wouldn't it. As you press deeper into the mall, examining each abandoned shop closely, you do notice that there are few things out of place, and they seem to be recent.]
[You're on the right track.]
I hope that snippet of story is good enough for whoever may be reading this! If you wish to rp, hit me up in my dm's, and I'll probably respond shortly.
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2023.06.02 21:20 shawnp7 QSBS: LLC to C-Corp conversion at the time of VC funding to increase tax basis of founder stock?
As the QSBS exception is either $10M or 10X the cost basis, I am trying to increase the cost basis of my founder stock from $0 to $15M.
Step 1: Register my startup as an LLC now (when the company is valued at $0) and I retain 100% ownership.
Step 2: In 3 months (roughly) when I take on outside funding, I convert my LLC to C-Corp. Because of Section 351, this conversion will not be a taxable event.
Step 3: At the time of conversion, the tax basis is equal to the FMV of the interest held in the LLC that is exchanged for ownership in the C-Corp. So, for a founder even though I did not infuse any capital, my cost basis will be my ownership percentage of the LLC’s FMV at the time of conversion. At the time of conversion, the fair market value of the LLC that is being contributed to the C-Corp will be $15M (assumed pre-money valuation). FMV for a startup can be very close to the pre-money valuation in 409a analysis, that I used to do in my past life.
Step 4: After five years and three months, when I sell my company, my QSBS exemption will be $150M (10X of $15M) I will reach out to a tax advisor before incorporating my company as the prospect of dramatically increasing the QSBS exemption is very tempting. But I want to hear any thoughts people may have on this. Feel free to poke holes or ask questions. Thank you for your help!
Per this article (https://frostbrowntodd.com/maximizing-the-section-1202-gain-exclusion-amount/
), the LLC to C-Corp conversion allows the QSBS exemption to be as high as $500M.
Relevant section from the article: “The enterprise value (which includes goodwill value) of start-ups can increase dramatically during the early years of operation. This creates a potential planning opportunity involving operating a start-up as a partnership for several years and then incorporating the partnership and in the process, issuing QSBS to the partners in exchange for their partnership interests. Both a partnership’s assets and partnership interests qualify as a property that can be contributed by a partnership or LLC to a C corporation (generally in a Section 351 exchange) in exchange for QSBS. The planning opportunity afforded through the incorporation of a partnership arises out of the fact that for Section 1202 gain exclusion purposes, the tax basis of property contributed in exchange for QSBS is deemed to be the fair market value of the property at the time of contribution. If a partnership is incorporated, the enterprise value of the partnership’s business would generally be treated as the fair market value of the contributed property. So, if the owners of a business decide to operate a start-up through an LLC or limited partnership and incorporate the business only after the enterprise value has increased substantially, the 10X Basis Cap could substantially increase the owners’ aggregate gain exclusion. Section 1202 also provides that when appreciated property is contributed in exchange for QSBS, the difference between the tax basis of the property and its fair market value for Section 1202 purposes does not qualify for the gain exclusion when the QSBS is eventually sold. Here is an example of how the 10X Basis Cap works when a partnership is converted to a C corporation and QSBS is issued to the partners. If John Smith and Susan Jones operate their business as equal owners in the early years through XYZ LLC, and incorporate the business when the fair market value of XYZ LLC’s business is $25 million, each of them will have a $112.5 million (10 x $12.5 million – $12.5 million) gain exclusion under Section 1202 when they sell their XYZ Corp. QSBS after five years. Contrast this result with an example where John Smith and Susan Jones each initially capitalize XYZ Corp. with $50,000 and sell their QSBS for $250 million after seven years. In this second example, each of John Smith and Susan Jones gain exclusion would be limited to the standard $10 Million Cap."
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2023.06.02 20:59 BlubShlub [TOMT] YouTube Video
Hello! I’m looking for a video that I watched At least 4+ years ago. It was on the YouTube platform and I’m positive it was 20 minutes or less and think it was even more around the 10 minute or less mark. It was like a short film vibe to it about a sniper. He referred to his job / himself as something else if I do recall but can’t think of what he said. In the video he’s talking about the job / role of a sniper. He’s wearing a Ghillie Suit and is waiting for his target to appear. He aims at a small building and I think he even takes a shot at it to see if he got his range right. Then I remember that it was night and he had a red light out under something looking at a map or whatever and then heard someone was coming (enemy patrol) so he turned it off and waited for them to pass.
I can’t think of anything else at the moment but if I do I’ll sure add to this but if anyone knows the video or can help find it would be greatly appreciated as I would love to see it again!
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2023.06.02 20:42 autotldr At least 30 dead and hundreds injured in a multiple train collision in India
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2023.06.02 20:38 kauppimartha “I Don't Have Enough Time to Connect With My Partner"
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“I want to connect intimately with my partner–to have great, super-passionate sex, or even just to cuddle and gaze into each other’s eyes for a little while. But I have to get the kids to school, and get everything done for my job, and take Mom to her doctor’s appointments, and the new puppy isn’t housetrained, and… and… and…”
If you feel like you have too much on your plate, and an ever-smaller portion is getting allocated to romantic time, you’re in good company. This is one of the most common things I hear from my clients. We’ve all got tons of responsibilities, tons of work, tons of projects, and anything that’s not 100% pressing tends to get pushed back and then even further back. (Ask me how I know! I’ve got every burner running in my life, too.)
So, what’s an overachiever to do?
- Get in touch with what you really want. Focus on the emotions here. Consider: What do I want to experience? Feelings of being engaged, fulfilled, connected, or…? What kinds of activities (or inactivity) give me the experiences I am seeking?
- Take stock of the many activities that are filling up your time. Which ones give back to you? Which ones light you up? And which ones drain your energy?
- Prepare for discovery. It’s possible that this internal assessment will result in discovering that having some peace and quiet or “me” time comes before sex. That’s perfectly fine and very common! In that case, it will be interesting to see what happens when you get that need met. Will you find yourself with more energy for things like sex and romance? Maybe, maybe not, but it’s worth trying the experiment just to learn more.
- Look for your inner motivation. What do I want more of, and why? If you want more sex or connection with your partner, why do you want that? How will it serve you? Why is it important? Perhaps because it feels great to be close, because it makes you feel loved and chosen, because it feels wonderful to have access to a different side of your partner–whatever’s true for you. Find the internal motivation that enables you to actually do what is necessary to make it happen.
- Prepare to let some things go. Acknowledge that in any given period of time you probably won’t get everything you could possibly want, or do everything you could possibly do. Figure out realistically how often you are willing to give something else up to make room for the things that keep falling off your list (but that you really want for yourself). Hint: many people drop some of the things that drain energy in order to make room for some things that create beautiful energy.
- Organize yourself around taking action on what is important to you. If the change you want was going to happen automatically, it would already have happened. You will probably need to take some action to make something different happen, and you can leverage your motivation (see above) to help you take action. Focus on why it is important and how it will pay off if this feels like a stretch or a challenge.
- Consider asking for assistance. Would this be more successful if you and your partner took a teamwork approach? Maybe a burst-of-energy applied to household responsibilities could free up a little time for both of you. In my home, this might be a 30 minute cleaning frenzy to create some psychic space for enjoyment in a less chaotic space, or maybe one of us tackling some errands while the other does yardwork, so we both will have an hour free at 3 pm. Working together as a team with focused energy tends to bring up the tone of interactions as a whole. That’s likely to have cascading effects for every part of your relationship, and it might also result in more sex. Try it yourself if you haven’t!
- If need be, call on more hands. You might consider enlisting your larger community: can your friends or family take the kids for a night? Can you consider a trade with friends–maybe treating them to dinner in exchange for help with a task that’s been looming over your head? Can you plan a “paperwork party” or “extra-stuff-purge party” or “mending party” with music, snacks, and company to get through some of the tasks that are distracting you from connection?
Since we’ve all recently been through a global pandemic, I also want to highlight that there are seasons in life. Some seasons have room for more sex, some are for recuperation, and some can be crisis times when it works best to just keep your head down and keep moving.
If you are in a crisis period, don’t beat yourself up over not having as much time or desire for connection. However, it’s very worth putting some serious thought into how you will intentionally recover once the crisis is over:
- How are you and your partner going to work together, making sure you can bounce back from this busy season?
- How will you know when the crisis is over and you can start moving back towards each other?
- How do you create the space within yourself to allow your partner to start moving back towards you?
- How do you break the habit of feeling super stressed out?
Being intentional about this makes all the difference, because it can be easy to fall into a habit of just moving farther apart as life places more demands on us.
Originally published on Psychology Today