My stepmom mangwa

Just ranting, So I (24F) was kicked out of my parents place, had my car taken away, and told to go die in the streets. Now they’re begging me to come back. So for context, I lived in one of my parents house with two of my siblings who are around the same age as me. So, I was kicked out and they cut off contact and made my sibling not contact me and threatened them if they attempted to reach out, they would be kicked out too. So I have a bank account that I made when I was 16 with my stepmom, and I didn’t know but she can see into my account. So I changed the password and that’s what caused me to get kicked out and I was hiding money aside to move out of that toxic place. I was always paying for my siblings and if my brother wanted his way, he would cry to my dad and I’d get in trouble and my phone would blow up with awful messages and threats. So when I got kicked out, I obviously panicked because they took my car, my money and everything. I only had ten minutes to pack what I could. Thankfully, I have a friend that’s letting me stay until I get back on my feet and I had to leave my job that I loved because it’s an hour away now and I don’t have means of transportation (buses are not common in this rural area) and if I relied on a bus, I could only work part time up where I’m at. Now it’s been about three months, I have a full time job and saving up for a car and I’m half way there. My friend works from home so she has let me use her car(I’m on her insurance and I pay her for my part) to work and I’m doing better mentally and emotionally. Now every time my parents message me they tell me how I had it all and honestly, I’m happy where I’m at. Yeah, it’s a shitty situation that I was in but oh my god I am so happy and better.
So yesterday a family member messaged me asking why I had no money in my account and I’m like how would you know that? Unless my stepmom asked you to ask me. So I told her, look I have money I just have it in cash stashed away because out of sight, out of mind and I don’t feel the need to spend it and my stepmom proceeded to berate me and blow up my phone that I just shut off my phone. I’m so done with my family they really treat strangers and friends the nicest but the minute it’s their kids, screw them. It just hurts because I was abandoned by my birth mother and I looked up to my stepmom and for her to do this just makes it hurt even more. And my dad taking her side is just making it worse.

Just ranting, So I (24F) was kicked out of my parents place, had my car taken away, and told to go die in the streets. Now they’re begging me to come back. So for context, I lived in one of my parents house with two of my siblings who are around the same age as me. So, I was kicked out and they cut off contact and made my sibling not contact me and threatened them if they attempted to reach out, they would be kicked out too. So I have a bank account that I made when I was 16 with my stepmom, and I didn’t know but she can see into my account. So I changed the password and that’s what caused me to get kicked out and I was hiding money aside to move out of that toxic place. I was always paying for my siblings and if my brother wanted his way, he would cry to my dad and I’d get in trouble and my phone would blow up with awful messages and threats. So when I got kicked out, I obviously panicked because they took my car, my money and everything. I only had ten minutes to pack what I could. Thankfully, I have a friend that’s letting me stay until I get back on my feet and I had to leave my job that I loved because it’s an hour away now and I don’t have means of transportation (buses are not common in this rural area) and if I relied on a bus, I could only work part time up where I’m at. Now it’s been about three months, I have a full time job and saving up for a car and I’m half way there. My friend works from home so she has let me use her car(I’m on her insurance and I pay her for my part) to work and I’m doing better mentally and emotionally. Now every time my parents message me they tell me how I had it all and honestly, I’m happy where I’m at. Yeah, it’s a shitty situation that I was in but oh my god I am so happy and better.
So yesterday a family member messaged me asking why I had no money in my account and I’m like how would you know that? Unless my stepmom asked you to ask me. So I told her, look I have money I just have it in cash stashed away because out of sight, out of mind and I don’t feel the need to spend it and my stepmom proceeded to berate me and blow up my phone that I just shut off my phone. I’m so done with my family they really treat strangers and friends the nicest but the minute it’s their kids, screw them. It just hurts because I was abandoned by my birth mother and I looked up to my stepmom and for her to do this just makes it hurt even more. And my dad taking her side is just making it worse.

This post is just to clear some confusion up. My mom had me during the week She was not an alcoholic before my dad left her. After the incident my stepmom was held in jail for two days and then bailed out by my dad. My younger brother (2 at the time) was in the car while this happened.
Hope this clears up some confusion!

My (20f) friend Sam (23M) died. His girlfriend, Hannah (21f) has been taking it out on my friends (her roommates included) for months.
Now look, I've been through some grief, and loosing Sam to some laced cocaine was beyond shocking. It wasn't at some party or anything either, he was using it to stay up for finals. It is beyond tragic. I had seen him not even a week before it happened. Everyone in my friend group (we get together once a week for game nights) was crushed, validly so. Our game nights always took place where Hannah and two of my good friends live.
Hannah and Sam had been together for about 2 years. I had actually known Adam the least amount of time out of everyone, about 6 months. Granted, I still think about Sam very often. After everything went down (4 months ago when he died) Hannah left to her hometown, which everyone thought was a good idea. She needed the rest and to not be reminded of Sam everywhere she looked.
My friend group mourned, and honored Sam. We went to the park and just looked at the sky, it felt like all we could do. There were no more energetic game nights, it became 5 scared kids sticking together as much as they could, unable to even grasp the idea of losing Sam. Everyone else knew Sam for about 2-3 years. It was a really hard time for everyone.
Once Hannah returned, we were very gentle around her. Things were rough, as her two roommates are in relationships, one a very new relationship, and Hannah's boyfriend just died so it was hard for her to see others in happy relationships. There became an unspoken rule that no one could have a boyfriend in a time like this, and she became envious of her roomies. Tension started to rise, regardless her roommates sat with her day and night, being a shoulder to cry on. Everyone was constantly checking up on her. Feelings were set aside, and we did our best to make Hannah happy.
I understood all of this, I get grief is just one of those things that sparks a number of emotions.
Things started picking back up slowly, we are nowhere near where things used to be when Sam was around, but we are together. Game nights started including games again, and it was a slow transition that happened over weeks and weeks. Hannah, though, started to "act out"? We had to walk on eggshells.
At first it was little meaningless things, and she would threaten to move out. If she was left alone for more than a day "no one cared about her" and she was ready to pack up and leave. She took in Sam's leopard gecko and neglected it terribly. Even I was buying food and changing the lights for the gecko. She stopped responding to everyone when she would leave for days at a time. We just needed to know how to split up the care for the gecko. I get it is difficult, but why let the poor thing starve. I expressed I was more than happy to take in the gecko for as long as she needed. Things just got worse though.
Her roommates became frustrated that Hannah wouldn't let them see their boyfriend's and that Hannah was accusing them of not being there for her. It's important to note that I know for a fact she has every single one of us fighting to be there for her. Making her comfortable and including her when she is able. Refusing to leave her out, even if she wasn't in a good mood, because who can be in a good mood when their SO dies unexpectedly?? This friend group is beyond caring and understanding (except one who struggles with empathy, but she interacts with Hannah the least and never said anything out of hand or against her, at most avoided her when times were rocky). Things got muddier and confusing.
Things have gotten much more concerning recently, though. Hannah is causing so much harm towards everyone, now.
She resigned a lease with her roommates, who are a part of this game night group. After signing, she immediately told everyone she's moving out. This really fucked up the other two roommate's plans, and they've been beyond stressed out housing as they can't break their lease now. Honestly, the tension before this was obvious, and I told my friends they were stupid for signing the lease with her (in a nicer way though).
She would do things like hide the TV remote in her room. We used Sam's gaming counsels for our game nights, and Hannah took those, too. Little by little we weren't allowed to speak about Sam or have any type of fun. Most nights we just silently watched a movie and smoked or something. Only Hannah was allowed to mourn. Everything was on her terms, and it was awkward.
She started making out of pocket comments about race and people's appearances in general. How black people are animals. Very shocking stuff, but also delivered in such a nonchalant way. I have no idea if I just hadn't seen this side of her, but it felt very new and odd.
I fear Hannah is very out of touch with the reality of her relationships, though. She has become almost manipulative towards us all. She reached out and sent me a very long paragraph that my friends are all evil and have made despicable actions towards her. I had written a long, heartfelt letter after Sam's passing for this group, and they hung it on their fridge. It was to honor Sam and to stay connected and to never forget that my friends are loved.
Hannah told me my friends destroyed the note. she told me she would love to be friends and be in contact, but that my friends were terrible people.
The thing is, is that this isn't real. The note is fine, and her roommates have not been evil. This feels like it has all been building up, but EVERYONE is confused. I feel that the past 4 months I have been reassuring everyone that grief is weird and complicated, but to do our best, but at this rate we have all been pushing our feelings aside and Hannah is the only one allowed to grieve.
She has unadded us all.
I responded reassuring her the note is okay and that it was just a misunderstanding. I told her I'd love to chat more and I'm happy to talk about Sam's loss too, as I witnessed my stepmom lose her partner, same with my uncle. I told her that everyone is concerned for her. I asked her to explain what evil has been done if she is comfortable. I asked her what was up, and told her I'm lost, everyone is confused.
She never responded.
I want to respond so bad calling her out, but I won't. That's what this is for.
I am so angry and frustrated. She is allowed to be upset and sad and move away and leave, but she has no right to call my friends evil. She is jumping to conclusions and making things hard for her roommates and the group overall. We lost two friends this year.
She's living off Sam's parents' money and moving across the country to live on their property. I feel bad that she is taking advantage of his parents in such a venerable state, but I am now glad we won't have to deal with her, and we can properly grieve.
I suspect she has some mental issues; it is more than grief as of right now. To turn and lie about such great friends. She has victimized herself in such a deep way, I hope she finds help.
I was forgiving for a long time; I was always backing her up when all of my friends started noticing her toxic behavior. I reassured them over and over that grief is intense and confusing, but this time I can't defend her. It's my time to be allowed to be angry. I will let her move on and live her life. I will not forget about Sam.

I am a childless 26 year old woman who found this sub a few years back. For a long time I had a very fractured relationship with my dad, but seeing all of your love and celebration and encouragement toward each other in pursuit of being Great Dads shifted my perspective. My dad and I talk weekly now, and he and my stepmom just returned home from visiting myself and my partner out of state for the first time ever. Thank you for reminding me that my dad is My Dad and loved me just as much as you love your kiddos, even when things have been hard. You all helped heal my relationship with him and I’m thankful to you.
Saw someone post something similar and didn’t realize it was okay! So anyway. Thank you, from a girl and her dad.

I don't really hate anyone, and I never really have. But ever since maybe 3-4 years ago, I have absolutely hated my stepmom. For some background, about 7 years ago I moved out of my abusive mothers household. She and my father were never married, and she often cycled through numerous boyfriends that created an unstable household for me. My father was living with my mother and her boyfriend and hadn't dated in a long time, and he met someone that 7 years ago. It all broke down one night and he took me out of that house and moved right in with the girlfriend he hadn't known for more than a year when I was 11.
Almost immediately, she was in place to be my replacement mother. I was never allowed the respect of having her reationship be on my terms no matter how much I begged for time and space. I felt strongly that I didn't want a replacement mother, or a mother at all because my mom had never been a good influence on me. It wasn't as if I didn't accept her into my family and respect her, it's simply that I didn't someone want someone posing as a mother. But they continued to badger me about how I have to respect her and see her as my step-mother. But we really did not get along. For the purpose of not making this post incredibly long, here is a list of things that came throughout the years that broke our relationship.

• Actively avoided me during Covid and would exit the room as soon as I came in and blamed avoiding me on the fact that I made “too much noise” when I would cook for myself (I was 11)
• She's an alcoholic
• Landed herself in the hospital not once, but twice because of alcoholism
• Approached me while in psychosis insinuating that I was on call with my friend shitting on her and asked for my discord password so she could read through our chats
• Told my dad to tell me about her delusions of me being kidnapped and taken away and used this as leverage in order for me to empathize with her and show me she cared
• Would drive with me in the car while drunk
• Actively lied to my dad about the fact that she wasn’t drunk while driving with me and lied about how I asked her to pull over when I could tell she was drunk (my dad believed her)
• Almost killed me several times while swerving on the road and scraping her car on the concrete barriers of a bridge while drnk driving
• Had to have CPS called on her
• Actively treats my dad like a child and calls him insulting names (“jackass, asshole”), even screaming at him to "SIT THE FUCK DOWN" followed by a loud thud.
• Has called me insulting names in arguments where I’ve expressed that I cant respect her because of what shes done to me and I dont want to be associated with her (“Bitch”)
• Did not have a job for years and made my dad the sole financial provider for me and herself

So.. yea. There is much, much more of this that isn't included. As the years have passed, my respect for her and desire for her to be in my life has completely extinguished. She has put my dad and me through emotional torment, and despite all her egregious efforts to force me to respect her as a "mtoher figure", she really was the exact opposite.
On the flip, my real mother actually reached out to me a couple of weeks ago. She had actually changed, gone to therapy, found herself a stable relationship, finished college, found a stable job, and ensured me that she could not make up for what happened when I was a child, but that is, and only if I'd like a relationship with her, it would be on my terms. I've been calling her regularly but I feel that it's useless to talk about my situation at home with my family because there is simply not much people can do. My stepmother looks like a pretty normal person on the outside, so people don't understand or believe me when I tell them all of this. I am 18 now and desperately waiting to move out and hopefully go low contact with not just my stepmother, but also my father, who I feel has been an instigator to her behavior and has failed to protect me.

Just ranting, So I (24F) was kicked out of my parents place, had my car taken away, and told to go die in the streets. Now they’re begging me to come back. So for context, I lived in one of my parents house with two of my siblings who are around the same age as me. So, I was kicked out and they cut off contact and made my sibling not contact me and threatened them if they attempted to reach out, they would be kicked out too. So I have a bank account that I made when I was 16 with my stepmom, and I didn’t know but she can see into my account. So I changed the password and that’s what caused me to get kicked out and I was hiding money aside to move out of that toxic place. I was always paying for my siblings and if my brother wanted his way, he would cry to my dad and I’d get in trouble and my phone would blow up with awful messages and threats. So when I got kicked out, I obviously panicked because they took my car, my money and everything. I only had ten minutes to pack what I could. Thankfully, I have a friend that’s letting me stay until I get back on my feet and I had to leave my job that I loved because it’s an hour away now and I don’t have means of transportation (buses are not common in this rural area) and if I relied on a bus, I could only work part time up where I’m at. Now it’s been about three months, I have a full time job and saving up for a car and I’m half way there. My friend works from home so she has let me use her car(I’m on her insurance and I pay her for my part) to work and I’m doing better mentally and emotionally. Now every time my parents message me they tell me how I had it all and honestly, I’m happy where I’m at. Yeah, it’s a shitty situation that I was in but oh my god I am so happy and better.
So yesterday a family member messaged me asking why I had no money in my account and I’m like how would you know that? Unless my stepmom asked you to ask me. So I told her, look I have money I just have it in cash stashed away because out of sight, out of mind and I don’t feel the need to spend it and my stepmom proceeded to berate me and blow up my phone that I just shut off my phone. I’m so done with my family they really treat strangers and friends the nicest but the minute it’s their kids, screw them. It just hurts because I was abandoned by my birth mother and I looked up to my stepmom and for her to do this just makes it hurt even more. And my dad taking her side is just making it worse.

Must Read guys Hi I was here for a while and do many disrespectful things As a man , as a muslim i regret it all and i also promise myself to never to those things again As homo , bi its not good at all Specially Muslims And after that incest is the most horrible delima rn, even talk about your mother sister is wrong , even in porn they say stepmom,stepsis but we violate every rule here . All the things i tell you about myself some are true and some are wrong And i regret sharing my sins with you May allah forgive me Some are lies tooo I hope every religion is against nudity. Sex etc May you all be on good path and leave this insanity
Now im leaving all. These things and promising Myself to not do those things again I tried many times to quit , but i do that again , but now this determination is pure and i think alot on it Be A man QUIT this dark side We also have mother and sisters t home I disrespect many persons and I'm very ashamed for it ( also i want to apologize every celebs , girl , cousin , sis etc who i disrespected openly or privately) May Allah forgive us all Ameen Goodbye forever @everyone

I (29f) have a niece, Amy (12). My sister passed away 3 years ago and Amy stays with her dad, Rick (37), who remarried and has a stepdaughter, Kate (4). Amy gets along OK with her stepmom and Kate.
My sister and I lost our parents quite a while back, so we pretty much only had each other. I was, therefore, doing everything I could to maintain contact with her and Amy even though I went to college half way across the country and after that took a job overseas. After my sister’s passing I regularly call and text Amy, letting her know I’m there for her. We are very close and she tells me a lot of things going on in her life and asks me for all kinds of advice which I am only happy to help.
Almost a year ago my job relocated me to a city under an hour away from where Rick and Amy live. It is a promotion of sorts so my hours are more flexible. I often drop by to see Amy and take her shopping or go to places we want to go, usually once a week. I always called Rick first to see if the family has any plan with Amy, but Rick and his wife hardly say no. Lately I notice that they try to ask if I can take Kate with me on these outings as well, but I always tell them no, as Kate is too young to enjoy most of our activities (salons, cooking classes, candle making etc.).
Amy was to stay over at my house last Saturday because we would be looking at some summer activities together on Sunday. When I went to pick her up, Rick and his wife asked me if Kate could stay the night with me. Rick’s SIL was breaking up with her fiancé and needed their support. The wedding was like 2 weeks away and Rick’s wife was a bridesmaid, so there was a lot she needed to do. They said they would be back to pick the kids up on Sunday night.
I told them no. I have no experience babysitting anyone that young by myself. I never even babysit Amy at 4! I said I don’t have a problem extending Amy’s stay, but I really can’t take Kate.
Rick was upset and said that Kate is Amy’s sister and thus my niece as well and I have been playing favorites long enough. His wife said that the kids really need their aunt right now.
I stood firm and insisted on only taking Amy with me, as planned. They tried to tell me Kate is well behaved and they had all her things packed so it would be easy for me. I said they had a choice of letting Amy come with me or not, but I wouldn’t babysit Kate, end of discussion.
I eventually took Amy but Rick called me AH for not helping out Amy’s familyI wonder if they were right and I was the AH.

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Sorry for the novel...I wasn't expecting it to be this long...it kind of is a rant as well.
It's been roughly 6 months since I moved back. And if anyone wants to know the update here it is:
It took me roughly a month to find a full time job, but in the mean time the kids were on winter break and SDs (13 and 9) and I hung around the house for ~two weeks. I loved it! It was nice being back in the house with them. SD13 went back to her mom's for school and eventually so did SD9. While I was not working I agreed to help with SD9 getting to school, pick ups, ect. But I made sure to let SO and BM2 know that this was completly temporary until I got a job. I got an 8-5 job and also picked up a part time job-all while going back to school full time. I found a therapist I like as well. There have been some hiccups along the way, but I'm trying to bite my tounge or just let it roll off my back if it isn't breaking my boundaries. BM2 is now engaged/not engaged. She texted my SO that "Bf proposed while we were on our vacation, but he makes me so mad." She hasn't said anything to her daughter and SD9. Hasn't told her parents and doesn't wear the ring-if there is one. SO sister asked her about it at joint SD9 birthday party. She told his sister that she only said yes so the rest of the trip wouldn't be awkward, but she doesn't want to be engaged. Idk if her fiance/not fiance knows this- hoping she has talked to him, but it is discusting the way she has talked about him to my SO. Calling him a babysitter and a pig, but yet he treats her and her girls like gold. Her and fiance/not fiance broke up back in late Novembe early December. SO had just returned home from coming to visit me for Thanksgiving when she texted SO that they had broken up. She then proceeded to text SO that he was an amazing dad, she was so glad that she had SD9 with him, and that he was just a stand up guy. He thanked her for saying that and left it at that. She texted him the next day asking him if "he was still with his gf." She knows my name. He replied yes and asked her why. She never responded. I told SO that I think she got way too comfortable with me being out of the house and that she felt like she had her "best friend" back and could just talk about her love life and that she was trying to get SO back. He doesn't think that that is what she was trying to do, but I guarentee that's what she was doing. SO has come to a realization though, that some of her behavior is a manipulation tactic and that he is having to unlearn toxic traits/ behaviors/ thinking that she had instilled in him over the 7 years they were together while she was cheating.
So all in all things have not been bad since my return. There have been some arguments between us, but I think we are finally learning how we can truly communicate, for me to just relax a little and not try to control situations I can't control, and all and all figuring this life thing out. Luckily I have an amazing group of friends here-one of them having a HCBD- and I feel like the sun is starting to peak through the clouds. *knock on wood* I know we have a long way to go, but it's already ten times better than what it was before.

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My dad created the origin account years ago when I was a minor, I hace been putting money into this game since I started working at 19, now the account is still linked with his mail account, and I need a code to get in. For now the account is open on my old laptop but im planning on buying a new one soon, which brings me to my problem. After some years of abuse from my stepmom I ran to my mom and im living with her, almost 0 contact from my dad, I was planning to call him to chante the email address, but last night he sent me a sketchy message, asking for some documents, today I found out the documents he was asking for was to take a loan on my name, he is trying to scam me, I cant contact him, so now, I cant change the email address, is there a way I can do it without the need od the code the app sends? This game is my life, I put so much money on it

OK I don’t know what to do and for some fucked up reason I can’t post this on other relationship based sub Reddit because some of their arbitrary rules rule out my post for some reason or another I’m literally looking for suggestions not a yes or no answer so here it is. For context I (28 male) I am in a situation with my fiancé (22 female). So before we actually saw each other in person we were already together for a few years where we were long distance. She’s legitimately perfect everything I want and need in a woman. But there is a problem and it didn’t start out as a problem. I moved her down to America with me after surprising her with a plane ticket which she was initially nervous but got over it and we spent a year living together. It wasn’t always smooth sailing but we got through all of the rocky bits just fine I changed myself she changed herself and she had really come out of her shell in a big way it took a long time for me to get her that way but it worked finally. But then she started losing family members due to Covid and she couldn’t go back until lockdowns were over the airports did eventually open up and she did go back home to Canada everything was fine for a while. She said she was only going to be gone for at the very most eight months to a year well one year became too and two is becoming three she does want to see me again and she does love me but she’s scared to leave her family. Her family though I don’t think it’s too concerned with her her stepmom and her dad always hound her for money and that’s fucked with me in a very big way because I don’t like that they are just using her because they have drug problems I’m not trying to out her family so I will keep that where it is. Anyway her stepdad and her mom are honestly amazing her mom needs to work on her emotional availability but that’s not too big of an issue but that does become an issue. When I said they keep hounding her for money it makes her not want to look at her phone and as a direct result of that I don’t get to talk to her either she is quiet for days sometimes weeks on end and I don’t know if she’s OK or not because she has had Some offing tendencies and thoughts which I hope she’s going to therapy to help with but I don’t know because I don’t talk to her that often. The last time she said a word to me was May 20 it is now June 7 and I don’t know what’s going on with her right now it’s killing me with worry not knowing. We have had this conversation the few times we’ve gotten to talk in the past few months that it’s getting worse not better like she said that she was gonna be trying to do and that’s not a problem either I don’t want to force her or make her feel obligated because I know what she’s going through and I know why she’s doing what she’s doing. I told her that she can talk to me about anything at anytime. I’m just trying to be a good partner and to be there when she needs me to be there and I’m really not trying to sound weak but I need her as well I am pretty much starved of any kind of affection from her. Before anybody assumes no she’s not stringing me along she has confirmed to me that she does still love me and care about me but she is also said that she would understand if I did leave her it’s not something that she wants but she says that she would understand if it happens and I don’t want to give up on her like everybody else does and I’m trying to be this pillar for her but I can feel myself starting to crumble it’s like I’m holding up a mountain and I’m a fucking toothpick it’s also affecting me mentally I usually keep this under wraps though. I have asked my friends and family and all of them say I should just cut my losses and leave her because I am not qualified to help her I can’t help her but God dammit she’s my fiancé I have to try I don’t I I don’t just want to give up that’s what everybody else does to her. But I also am starting to feel that I am not qualified for this either and I’ve been fighting this for so damn long I’m starting to get exhausted I have thought about leaving but I don’t want to just give up especially after I wouldn’t. But that’s why I’m reaching out to you guys maybe somebody can help me or offer me some kind of advice some knowledge in what could be the right direction. I’m lost and I need help I can’t do this by myself anymore. To anybody that is worried about my mental state I am still fine I don’t have any suicidal tendencies or thoughts it’s more just mental exhaustion. Please I need something and I will try to take everything to heart I don’t know if I’m doing anything wrong or if I’m just fruitlessly holding on to something that I shouldn’t be but this is my situation and this is what I’m dealing with and please don’t disparage her she’s been through more than you could now but I’m also not putting her business out here either just what is relevant thank you for listening.

Hello, car nerds! I'm dealing with a dilemma between two cars and I need to know which one you think I should get.
A little background information about me. I'm 20F, and I REALLY love driving. Like, a lot. Driving is one of my favorite things to do, and I often do it to blow off steam, even though I probably shouldn't put wear and tear on my car...
I currently drive an absolute jalopy. It's a 2007 purple Ford Fusion. The thing is rusted out underneath and it's hanging together with duct tape. Even though it's not seriously busted on the inside (according to my mechanic team) the rust nevertheless makes weird noises when I drive that make me uncomfortable. I'm always under the impression that it's about to blow up with me in it. It's bad.
Needless to say, I need a new car, and I've been saving up a ton of money over the summer for down payment and working on my credit score for a loan to cover the rest. My budget is $20K for a used car, and I would like it to have less than 60K miles on it so that it will last me a good long time. I'll have to spend a about 4-6 years paying off that loan, so I want to have reliable transportation during that time.
I know that my parameters are very tight, but surprisingly I've found a handful of good cars within that price range. My biggest dilemma is between two options.
The first is a 2018 Mitsubishi from a used car dealership in Grand Rapids. It's about $16K and has about 40K miles on it. It's a compact car, and it's really ugly, but it is in good condition, gently used, and affordable. I don't particularly like this car, and it does not look fun to drive, but it the safest and most economical choice.
The other car is a 2010 yellow Chevy Camaro sold by the owner of a local pizzeria. He's a car snob and has a bunch of sports cars. The Camaro is a V6 and he wanted a V8, so he ended up buying a new V8 and is trying to get rid of this one. The car is $17K and only has 42K miles on it. It is in very good condition. Now, I LOVE muscle cars. A lot. As someone who loves driving, a Chevy Camaro is my dream car, and seeing one in such good condition going for only $17K seems almost too good to pass up. However, my one big concern is that the car is 13 years old. Even though it hasn't been driven much, I'm wondering whether the age of the car poses a risk. I certainly don't want to have to take the car back to the mechanics for repairs, especially considering muscle cars are more expensive to fix.
My choices boil down to this: 1. Take a really lame but very low-risk car. 2. Take the car of my dreams and splurge on the ultimate driving experience but take more risk on money and reliability.
To be honest, I don't know which one to go with. Getting the Mitsubishi would be wiser, but the Camaro would be an investment in enjoying my college years while I still can. As my stepmom told me, "You only live once." How many college students are able to find an affordable Chevy Camaro in good condition?

Throwaway, she uses reddit.
Backstory: I (31M) was adopted at birth. Around when I was in high school, they had a son of their own and I was basically ignored. It got so bad that I never went back home during college and instead in my junior year my aunt I guess (my adoptive dad's second cousin) and her husband invited me to stay with them for the summer and I've basically lived with them since. Aunt's husband has a daughter from a previous marriage, K (22F). Basically, K and I aren't related at all. Due to the custody agreement for K, K and I never really hung out, that changed the past couple of years when we moved states to near K's college. We started hanging out a lot more and honestly I fell for her, she's grown into a gorgeous woman, she's super smart and funny. K graduated this year and is spending the summer here with us and for the past 2 weeks it was just us at home, parents went abroad. We had a blast and I thought she was falling for me/flirting back at me.
I told her I was attracted to her but she said she wasn't ready for anything like that and I told her I understood and she left and I figured that was that. Well I guess I was wrong cause when I sent her a meme she responded with a long ass paragraph about how things would never be the same between us and how dare I think it would and I made her uncomfortable and she didn't want to see me or talk to me. Tbh the second I read that I immediately lost all attraction to her, I thought she was a mature adult but obviously not.
The next day she told me we need to talk and I tried to forestall her but she launched into this whole speech about how she regrets treating me nicely, how I violated her trust because she treated me like a brother, called me selfish apparently if I'd considered her feelings I'd know she'd never want this. At this point I had to interrupt her and explained I was no longer interested first of all, so this issue is over and done and she is blowing things out of proportion. That I don't regret treating her nicely and I will continue to. That I can accept that she isn't interested but I didn't violate her trust because I was being honest to my feelings and trust is about honesty. And how am I supposed to consider her feelings when I clearly can't read her, I thought I had a 50/50 shot.
At this point she blew up and started yelling over me, tbh I was shocked I told her idk where this anger was coming from I thought she was a nice person and she's clearly just looking for an excuse to hold onto her anger against me, I didn't do anything wrong, if I had to redo my confession I'd do it again, she's gorgeous and funny and any guy would fall for her, I did apologize that she felt uncomfortable. She yelled at me to shut the f up and left and childishly slammed the door.
That was 2 days ago and she's left the house, I think she's way overreacting but her mom called today to scream at me and I'm not sure now. At this point I'm also worried because K told me she told her dad and stepmom (my distant aunt and husband who I've been living with) and is adamant that she never wants to live in the same house as me again. I'm afraid she's trying to poison my relationship with my loved ones because she doesn't get that I'm over her and this isn't an issue anymore. She made her "no" clear and I of course respect that and have no interest in making her uncomfortable in the future. How do I smooth things over before she turns everyone against me?

Let me explain.

• I grew up with a single mom who earned just enough for us both
• I studied earlier than most people so I was always the youngest one in class
• I moved out at 16 for college and have been financially and physically independent ever since
• I put myself through college with scholarships and jobs, and then I got my first real job 1 month before actually graduating.

Basically, I grew up earlier than some people. Unfortunately, guys I've dated never matched that level of independence and maturity. I always felt like I'm a few pages ahead and I have to look back and look out for them.
I don't want that anymore.
I want someone who has more than drunk stories to tell, someone who's ambitious but never cocky, someone who wouldn't rile me up with petty arguments because he knows that some things are more important.
I've always been the one who boosts my partner. Now, I want someone who makes me want to be more. I know age != maturity, pero let's test the stereotype.
Di naman ako laging seryoso like this hahaha hanggang ngayon, nagbabawi pa rin ako sa missed experiences growing up 😅 so we can do fun stuff together! Pero in the sense of overall maturity, parang gusto ko na maging reacher this time 🥲
About me: - very kalog talaga ako huhu nadadamay lang ako sa weather today - 5'2", morena, normal BMI, physically active - Pasig area
About you: - at least 5'5", I wear heels sometimes huhu - around normal BMI din and physically active, bonding for me ng sports huhu - near loc or can travel to me? Pwede naman halfway pero I suck at commuting, basta no LDR. - patawanin mo ko pls lang - if nagbabasa ka pa rin, and you resonate with me, get mo na ako 👉🏾👈🏾 - edit: sorry pero I'm not ready to be a stepmom, wala pa ko dun, save ur kid na lang hahahuhu
Send me a related intro and let's get the ball rolling!!!
Last na. If we hit it off, ask me out na agad hahahuhu chatting sucks!