As in the title: There is a person who seems to have taken over SMART Recovery Toronto (Canada) and who has created such a toxic atmosphere that many of the long-time (and excellent) facilitators have simply quit out of fatigue over the nonsense. She calls herself the Executive Director, for a while it was of SMART Recovery Toronto, then it was the Executive Director of SMART Recovery Canada (which I'm not even sure if that actually exists or is just a figment of her imagination). She's not a licensed mental healthcare provider but calls herself a "family counsellor / addiction specialist" and runs her groups as if she is providing group therapy (as in she doesn't check in herself, she doesn't usually acknowledge her own substance abuse issues, she runs it as if she is a professional providing a service not a peer), and is quite condescending to attendees. Anyone who disagrees with her simply gets banned from all Toronto meetings. I'm not banned because I've kept my mouth shut with her, but I really feel bad about how many great people are just being shut out of the local community by this woman who seems to be (a) not in control of her own mental health and (b) on a petty power trip. One of her new facilitators is a local dude who fancies himself a "shock jock" and has a webcast channel where he does his Alex Jones-style anti-government, anti-vax, anti-gay etc rants.
It's pretty outrageous to have this kind of conduct in the context of what is supposed to be a peer support community for people trying to be in recovery.
Is there a way to find out whether this person has a legal lock on SMART Recovery meetings in our area, and whether people could just do the SMART International facilitator training and set up their own meetings that would be listed through the main organization? Do these local fiefdoms have the right to shut people out of SMART Recovery entirely or can they be sidestepped and ignored?

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Hi all, I'm reasonably new to Reddit, reasonably new to Asexuality (more on that later), and really new to sharing details of my life in a public forum. I've been lurking here for a couple of weeks now, and felt if I shared my story it might help me by getting other people's opinions as I settle into my realisation that I might be ace and it might be beneficial for people who've been through similar circumstances.
So a little bit of context, I'm a 30yr old male, have never had sexual contact. Recently I've realised I'm asexual, biromantic.
When I was in high school I drifted through not particularly interested in anyone sexually, didn't have a girlfriend or boyfriend and never really wanted one, the whole thing seemed a bit weird.
I went on to university I had an experience with a friend of a friend at a house party. We were we kissing on a sofa. They took the lead and I feeling like this was an important part of "growing up" went along whilst not really seeing the appeal. When things started to get a bit hot and heavy I had my first and (thankfully) only panic attack and locked myself in a bathroom. Eventually I came back down and clumsily explained I wasn't really feeling it. God love them, they felt terrible and apologised later, but I felt terrible for making them feel bad. During this time I also had a pretty bad crush on a female friend I had had for years, but thinking back I really wanted to spend time with her but it was never really sexual. ***
I spent a lot of time at uni going out to pubs, but where the other lads were out "on the pull" my main priority was having a drink and craic with my mates. And the disconnect was quite profound
I left uni and made several attempts to get a girlfriend but really just out of obligation more than anything. I've always been a bit over weight and had some self esteem issues so never approached anyone because I thought i wasn't good enough. This in itself always seemed weird to me as I'm confident and outgoing in the other aspects of my life.
I started a new job as an emergency service worker (my current job). I'm often asked if i'm seeing anyone at work and for the longest time, because of overtime and shift work I replied, "Hell no, where'd I find the time." I prioritised reading a book and having a bottle of wine in my free time. But I started noticing that other people managed to make it work. But clearly I wasn't prioritising it which was strange.
The dating and relationship scene has always been awkward because I never crossed that boundary into sexuality. This led to relationships being broken off because I "wasn't interested" when I felt I was sharing important things with these people, experiences and showing them the things I enjoy, wanting to enjoy with them.
For a while I considered myself bisexual, because Infound men and women aesthetically pleasing. But was never quite sure. Spoiler alert, I was equally sexually attracted to both in that I wasn't to either.
And for a while I was interested in communal living, or polyamory i.e. having a close supportive bond without the 1 on 1 of a monogamous relationship. It never really occurred to me maybe this was interesting because the other people involved could have sex and I could just engage in the romantic/platonic side of things.
This led me to a place in my life where I was confused and hurt, thinking I wasn't worthy of people or that no one would be interested in me. To the point where even when I got into shape, and got in a good mental place I found excuses not to ask people out.
Then a couple of months ago a friend of mine asked the hypothetical question in our mate's shit chat about asexuality which sparked something in my mind. I then saw an article in the Independent (1) where the writer's mum revealed to him that his father had.been asexual. The man in question seemed like a "normal" run of the mill man but without probably knowing he was ace.
So I started doing a bit of reading on AVEN and on this subreddit, and came to the realisation that I was probably asexual. I was pretty upset; I felt like I'd spend my life alone and that I was weird, but the moment itself was a massive catharsis.
A while later I came out to one of my friends (and they remain the only person I have come out to) and she was very supportive. I'm not sure I'm going to come out to anyone else anytime soon though as I don't think it will be of much benefit and just lead to needless conversations about the right one etc.
This however is the kicker, while I was reading about Asexuality I remembered a period of time (around the point marked ***) where I had watched the (A)sexual film. I remembered drunkenly talking to my friend while lying on the stairs and saying that I thought I was Asexual and that my crush was too, he mostly wanted to go to bed as he hadn't been drinking and sort of shrugged it off (my crush disclosed many years later that she wasn't ace but had been subject to severe trauma which resulted in her being sex repulsed.)
I'm not sure why I either forgot or repressed this initial revelation. Possibly when my crush turned me down (and I reacted like a jackass) it was easier to pretend I wasn't Ace and try and go about an allosexual lifestyle (failing miserably).
But since I've refound myself, whilst there are concerns, I'm starting to feel less like I'm broken and can't have relationships like "normal" people, and more that I'm different and understanding will help me to find a better strategy for my life going forward.
Sorry for the long information dump, but this is a quick summary of my 12 years of not quite realising I was asexual, and I'm hoping it's maybe relatable.
TLDR I realised I was asexual, forgot, spent 12 years confused and annoyed before re-realising I was asexual.
1 https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/asexuality-day-asexual-meaning-dad-sexuality-b2315568.html

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Sorry I know these ‘am I valid’ posts annoy people. I’m only sharing what I was told by CAMHS. What are your opinions on what they said?
Apparently banging your head on stone walls or hitting isn’t classed as harming to young persons mental health services, only cutting.
They said it was good I hadn’t cut much since the last meeting, that meant I had only harmed once. My knife was taken so I just hit my head against a wall loads, but apparently that isn’t a problem.

I (29m) have a fiance (34m) who I love very much. But the man refuses to do small adulting tasks! Three things come to mind that he hasn't done recently: booking a dentist appointment, changing our mailing address for certain subscriptions and services (we moved three months ago), and renewing our dog's heartworm meds. These are all things that I brought up initially as basic reminders, as I'd do with anyone, but lately whenever I mention them they become points of tension—"I know, I know, you don't need to keep reminding me" is often the reply, but as long as these tasks go uncompleted, I don't know how else they'll get done. Following yet another dismissed reminder last night, I booked his dentist appointment today and sent him a calendar invite. He immediately texted me: "Wtf. I told you yesterday I was going to book it." To which I replied, "Sure, heard that one before." When we got home from work today he called me a dick and said I crossed a line because I clearly don't trust him to handle his own affairs. I pointed out that he's an adult man and shouldn't have to have someone else book his dentist appointments, and moreover, as his partner asking him to do it for months, that would hopefully mean something to him. I brought up the other two things as well, which prompted him to storm out, get back in his car, and go to a friend's house where he is currently. AITA for booking his appointment, thinking that there was a decent chance he still wouldn't?
As context, he hasn't been to a dentist since COVID started. His teeth are fine, but I think it's a good health practice to regularly visit the dentist, which is covered by his insurance. He does not have a fear of the dentist, nor a concern anymore about contracting COVID. I first suggested he book an appointment over a year ago, and every few months since then, I've checked in to see if he has. In total, I've probably asked him 8–10 times to book an appointment. Yesterday during our conversation, I asked him and he said he hadn't but he would. The same response he's given every time. Fwiw, I book his hair appointments, so I don't think it's that out of place to book his dentist appointment. But apparently I'm a dick.
As context for the other two tasks, I've changed the mailing address for things under my name (utilities, bank accounts); the subscriptions under his name are for a journal we both read and student loan payments. Our dog is registered with the vet in his name as well (and was his dog before we got together), so even though we both take her to vet appointments, he's been handling her meds for over a decade. I don't think it's too much to ask to do these tasks, which will take under ten minutes total. He still hasn't renewed our dog's meds even though it's been a couple weeks since she took the last pill in the box... at this point I need those to get ordered but after today's argument worry it'll be more salt on the wound.

I just finished getting in touch with shout (a UK mental health texting service) because I was feeling quite bad tonight but I feel no better and I was in tears the whole time I was messaging the volunteer. I know it isn't a therapy service but when I went to therapy a few years ago the exact same happened. Is this normal?

So I have read through the wiki, tons of posts, and, possibly to my detriment, watched way too many YouTube videos. I have submitted an intent to file, and started the “clock”
I separated about 10 years ago, and have had issues and been on and off with the VA in that time. Fast forward to now and being informed about compensation. I started my due diligence and got my service treatment records, and to my surprise there is a good amount of documentation about readjustment disorder and possible PTSD as well as speculation about episodic alcohol use disorder and/or alcoholism (depending on the page) that I did not know about and had never seen. I plan to use this in my claim, and have a current diagnosis of substance use disorder from the VA, and the doctors have told me that they believe it is likely due to PTSD and other mental health issues (anxiety/depression)
Unfortunately when I talked to one of the providers at the VA about a diagnosis I was essentially told that they would rather try to treat it than to put a “permanent diagnosis on your record”
My thought is that with what is in my SRT and medical (VA file) and DD-214, I have more than enough evidence to prove a service connection. Where I am dumbfounded is getting the actual diagnosis (that they acknowledge exists but carefully chose their words in the VA records to ignore) and also how to go about getting a “nexus letter” linking them. If the doctors do not want to do a “formal diagnosis” I am only to assume they wouldn’t write me a nexus letter, as they won’t acknowledge that the diagnosis exists, so why link it to service?
I know I could take what I have to one of those overly advertised services that will gladly take thousands of dollars to write something for me, but of course do not have that kind of disposable income.
Would you take the chance in submitting the evidence and records and hope for the best? Would you get a private doctor to provide the diagnosis and provide the additional evidence as a nexus? Would you rely on the private doctor for both? Would you also request the private doctor do a DBQ or leave it to the C&P exam?
I feel like a goldfish in the big ocean and would appreciate any advice you have!

Hey all. Just wanted to plug my workplace here (I have OP's permission), as I believe we may be of even the smallest help. I work for a charity based in Shiremoor, called Support & Grow North East. Although we don't primarily provide mental health services as such, this is an area we do our best to help with in whatever way we may be able to. For the most part, we support families who are struggling and facing poverty - be it food, hygeine, financial etc. But we also host a number of actiivities, liaise with other organisations and communicate directly with our community to provide what is desired
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Our "motto" is to "Engage, Enable, Empower", and we do this by tailoring support to every individual client; giving them the ability to support themselves and grow into their fullest potential. We are a very small team, and there are certainly a lot of things we can't do. But there is also a lot we do and can do, too! A few examples of services/activities we offer include: our Men's Walk & Talk group, family sporting activities, SEND clubs, Cuppa & Breakfast Clubs, weekly Breakfast Bingos and monthly Open Mic Nights for all types of spoken word, poetry, music performances (including some local big names) and all 'round good times
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Please do check us out if you have a moment; we're primarily on Facebook and have a website. We might not be able to directly help in the way you need, but we will give it a damn good go. Even if it's just offering a friendly ear for you to get some problems off your mind, we're more than happy to do that. We're not afraid to admit when we can't help you directly and in those cases, we will do our best to get you in contact with someone/somewhere that can
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Remember people, speaking out is often the hardest and most important step. But, no matter what, you are not alone. People do care. And people do want to help

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Preface: This document presents a compelling case regarding the unjust treatment of workers in the workplace, specifically focusing on the incident that occurred at the USPS facility on June 7, 2023. The objective is twofold: firstly, to argue that it is unjust to have workers perform their duties when the air quality is poor, potentially leading to long-term health consequences, and secondly, to make the case that major delivery corporations such as USPS, Amazon, FedEx, and UPS prioritize their own metrics over the health and well-being of their workers.
Working in Unhealthy Air Quality:
The incident that took place at the USPS post office on June 7, 2023, highlights the disregard for worker health in the face of poor air quality. The air quality index (AQI) for the day was reported at 149, bordering unhealthy conditions. This level of air pollution is detrimental to human health and poses long-term risks. It is imperative that employers, including delivery corporations, prioritize the well-being of their workers and ensure safe working conditions.
a. Adverse Health Effects: Exposure to high AQI levels can result in respiratory issues, chest pains, throat irritation, and fatigue, as experienced by the CCA. These symptoms should not be taken lightly, as they can have severe consequences for an individual's long-term health. Continuously subjecting workers to such conditions demonstrates a lack of concern for their well-being.
b. Comparable Standards: Contrary to the statement made by the Postmaster General, the fact that other delivery corporations are also operating in similar conditions does not justify the negligence. The argument that "everyone is doing it" fails to address the ethical responsibility that all corporations should uphold towards their employees. The health and safety of workers should never be compromised, regardless of industry norms.
Lack of Protective Equipment and Health Concerns:
Another aspect of the unjust treatment of workers lies in the inadequate provision of personal protective equipment (PPE) and the dismissive response of superiors towards health concerns raised by employees.
a. Insufficient PPE: The post office only provides gloves, and not even in larger sizes, leaving workers vulnerable to potential health hazards associated with their duties. Handling heavy objects and navigating flights of stairs without proper protective gear increases the risk of injuries and accidents.
b. Dismissive Attitude: When the CCA expressed breathing difficulties, chest pains, and fatigue to the acting supervisor, he was met with dismissive remarks suggesting he seek alternative employment. This response not only disregards the seriousness of the situation but also demonstrates a lack of empathy and concern for the well-being of workers.
Delivery Corporations Prioritizing Metrics over Worker Health:
The incident at the USPS workplace is not an isolated event but rather indicative of a larger issue prevalent in the practices of major delivery corporations.
a. Profit-driven Metrics: USPS, Amazon, FedEx, and UPS are profit-oriented corporations, often prioritizing meeting their delivery targets and metrics over the health and safety of their employees. The focus on maintaining efficiency and profitability can lead to a disregard for worker well-being, as exemplified in the incident at the post office.
b. David vs. Goliath Scenario: The CCA rightly points out the unequal power dynamic between workers and these corporations, highlighting the need for external oversight to protect the rights and health of employees. It is essential to question who determines the thresholds for safe working conditions and advocate for the well-being of workers against the profit-driven motives of big corporations.
Incident Details and Seeking Union Support:
On June 7, 2023, an incident occurred at the post office, shedding light on the neglect of worker health and safety by major delivery corporations. The incident involved the following events:

1. The air quality in the area on June 6, 2023, reached an unhealthy level with an AQI of 165, posing potential health risks to workers.
2. Inadequate provision of PPE was observed at the post office, with workers only receiving gloves, leaving them vulnerable to health hazards associated with their duties.
3. The CCA at the post office experienced breathing difficulties, chest pains, an irritated throat, and fatigue on June 7, 2023.
4. When the CCA reported his health concerns to the acting supervisor, he received dismissive remarks, suggesting he seek alternative employment.
5. The Postmaster General's response during a conversation with the CCA indicated a disregard for worker safety, comparing the situation to other major delivery services and implying that the risks were justified.
6. A union representative was absent during the discussion with the postmaster general, highlighting the lack of support and representation for workers in advocating for their rights and well-being.
7. The CCA sought union support by approaching Union representative, emphasizing the need for intervention and representation.

Conclusion:
The incident at the USPS workplace on June 7, 2023, sheds light on the unjust practices prevalent in major delivery corporations. The disregard for worker health and safety in the face of poor air quality, coupled with the lack of adequate protective equipment and dismissive attitudes towards health concerns, highlights a clear pattern of neglect. It is crucial for union representatives and concerned individuals to take action, challenge these practices, and demand that worker health and safety be given the utmost priority. A united effort to address this issue can lead to significant changes in the workplace, ensuring the well-being of workers in all industries. The experiences of the CCA evoke a David vs. Goliath scenario, where the concern for worker well-being is overshadowed by profit-driven motives. It is essential to question the power dynamics and advocate for external oversight to protect the rights and health of employees in the face of corporate indifference.
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TLDR: When will enough be enough. We are humans, not superhero's.

Sorry, it’s a long one.
As the title says, I’ve been thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend of a little over a year. We’d been great friends for a few years prior and when we got together we both thought it was perfect. Obviously it was the whole “honeymoon phase,” or whatever, but it did genuinely feel good to be away from the bad relationships I’d been in in the past and finally in a good one.
As the environment in her apartment got pretty bad with her roommates she no longer felt safe there and so, quite soon into the relationship, she ended up moving in with me. In turn, we split my rent which helped me stay in the big city even with a very sudden increase to my rent. I honestly thought that us living together was the best situation for us both: we could stay together in a place where we both felt safe and loved.
Unfortunately, not much later on, I found out that there was a lot more in store for me than I’d originally anticipated.
She has always had some mental health issues which she was always seemingly in control of and, before we dated, had gone through a lot of therapy and gotten the help she needed to overcome her issues. That said, it seemed to get worse again while dealing with a plethora of issues including but not limited to financial problems concerning her ex-roommates and especially issues surrounding work and her family. Throughout all of this, though, I was there for her.
While dealing with these very difficult situations she became increasingly depressed and even s***idal. Nevertheless, I encouraged her to seek help again in any form she might need and tried to give her ways of coping. None of this advice she took and, on several occasions, has outright refused to access special services offered to her for coping during crisis. When I suggested I talk to her family for help, she begged me not to for fear of them bringing her back home and away from me (she is from another country).
This continued for some months with ups and downs and plenty of hospital visits. There would be weeks which would be pretty bad but there was some genuinely excellent days which, realistically, is likely why I’ve held out. I’ve been speaking to a therapist myself ever since this started in order to finds ways to cope (and perhaps impart this wisdom on her when she needs it) but she doesn’t know I’ve been talking to anyone.
That said, she does an incredible job of keeping all that stuff hidden and downplaying it in front of our friends. Whenever we’re out you might hear her crack the occasion self-deprecating joke but she will walk around with utmost confidence as if she’s totally fine. This is often stiffened with alcohol. As soon as we’re alone, though, she immediately goes back to being upset and refuses to tell me why if I ask her what’s up. Sometimes I wonder if she’s serious that she’s not doing so good or if she’s just playing it up in front of me so that I care about her and/or give her the attention she wants - as if I wouldn’t anyway. I suppose that’s a sign of something else entirely though.
We spoke about communication but she isn’t interested and never takes my thoughts into account. I just want her to talk to me so we can get past whatever she’s going through. She says she can’t do it.
It became harder through all this to see friends on my own without her getting herself into a panic about one thing or another. I think it’s separation anxiety but it’s to a ridiculous degree that’s unhealthy for either of us. She doesn’t have a lot of her own friends to turn to or hang with either but we do share some and the few she does have of her own are genuinely great people… she just doesn’t want to spend time with them. When she does, I’m usually forced to be there too.
It also got harder after this for me to pursue music. To be perfectly honest, there’s not a lot of people to pick from within our circles that can play an instrument and so I play in her band as well as a couple more. I try to split my time equally as all the bands are fun for me and I’m happy do my bit, expand my playing across the genres and whatnot… but she doesn’t like that. Instead, she finds it’s threatening that I’m in any band that isn’t hers in case I lose interest in hers or in case I sideline her band which she desperately wants to make work (despite me having to book gigs and organise rehearsals for her). I’m often guilted into not going to rehearsals that aren’t for her band but, when I do, she comes with me and gets annoyed/upset if I look too happy or interested.
I have expressed that I would like some more freedom but it doesn’t seem to matter as, in every way, I’m supposed to pity her and console her for not being as outgoing which basically means in the end I have to stay in with her instead. I can’t even go out for a drink with my friends after work without her freaking out that I’m going to be home late and we won’t have time together. While I could understand this if I didn’t spend any time with her… we live together, wake up together, cook and eat together, go out together, play music together and fall asleep together. I don’t get any time away from her besides going to work.
On top of all this, there’s an unhealthy amount of alcohol being consumed to boot and sometimes even Xanax because she “likes the taste”.
This is all without a bunch of stuff that would make this already essay-long post a lot longer.
I’ve tried talking to her but I just don’t think I can do it anymore. She doesn’t care to listen and I kind of doubt she respects me at all. The negatives have all been far outweighing the positives recently. I can’t cope with the strain that dealing with this relationship is putting on me.
Do I cut things off now before it gets any worse or do I try again to get her some actual help? Am I being harsh? There are some days where we are great but they’re just so rare, everything seems to be an issue for her. Where would she go if we split? I can’t afford to live here alone, where would I go? I still love her so the last thing I want is to hurt her or make things any more difficult for her.
Any advice on how to handle this situation or prepare/approach the breakup will be ridiculously well received. Again, sorry for the long post and I appreciate if you took the time to read and help.
TL;DR: Girlfriend has a bunch of mental health issues and is hard to live with. How do I break up with her to help us both?

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This megathread sets out some of the helpful legal resources available around New Zealand. Most of these are freely available. This list is categorised into 10 sectors: Civil disputes, Consumer protection, Criminal, Employment, Family, Healthcare, Housing, Property, Traffic, and Constitutional & Government. There is also a general resources section at the start, with several organisations that provide guidance and information on most legal issues.
0. General resources

• 0.0 New Zealand Legislation https://www.legislation.govt.nz/ (The authoritative source of law - Acts, Bills & secondary legislation. You can read and download any of these for free.)
• 0.1 Community Law https://communitylaw.org.nz/free-legal-help/ (Free legal help throughout New Zealand.)
  • 0.1.1 Community Law have in-person clinics available for detailed discussion of legal problems: https://communitylaw.org.nz/our-law-centres/
  • 0.1.2 Community Law's Law Manual Online is a free pool of online legal information, containing a wide range of information from Community Law’s easy-to-read manuals and guides https://communitylaw.org.nz/law-manual-online/
• 0.2 Citizens Advice Bureau https://www.cab.org.nz/ (a nationwide, but locally based, community organisation, helping people to know and understand their rights and obligations, and how to use this information to get the best outcomes.)
  • 0.2.1 CAB have in-person clinics available for detailed discussion of any issues: https://www.cab.org.nz/find-a-cab/cab-locations/
  • 0.2.2 CAB also have a wealth of commonly-asked legal questions on their website - try the search function to see if your question has been asked and answered before: https://www.cab.org.nz/search/
  • 0.2.3 CAB have an excellent guide to where to go for legal advice if you cannot afford a lawyer: https://www.cab.org.nz/article/KB00001123
• 0.3 New Zealand Law Society https://www.lawsociety.org.nz/for-the-public/common-legal-issues/ (the NZLS guide to common legal issues, and where you can go to find a lawyer)
• 0.4 Youth Law Aotearoa https://youthlaw.co.nz/free-legal-help/ (a free community law centre for children and young people nationwide, providing free legal services to anyone aged under 25 who are unable to access legal help elsewhere, or those acting on their behalf. The only organisation operating across NZ where children and young people can access free legal services just for them.)

1. Civil disputes
1.1 Ministry of Justice Civil Law: https://www.justice.govt.nz/courts/civil/ (Civil cases can include disputes over business contracts or debts, or disputes between neighbours, or debt recovery.)
1.2 Disputes Tribunal: https://www.disputestribunal.govt.nz/ (The Disputes Tribunal is a quick and cost-effective way to settle disputes.)
2. Consumer protection
2.1 Consumer NZ https://www.consumer.org.nz/ (an independent, non-profit organisation dedicated to getting New Zealanders a fairer deal.)
2.2 Consumer Protection https://www.consumerprotection.govt.nz/ (MBIE's online guide to NZ laws that protect you when buying from, or sharing your information with, businesses selling in New Zealand, including online retailers.)
2.3 NZ Govt - Consumer Rights & Complaints https://www.govt.nz/browse/consumer-rights-and-complaints/ (NZ Government's general information on consumer rights.)
3. Criminal
3.1 Ministry of Justice Criminal Law sector https://www.justice.govt.nz/justice-sector-policy/regulatory-stewardship/regulatory-systems/criminal-law/ (encompasses the definition, deterrence, and punishment of criminal conduct. What is and isn’t acceptable conduct in our society.)
3.2 Ministry of Justice Criminal Law https://www.justice.govt.nz/courts/criminal/
3.3 Victims Information https://www.victimsinfo.govt.nz/ (for people affected by crime)
3.4 Victim Support https://victimsupport.org.nz/ (a free, nationwide support service for people affected by crime, trauma, and suicide in New Zealand, helping clients find safety, healing, and justice after crime and other traumatic events.)
3.5 Healthline's Sexual Assault Resource Guide https://www.healthline.com/health/sexual-assault-resource-guide#online-forums-and-support (We hope this guide can serve as a resource in your time of need and answer any questions you may have about what to do next.)
4. Employment
4.1 Employment New Zealand https://www.employment.govt.nz/ (MBIE's resources that may help you find out more about the different laws that apply to employment relationships and how the Employment Relations Authority and the courts apply that law.)
4.2 NZ Council of Trade Unions - your rights https://union.org.nz/rights/ (Everyone has the right to decent and productive work, in conditions of freedom, equity, security and human dignity. Unions ensure that, as a worker, your voice is heard, your views are respected and your rights under the law are upheld.)
4.3 NZ Govt - Workers Rights https://www.govt.nz/browse/work/workers-rights/when-you-have-a-problem-at-work/ (NZ Government's guide - if you have a problem at work talk to your boss directly. If you cannot solve it you can get help from government and other organisations)
5. Family
5.1 Ministry of Justice Family Law https://www.justice.govt.nz/family/
5.2 Family Court website https://www.districtcourts.govt.nz/family-court/ (information about the Family Court jurisdiction, including what we do, useful legislation, and tips on how to find Family Court judgments.)
5.3 Search for a Legal Aid lawyer providing family law services: https://www.justice.govt.nz/courts/going-to-court/legal-aid/get-legal-aid/can-i-get-family-or-civil-legal-aid/apply-for-family-or-civil-legal-aid/get-a-family-or-civil-legal-aid-lawye
6. Healthcare
6.1 Medical Council of New Zealand https://www.mcnz.org.nz/support/support-for-patients/your-rights-as-a-patient/ (The Code of Rights applies to both public and private facilities, and to both paid and unpaid services. It gives you as a patient, the right to be treated with respect, receive appropriate care, have proper communication, and be fully informed so you can make an informed choice.)
6.2 Ministry of Health https://www.health.govt.nz/your-health/services-and-support/your-rights (When you use a health or disability service, your rights are protected by the Code of Health and Disability Services Consumers’ Rights.)
6.3 Health and Disability Commissioner http://www.hdc.org.nz/ (The Health and Disability Commissioner promotes and protects people's rights as set out in the Code of Health and Disability Services Consumers' Rights. This includes resolving complaints in a fair, timely, and effective way.)
7. Housing
7.1 Tenancy Services https://www.tenancy.govt.nz/ (MBIE's Tenancy information for landlords and tenants.)
7.2 Housing Advice Centre https://housingadvice.org.nz/advice/ (We can help! We are a free independent service. We can help you out of homelessness. We can support you in fulfilling obligations to maintain housing obligations. We provide education for agencies and case workers on the tenancy act and how to assist homeless persons.)
7.3 Renters United https://rentersunited.org.nz/help/ (Renters United is focused on changing laws to make renting better for everyone, and don’t provide support with particular renting situations. However, there are some places listed here by Renters United that you can turn to for support.)
7.4 Tenant Aratohu NZ https://tenant.aratohu.nz/ (Support and guidance for tenants and their advocates.)
8. Property
8.1 NZ Law Society Property Law for the Public https://www.lawsociety.org.nz/branches-sections-and-groups/property-law-section/property-law-for-the-public/ (Lawyers are trained to understand and advise on the implications of buying and selling property. Buying and selling a property extends far beyond the transfer of legal title. Your reasons for buying and selling, your family and financial circumstances, your plans and expectations for your own future and that of your family, and what happens to the property when you die are just some of the issues a property lawyer will consider and discuss with you)
8.2 Real Estate Authority - Settled https://www.settled.govt.nz/ (valuable information, checklists, quizzes, videos and tools — from understanding LIMs and to sale and purchase agreements, to when to contact a lawyer, settled.govt.nz explains what you need to know)
8.3 Consumer NZ - Neighbourhood disputes https://www.consumer.org.nz/articles/neighbourhood-disputes (There are a number of laws that may assist with common neighbourhood problems such as noise, rubbish, fencing and tree problems. Some practical solutions to resolving them.)
9. Traffic
9.1 Waka Kotahi NZTA - Road Code https://www.nzta.govt.nz/roadcode/general-road-code/ (A user-friendly guide to New Zealand's traffic law and safe driving practices.)
10. Constitutional & Government
10.1 Governor-General https://gg.govt.nz/office-governor-general/roles-and-functions-governor-general/constitutional-role/constitution/constitution (New Zealand's constitution is not found in one document. It has a number of sources, including crucial pieces of legislation, legal documents, common law derived from court decisions as well as established constitutional practices. Increasingly, New Zealand's constitution reflects the Treaty of Waitangi.)
10.2 Electoral Commission https://elections.nz/ (Supporting you to trust, value, understand and take part in New Zealand's democracy.)
10.3 Te Tari Taiwhenua Internal Affairs https://www.localcouncils.govt.nz/ (Local government in New Zealand, including sector-wide statistics, the relationship between central and local government, and how you can participate in local government policy decisions.)
10.4 Citizens Advice Bureau - Bill of Rights Act https://www.cab.org.nz/article/KB00001324 (What are my rights under the Bill of Rights Act?)
10.5 Office of the Privacy Commissioner https://www.privacy.org.nz/ (The Privacy Act 2020 is New Zealand's main privacy law. The Act primarily governs personal information about individual people, but the Privacy Commissioner can consider developments that affect personal privacy more widely.)
Mod notes
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This might be long so bear with me: Also My apologies if this kind of post isn't allowed, other subreddits I've thought about asking this on haven't been active in a really long time.
I started this job as a health service assistant for my local school district back in October 2021, I got put on as a float where I would just go to schools and help out in the nurses office for students (I have a medical background for a career) initially I loved it. And around the end of the school year, I was mainly placed at one school which happened to be one of the more higher needs middle schools in the district. I really started to like this since I knew where I was going everyday, and the co-workers that I got to be with really grew on me. We had a great working relationship and we were on top of our stuff. (I should mention that my job title was a covid Health service assistant since part of my job was not only helping out nurses but also testing students when they were sick to see if they had covid).
Cut to summer of 2022, the job I was doing was opening up as a permanent job at the school I was mainly with for the spring. The nurse there REALLY wanted me to work there since she knew I had really good skills and I had a good relationship with the staff there. I quickly jumped at the opportunity, and they not only gave me the job, but gave me a pay raise and more hours (I was previously working only 6 hours a day for $24 per hour as a float, now I was getting paid around $28 for 8 hours per day, so I considered this a win). The job was going great in the fall, however as the school year has progressed, there have been some bad parts in the job (and school) that have become too much to bear.
first off: the nurse that wanted me ended up resigning early December, I thought it was due to her feeling overwhelmed by her schooling, but later found out she was part of a really bad scandal involving another students and drugs. And second off, our principle followed saying he was going on leave which was announced in mid-January (he hasn’t been back since and announced he won’t be back next year). And because of a combo of this, the admin at our school has been “misusing” my work space to put students in there when they need to cool down (due to behavioral issues or otherwise) and then saying they want to talk to those students, but then a whole hour an a half has passed and they still aren’t there. I’ve been fortunate in that the district has sent help everyday. I have a float nurse here who has been much more helpful, and another HSA that I get along with, but outside of those two people, it’s been a struggle. I don’t get the sense that the staff at the school think I exist, I’m usually the last one to know about things, and I’ve been scrutinized about some of my methods on how I’ve treated kids. It’s just ultimately making me not enjoy the job.
I’ve been told that 1. A new admin staff is coming in next year who is supposedly MUCH more strict on things and actually sounds like they care about their staff and 2. Because I’m classified as a covid HSA, with the pandemic basically being over they’re no longer renewing the job. However the new principle (who btw I’ve never spoken to face to face) wants to keep the HSA position for the school. So I’m hearing a bunch of different things from different people, on top of that the school is having an EOY celebration for next Friday morning, at the SAME time the health department in the district is having there’s (I found out about the school one today, where as the health department notified up a week and a half ago, so I’ll be going to that one). I’m REALLY on the fence about returning to the school/ district if I were to possibly be offered my job back or if I should start looking for something new.