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For the past week and a half, I feel like my thoughts took a turn into themselves. I Can have some unrealistic expectations and my bf is a wonderful human being who I love, but my head has been telling me that maybe I’m just putting all these expectations on him and he’s falling short because he’s not the one for me.
Then it turned into me thinking back in every moment of doubt, or if I flirted with someone else, or if I spoke to him a certain way (I used to have toxic tendencies and have tried very hard to work on them and be better bc i don’t want to be a toxic person and my bf doesn’t deserve that).
Can this happen? My head keeps telling me I’ve been horrible and I’ve doubted and thought stuff that you shouldn’t think if you’re in love with someone. I had thoughts but they were easy to set aside but now it’s like my brain is punishing me or using them against me to prove I don’t love my bf when I know and feel that I do. It’s telling me I’m with him out of pity and I feel a pit in my stomach when that thought comes up.
Could my rocd have evolved to this??? Or am I just in denial?? I haven’t seen anyone with this type or ruminations took so far so please let me know if you’re in the same boat. My bf does everything right, he’s not perfect, but I love him and my Rocd is telling me that I’m only thinking I love him but I don’t actually.

Hi All, I hope you are all doing well! With student loans beginning to accrue interest this month I started budgeting/tracking my finances more and am seeking opinions on what to do with my loans. I currently have ~20k in student loan debt with three loans, with the following info: 7500 (3.73%), 6596 (4.53%), and 5868 (5.05%). For budgeting information, I make ~95/100k a year based on bonus and put 8% pre/6% post into 401k (graduated May 2022). Aside from that money, I currently allocate monthly money based on the following:
- Rent/Utilities/Streaming (Spotify): 1350
- Car Gas/Upkeep: 250
- Food/Gym: 500
- Clothes: 250 (usually rollover and don't spend)
- Eating Out/Fun Spending: 750
- Savings: HYSA 1k, Roth IRA 540, Brokerage 250, Leftover goes here as well
I also have 21k in HYSA, 6.8k in Roth IRA, 18k in 401k, 3k in Brokerage, and about 25k in normal Checkings/Savings. I guess my question is whether or not I should be funneling my extra funds into my HYSA/Brokerage or into paying off my student loans? I ideally would like to purchase a house near Aug 2024 and don't know if paying off my loans in full/partial will help or if I should just pay the minimum monthly. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks!

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Bought it gently used, no previous Silverado experience or even one nearby to check with (all my neighbors have Rams) so hope one of you fine folks can tell me one way or another. When all the doors are locked and I pull the driver side inside door handle it automatically pops the lock and the door opens. The same is not true for the passenger side door. Annoys the wife when I put it in Drive, all the doors lock automatically and then she realizes she forgot something and has to hop out and we fumble for the unlock switch instead of just pulling the handle like on the driver side. I know, lame problem but I'd like to find out if something is wrong with my passenger door handle/lock mechanism or if this is how they all are in this generation. All other locking/unlocking functions work normally.

my ex ended things with me about a month ago now and we decided straight away to go no contact
i’ve been moving on fine, i’ve come to terms with the situation and i already understood it all, and i was progressing, moving on, i was happy
out of nowhere my ex messages me on imessage saying how she wants to meet face-to-face to go over the situation, and explain why she wanted to break up
i basically said that there’s nothing more for me to hear and i’m already moving on she quickly goes quite dry after this , so i tell her i can listen to what she has to say if it puts her mind at ease and she just respond with things like “thank you so much 🩷” snd “i appreciate you and i’m always here” i ended the conversation after this by liking her message
even though it wasn’t a harmful conversation, it feels like it’s set me back a bit from moving on. i don’t even know why i feel bothered by it , but i’ve someone how come out feeling bad. any interaction or encounter with my ex immediately makes me feel like the moving on process has been set back. does anyone know why i may feel this way? i’m so confused with my mind !!

Let me explain...
I have a 37 year old stuffed rabbit that I am very emotionally bonded to. I am 28 and my bunny was made in 1986. This exact stuffed animal has been obviously discontinued and cant be replaced at all. Especially not mine, which has been with me for as long as I can remember. I have carried her through my entire life: through my parents divorce at 5 years old, moving from city to city and every time I travelled between their homes always in my bag, traveling with me but subsequently immediately back home when I went to bootcamp (although it broke my heart), inmediately reaquiring my bunny when I was out of bootcamp and onto advanced training, traveling with me across states, different commands, different boyfriends, always with me. After such a life stuck close to my side, bunny has definitely become worn out to say the least. If bunny wasnt worn out just from age and use sleeping next to me for so many nights, what I tell you next absolutely would not help, the complete opposite.
When I was very young, my sister and I fought so much that she became increasingly sadistic and violent. One day while we were fighting she locked me out of my home on the front porch and she knew exactly what to do to hurt me. She took my bunny and held her up in front of the window for me to see as she stabbed it repeatedly over and over in different areas. I was horrified and screamed and cried as I couldnt do anything besides property damage (which wouldve caused even more abuse from her and my father) to get inside to save my beloved friend from being totally destroyed. She eventually unlocked the door and tossed my broken bunny to me. I only recently learned to sew while in the military and Im still not good at it to this day. So since that day when I was young, I tried my best to handle her with care while still taking her nearly everywhere with me. I have been very sensitive to this incident due to it being traumatic to me and only have told a few people in my life. I felt like I let down my only bestfriend ive ever had and I dont think ill ever be ready to put my bunny away out of fear of feeling like ive given up and turned away, as I am so afraid of feeling due to my trauma.
This all being said, I am very lucky to have found the love of my life that accepts bunny and I. He understands what bunny means to me and that I require it every night to sleep peacefully. He still will occasionally tease my bunny, calling it "spaghetti" and informing others of this joke, such as friends that will react in disgust or amusement of the realization of the state of my closest companion. Today, I was sitting on the couch playing my switch with bunny by my side. I had to use the bathroom so I left for just a few minutes but came back out to my partner... shaking my bunny violently and carelessly. I stood in the hallway in horror and very quickly shut down and reverted to a childlike state. I asked what he was doing and he said he was shaking it off because his dog had sat on top of it while I was gone in the bathroom. I held my bunny close to my heart and tried to calm myself as he chided me stating "your bunny is ok." I know my bunny doesnt really feel anything mentally or physically but as an empath and neurodivergent on top of the traumatic experience from my childhood, my heart is so upset. The rough handling can cause the remaining seams to break and unravel completely which would force me to put my bunny away for good, which I dont think Im ready for yet still. My partner knows how much my stuffed animal means to me and how gently I hold and handle it. So why he thinks roughly shaking with no regard to the consequences is completely beyond me.
I had a shut down as I witnessed the incident and I am currently huddled up under a blanket isolating myself as he hectors on about that he doesnt know what he did wrong and I am overreacting. But I am genuinely hurt. Does anyone have any comments, similar stories, or tips on how to repair a stuffed animal with great care? Id greatly appreciate anything anyone has.
Thank you.
Please dont judge me too hard! I think stuffed animals as an adult should be entirely normalized for no other reason than they are some of our longest friends.

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Even though I tagged this as "Vent" the primary reason for this post is that I'm desperate for advice, but because I had a bit of a breakdown today, the rant comes first (there's a TL;DAsking for Advice at the bottom). I also want to preface that I'm only looking for advice from fellow ADHD Black women, y'all will know what I mean. Out of sadness and frustration, I almost impulsively gave myself "The Big Chop" that knew I would regret.
The upkeep for my hair is so damn exhausting that if I'm being honest with myself, I really hate my hair. My biggest issue is I am "blessed" with a lot of it, that 4a "good hair." Growing up most of the compliments on my appearance were about my hair: "Baby your hair comes from good genes!"/"Your hair is so long and pretty, gimme some!"/"Brothas love a Sista with long hair, even better that it's natural!" And I will admit, when my hair's fresh from the hairdresser, I look really nice. When my hair is done, it's one of the few physical features I like about myself. We all know the cultural weight of hair in the Black community.
Y'all also know Black hair's upkeep without ADHD is extensive, expensive, and exhausting, so with ADHD it's fucking impossible. Washing, Conditioning, Brushing, Combing-it-out, Flat-Ironing, Oiling, Greasing down the Edges, IT'S ALL TOO FUCKING MUCH! As an adult, I came to peace with myself early on that I would always pay the "ADHD Tax" of having to get my hair done at hairdressers. Payment for the salon is on par with the electric bill...
Until this month. As I was doing my budgeting for June, my rent's gone up 22% and with inflation continuing to hit hard means I cannot afford to get my hair done this month. So I tried to do it myself. I was already emotionally drained after washing and conditioning my hair, now I had to start the worst part - combing it out. Because of my ADHD, as embarrassed as I am to say it, I don't brush out my hair every night. When I get to the tail end of the month, I usually throw on a head scarf and keep moving, which leads to matted hair and tangles (plus I'm tender-headed, God has a sick sense of humor). Just parting my hair into four sections, I could feel my panic setting it. Every tangle I tugged at, my brain played every memory of my mama or aunt's telling me how lazy I am for not taking care of my hair and that I'm gonna end up bald. An hour and half later, I only have one section done. My head hurts and I'm so frustrated and ashamed. I grabbed my roommate's wig scissors and cut off the current tangle I'm on. IMMEDIATELY, I audibly said, "WTF am I doing!" then burst into tears.
I swallowed my pride and called my mom (our relationship is strained, at best) and asked if she could comb my hair out for me. While she accepted it, of course, it came with the usual chiding: "Most girls take of their hair, why don't you?"/"Your hair is your best feature, you need to learn how self-care."/"You're a grown women, I knew how to take care of my hair at your age." I feel so defeated and today's been the fucking worst.
TL;DAsking for Advice: So please, do you have any tutorials, hairstyle suggestions, or upkeep tips I can use for my hair that's easy-to-learn or ADHD-friendly. Or at least advice on how you're able to not get overwhelmed during upkeep? My biggest hurdles are combing out my hair and parting/oiling it (my scalp dries out very easily). Please no hairstyles that require braiding or flat-ironing. My hair is 3\4 natural with a quarter of relaxer left. Please do not suggest I cut my hair to a shorter length, it's not I oppose it, but it's complicated.

My in-laws are just so fucking annoying and weird. At least they aren’t malicious but they are terrible houseguests and it just sucks being around them.
FIL wears a sweat band around his head and a mesh vest with the pockets stuffed with items—in public. He drinks 1 coffee per hour. He takes DayQuil when he feels tired. He’s partially deaf but won’t wear his hearing aids, and mumbles. English is also his second language. Communication is extremely difficult. He’s rough with the kids and has made my 2 year old cry twice in one evening so far. He doesn’t like tacos but is okay with fajitas and any other Mexican food. Whatever food we have at home is not okay with him and he eats enough for 3-4 people. He microwaved bread this morning instead of toasting it. He decided to take the hard boiled eggs we had with breakfast and mash them in a bowl and drown them at mayo at the table. He then requested we cut him an onion and ate it with raw onion. He literally never pushes in his chair or cleans up after himself. He is constantly taking photos and it takes him forever while people on the sidewalk are visibly annoyed and having to walk around him or wait for him. And because he’s deaf he doesn’t hear people asking him to move. He won’t drink anything cold. He drinks lukewarm water from the recently boiled tea kettle and room temp soda from the pantry. It’s 80 degrees here. And the kicker: he refuses to sleep in the guest bed. Every time he has visited, it has been an issue. Last time, the bed was too hard— I got a quilted pad. Then he wanted the air mattress, but he also doesn’t like it. Then he wants to sleep on the sofa. This time we told him that after having a second child, there is no where to put the air mattress. Then I asked if I could put more padding on the bed for him. He said it would be okay, he would sleep in the bed. We told him that my 2 year old is sick and often needs a parent to sleep downstairs on the couch to be nearby when he cries, so please don’t sleep on the couch. The man fucking slept on the couch. Turns out he isn’t comfortable sharing a bed with his wife. The bed is comfortable btw. I slept on it for a month when the ceiling in our bedroom had a leak. Every other houseguest has said it’s fine. Like, WTF?! I’ve never heard of a guest refusing to sleep in the guest room and making such a big deal of it when they’re only here for 2 nights. Plus he slept on my white throw pillows, which are now a bit yellow and greasy. And I can’t wash them. I told my husband they need to get a hotel next time and he said it wasn’t fair that my parents get to stay here, but my parents behave like normal guests. I’m just so annoyed.
MIL is also messy and refuses to push in her chair. She only drinks wine with club soda mixed in it. Bell peppers are too spicy for her. She makes insulting comments. Like she mentioned that her children were spoon fed until they were able to eat with a spoon themselves because eating with your hands is for savages. I’m from South Asia. We eat with our hands all the time. Then my 8 month old grabbed my phone. Screen off and locked. And she mentioned how I always give the kids a screen to distract them. I don’t. She’s still better than him.

Hey folks, so as the title says, I'm looking for new mods to play a new playthrough of Skyrim, I have to touched the game in a couple years so... here's what I'm looking for.
The mods I'll be getting by default: Unofficial patch, Frostborn, camp-fire and Hunterborn and alternate start, Take notes (the journal mod)
I'll be playing as an Argonian that is camping out in the wilds of Skyrim, I intend to make this playthrough extremely survival-heavy.
Most Desired mods: animation replacers that aren't too flashy/are highly realistic, a combat overhaul that makes it more than just "click till the thing dies" (and preferably, makes enemies less tanky due to massive health and make armour matter more), a civil war overhaul that turns it into an actual war with taking forts/cities and all that good stuff, a mod that let's time pass while reading, more books, a mod that adds a spell-making system/a more in-depth magic system/more spells, NON-SKIMPY armoclothing mods + the best quest mods you can think of.
Any other reccomendatioms are much appreciated. Though everything MUST be lore-friendly. I've read up on so much elder scrolls lore that I know something that's outlandish doesn't mean it's not lore friendly.
To anyone still here, thank you for reading. For the greatest mod variety I'll be playing on the non-special edition version.

Hello all, I’m sure this has probably been discussed before, but I wanted to post about my specific situation (and it’s summer so unfortunately, tis the season). My bf (21M) and I (22 F) Have been dating for about a year and a half. Our relationship is one id consider healthy, and in almost every aspect he treats me very well and with upmost respect and care. He is what i’d consider to be a kind and good person through and through, every quality that id want in a life long partner.
We went grocery shopping together, and where we live it was 85 degrees and sunny, very warm. I wore a brown silk tank top with spaghetti straps, and a couple lines of lacy patterning on the top, that i thrifted (I thought it was very cottage core/cute). Now, I am a typically modest woman id say, there are a number of “modern” outfits i absolutely would never wear in public, it’s just not me. I am what youd consider a curvy woman. I am not small chested, and I have a bum for lack of better description, in a way that if i don’t wear clothes 3x my size you’re gonna see them. This is an aspect I’ve long struggled with, especially in the summer when I can’t get away with oversized sweaters all the time. Plus I ultimately don’t want to have to feel ashamed of my body just because I have these physical aspects to me…but he said this tank top was low cut for his liking and “showed a lot of skin” and that he didn’t like that for his partner. he said older couples were “looking” at the store, and “no one was dressed like you”
I tried to explain to him that I felt these feelings of his have misogynistic undertones, but his response is that he should be able to safely discuss his feelings without me getting upset because he can’t help that my outfit made him feel conflicted. please, help???
TLDR: my (21 M) bf said my (22 F)tank top was low cut and too revealing.

So, I was playing my third game in my Champions Finals, and we both had TOTS Saka in our teams. But, his Saka was blazingly fast, and mine was struggling to just even collect the ball. My Saka was running like he had ankle weights or sticky boots or something. Not just that, even basic thing like passing, nop, not just saka, but no one in my team was able to do one simple pass. And before you say skill gap, you at least know how to pass the ball. I also noticed the animations. My players had extra slow animation. So, if let's say I trigger the run of my striker, and by the time my player collects the ball and makes the pass, the striker is in offside position. And it clearly was visible how sluggish the animation was. Why is it like that? I mean, I am all sport when it comes to legitimate losses, but losses in games like these sucks! Please help on what I can do to counter this.

Hello everyone I hope you all are having an awesome weekend and time playing the game I had a question for experienced players if you can help a newbie like me. How or what is a method to deal with command grabs? Whenever I play against Zangief and others with command grabs I get annihilated I just dont know how to counter or avoid it.

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Hey. Here to vent and just talk about my experience and how to get over what has happened. Two days ago was my birthday and I am turning 28. I have been in almost a three year relationship with my boyfriend (living together for almost two years and shared pets) who is 37. We have been rocky since December. We have just started seeing a couples counselor and for the past three weeks have attempted to men our differences. I have been staying with my parents on the weekdays and him on the weekends (was living in a house he owned). We have been having a good time with intentional activities together and I have been trying to work on my short comings in therapy. He has been hesitant to put in effort in the relationship ship in the ways I need and I wanted to not be around him during the week because I WFH and he has been unemployed for over two years.
Well. We got into a fight on Tuesday and came close to breaking up. We didn’t break up and agreed go still see each other for my birthday on Friday (I took the day off work because he was going to plan something special). Thursday was my birthday and he texted me “happy birthday!” I called him and just acted normal and asked what we had planned. He was weird on the phone and quiet, he seemed like he didn’t really want to do something and I asked what’s up. One thing lead to another and he ended up saying that he wanted to break up because things have not been working for some time. I was so emotional and pathetically pleaded with him to get back with me. He said he wasn’t going to change his mind and said that he isn’t getting what he needs out of this relationship. I told him it is hard for me to show up in the ways he needs when he can’t do the same for me.
We spent a few hours throughout the day on the phone and ultimately the conclusion was to break up. My birthday felt like a wash and I have just been in my head and feeling like shit since. I thought we were going to be forever and it’s so painful that I felt like he took a special day away from me. I don’t feel entitled to much and usually like to do things for others, but I genuinely was looking forward to the weekend and plans I made with some friends for my birthday and now I’m just wallowing in self pity.
Anyway. I just wanted to share and let everyone know that no matter what life works out in seemingly funny and ironic ways. I’ll get through this and so will you! All we have is ourselves and when you think you know and love someone, they can still surprise you with awful and selfish behavior.
TLDR: I got dumped on my birthday over the phone by my partner of three years

TW/disclaimer: Before I get into anything, this will discuss dysphoria and some of my own ways that I try to control it that I think that might be useful. That being said, I am transmasc and not all of these will work for everyone, and they may not work all the time.
Hoodies: What would we do without hoodies? For me, an ideal hoodie or sweatshirt to combat top dysphoria is one that's in the biggest size I can find and is soft and comfortable. They are especially good for relaxing after binding in public for a while. Sweatpants can also be good for bottom dysphoria.
Pillows: When I sleep at night, I always hug a pillow to my chest to help with top dysphoria making me too uncomfortable to sleep. It's also good if you are just chilling on your couch and dysphoria hits. I feel very dysphoric, I take it up to a new level and wrap myself in a cozy blanket.
Gender affirming scents: It may not seem like a big deal, but once I changed to soap, deodorant and cologne that aligned with my gender identity I haven't looked back. I'm a pretty sensory person, amd using those make getting ready for the day more bearable.
Loofahs, sponges, and the lightswitch: I find using a sponge or loofah in the shower is somewhat helpful, as that way I don't have to touch my bear skin. Showering with the lights off is also helpful, but please use a small light source like a nightlight or a bit light coming through the door from another room so you can avoid accidentally hurting yourself.
Voice training: Classic voice training is hella expensive, but there are Youtube tutorials available that you can use for free. Implementing some of these voice techniques can make speaking a bit more bearable.
Packing and tucking are also good ways to handle bottom dysphoria as well.
I hope you all have a good day and have a safe journey. Thank you for reading my dumb little tips

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Hi there! I’m 18, PST, and female! I’ve recently found myself with some free time on my hands and a lot of inspiration. Currently, I would like to play canon female characters in FxM of FxF plots. I’ll list some stuff I’m interested in and specific things I’m looking for down below. ♡
RP Requirements/What to Expect from Me!

I usually write long, detailed replies in third person point of view, past tense. My length can vary based on what I receive, but for interest sake I like to keep them between 2-5 paragraphs but I am happy to do less or more depending on your preference!
Plot-based stuff is going to be all up to discussion. Things can get dark. They can be as dark as you want them to be. On the lighter side, I love the different relationship dynamics that can come of the characters unique personalities. Don’t be afraid to suggest things! I’m pretty lenient with fiction.
Would love to tailor plots to the specific characters and their potential dynamic. I absolutely love the process of plotting, workshopping ideas, spinning off into AUs and generally finding something that can be really character driven. I am also not opposed to "alternate history" scenarios if we want to stick together two characters who might not realistically meet.

FANDOMS & THE CHARACTERS I AM WILLING TO WRITE IN THEM

The Last Of Us: Ellie Williams
Resident Evil: Claire Redfield, Jill Valentine, Ada Wong, Rebecca Chambers, Ashley Graham.
DC: Harleen Quinzel, Selina Kyle, Zatanna Zatara, Dinah Drake.
Marvel: Emma Frost, Mary Jane Watson, Natasha Romanoff, Wanda Maximoff, Gwen Stacy, Jean Grey, Felicia Hardy.
HP: Hermione Granger
Star Wars: Ahsoka Tano, Bo-Katan Kyrze, Leia Organa, Padme Amidala, Mara Jade.

I am open to most pairings for these characters, though I am VERY picky about OC's. I would much prefer that you play a canon character (exceptions can be made).
Think that’s everything! If you’re interested, please send me a chat message with the fandom/characters you’re interested in and I will get back to you! <𝟑